ALEX LEHMANN PODCAST

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What can men get out of BDSM training?
Holding FRAME vs. Giving CONTAINMENT.
Leadership is needed to be a good Dom, to hold a scene from beginning to end.
A man needs to be self-contained first if he is going to contain anyone else.
It takes a while for men to come into their own. It makes sense that women pair with men older than themselves.
First contain your woman, then see what problems still exist in your dynamic.
Women are getting sick of weak men, en masse.
There is a difference between showing a woman your heart and asking her to contain you.
Arousal lives on the other side of Containment.
Understanding archetypes and their necessity.
The Dom & sub archetypes hold the erotic reservoir; the husband & wife archetypes do not hold eros.
Role Play is a gateway to switching over from domestic archetypes.
Human beings seem experts today in screwing up great Loverships.
Mastery as a genuine source of self-esteem.
Contribution as a genuine source of self-esteem.
The man who finds himself right is very attractive.
It’s good for men to fail early and often.
Leadership mastery translates to different domains — from erotic to professional.
Leaders promise a brighter future.

— Om Rupani