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On Attachment
Hosted by Stephanie Rigg · EN
Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships.
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#261: Sex, Intimacy, and Attachment Styles
2d ago00:21:16Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube ChannelHow do our attachment patterns influence our relationship to — and experience of — sex and intimacy? That's what we're exploring in today's podcast deep dive. We'll cover how each attachment style relates to sex, common sensitivities and pain points, and what the sexual relationship looks like over the life cycle of the relationship. We'll also touch on common sexual struggles in anxious-avoidant dynamics specifically.LinksFree training on anxious attachmentFree resources for attachment healing
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#260: Can You Become Anxiously Attached from Dating an Avoidant Person? (Ask Steph)
1w ago00:09:30Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube channelIs it possible to become anxiously attached as a result of dating someone with avoidant patterns? That's the listener question I'm answering in today's Ask Steph episode. We'll talk about how our patterns can arise in response to someone else's, while also acknowledging fundamental differences in how people with secure vs. insecure attachment styles tend to respond to dysfunctional behaviour.LinksFree training for anxious attachment Follow me on InstagramTake my attachment styles quiz
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#259: How to Communicate with a Defensive Partner
1w ago00:17:45Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube ChannelDoes your partner get defensive easily, even when you feel like you weren't being attacking or critical? If so, today's episode is for you. Being on the receiving end of someone's chronic defensiveness can be extremely frustrating and disheartening, and it can feel like a real block to connection. But the way we typically respond — by making someone wrong for their defensiveness — can entrench the very pattern we're hoping to shift. LinksFree workshop on anxious-avoidant relationship dynamicsUnderstanding Your Avoidant Partner courseSecure Together couples course
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#258: When Your Partner Isn't Respecting Your Boundaries (Ask Steph)
2w ago00:09:58Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube Channel How do you navigate a situation where your partner isn't respecting the boundaries that you've set? That's the listener question I'm answering in today's Ask Steph episode. Boundaries can be fraught for those of us with insecure attachment patterns, and it's easy to swing between demands and capitulation — neither of which are particularly helpful. We'll talk about how to reorient to what is within your control rather than making repeated pleas of someone else to change their behaviour to accommodate you, which is a recipe for frustration and resentment. LinksFree anxious attachment healing workshopFree resources for attachment healingTake my attachment quiz
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#257: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: A Deep Dive (Part 2)
2w ago00:18:21Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube ChannelToday's episode is a follow-up from last week's deep dive into fearful avoidant attachment. This week, we're looking at the fearful avoidant in relationships — how these patterns play out, how that changes over the lifecycle of a relationship, and how it can differ based on the other person's attachment style. LinksUnderstanding Your Avoidant Partner CourseFree resources for attachment healingTake my attachment style quiz
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#256: How to Balance Accepting Your Partner & Supporting Their Growth (Ask Steph)
3w ago00:11:11Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube ChannelIn today's Ask Steph episode, we're talking about how to balance accepting your partner for who they are, while also encouraging them to grow. This is a delicate dance for many of us, and can reveal our own patterns of wanting to fix and save people. We'll talk about where the healthy middle lies between acceptance and change, and how you can create a relational environment that supports growth.LinksFree resources for attachment healingTake my attachment styles quiz
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#255: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: A Deep Dive (Part 1)
3w ago00:17:44Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube ChannelIn today's episode, we're diving deep into the fearful avoidant (or disorganised) attachment style. We're talking about where it originates, and what some of the core belief systems are that drive fearful avoidant patterns. Make sure you're following or subscribed to the show to catch Part 2 next week, where we explore how the fearful avoidant attachment style shows up in relationships.LinksCheck out my free attachment healing resourcesTake my attachment quiz
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#254: Healthy Privacy vs. Unhealthy Secrecy in Relationships (Ask Steph)
4w ago00:12:52Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube ChannelWhat's the difference between reasonable, healthy privacy and unhealthy secret-keeping? That's the question I'm answering in today's Ask Steph episode. We're diving into the difference between privacy and secrecy, as well as on how this interfaces with the anxious need for information and the avoidant need for autonomy. ResourcesFree resources for anxious attachmentTake my attachment quizFollow me on Instagram
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#253: Perfectionism in Anxious-Avoidant Relationships
May 500:20:10Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube ChannelIn today's episode, we're diving deep into perfectionism — and how it can sneak into our relationship dynamics in unhelpful ways. We'll talk about how perfectionism shows up for anxiously attached people, how that differs from folks with avoidant patterns, and what it looks like to release the grip of perfectionism and find greater compassion and acceptance — for ourselves, our partners, and our relationships.LinksFree resources for anxious attachmentFollow me on Instagram
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#252: Finding Self-Compassion When Everything is Falling Apart (Ask Steph)
Apr 3000:08:01Tap to summarizeHow do you find self-compassion when everything is falling to pieces? That's the listener question I'm answering in today's Ask Steph episode. We'll talk about why self-compassion can be so hard to access when we're in a challenging season, the mistaken belief that self-compassion removes accountability, and how we can start to cultivate more kindness and self-validation when we need it most. ResourcesFree resources for healing anxious attachmentSubscribe to my YouTube channel
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