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On Attachment
Hosted by Stephanie Rigg · EN
Join relationship coach Stephanie Rigg in On Attachment, where she delves deep into all things attachment theory, love, relationships & intimacy - sharing her wisdom and experience to help you start making real changes in your life & relationships.
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#257: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: A Deep Dive (Part 2)
May 1900:18:21Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube ChannelToday's episode is a follow-up from last week's deep dive into fearful avoidant attachment. This week, we're looking at the fearful avoidant in relationships — how these patterns play out, how that changes over the lifecycle of a relationship, and how it can differ based on the other person's attachment style. LinksUnderstanding Your Avoidant Partner CourseFree resources for attachment healingTake my attachment style quiz
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#256: How to Balance Accepting Your Partner & Supporting Their Growth (Ask Steph)
May 1400:11:11Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube ChannelIn today's Ask Steph episode, we're talking about how to balance accepting your partner for who they are, while also encouraging them to grow. This is a delicate dance for many of us, and can reveal our own patterns of wanting to fix and save people. We'll talk about where the healthy middle lies between acceptance and change, and how you can create a relational environment that supports growth.LinksFree resources for attachment healingTake my attachment styles quiz
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#255: Fearful Avoidant Attachment: A Deep Dive (Part 1)
May 1200:17:44Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube ChannelIn today's episode, we're diving deep into the fearful avoidant (or disorganised) attachment style. We're talking about where it originates, and what some of the core belief systems are that drive fearful avoidant patterns. Make sure you're following or subscribed to the show to catch Part 2 next week, where we explore how the fearful avoidant attachment style shows up in relationships.LinksCheck out my free attachment healing resourcesTake my attachment quiz
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#254: Healthy Privacy vs. Unhealthy Secrecy in Relationships (Ask Steph)
May 700:12:52Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube ChannelWhat's the difference between reasonable, healthy privacy and unhealthy secret-keeping? That's the question I'm answering in today's Ask Steph episode. We're diving into the difference between privacy and secrecy, as well as on how this interfaces with the anxious need for information and the avoidant need for autonomy. ResourcesFree resources for anxious attachmentTake my attachment quizFollow me on Instagram
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#253: Perfectionism in Anxious-Avoidant Relationships
May 500:20:10Tap to summarizeSubscribe to my YouTube ChannelIn today's episode, we're diving deep into perfectionism — and how it can sneak into our relationship dynamics in unhelpful ways. We'll talk about how perfectionism shows up for anxiously attached people, how that differs from folks with avoidant patterns, and what it looks like to release the grip of perfectionism and find greater compassion and acceptance — for ourselves, our partners, and our relationships.LinksFree resources for anxious attachmentFollow me on Instagram
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#252: Finding Self-Compassion When Everything is Falling Apart (Ask Steph)
Apr 3000:08:01Tap to summarizeHow do you find self-compassion when everything is falling to pieces? That's the listener question I'm answering in today's Ask Steph episode. We'll talk about why self-compassion can be so hard to access when we're in a challenging season, the mistaken belief that self-compassion removes accountability, and how we can start to cultivate more kindness and self-validation when we need it most. ResourcesFree resources for healing anxious attachmentSubscribe to my YouTube channel
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#251: How I Approach Nervous System Regulation & Wellbeing
Apr 2100:15:08Tap to summarizeIn this episode, I’m sharing how I personally approach nervous system regulation in a way that feels simple, realistic, and actually sustainable, rather than overwhelming myself with endless tools and protocols. We talk about focusing on the foundations — like sleep, nourishment, movement, and creating a supportive home environment — while also being mindful of what we don’t do, like overscheduling or saying yes from pressure. Subscribe to my YouTube channelFree resources for anxious attachment
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#250: Are They Avoidant or Just Not That Into You? (Ask Steph)
Apr 1600:12:13Tap to summarizeUnderstanding Your Avoidant Partner: New CourseMany people find themselves trying to decode confusing or inconsistent behaviour, wondering whether it reflects avoidant attachment or a lack of interest — but in early dating, a lack of clarity is often the clearest signal in itself. The more meaningful question is why we stay engaged in dynamics that leave us feeling uncertain, rather than stepping back and asking whether this meets our needs. Subscribe to my YouTube ChannelExplore my free resourcesFollow me on Instagram
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#249: The First 30 Days After a Breakup
Apr 1400:18:45Tap to summarizeIn today’s episode, I’m walking you through how to navigate the first 30 days after a breakup in a way that is supportive, grounded, and deeply healing.This initial period can feel overwhelming — full of grief, anxiety, confusion, and emotional swings. And while it’s natural to be in survival mode, there are small but powerful ways you can support yourself through this time rather than getting swept up in the chaos.I share a practical roadmap for what to focus on (and what to avoid), so you can move through this chapter with more intention, self-respect, and care.We cover:Why the early days after a breakup can feel so destabilisingThe two common nervous system responses: anxiety and shutdownHow to create a supportive, calming environment for yourselfThe importance of maintaining basic self-care and routinesWhy boundaries (especially no contact) are so importantThe impact of screen time, social media, and ruminationHow to approach this period with intention rather than survival modeBeginning the process of reconnecting with yourself✨ Free break-up training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
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#248: How to Cope With My Ex Being Happy in a New Relationship (Ask Steph)
Apr 900:11:47Tap to summarizeIn today’s Ask Steph episode, we’re talking about how to cope when your ex seems to have moved on soon after your break-up — and is now in a new relationship that appears to be working.This can be an incredibly painful experience, especially if you’re still grieving the relationship. It often brings up comparison, self-doubt, and questions like “Was I the problem?”In this episode, I unpack why this situation feels so triggering, what’s actually going on beneath the surface, and how to shift out of rumination and back into your own power.We cover: Why seeing your ex move on can feel like “salt in the wound”The different ways anxious and avoidant people process breakupsWhy your ex’s behaviour isn’t a reflection of your worthThe illusion of their new relationship “working”How new relationship energy can mask underlying patternsThe impact of comparison, rumination, and self-doubtWhy focusing on your ex keeps you stuckHow to set boundaries and reclaim your energyResourcesFor free resources on break-ups and anxious attachment, click here.Check out my break-up course Higher Love here
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