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We help you save loyalty programs subject to terms and conditions. Details@lowe's.com Terms subject to change. You ever feel like you're just getting through the day? Like you're checking things off but not really feeling anything? I have definitely been there. I've been traveling, I've been working. And it can feel like kind of numbing, right? You realize you're so busy being productive you're not actually present. And I had this moment sitting alone at a restaurant after a long day. And for the first time in weeks, I slowed down, tasted the food, watched the people, took a breath and I thought, why don't I do this more often? And why do I have to wait for a moment like this to do it? So today's solo is all about that. How to reconnect with your day, your people, even your plate. Because you're not too busy to feel connected. You're just out of practice. We all are. So let's talk about the little shifts that bring you back to yourself. The number one health and wellness podcast, Jay Shetty. Jay Shetty. The one, the only Jay Shetty. Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose. It's Jay Shetty, make sure you've subscribed to this channel if you haven't already, so that you never miss an episode. Today's conversation is all about how to reconnect with your day and how slowing down actually makes life speed up, how slowing down actually makes life more effective, and how slowing down allows you to move as fast as you want. I think for a long time we've told people, hey, if you have a busy, hectic, crazy life, that's just the way it is. And then we hope for a vacation where things slow and calm down. But the reality is, if we can move slow to move fast, it can change the way we think and live. And here are seven science back steps for a hectic day and the habits that transform it for us. The reality is we live in chaos. The average person checks their phone 58 times a day, spends one hour, five minutes on social media and receives around 46 notifications daily. Now, if you're like me, times every one of those stats by 4, 47% of us can't focus on a task longer than two hours. No wonder we feel frantic, distracted and emotionally depleted even before lunch. But what if you could reclaim calm not by changing your schedule, but by reclaiming your mind? That's what I want to help you do today with my seven step guide to being more present right now. No retreats, just real life practical actions rooted in psychology. I think for so many of us, we think, yeah, presence is something that I can't even attain anymore. It's gone out the window. I have to wait to go on a retreat. I have to wait to be in meditation. I have to wait to be in yoga. And I think that's partly the challenge. We've drawn this narrative that your life is busy and you can't be present in it. Your life is crazy and that's just the way it is. And I've done that to myself sometimes as well. But I've also found a way of changing that narrative and shifting my reality. And I want to share that with you today. Here's step one. Take five tech breaks. Now, when I say five, I mean take five, five minutes, right? And maybe you can do these five times throughout the day or if not more. I'm excited to continue this conversation. But first, a word from our sponsors. Whether you're booking a weekend getaway or embarking on your next grand adventure, Chase Sapphire Reserve is your ultimate travel companion. Let's talk about how Chase Sapphire Reserve takes your travels to the next level, especially when it comes to Dining and Exploring New Destinations when you're traveling, one of the most exciting parts is discovering new culinary hotspots and tasting local flavors. But sometimes the best food experiences are aren't always found in the tourist guidebooks. 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Want to learn more about Chase Sapphire Reserve and how it can make your next trip unforgettable? Head over to chase.com Sapphire Reserve whether you're dining at world class restaurants or exploring new destinations, Chase Sapphire Reserve offers the ultimate travel experience. Discover more and make your next adventure one to remember. With Chase Sapphire Reserve, Dr. Evita Singh from Ohio State University found that taking five to ten minute tech breaks every hour boosts focus and reduces stress. So here's what you want to do. Set hourly reminders after 55 minutes of screen time. Spend five minutes off devices. You can walk, you can stretch, you can breathe, you can Suddenly your attention becomes sharper instead of splintered. I think this is one of the issues with the way we think about meetings. Meetings are 30 minutes or 60 minutes in our calendar. Why couldn't they be 25 minutes or 55 minutes? What are we achieving in five minutes in a meeting that we would lose if we spent that five minutes walking, getting hydrated with water or looking out of the window? These are the three habits you want to develop. In those five minutes between meetings, you're going to stand up and walk. You're going to walk and get some water and you're going to get some water and go look out of a window. Now why? When you're moving every hour, it's going to be great for your metabolism, it's going to be great for your body. You're going to get steps in without even trying. We all know the benefits of water. We need to be more hydrated. So many of us are missing out on the amount of water that we need to be having the window pouch. The most interesting. When you look into the distance, it actually allows your mind to feel relieved. Today, everything's up in our face. Our laptops, our phone screens, everything. We've actually lost the ability to look off into the distance to give our mind some space. If you look into the distance, find a cloud, find the tip of a tree, whatever it may be, it allows your mind to feel open. I want you to try and practice setting meetings for 25 minutes or 55 minutes instead of 30 minutes to 60 minutes. We all live in this world as if the next task is life or death. That these five minutes are going to change the history of humanity. The reality is, maybe you'll spend five minutes all staring at your own laptops in. In between a meeting. Maybe that five minutes on zoom is making sure that people are still knowing when they're on mute and when they're not. Like, we're not solving anything that's changing our lives in those five minutes. Yet we make it feel the stress, the hecticness makes us feel that we're solving some rare disease. Now, if you are, that's incredible. But for the majority of us, those five minutes back, invested into our mental health and wellbeing could transform the rest of our day. So from Tomorrow, start setting 25 and 55 minute meetings. And when someone asks you why, tell them what you do. In that five minutes, it will actually start to inspire others. It will actually start to shift the culture. That's what we're really talking about here. How do we shift the culture when the culture has made it so that we feel we're productive and effective? When every second of the day is fully maximized and fully accounted for. Now, I believe in living an intentional life, but therefore, I also believe in intentional breaks. Getting five minutes every 30 minutes or five minutes every hour is realistic for each and every one of us. Studies show even brief mindfulness pauses reduce emotional reactivity and and improve focus. So here's what I want you to do. At any stoplight or right before a meeting, take three deep breaths and refocus on your senses. You're no longer carried by the day. You actually pilot it. This is something that I've practiced when I'm in the back of an Uber, before I go into a meeting, before or after I send an email. If you just pause at any of these beginnings and ends that naturally happen throughout the day. Before a phone call, after a phone call, before a zoom call, after a zoom call, you use these micro moments to just take in three deep breaths. Let's do it together right now. In through your nose and out through your mouth. That's your reset. Notice how your body feels a little more relaxed, your mind feels a little more at ease, and you don't have to carve out specific time to do this. You can actually do this anywhere you are, wherever you are, at your desk, in your home, while you're commuting. It's a beautiful practice that allows you to slow down. The way I like to describe it is almost like when you're watching slow motion footage of something incredible, you realize that that person felt like they had so much more time than you thought they did. Have you ever watched a basketball player in slow motion? If you've ever watched an athlete in slow motion, a musician in slow motion, it feels like they have so much time. And even if you've played sport, when you realize you have more time than you think, you're actually able to do more with it. But when you're rushed, when you feel you don't have time, don't we all just make mistakes? When you feel you don't have time, aren't you more likely to trip over? Aren't you more likely to forget your wallet at home? Aren't you more likely to send the wrong email, not change the subject line? That's what happens when we're rushing. But when you think you have a little more time, you actually get to get it right. So I want you to trick yourself. When you slow down your breath, when you're breathing deeper, when you're breathing longer, right? When your breath is less shallow and less fast, you're literally slowing things down. And what happens when you slow down? You see things more clearly. Why is there a speed limit on the road? Why is there a different speed limit on the road? I remember learning that when you have a 30 mph speed limit, the truth is because if you hit a child or someone on the road at 33, the difference in those three miles per hour could be catastrophic for that person in three miles. And there's a reason why it's there. Those three miles could make all the difference. So I'm not asking you to slow down from 33 miles to 15 miles per hour. I'm saying what if three breaths just slow you down by 3 miles per hour? All of a sudden you're not leading to a Tragic event to burnout to exhaustion, you've actually saved yourself. So think about that and think about how you can just slow down just a tiny bit. I think we think about being slow as being stopped, right? We think about it as like, oh yeah, I just need to stop. I need everything to stop. It's not real. It'll be great if you can achieve it, but in reality, we're not going to get there every day or every week. But these micro moments could change it for us. Number three, chunk your choices. The human working memory says that we can just about deal with seven items at once and otherwise the overload drops our decision quality. Here's what I want you to do. If you're staring at a long to do list, probably over seven things before your day starts, choose only three tasks that matter most and block them in your calendar. One of the reasons why our day feels fast is we're trying to do a lot with little time. Not realizing that if we tried to do less with a bit more time, not only would we complete tasks, we would actually have the ability to move on to the next. You can create clarity amid the noise and win. The morning before it starts, you want to get seven done. At the end of the day you realize you only got four done, and that too with bad quality because you were rushing. But what if you just got three done really well, so well that you won't have to waste time on them in the future? When you got four out of seven done or five out of seven done, they were all done at like 60% effort, 70% effort. So you got more done, but actually got less done because in the long term it was less effective because you'll have to go backwards and solve the problem you created. But if you got three things done today and 90%, all of a sudden you're cruising and you can do the same thing tomorrow. Doing less can actually achieve more. Doing less can actually be more effective than doing more. Doing less can be more productive than doing more in the long term. But we all get trapped by this short term thinking, thinking that if I do more today, if I get more done, then that will help me in the future. Not realizing that, well, if I don't get quality done, the quantity doesn't matter. Step four is all about single tasking. Science shows that multitasking reduces efficiency and increases stress. So here's what I want you to do when you're working. Silence your notifications, close your extra tabs, set up a 25 minute timer and work with full focus I see this often with someone who's got their laptop and their phone and maybe you even have an iPad. You have all these devices. They're all connected up to personal and professional notifications, and you are trying to do some deep work. You're working on a report, you're working on a deck, you're editing something, and every 30 seconds you have a distraction. One is from your mom who wants to check in with you and find out what you ate. The other one is from a friend who wants a picture that you took at the weekend. The other is from a colleague who wants you to reply to the email right now. And the other is from your friend from three months ago who's upset with you for not coming to their birthday and you're trying to write a report. How's that ever going to happen? How are you going to respond effectively to any of those people? The friend from three months ago who's upset you didn't go to their birthday, you need to connect with them with some depth and some clarity because they're upset, you're managing their emotions. The friend who wants the picture, you're going to have to go through your camera roll. This weekend of 67 pictures you took of the same exact pose, but find the one that they like. You're going to send them three, and they're going to be like, no, there was one with the ocean in the background in this color. There was one where I was posing this way. All right, now you've lost a bunch of time looking for that image. Now you've got the person who wants you to email back right now, but you don't even have context of what's happening at work. We invite distractions when we're trying to do deep work. If you are truly, honestly trying to do deep work, you have to leave your phone out of the room. You have to turn your notifications off, and you have to be locked in. And the problem with us is we think we'll achieve more or get more done if we're always connected. It's the opposite. You get more done if you're completely disconnected. You get the task done in less time, with more quality, with more efficiency. If you're not distracted, all of us are multitasking. Now, here's the interesting thing. Only 2% of the world's population can effectively multitask. You know what the funny thing is? When you hear that, you. Everyone thinks they're in that 2%, but the truth is most of us are in the 98% who can't multitask to save our lives. And even if you can multitask, you're placing so much stress on your brain and mind to stretch that far that often. How can you reduce distractions? How can you reduce everything when you're focused on a task? When I'm writing my book, when I'm preparing for these scripts, when I'm factoring this time in for the podcast, I can't write if I'm distracted by seven different tabs. Limit it. Limit it. You will achieve so much more in your life. I promise you. Give it a go. I have so much more to share with you, but we're just going to take a short break for our sponsors and I'll be right back. When you start a business, it's not just about selling a product. It's about sharing something you truly believe in. Every decision from choosing a name to launching your first product feels massive because it is. It's a reflection of your values, your passion and your purpose. That's why having the right platform matters. You need something that understands the journey that grows with you. Shopify gets it because they started small too. Shopify powers millions of businesses worldwide and handles 10% of all US E commerce. 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