Jay Shetty (2:52)
The one, the only Jay Shetty. I was stuck, confused and unsuccessful until I did this. What if I told you that one year from today you could wake up as a completely different person and the only thing standing in the way is the way you're thinking about this year. Most people never change their lives. Not because they're lazy, not because they're untalented, but because they don't understand this one truth. Your life doesn't change in a year. Your life changes in the tiny decisions you repeat for a year. We waste entire years waiting for motivation, waiting for clarity, waiting for timing, waiting for confidence. And while we wait, the year quietly disappears. Here's an uncomfortable statistic. 92% of people never follow through on their new year goals. Not because they don't want to change, but because they're using hope as a strategy instead of a system. But here's the inspiring part. One year is long enough to transform almost anything about your life. Your body, your relationships, your career, your self worth, your habits, your emotional health. If you understand the science of real change, in this episode, I'm going to give you a 12 month blueprint that has helped millions of people transform their lives. A framework backed by psychology research and real human stories. And I promise you this, by the end of these 30 minutes, you will no longer fear the future. You will feel prepared to shape it. So let's begin. Before we talk about how to change your life, we need to talk about why most people don't. It's not a lack of intelligence. It's not a lack of discipline. It's not a lack of opportunity. It's a lack of a system. Let me tell you a story. A friend's one told me, Jay, I keep trying to change and nothing sticks. Sound familiar? He'd buy new planners, he'd download new apps. He'd watch motivational speeches. And every year, he ended up exactly where he started, exhausted and confused. He wasn't failing. His strategy was failing. In moments of temptation, only three to five minutes, Motivation spikes and crashes. But systems, routines, environments, structures, they keep going long after motivation dies. So here's the first truth. Your life won't change when you try harder. It will change when you redesign the system you live inside. Let's build that system together. If you want a new year, you need a new default. Most people try to change their life using motivation. Science shows Your environment drives 45% of your daily behavior almost half your life. Let me give you a real example. I once worked with someone who could never stick to a morning routine. She tried alarms, apps, planners. Nothing worked. Then we changed her environment. We rearranged her nightstand. We moved her phone to another room. We put her journal where her phone used to be. We laid out her gym clothes the night before right next to her bed. We simplified her kitchen counter. Suddenly, her identity matched her environment. She didn't become a disciplined person. She became a supported person. Here's what I want you to do. Here are some actionable steps for this year. Number one. Redesign your morning and night anchors. These two 30 minute windows shape your entire day. If you understand this one thing, you can build discipline. Make the things you need easy to find and make the things you don't want hard to find. You want to work out in the morning? Make sure gym clothes are easy to find. You don't want to have a midnight snack. Make sure those chips are hard to find. This leads us to number two. Remove friction from good habits. Make good habits easier than bad ones. So many of us make good habits hard to do. We make it hard to stay healthy because our snack drawers are full of bad snacks. We make it harder to work out because we subscribe to a gym that's 30 minutes away. We make it harder to be focused on our work because our desk is full of clutter. Number three. Upgrade your identity. Don't ask, what goal do I want? We all go, what goal do I want? Here's what I want you to ask instead. Who do I want to become? It's not about the goal. It's about the growth you're willing to undertake in in order to achieve the goal. Success is quiet mornings, late nights, and a hundred almosts before one. Yes. Success is choosing discipline on the day's motivation doesn't show up. Success is doing the work when no one's watching and no one's clapping. Success is walking away from what drains you so you can protect what grows you. Success is being patient with the process even when the results are late. Success is becoming the person your future requires, not the person your past expects. Here's the second. A year equals four seasons of learning. A year is long enough to learn a skill that can reroute your entire life. Not a hobby. A skill. Skills change identity. Skills build confidence. Skills increase opportunity. Skills compound. Statistics show learning a new skill reduces anxiety and depression by up to 34%. Adults who engage in continuous learning report significantly higher life satisfaction. Let me tell you a story a woman once told me. She felt stuck in her job and stuck in her identity. We made one shift. She committed to learning public speaking 20 minutes a day. Just 20 minutes. One year later, she was leading meetings, pitching ideas confidently and interviewing for a promotion. The skill didn't just change her career, it changed her self perception. So here are practical choices that you can make this year. Pick one of these and master it Public Speaking Emotional Regulation Networking Mindfulness Creative Writing Financial literacy communication skill one skill can create 10 opportunities I think about all the skills I invest in every single year and how they've transformed my life. If you want to change your life in a year, learning one skill could help you accelerate and transform your trajectory in ways nothing else could. Here's what I recommend. Do what I call immersion weekends. Spend a whole weekend attending courses, seminars, reading books, listening to podcasts about that subject. You will know very quickly what you want to invest in and what you want to spend more time on. We all want to feel better, to have more energy and more focus throughout the day. That's why I co founded Jooni, a sparkling adaptogenic drink made with powerful ingredients like ashwagandha and lion's mane. It's designed to boost your mood, support your focus and give you natural energy, all without the crash. A new Classic Reimagined we're so excited to officially launch our new Lemonade Iced Tea flavor. When we created Jooni, my goal was simple. I wanted to make drinks that help you feel balanced and energized without compromise. Our upgraded take on the classic Arnold Palmer is crisp, refreshing and crafted with adaptogens to support energy, focus and mood, all with zero sugar. Be among the first to try it. Available exclusively@drinkjuni.com where you can use the code ONPURPOSE20 for 20% off your first order. Cheers to your daily mood boost. It brings me so much joy to share this with you and to give something back in the process. Jooni is now available at Whole Foods Market nationwide and I'd love for you to try it for free. Head to drinkjuni.comj and get a complimentary can of Jooni on me at any Whole Foods Market. Radhi and I created Jooni with a simple intention to help you feel better from the inside out. It's a sparkling adaptogenic drink crafted with ashwagandha, lion's mane and green tea to boost your mood, support your focus and give you clean, natural energy that stays with you throughout the day. So go to drinkjuni.com jay and run to Your nearest Whole Foods Market for your free Jooni. I can't wait for you to try it. Cheers. Here's the truth. One decision can separate who you were from who you're becoming. One decision can end an old chapter and begin a better one. One decision can change your confidence forever. And one decision can rewrite your entire story. All it takes is one decision. Truth number three Fix the relationships that matter because connection equals quality of life. The Harvard Study of Adult Development conducted by Robert Waldinger, who I've had the honor of interviewing on on purpose twice. This is the longest happiness study ever done, found the quality of your relationships is the strongest predictor of your future well being. Your life doesn't change alone. Your life changes through better conversations, better boundaries and deeper connections. So here's what I want you to do in 2026. Repair one relationship this year that matters. Release one draining connection that has expired. Deepen one meaningful bond. For more support, schedule one weekly connection ritual. Here's the harsh Loneliness is not the absence of people. It's the absence of understanding. Loneliness is not the absence of company. It's being surrounded and still feeling unseen. Loneliness is not the absence of conversation. It's talking without ever being heard. Loneliness is not the absence of relationships. It's the absence of someone you can be honest with. Loneliness is not the absence of someone. It's the absence of safety. Ask yourself which relationship is worth improving? Or which ones do you need to distance from? Which relationship would have the greatest positive benefit in your life if you invested in it more? Here are four questions that will change your relationships. Who do you need to call more? Who do you need to talk to less? Who do you want to spend time with? Who do you need to distance from? If you focused on transforming your relationships this year, it will transform your life. You know what truly holds you back? Relationships that drain you. People who misunderstand you no matter how clearly you speak. Conversations that take energy but give none back. Connections that make you doubt yourself instead of support yourself. It's not your potential that's limited. It's the people who keep pulling you backwards while you're trying to push forward. Take an inventory of the people in your life this year. You don't have to make big changes. You don't have to just cut people out. But recognize what would move the needle and give it some time and energy. Truth number four Fear becomes bigger the further you stand from it. Fear becomes smaller the close you move toward it. Action reduces anxiety. Avoidance amplifies it. Here are some practical Steps for this year, create a fear list instead of a to do list. Right, we all make to do lists, but I want you to make a fear list. Break each fear into five micro actions and then I want you to reward action, not outcome. Because here's the mistake we make. You don't have to overcome fear before you do something. You have to do the thing whilst you're still feeling the fear. You don't get over your fear, then start a business. You start a business, feel scared, nervous and anxious and still move forward. What the fear list does is it makes you face what you're actually struggling with. The reason you don't do your to do list is because you're scared. The reason you cancel that meeting is because you're scared. The reason you don't send your resume is because you're scared. The reason you don't ask for a promotion is because you're scared. We're so scared of rejection, we're so scared of failing that we don't take action before we can remove that feeling. What we don't realize is that life is all about doing things, even with the feelings that you think are holding you back. Please don't let your fears ruin your future. Please don't let your fears keep you stuck in places you've already outgrown. Please don't let your fears make you walk away from something good before you've even tried. Please don't let your fears turn temporary uncertainty into a lifetime of regret. And please don't let your fears talk you out of the future you know you deserve. It's fascinating to me how many of us set goals and don't meet them. Not because the goals aren't right, but because we haven't addressed the fear. If we don't face our fears, we can't move forward toward our goals. So instead of just looking at your goals every year and wondering why you're not there yet, make this the year you face your fears, address them, focus on them, break through them by taking action even when they exist. One of my favorite quotes that I've ever heard is, if you feel afraid, do it afraid. If you feel scared, do it scared. If you feel anxious, do it anxious. And if you feel nervous, do it nervous. It's better to do the thing even feeling that way, than to hope you will get over that feeling so you can finally stop. Foreign.
