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Jeff Duden (0:00)
What are some of the basic things or one of some of the first steps that you can help somebody become a, become a better speaker or speaker for the first time?
Dr. Robert Rome (0:10)
Simply four words. They are Zig Ziglar's key to success. John Maxwell, Les Brown, Charlie Jones, you show me anybody who can stand up and speak and there are four words that characterize them as a great speaker. And, and here's what the, here's what those four words are.
Jeff Duden (0:35)
Welcome everybody to the home front. I'm Jeff Duden. If you are known as the world's most invited back speaker. If you have spoken to millions and shared the stage with Zig Ziglar, Les Brown, President George Bush, Rush Limbaugh, Lou Holtz and many, many others. If you hold five college degrees and have authored over 20 books, including the best seller Positive Personality, Personal Profiles, and if you are recognized as the number one leading authority on the disc model of human behavior, your name can only be Dr. Robert Chrome. Welcome, sir.
Dr. Robert Rome (1:15)
Wow. Thank you so much, Jeff, for that. I got thinking while you were reading that. I can't wait to meet this guy.
Jeff Duden (1:23)
You know, it's, it's a lot, but, but, but you've done a lot, sir, and we're excited to have you on today. I have a interest in, well, first of all, self improvement, relationship improvement, and really assessments. I think when people find a way to be extrospective, meaning they can objectively look at themselves and they go out and seek information to kind of figure out how they work and then how they interact. That's, I think, when, when things get great in life and, you know, so you're, you've, you've made a career of helping people and helping companies better understand themselves and the people around them. How did you get started in this?
Dr. Robert Rome (2:03)
Well, that's, that's a great question. First of all, thank you again for having me on the show today and for your very kind words. I do think personal growth and development is one of my favorite topics simply because all of us can do better. You know, just like in sports or in swimming or weightlifting or jogging or anything, you, you want to improve. And life is that way too. If you, whatever you're doing, I think regardless of who you are or in what endeavor, you can have the attitude anyway of I want to improve. You know, when I work with Zig, I would hear people say, oh, you're one of those positive motivational speakers. You. But, but motivation doesn't last. And Zig would always laugh and say, well, neither does bathing. You know, you've got to keep doing it. And yesterday's shower didn't do me a bit of good, but I had a great one this morning, and that one will get me through today until tomorrow. So. But to answer your question, even though my background was in education, I had been a school teacher. I had been a school administrator. I had been involved in many endeavors of church work and some business. It was not until my oldest daughter, Rachel, when she was 12 years old back in 1985. I can hardly believe that was, you know, 40 years ago. But Rachel was. She was difficult. And I have four daughters. And daughters number two, three, and four were not that difficult. But boy, Rachel was a handful. And I didn't know if it was because she was firstborn or because of the water or because of the weather or just what it was. And in 1985, I was in graduate school and a friend of mine was passing through town and he asked me, asked me after dinner. He said, what's wrong with you? And that kind of caught me off guard. I said, what do you mean? He said, well, I know you. You're normally, you know, happy and full of life. And he said, you didn't say two words at dinner. And I said. I said, well, it's Rachel. And he said, what has she done? And I said, I don't know. And I tell people, if you don't know what your problem is, that's your biggest problem. Because you can't beware of something until you're first aware of something. And I had no awareness. I knew I loved her, but I just didn't know, why can't we get along? So make a long story short, and I'm happy to talk about it, he gave her a personality profile assessment. He showed me and taught me the DISC model of human behavior. Explained to me my oldest daughter was a high D. And we would have a lot of conflict if I didn't know how to work with her, if I didn't know how to communicate. He knew more about her in 12 minutes than I had known in 12 years. That got my attention. So that was really the start of it. And I knew I was on to something. About. About a month later, real quick, about a friend of mine who was teaching a Sunday school class called me on a Saturday night and he said, I am so sick. Can you teach my class? And I said, sure. So I got there the next morning and I didn't have anything prepared because it was last minute. And I drew the model of human behavior. I talked to them about disc I shared the story about my oldest daughter and how we were starting to get along better. And when the bell rang to end the Sunday school class, nobody moved. Everybody just sat there staring at me. And first thing I thought was, is my zipper down? You know, why are they all looking at me like I'm weird? And I asked, I'll never forget, there was a guy named Pat sitting on the front row. And I said, did the bell ring? Because, listen, we're all Pavlov's dog. When the bell rings, everybody gets up and leaves, right? Nobody got up and left. And I said, did the bell ring? And he said, yeah, and we're not leaving until you promise you'll come back and tell us more. And that's really got my attention. It's like I'm on to something. And that's how it began 40 years ago. This, this, this year, was that a.
