Super Soul Special: Salma Hayek Pinault: Making Peace with Yourself

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Oprah's Super Soul Special: Salma Hayek Pinault – Making Peace with Yourself

Podcast: Oprah’s Super Soul
Host: Oprah Winfrey
Guest: Salma Hayek Pinault
Date: December 3, 2025
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Main Theme:

This episode delves into Salma Hayek Pinault's journey of self-acceptance, her advocacy for women’s rights, her personal battles with sexual harassment and trauma in Hollywood, and the ongoing challenge—and power—of making peace with oneself. Through riveting, vulnerable storytelling, Salma and Oprah explore the broader implications of the #MeToo movement and the importance of collective and personal healing.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Salma’s Early Advocacy for Women’s Rights

[01:40-04:07]

• Salma has been advocating for women long before #MeToo: “You’ve been doing it in your own way… for over 20 years.”—Oprah
• Salma’s focus began with mothers and children, then expanded into fighting domestic violence.
  • “The cycle of violence in the world starts at home.” —Salma [02:32]
  • She stresses the normalization of violence in homes leads to wider societal cycles of abuse.

2. The Weinstein Scandal and Its Ripple Effects

[04:07-12:35]

• Oprah reflects on the “thunderbolt” moment following the Harvey Weinstein scandal.
  • “It triggered PTSD in so many women” —Oprah [07:17]
• Salma describes feeling immense shame and PTSD when first contacted by The New York Times.
  • “Shame… It’s a cycle of shame. You’re ashamed of one thing, and it leads to another shame and another shame.” —Salma [08:22]
• Salma shares her experience with Weinstein: Five years of predatory behavior, threats, and psychological abuse.
  • “He told me… ‘I am going to break the kneecaps of the C word.’” —Salma [10:32]
  • She distinguishes the specific nuances and cultural interpretations of language around verbal abuse.
• She draws attention to the difficulty of escaping manipulative, abusive environments: “Once you enter these dynamics, it’s really really hard… but there always is a way out.” [12:01]

3. The Complexity of Speaking Out & Healing

[14:29-16:40]

• Salma reflects on pride and regret regarding her initial silence: “Maybe I could have said something… but nobody would have heard you then.”—Oprah [15:03]; “He was very good at what he did.” —Salma [15:06]
• Addresses the isolation of victims—believing themselves to be alone, a tactic of abusers: “That’s what every good predator does.”—Oprah [15:34]
• Emphasizes compassion for survivors: “You did what you could do at the time. And you should not feel guilty.”—Salma [16:15]

4. The Power and Process of Testimony

[16:40-19:29]

• Salma’s decision to write her op-ed: She ultimately wrote her essay to address not just sexual abuse, but the broader “undermining” of women.
  • “We come together, put the drama aside and unite with each other—then it’s not about drama… It’s about evolution.” —Salma [18:17]
• Oprah reads excerpts of Salma’s repeated refusals to Weinstein, illustrating the persistence and breadth of harassment.

5. Beautiful Women, Contradiction, and Societal Expectation

[19:29-22:06]

• Salma addresses the stereotype that attractive women are less vulnerable to assault and points to the frequent targeting of those perceived as powerful or beautiful.
  • “We are really good subjects for rape and violation and attack—and sometimes attack from other women.” —Salma [19:53]
• The double standards placed on women’s appearances and behavior, particularly those in the public eye, and the inherent contradictions.
  • “You have to be attractive, but you cannot be too attractive… what the do you want?” —Salma [20:44]
  • “It gives you some power, but comes with a price.” —Oprah [21:53]

6. Staying True to Oneself Amid Adversity

[22:06-25:38]

• Salma shares her philosophy of centering oneself amid stress and contradiction.
  • “I am going to discover who I am, not who you want me to be.” —Salma [22:07]
• The importance of self-inquiry: “Ask yourself every day… Where am I? What does [your name] want?” —Salma [22:35]
• On her motivation for the film “Frida”: she describes it as a deeper calling, not just a career move.
  • “It was not a movie, it was a calling.” —Salma [23:39]
  • On integrity: “You cannot get lost in the way of your own calling… you have to keep your principles.” [24:48]
• The role of abusers in eroding confidence as a control tactic.

7. Public Reaction & Social Healing

[27:08-29:10]

• Oprah shares the overwhelming positive support for Salma’s essay.
• Salma describes the relief and fear in coming forward, and her avoidance of immediate public feedback.
  • “Once I came forward, I hid… I felt such a relief. I was terrified.” —Salma [27:35]
• The catharsis of writing her story and the emotional difficulty in doing so.

8. Forgiveness, Responsibility, and Anger

[29:01-30:31]

• The importance of self-forgiveness and moving past apologizing for being victims:
  • “Sometimes women need to apologize to themselves… no, to forgive themselves.” —Salma [29:10]
  • “I don’t want our victimization to be our motto and then our anger to be our motto… I know how to channel that anger and… transform it… because anger is not productive.” —Salma [29:41]

9. From Moment to Movement

[30:31-33:29]

• Oprah asks how to ensure that #MeToo remains a movement, not just a moment.
  • Salma emphasizes the global, permanent shift of collective consciousness:
    • “It’s not going to be a moment. There’s nothing we can do to stop it… It’s about changing the collective conscience.” —Salma [30:54]
    • Even men, in their confusion, are being forced to consider the impact of their behavior—a positive step: “They’re taking a moment to take into consideration what would be the feeling of the other person… it’s a positive thing anyway you slice it.” —Salma [31:33]
• The interconnectedness of social and political frustration fueling broader desire for change.

10. Conviction, Solitude, and the Self

[33:29-35:32]

• Oprah and Salma reflect on the importance of personal conviction and inner peace.
  • “Conviction is very, very important because you are alone in reality, you are alone in life. And it’s a beautiful place to be if you make peace with yourself… We don’t spend enough time with ourselves.” —Salma [33:53]
  • “When you do things with conviction, even failure is bearable… the mystery of life to me is the relationship with you and you.” —Salma [34:25]
  • “Even if you make a mistake, you are at peace with why you made that mistake. And mistakes sometimes are the greatest gifts…” —Salma [35:18]

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “The cycle of violence in the world starts at home.” —Salma Hayek [02:32]
• “Change happens slowly, but every little thing you do, if morally correct, piles up until there is an explosion.” —Salma Hayek [05:17]
• “Shame… it’s a cycle of shame.” —Salma Hayek [08:22]
• “Once you enter these dynamics, it’s really, really hard… but there always is a way out.” —Salma Hayek [12:01]
• “You did what you could do at the time… and you should not feel guilty.” —Salma Hayek [16:15]
• “We come together, put the drama aside and unite with each other—then it’s not about drama… It’s about evolution.” —Salma Hayek [18:17]
• “It gives you some power, but comes with a price.” —Oprah [21:53]
• “Ask yourself every day… Where am I? What do I really want?” —Salma Hayek & Oprah [22:35]
• “You cannot get lost in the way of your own calling… you have to keep your principles.” —Salma Hayek [24:48]
• “I don’t want our victimization to be our motto and then our anger to be our motto… I know how to channel that anger and transform it…” —Salma Hayek [29:41]
• “It’s not going to be a moment. There’s nothing we can do to stop it… It’s about changing the collective conscience.” —Salma Hayek [30:54]
• “Conviction is very, very important because you are alone in reality, you are alone in life. And it’s a beautiful place to be if you make peace with yourself.” —Salma Hayek [33:53]
• “Mistakes sometimes are the greatest gifts you can welcome.” —Salma Hayek [35:31]

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Useful Timestamps

• [01:40] Salma’s advocacy beginnings
• [04:07] Weinstein scandal, collective trauma
• [07:45] Salma on PTSD and not being ready to speak out initially
• [09:19] Describing the nature of abuse and threats by Weinstein
• [16:54] Deciding to write the New York Times essay
• [18:47] Oprah reads from Salma's essay; discussion on why “no” wasn’t enough
• [20:40] Contradictions of being an attractive woman & social expectations
• [22:35] The importance of self-awareness and self-inquiry
• [23:39] “Frida” as a calling, not just a project
• [24:45] “You cannot get lost in the way of your own calling”
• [27:35] Reaction to public support for her essay
• [29:10] The need for women to forgive themselves
• [30:54] Why #MeToo is a movement, not a moment
• [33:53] The importance of conviction and peace with oneself

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Closing Thought

Salma Hayek Pinault, with unflinching vulnerability, highlights that making peace with oneself is both a challenge and a liberation, offering hope that personal healing and courageous truth-telling are central to lasting social change. Oprah guides the conversation to reveal how individual stories—painful and powerful—are shaping a new collective consciousness for women, survivors, and humankind.

Transcript

[A]

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[B]

I'm Oprah Winfrey. Welcome to Super Soul Conversations, the podcast. I believe that one of the most valuable gifts you can give yourself is time, taking time to be more fully present. Your journey to become more inspired and connected to the deeper world around us starts right now.

[C]

Hello, everybody.

[B]

Hello. Hello. Have a seat, girl.

[C]

Arriva.

[B]

Selma. So good to see you again.

[C]

So good to see you too.

[B]

Now, what is interesting is I was saying to the audience, you actually have been fighting for women before the whole MeToo movement, before time's up. You've been doing it in your own way. You've been doing it internally and externally.

[C]

For over 20 years.

[B]

Yeah. And so what was the thunderbolt moment for you that caused you to say I must stand up number one for myself and also do that for other women? How did women's rights become a calling?

[C]

I think that just by observing the situation of the world, not just one country, and noticing that always we had it harder. And we really did have it harder. And I think the one thing that moved me the most was the thought of mothers, how hard it is to be a mother and have children and have less opportunities and be constantly judged. And it's not an easy road. So I started with children and mothers, and then I became really passionate about domestic violence because I think this is where everything starts. The cycle of violence in the world starts at home. And it is also a reflection of what's happening outside in the world when a woman cannot feel safe at home, you know, when the children cannot feel safe at home, but when they take violence as the normality Even if it's very painful deep inside of them, it becomes normality. So when they go out in the world, they think that violence, it's a way for resolving problems or expressing anger. And then it starts a ripple effect. Most of the people that have experienced a home where they grew up with violence, they repeat the cycle. So I thought one way to change the world was to change the mentality of what is okay. And it's not okay inside a house. And although the law, of course, supposedly says it's not okay, when a lot of women went to report it, they were ignored. They were ignored or made fun of or think this or that. And. And sometimes they had no support also from their own families because they already think it's normal.

[B]

Well, we have seen how the Harvey Weinstein scandal has actually allowed this conversation about violence against women, sexual harassment against women in particular, become the catalyst for bringing those issues to the forefront. What do you think happened? That this became the tipping point? Why was this the right time for a tipping point?

[C]

This is a very loaded question.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

We could do the whole thing on this because it's very important.

[B]

Yes.

[C]

I think that sometimes we underestimate our efforts, everybody's efforts, and the power that it has for change. The only reason that this is working right now, it's not only because the women we spoke out, but it's also because everybody listen. And I think that what happens is that we start making changes and we don't see the results. And we think the change is not happening. Humans are slow to change.

[B]

Right.

[C]

Well, this is something.

[B]

It's the thing we fear the most.

[C]

Yes. And it's the thing we fear the most because we want to control the change. We say we want change. As long as I know what is the result when it's not a change. If you can see the result, you are operating with who you are today, we have to be brave and excited about the unknown result of the change by putting the effort into the right little things we do every day. And then we have to trust that if the little things you do every day are morally correct, then the change, you might not see it, but it will happen. And you can never give up on it. Because all these efforts of every single one of you, of everyone, they pile up until there is an explosion.

[B]

Yeah. Okay, so let's talk about the explosion. It's interesting. I was on set with Reese Witherspoon, who's since spoken out and is a part of the Times up movement, and some other actresses who haven't spoken Out. So I won't say who they were. And this was like two days after the Harvey scandal had broken in. The New York Times and everyone, including Reese, I've said this to her, was acting like I have seen some of my girls at my school behave who were suffering from ptsd. Everybody was acting like they were afraid and that they were having a conversation. And I remember Reese saying, oh, God, this is just so upsetting. And every time somebody mentions his name, I start tearing up. And every time I hear someone else speak, it just causes me to be upset. And I haven't slept in two days. Someone else said. So I said, gee, you guys are suffering from ptsd? Did something happen to you? Nobody said anything at the time. So what I realized was happening is that the Harvey scandal triggered within a lot of other people who had experienced sexual violation, sexual harassment from other people. It triggered it, even though it had not come from Harvey. But for you who had had a previous experience, a violation by Harvey Weinstein, what did it trigger in you when you first heard about this scandal?

[C]

They contacted me to be a part of the first story. The first story.

[B]

The New York Times.

[C]

The New York Times. Already by this contact, it was all this turmoil. So already I started crying when they asked me.

[B]

Yeah.

[C]

I ended up not doing it.

[B]

And you started crying why?

[C]

I started crying because of the same thing.

[B]

Ptsd?

[C]

Yes. And I ended up not doing it. And then I felt ashamed that I was a coward, that I've been working, you know, supporting women for two decades, and then I didn't come up. I was a coward. I thought of all these different things, including my child. I don't want to talk about it. But I was also, you know, what was the one thing I was the most ashamed? Because shame, It's a cycle of shame. You're ashamed of one thing, and it leads you to another shame and another shame and another shame that I was pretending everything was okay. So I had been around Harvey acting like everything is okay. And I didn't tell my husband. I only told him, oh, he's such a bully. He was such a bully. But by now, Harvey, he had a lot of respect for me throughout the years. I ended up turning that. That man looked up at me, and he had a lot of respect. I earned it with blood, but he did. So I was able to let go and move on. And so.

[B]

So you were able to let go of having. Feeling violated or having been violated by him before. Do you feel comfortable discussing what the violation was?

[C]

Oh, yeah. Yeah, we can. I feel Comfortable talking about it.

[B]

So tell us about.

[C]

He never raped me. Yeah, but the article. One of the most difficult things about writing that article is that I have a book. It was not one or two occasions. It was five years. Because for the people who have not read the article is that he owned my project that I had already been developing of Frida. He bought it. He was very nice. There was no signs of pressing predatory behavior. He signed me to do other movies with him. And I thought this was the chance. Oh, my God. Because I had really struggled, and nobody believed in me. Nobody thought much of me. And this guy, who was very important, really, I thought so. My artistic value. And so now he owned me. And during five years, he didn't want to do the movie. So in five years, there were a lot of different things. Number one, he told me, I'm going to heal you. And I didn't write this in the article, but he said, I am going to break the kneecaps of the C word.

[B]

He called you the C word?

[C]

He called me the C word. But, you know, if you're Mexican, you don't really know what that really means or how different it is. I have to say how different it is than the B word or from the P word.

[B]

Or the P word.

[C]

Okay. You know, they don't even know what the P word. It's the same meaning as the C word.

[B]

They know. They know.

[C]

But with the P, it means you're like, you know, like a C sin. I don't know, like somebody who's not strong. You know, like a chicken, but with the C word. Then it means you're like the B word. No. What does it mean?

[B]

No, I definitely. No, no. The C word is definitely way worse than the B word.

[C]

Anyway, I knew it was bad. I knew. And anyway, I didn't care about the C word. I care about my niece. I care about my knees.

[B]

That's good.

[C]

But he wanted me to do things. I mean, all the, you know, the massage, the this, the that, it was a constant. And then when it wouldn't happen, I don't want to go into the details. Not because I don't want to go into the details. I don't want to go into the details because we have more important things to talk about, and we have to make sure that we don't get distracted with the guys.

[B]

With the detail.

[C]

Yeah, and with the details because I'm not going to miss this opportunity. But I was depressed. I was paranoid. I lived in fear. I tried to get out. I couldn't get out. Every woman that's been in a similar situation that I can guarantee you is the majority, not just here or of the world, understands that once you enter these dynamics, it's really, really hard to you don't see the way out. There always is a way out.

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[C]

The fear, the anger, the humiliation blurs your sight.

[B]

What do you see now that you could have done differently then? Because I feel now that women speaking out has given other women in other parts of the world and other businesses a feeling of I can say something.

[C]

I couldn't have done anything different. I am actually very proud about how I handled it.

[B]

You are?

[C]

Yes. Because the only different thing. Maybe I could have said something.

[B]

Yeah, but nobody would have heard you then.

[C]

Not only that, he was really very good at what he did. Penelope was furious at me because I never told her something. And then I told her I was writing the thing. And I said, he made the best movies. If I tell you, if I tell Robert Rodriguez, they have business dealings with him. He's not doing the same to you guys. And then I ruined your business opportunity. I didn't know there were so many women that he was doing. I thought I was the only one.

[B]

That's what every good predator does. Yeah, that's what every good predator does. And what's interesting in the experience I was having with the actors on that, a couple of days after the announcement, I thought, oh, you guys are reacting the way I've seen molested children behave. Molested children. Hold the secret. Hold the secret. Hold the secret. Because you think you're the only one it's ever happened to. And part of the triggering part of the trauma, the PTSD that comes up, is not just the guilt. I held it. I didn't tell anybody. But I'm not the only one. You mean I could have spoken up and I could have had you and you and you and you, who also were going through the same thing.

[C]

And I think it's important that we say to the victims, because I work with a lot of different kinds of. You did what you could do at the time.

[B]

That is true.

[C]

And you should not feel guilty. And not everybody needs to speak out now. It's really hard because there's other women that can't. That are at a place where they can and they have, but you have to move away, you know?

[B]

So when the New York Times called you, you said you weren't ready to do it. It caused you to cry and think about it in a different way. You went through all the trauma. When did you know you were going to write the essay and that the essay was the best way for the New York Times?

[C]

When it came out, I was ashamed that I didn't speak up. And then when so many women came out, this is a strange sensation. I felt that all the pain that I had, that was so much and such important part. And by the way, he was not the first time. He was not the first time. That's why I could handle him better. And I'm just gonna say this because it might help someone. I was very strong in front of him, and I was smart how I sneaked my way out. But he didn't see me. Maybe that's why I didn't get raped. Also, he didn't see me. I handled it really well. But now that I saw there were so many, and this is maybe the wrong feeling to have, but I want to be honest, I felt like my pain was so small because there were so many that also had the same pain. But for me, it was so big. But when you see that everybody said the same, you have that little moment when you say, but what about how much I suffer? Everybody the same. That means I didn't suffer special. You know, there is a moment and I think it's human. And I was like, well, there's no point for me to talk because it just happens to everyone, you know? And then I felt that by itself, it was just my own little drama. But when we come together, put the drama aside and unite with each other, then it's not about drama. It's not about pain. It's about evolution. It's about becoming part of something that moves powerfully and that can make the big change happen.

[B]

I just want to say that you said in your essay, you listed all the times you had had to say no to Harvey Weinstein's sexual advances. You wrote, no to me taking a shower with him. No to letting him watch me take a shower. No to letting him give me a massage. No to letting a naked friend of his give me massage. No to letting him give me oral sex. No to my getting naked with another woman. No, no, no, no. I think it's hard sometimes for people who work outside of Hollywood in the media to understand how women they perceive, like yourself to be rich and famous and gorgeous could be subjected to assault like this. Is it hard for you to imagine?

[C]

I've had struggle with assault before. I was in every.

[B]

So he wasn't the first one?

[C]

No, no. But he was the only one for five years. He was the only one for five years.

[B]

So the other person has that person, I call them now fallen Trees. Has that person been named or been outed? The other person?

[C]

No. They're not all famous. They're not all in Hollywood. It's not about. I've had this problem since I was very little. People don't talk about too much. When they think somebody's attractive, people say, oh, she has a reason. The attractive women is never the underdog because they're attractive. But we are really, really good subjects for rape and violation and attack and sometimes attack from other women. I mean, I'm not complaining.

[B]

Huh? I understand exactly what you're saying.

[C]

But it comes with some issues, too.

[B]

And so would you say from a very young age, you had to learn how to say no and keep the assaulters away? Yeah.

[C]

Yes. It is full of contradictions because we are told you have to be the Virgin Mary, but you have to do what I say when I say, okay, you have to be attractive, but you cannot be too attractive, because then you are telling me that I can do whatever I want with you. What the do you want, Jesus? I mean, who the hell am I supposed to be? I want you to be good looking for me, but not good looking for the other ones. But don't come out looking like that. But don't look too good.

[B]

So it's a. Learning to manage it, although you are aware. So this is why I love the conversation with you. You're obviously a very beautiful woman, and you've been beautiful your whole life. And most women who are beautiful don't admit that they are or that that also gives you.

[C]

Gives you some power. I was just gonna say it comes with a price.

[B]

It gives you some power, but comes with a price.

[C]

And then they expect you to continue to look beautiful for the rest of your life.

[B]

Which comes with some pressure.

[C]

Which comes with some pressure.

[B]

Some pressure.

[C]

But you know what? It is the point how to handle it. I'm gonna tell you when it comes. When you say, screw you, I am going to discover who I am, not who you want me to be. And I will maybe mingle in the things that I'm supposed to hear. And there. But I am going to be aware every second. Where am I? Here. Ask yourself this question every day. What is your name? I cannot hear.

[D]

Alicia.

[C]

Alicia. When you're doing with your kids, when somebody is telling you you should have done something different, were you trying so hard to get the job right? Get the. When you're lost in the stress and the chaos. Wait, wait, wait. Where am I? Where is Alicia? What does Alicia want? We don't even ask this question. We just try to survive the day.

[B]

Which is the most important question, actually.

[C]

Where am I?

[B]

What do I really want?

[C]

Yes.

[B]

Yes. What do I really want? Yeah. So you learn to say no early.

[C]

I learned to say no, and I learned to use their madness.

[B]

Yeah, but when you were doing the Frida Kahlo story, when you were doing that story, it was one of the most. I remember interviewing you on the Oprah show about it. You were so passionate about it. You put your heart into it. You had given everything you had to make that come into fruition. And so Was there a part of you that felt like it was necessary to take whatever you needed to take to get that done?

[C]

This was not to me, it was not a movie, it was a calling. Yeah, there's something different.

[B]

Yeah, I got that.

[C]

I really knew, and I'm not gonna tell you, had a lot of strange signs also that I had to get this done, that it was an important spiritual journey for me, that I had a contract with this story somehow from before I was an actress. So I was very, very driven. And also because it was so strong, it gave me this insane security when everybody said, you're crazy, it's never going to happen, that somehow it was going to happen because there was something magical about it. But also I was not willing to do anything for it because when you have a calling, you, you know, it's supposed to happen, it's supposed to happen. But you cannot get lost in the way of your own calling. Ah. You cannot lose yourself. You cannot lose yourself. So it was a constant struggle.

[B]

You cannot get lost in the way of your own calling.

[C]

Yes, you have to stay. You. You have to keep your principles. And I struggle with depression also. It's not just I struggle. What he was doing gave me the depression. And the depression doesn't want to make you do anything. And I had to struggle with that demon too. Because the depression, you feel so small. You feel so small.

[B]

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When somebody is on top of you the whole time and you are powerless and you feel so small. And I was trying to do something so big that nobody believed in. On top of already feeling small because. And on top of it, he made sure. Because the abusive behavior is that the first thing they do is destroy your confidence. Yep, yep, that's the first thing they do.

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Well, women around the world took to social media to share their support for you. Once you wrote that op ed piece for the New York Times, a woman named Alison posted Salma Hayek's New York Times piece, move me to Tears. We are done apologizing. Someone on Twitter said Salma Hayek is not only changing the perception of women, but changing the world. How did it feel to hear that once you came forward?

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Once I came forward, I hid. I didn't read. I didn't take a picture.

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You didn't read it, so you're hearing it. That's what women.

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Because I felt such a relief, I was terrified. It took me months. You asked me why an essay I wanted to tell my story.

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Was writing it healing and cathartic for you?

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Yes.

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Yes.

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But it took me months. I cry every time I would take up that pen because I don't. Do you do the machine I'm on, I cry. I'm awful with.

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With the things.

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But I don't want a picture for my Instagram.

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Okay, okay, we'll get that. We'll make sure that happens. So you started writing it. So after the New York Times called and you said, I can't.

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No, it took me a while. If you're a yes, no, yes, no. Okay, I'm going to do it. I would start, no, I'm not going to do it. Nobody cares about what I have to say already. Other people say it. That was the other thing. That was the next step. And finally I said it because there was something I felt nobody had talked about, which was it was not only the abuse, the sexual harassment, it's the undermining, the abuse of being constantly undermined because we're women. And this was important, too, because it was. It's so painful.

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You say women need to stop apologizing. Why is that one of the Keys to healing this trauma.

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I cut it short. Sometimes women need to apologize to themselves. They have to have this moment. Not to apologize. No, to forgive.

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Yeah, that's the word.

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To forgive themselves. When you forgive yourself, you stop apologizing for others. It's important to take responsibility also of the things we do to others. It's important, but we have to stop apologizing for being attacked. And we must move into a place where you can actually have a conversation. It is important to release the anger. I don't want us to go from victims to angry. I don't want our victimization to be our motto and then our anger to be our motto. That doesn't mean that we're not angry. I am a short Mexican, Arab angry woman. But I know how to channel that angry and transform so that it doesn't blur my sight and I can see ahead and I can use that energy transforming a motor that is productive. Because anger is not productive.

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Well, I've heard some people call the me too movement a moment and saying it's a moment. I think that's because we live in a world where the news cycle changes and our attention span changes and people feel like, okay, so now the women are having their moment. How do you ensure this becomes a movement and not a moment?

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It's not going to be a moment. There's nothing we can do to stop it. Because it's about changing the collective conscience. And what I said is the change was not only done by the people who spoke, but by the people who listened. Especially the ones that listen. And the believe it, didn't think it was right, were uncomfortable. They still had to stop and think about it for a second. We have become aware of something. There is a lot of men that really didn't even know there was something wrong with it. There really is. Now they're all confused. Oh, my God, what am I? What can I say what cannot say? They're all in a panic. I feel for some of them, but it's a beautiful thing because they are thinking. They're taking a moment to take into consideration what would be the feeling of the other person. And this makes a change on who they are as a man, because they are stopping to think. And it's a positive thing anyway you slice it. Not only it's not a moment, it is a moment in time that has been coming for. We've been working for these for. For centuries. Our moment came and life will never be the same. But also it's very exciting for other reasons. I will tell you why?

[B]

Why? Tell me why.

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It really proves that change can happen because we are not patient with change. Like we talked about before. It gives me hope that we can change in other ways. And it is very important that we don't become cynical about our little changes, that we acknowledge our little changes, every single person changes. And also as a community, that we acknowledge them and that we don't lose hope that it will continue. I think this also happened now because we are so frustrated with the government getting away with incredible things and all the lying and all the covering and it did something good. In this case, I think people were frustrated enough that said no. What is this lie after lie after lie? Because the constant lying, it's a cynical manipulation of our ignorance and our apathy towards our communities.

[B]

Final question. Has this allowed you. I've heard you speak before about the importance of honor and conviction in your life. So has this movement, your work with speaking out for yourself and being inclusive of other women, has it given you a greater sense of. Of conviction? And how important is conviction?

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Conviction is very, very important because you are alone in reality, you are alone in life. And it's a beautiful place to be. If you make peace with yourself, if you have a good relationship with yourself. There's so much to find. We have so many possibilities. We actually don't spend enough time with us ourselves. And many times we fall into the trap to do things so that other people have a perception of who we are. When you do things with conviction, even failure is very bearable. We're all afraid of failure. But if you fail trying to impress someone else or do it for others or want it all, then it's terrible. The failure, it wasn't even really maybe what you wanted to do. But with you fail with conviction, even that it's bearable. And at the end of the day, you can lie and, you know, BS your way through life, but you're going to end up alone one way or another. We have to make peace with this. You can have a lot of love, but the mystery of life to me is the relationship with you. And you, as long as you need the others to feel comfortable, you will always suffer from anxiety. And conviction is that place where even if you make a mistake, you are at peace. Why you made that mistake. And mistakes sometimes are the greatest gifts that you can welcome.

[B]

Salma Hayek, Thanks for your wisdom.

[C]

Thanks for your wisdom. Thank you so much for inviting me. Thank you.

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Bye. Salma Hayek, everybody. I'm Oprah Winfrey, and you've been listening to Super Soul Conversations, the podcast. You can follow Super Soul on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook. If you haven't yet, go to Apple Podcast and subscribe. Rate and review this podcast. Join me next week for another Super Soul Conversation. Thank you for listening.

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