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Order of Man
Hosted by Ryan Michler · EN
We are reclaiming what it means to be a man. Each week we interview the world's most successful men on the planet - elite athletes, warriors, New York Times Bestselling Authors, and world-class entrepreneurs – extract their hard-fought lessons and experiences and deliver them straight to you. Past guests include Jocko Willink, Tim Kennedy, Andy Frisella, Lewis Howes, Grant Cardone, Ryan Holiday, Ben Greenfield, Rich Roll, and so many more. If you're ready to level up your life as a man, this is the show for you.
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A Man Only Has Five Types of Friends | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
4d ago00:29:36Tap to summarizeMost men go their entire lives running on substitute friendships without realizing their tank is completely empty. In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down the 5 types of men in your life - from the convenient neighbor to the group chat clown - and reveals why only one of them will actually stand by you in a crisis. Learn how to audit your inner circle, eliminate friction-free surface relationships, and build genuine 2 AM friendships through intentionality and radical honesty. Ready to surrounding yourself with high-caliber men? Join the Iron Council brotherhood at orderofman.com/ironcouncil. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Friendship Trap Most Men Fall For 00:21 - Category 1: The Convenient Friend 04:55 - Category 2: The Default Friend 07:11 - Category 3: The Clown 11:02 - Category 4: The Casual Friend 15:04 - Category 5: The 2 AM Friend 18:10 - Why 2 AM Friendships Still Have Limitations 20:07 - Taking Responsibility for Your Relationships 22:25 - The 80/20 Rule of Male Vulnerability 26:47 - How to Build Intentional Brotherhood Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
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3 Things That Don't Lie: Bank Account, Calendar, Scale | ASK ME ANYTHING
6d ago01:05:16Tap to summarizeRyan and Kipp dive into another Ask Me Anything episode covering friendship, leadership, masculinity, marriage, and purpose. They begin by discussing George Washington's remarkable character and why understanding history matters today. Listener questions lead to conversations about finding true brothers instead of surface-level friends, accepting difficult personal feedback, evaluating modern masculinity influencers, and navigating marriage when a wife earns more than her husband. Along the way, Ryan shares personal stories about leadership, divorce, and conviction, while Kipp offers practical insights on authenticity, self-leadership, and intentional living. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Pre-show conversation 11:47 – George Washington discussion 19:21 – Finding brothers instead of casual friends 27:22 – Difficult personal feedback and growth 42:30 – Choosing trustworthy voices on masculinity 51:19 – Should men be the primary provider? 1:03:18 – Iron Council preview invitation 1:04:18 – Closing thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
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KEITH YACKEY | The 5 Dials of a Better Marriage
1w ago01:41:34Tap to summarizeMost men think attraction is something that happens to them (a switch their wife either flips or doesn't). Keith Yackey burns that idea to the ground. After two divorces, he built a framework around one brutal truth: you don't get what you want, you get what you are. If she's not leaning in anymore, that's not a mystery. That's a mirror. In this conversation, Keith breaks down the five dials every man is quietly failing (parent, partner, producer, player, and power) and hands you the exact language to rate yourself against them. We get into why scheduling sex builds more desire than spontaneity ever will, why "I did it for you" is the worst thing a man can say, and why the guys who stop chasing anything eventually get left by everything. This isn't theory. It's the same math Keith used to go from a 19 out of 100 to the best marriage of his life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Welcome to Mickler Manor 01:53 Montana Knife Company Gift & Blood Brothers 04:06 Learning How to Receive Help as a Man 08:23 Do Men Need to Hit Rock Bottom? 10:36 Realizing You Are the Common Denominator 12:55 Becoming a Better Coach Through Failure 14:38 Why Men Need Stories of Struggle 18:42 Purpose, Mission, and Identity Over Ego 22:33 The Raw Truth About Relationship Dynamics 24:42 Extreme Ownership vs. Victim Mentality 28:53 What a "Fulfilled" Woman Wants 32:43 The Power of Boundaries and Saying "No" 36:57 The Importance of Brotherhood and Male Tribes 40:13 Overt vs. Covert Communication in Marriage 42:27 Overcoming Complacency in Relationships 46:20 Creating Novelty & Building Consistency 50:32 Self-Validation and Holding High Standards 54:42 Leading with Intention 58:34 Captain of the Vessel vs. Passengers 01:02:35 Support, Peacemaking, and Shared Joy 01:06:31 Direct Communication and Expressing Desires 01:12:45 Why Scheduling Intimacy Works 01:16:53 The 5 Dials of Long-Term Attraction 01:23:10 Rating Yourself and Fixing Your Relationship Grade 01:29:32 Modeling Love and Setting the Container 01:32:52 Connecting with Keith Yackey & Married Game Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
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Small Talk Creates Big Opportunity | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
2w ago00:36:35Tap to summarizeMost men despise small talk, dismissing it as shallow, fake, or a complete waste of breath. We skip the pleasantries and go straight to the agenda. But in this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler breaks down why avoiding small talk is quietly costing you massive life, career, and romantic opportunities. Small talk isn't about the weather or sports; it's a low-risk reconnaissance mission to establish trust, likeability, and respect. Ryan shares 4 actionable moves to stop trying to be "impressive" and instead leverage genuine curiosity to open doors you've been walking right past. Stop treating small talk like a nuisance - it's the gateway to your next big breakthrough. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - The Real Cost of Skipping Small Talk 02:35 - Low Risk Equates to High Opportunity 04:30 - The Instinctual Mistakes Men Make 06:47 - The True Function of Small Talk 08:34 - Curiosity Over Performance 12:55 - Move 1: Master the Follow-Up Question 16:40 - Move 2: Be Memorable, Not Impressive 18:50 - Move 3: The 48-Hour Follow-Up Rule 20:45 - Move 4: Treat Every Room Like It Matters 28:00 - Why Introversion Is Not an Excuse 29:40 - Your Weekend Assignment Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
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Losing Your Job, Raising a Step-Son, and Making Payroll | ASK ME ANYTHING
2w ago01:18:19Tap to summarizeIn this week's Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen kick things off by discussing the latest UFC headlines, Conor McGregor's return, Patty Pimblett's impressive performance, and what happens when people tie their identity to something that eventually expires. They also unpack the recent Yellowstone bison incident and the lessons it teaches about respecting nature and recognizing danger. Then they answer listener questions on authenticity, difficult conversations in marriage, job loss and identity, misconceptions in the manosphere, seeking a father's approval, dementia, and whether hunting builds better men or simply reinforces lessons learned elsewhere. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Cold Open 01:48 Episode Begins 06:51 UFC Headlines: Patty Pimblett, Conor McGregor & Identity 16:12 Yellowstone Bison Attack & Lessons from Nature 25:30 AMA: How to Live Authentically 42:40 AMA: Job Loss, Identity & Being a Provider 48:31 AMA: The Worst Advice in the Manosphere 52:45 AMA: Making Peace with a Father Facing Dementia 1:04:16 AMA: Does Hunting Build Better Men? 1:09:00 Closing Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
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KYLE CARNOHAN | How Fatherhood Will Save Humanity
2w ago01:10:35Tap to summarizeMen are drowning in a culture that rewards the appearance of strength. You've likely heard the term, "ripped, rich, and rare." It misses the one thing that actually builds it: the willingness to fail, feel it, and let their kids watch them do it. Today's guest calls this the "Upside Down Game," the con every man eventually has to walk away from if he wants to become someone worth following. This conversation goes straight at the blindness most men carry about themselves, the resistance that waits for every man trying to change, and why the hardest thing on earth isn't becoming a warrior; it's accepting your own humanity first. Kyle Carnohan joins me to talk about the greatest awakening happening among men right now, and what it actually looks like to raise kids who can hold frame in a world built to knock them off it. We get into the difference between being calm and being a pushover, why "non-reactive" doesn't mean passive, and how a strong spine and a soft heart aren't opposites, they're the whole point. If you've ever wondered whether your kids are learning more from your failures than your victories, this episode will answer that question whether you're ready for it or not. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Reconnecting 01:09 - The State of Modern Podcasting vs. Real Connection 03:22 - The Great Awakening: Transitioning from Promotion to Realness 05:24 - Embracing Failure, Disaster, and Finding Faith 07:23 - The Struggle for Men to Accept Their Humanity 09:22 - Falling in Love with the Process Over the Outcome 10:00 - Finding Peace in Major Life Hardships 11:51 - Teaching Children Resilience Through Witnessing Hardship 14:38 - Spotting Your Blind Spots and Learning to Continually Reconcile 19:40 - The Importance of Finding an Accurate Mirror in Life 21:30 - Navigating Different Personalities Under One Roof 22:38 - Unconditional Love and Radical Non-Reactivity in Parenting 27:11 - Stripping Away the Tough Guy Persona 30:20 - Overcoming the Need to Force and Strong-Arm Your Family 32:18 - Maintaining a Calm Nervous System Amidst Household Chaos 36:36 - Commanding Respect vs. Demanding Compliance 39:38 - The Societal Shift and Misconceptions of Kindness in Men 41:56 - The Balance: Hard Man with a Soft Heart 45:01 - Maintaining Your Frame vs. Being a Pushover 48:45 - The Courage Required for Calm, Loving Pursuits in Conflict 50:51 - Holding the Line Calmly with Children 54:12 - How Raising Righteous Children Saves the Culture 56:05 - Yielding the Glory and Fighting Alongside Men 58:21 - Connecting with Kyle and Closing Thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
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The Rise of Vanishing Fatherhood | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
3w ago00:23:54Tap to summarizeIn this episode of Friday Field Notes, host Ryan Michler tackles a critical societal crisis: the rise of vanishing fatherhood. With nearly half of all men between the ages of 25 and 45 currently childless, Ryan breaks down why this trend isn't just an economic narrative, but a profound crisis of belief. He exposes the cultural lie that children are a restriction on personal freedom and contrasts it with data showing that 90% of fathers find fatherhood to be their deepest source of joy. True purpose comes from shouldering responsibility, not chasing comfort. Tune in to learn why raising righteous children is the ultimate battlefield for our culture. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 00:45 - The Fatherhood Statistics Shock 02:24 - Belief Systems vs. Economic Stories 04:27 - The Joy of Fatherhood vs. Societal Expectations 06:37 - The True Cost of Opting Out 08:50 - The Danger of Fragile and Rudderless Men 11:02 - The Birth Rate Collapse and Cultural Decay 13:19 - Reclaiming Culture Through the Next Generation 15:28 - Forfeiting the Cultural Fight 17:28 - Raising Righteous Children as the Mission 19:13 - Shifting from Dopamine to Legacy 19:57 - Step Up and Find the Courage 22:00 - A Call to Action for Modern Fathers Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
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Hope is What Makes America Great, Living 'The Man in the Arena', and Calling Out Your Wife's Secrets | ASK ME ANYTHING
3w ago00:51:43Tap to summarizeIn this week's Ask Me Anything, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen kick things off by reflecting on the Fourth of July and discussing why hope, personal agency, and responsibility are at the heart of what makes America unique. They then answer listener questions on fatherhood without a positive role model, rebuilding trust after discovering a spouse's hidden debt, choosing a simple life over chasing an empire, and whether to confess a long-hidden pornography addiction. Throughout the episode, they explore integrity, personal responsibility, and what it truly means to live as "the man in the arena"—making difficult choices that lead to lasting character and stronger relationships. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 01:40 - Hope Is What Makes America Great 13:31 - Fatherhood Without a Blueprint 22:32 - Your Wife's Secret Credit Card: Rebuilding Trust 34:09 - Is It Wrong to Want a Quiet Life? 39:02 - Should You Confess a Hidden Porn Addiction? 51:07 - Final Thoughts & Iron Council Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
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JAKE WOODARD | Building a Strong Spine & A Soft Heart
3w ago01:14:40Tap to summarizeThere's a war being waged on masculinity and femininity, and it's not an accident. Men are being told their strength is toxic. Women are being told their softness is weakness. The result is a generation of frustrated men, disenfranchised sons, and homes with no anchor. Today's guest calls it what it is: a deliberate weaponization of the sexes against each other, and it starts in the home. Jake Woodard joins me to break down the difference between masculinity and manliness, why cities are quietly stripping men of their edge, and what it actually looks like to raise a son into a man. We get into red flags and green flags for both sexes, what it means to be a "masculine shield" for the woman in your life, and why "strong spine, soft heart" might be the most important phrase you hear all year. If you're a man trying to lead your home, or a woman wondering how to inspire the man in yours, this one's for both of you. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 Masculinity Under Attack 03:53 Can Single Mothers Raise Masculine Boys? 07:48 The Masculine Shield Women Build 13:09 Taking Responsibility Instead of Blame 15:05 Why Nice Guys Lose Attraction 17:32 Leadership During Uncertainty 23:43 The Problem With Red Pill Influencers 27:57 Why Fatherhood Is the Greatest Success 30:10 Healing Childhood Trauma Through Accountability 36:18 Does Change Require Rock Bottom? 39:51 Masculinity vs. Manliness 44:53 Green Flags Every Man Should Develop 48:38 What Women Should Look For In A Man 51:17 The Power of Tenderness in Marriage 54:19 A Man Provides. A Woman Multiplies. 56:08 Women Are Amplifiers 58:00 Your Partner Reflects Your Leadership 01:00:37 Building a Home Instead of Just a House 01:02:13 Why Women Stop Trusting Men to Lead Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
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Men Plant Trees Before They Need Shade | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES
4w ago00:33:32Tap to summarizeAs we approach the historic 250th anniversary of America's founding, Ryan Michler delivers a stark, counter-cultural challenge to modern men. We live in a society hyper-focused on immediate gratification, digital clout, and instant feedback loops. But true legacy requires a longer horizon. By examining the immense, unglamorous sacrifices of George Washington, John Adams, and Thomas Jefferson, Ryan maps out the blueprint for moving past temporary, ego-driven personal empires toward lasting institutions. Discover four actionable strategies to practice delayed returns, extend your time horizon, and aggressively plant the generational trees whose shade you may never personally sit under. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 00:26 - The 250th Anniversary of America's Founding 01:00 - The Sweltering Reality of Philadelphia, 1776 02:30 - What the Founders Never Lived to See Complete 03:50 - The Ancient Wisdom of Planting Trees for Future Shade 04:21 - Breaking Free from Modern Immediate Gratification Loops 05:50 - John Adams and the True Cost of Generational Freedom 08:00 - Thomas Jefferson: Calculating Decades in the Dirt 10:00 - George Washington's Ultimate Power Move: Stepping Down 12:14 - The Strategy of Extending Your Time Horizon 14:30 - Building Lasting Institutions vs. Fleeting Personal Empires 21:31 - Why "Order of Man" is Not the Ryan Michler Show 24:11 - Tactical Discipline: Training Yourself for True Patience 26:36 - The Field Notes Challenge: Perform a Zero-Payoff Action 28:36 - Changing Your Stars and Redefining Your Family Trajectory Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready
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