Passion Struck with John R. Miles

Episode 697: “Susan Grau on 10 Signs You Are Ignoring Your Intuition”
Guest: Susan Grau, Intuitive Medium and Grief Guide
Date: December 2, 2025

Episode Overview

In this Season of Becoming episode, John R. Miles explores intuition, grief, identity, and healing with renowned intuitive medium and grief guide Susan Grau. Their conversation journeys from Susan's near-death experience as a child—which catalyzed her spiritual path—to practical guidance on recognizing and honoring one's intuition, integrating lessons from loss, and understanding the nuances of mediumship. The episode foregrounds actionable wisdom and tender, personal storytelling, offering listeners both validation and tools for transformation.

Key Discussion Points & Timestamps

1. Susan Grau’s Near Death Experience and Its Impact

[06:46–08:51]

• Susan recounts nearly dying at age five, trapped in a freezer, which led her to experience “rooms” or dimensions of knowledge and desire.
• She explains how this experience taught her personal empowerment and facing fears:

  “What I run from chases me. And what I try to control controls me.” — Susan Grau [08:32]

• The experience highlighted her connection with something beyond ordinary perception.

2. Lessons from the “Room of Heart’s Desires”

[08:51–11:51]

• In one dimension, Susan saw how prayers and desires are not always answered because sometimes,

  “What people desire most isn’t good for them.” — Susan Grau [09:38]

• She discusses the harm of forcing solutions and the wisdom in allowing plans to unfold.
• The cycle of “banging your head against a wall” reflects resisting soul guidance.

3. Spiritual Timing vs. Earthly Timing

[11:51–13:50]

• John reflects on spiritual timing vs. human impatience.
• Susan notes:

  “Spiritual warfare … is my brain fighting my soul and what my soul knows... I’m not going to receive everything in my own timing.” [12:28]

• Letting go of the need to control outcomes is a core spiritual lesson.

4. Soul Work: Helping Others Through Personal Pain

[13:50–18:15]

• John shares how recognizing his own brokenness led him to help those most in need.
• Susan emphasizes lived experience over intellectual knowledge in healing:

  “My greatest lessons were my darkest lessons. … Because of everything I’ve been through, I’m a good person.” [15:30]

• True growth comes from integrating pain, not avoiding it.

5. Evidential Mediumship

[18:15–21:31]

• Susan describes mediumship as a natural human ability grounded in love, not a demonic practice:

  “Love survives all, everything, and it’s universal.” — Susan Grau [18:39]

• She practices “evidential mediumship”—bringing forth verifiable information.

6. How to Invite Spiritual Guidance

[23:12–25:39]

• John highlights spirit guides as always present but needing an invitation.
• Susan instructs that it’s simply about willingness:

  “It’s just a conversation … I invite you into my day today to guide me and show me.” — Susan Grau [23:49]

• Free will is essential for the soul’s growth; guides respect it.

7. Recognizing Signals from Spirit

[26:55–33:09]

• Spirits communicate through nature (butterflies, birds), synchronicities, songs, technology, and—most importantly—repetition.
• Presence is crucial for noticing these messages:

  “Life is in session. Be present.” — Susan Grau [29:48]

• Awareness, acceptance, and action form Susan’s three-step process for spiritual communication.

8. Intuitive Nudges vs. Intellectual Overrides

[47:38–52:06]

• Susan distinguishes between intuition (a gut feeling—internal) and mediumship (external, higher vibrational energy).
• Practice is essential to discern intuition from fear or programming.

  “If I walk into a room and my gut goes, ‘Something feels off here,’ … The mistake that we make … is we take it to our brain and leave it there.” [47:38]

• John shares his morning routine for cultivating intuition, affirmed by bodily sensations (“goosebumps” and “tingling”).

9. Living Your Script vs. Someone Else’s

[54:51–58:47]

• John and Susan discuss the dangers of following scripts written by family, society, or conditioning, rather than personal alignment.
• The key indicator that you’re living someone else’s script: lack of joy and a sense of misalignment.

  “We have to ask ourselves, what brings joy to me?” — Susan Grau [55:51]

10. Integrating Spiritual Lessons and Healing

[45:21–47:38]

• Susan urges listeners to connect with their “highest, most perfect self” for guidance.
• Self-reflection and workbook exercises are practical tools for integration.

11. Grief, Healing, and the Purpose of Hardship

[37:29–41:17]

• Susan frames soul contracts as setting the stage for free-will experiences.
• The pain we live through is essential to spiritual growth and unity.

  “If we knew what was waiting for us … we’d never make a free will choice.” — Susan Grau [37:36]

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Suffering as Teacher:

  “My greatest lessons were my darkest lessons. … Because of everything I’ve been through, I’m a good person.” — Susan Grau [15:30]

• On Surrender:

  “A forced solution is never a good solution, ever. We want it to unfold.” — Susan Grau [11:31]

• On Spirit Communication:

  “The most important message is, ‘I’m here and I love you.’” — Susan Grau [27:09]

• On Presence:

  “Life is in session. Be present. … If you don’t know the flowers you just walked past and what color they were, how would you know if you’re walking with a spirit guide?” — Susan Grau [29:48]

• On Scripts:

  “The script tells us, ‘Don’t make a bad decision.’ … Through my own experiences that didn’t work out, I learned what did.” — Susan Grau [15:30]

Actionable Wisdom & Takeaways

• Invite Spirit Guides: Simply ask for guidance as part of your daily routine.
• Cultivate Presence: Practice being aware of your physical senses, surroundings, and emotional responses.
• Watch for Repetition: Signs from spirit often occur in patterns; notice what repeats in your environment.
• Trust Your Gut: Process intuitive nudges swiftly — up to the brain, then back down to the gut for authentic validation.
• Align with Joy: Regularly check if your daily actions align with what truly brings you joy.

Timestamps for Important Segments

• [06:46–08:51]: Susan's near-death experience and the "rooms" of knowledge and desires
• [09:38–11:51]: Lessons on desire, blocks, and the wisdom of surrender
• [13:50–18:15]: Converting personal pain into empathy and helping others
• [18:39–21:31]: What evidential mediumship is and how Susan experiences it
• [23:12–25:39]: How to invite spirit guides and the role of free will
• [26:55–33:09]: Spirit communication methods; the role of signs, animals, and presence
• [47:38–52:06]: Building trust in intuitive nudges and everyday intuition
• [54:51–58:47]: Moving from external life scripts to personal alignment

Susan Grau’s Upcoming Projects

• Book “The Spirit Codes”: Explores the symbols and signs from spirit and how to interpret them.
• Book “Infinite Healing”: Guides readers through darkness to healing, especially during the ‘dark night of the soul’.

Susan can be found at susangrau.com and on social media as @susangrauofficial.

Final Reflection from John R. Miles

[61:23–63:28]

• Becoming starts not with ambition, but with interruption and loss, allowing the real self to emerge.
• Intuition is presence-sharpened perception.
• “Becoming is not reinvention. It’s remembering.” — John R. Miles

If you wish to integrate this episode’s insights further, visit theignitedlife.net for resources and weekly reflections.