What if the biggest thing standing between you and better decisions under pressure isn’t your circumstances, but the automatic “autopilot” reactions running your mind without you noticing?

In this episode, clinical psychologist Dr Gregory Obert breaks down why we so often react emotionally before we even realise what’s happening, and how that can distort our thinking, relationships, and choices. If you’ve ever snapped, assumed the worst, or regretted a reaction in the heat of the moment, this conversation connects directly to that experience and shows what’s actually going on beneath it.

By listening, you’ll understand:

How “autopilot” thinking quietly shapes your reactions and decisions without conscious awareness
Simple mindfulness techniques to interrupt unhelpful thought loops and “defuse” from them in real time
Practical nervous-system tools (like sensory grounding and cold exposure) to regain control when emotions spike

Press play on this episode to learn how to step out of reactive patterns and respond with clarity even in high-pressure moments.

KEY POINTS AND TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 - How Autopilot Reactions Shape Your Decisions

02:35 - What Mindfulness Really Means

05:58 - The Johnny Example and Assumptions Under Pressure

10:16 - Defusion: Separating Thoughts from Reality

12:04 - Simple Mindfulness Exercises to Build Awareness

16:15 - How to Interrupt Emotional Reactions in Real Time

18:24 - The 0 to 10 Emotional Scale and the Logical Brain

21:41 - Using Cold Exposure to Calm Emotional Intensity

29:05 - Sitting with Difficult Emotions Without Escaping Them

36:07 - Where to Learn More from Dr Greg Obert

MEMORABLE QUOTE:

"It's paying attention on purpose to the present moment, non-judgmentally."

VALUABLE RESOURCES:

Dr Greg's website: https://www.royaloasispi.com/

Coaching with Agi: https://personaldevelopmentmasterypodcast.com/mentor

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