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Harry Jowsey
hey,
Wells Adams
this is Wells Adams with By Order of the Faithfuls podcast alongside my fellow faithfuls and co hosts Tamara Judge and Dolores Catania. The three of us have been watching this season of the Traders, and we've been inside that castle, so we have insight. Unlike many others, this season of the Traders may be the best we've ever seen. Listen to By Order the Faithfuls on America's number one podcast network, iHeart, followed by order the Faithfuls and start listening on the free iHeartRadio app today.
Danielle Fishel
Give me my need for cigarettes
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I'll
Harry Jowsey
never leave your cookie bed
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I stay
the night and one night be came
Harry Jowsey
two or three years the kids are not all right but that's okay Cause no one here is take me.
Danielle Fishel
Well, hello, Teeny Beaters. Nope, it's not it. Still workshopping our names. We will get there at some point, I promise. But more importantly, in the meanwhile, this is Teen Beat with me, Danielle Fishel. It's a podcast where I invite interesting people to sit down and chat about their upbringings. The glorious and the awkward. All in an attempt to pay me back for the years I spent on television as a literal kid. It's an easy concept. I gave you my childhood. It's time we hear yours. And this week, I'm hanging out with a reality television superstar who's here not only to talk about his formative years, but this session will also double as a conduit between his generation and mine, with the goal of making me cooler by the end of this episode. 28 years old, 6 foot 5, this Queensland, Australia native burst onto the scene in 2018 as the standout star of New Zealand's hit reality dating show Heartbreak island, leaving with a $100,000 prize and a newly recognizable name in branding. He then sidestepped the success onto 2021's British dating game show Too Hot to Handle and MTV's Match Me if youf Can, a prime example of celebrity in the always changing media landscape of today. He continued to make the unscripted rounds from Floor Is Lava to Amazing, raced Australia to Perfect Match, eventually landing on the 32nd season of Dancing with the Stars, where he helped usher in a new era for the show, one that has continued to gain momentum ever since. Then he made the once impossible transition into traditional acting, appearing in last year's the Wrong Paris alongside Miranda Cosgrove and the upcoming Horrified with Ron Perlman, Busy Phillips and Jim Rash. And now he's about to raise the ante with his own reality dating show, let's Marry Harry on Netflix, executive produced by Alex Cooper of Call Her Daddy fame, with the goal of guiding the serial dater toward a committed long term relationship. He has his own podcast on the Unwell network called Boyfriend Material. But today he's here on Teen Beat. Because I have to assume somewhere underneath this hot guy facade is an awkward, dorky teenager. You know what? It's probably not. It's probably always been cool. Anyway, welcome to the show, Harry Jowsey.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
That was the coolest intro I've ever had.
Really?
Yeah, the thing that sticks the most. Reality TV superstar.
Danielle Fishel
Superstar.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
No one's ever said that.
Danielle Fishel
Really?
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
It's usually reality TV star. Well, I've got the super now.
Danielle Fishel
Superstar. Yeah, it's like supermodel superstar. Also.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
You really, like, did your research.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah, we're supposed to cry by night operation here. This is I heart.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah, this is the big.
Danielle Fishel
This is a serious building, as you called it. Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
That's so cool. I feel really official.
Danielle Fishel
Well, you should. And you're very cool. You should. You should be. You should feel cool.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Wow, what do I do now? It's so fun.
Danielle Fishel
Am I right? Have you always been cool?
Harry Jowsey
No, No, I was terrible. I was such a little. Yeah. Little sausage.
Danielle Fishel
Okay, I'm gonna need some more explanation about that. What's a little sausage?
Harry Jowsey
I just feel like sausage is like a universal word and I just say it for everything.
Danielle Fishel
Okay, so what does it mean in terms of what you were like as a child, you little sausage?
Harry Jowsey
Can. I swear?
Danielle Fishel
You sure can.
Harry Jowsey
Okay, cool. Because I was gonna say I was a little.
Danielle Fishel
Okay, got it. Yeah, that makes sense to me. Yeah. A little sausage. I need an explanation. You say a little. I get it.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Okay, cool.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. No, I usually say sausage for like anything bad. But yeah, I was a little growing up. Like, I was. I grew up in central Queensland, Australia, in this small town called Yepoon. And the closest city is Rockhampton, which is the beef capital of Australia.
Danielle Fishel
So some might say the sausage capital.
Harry Jowsey
The sausage capital, Yeah. A lot of meat going around over there. The funny thing is that growing up in a place like that, you know, in school you have like different classes, right? Like New Zealand. When I went to school in New Zealand, there's rugby class where I grew
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
up, there was like bull riding class.
Danielle Fishel
Wow.
Harry Jowsey
I never did it because I'm too tall to ride a ball.
Danielle Fishel
And also there was a height requirement.
Harry Jowsey
I don't think so.
Danielle Fishel
Oh, you're just making that up.
Harry Jowsey
Just letting everyone know I'm tall.
Danielle Fishel
I love that.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
Again, I mentioned it in the intro. He's 6 5.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
We need to lock that in as
Danielle Fishel
many times as possible.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Please go six five. But yes, it's like bull riding class.
Harry Jowsey
And then one of my nephews, he grew up in Byron Bay. And there's a surfing class, which is really cool. I don't know if they do that in America.
Danielle Fishel
Absolutely not.
Harry Jowsey
We should do it.
Danielle Fishel
No, there's bowling. I took bowling.
Harry Jowsey
Okay. Bowling.
Danielle Fishel
Bowling? Yeah. In college. Yeah. Yeah. Seriously, I needed. I needed like a one unit class.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Why did you do.
Danielle Fishel
I needed a one unit class and I gotta admit, I like bowling. I really do. So I thought.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Are you good at it?
Danielle Fishel
Yeah, I mean, I. Yeah, I can be. I was that semester.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Wow. How do you get graded with that? Like how many.
Danielle Fishel
You just show up. Really? You just show up and you actually, you know, look, tell. Listen to the thing. They tell you what all the dots mean and.
Harry Jowsey
Do we know?
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Do you remember?
Danielle Fishel
Yeah, I kind of remember. You know, it's like where the pins are and you know, you. You kind of determine your own. You want to keep your arm really straight. And so depending on where the pins are out there, you actually want to go the opposite direction. Like if you've got a pin to your right side, you want to go more left than. More right.
Harry Jowsey
God.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah. So anyway, it's just technical. Yeah, it's very technical. But I want to. I want to get back to you being a little.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah, okay.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. No, I grew up. I was just a very naughty kid. Growing. Growing up. I think the first time I got suspended was in grade two.
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Oh, for what?
Harry Jowsey
I think I threw a desk at a teacher.
Danielle Fishel
That's not a Little thing.
Harry Jowsey
I think it was that.
Danielle Fishel
That's not little.
Harry Jowsey
I'll definitely do that at some point.
Danielle Fishel
I thought you were going to say throwing a paper airplane, and then you said throwing a desk at a teacher.
Harry Jowsey
No, I should.
Danielle Fishel
Should you be in jail?
Harry Jowsey
For sure. Oh, 100%. And I have been. Oh, wow.
Danielle Fishel
I want this story, too.
Harry Jowsey
No, I think I was.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
It was either a chair or a
Harry Jowsey
desk, but I was very little. It was my first ever memory of school. I didn't like the teacher, clearly. And then me and my friend. I think his name was Cody, we weren't too good together. We're both very naughty. It was Farnborough State School, very rural school. And yet it wasn't really going well at that.
Danielle Fishel
Doesn't seem like it.
Harry Jowsey
No.
Danielle Fishel
What had they done? The teacher, this terrible teacher.
Harry Jowsey
I'm the worst teacher ever. I'm definitely the victim. I'm definitely.
Danielle Fishel
I can see where this is going.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
No, I don't remember. I just think I was just like a kid.
Harry Jowsey
I was not very good at following rules, but also, like. Yeah, I. We had a big problem with that school. Anyway, so it was about time that we left, but.
Danielle Fishel
So it happened for a reason. You were just trying to get your family out of there.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. Out of the trenches. Yeah. No, we. To be honest, we did have a really bad run in with them. So I grew up with my parents not wanting us to believe in any religion.
Danielle Fishel
Yep.
Harry Jowsey
So they had religion forcing them growing up. So they're like, when you guys are kids, we just want you to believe in whatever you want to believe in. And then when you turn 18, that's what we focus on. So, like, you just do whatever you want. So back when I was at school, super young, religion, it was like, it was kind of mandatory, like part of the curriculum. Yeah. Yeah. So there was one class, and I remember this one class where they go, you have to sing hymns. And I was like, oh, my family doesn't want me to do that. And I got kicked out of the class. And this was. I think this is before. After. I think this is before the desk operation.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
So maybe they were trying to do more. More desk stuff.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Maybe get me angry. But. So I got kicked out of class, and it turned into a whole thing in the news because I went outside and I was like, oh, what I do? So I told my parents, like, how was school? It was terrible. Got kicked out of school because I didn't want to sing these hymns. And obviously my parents were like, well, you shouldn't be forced to do something that we. That we don't believe in. So then, yeah, it ended up my. I think my parents wrote a letter to the headmaster. And then it escalated, ended up in the news. We actually had to leave the country because we started getting stalked. And we had. We had all these Christmas cards. Flood our address. Flood our address. And then horrible threats on us. Like, horrible, crazy threats on my mum, saying, I remembered this and I shouldn't have read it, but I remember this one card said I was gonna. They were gonna put dead rats in my mom. Like, it was obviously a lot more detailed than that. I shouldn't read it. But we ended up leaving the country, went to Bali, which is a pretty good place to escape to. This is beautiful. And I remember we came back and there's this news network called A Current Affair. And they were on our flight. They're like, yo. My mom was like, oh, I've seen you on tv. And the guy was like. Like. She's like, why are you coming to your poon? So go to interview the Jazzy. Like, we want to get them on. On the news and tell her side of the story. Mom was like, oh, that's us. That's Harry. And then it turned into a whole thing. And I remember it was the first time I was on tv. Wow. Yeah. But we had the. The. The Prime Minister of Australia, John Howard, I think he spoke on it, which is pretty cool. Yeah, well, not, like, good reasons.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Like, it wasn't anything to be proud of.
Harry Jowsey
It was pretty wild. And then we got doxed by the local news channel, too. They came to our address to. They literally just showed up. And I remember because I was like, oh, dad, there's all these camera crews in our driveway. And my dad just walked outside naked. He's like.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
He said, get out of here.
Harry Jowsey
Like, he's pretty proud of what he's got.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah, that's scary.
Harry Jowsey
And they left and they said the Jazzies didn't want to be on camera. And they panned to our address and the number and where it was. So that's. I think that was before. That was before we left. So we obviously. We left.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Obviously.
Harry Jowsey
Now with religion, I've got a way different perspective on it. After losing my dad, I was like, I should probably believe in something. Like, it's nice. And I'm also 28, so I've started to try and figure out what my path is with religion. So all that to say is that it was all that drama for no reason, because now I believe in something. I'm Just trying to figure out that
Danielle Fishel
was kind of what your parents were fighting for. The right for was for you to become an adult and figure it out on your own.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. So it's kind of nice.
Danielle Fishel
It's nice.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Cuz I just remember being a kid and I was like, I wish I believed in something because I'd always be afraid of death. And I would scare it scare me as it scares everyone. And I'd wake up in the middle of the night like, oh my God, I don't know what to do. Like be crying. I just wish even if they didn't believe it or even if it's a bit of a lie, or even if like, God, it's just so nice to believe in something.
Danielle Fishel
To believe in something.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. So I think now that's when I'm thinking about having a family is like, oh, I kind of want to just have like a soft. This is what we believe in. Anyway, so that was the first kind of trouble growing up.
Danielle Fishel
I really gotta be honest, when I started this questioning and you said you threw a desk at a teacher, I did not expect the story to end up with me actually believing that you were the victim. And I was like, wow, that really. You are a very persuasive storyteller. Because I actually think that teacher probably deserved it.
Harry Jowsey
I remember that was just the first memory I had of being naughty at school. And then I remember I left that school after all, all the religion stuff. And I went to a different school and Yupoon State School. And that was cool. I remember that was a lot of fun. But we were still. Me and my brother would get bullied about the religion stuff. It would be so wild. Like kids would. Kids are so mean. But it was like very formative. It was.
Danielle Fishel
Did you guys describe yourself as atheist or.
Harry Jowsey
No, because apparently that.
Danielle Fishel
Exactly. So just non denominational.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. We don't even know what like that was a thing. Like people like, oh, you're this or that. I'm like, I don't even know. I don't. And that was kind of nice. But yeah, we'd always get bullied about like Christmas, oh, what are you gonna do on Christmas?
Danielle Fishel
Because you didn't celebrate any holidays then either.
Harry Jowsey
No, we didn't. But my mom was kind of cheeky. So obviously after Christmas is Boxing Day. So she would go get all the sales and she'd be like, we're doing New Year's celebration instead. Which was nice. So we would. I tell everyone we got more presents, but I don't think we did because
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my mom just wanted to get the deals right.
Danielle Fishel
She just wanted the sales.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Maybe she does believe in religion. And that was the whole thing.
Danielle Fishel
That was her thing. Listen for our kids. Because I have a similar feeling in the sense that I really don't want to push my own beliefs onto that of my kids. So I tell them that everyone believes something different. No one knows for sure. And here's what Mommy believes. But you can decide if you believe the same thing or if you believe something different. And that way there's a little bit of a grounding foundation of, yes, I believe the same thing, Mommy. Or at least just putting them. Putting the thought in their mind that I want them to be critical thinkers and that they can pick and choose some of the things that ring true for them. And these are the things that I believe. But I don't know either. Like, I'm not right. And if this. Just because I believe something different than what your friend believes doesn't make them wrong.
Harry Jowsey
So it's so nice to ask questions.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
That's what I realized. That's what I'm grateful for with my parents, is that it's so open for me to figure it out and ask questions.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Because I. I would. And I. I think you see a lot of that with people that are kind of like, this is how it has to be. They. They get stuck in that, and then they grow older and they're like. Like a lot of my friends are ex Mormon.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
They grow older and they're like, oh, I don't know if that's right. I don't know if I believe in that fully or maybe I somewhat believe in it, but I don't. And because they were kind of stuck in that way, they kind of. Once it unravels, it really unravels.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
So that's why I get a bit worried about. And I'm again, grateful with my parents so that I can question everything.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
But. Yeah. Anyway, got kicked out of those schools. Then I kicked out another school. And.
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Wow.
Harry Jowsey
I.
Danielle Fishel
You don't seem like a troublemaker.
Harry Jowsey
Me? Come on. No. I remember the first time I got suspended, my dad said to me, because we grew up in the country, he said, you're never going to do this again. You have to go and pick up every rock and every stick on our property. And that was the worst thing ever because we lived on a farm.
Danielle Fishel
Right. So it was just rocks and sticks everywhere.
Harry Jowsey
It was all rocks and sticks.
Danielle Fishel
Right.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. So that was. And that was for the whole weekend.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah. I feel like, that was your dad's version of, like, wax on, wax off.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah, yeah, yeah. And you know what? It didn't work because I got to spend it again.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah. Was that for a fight club? I know you've been pretty vocal about your teenage fight clubs. Were they, like, official? Did someone. Was someone keeping minutes or anything?
Harry Jowsey
No. No. You know how we call them towel fights? So you wrap your hands in towels, and you punch the shit out of each other until the towels fall off. Oh, and that's a round. Done. Or until you, like, want to stop. Okay. And I wasn't. I thought I was good at it. I wasn't very good.
Danielle Fishel
Did you always win?
Harry Jowsey
There's one time I. Most of the times I was pretty good. This one time wasn't that good. This big. This big guy.
Danielle Fishel
Bigger than you. You're 6 5.
Harry Jowsey
He was pretty large. He was large and in charge. He bounced my head off a wall, and it was the first time I was like, oh, God. I got pretty dizzy, and I ripped the towels off. I said this. I'm gonna get him. And then everyone held me back. But then I dated his sister, so I was a real winner.
Danielle Fishel
So you're the real winner.
Harry Jowsey
Yep.
Danielle Fishel
Shout out to our teenage. It's crazy how much we have in common. I also.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I hope you always had a fight club. Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
Towel fights.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
Is that the worst injury you had as a kid, or did you ever get hurt worse?
Harry Jowsey
I got a knee reconstruction at 17 because I was playing rugby.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. And I had. That popped out. I thought I was pretty good. Not very good. But, yeah, I played. So I played rugby in Australia, and I got tackled from behind, and the guy, like, pulled my. Pulled my shin, and then my knee kind of.
Danielle Fishel
Oh, gosh.
Harry Jowsey
Fell off my. My leg.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
And.
Harry Jowsey
And that was kind of cool because when you stand up and you're full of adrenaline, my knee kept slipping off my leg, and I was like, what's wrong with me?
Danielle Fishel
Oh, God.
Harry Jowsey
But it was still together. And then my dad was like, you're beautiful. Get back out there.
Danielle Fishel
Your dad has some. I mean, he was a funny guy.
Harry Jowsey
He was very funny.
Danielle Fishel
Coming out naked, telling you, go back out there with your knee falling off your leg.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. I think because it wasn't like a crazy hit. Like, it wasn't like a moment. It was just like. And also, I was built like an asparagus. Like, I was so skinny and long for no reason. And, like, my. Like, my legs should have broken a lot sooner, so it wasn't very good. But, yeah, so I went to school in Australia. Got kicked out of school in Australia. Then my parents are like, we're just gonna send you to a different country. And then I went to school in New Zealand and played rugby there. And I was the worst. I was on the worst team at school and on the bench for them.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
Like, they would just put me on for 10 minutes at the end of the game, like, oh, Harry should probably run.
Danielle Fishel
How old is your brother?
Harry Jowsey
I think he's 31.
Danielle Fishel
Okay, so he's three years older than you.
Harry Jowsey
2 1/2.
Danielle Fishel
2 1/2. 2 and a half years old. Did he also have to go to New Zealand?
Harry Jowsey
No, no, he was perfect at school.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
Now he's a spouse.
Danielle Fishel
Did they send you a loan to another country?
Harry Jowsey
Yep.
Danielle Fishel
Cool.
Harry Jowsey
And you know what?
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I got kicked out of that school, too. I delivered a tent for two weeks.
Danielle Fishel
You what? You delivered in a tent?
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. For two weeks at school?
Danielle Fishel
Was that your punishment?
Harry Jowsey
No, my parents, like, we spent so much money on you for boarding school. Like, Since I was 14, I was in boarding school. And so they're like, oh, yeah, we spent so much money in boarding school for you. And this was your final year at school. We give up.
Danielle Fishel
And there's only two weeks left is what there were.
Harry Jowsey
Two weeks. Two weeks left. Like, you didn't have to go to the sister college and streak. I didn't have to do it. Have to do it. But it was funny. And if one of our friends didn't get caught by the police and snitch on everyone, we. We would have got away.
Danielle Fishel
We would have gotten away with it if not for those meddling kids.
Harry Jowsey
That's what we're saying.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
You know, so it's kind of not really my fault.
Danielle Fishel
I see. Gosh, I really feel very bad for you.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
It's horrible, honestly. Troubled upbringing.
Danielle Fishel
Were you always tall? Did you, like, sprout overnight or.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah, I. My family's quite tall. Like, my mom's six foot. Yeah. Like me, exact same.
Danielle Fishel
You walked in and you were like, oh, my gosh, you're so tall.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
My mom doing it. This is so tall now.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. I think my brother's six two. And then my dad was six three, and then he started shrinking.
Danielle Fishel
You're the tallest in the family.
Harry Jowsey
I have to be. Yeah, yeah, of course.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
And then I got four. Four sisters. And they're quite little. Yeah, Little and fun.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Great.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Wells Adams
Hey, this is Wells Adams with By Order of the Faithfuls podcast alongside my fellow faithfuls and co hosts Tamara Judge and Dolores Catania. The three of us have been watching this season of the Traitors, and we've been inside that castle, so we have insight. Unlike many others, this season of the Traitors may be the best we've ever seen. Listen to, by order, the faithfuls on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
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Everybody's on their journey, and your journey
Harry Jowsey
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Danielle Fishel
When did you first notice girls and when did they first start noticing you?
Harry Jowsey
Jenny, she was. I was 14 and that was who I lost my virginity to. Love her so much at 14. Yeah. Wow. Yeah. Because all my friends were doing it.
Danielle Fishel
Okay. That's why. Yeah, that's.
Harry Jowsey
That's how it happens.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. And I'm like, God, is it fun? Yeah. What they say. It's kind of weird.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Advertisement Voice
Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah. No, I actually.
Harry Jowsey
The first girl I Noticed, I think I was 10. I'm like, oh, this is. There was. Because there was. Her name was Imogen. Remember that? Really good with names.
Danielle Fishel
You are good with names, Imogen.
Harry Jowsey
I remember because her parents were from a different. Different town, and my dad was, I think, helping build their shed. And they're like, oh, we're gonna come stay on the farm for a little bit, whatever else. And I was like, oh, this is. Is this my first girlfriend?
Danielle Fishel
Right?
Harry Jowsey
Maybe not. But then, as I remember, I turned 14. All my friends were, like, telling me about, like, losing their virginities for the first time with their girlfriends, and I was like, God, what do we do? Who do I go for? And then Jenny is my friend's cousin. She's like, I'll do it.
Danielle Fishel
Be your girlfriend or have sex. Have sex.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. And she had a boyfriend in two years, so she knew what was going on.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
She knew the laser.
Danielle Fishel
She knew the ropes.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. And so that was the first time. And I remember I was like, this is weird. Yeah, this is interesting. I was like, I don't expect it to feel like this. And then she was like, go out there and then come back to me after you get a few more girls
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
and I'll tell you if you got better. I was like, it was like, that bad.
Danielle Fishel
She was so, like.
Harry Jowsey
She was cool.
Danielle Fishel
Woman of the world.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah, she was cool.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
I remember I was, like, obsessed with her, too. At school, like, every. Everyone would always yell at me, like, on Forest Coming, like, I love you, Jenny.
Danielle Fishel
Right.
Harry Jowsey
They would always yell at me, oh,
Danielle Fishel
it's obvious that you loved her.
Harry Jowsey
It's my queen.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. I don't know where she's at now. She's probably happily, who knows? Love her so much you've never bothered
Danielle Fishel
to look her up? See if you can find her on social media?
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
No way. I just keep name dropping her at every podcast.
Danielle Fishel
Just everywhere you go.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
It's like, you ever name tattooed on you?
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I actually do. No.
Danielle Fishel
I was like, wow.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
No, I don't.
Danielle Fishel
Let me see it. Okay.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
No, I don't. I'm not that crazy.
Danielle Fishel
Where do you go on dates in New Zealand? What's the dating scene like?
Harry Jowsey
Oh, it was pretty bad. That's why I ended up on these dating shows. Okay, what do we do? Running out of options. To be honest, until recent, I wasn't very good at being a data.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
Kind of silly to say, but I realized that if you want something, you have to put an effort. If you want something good, you've got to put an Extra effort.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
So when I was younger, I would be like, dinner, park, go for a walk, like, whatever. But when I was at school in New Zealand, pretty much just like, I love doing stuff in the daytime. Like, I love daytime activities or going and doing something together. Yeah. But now I'm being more active. We're trying to plan better dates and be a better data.
Danielle Fishel
What's. What's a good date for you? Now, like, if you were gonna plan
Harry Jowsey
a great date, you wanna hear the craziest one?
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Fly to Catalina island on a helicopter, get dinner, and then fly back.
Danielle Fishel
Wow.
Harry Jowsey
Cause I thought that was, like, pretty intense.
Danielle Fishel
That is pretty intense. What if it's a bad first date and then you've got, like a helicopter ride and a. Like, totally romantic.
Harry Jowsey
Pretty good Instagram stories.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah, true. Okay, so that's good.
Harry Jowsey
Data went on I. Throughout the whole date, I had written pre. Written compliments for her. I was really excited to see this person.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
And every, like, I think like, every 30 minutes or so or 20 minutes, I would give her a piece of paper and I'd be like, I think you're so amazing. And then the end of it, I was like, I think you should be my girlfriend. Yes. I had like 10, 10 or so written out, and I kept giving it to her and I was like, oh, I should. This isn't. This makes me feel good. Because it's intentional. That's nice.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah. And you got to think about really what you wanted to say instead of just trying to come up with them on the spot.
Harry Jowsey
And it makes her feel special.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
And that's the main part.
Danielle Fishel
That's the most important part. So let's go back to. Let's say you're 16 and you start looking for brand deals. Not that that was a thing when you were 16, but let's say that it was. What are some of the products you hope reach out to you when you were 16?
Harry Jowsey
Lynx deodorant. Which links. Like our AX. You guys have AX over here.
Danielle Fishel
We should do.
Harry Jowsey
That's the one. Yeah. So it's rebranded links in Australia, I think.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
L, Y, N, X and. Love them. And Colgate toothpaste.
Danielle Fishel
Oh, you've always been a Colgate guy.
Harry Jowsey
No, I hate them so much now. But back.
Danielle Fishel
Back then, you loved it.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
And I used to have the yellowst teeth, but I just. Yeah. And mouthwash. I was a big Listerine mouthwash guy.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. But then apparently that's also not good for you.
Danielle Fishel
I know. You know what? Nothing is anything good for us.
Harry Jowsey
No.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah. Whatever. Whatever you currently are using, it's bad for you. Whatever you used to use is now better for you and whatever. And. And in five years, it'll change again.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. Actually, back then I had braces and blocks and rubber bands. Some. Yeah, Maybe tea stuff would have been cool.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
Did you have a favorite food or snack?
Harry Jowsey
No. I was like this. I'm the size of a horse, so I just eat everything.
Danielle Fishel
Everything.
Harry Jowsey
And when I was 16, I was just. I couldn't eat enough food. It was wild.
Danielle Fishel
But you said you were built like an asparagus, which is the opposite of a horse. So when did you go from asparagus to horse?
Harry Jowsey
I think when I was, like, 22.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
When I started to fill out. But, yeah, back then I was more like a flamingo, I think.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
Skinny legs and just a pot belly.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Hot.
Harry Jowsey
It was a unique look.
Danielle Fishel
Do you have a favorite reality TV show you have not appeared on?
Harry Jowsey
Oh, I just finished Traders. Have you been watching Traders?
Danielle Fishel
I have seen Traders, yes.
Harry Jowsey
Would you do it? Have you done it?
Danielle Fishel
No, I've not done it, and I. I think I would be terrible at it. Would you want to be a faithful or a trader?
Harry Jowsey
Trader, for sure.
Danielle Fishel
Trader.
Harry Jowsey
I would get caught out right away.
Danielle Fishel
You think so?
Harry Jowsey
For sure.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I'm so bad at lying. No, it's all the other shows where I.
Harry Jowsey
Where I kiss a girl and I lie about it.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I'm, like, watching it. I'm like, this guy's stupid. You can see it. You can see what?
Harry Jowsey
I'm lying.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I'm like, no way. Me? I would never kiss that girl.
Advertisement Voice
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Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah. No. And then I'm like. I'm exaggerating. Like, tell them to pull up the replay. This is a TV show.
Harry Jowsey
Right.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I'm like, this guy's a idiot. Like, no way. So me, as a.
Harry Jowsey
As a trader, go.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
We didn't kill with that person.
We?
Danielle Fishel
I didn't mean we. I meant they.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Who literally.
Harry Jowsey
I. I would just. But I was. I've been obsessed with that because I've had a few of them on my podcast, and I just think, like, the whole experience would be cool.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
No more dating shows for me. Let's Marry Harry was my retirement one.
Danielle Fishel
Okay. I want to get to that in a second, but before I do, I do want to talk about your crossover into traditional movies. Real acting you're doing now.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
What do you like more? Do you like being yourself on reality TV or a heightened version of yourself on reality tv, or do you prefer something that's scripted where you get to play a character.
Harry Jowsey
I love acting because everyone has the. I guess the. The main essence of it is it's someone's dream and their idea. And I love being a part of someone's dream. Like, I love being like, oh, my God, I get to be an accessory. Like, because you know how it is. It takes forever to get a thought.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
To film.
Danielle Fishel
Oh, yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Like a thought in front of the consumer and like, so many corporate meetings and then who's the right person for this position? And then rewrites the script. Like, there's just so much stuff that goes into it and just like, I'm not saying reality TV isn't like that, but when everyone's on set, everyone knows the game plan, everyone's read the script, everyone's so excited about it. Everyone knows what they need in the scene.
Danielle Fishel
Right.
Harry Jowsey
And I just love that. Like, I love that idea and I love that, like, think reality TV is a little bit more, like, unraveled. Like, it's just. You could be filming 20 hours a day. You could be all over the place. You don't know what the scene is going to give. You don't know if you've got a hit or not hit. But, like, when you're on set, like, you can feel. Feel.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
The vibe when on a scripted set. So the movies I have done, like, I just really love that. And I just love seeing people, like, really nail it. Like, in a scene, you're like, oh, my God. Wow.
Danielle Fishel
And you love. Obviously, like, you just said that. Collaborative. We're all in. We're all on the same team. We're all going for the same goal, and now we're just going to talk out what the best avenue is to get there. So cool.
Advertisement Voice
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Whereas, like, reality tv, it's like you
Danielle Fishel
don't even know what the storyline is.
Harry Jowsey
Get drunk or kiss that girl and then lie about it.
Danielle Fishel
Right, right. And are they that direct?
Harry Jowsey
No, it's my brain.
Danielle Fishel
Okay, got it. Right. But they are, right, they are. They are thinking, like, let's see if he'll get drunk and kiss that girl and then lie about it and then
Harry Jowsey
we'll have a show and he'll do it every time.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Every time.
Danielle Fishel
You got to get. You got to get that guy. You got to get.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Whenever I bought a show and I
Harry Jowsey
hear a producer or someone say, this is getting boring. I'm back. One second.
Danielle Fishel
Hold on, let me have it. Hold on. Let me get a fireball shot.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
What are we gonna do? No, that's the. Because I'm I'm just like. I remember, like earlier shows, like, I
Harry Jowsey
would just be a menace. Like, I would go into something, like. Because obviously there's different couples. Right. I'd take something out of someone's bag and put it in someone else's bag. Like they're gonna fight. And then I go like, dude. Because everyone's over analyzing producer's dream. Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
Just take away all the bad producer responsibility from them. And you do it for them.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
For free.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
It's so stupid.
Harry Jowsey
I remember Perfect Match. It was like one nighter. No one was doing anything and I was so drunk. So I just, like, got all the mayonnaise and walk around. I'm like feeding, like feeding everyone mayonnaise. You have to eat it.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
It's so good.
Harry Jowsey
Never made the cut.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
It was just so weird.
Danielle Fishel
Right? But you know, it. It was an experience that you'll have. And everyone there, everyone now had a
Harry Jowsey
tummy full of mayonnaise.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah. And they will get to tell everyone, Harry loves feeding people mayonnaise when he gets drunk.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. Very. No good.
Danielle Fishel
I'd like to pitch you a movie.
Harry Jowsey
Okay, let's go.
Danielle Fishel
It's pretty earnest. I'm serious here. I want you to do a Three Amigos reboot with Rob Rauch and Dylan Efron.
Harry Jowsey
Wow. That would be cool.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
But they're really nice guys. They're so sweet.
Safeway/Albertsons Advertisement Voice
Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
So are Steve Martin and Martin short. And then you could be a Chevy Chase.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Perfect.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I really love Dylan.
Harry Jowsey
I haven't met Rob. Maybe I have. I'm not sure. But Dylan is the best guy ever.
Danielle Fishel
I know.
Harry Jowsey
He's so sweet.
Danielle Fishel
I know what's going on. Couldn't love him more.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
Just the nicest.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
The nicest guy ever.
Danielle Fishel
True. Like salt of the earth. It's like no surprise too, that then he and Robert Irwin connected because it's again, another guy. You're just like, is there a single bad bone or even just a bit of a bone? I don't think so.
Harry Jowsey
No bones.
Advertisement Voice
No bones.
Danielle Fishel
They're made of mayonnaise. It's just incredible.
Harry Jowsey
Let's go.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
How do we get that movie up and running?
Danielle Fishel
Listen, now that I've said it, I will manifest it for you. I know you got to meet Tom Cruise during his Mission Impossible press run.
Harry Jowsey
Wow.
Danielle Fishel
Was he your guy? Like, who were your celebrities growing up?
Harry Jowsey
Justin Bieber, always number one.
Danielle Fishel
Okay. Number one.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
The Biebs.
Harry Jowsey
He's just the coolest guy ever. Tom Cruise, obviously.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Wow.
Harry Jowsey
Like, I think. And Brad Pitt. If I met Brad Pitt. I'm probably. I know the thing is, like, it's when you meet people like that, like, maybe it's different, but I was like, I don't know what to do with my hands. Like, I don't know what to look like. I met Tom and I was like, we've got a mutual friend, right?
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
And he was like, okay.
Harry Jowsey
I was like, I've done Pilates with Glen Powell one time. And he was like, he's done Pilates with Glenn. And then I'm like, okay.
Danielle Fishel
Who did he say that to?
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Just, like, looked at the.
Harry Jowsey
There was so many people and looked at the crowd, and I was like, oh. Oh, God, I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry. Mr. Cruise, can I take a picture with you?
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Can we just take the photo?
Danielle Fishel
Could you send me your cake?
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
Your yearly cake. I want to be on the cake list, please.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Wait, what's the cake list?
Harry Jowsey
What is this?
Danielle Fishel
Tom Cruise. Everybody he works with, he then the following year sends them a cake. Everyone he remembers everybody's names. He sends them like a person. It's a Christmas gift. He sends them. I think it's a sweet lady. No, it' not a sweet Lady Jane. It's a Woodland Hills cake do bakery. It's famous. And people who get it now, it's like, you know, Hollywood lore. Oh, are you on the Tom Cruise list to get the cake? And now with social media, people who get them will open them up and cut into them and take bites.
Harry Jowsey
I'm going to lie. I'm going to buy one from this place. Like, thanks, Tom.
Danielle Fishel
Thanks, Tom. Do it. Great. Perfect.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Put him on the list.
Danielle Fishel
Suggested Pilates with Glenn Power once. Not sure how we got a cake.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Imagine I'm just going to lie like, yeah, guys, thanks so much.
Danielle Fishel
Thank you. I really appreciate it.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Got a big Mission Impossible.
Harry Jowsey
The next one.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I'm in it. I'm the lead.
Danielle Fishel
I'm the lead.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I'm the lead.
Danielle Fishel
Not Tom.
Harry Jowsey
Not Tom. Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I'm. I'm stepping in. I'm his replacement. Now he sees the potential after this one really awkward interview interaction.
Danielle Fishel
Did you have any celebrity crushes growing up?
Harry Jowsey
God, yeah. I fig. Oh, obviously Angelina Jolie.
Danielle Fishel
I mean, come on.
Harry Jowsey
Come on.
Danielle Fishel
Who didn't have a crush on Angelina Jolie?
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. Mr. And Mrs. Smith. I think that was. I'm like, I need a love where
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
we try to kill each other. That are going reality dating show. Maybe it's them too. They me up.
Danielle Fishel
That's. We can blame them. Yeah, we can totally blame the two of them.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Mr. Ruth and Smith. If it wasn't for that, I wouldn't be on reality.
Danielle Fishel
It would never happen.
Harry Jowsey
Love life would have been perfect.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah, I think. Yeah. That's crazy.
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Harry Jowsey
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Danielle Fishel
Do you have any cool young suggestions for me? Before we started this podcast, we talked about your pants that are dirty on purpose. You paid extra money for this dirt. That could be something. What could I do as a mid-40s mom of two? What could I do to be cooler?
Harry Jowsey
So you didn't strike me as someone who's dirty.
Danielle Fishel
Thank you.
Harry Jowsey
Let's cut out the dirty pants.
Danielle Fishel
Okay. Not for me.
Harry Jowsey
You didn't need to do that.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
I think you're crushing it. You've got a podcast.
Danielle Fishel
Okay. Yeah. That's very cool.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
The coolest thing you could have ever done.
Danielle Fishel
Okay. Okay.
Harry Jowsey
I heart. We love hearts.
Danielle Fishel
We love them. I know how to do the. I know how to do the.
Harry Jowsey
The.
Danielle Fishel
The Young Gen Z version.
Harry Jowsey
Isn't it.
Danielle Fishel
It's a heart. You can do it with all of them.
Harry Jowsey
Okay. Nobody. Or like this isn't this. I don't think that's right.
Danielle Fishel
This.
Harry Jowsey
I think. Yeah. I think there's something with the pinkies.
Danielle Fishel
This one.
Harry Jowsey
Am I getting old?
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
What's going on?
Danielle Fishel
This.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah, exactly.
Danielle Fishel
But I'm matching it with yours. So we do it together. See, Am I.
Harry Jowsey
Did I just age myself?
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I don't know if there was that thought.
Danielle Fishel
I'm so happy you're old.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah, I am. I'm so. I'm the oldest person in life. I don't know. I feel like health and wellness is really in too. So. Okay, Peptides.
Danielle Fishel
Oh, what do you take? BP 157.
Harry Jowsey
I'm taking the Glow Mix. Oh, have you not heard of this one?
Danielle Fishel
No.
Harry Jowsey
The Glow Mix and nad. So Glow Mix.
Danielle Fishel
I know about all about nad. I had an NAD shot not that long ago and it bruised the back of my arm.
Harry Jowsey
Okay.
Danielle Fishel
No, I didn't even feel it, but I. Yeah, I don't know. I think I bruise like a peach.
Harry Jowsey
Oh, you do? Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
You're nice and sensitive and sweet.
Danielle Fishel
I'm just little.
Harry Jowsey
You know. You are. I think. Yeah. I think glow mix is GHKCU in it. BP157. And then there's something else. But it's like meant to be really good and good for your skin.
Danielle Fishel
Yes. I just want people to know, not that I'm anti your health and wellness thing.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Do it.
Danielle Fishel
But for people who I had cancer in 2024. And peptides, one of the reasons they're so good for your skin is that they promote cell turnover. One of you don't want if you have cancer is those cells to turn over and multiply.
Harry Jowsey
I had three times.
Danielle Fishel
You had what three times skin cancer. Okay, so what I'm saying is Peptides right now are kind of all the rage, but they're not for everyone. So worth possibly talking to your dermatologist to say is there a potential for my skin cancer cells to be regenerating?
Harry Jowsey
Because I love lying to her though.
Danielle Fishel
You just love. Oh God.
Harry Jowsey
It makes you feel better.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah. You know, I lie to my therapist. I don't lie to my oncologist.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Okay.
Danielle Fishel
You know, pick and choose the doctors you lie to. Friend.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Okay, that's a good point.
Harry Jowsey
Who? You don't even have to tell me the name.
Danielle Fishel
Just. What's the oldest person you've ever had slide into your DMs.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Oh,
Harry Jowsey
I don't know, like 70s or 80s, I think after dancing. Well, Dancing with the Stars has got, like, the average audience age is 60, I believe. Maybe it's changed now, but when I was on the show, there was 60. And after that, I had some. Some freaky older ladies in your dm.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I want to get a taste of the sausage, you know?
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I was gonna say apple pie, but
Harry Jowsey
I don't know why I said it. Freaky.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Anyway, I'm gonna shut up.
Danielle Fishel
I am about ready to wrap up my ballroom career with a few final dates on the Dancing with the Stars live tour. And you competed and also hit the road. Did you have as much fun on the show as I have been having, which is immeasurable amounts of fun in case you were.
Harry Jowsey
You were having the best time ever.
Danielle Fishel
Bad time of my life.
Harry Jowsey
I wanted to die.
Danielle Fishel
Did you?
Harry Jowsey
No. It was the best experience ever.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
So rewarding and amazing. I just never danced in my life. Same. And I'm like, well, you're little and easy to move. No.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah, yeah. Just fling me around.
Harry Jowsey
Good.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
I'm a tree. And one of the judges, like, one of the extra judges one day, he was like, oh, you're a tree trunk. You don't know what's going on. I'm like, ow. First off, I'm trying.
Danielle Fishel
Right.
Harry Jowsey
Second off, you're correct. So when I was on tour, I came out as a tree, and it was really fun. But, no, I had the best time. Everyone was really lovely. And then they weren't.
Danielle Fishel
And then they weren't.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. Because, you know, cool. When the next season comes around, so everyone stops talking to you.
Danielle Fishel
Well, yeah. I mean, also, you know what that schedule's like when the next season comes around.
Harry Jowsey
Oh, they're locked in.
Danielle Fishel
Boy, you have no time for anything. I was. I was a little surprised by how much of my life had absorbed. Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Deletes every plan and everything that you have. Yeah. The next season came around. Of the show, and I realized, like, a lot of the people would not text me back or unfollow me. And actually, the biggest thing that upset me the most. Biggest thing that upset me the most is when my dad had passed. No one text me, and I was really close to them. No one had texted me apart from Sasha. And I was like, okay. So I was like, oh, I don't know if you guys are really my friends or. It was just. It was horrible. It was.
Danielle Fishel
Right. That was a very telling moment for you.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. And also, I Think the hardest thing was, like, I was trying my best with all the noise and everything, but I just think I'm. I'm kind of glad that I'm not friends with any of them because of when my dad had passed that, like, I was like, there was one of them. I was training in the gym with him. Like, every day I'm like, oh, I could. And I. And I told him that my dad was sick, and there was a lot of them, and I knew that they knew that something was going on. I think that was the thing that up the most. It was like, oh, okay.
Danielle Fishel
There's no denying he knew, right?
Harry Jowsey
Yeah, no denying that. And you could have texted or anything like that, but when I posted the photo, like, in my dad's past, they just like it. And I'm like, yeah, I would have moved mountains. Like, if it was you, I would have been there. So I think that's why I'm like, I'm kind of glad that that chapter is behind you. Yeah. I don't know if you're really real people, but it's all good, because I think when you're in that show, and I've spoken to other people that were on the show, too, like, it's just such a bubble, and you see, like, it's. It's such a bubble, and nothing else matters. And I think, like, when you're a dancer and you're on that show, that's like, you made the NFL.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Cause, like, a lot of the other pros that, like, leave the show, they're kind of like. They're outcasts. I don't really talk to them, so it's a bit weird anyway. I'm probably gonna get in trouble for that. No, I don't really care.
Danielle Fishel
You've mentioned a couple times about your dad passing, so it's obviously something that still deeply affects you. And you were close to your dad. You've had great stories in this podcast about your dad. Do you want to talk a little more about your dad? Is there anything in particular you want to say or share?
Harry Jowsey
I just. It's like, grief is so fun. And I. I love thinking about my dad and love getting the opportunity to talk about, like, lost one. Like, lost loved ones. Because it's really, like, that was the hard. The hardest thing I've ever experienced is watching him take his last breath. But that was such a beautiful thing to be a part of. And I think you learn a lot about your environment and your people and who really cares and who's really there. When you're going through something so humanizing.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
And something so, like, traumatic. And I just, like. I was just so grateful that I was there to. To be there and experience that. But, like, there's so much drama around death, too. Like, family is so silly and sassy.
Danielle Fishel
Yes.
Harry Jowsey
Like, isn't it kind of funny?
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
How people get when. When someone goes. But I just love. Yeah. I just. I love being able to talk about him because he's. He's my whole personality, you know, like my dad was when we were growing up. He's the biggest flirt in front of Mom. He's flirting with the waitress. Right. He's teaching me how to tip. I remember we would be. First time I ever tip, because tipping is not a thing in Australia.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
But if someone's really good, my dad would be like, here's some cash. You go to shake their hand, and you hide the cash in there. And I'm like, okay, that's cool. Because, like, you don't want other people to see it, because then they'll think that they get something. Okay. It's like, only the good ones.
Danielle Fishel
Only the good ones.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
But I love, like, I just love thinking about that stuff because this is all fleeting.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Right. And. And I. That. I guess that's where my. My journey with religion is going now, because I remember sitting down with him because he went through. With his sister dying, and that was the scariest thing, but the most beautiful thing on the planet because you get to know that he's. This is the day, like, he gets to choose and you get to be there. You get to spend every day with him. And that was really cool, but. Wow. Yeah. It was just like, obviously every relationship and every relationship with your parents is up and down. And I had so many, like, two or three years. I didn't talk to him because he struggled with alcohol, and we had just a very rocky relationship. But as. As anyone does, like. No. No relationship.
Danielle Fishel
Absolutely.
Harry Jowsey
But I just. I'm so grateful that we got to. We got to know and I got to look back and just all those hard days and all those happy days, just be grateful because it's my dad.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah. It's really nice that you were there, too, for those. Those last moments, I really think are like, just one of the, like, points of life.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. It's so, like. Is it So I remember Alex Warren was talking about it when his parents had passed that, like, he was in the hospital and his whole world is just, like, flipped on its head. Like, it's the hardest Things ever gone through. And he walks outside and the world
Danielle Fishel
is all just moving.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah. People are driving past. No one cares. And that's why I felt like. I remember because he had a drink and he went to sleep, and I remember sitting there, I was like. Because my sister Sarah, she said, hold his feet. You'll get all his magic powers when he goes over. So I'm sitting there holding his feet, and he takes his last breath. I remember. I was like, wow, this is really up.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
This is the hardest thing I've ever done.
Harry Jowsey
I can't be in this room. So I went outside and went and cried in a bush looking. I'm like, no one.
Danielle Fishel
No one knows.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
No one cares about what just happened. I'm like, this is.
Danielle Fishel
It's a very isolating feeling.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
But then I. This. Yeah. Same thing. Like, I just look at all the people that reached out. Like, there was friends that were like, I'll fight in New Zealand right now.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
There was friends that were like, oh, I'll literally do anything that you need. I'll be there, whatever else. And then there was a lot of friends that didn't. Couldn't even text or call or whatever. And it's not like I needed it. Like, I'm good. And I had my sisters, but, God, it's nice to just know who's there. Because then it's like. Well, I was gonna say a birthday text, but it's a little bit.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
You could let that slide.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah. You can let that one go.
Harry Jowsey
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Danielle Fishel
No, I agree with you. Grief and death, though, does. Everybody responds fascinating. Very differently. Some people really, like, I. I don't know what to say. And that not knowing what to say paralyzes you. And certainly there are other people who are just assholes and are just, like, going to be callous and not care. But also for other people, it. It can. I don't know what to say. I don't want to do. I call? And if I call, am I interrupting? Am I. You know, everyone. It can make people weird.
Harry Jowsey
And death is so scary.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
And I think the only thing. Because now I guess I'm the spokesperson for the Dead Dad Club with all my friends. So I've had a few friends now who've lost parents, and I. My best advice to anyone, if they have a friend that's lost someone or whatever else is just them knowing that you're there.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
Is super important. So, like, the greatest thing, the greatest gift that I learned was that I don't want people calling me all the time. I don't. On a good day, like, if someone's blowing my phone up, it's horrible. But on those moments, I just. If you text your friend, like, hey, thinking about you, thinking about you. Whatever you need, I'm here. Love you so much. Like that.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Wow.
Harry Jowsey
If I had that from half the people that I'm angry at, it would have been a different story. And I still would have tried to help.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
And. Yeah. So, anyway,
Danielle Fishel
thank you for sharing all of that with me. That was very special. So let's talk very briefly about let's Marry Harry, executive produced by Alex Cooper for Netflix. Outside of assuming you just pick Sia at the end, we don't know anything about it. What can you tell us?
Harry Jowsey
So Sia does get picked at the end, surprisingly survive.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
No. You know what's funny is she texts me and she won't buy me saying this.
Harry Jowsey
She texts me. She goes, if they're all duds, Harry, just let me know.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
I'll come save the day. She's awesome. She's. She's so funny. Like, we have such a good relationship.
Harry Jowsey
She's like, just let me know if you're not having a good time and I'll come save the day. And I'm like, okay, cool. But it is. That was one of the hardest things I've ever done.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
A lot of stuff for my dad is going to be in there.
Danielle Fishel
Okay.
Harry Jowsey
Which was really, like, I guess, vulnerable and opens me up more than I've ever been opened up on a show before. And I think also it's different this time because I have to be anyone but myself.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
I don't have to compete with other guys for screen time or I don't have to hide stuff in people's rooms. But there's obviously a lot of drama. Way too much drama. A lot of sleepless nights. Pretty.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
Pretty chaotic show.
Harry Jowsey
Amazing cast. Like the most beautiful cast on the planet ever to exist. Most incredible stories, most incredible people. And I just think that it's gonna be such a wild ride for everyone to come on.
Co-host or Guest (possibly a close friend or commentator)
A lot of cringe moments. I'm sure that I've done a lot
Harry Jowsey
of embarrassing things that I've done and I just. Yeah. I think I'm gonna be watching through my fingers. Yeah.
Danielle Fishel
Now that you're at this phase of life where you are ready to settle down, do you hate watching old reality clips of young Fboy? Harry?
Harry Jowsey
Can't do it. Like, it's nice to look back and be like, oh, I don't wanna be like that anymore.
Danielle Fishel
Right.
Harry Jowsey
But Also, my whole dating life has been on TV since I was 19.
Danielle Fishel
Yeah. Yeah.
Harry Jowsey
So there's a lot of. Yeah, a lot of silly decisions, of course. But yeah, now I'm glad it's wrapped up.
Danielle Fishel
Okay, good. When you get Harry Jowsey, you don't just let him leave that easy. He's going to stick around for a bonus episode where we will listen to one of your voicemails. It'll premiere this Friday on the dedicated Teen Beat feed. Just search Teen Beat wherever you get your podcasts. That way, every new episode just shows up when they're released. Plus, I want you to share your own tales of childhood cringe with the podcast. Podcast Record a voice memo recalling the most embarrassing story from your teens and then email it to teenbeatpodmail.com and the next thing you know, Harry Jowsey will be commenting on it. It's that easy. Teen Beat is an iHeart podcast produced and hosted by Danielle Fishel, executive producers Jensen Karp and Amy Sugarman, executive in charge of production Danielle Romo, producer and editor Tara Sudbaksh. The theme song is by Mark yes, that Markoppas. Follow us on Instagram @teenbeatpod.
Harry Jowsey
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Host: Danielle Fishel
Guest: Harry Jowsey
Release Date: March 11, 2026
This episode of Pod Meets World (branded within as "Teen Beat") features a candid and lively conversation between Danielle Fishel (Topanga from Boy Meets World) and reality TV superstar Harry Jowsey. Danielle invites Harry to reflect on his unconventional upbringing in Australia and New Zealand, his chaotic school life, formative influences, foray from reality TV into traditional acting, and the complexities of grief and personal growth. The episode is witty, honest, and rich with personal anecdotes, blending nostalgia, humor, and genuine introspection.
Childhood in Rural Australia
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Conflicts with School and Religion
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Non-Traditional Holidays & Being Bullied
Boarding School & More Trouble
Sibling Dynamics
On Being Tall
Early Dating & Sexuality
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Dating Life Then vs. Now
Honesty about Teenage Mischief
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Rise to Fame
Reality TV vs. Acting
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Pranking and Producing Drama
Grief Over His Father's Death
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Danielle’s Quest to Be ‘Cool’
Celebrity Encounters
New Netflix Show
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On his school misbehavior:
“I just feel like sausage is like a universal word and I just say it for everything.” — Harry Jowsey ([05:09])
On school expulsions and family philosophy:
“We had all these Christmas cards flood our address. ... Horrible threats. ... We ended up leaving the country, went to Bali, which is a pretty good place to escape to.” ([09:33–11:03])
On his first sexual experience:
“Jenny—she was, I was 14 and that was who I lost my virginity to. ... All my friends were doing it.” ([22:32])
On acting vs. reality TV:
“I love being a part of someone’s dream ... Reality TV is a little bit more, like, unraveled.” (#29:28–#30:26)
On grief and losing his father:
“The hardest thing I’ve ever experienced is watching him take his last breath, but that was such a beautiful thing to be a part of.” ([44:19])
“If you text your friend, like, ‘hey, thinking about you, whatever you need, I’m here. Love you so much’—that’s it.” ([49:22])
| Timestamp | Topic | |-----------|-------| | 05:00–05:33 | Harry’s “little sausage” mischief; early school years | | 07:30–08:03 | First suspension: thrown desk at teacher | | 08:43–11:41 | School expulsion, religion conflict, family doxed, fleeing to Bali | | 13:13–14:57 | Non-traditional holidays, being bullied | | 16:25 | “Towel fight” Fight Clubs | | 17:21–17:41 | Rugby knee injury, reconstructive surgery | | 19:01–19:33 | Expulsion from NZ school, lived in a tent | | 22:27–24:03 | First crush, first sexual experience | | 25:30–26:27 | Extravagant date story | | 29:28–30:26 | Acting vs. reality TV, creative process | | 42:22–43:56 | Aftermath of Dancing with the Stars, grief and friendship | | 44:19–48:31 | Losing his dad, grief, lessons learned | | 50:11–51:43 | Let's Marry Harry Netflix show, more personal vulnerability |
This episode is a rollercoaster through Harry Jowsey’s life before, during, and after reality stardom. It’s both laugh-out-loud funny and unexpectedly moving, with honest talk about family, personal identity, and the ways loss shapes us. Danielle’s curiosity brings out the best in Harry, who is refreshingly open about his mistakes and growth, and the episode closes with sincere encouragement for listeners to reflect on—and share—their own cringeworthy teenage moments.
For fans of Boy Meets World, reality TV, or just compelling life stories, this episode is not to be missed.
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