Better Than Happy Jody Moore | The Rise of Feminism in the LDS Church Part 3: Family Dynamics

Do you ever feel like there’s an imbalance of power or responsibility in your marriage? Are you stuck in feelings of resentment, manipulation, or shame when it comes to money, sex, household duties, or raising children? If you’re operating from power plays, martyrdom, passive-aggression, or self-pity in your marriage, and you’re tired of the shaming and blaming cycle, this episode is for you.

While it may not be the picture of romance and fairy tales we’ve been sold, consciously dividing responsibilities and making joint decisions as equal partners is the foundation of a strong, modern marriage. In this episode, I share my observations and insights from coaching thousands of women on creating healthier dynamics in their homes and show you how approaching marriage as an equal partnership can lead to greater empowerment and peace.

Join me this week as I lay out some of the most common factors that contribute to a dynamic of inequality among genders in the home, and share practical examples of how approaching your marriage like a business can work with finances, intimacy, chores, and parenting.

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What You’ll Learn on this Episode:

Some of the most common factors that contribute to a dynamic of inequality in the home.
Why you should view your marriage as an equal partnership, like running a business together.
How to navigate money issues by understanding it’s “our” money.
The importance of owning your sexuality and desire rather than expecting your partner to fulfill you.
How my husband and I run an actual business together and how it translates to our personal lives.
Why household duties are equally valuable as earning an income, regardless of gender roles.
How to make parenting decisions jointly while respecting each other’s perspectives.

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We’re talking about the rise of feminism in the LDS Church, and today’s episode is going to be filled with my own thoughts, insight, and observation. I’ve tried to preface this with two other episodes that demonstrate the way I coach around it, as well as bringing in a guest expert last week, Kara Loewentheil. But today’s podcast is a little bit more in my own head, again based on the literally tens of thousands of people I’ve coached who have mostly been women, the roadblocks I see that we need to work on, and specifically we’re going to focus on your home situation. Welcome to The Rise of Feminism in the LDS Church, Part 3, The Dynamics in Your Home.

Welcome to Better Than Happy, the podcast where we transform our lives by transforming ourselves. My name is Jody Moore. In the decade-plus I’ve been working with clients as a Master Certified Coach, I’ve helped tens of thousands of people to become empowered. And from empowered, the things that seemed hard become trivial, and the things that seemed impossible become available, and suddenly, a whole new world of desire and possibility open up to you. And what do you do with that?

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Okay, everybody buckle up. It’s truth telling time. One of the things that I view as my responsibility as a coach is to tell people what I see as the reality, the truths that I see that they may not see in themselves. And from that place, I hope to empower you. All progress starts from the truth.

However, it is not my place to say what you should do with that truth. I know for myself, sometimes when I am either handed the truth, shown the truth, or I discover the truth, I still choose what are not always the most ideal patterns or behaviors. I don’t want you to expect perfection of yourself. But if we’re afraid to look at the truth because we think we have to change it, that doesn’t serve us either.

All right? So I’m going to point out what I see as some of the common problems in the home that are contributing to the dynamic of inequality amongst the genders. We all want to point to institutions and policies and society and socialization as the cause of these problems. And even if that’s true, in many cases, they are where we picked up our ideas about the roles of men and women and whether or not we should have equal power, decision-making authority, et cetera, in our lives.

In the end, if we don’t start with our own view of ourselves and others as well as in our homes where we have a lot of influence, then this changes that we hope to see happening I should say will not be long-lasting and impactful to us in our lifetime. We must be doing the work on a personal level as well, starting with ourselves and also translating into our relationships and the dynamics in our home. All right? So that’s what I’m gonna be talking about today, especially specifically the dynamic between a husband and wife or male and female partner.

So there are four areas I want to address. We’re going to talk about money. We’re going to talk about sex. We’re going to talk about household duties or responsibilities, and we’re going to talk about raising children. These are the four areas I probably coach on the most frequently and the four areas where I see that we have a lot of opportunity to evolve ourselves and the way we view both genders, frankly, in the relationship....