Better Than Happy Jody Moore | How to Celebrate Your Birthday

Do you struggle with knowing what you want for your birthday? Does the thought of celebrating another year around the sun bring up complicated emotions? In this episode, I explore why birthdays can feel so loaded and share five strategies for navigating the big day with more ease and authenticity.

As I turn 50, I’m reflecting on what it means to honor my own desires while still considering the needs and expectations of my loved ones. I believe that birthdays offer a unique opportunity to reconnect with ourselves and practice telling the truth about what we really want – even if it goes against the grain.

Join me as I unpack the art of celebrating your birthday in a way that feels true to you. From figuring out your genuine preferences to communicating them clearly and letting go of perfectionism, I share my best tips for making your special day a reflection of who you are and what you value most.

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What You’ll Learn on this Episode:

Why it’s so challenging for many of us to know what we want, especially when it comes to our birthdays.
How comparing ourselves to others and ignoring our own needs can lead to a disconnection from our true desires.
The importance of considering your preferences before factoring in the wants and expectations of your loved ones.
Why telling the truth and assuming others are doing the same is the key to authentic relationships.
How to spend a moment connecting with yourself on your birthday through journaling, reflection, and dreaming.

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Guess what day it is? It’s my birthday. I’m recording this episode on my actual 50th birthday. And I have some thoughts about how to celebrate your birthday and why birthdays are so complicated for some of us, especially as we get older, so emotional, try to play it cool, it brings up a lot of stuff. So today I want to talk to you about how to celebrate your birthday. This is episode 486, Better Than Happy. Let’s do it.

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What’s happening, everybody? So I am recording this episode on my birthday, which is Halloween. I’m a Halloween baby. So you’re going to be getting it next week. It will be after my birthday, but I wanted to record it today when it’s my actual birthday and just give you some ideas about how to consider thinking about your birthday and how to make decisions about how to celebrate your birthday.

I know there’s some people who are of the opinion that birthdays are just another day on the calendar. It’s just a date. Why do we make a big deal out of it? And I would say, on the one hand, that’s true. If you don’t want to make a big deal of it, you absolutely don’t have to. If you do want to, great, I’m in for that too.

I think where we complicate things, especially as adults and as women and as mothers, is we let all the noise of should and what we think other people want and trying to manage other people’s opinions and feelings interfere with figuring out what we even want. And at the same time, I don’t think that what our loved ones want or need or expect is irrelevant information. I think there’s a reason why we want to consider that. So we’re going to sift through some of that today. I hope this will be helpful. This is how I think about birthdays.

First, quick story. I share my birthday with Halloween and with many of you. I love hearing from other Halloween babies. So that’s been to me kind of fun because there’s always something going on. It kind of feels like a special day. There’s always some kind of a party. It’s not a present holiday, so it doesn’t create weirdness when you’re a kid. And I’ve loved having my birthday for the most part on Halloween.

As a mom, of course, Halloween is a kid holiday for the most part, right? Like my kids like dressing up and even as they get older, Halloween is less fun, I guess you might say. And I love that about it. I love having just fun things to do with the kids. And also, if I want to have a day or a time when it feels like we’re celebrating me, I make sure I make that happen somewhere around my birthday, not necessarily on Halloween, maybe on a different day or a different night.

So I’m going to talk to you a little bit about that. But this morning, I just, this is what I was going to share with you. My daughter, who is almost nine, because I’m turning 50 today, she said, “Mom, you have another decade. You made it another decade.” I thought that was so cute. I’m like, “You’re right, I did. I made it to my fifth decade. Look at me doing it. I’m still alive. Good job, me.”

Okay, so I have five things I want to talk to you about today when it comes to considering how you want to celebrate your birthday and what to do on your birthday. And the first thing is that you have to figure out what you want. What do you want to do? Or what do you not want to do? What are your preferences or opinions?

Now, I say that you have to figure this out because it’s actually not easy. Have you noticed? Do you know what you want to do? I know so many people, and this is myself included at times, who when you ask, “What do you want to do?” The answer is, “I just...