Sometimes the glue holding my relationship together feels more like Scotch tape—how do I keep things passionate, connected, and real when life (and business) gets in the way?

On this episode of Podcast Junkies, I sit down with Ellen Dorian, host of Make More Love, relationship coach, and entrepreneur with decades of experience helping high-achieving business owners navigate love, sex, and personal fulfillment. Ellen’s always been the ear friends turned to for advice, and she’s since transformed that talent into a thriving career guiding individuals to better, more authentic relationships.

We dive deep into the reality that intimacy can become routine and how introducing novelty—even on a monthly basis—can reignite the connection. Ellen shares candid stories from her own journey, demystifies the three-year rule in relationships, and reveals why strategic annual planning isn’t just for your business, but for your love life, too. Plus, we tackle topics like escaping “roommate syndrome,” the challenges of relationship growth for entrepreneurs, lessons from college, and why taking your clothes off (sometimes literally!) can help you focus.

You'll also hear why direct mail might be making a comeback, tips for overcoming tech overwhelm when starting a podcast, vulnerable reflections on aging, and how editing your own podcast can teach you more than you ever expected. This episode is packed with honest insights and practical wisdom—perfect for anyone who’s ever wondered how to balance their personal and professional ambitions while keeping their relationship front and center.

Ready to hear Ellen’s powerful strategies for sustaining love and intimacy—plus actionable tips you can implement today? Hit “play” and join us for this heartfelt and insightful conversation! Listen now to PJ382: Ellen Dorian.

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Key Takeaways

Spice Up Your Relationship Routine

Harry shares a practical relationship tip: even if you have a routine that works in your intimate life, make it a point to try something new at least once a month. Whether it’s a new activity or revisiting something you used to enjoy, fresh experiences can revitalize connection and intimacy.

Treat Your Relationship Like a Business—Strategic Planning Works!

Harry applies his business coaching experience to relationships by encouraging regular “strategic planning” sessions with your partner. He suggests sitting down at least once a year to set rolling three-year goals, create a 12-month plan, and break them down into actionable projects. This keeps both partners aligned and allows you to course-correct regularly.

Understand the Real Issues Behind Business Struggles

Harry points out that business owners often struggle with focus and growth because of unresolved relationship issues at home. By addressing the root personal challenges—instead of just business strategy—you unlock better clarity and decision-making in your professional life.

Start Before You’re Ready and Just Keep Going

Both Ellen and Harry discuss the challenges of launching a podcast (or any creative project). Their advice: Don’t get stuck aiming for perfection. Work through technical hurdles step by step, use cohort or group support if possible, and remember that every episode won’t be perfect. Publishing regularly is more important than waiting until everything is flawless.

Edit Your Own Content—At Least at First

Harry and Ellen both recommend editing your own podcast episodes when starting out. Doing this helps you catch verbal habits (like rambling or being repetitive), improve your narrative flow, and get more comfortable with your authentic voice. Tools like Descript can make the process more approachable and empower you to continually refine your messaging.

Memorable Quotes

"If you're in a relationship that involves sex, have it—because sex is the glue that holds intimate relationships together. Without it, you're just friends or roommates. And no matter how good or comfortable your routine is, try something different at least once a month. A little new stimulus can raise your whole sex life to another level."

"The reason people kept coming to me for advice is because I let them get the whole story out before jumping in. I became good at asking, 'What else?' so everything was on the table, which made people more open to actually listening and making positive changes."

"Entrepreneurship is challenging and it's not for everyone, but it's worth the effort to find balance. Don’t let your business be your whole life—even when it feels like it needs to be. Pay attention to your relationships and your own well-being, because that ultimately leads to a more fulfilling journey."