Pour Minds Podcast: "Cause And Effect" ft. Deante’ Kyle

Date: March 21, 2026
Hosts: Drea Nicole & Lex P
Guest: Deonte’ Kyle
Network: The Black Effect Podcast Network & iHeartPodcasts

Episode Overview

In this lively and candid episode, hosts Lex P and Draya Nicole are joined by Deontay Kyle, a rapidly rising podcasting voice known for his unfiltered takes and authenticity. Together, they dive deep into Black family dynamics, the impact of adoption and secrecy in Black households, social media backlash, colorism, Black relationships, ageism, and even the cultural layers of porn. With humor, honesty, and a sense of kinship, the trio explores personal growth, the complexities of Black identity, and how to hold your ground in the digital era.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Deontay Kyle’s Rise & Staying Authentic

Timestamps: [04:12] – [10:59]

• Recognition for Growth:
  Lex and Draya give Deontay his flowers for building a successful podcast platform, highlighting his rapid rise since starting in 2023.

  “I have never seen somebody cover this much ground and grow that quickly without being a celebrity.” – Lex P [05:44]

• Transition from Truck Driving:
  Deontay left truck driving in April 2025, which allowed him to fully invest in his media career and led to his breakout year.

  “I ain't even a year in when I started driving trucks and I could do this shit full time. That when this shit really went up.” – Deontay Kyle [07:54]

• On Privacy and Social Media:
  He keeps his family life private, especially to shield loved ones from public scrutiny and narrative spinning.

  “I don't want us to go through that with the world, bro. That's crazy. That how n***a end up broke up.” – Deontay Kyle [09:30]

• Learning Not to “Impulse Post”:
  Deontay shares that growing his TikTok following and brand taught him to avoid impulsive online reactions.

2. Adoption, Family Secrets, and Identity

Timestamps: [20:00] – [43:44]

• Adopted by a Black Family, Biological White Mother:
  Deontay discusses how his pro-Black stance is sometimes attacked via his biracial identity, which he only became aware of in adulthood, after his mother’s passing.

  “If I tell you I was giving away at birth, right? And my mama been my mama since I was two days old. S***, I don't know what we talking about.” – Deontay Kyle [20:00]

• The Harm of Secrecy in Black Families:
  Draya (who is also adopted) and Deontay agree that Black families need to move away from secrecy, as it can cause long-term identity issues and trust barriers.

  “As a Black community in general, we gotta stop all that secretive shit...you don’t get to control or dictate the truth about somebody else's business.” – Deontay Kyle [40:20]

• Emotional Complexity of Adoption:
  Both speak on their intuition as children, the emotional impact of late discoveries, and the journey toward self-acceptance.

  “The most liberating part was like, damn, I knew I was right. I could overly trust myself now.” – Deontay Kyle [34:38] “Adopted is a very complex thing that...most people don't really understand unless they've been through it.” – Draya Nicole [31:46]

• Generational Guilt and Protection:
  The group explores how a parent’s pain around fertility and trauma can compound the secrecy.

3. Handling Social Media Backlash & Keeping Boundaries

Timestamps: [14:10] – [19:40]

• Public Scrutiny:
  Deontay describes shifting from total engagement online to intentional disengagement for self-protection.

  “At first it was like I was always engaged in the comments...but I really had to, like, go through, like, a whole morning of that shit too.” – Deontay Kyle [15:10]

• Authenticity vs. Pandering:
  The conversation revolves around people being “committed to misunderstanding you” and never retracting authentic statements.

• The Disadvantage of Clout Chasing:
  Lex points out those who only talk about others will never be truly influential online.

  “If your content is just talking shit about other people...as soon as you talk about yourself, they're gonna disengage.” – Lex P [16:41]

4. Colorism & Black Identity

Timestamps: [43:44] – [51:34]

• Why Are (Some) Light Skinned People So Pro-Black?
  Lex probes if light-skinned people try to “prove” their blackness, but Deontay roots his activism in upbringing and community, not insecurity.

  “These my folks...It ain’t never really been, man. Bruh, you know, I went through—it’s dark skinned people that get roasted the same way I got roasted for being light skinned.” – Deontay Kyle [44:06]

• Colorism’s Spectrum:
  Deontay and Draya unpack how both ends of the spectrum experience bias; it’s less about shade and more about one’s actual values and choices.

• The Uselessness of the “Purity” Argument:

  “Ain’t no monoracial black people. This is why I mentioned Thomas Jefferson’s children earlier.” – Deontay Kyle [49:34]

5. Black Relationships, Marriage, and Societal Pressures

Timestamps: [54:10] – [59:10]

• Marriage Rates and Black Women’s “Reputation”:
  Lex brings up how criticism of Black women often centers around their relationships with Black men, blaming them for low marriage rates.

  “Every time they diss a black woman...it has something to do with black men not marrying us.” – Lex P [54:23]

• Root Causes:
  Deontay situates this dynamic within white colonial standards of marriage and the devastation wrought by the crack era and targeted mass incarceration.

  “I keep...repeating, but I'm telling you, that war on drugs destroyed literally every facet of our community.” – Deontay Kyle [55:52]

• Building Solutions & Breaking the Cycle:
  He advocates for focusing on causes, not just the effects, and for breaking cycles of absentee parenting.

6. Ageism, Preferences, & Pedestalizing Youth

Timestamps: [60:05] – [69:03]

• Why Older Black Men Date Younger Women:
  The hosts and Deontay critique the normalization of predatory dating patterns and infantilization of Black men in pop culture.

  “You want somebody young and dumb because...Don’t question me, don’t challenge me, don’t hold me accountable.” – Deontay Kyle [61:00]

• Rejecting Ageism—Embracing Growth:
  The group asserts the value of aging and maturity, rejecting the notion that 30s/40s equals “old.”

  “We need to find the beauty and blessing in aging. Everybody don’t get to do this.” – Deontay Kyle [69:03]

7. Gossip, “Mess,” and Human Nature

Timestamps: [69:39] – [74:22]

• The Myth of “No Mess”:
  Despite social media’s shaming, the hosts admit everyone gossips sometimes.

  “Part of being social is talking about society...I'm talking about people!” – Deontay Kyle [70:43]

• TikTok Drama & “Women’s Business”:
  Lex calls out Deontay for getting messy in online drama, sparking a discussion on the boundaries between friendship, loyalty, and airing things out.

8. Sex, Porn, & Race

Timestamps: [78:33] – [91:38]

• Segregation in Pornography:
  The hosts lampoon the ways Black and white porn remain racially coded (“Ebony” vs. “Black,” “ghetto,” exaggerated interracial scenarios).

  “That should be like pure white angel gets destroyed by big black...” – Deontay Kyle [79:05]

• Tastes & Stereotypes:
  They discuss authenticity in sexual expression, the allure of “real” amateur content, and reflect on how even porn mirrors structural racial divides.

9. Music & Generational Shifts

Timestamps: [92:10] – [97:55]

• New vs. Old School:
  The trio celebrates recent releases from rap legends (Juvenile, TI, J. Cole) and critiques the tendency for younger fans to disrespect hip-hop elders.

  “Stop playing with our legends...they gotta show you young ns how to get on a track.” – Lex P [92:21] “Old ns out rapping all you n****s…” – Deontay Kyle [93:17]

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Authenticity & Criticism:

  “A lot of things that people project onto me, it's like, damn, I ain't never thought about that shit.” – Deontay Kyle [51:34]

• On Colorism, Privilege, and Finesse:

  “But at the end of the day, soon as I say something you don't like, you gonna treat me like a n***a like them.” – Deontay Kyle [45:22]

• On Classical Black Resilience:

  “We was thriving...under the threat of Jim Crow and constant violence from white people. Thriving under the threat of being thrown in prison or be hung for having too much.” – Deontay Kyle [56:16]

• On Dating Preferences:

  “I don’t even wanna talk to a woman that don’t got a three in her age. I’m 35, bro.” – Deontay Kyle [62:24]

• On Black Community Secrecy:

  "Children are autonomous beings too...because you shaping their life in one way or the other, whether you shape it with a truth or a lie." – Deontay Kyle [41:26]

• On Gossip:

  “Niggas rich off gossip, duality.” – Lex P [69:56]

Timestamps for Important Segments

• Introduction, Deontay’s Flower-Giving: [04:12] – [06:37]
• Early Hustle & TikTok to Podcast Growth: [06:45] – [09:01]
• Adoption, Family, Identity Discussion: [20:00] – [43:44]
• Dealing with Online Hate: [14:10] – [19:40]
• Colorism & Blackness: [43:44] – [51:34]
• Black Marriage/Social Structures: [54:10] – [59:10]
• Age, Dating, and Predatory Norms: [60:05] – [69:03]
• Mess/Drama/Platonic Friendships: [69:39] – [74:22]
• Black vs. White Porn Commentary: [78:33] – [91:38]
• Music (“Bop of the Week”) Segment: [92:10] – [97:55]
• Listener Advice (“Pour Your Heart Out”): [98:42] – [102:27]
• Outro, Plugs, Announcements: [102:27] – End

Flow, Energy, Tone

The episode is quintessential “Pour Minds”: raw, playful, honest, and intellectual, with a rhythm that flows between jokes and tough truths. Deontay Kyle complements the hosts, offering vulnerability (about family, growth, challenges), cultural critique, and just enough “mess” to keep things entertaining.

For Listeners Who Haven’t Tuned In

This episode is a masterclass in Black transparency, blending comedy, critique, confessions, and cultural commentary. If you’re interested in modern Black media, generational healing, navigating identity, and hilarious real talk—strap in. It’s like an unfiltered dinner table debate, but with more cocktails, sex chat, and respect for every awkward truth.

For More:

• Deontay Kyle: @deontaykyle | Grizzly Ned’s Podcast on YouTube | Tour: Raleigh, Birmingham, Jacksonville, Charlotte, Nashville (deontaykyle.com)
• Pour Minds: Every week wherever you stream podcasts

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