The Name Game

Summary

Pour Minds Podcast: "The Name Game" (August 29, 2025)

Hosts: Lex P & Drea Nicole
Podcast: Pour Minds (The Black Effect & iHeartPodcasts)

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Episode Overview

In this lively and candid episode, Lex P and Drea Nicole, two single Houston-born friends now living in Atlanta, take listeners on a hilarious deep-dive into generational name trends, friendship dynamics, aging, and all things feminine hygiene—wine glass in hand. The main theme, "The Name Game," explores the quirks and judgments surrounding so-called “old people” names, hood nicknames, Bible names, and whether names really define us. The episode features classic Pour Minds banter, laugh-out-loud moments, and practical advice mixed with stories about dating, self-care, and friendships as adult women in today’s world. Special guest Jaleesa from Salt XO joins to talk feminine wellness.

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Sections & Key Discussion Points

1. Drunk Therapy Vibes & Solo Episode Freedom

• [04:00] Drea and Lex celebrate doing a solo episode, explaining that these tend to be less filtered, more off-topic, and provide longtime listeners with the classic Pour Minds feel.
• Lex reflects on managing the tone with new listeners and guest episodes, wanting to avoid going “too dark or too offensive.”
  • Memorable Quote:
    “I just feel like, you know, we just get to really just...we be getting very off topic. We don’t be really staying on track with the topic.” (Drea, 04:01)

2. Navigating Appearance & Partners’ Preferences

• [05:11] Lex brings up the trending topic about Cash Doll and whether her man not liking makeup or weave is controlling or empowering.
• Drea argues it's a personal preference and a non-issue if you have the option to “look good” both ways, joking that “the outrage be coming from the people that don’t got the option.”
• The hosts swap stories about men’s input on their looks, the difference between public persona and private comfort, and affirming the beauty in natural hair and low-maintenance days.
  • Notable Lines:
    “Chilling with no makeup on. If you look good without it, I don’t see nothing wrong with your man hyping up your natural beauty.” (Drea, 07:23)

3. Celebrating Aging & Personal Growth

• [11:01] Lex details her return to the “streets,” adjusting to singlehood, and enjoying her newfound freedom after buying a house at 35.
• Both hosts discuss aging, wisdom, and being grateful for life milestones, invoking Beyoncé’s attitude toward life in her 40s.
  • Quote:
    “Aging is just...it has been fun for me. The growth, everything...I’m smiling a lot more now. Like, I’m happy.” (Lex, 13:56)

4. The Name Game: Old Names for Young People

• [16:33] Drea kicks off this segment, admitting her suspicion towards young people with “old people” names (Eleanor, Harriet, Ruby).

• Lex and Drea riff on how a name like “Ruby” becomes cooler as “Ruby Rose,” and list names like Beatrice, Evelyn, Martha, Bernadette, Gertrude, Florence, and Mabel as “elderly names” that are rare for their generation.

• Hilarious sidebar: Lex reveals she was nearly named ‘Georgetta,’ after her dad, and the hosts imagine their alter-egos with these names.

  • Key Quotes:
    • “Why are you 23 and your name is Eleanor?” (Drea, 16:57)
    • “Ruby is an old bitch name. But that’s why she added that rose on the end.” (Lex, 17:18)
    • “That’s ancient. I ain’t heard of Mildred.” (Lex, 26:30)

• They discuss cultural context—some names may sound old in Black American culture but are common elsewhere.

5. Hood Names, Bible Names, and the Hood-Proper Name Paradox

• [31:18 & 32:40, repeated riff] Shay told Lex: “Kids that have Bible names are the worst...like Noah be cutting up.”
• They joke about hood guys having surprisingly formal names (“Clifford,” “Cornelius”), and debate if there are actually any young Bartholomews outside Lex’s dog.
  • Quote:
    “Hood niggas be having the most proper names.” (Drea, 32:43)

6. Juniors, Hyphenated Last Names, and Name Trends

• [33:04] Lex asks about women making their kids “junior” after themselves (a la Chrisean Jr.).
• Drea says she’s not into the idea and reflects on name trends—mentioning the Black Girl Middle Name “Nicole” trope and the Ashley/Britney/Jasmine/Brianna boom of the ‘80s and ‘90s.
• They move to the topic of hyphenated last names after marriage, debating cultural and power-dynamics with references to Jada Pinkett-Smith and Kim Kardashian-West.

7. Entrepreneur Spotlight: Jaleesa from Salt XO

• [41:44] Introduction of Jaleesa, the founder of Salt XO, a feminine hygiene brand.
• Jaleesa shares how she developed her products for college women, focusing on supporting vaginal pH and boosting confidence.
• The trio dives into the science behind Salt XO’s ingredients (especially tea tree oil, turmeric, lemon, peppermint) and product range (yoni gel, body scrubs, erotica gel, booty deodorant, boric acid suppositories).
• The conversation normalizes vaginal care, discusses the role of diet (drink water!), and stresses honest conversations among women about hygiene.
  • Notable Moments:
    • “I recommend that your partner uses Salt XO, because whatever he uses is going right inside of you!” (Jaleesa, 57:08)
    • “Our suppositories work in one day...cause you don’t have time to be...marinating for two days. I’m trying to book tonight!” (Jaleesa & Lex, 62:02)

8. Friendship Etiquette: Private vs. Public Congratulations

• [67:26] The hosts debate whether it’s shady if a friend congratulates you privately but not on social media.

• Lex says it depends: performative posts don’t matter to her, but it’s weird if someone celebrates others online but not you.

• Drea echoes that as long as someone is consistent, she doesn't mind.

  • Quote:
    “If you can’t clap for other people, it’ll never be your turn.” (Lex, 72:55)

• They further discuss expectations in friendships, reciprocating energy, and not all friends having to be “multi-purpose.”

9. Sex & Relationships: How Rough is Too Rough?

• [82:41] Bed Topic: “Love taps”—How rough is too rough in bed?

  • Drea: Doesn’t like being smacked or choked too hard; recalls getting mad after a particularly aggressive encounter.

  • Lex: Admits she enjoys things rougher but draws the line at being slapped across the face or “purple nurples.”

  • Both stress the importance of safe words and checking in with your partner.

  • Memorable Banter:
    “If you hit me too hard or something, like, if you smack my booty too hard, I’m gonna get mad as fuck.” (Drea, 83:04)
    “But your nipples are always hard like a nigga is trying to...cause why are you trying to...turn my nipple?” (Lex & Drea, 90:34)

10. The Bop of the Week & Signature Segments

• [96:51] Lex’s Bop: “Superfly” by Boosie – “If you ain’t never heard Superfly by Boosie, this the type of song when you and your girls getting ready for the club… Auntie is putting y’all on game.” (Lex, 97:54)
• [98:23] Drea’s Bop: “Folded” by Kehlani – Both praise Kehlani as an R&B star for the new generation.

11. Pour Your Heart Out (Listener Letters & Advice)

Letter 1

• [99:47] Listener in the military unsure about moving in with her boyfriend, who tries to break up every time they argue.
• Lex and Drea both advise: Listen to your gut—breaking up as a default shows emotional immaturity, and moving in won’t solve deeper issues.

Letter 2

• [103:51] Youngest sibling in an African family debates whether to rebuild a relationship with a brother who once betrayed her trust.

• Both hosts suggest family relationships should be held to the same standard as any other—and it’s ok to sometimes protect your peace by cutting off toxic relatives.

  • Quote:
    “Why keep you in my life just because you my family member when you clearly don’t mean me well?” (Andrea, 106:29)

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Notable Quotes & Time Stamps

• “Why are you 23 and your name is Eleanor?” (Drea, 16:57)
• “Ruby is an old bitch name. But that’s why she added that rose on the end.” (Lex, 17:18)
• “Chilling with no makeup on. If you look good without it, I don’t see nothing wrong with your man hyping up your natural beauty.” (Drea, 07:23)
• “If you can’t clap for other people, it’ll never be your turn.” (Lex, 72:55)
• “If you hit me too hard or something, like, if you smack my booty too hard, I’m gonna get mad as fuck.” (Drea, 83:04)
• “I recommend that your partner uses Salt XO, because whatever he uses is going right inside of you!” (Jaleesa, 57:08)
• “Our suppositories work in one day...cause you don’t have time to be...marinating for two days. I’m trying to book tonight!” (Jaleesa & Lex, 62:02)
• “Why keep you in my life just because you my family member when you clearly don’t mean me well?” (Andrea, 106:29)

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Funniest/Most Memorable Moments

• Lex nearly being named “Georgetta” after her dad (21:09)
• Joking about “young hood guys” named Clifford or Cornell (32:03)
• Lex’s secret made-up baby name “Shauncea” (29:19)
• The “flick of the nip” confusion and banter about bedroom mishaps (90:01-91:10)

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Guest Spotlight: Jaleesa of Salt XO (41:44–65:18)

• Jaleesa gives a candid history of starting Salt XO as a broke college student, shares the importance of using natural, pH-balancing products for feminine care, and encourages open conversations about vaginal health and sexual wellness.
• She addresses ingredients to look for, the need for men to use the right hygiene products, and how to tackle issues like ingrown hairs, scarring, and lost libido with her product range.
• Practical, lighthearted advice is dispensed throughout, with Jaleesa referring to herself as the “coochie queen.”

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Closing Thoughts

“The Name Game” is vintage Pour Minds—irreverent, real, and rooted in sisterhood, with a perfect blend of bold humor and useful gems about self-care, relationships, and navigating womanhood. With signature wit, Lex and Drea manage to make even the topic of generational names into a landscape for cultural commentary and laughter.

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Transcript

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[Lex P]

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[Andrea]

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[Lex P]

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[Andrea]

Bible names?

[Lex P]

Yeah, like Noah be cutting up. Get your messiah, get your down from the monkey bar job be bad as hell. Moses.

[Andrea]

I never knew nobody named Mosi.

[Lex P]

You know, named Mosy.

[Andrea]

I do not know what name Mosi.

[Lex P]

We call him Lil Mo. You know Lil Mo. I don't you know Lil Mo.

[Andrea]

But you know what I do think is interesting? That like Hood be having proper names.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Andrea]

Now that's funny. Like Clifford.

[Lex P]

Yeah. What's Nellie name? Cornell.

[Andrea]

Cornelius. Cornelius. But that's not. That's not proper. That's old.

[Lex P]

That is an old name. Bartholomew.

[Andrea]

Lex, nobody's name is Bartholomew except for your dog.

[Lex P]

Too soon. Too Soon.

[Andrea]

Nobody. I've never in my life met nobody named Bartholomew.

[Lex P]

Is a common name in the English in who? In England. How do you know?

[Andrea]

How many English people do you know?

[Lex P]

Pip, pip, cheerio.

[Andrea]

You don't even know that.

[Lex P]

I've been to London twice.

[Andrea]

Right. And you met a whole bunch of people named Bartholomew. I met three.

[Lex P]

His name Bartholomew. When I went, what's up, y'? All? It's your girl Lex. Pull.

[Andrea]

And it's your girl Dre and Nicole.

[Lex P]

And you are tuned in to another episode of Poor Mind, where a drunk.

[Andrea]

Mind speaks sober thoughts.

[Lex P]

We ain't got no guests today.

[Andrea]

We ain't got no gifts today.

[Lex P]

They be loving when we sing that tune.

[Andrea]

They do. They love a solo episode.

[Lex P]

They do.

[Andrea]

I like solo episodes, too, though, because I feel like, you know, we just get to really just. We be getting very off topic. We don't be really staying on track with the topic.

[Lex P]

You know what I'm saying? No pressure. It's no pressure. Cause, you know, I'm not gonna lie. I feel like. Don't get me wrong. Like, Poor minds is a ball. We have a good time. But now it's like, a lot of people that are tuning in now, they're like new listeners. So I feel like sometimes I be trying to ease them in, especially when it's a guest on the show, and I don't be wanting to be too dark or too offensive.

[Andrea]

Yeah, but the soloist, you don't be caring.

[Lex P]

I do care. Mm. Mm. You don't think they care.

[Andrea]

No. You still be being dark, inoffensive.

[Lex P]

Damn. And offensive. She did.

[Andrea]

At this point, I feel like when people come on the show, they should do their research, though.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Andrea]

I feel like if you do your research, then you gonna know what to expect from you and from me. Like, they gonna know. We gonna clown. We gonna have a good time.

[Lex P]

I think Cash Doll was serious. Cash Doll was surprised.

[Andrea]

You think so?

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Andrea]

I don't think she was that.

[Lex P]

She said she was. What's wrong? She kept asking me what was wrong with me. She said, what is wrong with you?

[Andrea]

She did actually that a lot, but I feel like everybody asked you that.

[Lex P]

Okay, so let me ask you a question. Speaking of my girl, Cash Doll. I love me some Cash Doll down. But, you know, there has been a discourse going on because I don't know if this is true or not, because I didn't see her say it or him say It. But there's allegedly a discourse going around that her boyfriend doesn't like when she wears weave or makeup. So that's why that she's been going on these interviews. You know, fresh face, natural hair and stuff like that. Now, like I said, I don't know how true that is. I don't know where this discourse came from. But how do you feel about that? Like, not wearing makeup or not wearing fake hair in your head? Because your man is like, no, you look beautiful naturally. And this is what I like that you look like. Cause half of the people are saying they think it's a controlling tactic. And the other half is being like, no, he's just pouring into her and letting her know how beautiful she is.

[Andrea]

I mean, I don't think that that's controlling. I feel like it's a preference thing. Like, I feel like it's a preference thing. Like, if you're dating somebody and, like, he thinks that you look really good, and he prefers how you look without makeup or extensions or whatever, and you actually look good without it, and you got that option. Cause I think sometimes the outrage be coming from the people that don't got the option.

[Lex P]

I see you ain't even. We ain't even. You ain't even have to go there.

[Andrea]

I didn't have to go there. But you also act.

[Lex P]

Oh, you right, you right, you right. So.

[Andrea]

So I personally be feeling that way. Like, I. Cause I feel like I have dated a lot of guys who feel that way, too. Like, they be like. I mean, it's. And don't get me wrong, like, they love when I'm dolled up, too. Like, if we're going to dinner or we going out to eat, we going on a trip, we doing anything. They want me to, like, be cute and put out.

[Lex P]

That's why I used to call you Dede Dre a doll. No, you didn't.

[Andrea]

Shut up. But no, like, they want me to do my full beat, do my. Make sure my hair is curled and my hair is on point. If we going out to dinner and it's like a date night over there. But, like, on a daily basis. I've dated a lot of guys. Majority of the guys that I've dated, they always say, like, on a normal day, like, I love when you just fresh face. You look so pretty that way. You look so good that way. Or I love when you just have your hair slicked back in a bun.

[Lex P]

Or whatever the case may be. Chilling with no makeup on.

[Andrea]

Right? Yeah. And I feel like, you know, if you look good without it. I don't see nothing wrong with your man hyping up your natural beauty. Now, if it's not something that you're into, like, if you just that type of girl where every single day you want to wear makeup and you want to be beat and he trying to take away from who you are, that's different. And that's different. But in my personal opinion, Cash Doll always been that type of girl.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Andrea]

Like on her off days, like when she not doing shows and she don't have to make appearances and hostings and all of that stuff, she be fresh face. She always been like this, even before him.

[Lex P]

And she has long ass hair.

[Andrea]

Yeah, exactly.

[Lex P]

Beautiful, healthy long hair.

[Andrea]

Right. And I think, like, prior to him, she always been that type of girl. But maybe it just seemed more to the public. Like, it's that way because now maybe she feel even more comfortable going to, like, events and doing all of that stuff without needing to be. Cause I'm with my man and he like it.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Andrea]

I don't think it's controlling. I think people need to worry about what they man controlling if they got one.

[Lex P]

Now why I catch a straight.

[Andrea]

I'm just saying, people always in other people relationships, y' all need to not worry about that lady relationship. She seemed happy.

[Lex P]

Do you remember when you used to wear that high bun?

[Andrea]

Ooh, I loved my high bun.

[Lex P]

Can we put a picture? We gonna.

[Andrea]

Yeah, we can insert it.

[Lex P]

Well, we gonna insert on the episode. But I used to wear.

[Andrea]

That's what I'm saying. It was one point in time where all I wore was my natural hair. Cause I have long natural hair, too.

[Lex P]

The Eiffel Tower ain't got shit on you. Cause, baby, that thing was sky high.

[Andrea]

It was.

[Lex P]

It was.

[Andrea]

You have a lot of hair.

[Lex P]

Yeah, well, I wouldn't know, bitch. Yours was giving skyscraper. Mine was giving D. No, but you'll.

[Andrea]

Be always trying to play like you. You'll be fronting because we have old poor mine's episodes where you used to wear your hair in that afro puff and somebody left. I don't know how, but I don't know if you saw that. That clip. It's like a video of us on YouTube. It went viral recently.

[Lex P]

Oh, okay.

[Andrea]

And, like, a lot of people started, like, watching it again. It's like a old video of us from maybe, like, kitchen. Were we in Kiki's?

[Lex P]

Yeah, we were in Kiki's.

[Andrea]

Well, I had the. What are they called? The twist.

[Lex P]

Yeah, yeah.

[Andrea]

And you had your hair in, like, A high puff ball. And it was so many people in the comments, like, I didn't know Lex has so much thick, beautiful hair.

[Lex P]

And I'm thick and beautiful.

[Andrea]

Yeah. So it's like, I don't even know why you be trying to downplay, like, you bald headed. You're not bald headed.

[Lex P]

No, I don't be saying that. I always say it's just my hair. Now, I'm not gonna lie.

[Andrea]

There's nothing wrong with being bald headed.

[Lex P]

Before y' all get mad. Cause they gonna be mad with they ways in. Cause you know what, Draya? I don't give a fuck. But I'm saying all that because I have very healthy hair. I do. And I have all my edges. I do have a lot of hair, but my hair just.

[Andrea]

It won't grow, period.

[Lex P]

It don't move.

[Andrea]

You always touch my hair.

[Lex P]

My hair has been right here like my whole life.

[Andrea]

But that's also not short, though.

[Lex P]

I mean, I don't care about length, though. I've always been a girl. I don't care about length. I just don't want people to think I'm finna take off that wig and you gonna see that cash doll, B. Cause you ain't finna see that cash, dog. Yeah, you finna get a nice good bob, bitch. You finna get that bob. You know what I'm saying? But I do have healthy hair.

[Andrea]

I have a lot of hair.

[Lex P]

But I'm a hairy person.

[Andrea]

Me too.

[Lex P]

I'm extremely hairy.

[Andrea]

I'm very hairy too. Yeah, I'm always hairy.

[Lex P]

I'm lightening. I finally got to do my armpits. Cause remember, they were hairy the other week. But you know, I'm in the process of lightening them up and getting them ready to go. Go where? To the club. I've been in the club lately, y'.

[Andrea]

All. We've been outside a lot, which is very unlike.

[Lex P]

Oh my.

[Andrea]

We are.

[Lex P]

We've been outside. When I tell y' all I cut up so bad.

[Andrea]

That's how you know when people be.

[Lex P]

Breaking bad, you know, that's how you know when people single again. I have been out in these, like, I ain't seen you in a long time. Oh, my. Y', all, I have been in these streets, and I'm not talking about. So when I went to Houston, I left the house. I left my sister's house at noon. I got back, and I'm not lying, at 5 in the morning. The other day when I went out, I went out Wednesday. I left my house probably around 8 o' clock. I got back at like 4 in the morning. This is my lifestyle now. Auntie is back outside, you know, But I've been having a good time outside. Been fun.

[Andrea]

The streets is calling yeah, the streets are calling. Ring, ring.

[Lex P]

And I'm picking up that I'm answering.

[Andrea]

It's been a good time. We went out like three times last night.

[Lex P]

I know I've been cutting up, but, you know, like, it's much needed. I feel like I'm gonna sell a ret. You know, I got my house, you know what I'm saying? Decorating, getting my things together. So I'm just like in a happy season, like. And it wasn't like a bad situation, you know, it's just like, you know, people don't line whatever, so I'm not like, oh, my God. I'm just in a good space mentally. That's good. You know what I'm saying? I think that's what's coming with age, too. I'm finna be 36. Amen. So 36. I'm about to. That means I'm getting close to 40. I'm not gonna lie. I'm excited to turn 40. Really? Yes.

[Andrea]

I mean, Beyonce said when she turned 40, it was one of the best. She said it's 40 has been, like, one of the best decades.

[Lex P]

Cause honestly, I'm not gonna lie. When I turned 30, my life changed. And, like, at 35, I purchased a home. And I never thought, like, I always wanted a home, but I never even thought I was like, how am I gonna make this happen? And I made it happen. If I have done this in, like, the first five, six years of my 30s, my 40s are gonna be insane. Like, I just. I'm not, like, rushing it, but I'm just like, wow, life is really beautiful. Like, when I think about my 20s, I was. Life was not good. It was an adventure.

[Andrea]

I mean, people say, like, I mean, if you not aging, you dead, right? So that's how I be trying to look. Like, it's good to get older. It's a great thing to get old. It's a great thing to be able to age and to get older and to see different chapters of your life and just different things unfold, you know, I think it's very. People look at it like it's a bad thing and a scary thing when it's really amazing. It's so many people that don't get to make it to be, you know, 34. So many people that don't get to make it to be 36. There's so many people that don't get to see their 40th birthday. So it's a beautiful thing. So many people be dying prematurely and young.

[Lex P]

And it's not even about death. It's just about the wisdom that you get as you get older too. Like, the wisdom that I have now, how I handle situations, the maturity, the growth that I'm seeing in myself. It's like aging is just. It has been fun for me. Like, it really has. Like the growth, everything. Like my mentality, how I handle situations. Like, I just be smiling. I'm smiling a lot more now. Like I'm happy.

[Andrea]

Yeah. You know what I mean? You gotta let stuff roll off your back. It don't be that serious. As a personal, as a professional, I don't give a fucker.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Andrea]

I've always kinda been that way.

[Lex P]

But you know what? It's crazy about me. I embrace that. I do give a fuck, but I'm okay with giving a fuck. But I've learned not to let that control me. I be like, you know what? I care about this and it does hurt my feelings, but I'm not going to let this ruin my day or ruin my week.

[Andrea]

Yeah, no, I feel like that's more so what I mean too, when I be saying I don't give a fuck about stuff because I feel like everybody cares about things sometimes. Like things are going to hurt your feelings, things are going to piss you off, but it's about how you choose to let it control your day or control your outcome. And I just always been the type of person where it's like, yeah, this might have pissed me off or it might have hurt my feelings, but I'm about to go on with my fucking day. I'm about to get on with my day. I'm about to get on with my life. Because I know as time progresses and time passes by, this thing isn't even gonna be a thing in like another two months or in another five months or in five years, I'm gonna look back and be like, this ain't nothing.

[Lex P]

And that's what that man said.

[Andrea]

What man?

[Lex P]

Time keeps slipping away from me. That time gonna slip away from you. If you worry too much.

[Andrea]

It is. You gonna rate. You're gonna wake up one day, you're gonna be 65, and you done spent your whole life dwelling and being upset about things that you couldn't control. Like people. People always want to control everything. You can't control life. We can't control nothing. Literally. We have no Control over nothing. The only thing you really have control over is how you respond to school. Everything else is just gonna happen the way it's gonna happen.

[Lex P]

Yep. I agree.

[Andrea]

And I think when you relinquish that need. That's a good word.

[Lex P]

That's a big word for Elmo.

[Andrea]

When you relinquish that need for control, you just start to look at life from a different perspective.

[Lex P]

When you relinquish that need for control, what does that mean?

[Andrea]

When you let go of the need to want to control things.

[Lex P]

I like that word. I'm gonna have to add that to my vocabulary.

[Andrea]

Yeah, you just gotta live your life.

[Lex P]

And speaking of getting older, we gonna get into this first topic. Mm.

[Andrea]

These people ain't old though, right?

[Lex P]

But it's gotta come from somewhere. It came from they ancestors. Sometimes they be, you know, young bitches with old names.

[Andrea]

I don't trust you.

[Lex P]

You don't trust them?

[Andrea]

No, that's why I came up with this topic. Cause I was telling Shay that one day.

[Lex P]

What was your reason?

[Andrea]

Something ain't right.

[Lex P]

Something ain't right.

[Andrea]

Why are you 23 and your name is Eleanor?

[Lex P]

What? What? Now, Ella.

[Andrea]

Why is her name Harriet?

[Lex P]

Harriet in 2025. Now, I'm not gonna. I'm not gonna lie to you. This is why I think. And this is no shade to her because she is a beautiful woman. She is gorgeous.

[Andrea]

Who, Harriet?

[Lex P]

No, Ruby. Rose. Ruby is an old bitch name. Ruby. But that's why she added that rose on the end.

[Andrea]

No shade to Ruby, though. But Ruby is also African.

[Lex P]

But it's not.

[Andrea]

And in the African. But that's normal. Like in the African community.

[Lex P]

That's cool. But. But we're talking about in our community, Ruby is an old name.

[Andrea]

Yeah, we talking about in our community. That's what I'm saying.

[Lex P]

She's African, but she's in our community. She lives in America.

[Andrea]

She do. But isn't she Ethiopian?

[Lex P]

She is.

[Andrea]

Her mom is from Ethiopia.

[Lex P]

Right. And I'm not gonna get into all that. Cause y' all gonna be like, trying to eat me up. All I'm saying is.

[Andrea]

Yeah, that's what I was about to say. You need to tread lightly.

[Lex P]

Cause her name is Ruby. That's all we talk about. Young women with old names.

[Andrea]

But I was trying to let you know.

[Lex P]

I don't need no explanation.

[Andrea]

That's what. For me. That's what I'm. When it comes to certain. Yes. When it comes to certain cultures. Cause that's like a cultural thing.

[Lex P]

Eleanor is cultural.

[Andrea]

No, when it comes To. I'm talking about being black in America. Why is your name illinois and you 10?

[Lex P]

Ruby used to be 10. Ruby was 10. Ruby. Ruby is nuts and you know it.

[Andrea]

Rose make it a little.

[Lex P]

That's why she kept. We don't ever call her Ruby. We don't call. We call her Ruby Rose.

[Andrea]

That's all she was doing. The Rose. Lighten it up. It does it make it more digestible.

[Lex P]

It is.

[Andrea]

You see?

[Lex P]

Cause if you see Ruby Rose popping that pussy sounds okay. You seen Ruby popping that pussy? Who. Who is pop? Why is Ruby popping pussy? How old is she? How old is Ruby? And why is she popping that pussy? But if you say Ruby Rose was popping that pussy you like. Yeah, I'm with that. That's a big. That's a big difference. Beatrice.

[Andrea]

Beatrice.

[Lex P]

Beatrice is nuts.

[Andrea]

Beatrice is crazy. I mean, it's just a lot of them. Evelyn.

[Lex P]

You think Evelyn is an old name?

[Andrea]

Who do you know our age name? Evelyn Lozada our age.

[Lex P]

Oh, no, that was Shade.

[Andrea]

It wasn't. I'm like the same. Almost the same age as her daughter. It really wasn't Shade.

[Lex P]

I was just trying to make it shady.

[Andrea]

Yes. Cause you messy.

[Lex P]

I don't think Evelyn is an old name.

[Andrea]

I do.

[Lex P]

I don't. I don't think Evelyn doesn't give old to me.

[Andrea]

Cause when everybody named Evelyn that I know, it's like 50.

[Lex P]

Shred lightly. Evelyn's in her 50.

[Andrea]

I don't know. I'm like, you brought that lady. I did not bring her up. And I'm not about to entertain your foolishness. It's that dream I said to people I know. I don't know that lady.

[Lex P]

You right. You right. You right. What? What's another one? What's another one? Let me see. We got some names on the list. Where the list at?

[Andrea]

I'll pull up a list. Cause a old name.

[Lex P]

Mm mm.

[Andrea]

Martha.

[Lex P]

Martha.

[Andrea]

My mama be calling Martin Luther King name.

[Lex P]

Martha Luther King.

[Andrea]

And I don't know why y' all know. And that's another sign of being old too. They love to butcher a name. Oh my God, I can't wait to see you at 70. Cause you already done get nobody name right.

[Lex P]

And let me say this. Cause y' all be in the comments so mad at me when we have guests on. I'm really like that in real life. It's like, I don't know why I'm so bad with names. I don't know if it's just like I'm from Orange. I can't read that.

[Andrea]

Well, your name should have been Bernadette.

[Lex P]

Bernadette. I like Bernadette. That means. Sounds like you know what my name is?

[Andrea]

Gertrude.

[Lex P]

Gertrude.

[Andrea]

I like a little Gertrude. If you had to have an old name for real.

[Lex P]

Gertrude. Gertrude. I like that. You know what my name was supposed to be? This is a true story. Easy. It's a truce. I'm not lying this time.

[Andrea]

Cause you love to lie.

[Lex P]

I do love to lie. I'm not lying. So when my mom and my dad had my sister, they were like, obviously the second kid. We wanted to be a boy and came out. Obviously, I didn't have no dick. You know.

[Andrea]

Sad day.

[Lex P]

It was a sad day for them. And my dad wanted a junior so bad, they were gonna name me Georgetta. But my mom fought him. She was like, we're not naming this beautiful child Georgetta. He wanted to name me Georgetta. Cause his name was George.

[Andrea]

If your name would have been George.

[Lex P]

Georgetta. Oh, my God. I feel like if my name was that. Georgetta fits me, though. I would have just called you Gigi.

[Andrea]

We would have found a way to shorten that shit.

[Lex P]

But I think Georgetta actually fits me.

[Andrea]

But your nickname still would've been Lex P. Because my last name. Cause of your last name.

[Lex P]

Yeah, it still would've been, but I think Georgetta is more fitting. I don't think I give Georgetta when I sing. I give Georgette a. Hey. Hey. That sounded like a Georgette.

[Andrea]

It is.

[Lex P]

That sounded like I give.

[Andrea]

That was very much a big mama. Your arm, though. Yeah.

[Lex P]

See, I give Georgetta. See?

[Andrea]

But then there's certain names that's on here. I don't agree. Celeste is not an old lady.

[Lex P]

No, Celeste. Not a girl name. That's not an old lady.

[Andrea]

Hester.

[Lex P]

Hester. Hester with a H. Yes. Now, I've heard of Esther, but Hester. Hester, I ain't never heard of that one.

[Andrea]

Ursula.

[Lex P]

Ursula. That don't give me. That gives me Little Mermaid vibes.

[Andrea]

Ingrid.

[Lex P]

Ingrid is an old bitch name, but.

[Andrea]

I feel like that's like, I don't know no black people name Ingrid.

[Lex P]

You right. That was on this side.

[Andrea]

Yeah.

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[Lex P]

Now, the most famous baddie that we know, obviously. Bernice. Bernice, like you was in diapers and people was like, come here. Oh, Bernice. Give Bernice her bottle.

[Andrea]

Yeah, but Bernice is.

[Lex P]

Yeah, I mean, obviously she's older, you know what I'm saying? But she's a baddie. No, so that don't count.

[Andrea]

She's gorgeous.

[Lex P]

It cancels out when your ass that fat. It don't even matter what your name is, bitch. Your name could be Earl, bitch. We don't give a damn, Earl. We don't give a damn. I'm here to tell you right now, we don't care.

[Andrea]

Not Barbara. That's my mama name.

[Lex P]

Yeah, but Barbara.

[Andrea]

But my mama is old.

[Lex P]

Every barber I know is older. Barbra Streisand, Barbara Walters.

[Andrea]

Rip. Rip.

[Lex P]

Damn, Barbara.

[Andrea]

Yeah, Barbara's be old. Then I got my aunt, her name Mildred.

[Lex P]

Mildred. Ooh, Mildred. No offense, Aunt Mildred. That's ancient. I ain't heard of Mildred.

[Andrea]

I mean, she's almost 80.

[Lex P]

Sh. God. Oh, my bad. Shit.

[Andrea]

I mean, but that's what I'm saying. Their names is appropriate for the times that they was born. I went to high school with.

[Lex P]

She was born by the river, bitch.

[Andrea]

Shaking that ass.

[Lex P]

God damn. Mildred. Shit.

[Andrea]

I went to high school with a girl named Barbara, though. And I used to be like the same age, the same name as my mama.

[Lex P]

Yeah, that's crazy. Let me see what else they got on the list. Mabel. That's Madea. Real name.

[Andrea]

Yeah, that is.

[Lex P]

It is Mabel.

[Andrea]

Mabel Florence.

[Lex P]

Florence is an old uncle.

[Andrea]

I had an aunt named Florence.

[Lex P]

You did? Well, that's your grandmother. That's my name. Now I'm surprised cause I thought Florence was more of a. No, but Flo Jo wasn't that Flo Jo, real name, the runner of the track.

[Andrea]

She a little old now too.

[Lex P]

No, she's passed. She died.

[Andrea]

Oh my God, bro.

[Lex P]

This is why I hate this show. This is disappoint. This show is stupid. Well, then it don't matter what I'm saying then. Cause what, you didn't. Okay, we're not even gonna get on that.

[Andrea]

I did not know that.

[Lex P]

Yes, she passed away.

[Andrea]

Sorry, Florence.

[Lex P]

Yes, okay, it was Flo Jo. Yes. Flo Jo's real name.

[Andrea]

But if she was alive, she would be old.

[Lex P]

Yes, she would be old. Yes, she would be a little older, but yeah.

[Andrea]

So my granddaddy, his sister Name was Florence, but he had like, 11 siblings.

[Lex P]

Mm.

[Andrea]

You know what?

[Lex P]

People don't have a lot of kids? Priscilla. That's an old name.

[Andrea]

I went to high school with a Priscilla.

[Lex P]

A Priscilla. Mm. You know what I think I've talked about on the show before? And I know this girl. Tired of me talking about her. I went to high school with a girl named Leshatra.

[Andrea]

She gonna call me.

[Lex P]

No, she not.

[Andrea]

You don't know. I can't wait. Leshetra. Meet me in the comments.

[Lex P]

I just thought it was so crazy, cuz Leshatra. And that's a. It was a white girl. It was a white girl named Leshatra. Don't that sound like a, you know, ethnic.

[Andrea]

But I love a homemade name.

[Lex P]

I love a homemade name.

[Andrea]

I like a homemade name.

[Lex P]

Can I tell you something so embarrassing?

[Andrea]

What?

[Lex P]

This is so embarrassing. I can't believe I'm telling this story right now. When I was younger, you know, like, when you were younger, did you, like, make up names that you were gonna name your kids when you got older? Like, what did you want to name your kid?

[Andrea]

Girl? I can't even remember.

[Lex P]

I can, and it's so embarrassing.

[Andrea]

You made it up.

[Lex P]

I made it up.

[Andrea]

Oh, see, I didn't used to make them up. I just would, like, write down names that I like.

[Lex P]

No, I made up a name because it was my three favorite singers, and I meshed their names together.

[Andrea]

And what was it?

[Lex P]

It's so ugly.

[Andrea]

Tell us.

[Lex P]

I can't. Let me take another sip of the yak and don't talk back.

[Andrea]

Why would you bring it up and not tell us.

[Lex P]

So, okay, I'm gonna say the name, but I want you to guess the singer's names.

[Andrea]

Okay?

[Lex P]

So, y', all, please don't laugh. Everybody's silence in the background. The baby's name was gonna be Shauncea n'.

[Andrea]

Shawnte.

[Lex P]

Uh huh.

[Andrea]

Beyonce. Rihanna.

[Lex P]

Aaliyah.

[Andrea]

Aaliyah.

[Lex P]

Rihanna wasn't out yet, and I just.

[Andrea]

Thought, oh, you right.

[Lex P]

What? She wasn't. Yeah, she wasn't. Cause she's. Rihanna's our age. Well, my age. Rihanna's my age. I thought that was the most. I was like, yeah, my baby's name's gonna be Shawnstein. And I thought I ate that.

[Andrea]

But that's not ugly, though.

[Lex P]

That's just strange.

[Andrea]

That kinda sound like Shincia. Do it not.

[Lex P]

It was just Shincia. And I know, but I'm saying the reasoning behind it. Why is you naming your baby after Ashanti and Beyonce and Aaliyah?

[Andrea]

I mean, literally, it's a baby named Beyonce. Now, nobody was named Beyonce before.

[Lex P]

To name your baby Beyonce is nuts.

[Andrea]

They got a hell of a reputation to live with.

[Lex P]

Why would you name.

[Andrea]

I wouldn't even wanna put that pressure on my kids.

[Lex P]

Yeah, I don't like naming kids after, like, celebrities.

[Andrea]

Icon.

[Lex P]

Yeah, that's a little too much. I mean, imagine your baby's name having to be Lexington. Crazy.

[Andrea]

Especially when that ain't even your name.

[Lex P]

Hey, put my. Bitch.

[Andrea]

That ain't even your fucking name. So naming your baby Lex P is crazy.

[Lex P]

Oh, my God.

[Andrea]

Okay, I don't know, but I feel like people who be having old names. Do you think that they just naturally be having, like, a old soul, too?

[Lex P]

Ain't nothing old about Bernice. Soul, baby. Hey, no offense, child. Ain't nothing old about Ruby Rules. Soul.

[Andrea]

Do you think that people with old names act like the worst in school and stuff?

[Lex P]

What did Shay say the other day? Kids that have Bible names are the worst.

[Andrea]

Bible names?

[Lex P]

Yeah, Like Noah be cutting the fuck up. Get your Messiah. Get your ass down from the damn monkey boy. Job. Job be bad as hell. Moses.

[Andrea]

I never knew nobody named Mosey.

[Lex P]

You know a nigga named Mosie?

[Andrea]

I do not know a nigga named Mosie.

[Lex P]

We call him Lil Mo. You know Lil Mo. I don't. You know Lil Mo.

[Andrea]

But you know what I do think is interesting? That, like, hood niggas be having proper names.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Andrea]

Now that's funny. Like Clifford.

[Lex P]

Yeah. What's Nellie name? Cornell.

[Andrea]

Cornelius. Cornelius. But that's not. That's not proper. That's old.

[Lex P]

That is an old nigga name. Bartholomew.

[Andrea]

Lex. Nobody's name is Bartholomew except for your fucking dog.

[Lex P]

Too soon. Too soon.

[Andrea]

Nobody. I've never in my life met nobody named Bartholomew.

[Lex P]

Is a common name in the English in who in England? How do you know?

[Andrea]

How many English people do you know?

[Lex P]

Pip, pip, Cheerio us, Nigga. You don't even know that I've been to London twice.

[Andrea]

Right. And you met a whole bunch of people named Bartholomew.

[Lex P]

I met three named Bartholomew when I went.

[Andrea]

I don't believe you would have thought.

[Lex P]

I went without you.

[Andrea]

But you would have came back and talked. Cause you would have been like, I met three niggas named Bartholomew. Like my dog.

[Lex P]

I just told you just now.

[Andrea]

You're a liar.

[Lex P]

Okay, you're a liar.

[Andrea]

But no, I definitely feel like hood niggas be having the most proper names. Like Robert.

[Lex P]

Robert.

[Andrea]

William.

[Lex P]

Robert who? Kelly.

[Andrea]

Here you go again.

[Lex P]

Okay, Moving.

[Andrea]

We gonna find out his address so we can get you on a Pen pal list. Send him a little commissary. Get his jpay.

[Lex P]

Okay, moving on. Okay, well, let me ask you one more thing about names, then we gonna move on for real. How do you feel about women naming their kids juniors after them? That's what Chrisean did. Chrisean Junior. That's the baby's name?

[Andrea]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

So would you name your kid no matter if it was a boy or a girl?

[Andrea]

Respectfully, no. Cause I don't like my name enough to name my child a junior.

[Lex P]

Why? What's wrong with your name?

[Andrea]

I don't think nothing is wrong with it, but I want to name my kids something that's like.

[Lex P]

Like Chancellor.

[Andrea]

No.

[Lex P]

Oh.

[Andrea]

I want to name my kids something that's, like, not so typical. Like, I feel like Andrea is such, like, a typical name. But I also think if I'm. But to be fair. To be fair with my parents, when I was born in the early 90s, elder millennial, it was not. I didn't.

[Lex P]

My.

[Andrea]

I don't think my parents knew that many, like, black girls with my name.

[Lex P]

So I thought they ate that.

[Andrea]

They did.

[Lex P]

I think every black person that Andrea. And they always adding Nicole. Every black girl's middle name is Nicole.

[Andrea]

Is Nicole. Facts. So I think that my parents definitely thought they ate that because they didn't know anybody in proximity to them with that name. But as I started to get older and stuff, like, it's. I mean, it's a good amount of people with my name, whether they pronounce the Internet. Andrea, what was going on when everybody.

[Lex P]

Was naming their kids Ashley and Britney, though?

[Andrea]

I have, like, four cousins named Britney.

[Lex P]

Like, what?

[Andrea]

And they was all born the same year.

[Lex P]

It's so many Britneys.

[Andrea]

92 was a good year.

[Lex P]

Yes. But I'm talking about, like, from, like, 80. I'll say from like, 85 to, like, 93.

[Andrea]

I mean, I feel like Jasmine, too, though.

[Lex P]

Yeah, that's my sister name.

[Andrea]

A lot of Jasmines.

[Lex P]

Courtney's.

[Andrea]

Yeah, a lot of Brianna's.

[Lex P]

Who?

[Andrea]

Brianna Breeze.

[Lex P]

We know a lot of breed.

[Andrea]

We know a lot of Brianna's. But. Yeah. So I wouldn't name my child Junior just because. Yeah, I don't feel like my name just eat like that to name you Junior.

[Lex P]

What about a hyphen? We don't have to say your last with, like, a hyphen. Would you do your hyphen when you get married? Are you gonna hyphenate your life?

[Andrea]

That name? Sure. Don't eat.

[Lex P]

See my last name?

[Andrea]

E. Your last name is cute. My honey's a night.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Andrea]

It ain't bad, but it ain't cute. To where I'm like, I need to keep this.

[Lex P]

I'm a wig. Okay.

[Andrea]

I think with women, but I think when women do that to me, that'd be like a power struggle thing. Cause I also feel like, why do you want to get married if you want to still keep your last name?

[Lex P]

It's like Jada Pinkett Smith.

[Andrea]

Let's go into topic number two.

[Lex P]

Well, first, we gotta get.

[Andrea]

And I love Jada. I do.

[Lex P]

I do, too.

[Andrea]

I love Jada.

[Lex P]

I really do.

[Andrea]

But, yeah, I just. I be feeling like it's a. It's a power struggle thing.

[Lex P]

That's what Kim Kardashian. It was Kim Kardashian. West kkw. She didn't let go of that Kardashian name.

[Andrea]

Yeah, but she built a whole billion dollar empire with her last name before she got married, so. Well, million dollar empire at the time, before she got married. I mean, I feel like if you don't build brands and stuff, then that's understandable. Yeah, but, like, you just. Little Keisha from 73rd.

[Lex P]

Where is 73rd?

[Andrea]

And you just want to keep your last name. Williams, why?

[Lex P]

You ain't right.

[Andrea]

Why do you want to keep your last name?

[Lex P]

What have you done with bloodline?

[Andrea]

The child still gonna have the bloodline whether you keep the last name or not.

[Lex P]

It's so crazy that there's no blood in them. Yeah. Yeah. It's so crazy, though, with that Kardashian name. Like, Rob was, like, the last boy.

[Andrea]

Yeah. And then it's also a very uncommon last name. And they built, like, a legacy with. So I get it. But I don't know.

[Lex P]

But Rob can still have more children, too. He can still have time to have a boy.

[Andrea]

Beyonce did keep Knowles Carter. But again, Beyonce.

[Lex P]

Yeah, she did keep Knowles Carter, But Knowles is a unique last name, too. And that's two good last names. Knowles and Carter.

[Andrea]

8.

[Lex P]

8. Oh, I do the wrong. I think. What is it?

[Andrea]

I think it's the middle finger.

[Lex P]

Frankie made a video correcting the pit girls. I can't remember.

[Andrea]

Yeah, I think it's the middle finger.

[Lex P]

I asked on TikTok Live, and they were just. They couldn't give me a real answer. Anyways, moving on. Okay, so we got drink of the week with our girl Sharita. Hi, Sharita. Hi. Okay, so before we get into the drink of the week, let us know a little bit about yourself and your bartending history and all that good stuff. Cause they gonna be asking in the comments, Chad. So my name is Sharita.

[Andrea]

I'm originally from Philly. I've been bartending for about 16 years. Although I don't look like it. Lookin like a baby. I started in 2008 at like a family restaurant, but I've been bartending ever.

[Jaleesa]

Since, working in the retail hospitality industry.

[Andrea]

My most recent role was just like in management, bar programs and things like that, so. And now I'm here and honored.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Andrea]

Good to have you here.

[Lex P]

So let me ask you this. Cause we talk about this a lot. Do you notice the difference with like the money in bartending? Like when the strip club, like when Jeezy and all them used to be in the strip clubs and the money then versus the money now, like in the clubs. I don't know if you. You probably don't work in the clubs no more, obviously, but I didn't work.

[Andrea]

In a lot of clubs. The only club I actually worked at was King of Diamonds. I worked at a strip club a couple of years ago.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Andrea]

And even the money then was trash.

[Lex P]

These celebrities out here, they not really born with that.

[Andrea]

They're not really. Yeah.

[Lex P]

Okay. They're not.

[Andrea]

But it definitely has changed more so since COVID The money has completely changed.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Andrea]

So, yeah, I feel you, girl.

[Lex P]

Cause I be like, damn. Like, knock on wood. I know that you know we gonna not. But like, if I ever had to like go back to work, I wouldn't go back bartending. It's not worth it. Yeah, I don't think it's worth it. I would rather just go. Like, if y' all see me somewhere, I'm gonna go have a 9 to 5 again.

[Andrea]

Yeah. I feel like everybody that I know that works in the clubs or used to work in the clubs, they said the same thing. Like, it's changed a lot. And a lot of the places that you do make money, they're not hiring because people stay because you make money.

[Lex P]

Then I'm telling you.

[Jaleesa]

So it's hard to get in those type things of.

[Andrea]

Of places.

[Lex P]

When I used to work at Dreams, Ain't nobody Coming up, every time they would try to hire people, I'd be like, nope, I don't need no help.

[Andrea]

No.

[Lex P]

Like, they literally couldn't hire nobody because I would always.

[Andrea]

You would always say no.

[Lex P]

Always say no. Okay, girl, what we.

[Andrea]

What we drinking? All right, so this week's drink is inspired by that Andy Bryan scandal. Oh, yeah.

[Lex P]

With his HR mistress.

[Andrea]

Oh, right. So this drink is called Full Benefit.

[Lex P]

I know that. Right.

[Andrea]

So it has your spirit of choice, a little bit of lavender, a little grapefruit juice, lemon juice, and it is topped with a blueberry and lemon wheel as a garnish. She's floral, she's flirty, she's scandalous, and she packs a lot of perks. And she is open for new positions, real hr, period.

[Lex P]

And I hope that cleans him out.

[Andrea]

Yeah, I mean. Cause that's crazy. Imagine trying to sneak and creep with your little side boo and y' all end up on a jumbotron at a concert.

[Lex P]

But not only that, can you imagine? The wife was probably at home, probably like, damn, I wish we could go on a date night and we could have some time together. And he like, oh, I gotta go to work, I gotta do this. And you're at home at the Coldplay concert with your mistress and it was all yellow, like. And then you took her to a bomb ass concert. You didn't take her to see no bullshit. No, you took her to see Coldplay. Like, y' all went to a lit concert. Y' all in box seats, bitch. Or wherever they. It looked like they was in.

[Andrea]

I mean, they better be. He the CEO.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Andrea]

And wasn't she. She married too.

[Lex P]

Yes, she's married. But now y' all know they have a. They replaced him with the CEO.

[Andrea]

Well, he resigned. Yeah, he resigned.

[Lex P]

So I hope she clean him out. I hope she clean them out. I want it all. I'm coming for what we gonna see.

[Andrea]

I'm sure we're gonna be updated shortly.

[Lex P]

Y' all know we gonna love that update. Y' all love, period.

[Andrea]

Hey, y'.

[Lex P]

All.

[Andrea]

So this week we are doing our first business spotlight. You know, we are trying to highlight businesses that are up and coming. And this is a business that I love, that I have been supporting for a very, very, very long time. I love your products so much. So I'm so excited to have you on the couch.

[Lex P]

Thank you.

[Andrea]

This is Jaleesa and she's the owner of Salt xo. So I'm gonna let you tell the girls about your business. Unless they've been living under a rock, they should already know.

[Jaleesa]

Yeah, unless y' all been living under a rock.

[Andrea]

Thank you.

[Jaleesa]

So I'm Julissa. I'm the founder of Salt XO. I started Salt in 2018 as a college student because all the stuff that we were using, it was just throwing off my ph. Like it was throwing me to the moon.

[Andrea]

Right.

[Jaleesa]

And honestly, like, as a woman, you know, like, it can build some sort of insecurity, can make you super self conscious, especially when you're being intimate, you know, like.

[Andrea]

Right.

[Jaleesa]

You don't want to have to worry.

[Lex P]

About dealing like a fish fry on a Friday night. Thank you. Exactly.

[Andrea]

Exactly. In the simplest words.

[Jaleesa]

So I started researching essential oils and natural ingredients, and then I figured out, dang, God gave us everything that we needed. Naturally, we didn't have to use all that extra stuff. And then I started just. Just literally looking up on my computer, finding out how I can blend these ingredients together to create a soap. I created one soap. I went to a step show, and I gave out the soaps to the girls at the step show, and they were locked in. And at that very moment, it was up.

[Andrea]

Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

Like, all it took was for one person to experience it, for them to tell their homegirls, like, oh, my God, this product has changed the game.

[Andrea]

So that really started it. Yeah. When I was in college. That's amazing. That's really dope, because I feel like you had a vision and you started with what you had. We always talk about that on the show. People always think they have to have everything together to start a business, when in reality, you don't. You just need to have the vision and the plan.

[Jaleesa]

Yeah. Because I think even right now, people look at me and say, dang, like, I wish I can do that, but you don't understand. It took me seven years to get here. We just turned seven years old in April. Sometimes people will be like, oh, you know, I want to get to where you are. Girl, you got some years to go, and you gotta be comfortable with the journey. You just can't try to rush it because you see someone online showing they have a warehouse, they have employees, they have all of these orders coming in. No, this took real grit, real determination. Like, this was not a microwavable product or business or journey, you know, so.

[Lex P]

So when you first started and you were, like, trying different combinations and doing all that stuff, did you ever, like, try something and it was like, oh, this is not it.

[Jaleesa]

Absolutely.

[Lex P]

Like, how did you. Did you have, like, chemists you were working with, or you just did everything on your own?

[Jaleesa]

No, girl, I was a broke college student. So everything was just me trying it on myself, my friends and my family. Those were my guinea pigs. And so I tried one formula on my mom, and she said, baby, uh.

[Andrea]

This ain't gonna work.

[Jaleesa]

And one thing I can count on, my mom is gonna be honest, right? She's gonna tell me, uh, babes, we gotta go back to the lab with that one.

[Andrea]

Okay, so, yes, it was a product.

[Jaleesa]

I was Trying like this tropical sweet soap. She said stick to the grasslands and.

[Lex P]

Stuff that you used to.

[Jaleesa]

Because this wasn't right.

[Lex P]

And that's what I say too. Talk about like. Cause a lot of times products down there because you know the coochie war is going to be in the comments.

[Andrea]

Check.

[Lex P]

I know. Because they're always like, oh, it's a self cleaning. Don't do this, don't put that.

[Andrea]

No, you need to wash it.

[Jaleesa]

You need to wash it.

[Andrea]

So, so.

[Lex P]

But talk about that like how, like what are the ingredients that we're supposed to be looking at? Like when we pick up a salt xo and we see the ingredient list, like what are we supposed to be looking for?

[Jaleesa]

So you're looking at the essential oils that we put in it.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

Because one of the most important ingredients is tea tree oil that we use. It's antifungal. It's antibacterial.

[Lex P]

I use tea tree oil on my toes.

[Andrea]

Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

And it's antifungal.

[Andrea]

Antibacterial.

[Jaleesa]

And you want to use an antibacterial soap down there.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

You see, I thought about everything.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Andrea]

I ain't no Joe Schmo.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Jaleesa]

I did my research. So the tea tree oil is really, really important. And I think that people don't understand how valuable essential oils are because they're like the purest form of healing. You can take it. I know some people have seen videos of, of people ingesting oregano oil.

[Andrea]

Oh, I love oregano oil. I love tea tree oil too, girl.

[Lex P]

Oh my gosh.

[Jaleesa]

I love oregano oil. I've seen there's like pads and tampons.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

Oregano oil now and tea tree oil.

[Andrea]

That is the holy grail, I'm telling you.

[Jaleesa]

That's why I tell people like, everything naturally grown is already here to heal us. Like, you don't have to do. You don't have to, you know, find out other things to use.

[Lex P]

It's already here.

[Jaleesa]

It's already naturally grown. So I think that is so wonderful that I was able to figure out how to naturally heal women.

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[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

Because I didn't want to keep doing what we were doing in the past, like what our mamas and our aunties and our grandmas used. They were using all of the stuff. We don't got a name drop.

[Lex P]

Yeah, right.

[Jaleesa]

They were using the stuff that was throwing them off and they were trying to figure out why do I keep going to the gyno.

[Lex P]

Why it was a little stinky under the moomoos. Yeah. When you laying down Stinky under the moo moos.

[Jaleesa]

When you laying down to get your hair braided.

[Lex P]

Like, sit right here, babe.

[Andrea]

I don't wanna be right here. It's not baby, it's a fire.

[Lex P]

Okay. Yes, yes. Literally.

[Andrea]

So it's another use nor forms and all that stuff too much.

[Lex P]

It's a lie.

[Jaleesa]

Cause they didn't know. You don't know. You don't know.

[Lex P]

So I do kinda wanna talk about. Cause you have a oil that I've been seeing the girls talk about too that like works well on scars.

[Jaleesa]

Yes.

[Lex P]

Because you know, I'm a surgery girl child and you know, I was a rough little kid. I got the little. So talk about the oil and how does it, like, how are, like, what results should people expect realistically from using that oil?

[Jaleesa]

So that oil just went viral on TikTok. We sold like 200,000 bottles.

[Andrea]

Wow.

[Jaleesa]

This year alone.

[Andrea]

Amazing.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Andrea]

Because I like the oil.

[Jaleesa]

The oil is so.

[Andrea]

It's good for ingrown, it's good for.

[Jaleesa]

Ingrown, it's good for hyperpigmentation. So I had two C sections.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

And the reason why that oil went viral is because a lady was telling our customers, hey, I use this on my liposuction scars and my scars have gone away. And you know, sometimes they give you the silicone.

[Lex P]

Yeah, the scar sheets.

[Jaleesa]

It doesn't work.

[Lex P]

They don't work.

[Jaleesa]

It doesn't. Let's just be real.

[Andrea]

It doesn't work.

[Jaleesa]

So this oil has lemon, it also has turmeric. And you know, those are naturally brightening ingredients. So when you're using that and you're also using a skin like oil that doesn't clog your pores, that's going to help you reduce those scarring, reduce the ingrown hairs. Because for me, I wax. Y' all wax?

[Lex P]

Yes. I'm a waxer.

[Jaleesa]

Yeah, I'm a waxer.

[Andrea]

Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

If I shave, I'll get ingrown hairs like crazy really bad. I don't know what it is. And then as soon as I get my wax. You know how it's kind of, like, swollen after you have inflammation? You apply that oil as soon as you're done with a wax. It's like your coochie has taken a deep breath. It is incredible.

[Lex P]

See, my coochie got asthma. Yeah. So it be coughing, but that's better.

[Andrea]

Still, using a yoni gel, I be feeling like my coochie took a deep breath. This tingly.

[Lex P]

I like that.

[Jaleesa]

It's so refreshing.

[Lex P]

So the oil, does it work on old scars, new scars, or both?

[Jaleesa]

You can use them on both. I use them on my C section scar.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

And then I also use them on my underarms. I use it on my butt. So if you have a darker butt.

[Andrea]

Yeah, I do.

[Lex P]

Got that dark booty hole. It is. It's a little crunchy down there, you know, I don't know.

[Andrea]

That's gonna help with the head.

[Lex P]

It might.

[Jaleesa]

It might use it on that booty hole.

[Lex P]

I'm gonna use it on the booty. I'm gonna do a three. Three month test trial. Let y' all know in nine.

[Jaleesa]

And the girls use it on their booty holes.

[Andrea]

Oh, you can use it there.

[Jaleesa]

You can use it on your bikini line. I wish I could show you. I'll show you my bikini line off.

[Lex P]

I was gonna say I was looking.

[Jaleesa]

Cause I don't mind. I don't mind. Like, I'm like, hey, I'm a girl's girl. I'm gonna show you the results. So, you know, I'm not just Kat.

[Lex P]

Okay. Okay.

[Jaleesa]

But it definitely works. And I like to use it because it's just soothing. It's very soothing. It has lemongrass in it was. Which is a very calming essential oil. And it also has peppermint in it.

[Andrea]

So that gives you simulated feeling.

[Jaleesa]

So it'll kind of. It'll turn you up if you want it to. So it's multipurpose.

[Lex P]

I like that.

[Andrea]

So you were just talking about, you know, the importance of taking care of yourself down there, especially when it comes to intimacy. So could you touch a little bit on. We talked about the yoni gel because you talk about the erotica gel. Oh, my gosh.

[Jaleesa]

Okay, so the erotica gel. You like the erotica gel?

[Andrea]

I do, girl. I use both.

[Jaleesa]

The erotica gel is our aphrodisiac shower gel.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

And the reason why it's an aphrodisiac is because we use essential oils that stimulate your libido. Yes. So the reason why I even created this is because I had A customer who had pcos, and her libido had plummeted, and she had just got pregnant. Not just got pregnant. She had just gotten married, and she was trying to conceive, and she was trying to get her, you know, her mojo back a little bit.

[Andrea]

Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

You know, amplify it. And so I was thinking, I'm like, dang, I want to really create something for women, because I know a lot of black women experience pcos, and there's not a lot of natural solutions. They'll just try to give you something to get you out of the way. But there's not a lot of natural solutions in terms of helping you boost your libido. And so I said, you know what? Let me look up some essential oils. There's essential oils to boost your libido, to get you more turned up in the moment, to give you that desire. And that's what that body wash is for, because it stimulates the senses, and, you know, the skin is the largest organ on your body, so it's gonna get deep in there, and it's gonna get that girl like a water park.

[Lex P]

Oh, it seeps in them pores.

[Jaleesa]

It seeps in.

[Andrea]

It works.

[Lex P]

Okay, I like that. So you have the oil.

[Jaleesa]

Yes.

[Lex P]

The. What's the erotic?

[Jaleesa]

Erotica gel.

[Lex P]

Erotica gel.

[Jaleesa]

Yoni gel.

[Lex P]

Yoni gel. And so those are the three.

[Jaleesa]

Like, those are our heroes. But we have a complete, like, catalog. Body wash, body scrubs, oil, deodorant. Booty deodorant.

[Lex P]

I know y' all love good old booty deodorant. I know you love the deodorant.

[Andrea]

It smell like pineapple.

[Lex P]

It smells.

[Andrea]

So when you go down there.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

Could you imagine eating a booty pineapple?

[Andrea]

Smell like a pineapple.

[Lex P]

A moody apple. Ooh, a booty apple. I like that. I love it. See, I'm like. Cause I'm so. I am, like, champion for, like, smelling good.

[Jaleesa]

I love smelling good.

[Lex P]

Intense.

[Jaleesa]

That's my personality.

[Andrea]

It's literally my personality.

[Lex P]

It's a personality trait. I don't care what people say. She always talk about smelling good.

[Andrea]

I love it.

[Lex P]

You must think. Cause why you mad that I like talking about smelling good?

[Jaleesa]

Thank you.

[Lex P]

But I have, like, a very extensive shower routine, so I posted my shower routine the other day, and it actually kind of, like, went viral. And honestly, it started from the episode where Draya talked about, you know, salt XO and, like, how she uses the products. That's the number one compliment, like, Dre gets a lot, too, is that she smells good. So what Is your shower routine, like, give us the order of, like, the stuff and how you use the products. What is your shower routine?

[Jaleesa]

So we have this scrub called body. Like our serving body scrub.

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[Jaleesa]

And it's brown crystallized sugar.

[Lex P]

Okay. Down.

[Jaleesa]

I mean, the way my body. Like, if y' all could just rub me down.

[Andrea]

Just rub.

[Jaleesa]

But you have rub.

[Lex P]

Yeah, you have.

[Andrea]

It's just.

[Jaleesa]

It's nice and It's. I exfoliate four times a week. I'm in there about 30. 30 to 45 minutes. I'm taking. Cause I'm so intentional about shower time.

[Andrea]

Ye.

[Jaleesa]

So I don't like to rush the process. I like to really take care of my body. So I'm using our exfoliating scrub.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

I also love our vitamin C scrub, which is a turmeric and vitamin C wash, which helps with hyperpigmentation. So in case, like, you get, like, back acne, leg acne, underarms.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Andrea]

I love that.

[Jaleesa]

I use that daily. And I use our grapefruit, our seedless or. Or even the seeded yoni gel. And I just. I just start just all squeezing because I know it's fire. Because I made it.

[Lex P]

Right. I know that's right.

[Jaleesa]

Thank you. Everything is ph balanced. Exactly.

[Lex P]

Okay. So.

[Jaleesa]

And I think that it's really important to know exactly what you're putting on your body.

[Andrea]

Right.

[Jaleesa]

Because I'm confident in using salt. Xo because I know exactly what I put in it. Because I made the formula, like, when I was in college, I didn't have a chemist, but now I have a chemist.

[Andrea]

I know.

[Lex P]

That's right.

[Jaleesa]

You know, so I'm able to, like, show share what is the ingredients, and then we're able to. To create the formula, and everything is just like totally balanced and aligned. So I love a good old scrub. And as soon as I get out that shower, I'm putting on my rejuven oil.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

Oh, my gosh. And then it just makes me purr. Oh, my gosh. Could you just imagine just laying down, it's just calling out, I can't wait.

[Lex P]

To use these products.

[Andrea]

Oh, my God, they feel so good. And then I feel like every girl needs to have their post sex hygiene or whatever. Yes. And I feel like these are really good products for that as well.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

Cause you got it.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

You gotta wash it down. You gotta wash it down.

[Lex P]

So let me ask you this, though, because, you know, we have a lot of male listeners too, and you know, a lot of people that are part of the community and some, you know, a lot of straight men as well. Can men use these products?

[Jaleesa]

Absolutely. I recommend that your partner uses Salt xl.

[Andrea]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

Because whatever he uses is going right inside of you. So if he's using highly fragranced products and trying to smell like oceans and musk and all types of stuff, it's going right inside of you.

[Lex P]

Boom.

[Jaleesa]

Direct connect. So whatever you use, essentially, it's just gonna knock it off.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Andrea]

Right.

[Jaleesa]

And so I think that men, me personally, my brothers, my friends, my guy friends, they use salt.

[Lex P]

Excel, they use salt.

[Jaleesa]

And there was just a guy who went viral on Tick Tock saying, like, hey, y' all use this wash. Yeah. So that y' all don't throw off your girl's ph. I think it's a love language to take to. Want to be very conscious of what you use on your body when you're having. When you have intercourse with your girl.

[Lex P]

Oh, yeah.

[Jaleesa]

You don't want to just use anything because our ph can get thrown off. Off so easily.

[Lex P]

Oh, my gosh.

[Jaleesa]

Like, so easily. So I'm just super careful with stuff like that. And I think guys definitely should use. That's, like, really great question.

[Lex P]

Okay, so do you have any plans for, like, future products? Like, things that you can give us a little tea on, like.

[Jaleesa]

So we just launched our minis.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Andrea]

Like, last week. I'm so excited about.

[Jaleesa]

I'm so excited about the minis.

[Lex P]

Taking this coochie on the road.

[Jaleesa]

No, take the coochie on the road.

[Andrea]

Seriously.

[Jaleesa]

It's so good, and it's so cute. Me, I love when things look good.

[Lex P]

Yes.

[Jaleesa]

I'm a true girl.

[Andrea]

Yes.

[Lex P]

I was just about. I am a packaging girl.

[Jaleesa]

Don't you love, like.

[Andrea]

Let's talk about that.

[Lex P]

No cap. This is probably some of the prettiest packaging I've seen.

[Andrea]

It is.

[Lex P]

I talk about. I've talked about the, like, products that I use down there, But I'm not gonna lie. It's not, like, pretty packaging.

[Jaleesa]

It's just, like, you know, regular Degla schmegler regular.

[Lex P]

But, like, this is, like, like, cute.

[Andrea]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

It's like, yeah, I keep that coochie clean and cute.

[Andrea]

Yeah, exactly. Huh.

[Jaleesa]

So we just launched our Minis. This is great for travel. You can keep it in your purse. I thought about everything. I'm like, okay. For the girls who want to do a spend a night bag, keep in your purse, Keep it discreet, keep it cute.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

For the girls who want to travel and have luggage, it's not taking up too much space.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

You know, and then even if you're just want to have something on the go. Keep it in your glove compartment.

[Lex P]

Yeah, I know that's right.

[Andrea]

Hey, keep it in your grubby wipe on the go.

[Jaleesa]

You gotta do what you gotta do on the go.

[Lex P]

Cause y' all twerk when it be funky sometimes. Yeah. So sometimes you need to go to the bathroom, wipe it down a little bit. You know, you got to do what you got to do.

[Jaleesa]

So it's just so beautiful. And I love that. Now girls have access to use it, and they don't have to keep transferring.

[Andrea]

Products into smaller bottles into the travel side.

[Jaleesa]

Yeah, like, no, you got your Salt XO branded products. Products everywhere you go. And just hold it close because the. The housekeepers like to steal Salt xl.

[Andrea]

I heard about that. I believe it. I believe it. And let me tell you something too. Your products last for so long. Like, I've been using Salt XO products since you had the other packaging.

[Jaleesa]

Oh, the clear bottle.

[Andrea]

Clear bottle, yes. So that one bottle lasts me for like a whole year. Yeah, yeah, it lasts me a little bit. Goes a long way.

[Lex P]

Or if you got a big coochie, you.

[Andrea]

Well, I mean, that's our problem.

[Lex P]

Okay, okay.

[Andrea]

But it lathers so well. And it. It just. It's so amazing. I love it.

[Lex P]

Let me ask y' all this. Like, this is, I think will be like a good gift.

[Andrea]

Like a sock perfect gift, birthday gift.

[Lex P]

But, like, what if you had, like, a friend and she got. She kind of got a little stink. Would you just gift them salt or would you have a conversation about it?

[Andrea]

I would just gift it to her because I feel like, you know, what's wrong with giving your friends some products that you really like? Like, I myself and I like it. So, girl, here you go. Because I think you will really enjoy it and reap the benefits from it.

[Jaleesa]

I think if you position it like that, like, I use it, like, make it so that she doesn't feel like she's isolated in it. Cuz it's all about how you say things, how you present things.

[Andrea]

Right.

[Jaleesa]

You know, but for me, I don't really have friends that would. Sit down. Air. You can't be around a coochie queen with. Sit down.

[Andrea]

Sit down.

[Jaleesa]

I'm always keeping them knowledgeable of what to use and how to take care of our body.

[Andrea]

So it's like.

[Jaleesa]

Like they know, but if they do, just in case, it's a loving conversation.

[Lex P]

I think so too. But honestly, if you Jaleesa friend and your coochie stank, you really just don't.

[Andrea]

Care about Nah, you know?

[Jaleesa]

Cause I was like, come on.

[Lex P]

Like, you with the coochie queen. You with the coochie queen. You know what I mean?

[Andrea]

Like, literally.

[Lex P]

But I do think that's okay to have conversations with your friends like that. I feel like it's so taboo, like, to be like, oh, my gosh, girl. Like, my ph was off. Like, oh, my gosh, what are you using? Like, I think conversations like this, people act like it's not normal or we all haven't been through it before. Oh, no. Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

And I'm not exempt. Like, if my ph gets thrown off, I know exactly what to do. It's like, you just have to know what to do. You just can't sit in it and just be like, okay, you know what? My ph is off. I'm just sitting it. Oh, no, baby, I know exactly what to do.

[Andrea]

Okay, boo boo, boo boo, let's go.

[Lex P]

We're good.

[Andrea]

You know what I mean? Okay. Exactly.

[Lex P]

Say somebody is like, jaleesa, my ph is off. What's the first step? And what? Like, the products that she should use? And it's nothing. But, like, honestly, sometimes y' all need to go to the doctor. But we're talking about something light.

[Jaleesa]

Okay.

[Lex P]

Your ph got thrown off, and, you know, it's something light. What is the first product they should dive into?

[Jaleesa]

First product, you're gonna use our boric acid suppositories.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Andrea]

Oh, I love suppositories.

[Jaleesa]

Oh, man. And our suppositories work in one day. A lot of suppositories. It takes three to seven days.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

Yeah, one day. Cause you don't have time for that.

[Lex P]

Sure don't.

[Jaleesa]

You don't have time to be sitting down marinating for two days.

[Lex P]

I'm trying to book tonight. Clear it off. Thank you. Get that shit out of here. I love that I'm sold already. That's all you had to say. One day. This really wrong word. For real. Sold. I love the suppository. Okay.

[Andrea]

I'm so.

[Jaleesa]

One day.

[Andrea]

I love stuff that works quickly when I tell you, because after your cycle.

[Jaleesa]

Your ph is gonna be thrown off. It's just been through too much.

[Andrea]

Yes.

[Jaleesa]

Your cycle will be thrown off. And even after intimacy, I highly recommend that women insert a suppository, you know, sometime. And it's not an all the time thing.

[Lex P]

Right.

[Jaleesa]

But sometimes. Let's just say he releases inside of you.

[Lex P]

Release.

[Jaleesa]

Let's go.

[Lex P]

Keep it cute.

[Andrea]

Come on. That was so classy.

[Lex P]

That was very classy. You see, if he released the suppository. Yes, yes.

[Jaleesa]

Then it might throw it off the knocker.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

Then you're gonna put that suppository in. In one day.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

And I took. It took me so long to perfect this formula because a lot of suppositories, it takes.

[Andrea]

Takes so long.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

For it to fully clear up. I don't have time. And I just tell myself I don't have time.

[Lex P]

I really don't.

[Andrea]

I got things to do, people to see.

[Jaleesa]

I got stuff to do.

[Andrea]

Right.

[Lex P]

Exactly.

[Jaleesa]

Knock it up out of here ASAP.

[Andrea]

All right.

[Jaleesa]

24 hours. So the positive stories, then you're going to use your yoni wash.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

So you can either use the grapefruit. It's our sensitive version.

[Lex P]

Either.

[Jaleesa]

All three work amazingly, and it's going to maintain your ph.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

So it's going to make sure that it does not throw it off. So if you use these products, it's not going to throw you off. It's going to help you maintain it.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Andrea]

But if you need to restore your.

[Jaleesa]

Ph, use that suppository one day and you're good to go.

[Lex P]

Love that.

[Jaleesa]

And it'll have you tasting so good.

[Lex P]

A little flavor down there. Yeah.

[Andrea]

Together. Okay. And Jalisa got y'.

[Lex P]

All. Okay. So tell everybody, because obviously, you know, like she said, y' all been living on the rock. If y' all don't know where Salt XO is, but let them know where they can follow you at and Salt XO where they can get all the products, all that good stuff.

[Jaleesa]

Yes. So you can find us@saltxo on Instagram, salt xo on tick tock, saltxo.com and my personal page is jaleesa xo. We have the best feminine hygiene products in the world, period. Not the nation, in the world. And once you try our products one time, I promise you our customer retention rate is through the roof.

[Lex P]

That's crazy.

[Jaleesa]

They're coming back. And we've been in business for seven years, so this is a tried and true product. And I'm really proud of what I've built so far. So thank y'.

[Lex P]

All. Let me give you your flowers, too. Because as a black woman, a young black woman, you are. You have it together like it's a. You know, I haven't used it yet. Cause I'm gonna give you an honest review now.

[Jaleesa]

Yeah, yeah. No, I can't wait.

[Lex P]

But the way you have. Cause I've always heard of your products. You know what I'm saying? But the way you market yourself, and the way you have just. You believe in yourself. I mean, you pink head to toe, girl. Thank you. You know what I'm saying? And the way I just love. I love to see black women out here really pushing their business and staying on the goal and getting it done and helping other women out. Yeah. Seriously. Yeah.

[Jaleesa]

Thank you.

[Lex P]

So congratulations. Thank you for sitting on this couch. And I can't wait to watch Garfield tonight. I can't wait for you.

[Jaleesa]

No, seriously, I'm gonna hit you, girl.

[Lex P]

And I'm gonna let you know, because I'm big. I have a lot of look. I got like 16 lipo scars now. So I'm finna use that consistency. Yes. Cause I'm a skincare girl, too.

[Andrea]

So I have a literally like a.

[Lex P]

50 step, step skincare routine.

[Jaleesa]

Okay.

[Lex P]

So I'm add this to my.

[Jaleesa]

Sometimes that's what it takes.

[Lex P]

Yes. So I'm a person. Adding this to my routine is going to be a breeze because I already have a long routine anyway. So I'm gonna switch out my products today.

[Jaleesa]

Okay.

[Lex P]

Today.

[Andrea]

And I think that was a really good point that you were about to touch on, too, about consistency. Because a lot of the time people think, oh, I'm gonna use something once. No, I'm gonna use something twice, and I should see results already. You have to use something for a long period of time consistently to see the results.

[Jaleesa]

Yeah. Because if you've been doing bad for a long time, you can't expect to do good one time and then.

[Andrea]

Right.

[Jaleesa]

Change.

[Andrea]

Yep.

[Lex P]

So.

[Jaleesa]

And also, y', all, before I even go, like, make sure y' all drinking water.

[Lex P]

Yep.

[Jaleesa]

You cannot just use these products and then just be drinking soda, drinking juice, all that. All that sugar. Yeast.

[Andrea]

Love sugar.

[Jaleesa]

Sugar and yeast. They go together.

[Lex P]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

So while you baking pies inside your coochie, your body is breeding that yeast. It's like it's growing. So when you're getting your pap smears and your gyno is like, oh, my gosh, I can literally see the yeast.

[Andrea]

I can see the discharge.

[Lex P]

Bacon bread.

[Jaleesa]

It's bacon bread. So try to drink as much water as possible.

[Andrea]

Okay.

[Jaleesa]

Like, I keep a water by my nightstand. Y' all like water by your nightstand?

[Andrea]

Yeah. I love me a little water by my little jet with my little thing.

[Jaleesa]

I love my. My Mountain Valley. That's my favorite water.

[Andrea]

I love mountain Valley, too. Huh?

[Lex P]

Yes. Well, thank you so much.

[Andrea]

This was amazing. This is amazing.

[Lex P]

Your products are beautiful. And we leaving out of town tomorrow, so I'm packing my stuff up.

[Jaleesa]

Oh, yeah. All of that is for y'.

[Andrea]

All.

[Jaleesa]

So y' all do what y' all can.

[Andrea]

You guys find your supply? I do.

[Lex P]

Look.

[Andrea]

I really do.

[Lex P]

She takes it everywhere she goes. No, literally all the time.

[Andrea]

I be putting it in my little travel size containers. But now I could just pick up my bottle and go.

[Lex P]

Yes. So y' all make sure y' all go to saltxo.com and load up on y' all products and get that coochie smelling right. Shout out to the coochie queen. Yeah. All right, what's the next topic?

[Andrea]

Topic number two, would you be mad at your friend if they congratulated you privately but not publicly online? How do you feel about that?

[Lex P]

I think it depends on the situation because I'm not. It's crazy because I am a Internet personality, but I'm not necessarily an Internet girl. You know, like sometimes a long paragraph and you're like congratulating me and you're being sentimental and you're telling me like, oh, you came from this and you came. Whatever the case may be, that means more to me than an Instagram post. Like something thoughtful. So I like thoughtful stuff. So honestly, like. Cause a lot of times people do things on the Internet to be performative. So I think it depends. Cause it depends on the person though as well. Like if you're a person, you always congratulating people online and you're always telling people like happy birthday, Congratulations. And then when it's my turn, you don't do it. That's a little weird. But if it's just somebody like we're really close friends and you took the time out to write me a sentimental message or whatever the case may be, I wouldn't care. But like I said, it just depends on the situation. You can make a difference in someone's.

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[Andrea]

Yeah, I mean I feel that way too. I just feel like it's we it it get weird. It gets a little weird when you do it with other people but then you don't do it with your other like with specific friends. Then I Think it's strange if you just a person across the board where you don't really be on social media like that. You don't really write long cat captions, long paragraphs. You don't really send that type of stuff on social media.

[Lex P]

I agree.

[Andrea]

Then I wouldn't care because that's just not even your personality. Like I said, I think it gets a little strange when it's like, specific to some friends, but not all your friends.

[Lex P]

Yeah, Yeah, I agree.

[Andrea]

Because then it starts to give. Okay, well, what's tease? We really friends or are we not.

[Lex P]

You hating a little bit?

[Andrea]

Yeah. Or maybe I don't even necessarily want to say hating, but maybe we just not as close as I thought we was. Because I. I see that you show love to other people and you can't. You're. You're clearly capable of showing love to other people and applauding other people when they have accomplishments, but, like, you don't really have that same energy. For me, then I think it'd be time to reevaluate the relationship. You know what I mean?

[Lex P]

Yeah. But I think that goes into. That's why I say you could be hating a little bit, because a lot of times people be like, why her, not me? Why him and not me?

[Andrea]

Yeah. And that's not a friend you want. That's not really your friend.

[Lex P]

Yeah, like, I'm. We say this all the time on the show. I'm a strong believer in if you can't clap for other people, it'll never be your turn.

[Andrea]

Yeah. I mean, life is about timing too. Like, everything is. Everything in your life happens in the timing that it's supposed to happen. You can't be looking at other people plate and wanting what they got on they play or feeling like, well, that's you, you know, even if it's beans on there, I don't mean I would steal that plate. Yeah, you tripping.

[Lex P]

I'm up on it.

[Andrea]

What if it. What if you steal the plate in the bean's nest? Nasty.

[Lex P]

I'm. I've only had beans that were nasty, like, one time in my life. Like, literally once in my life.

[Andrea]

I'm not gonna play with you. But anyways, like. Yeah, I just. I don't know. I think that life is about timing and, like, if you too worried about what everybody else doing, how you gonna get to where you trying to go?

[Lex P]

Right.

[Andrea]

How you gonna accomplish things yourself? You can't be worried about what other people are doing and comparing your story to theirs. So I don't know. I feel like if somebody is your real friend though, and they be online all the time being acknowledged by them, it does matter and.

[Lex P]

But I have a friend. I have friends like who don't be on the Internet all the time, but they still make sure to get online. It don't matter if I post a clip of Poor Minds or I post a clip of Lil xp, they reposting it and they're always making sure, you know, because even if they don't have a lot of followers, there may be somebody in their followers that would enjoy the content.

[Andrea]

Yeah.

[Lex P]

So I just think it's all about being supportive too and making sure friends are like, you know, visible. You know what I'm saying?

[Andrea]

I agree, I agree. I don't know, I, I have had experiences like that with people though. So I mean, did you say something to them? Yeah, I've said something before and then I just walked away.

[Lex P]

Like walked away emotionally or like physically? Like walked away.

[Andrea]

Like physically. Like we just don't be talking like that.

[Lex P]

Oh, okay.

[Andrea]

I don't really be caring like one thing about me which may or may not be a bad thing. I don't know. But like I, I reciprocate energy.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Andrea]

I'm very much that type of person in every area of my life. I' ma try hard until I'm not no more.

[Lex P]

Yeah, yeah, that makes sense.

[Andrea]

Cuz like when you're friends with people and you care about people, just like in a romantic relationship, you know you're gonna give a lot in the beginning, especially if you receiving that back or even if you not. Like maybe when you. Cuz I feel like when I was younger I just used to try to go really hard for my friends and like try to prove to them that like, oh, I love you, I care about you, I'm supporting you, whatever. As I have gotten older, I don't really care to go out my way to support people that don't support me. I reciprocate energy.

[Lex P]

Yeah.

[Andrea]

And I feel like my life has been much more easier and way less drama and stress since I started putting people in them categories. Like I'm gonna give you the energy that you give me until I. And then eventually if I gotta be that way with you, I'm not giving you no energy.

[Lex P]

I was just about to say that because I'm the type of person, I don't know how to give, I don't know how to compartmentalize very well. I don't know how to be somebody's friend and be like, oh, I can show up for you this way, but I can't show up that way. I know I can do this for you. If I can't go all in with you, I can't be your friend at all. You know what I'm saying? I don't know how to give somebody 50% because if you're giving me 50% and I'm giving you 100, we just don't need to be friends.

[Andrea]

I know how to give people 50% because I feel like every friendship ain't meant to be 100%. Like, I think people go into relationships feeling like, oh, we, you need to be a multi purpose friend. Everybody is not a multi purpose friend. Some people are friends for this. Some you're friends with some people for this reason and you're friends with other people for different reasons. This person might be fun to go out and have a good time with. You know you going to have a ball with them. This friend, though, is more of an emotionally supportive friend. This friend is one that I can go to church with. I could talk to God, talk about God with me. And this friend might be friends because we've both lost a parent and we both are grieving or know what that process or that feeling is like. Like I feel like. Or me and this person might be friends because we work in the same industry, the same career path. It's all for different reasons. And I think when you expect one person to show up for you in like 10 different ways, especially if that's how you show up, then that's not fair. Cause then you might be missing out on good people who may be good in this one area, but not others.

[Lex P]

I think that's why, like, my friend Killa told me that she was like, you need to make more friends. But I was like, no, I don't, because I'm okay with my circle. But like everything you just named, all of my friends show up for me.

[Andrea]

In all of those ways.

[Lex P]

Like you, Lauren, Killa, Belin and my sister. Like, those are like my main. That's my main circle. All of y' all do all of those for me. So I'll be like, I'm good. Like, maybe I probably have, you know, other friends on, like, you know, that do show up in like little ways. But I'm talking about like my tight circle. Like, I'm cool.

[Andrea]

Yeah. Yeah. I mean, I feel definitely in your tight circle. It's a little bit different. But I don't know, I just. That's why I always be open to making new friends because I Don't expect everybody to show up for me in the same way. Because if I'm being completely honest, I'm not even the type of person that's going to let you in like that automatically. No way. So I don't even expect you to show up in certain ways because you ain't even know enough about me to show up in certain ways. You know? I agree. I just think people gotta learn how to, like, you know, separate. Cause I think people really do. Like, including you. I do be agreeing with Killa to a certain extent. I feel like you could potentially miss out on, like, cool relationships just because you like, oh, I don't really need no more friends. Cause I got these four people.

[Lex P]

Well, I think with me too, I am such a. A specific type of person. Like, I just like certain type of people. And I know within 30 minutes of talking to you, if we gonna be like, I can tell. I know off the rip. Like, I just know. I don't know. I can just tell when I'm gonna be cool with somebody. And like I said, I don't know how to be. I don't know how to compartmentalize. I don't know how to do that. So I've recognized that. And that's just how I move, you know what I'm saying? Like, if I feel like, oh, we can go out together, but we necessarily can't. Like, you can't come over to my house and I can't tell you my bill. Cause I gets drunk and I like to spill tea, bitch. So I can't be your friend. Cause I'mma get drunk and start telling all my business.

[Andrea]

Not if you don't invite them to your house. But then you ain't gonna be drunk around unless you call them.

[Lex P]

But that's what I'm saying. I like to invite my friends to the house. No, you don't.

[Andrea]

You lying.

[Lex P]

No, now I do. Cause y' all can help me, Pat. Y' all was helping me. Pat.

[Andrea]

You do not be having people.

[Lex P]

Well, no. Well, not at my house. But I'm saying, like, I just like to have that relationship where we can go have dinner and we can get drunk and talk about the week and talk about our problems more. So I do like to talk on the phone. So if I can't call you and tell you what's going on, then I'm just. That's not a friendship to me personally. You can be an associate now. I'll make associates all day. You know what I'm saying? You can be my associate. But my friends, if I call you a friend, we gotta be 100%. Because all my friends are 100%.

[Andrea]

That's fair. That's fair.

[Lex P]

I don't know.

[Andrea]

I feel like you could. I agree with you. I agree with you. But I do think you can still be friends with people. It's just people to serve.

[Jaleesa]

Different.

[Andrea]

It's just like when people be like, oh, I got a work friend. That's they work friend. They talk to them. It's not. Not your friend. But you mainly only talk to them at work. At work.

[Lex P]

I was just telling Kila this the other day. I said, you know how awkward it is, though, when you make a work friend, then y' all try to hang out I. Outside of work, and it's like, it's a little awkward.

[Andrea]

Oh, I don't know, though. Cause I done met. I done had some work friends and I done hung out with them outside of work. And we vibed like it. Me and you was work friends.

[Lex P]

Yeah, but we worked in a club, so we was partying while we was at work.

[Andrea]

We were. But it still could be weird when you hang with that person one on one.

[Lex P]

No, that's different. Cause we would hang it. Cause when you work at a club, y' all are essentially hanging out and making drinks. Bitch.

[Andrea]

But even when I worked in corporate, I made friends at work. And then we would, like, go to lunch and go hang out outside of work. And we was cool.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Cause I feel like the only thing we have to talk about is work. I don't wanna know about.

[Andrea]

No, we was talking about our lives and everything. Like, my friend, shout out to Serena. They used to be my friend.

[Lex P]

Who is Serena?

[Andrea]

She was my friend when I used to work at Goodrich Petroleum. She really was. She was my friend. But she was like 10 years older than. She had moved to Denver because she had gotten a relationship. Her man had went to jail. He ended up getting out.

[Lex P]

You telling Serena.

[Andrea]

Bitch, I'm not telling her bits. Well, you asking me. You acting like she a fictional person. So, bitch, I'm giving you a little background story.

[Lex P]

Not everybody. Not your Serena, man.

[Andrea]

Don't tell one thing about it. Don't y' all hate when y' all friends think they know everything about you?

[Lex P]

Like, bitch, it is part who it is.

[Andrea]

Parts of you had a life before this.

[Lex P]

I did.

[Andrea]

And this was very much before you.

[Lex P]

How rude.

[Andrea]

But she was like 10 years older than me, and we was really, really cool. And she used to give me a lot of great life advice. And she ended up getting pregnant. I think now she got two kids. We still follow each other on Facebook.

[Lex P]

I'm not gonna lie. I'm still friends with my manager from TGI Fridays. It's like an older white man. He's married with kids, and he always. He calls me the pride of Orange. Text. Mm. Mm. But we cool.

[Andrea]

Chloe that I used to work for, that became my work friend. She was my boss, but we ended up becoming friends. And still to this day, me and Chloe still cool. Shout out to my girl. Cause she about to be on tv.

[Lex P]

I know. I love that. Shout out to Chloe. Mm. All right, all right, let's move on. Now it's time to get into the baby.

[Andrea]

The baby.

[Lex P]

The bow.

[Andrea]

The baby.

[Lex P]

Bow, bow, bow, bow, bow, bow. Okay, for the bed topic, today, we gonna talk about love taps. How rough is too rough in bed?

[Andrea]

Like, do you.

[Lex P]

Are you the kind of person who, like, you gonna go all in and there's no bounds, there's no limits? Or can things get a little too, like.

[Andrea]

No, because if you hit me too hard or something, like, if you smack my booty too hard, I'm gonna get mad as fuck. I'm gonna get so angry. I hate that. I feel like. I feel like, yes, you want him to smack you on your ass, but, like, not to the point that you got a whip or you got, like, a little sting or it's like a red mark. Like, you done hit me too hard. The fuck wrong with you? Back the fuck up, nigga.

[Lex P]

I'm not gonna lie. I like rough. I like. I want it to, like, borderline kind of hurt a little bit. I do. I don't mind if I have a little whelp on my booty. I don't mind that.

[Andrea]

I feel like that's borderline shit. About to get domestic.

[Lex P]

I like that. You know what? I was watching? I watched. I Know what yout Did Last Summer. I still know what you did last summer. The other day, yesterday. Cause I went and saw the new version of it last night, but I was watching the. I was refreshing my memory, and the killer punched a bitch in her stomach. Like before. You know how mad you gotta be to punch a bitch in her stomach?

[Andrea]

That's crazy.

[Lex P]

Who punches people in the stomach still? Like, to punch a bitch in her stomach.

[Andrea]

You mad as f. Trying to take the wind out of her.

[Lex P]

You mad as fuck to punch a bitch in her stomach. That's crazy. But I'm not gonna lie. But I gotta be in the mood for it, though. Like, I'm talking, like I like to get rough. After, like, a drunk night, we done turned up. We went to the club, we drinking.

[Andrea]

That's when it really can get the me.

[Lex P]

It can get sticky.

[Andrea]

Because, I don't know, I used to like being choked and all of this stuff during sex until I got choked too hard one time, and I was like, excuse me, I'm finna call the police.

[Lex P]

That shit up the fuck.

[Andrea]

And then it was crazy. Cause we had just gotten an argument today.

[Lex P]

She was like, this stupid bitch.

[Andrea]

I hate this ho.

[Lex P]

You know, N be mad.

[Andrea]

That's what I'm saying. So that's why I feel like. I don't know, like, maybe you need a safe word or something.

[Lex P]

No, you do need a safe word. Cause, like, I used to have rough sex with this guy I was dating. And, like, I didn't mind. Like, we used to. Like, we used to get real rough. And one time he smacked the fuck.

[Andrea]

Out of me on your face.

[Lex P]

I said, hold on, bitch. I mean, I think he tried to get a lick in on my face. That's what I'm saying.

[Andrea]

And I done felt like that, too. And then you be like, hold up, and you smack his ass back. And then it could get domestic. That's what I'm trying to say.

[Lex P]

I said.

[Andrea]

Cause I did that before. So I got smacked. Then I smacked that nigga back. But he, like.

[Lex P]

He smacked me like a. I said. He was like, oh, my bad.

[Andrea]

And before y' all know it. Now y' all swinging in that bitch, bro.

[Lex P]

Cause I was so shocked. Like, why would you smack me? He was like, oh, my bad. He tried to. Kept going. No, nigga, we need to talk about this.

[Andrea]

Yeah, you smacked me too hard. But I'm a lady.

[Lex P]

Yeah, I forgot. He did slap me. And he smiled a little bit afterwards. He was happy as fuck. Cause I was like. Cause it was like a few times.

[Andrea]

Your face was probably a little red, too. Yeah.

[Lex P]

Cause it was like he slapped me the first time. I didn't say nothing. I was just like, okay. Then he did it again. Then he revved. I said, all right, nigga, get up, bitch. Get off.

[Andrea]

That's what I'm saying. Like, I don't know. Sometimes she. He be getting a little too serious.

[Lex P]

Yeah, I think he was.

[Andrea]

Cause I be getting mad. Like, I said, I smacked that nigga back. Why the fuck you smacking me like that?

[Lex P]

Why would you hit him back? Why would I not? Now y'. All. You know them slapping contests they be having on YouTube.

[Andrea]

Definitely smack that nigga back. We killed Not y' all was looking at.

[Lex P]

I'm fucking weak. But no, I do like it rough. But I do think there's like, you know, I think you know when you're hitting somebody too hard and y' all don't need to be doing that when you know, you kind of like, if you got built up aggression, maybe we can leave the smacking out. We can leave that but like, on my ass.

[Andrea]

So what you gonna say? You gonna be like, you can smack me, nigga, but not today. Cause we just got in an argument.

[Lex P]

I think, you know, to avoid.

[Andrea]

I don't think people be knowing the vibes. I don't think they be knowing the vibes. I don't know.

[Lex P]

Okay, I'll say this.

[Andrea]

What if somebody pull your hair too hard? Cause that happened to me before, too.

[Lex P]

My wig gonna slide off. You know my wigs aren't glued down, bitch. Yeah, I done had that happen before.

[Andrea]

I know you told me that.

[Lex P]

He ripped that wig off. Oh, my God, I was so fucking mad. Yeah. Cause why would you pull my hair? He was like, oh, I thought it was like the little. When y' all put the strings in there. Shut up, girl.

[Andrea]

Oh, he thought it was a thong. But even that. Imagine a pull that shit too hard and he pull a patch of your hair.

[Lex P]

That's what I'm saying. You can pull a track out if you pull a braid.

[Andrea]

Pull a braid out. Oh, I would be stressed. Especially if it's one this the main braid.

[Lex P]

And you know, sometimes when they grow out, they grow up.

[Andrea]

Nah, I got a bald spot.

[Lex P]

They be hanging on.

[Andrea]

And I done had a bald spot too before.

[Lex P]

You have. From a braid?

[Andrea]

Yeah, a braid done came out. Me and Lynn was talking about that. Me and Lynn was talking about that when she was in Jamaica. Cause she said she got a bald.

[Lex P]

Spot from her braid falling out. Yes, I remember my braid.

[Andrea]

And that happened to me before, too.

[Lex P]

You know, like one time my braid fell out at school and I seen it on the ground. I tried to hurry up and cover it up with my foot and slide it over to you. And then you act like you're tying your shoe to pick it up.

[Andrea]

How do you think.

[Lex P]

No, I said I did that. Oh. You know, like if your braid fall out, you look on the ground, see your braid hair. You try to hurry up and cover it with your foot. Then you bend down, act like you tying your shoe and you stuff it somewhere. Yeah, you be like. So nobody see it. But braids don't really fall out.

[Andrea]

They don't really Fall out. They be hanging though you. I feel like, you know, I done pulled one out before and I did that too. Like you got to when nobody look.

[Lex P]

Well, especially with the boho braids too, cuz, you know, the boho braids will shed a lot. I be getting off a bed and I'll be like trying to get all that shit out. But I don't like pulling hair though.

[Andrea]

I do.

[Lex P]

Pulling hair has never been my thing. Ass pulling here. Yeah, I like a. I love a ass smack.

[Andrea]

I like a ass smack if it like. But you can't hit me too hard.

[Lex P]

No, I like to hit that ass hard now.

[Andrea]

No. Why do it sting for like five minutes?

[Lex P]

I like that.

[Andrea]

I don't like that.

[Lex P]

I like a little. I like a little choking. I don't mind hard ass hands. Yeah, you like a.

[Andrea]

Your hand like a wooden paddle.

[Lex P]

You like a nurple.

[Andrea]

A nurple?

[Lex P]

Yeah, when they take your nipples and twist them.

[Andrea]

Why the fuck would I want somebody twisting my nipple? No, bitch. The fuck type of shit. Chew me on.

[Lex P]

You want like a little.

[Andrea]

Twisting my nipple?

[Lex P]

Yeah, you know, people like nipple play. Some people do like that. I mean, I like.

[Andrea]

I like you to like do normal stuff to it. But why would I want you to twist it and turn it?

[Lex P]

What about a flick of the nip? Look at the flick of the nip. Remember that song? Look at the flick of the nip.

[Andrea]

It didn't go like that. It was the flick of the rib.

[Lex P]

Oh, fuck. Y' all know what I meant. You know, she was for real.

[Andrea]

She really thought it was flick of the nib.

[Lex P]

You know it was.

[Andrea]

Look at that flick of the ring.

[Lex P]

You know what I meant? Girl, girl, what?

[Andrea]

But now, I mean, I like a little nipple play, but like normal stuff. Okay, Normal, like licky. You know, like you could like pinch it a little bit. But why you gonna twist it and turn it? That's the type of shit that will get you smacked. Cause now I feel like you trying to hurt me.

[Lex P]

But your nipples are always hard like.

[Andrea]

A nigga is trying to. Cause why are you trying to.

[Lex P]

Why do I feel like you trying to hurt me?

[Andrea]

Cause you mad at me.

[Lex P]

You got them radio doll nipples.

[Andrea]

Have you ever been. Bitch, what they always.

[Lex P]

It look like you can turn that FM a radio.

[Andrea]

Not you be wanting to turn my nipple. What the fuck wrong with you? But I do like certain stuff. Like I like a little lip bite.

[Lex P]

Okay, I like a little bit, but.

[Andrea]

I done been bit too hard before. I be feeling like niggas be trying.

[Lex P]

It yeah, they be wanting. They be mad at you.

[Andrea]

They be mad at me because you'd be cutting up. Up. I do be cutting up. I came across this text message that I had posted on Instagram in, like, one of my little dump slide shows a few years ago, where my man was like, I had inserted it into the slideshow and he was like, you were the finest of all time, but you still don't be acting right. And I was like, I guess I don't really be acting right.

[Lex P]

But that was nice. I have a picture. It's still on my Instagram. I think it was when I went, he was bad, London. He was like something like, you fine as fuck. And it pisses me off. I actually hate you.

[Andrea]

Oh, he meant that.

[Lex P]

He did. He hated me real bad.

[Andrea]

I would have blocked him.

[Lex P]

I don't even know if I have him blocked. He's so irrelevant. But it was funny.

[Andrea]

I would have stopped talking to him after that.

[Lex P]

I mean, I wasn't talking to him at that point.

[Andrea]

Oh, he just randomly texted me.

[Lex P]

He just randomly texted me. But honestly, I love leaving men's lives and terrorizing them. Like, I love the fact that I walked away from your life and, you know, I terrorized you. Sometimes you have to do that.

[Andrea]

I don't even purposely be trying to terrorize niggas, though.

[Lex P]

I know you don't purposely do it. But sometimes when you know things are going bad, though, it's time to terrorize him a little bit before you dip for real. Hell, yeah.

[Andrea]

I just be leaving. Cause I feel like, what if you terrorize him too much? I just don't ever want a nigga to, like, flip.

[Lex P]

Well, no, Leah, I'm not saying take.

[Andrea]

Shit too far, but how do you know what's too far, though?

[Lex P]

Hmm? You don't.

[Andrea]

You really don't smack you till that nigga smack your ass or give you a purple nurple.

[Lex P]

Look at the flick of the nip.

[Andrea]

I would break up with a nigga for that.

[Lex P]

For the flick of the nip. Yes, you straight.

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[Andrea]

Cause why would you do that?

[Lex P]

I just think it's, you know, certain people like certain things. Yeah, okay.

[Andrea]

We just need a safe word, baby.

[Lex P]

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[Andrea]

Y', all.

[Lex P]

I don't. I'm not good at vlogging, but I'm always on Snapchat. Y' all can see me with my everyday life day to day. And I'm also posting my house updates on there. So y' all go follow me on Snapchat. I'm gonna put the link in the bio. It's a bit little LEXP05. Okay.

[Andrea]

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[Lex P]

Okay? Period. So now it's time to get into the bop.

[Andrea]

Hey, the bop.

[Lex P]

Oh, the bop. Bow, bow, bow, bow, bow. So y' all know bop of the Week. Y' all know I'm a R and B girly, and I love my R and B songs. But I had to switch it up this week, Chad, because we were listening to Boosie the other day, and I know how y' all feel about Boosie, and y' all be having yalls things to say about him. But if you witnessed the run that Boosie had, it was, like, from, like, 2006 to, like, what, 2011. 12. Like, his big, big run when he was, like, on top of his shit and he was dropping mixtape after mixtape, like, he was dropping hit after hit after hit. And it was just like, he did it independently. Like, to see somebody do that independently was crazy. Mm. So my bop of the week is Superfly by Boosie. And I feel so real and can't nobody tell me shit. I'm a real bad nigga. He said he was a bad nigga.

[Andrea]

He did say that.

[Lex P]

He said he was a bad nigga. If you ain't never heard Superfly by Boosie, this the type of song when you and your girls getting ready for the club and y' all like, yeah, we done, bitches. This is for the young Girls, auntie is putting y' all on game. Go play Super Fly by Boosie while y' all getting ready. And that's gonna be your song. That's gonna be y' all theme song. I'm telling you. So that's my bop of the week. I had to throw it back, but Boosie got hits. I'm gonna make a Boosie playlist.

[Andrea]

We love a throwback hit.

[Lex P]

Love a throwback kit. I'm doing a boostie fan, and I.

[Andrea]

Too, used to be a Boosie fan, but yes. So my pop of the week is folded by Kehlani.

[Lex P]

Oh, did you see the. The clip?

[Andrea]

I love that song.

[Lex P]

The clip of her recording the video.

[Andrea]

I did see it. Body tea.

[Lex P]

I mean, she look.

[Andrea]

But we already knew that she been working out and stuff for a minute and, like, you know, been cut up.

[Lex P]

That's a great song.

[Andrea]

It is.

[Lex P]

It's a. I just love Kehlani as an artist.

[Andrea]

Give me a little R and B.

[Lex P]

She don't miss. She is just one of the girl. One of the, like, the new girls. I. I count her in, like the new generation. Really? Well, I say like the like. Well, I don't.

[Andrea]

Only reason, I guess I don't really look at her as new is because she been out since, like, 2012.

[Lex P]

But when I say new generation, I just mean like, the. The younger girls. Like, when I think of, like, older R and B, I'm thinking of like, you know, the Mariah Careys, the Whitney Houstons, the Tony Braxtons. When I say, like, the newer generation, it's like the Summer Walkers, Kehlanis and people like that. Am I saying it right? Is it Kehlani or Kehlani?

[Andrea]

I think it's Kehlani.

[Lex P]

Cause you know they gonna be in the comments talking about me.

[Andrea]

Well, correct us then she.

[Lex P]

God damn it. But Kehlani, come on the show, girl. Cause we love you over here. But yeah, when I say new R and B, I just mean, like, you know, the younger girls that are making, like, updated R and B tunes, you know, not necessarily that just came out. You know what I'm saying? But shout out to her. That's a. That was a good bop. And she looked fire in that video. I can't wait to see the video she does.

[Andrea]

So now it's time for us to get into our favorite segment of the show, which is pour your heart out. You know, if you have any questions, you can always send them to ask poor minds Gmail dot com. That's a S K P O U R M I N D S at gmail dot com. Let's get into question number one. Hey, Lex, Andrea. I just started listening to the podcast and I love y'. All. You keep me laughing and truly lift my spirit. Now to my situation. I'm 30, in the military and have been dating my 32 year old boyfriend, also military, for 2 1/2 years. I'm 5 months away from getting out and was supposed to move in with him, but I got cold feet. I've never lived with a man and we've had issues that make me uneasy. He's not a fan of things like girls trips and our deployments have caused strain. I brought up my concerns but didn't express them the best way and now he's upset. To add to that, he's trying to break. He's tried to break up with me four or five times, usually while one of us was deployed. I do love him and he has great qualities, but I'm hesitant about our future. What do y' all think? Should I still move in or. Listen to my good. Love you bunchies. Thank you. Thank you.

[Lex P]

What you think? What you think? You can go first.

[Andrea]

Why you want me to go first?

[Lex P]

I don't know.

[Andrea]

I read the question.

[Lex P]

Well, I mean, I just feel like if you have a lot of hesitations and it seems like you have things to address before you take that step, and I think these are conversations that you need to have with him. I think that if you want to take a next step in your relationship, but something is telling you something and you're having doubts to where. I always say this. If you feel like you're having so many doubts where you have to write us and ask us, then you need to hold off. Like, that's a big red flag to you. Like something in your spirit is not sitting right with you to where you want to take that leap forward. And I don't know, I be thinking that a lot of times y' all be knowing the answers. Y' all just want to hear us say something different, but you have to listen to that voice. It's there for a reason. And I'm not saying break up up, but maybe y' all just need a little more time to align more properly. A lot of times people will be in love and they want the same things, but they're not necessarily on the same page or aligning properly. So it sounds like that something is not aligned with y' all right now.

[Andrea]

Yeah, I mean, I don't know. I kind of just feel like in a relationship to me, this is just me personally, but I think if it's a lot of breaking up off and on or like a person be trying to break up with you and get. Get back with you, that's a sign of like emotional immaturity. And I don't really know if that's somebody that you should want to be with long term because anytime is a. It's an issue or potential issue, they want to break up with you and not try to work through it. Those are not signs of sustainability in a relationship to me. I feel like if you going to be with somebody, then you signing up to be with them now. I can understand that. If you really have made your mind up and you like, this situation does not work for me. It don't align. Let's break up and we done.

[Lex P]

Cool.

[Andrea]

But every time you get mad at me, you trying to break up with me, that's lame. And you emotionally immature.

[Lex P]

One thousand and so.

[Andrea]

I definitely wouldn't want to move in with somebody like that. Cuz I feel like once you add the element of y' all living together, girl, he the type to lock you out the house or some like. I don't know. I. That's just, just where my mind goes to. I pay attention to those type of things in a relationship. If somebody is like emotionally mature or not. And I feel like they tell you everything that you need to know cuz.

[Lex P]

You going to have disagreements. But like, how do we disagree? Do you handle disagreements with.

[Andrea]

Every time we disagree you want to break up with me? That's crazy. Yeah. I don't know. I like to be with men that are like emotionally mature in. In that way at least. Like if we have any issue, we gonna talk it out. I'm usually the one that be like, you know what, Bye, I'm leaving. But like a man doing that all the time. I don't like that.

[Lex P]

Yeah, okay. Dear poor muns. I'm 19. I'm the youngest of nine in an African household from Newark. There's always been a divide between my older siblings and me, especially the brothers, who carry a lot of unspoken trauma. Growing up, I was often the target of that hurt emotionally and physically. Senior year I got a full ride to college. One of my brothers claimed he had saved money for me. But later I found out he used it for his own child, lied to my parents who can't read English, and told them I wasn't serious about school. I've made the dean list four times while double majoring in public health and African American studies. That betrayal cut deep and I cut him off. Now I wonder, do I try to rebuild with family who's hurt me or just protect my peace and move forward?

[Andrea]

She said she the youngest.

[Lex P]

Yeah, she's the youngest of nine. In an African household.

[Andrea]

Yeah. I mean, you can rebuild with people in your family. I just think people gotta look at family like any other relationship. I say that all the time. People love to be like, oh, that's my family, that's my brother, that's my sister. And I try to tread lightly with that. Cuz y' all know I don't have siblings. Well, I do now, but they really young. But I don't have siblings that I like, grew up with. But even when it comes to like cousins, uncles, aunts, your mom and your dad, your grandparents, you have to treat your family relationships like you treat any other relationship. If a person is toxic, if a person is hurting you all the time, if a person is bringing a whole bunch of drama to your life or they seem like they don't mean you well all the time, regardless of who they are, why would you keep that person in your life? If it was a friend, you would just cut them off. If it was a partner, you would just cut them off. Why not do the same and treat your family the same? Cuz family can hurt you and not love. Just because y' all family, that don't mean that they really love you and want the best for you. And I feel like people will do better when you start to look at relationships across the board that way and not feeling like you owe people, people so many chances just because y' all got the same mama and daddy.

[Lex P]

Yep.

[Andrea]

You know what I mean? Because like, yo, your brother and sister can hurt you worse than a friend can hurt you worse than. I don't know anybody. They could do you more dirty than anybody. I just, I think people just got to keep that in mind.

[Lex P]

And I think it's okay. Certain, like in certain situations to be selfish. If something is not making you happy and you're more uncomfortable and unhappy than you are are happy, you have to remove yourself. I think that we need to learn how to be selfish sometimes and stop doing things we necessarily don't want to do.

[Andrea]

Yeah, I got family members that I don't talk to because they did messed up stuff to me. I just don't. It's not that. It's not to say that it's not that serious, but again, why keep you in my life just because you my family member when you clearly don't Mean me well, or you're clearly not a good person.

[Lex P]

Agreed.

[Andrea]

I would rather just cut my losses and not deal with you.

[Lex P]

I agree 1,000%.

[Andrea]

Oh, yeah. I mean, I feel like that's something that you have to ask yourself. How important is it to you?

[Lex P]

Cause she said, do I rebuild my family or just protect my peace and move forward?

[Andrea]

Protect your peace?

[Lex P]

My main thing is, I don't know if you gonna move for a rebuild, but the main thing is protect your peace. So you have to ask yourself that, can I protect my peace and still rebuild with my family, or do I have to protect my peace by moving on?

[Andrea]

And also, keep in mind too, you can never. People think that, okay, maybe if you want to try to protect your maybe if you want to try to, like, rebuild the relationship, cool, but what do your brother want, right?

[Lex P]

Is he even willing to be openly to.

[Andrea]

Is he willing to change? How do you know he not going to do it again? Just because that's what you're willing to do, that doesn't mean that it's the same energy on the other end. And we have to always keep in mind the only person that we have control over is ourselves. And so since you only got control over yourself, I will personally protect my peace. I will have a conversation with him maybe. And depending on how the conversation go, then I would decide, okay, maybe we can rebuild this, or maybe I should just protect my peace and keep my distance.

[Lex P]

Good luck, y'. All. Make sure y' all email us ataskpoormindsgmail.com. go to patreon.com backslash poor minds. Sign up for Patreon. Make sure y' all tune in to Love Lex p Every Mondays, 10am LoveLex p.com get y' all merch. Follow me on Facebook. It's Lex P. Poor Minds on Face. Poor Minds podcast on Facebook and lexp05 on Snapchat, period.

[Andrea]

Yes, make sure y' all follow my YouTube. My YouTube channel is Dre Nicole with three E's. And, you know, just follow me everywhere. It's the same thing. Dre and Nicole with three E's. I'm not on Twitter no more. That was the only one that was different. And yeah, shop muse beautycollection.com and watch travel Queens, period.

[Lex P]

Y' all can still run Travel Queens up. You know what I'm saying? And we'll see y' all next week. Bye, y'. All. Rock with.

[Andrea]

He was too young when this came out.

[Lex P]

No, y' all was too young.

[Andrea]

I was too young. I was about this song But I knew it though.

[Lex P]

Yeah. Hey, here we go.

[Andrea]

Heard about my past, things I used to do the games I used to play the girls that didn't last. I know what's on your mind. You think I'm doing wrong Can I just say what's real? You are the only one. When I'm not around do you think of me or with the jealous ones or blaming me me to be? You should know by now that it's going to take a lot of trust from you for us to make it through. You should know that you're my angel. Nothing's going to make you fall from heaven girl I just want to love you, love you.

[Lex P]

Don't miss what people say.

[Andrea]

They don't know about you and me.

[Lex P]

Put it out your mind cause it's jealousy. They don't know about this here. Don't listen to what people say.

[Andrea]

They don't know about you and me. Put it out your mind cause it's jealousy. Made of know about this here girl let's talk about what your friends told you that I'm a selfish man. Want my cake and eat it too Maybe in my head but you change me now. Now that I've learned to love it's you to show me how your love's so real. I'll be a fool to play to play around on you. I want to stay with you. You should know find out it's gonna take a lot of trust from you for us to make it through. You should know that you're my angel.

[Lex P]

Nothing's gonna make you fall from heaven girl I just wanna love you.

[Andrea]

They don't know about you and me. Put it out your mind cause it's jealousy.

[Lex P]

They don't know about. Listen, don't listen to what people say.

[Andrea]

They don't know about you and me. Put it out your mind cause it's jealousy. They don't know about this tip.

[Lex P]

They don't know know about love. They don't know about they don't know how girl they don't know these hoes don't know ho ass. They don't know no.

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[Lex P]

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[Andrea]

Today.

[Lex P]

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[Ryan Seacrest]

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[Lex P]

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[Lex P]

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[Andrea]

This is an iHeart podcast.