Pour Minds Podcast: "The Name Game" (August 29, 2025)

Hosts: Lex P & Drea Nicole
Podcast: Pour Minds (The Black Effect & iHeartPodcasts)

Episode Overview

In this lively and candid episode, Lex P and Drea Nicole, two single Houston-born friends now living in Atlanta, take listeners on a hilarious deep-dive into generational name trends, friendship dynamics, aging, and all things feminine hygiene—wine glass in hand. The main theme, "The Name Game," explores the quirks and judgments surrounding so-called “old people” names, hood nicknames, Bible names, and whether names really define us. The episode features classic Pour Minds banter, laugh-out-loud moments, and practical advice mixed with stories about dating, self-care, and friendships as adult women in today’s world. Special guest Jaleesa from Salt XO joins to talk feminine wellness.

Sections & Key Discussion Points

1. Drunk Therapy Vibes & Solo Episode Freedom

[04:00] Drea and Lex celebrate doing a solo episode, explaining that these tend to be less filtered, more off-topic, and provide longtime listeners with the classic Pour Minds feel.
Lex reflects on managing the tone with new listeners and guest episodes, wanting to avoid going “too dark or too offensive.”
- Memorable Quote:
  “I just feel like, you know, we just get to really just...we be getting very off topic. We don’t be really staying on track with the topic.” (Drea, 04:01)

2. Navigating Appearance & Partners’ Preferences

[05:11] Lex brings up the trending topic about Cash Doll and whether her man not liking makeup or weave is controlling or empowering.
Drea argues it's a personal preference and a non-issue if you have the option to “look good” both ways, joking that “the outrage be coming from the people that don’t got the option.”
The hosts swap stories about men’s input on their looks, the difference between public persona and private comfort, and affirming the beauty in natural hair and low-maintenance days.
- Notable Lines:
  “Chilling with no makeup on. If you look good without it, I don’t see nothing wrong with your man hyping up your natural beauty.” (Drea, 07:23)

3. Celebrating Aging & Personal Growth

[11:01] Lex details her return to the “streets,” adjusting to singlehood, and enjoying her newfound freedom after buying a house at 35.
Both hosts discuss aging, wisdom, and being grateful for life milestones, invoking Beyoncé’s attitude toward life in her 40s.
- Quote:
  “Aging is just...it has been fun for me. The growth, everything...I’m smiling a lot more now. Like, I’m happy.” (Lex, 13:56)

4. The Name Game: Old Names for Young People

[16:33] Drea kicks off this segment, admitting her suspicion towards young people with “old people” names (Eleanor, Harriet, Ruby).
Lex and Drea riff on how a name like “Ruby” becomes cooler as “Ruby Rose,” and list names like Beatrice, Evelyn, Martha, Bernadette, Gertrude, Florence, and Mabel as “elderly names” that are rare for their generation.
Hilarious sidebar: Lex reveals she was nearly named ‘Georgetta,’ after her dad, and the hosts imagine their alter-egos with these names.
- Key Quotes:
  - “Why are you 23 and your name is Eleanor?” (Drea, 16:57)
  - “Ruby is an old bitch name. But that’s why she added that rose on the end.” (Lex, 17:18)
  - “That’s ancient. I ain’t heard of Mildred.” (Lex, 26:30)
They discuss cultural context—some names may sound old in Black American culture but are common elsewhere.

5. Hood Names, Bible Names, and the Hood-Proper Name Paradox

[31:18 & 32:40, repeated riff] Shay told Lex: “Kids that have Bible names are the worst...like Noah be cutting up.”
They joke about hood guys having surprisingly formal names (“Clifford,” “Cornelius”), and debate if there are actually any young Bartholomews outside Lex’s dog.
- Quote:
  “Hood niggas be having the most proper names.” (Drea, 32:43)

6. Juniors, Hyphenated Last Names, and Name Trends

[33:04] Lex asks about women making their kids “junior” after themselves (a la Chrisean Jr.).
Drea says she’s not into the idea and reflects on name trends—mentioning the Black Girl Middle Name “Nicole” trope and the Ashley/Britney/Jasmine/Brianna boom of the ‘80s and ‘90s.
They move to the topic of hyphenated last names after marriage, debating cultural and power-dynamics with references to Jada Pinkett-Smith and Kim Kardashian-West.

7. Entrepreneur Spotlight: Jaleesa from Salt XO

[41:44] Introduction of Jaleesa, the founder of Salt XO, a feminine hygiene brand.
Jaleesa shares how she developed her products for college women, focusing on supporting vaginal pH and boosting confidence.
The trio dives into the science behind Salt XO’s ingredients (especially tea tree oil, turmeric, lemon, peppermint) and product range (yoni gel, body scrubs, erotica gel, booty deodorant, boric acid suppositories).
The conversation normalizes vaginal care, discusses the role of diet (drink water!), and stresses honest conversations among women about hygiene.
- Notable Moments:
  - “I recommend that your partner uses Salt XO, because whatever he uses is going right inside of you!” (Jaleesa, 57:08)
  - “Our suppositories work in one day...cause you don’t have time to be...marinating for two days. I’m trying to book tonight!” (Jaleesa & Lex, 62:02)

8. Friendship Etiquette: Private vs. Public Congratulations

[67:26] The hosts debate whether it’s shady if a friend congratulates you privately but not on social media.
Lex says it depends: performative posts don’t matter to her, but it’s weird if someone celebrates others online but not you.
Drea echoes that as long as someone is consistent, she doesn't mind.
- Quote:
  “If you can’t clap for other people, it’ll never be your turn.” (Lex, 72:55)
They further discuss expectations in friendships, reciprocating energy, and not all friends having to be “multi-purpose.”

9. Sex & Relationships: How Rough is Too Rough?

[82:41] Bed Topic: “Love taps”—How rough is too rough in bed?
- Drea: Doesn’t like being smacked or choked too hard; recalls getting mad after a particularly aggressive encounter.
- Lex: Admits she enjoys things rougher but draws the line at being slapped across the face or “purple nurples.”
- Both stress the importance of safe words and checking in with your partner.
- Memorable Banter:
  “If you hit me too hard or something, like, if you smack my booty too hard, I’m gonna get mad as fuck.” (Drea, 83:04)
  “But your nipples are always hard like a nigga is trying to...cause why are you trying to...turn my nipple?” (Lex & Drea, 90:34)

10. The Bop of the Week & Signature Segments

[96:51] Lex’s Bop: “Superfly” by Boosie – “If you ain’t never heard Superfly by Boosie, this the type of song when you and your girls getting ready for the club… Auntie is putting y’all on game.” (Lex, 97:54)
[98:23] Drea’s Bop: “Folded” by Kehlani – Both praise Kehlani as an R&B star for the new generation.

11. Pour Your Heart Out (Listener Letters & Advice)

Letter 1

[99:47] Listener in the military unsure about moving in with her boyfriend, who tries to break up every time they argue.
Lex and Drea both advise: Listen to your gut—breaking up as a default shows emotional immaturity, and moving in won’t solve deeper issues.

Letter 2

[103:51] Youngest sibling in an African family debates whether to rebuild a relationship with a brother who once betrayed her trust.
Both hosts suggest family relationships should be held to the same standard as any other—and it’s ok to sometimes protect your peace by cutting off toxic relatives.
- Quote:
  “Why keep you in my life just because you my family member when you clearly don’t mean me well?” (Andrea, 106:29)

Notable Quotes & Time Stamps

“Why are you 23 and your name is Eleanor?” (Drea, 16:57)
“Ruby is an old bitch name. But that’s why she added that rose on the end.” (Lex, 17:18)
“Chilling with no makeup on. If you look good without it, I don’t see nothing wrong with your man hyping up your natural beauty.” (Drea, 07:23)
“If you can’t clap for other people, it’ll never be your turn.” (Lex, 72:55)
“If you hit me too hard or something, like, if you smack my booty too hard, I’m gonna get mad as fuck.” (Drea, 83:04)
“I recommend that your partner uses Salt XO, because whatever he uses is going right inside of you!” (Jaleesa, 57:08)
“Our suppositories work in one day...cause you don’t have time to be...marinating for two days. I’m trying to book tonight!” (Jaleesa & Lex, 62:02)
“Why keep you in my life just because you my family member when you clearly don’t mean me well?” (Andrea, 106:29)

Funniest/Most Memorable Moments

Lex nearly being named “Georgetta” after her dad (21:09)
Joking about “young hood guys” named Clifford or Cornell (32:03)
Lex’s secret made-up baby name “Shauncea” (29:19)
The “flick of the nip” confusion and banter about bedroom mishaps (90:01-91:10)

Guest Spotlight: Jaleesa of Salt XO (41:44–65:18)

Jaleesa gives a candid history of starting Salt XO as a broke college student, shares the importance of using natural, pH-balancing products for feminine care, and encourages open conversations about vaginal health and sexual wellness.
She addresses ingredients to look for, the need for men to use the right hygiene products, and how to tackle issues like ingrown hairs, scarring, and lost libido with her product range.
Practical, lighthearted advice is dispensed throughout, with Jaleesa referring to herself as the “coochie queen.”

Closing Thoughts

“The Name Game” is vintage Pour Minds—irreverent, real, and rooted in sisterhood, with a perfect blend of bold humor and useful gems about self-care, relationships, and navigating womanhood. With signature wit, Lex and Drea manage to make even the topic of generational names into a landscape for cultural commentary and laughter.

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