this week i talk about grace, forgiveness, and why i don’t think they’re the same thing at all. i get into this idea that forgiveness is supposed to mean you’re healed, and how that never really made sense to me because i can understand someone, even feel compassion for them, and still be hurt by what they did. i talk about trying to intellectualize my way out of pain, why that doesn’t work, and the moment i realized i’ve been giving everyone else space to be human but not myself. this one’s about letting both things exist at once, peace without pretending, compassion without self-abandonment, and figuring out what i actually owe people after they hurt me. enjoy, love u