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Welcome to the Private Practice Startup podcast where we help ambitious private practitioners across the globe to brand themselves and grow their dream practices. We chat with successful private practitioners, business coaches and marketing experts, bringing you tons of practice building Ninja tips. Visit privatepracticestartup.com for awesome resources, attorney approved private practice paperwork and our signature marketing E course. Here are your co hosts, Dr. Kate Campbell and Katie Lemieux. Hey everybody, welcome back. Welcome to another episode of the Private Practice Startup podcast. I am beyond excited about our guest today. Before I introduce him, I just wanted to say thank you guys for your loyal listenership. If you are a member of our Startup Nation family, we appreciate you coming back especially during this time. We're recording this podcast during the COVID crisis and we've really worked hard to assure that we're giving you guys resources, information that are totally applicable to what you guys are doing now. And if you landed on our podcast for the first time, we to welcome you to the Startup Nation family. So before I introduce this guest, let me just remind you of our podcast last week where we had Dr. Camilla Gamba back on the podcast, straight from Milan, Italy, sharing her experience of what's happening there. That's also helping inform us of what is happening in the US and what we can expect. So she shares with us some really great wealth, resources and information. So our guest today is the author of the Miracle Morning and the Miracle Equation, Hal Elrod. And I actually got to see him present live and share about his story, which I think is totally applicable to what we are going through right now as a world through this pandemic. So he's going to share about his own adversities and coming over and coming, overcoming, overcoming. Thank you, I'm like coming over now, overcoming his own health adversities and obviously we're right in the middle of this huge crisis, so I really look forward to him sharing that with you. He's an amazing speaker, so I'm just so excited. So let's let me introduce him, give him an actual great introduction. After surviving multiple near death experiences and impacting millions of lives through his books, Hal Elrod is on a mission to elevate the consciousness of humanity one person at a time. As the best selling author of one of the highest rated books in the world, the Miracle Morning and his newest book, the Miracle Equation, he is doing just that. So please give a warm welcome to Halloween. Hey Hal, how are you?
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Katie, thank you for having me.
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It's a pleasure. I really enjoyed when I met you. I met you at Michael Blancs or blanks. I never remember his last name. Real estate conference in Dallas in July of 2019. And just really loved everything that you shared. I was very captivated by your story and really what you're up to. And you know, I know that you were going to come on our podcast back in October of 2019, but again, you had dealt with some of your own health issues, so we had to cancel. And I was actually sitting in my business coaches, what they call growth club. So it's a planning for the following quarter. It's a 90 day planning period. And I was just thinking to myself, like the savers that you talk about in your book, which will go over how important that is not only to be successful in life and in business, but especially now in time of crisis. So I was so excited to see you had one slot on your calendar. And I reached out to Tiffany and she said, yes, you're available. So thank you for being here.
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Yeah, no, it's my pleasure. And I feel called to serve right now where you know, there's a part of me that wants to just go and crawl under the covers and hide like everybody else, I think. Right. But then I feel called like I've got to. If I can help in any way, I feel responsible to do that.
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So thank you. And so for those people who don't know you or your story yet, I'd love for you just to kind of give a, you know, share a little bit about your story. And then what had you create the miracle morning?
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Yeah. So here's a high level overview. When I was 19 years old, I started a career in sales. And I learned a lot about dealing with adversity, disappointment, rejection, things not going your way. We were taught this very Buddhist philosophy in my sales training, ironically, which was to accept all things you can't change. And we were taught in the form of this thing called the five minute rule, which is that, hey, when something goes wrong, set your timer for five minutes. You get five minutes to bitch, moan, complain, feel sorry for yourself, cry. But after five minutes, you take a deep breath and you say, you know what? I can't change it. I can't change what's already happened. So I'm going to accept it as it is and focus on moving forward and focus on what I can control. And I share that as the starting point of my background because that really set the foundation for me being able to apply that philosophy of unconditional acceptance to all these crazy adversities that would come my way in the years to Follow a year and a half after I started in sales. I was driving home after I gave a speech at a conference. And my car, I had bought a brand new Ford Mustang, which as a 20 year old young man, that was like my dream car. Driving home that night, I was head on by a drunk driver at 70 miles an hour in a much larger Chevy full size truck bounced off, the drunk driver spun sideways and the car behind me crashed into my driver's side door at 70 miles an hour. And instantaneously my body was crushed. I broke 11 bones, suffered permanent brain damage, began bleeding to death. And when the paramedics and the fire department pulled me out of the car an hour later, I was clinically dead. I was dead for approximately six minutes When I came out of the coma six days later, they saved my life and I was in a coma. I was faced with this unimaginable reality which many of us are faced with right now. Either the global reality of what's going on or individually, maybe you're affected by this in terms of your business or your job, right? Or your health. And so for me, I was faced with this reality and I was told I'm never going to walk again. And I applied that five minute rule, as kind of outrageous as that might sound, being told you're never going to walk in and go, okay, I get five minutes to feel sorry for myself. Which literally I applied that and I'm like, okay, five minutes is up. I can't change that I was in a car accident. I can't change that I broke my bones. I might not be able to walk again, but I get to choose my inner world. I get to choose whether or not I'm the distraught and destroyed and sad and scared and upset over these things. I can't change. Or I can accept life as it is unconditionally and focus all my energy into what I want, which is I want to walk again. So I decided I accept the worst case scenario, or what I would call that I'm never going to walk again. But my energy, I've accepted it, so I'm at peace with it. So I'm not afraid of it. There's really no negative emotion toward it. In fact, I told my dad, the doctors thought I was in denial because I was so positive. They thought your son has brain damage, he's like in denial. And I told my dad, I said, there's only one of two possibilities. Number one, doctors are right and I never walk again. Number two, I might walk again. And with the first possibility If I never walk again, dad, I've already envisioned that. And I've decided I will be the happiest, most grateful person that I've ever been that you could ever be while I live my life in a wheelchair or whatever it is I said. So the worst case scenario is I'm happy and grateful, right? That's not so bad. And I think that that's the greatest choice that we have, is to we choose our mindset, we choose our inner world. And right now, while you're going through adversity, you can choose to be the happiest and the most grateful you could ever be. And that's not dependent on your circumstances. And I know it's easier said than done, but it's a starting place to just consider that as a possibility. Could I actually be happy and grateful while I go through the most difficult time in my life? And I'll wrap it up with one more short story. Three years ago, I was diagnosed with a very rare, aggressive form of cancer. And I was given a 10 to 30% chance of surviving. Now I have two kids at that time, my daughter was seven. My son was four. My wife, I won't tell you her age, but imagine being told you've got a 70 to 90% chance that you're going to die. You're going to leave your children without a parent, right? And the day I was diagnosed, I told my wife, I said, sweetheart, I know you probably won't agree with this. In fact, you're probably going to get mad at me when I tell you this. But I believe that this cancer will be the best thing that ever happened to me. I'm committed to beating it. And I promise you I will be the happiest and the most grateful I have ever been in my entire life.
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While I endure what I would imagine is going to be the hardest time probably in both our lives. And I am sorry that you have to go through this with me, but you committed better or worse. Here we go. And so I went through a horrific experience of excessive chemotherapy. And in fact, we had to cancel in October because of that. I lost 25% of my body weight. I almost died multiple times. And there's videos you can type in, hal Elrodcancer on YouTube and you'll see video blogs of me along the journey. Not looking so great. But my inner world was as positive and realistic as it could possibly be. And I'm happy to say that I'm cancer free now. I walk again. Right? All of these what you might call miracles Just these unbelievable results, I believe, were a result of the mindset and the emotional state that I chose in the midst of this adversity. And that's my gift to you today, is how do you. When your outer world's falling apart and it's crazy and chaotic and uncertain, the only real place we can find certainty and peace is within. Right. We can't make it dependent on anything outside of ourselves.
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Yeah. I appreciate you sharing your stories. I love to hear them over and over again, and they're just really inspiring. I wonder if a lot of people think, like, oh, well, how were you just kind of like, born like a happy, positive person? Was this easy for you? Because you really talk about your experience with Cutco. If I remember correctly, right, that was your sales experience. So were you that person or did you have to train yourself into being that person?
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I think it was more training. I, you know, I was always. I mean, I guess I was always relatively positive, but I went through, you know, the myriad of human emotions that we all go through. Like, you know, there was in high school, I was bullied, and I, you know, didn't want to show my face at school. Right. I mean, so it's like I dealt with the stuff that we all deal with. Right Before I found Cutco in sales, when I was in college, I ran out of money and I slept in my car for days on end. Like going to classes, sleeping on my car. You know what I mean? So it's like, I don't know if that answers the question, I guess, because was I positive? No. I was calling parents, like, crying, you know what I mean? It really was Cutco, my sales experience, that trained me because most people don't make it in sales because it's such a difficult. You can be positive as you want and you're going to get shut down and denied and rejected and have people cancel their orders and their appointments. There's so much rejection and adversity that you face. What I love about sales is it is a microcosm for life. So it really conditioned me, like, oh, okay, this just happened. I worked really hard to reach this goal, and then these canceled orders happened, and now I'm not going to reach the goal and I don't have the income I need and. But I learned this five minute rule, and I applied it when I had my car accident. I had been applying the five minute rule to what you might say is much milder adversity for a year and a half. I did train myself and condition myself in my most Recent book, the Miracle Equation. I dedicated an entire chapter to this subject. I call it how to Become Emotionally Invincible. And it's the idea that most of us allow our emotions to be dictated by things outside of ourself. And therefore we're not in control of our emotional state, but our emotional state is dictated by circumstances. And here's what I'll wrap this up with. For people to really take away how you can apply this relatively quickly. When I first learned the five minute rule, I was in my sales training. And it's like, you can be negative for five minutes. You get five minutes to feel bad, and then you have to flip the switch and turn it around. I remember thinking, and I think I even raised my hand. And I was a smart ass, as I often am, definitely was back then. But I said, dude, five minutes. Can I get five days? At least five hours? Come on, this is not realistic. I think whenever I give a speech, I always say, raise your hand if you feel like five minutes is, yeah, that's great in theory, but that's not realistic. And half the hands go up, maybe more than half. And I said, I thought the same thing. And here's what's interesting. When you elevate your level of consciousness, meaning like, how aware you are of what options you have available, that's how I would define our level of consciousness. It's being aware of the options available, right? And so when I learned, oh, I have the option to get upset about something for only five minutes and then let it go, accept it, surrender, be at peace, acknowledge as an intelligent human being that, well, I can't change it, so what's the value in dwelling on it and perpetuating these painful emotions for any longer than I have to? So I had that awareness. And what happened is the first few times I set my timer for five minutes, sure enough, it went off. And I got more mad. I'm like, damn it, I need. Give me that. I just hit like five more minutes, you know? But an interesting thing happened. It was a matter of days, you know, maybe a week. I don't remember the exact timeframe, but it was, I would say, less than a week. Where I remember, and I can kind of picture it. I was in my apartment, I had made calls this evening, and everybody rejected me. Like, everyone said, no. There were some people really rude, like, don't ever call me again, and hung up on you, which you've read that happen. It like, doesn't feel good when a human is mean to you, right? And I remember I set my Timer for five minutes and the timer went off. And I'm sorry, I set the timer and, and I started, you know, oh, I can't believe, like, what, what's going on tonight? What is in the air? People are so rude. And I picked up my phone and I looked at it and I had like 4 minutes and 32 seconds left. And I went, I set the phone down, picked it back up, and I go, what's the point in sitting here upset for four and a half more minutes? I could get on the phone and probably schedule an appointment or two and make up for it. And I set the timer off and it made me realize that five minutes is only necessary to transition from our habitual way of being upset for an extended period of time to shorten that. But once you're aware that, oh, I'm creating my emotional pain, see, every negative emotion that we've ever felt, and I say negative as a relative term, it's every painful emotion you've ever felt is self created. It's self created by our resistance to our reality. Like, internalize that. If you're listening, please. Every painful emotion that you've ever felt, or could ever feel, or are feeling now is self created. Meaning it's not the thing that you think is causing the emotional pain. It's your interpretation or your response to the thing. And in essence, it's your resistance to your reality. So the more you're going, no, this shouldn't happen. I wish this were different. I worked so hard for this. It wasn't supposed to be this way. They weren't supposed to die at such a young age. Like, whatever, whatever it is, it's our resistance to that reality that creates the emotional pain. And that five minute rule was simply giving you five minutes to resist your reality, to like, get it out and feel it. But then at the five minute point when you say, can't change it, you're transitioning from resistance to the opposite, which is acceptance. And you go, deep breath. I can't change it. Can't change what happened. There's no point in continuing to perpetuate these painful emotions. I'm going to accept it, be at peace with it, let it go, and focus all my energy not on what I can't change, which is whatever's happened up until this point, but on what I can change, which is what I focus on, what I think, what I say and what I do from this moment forward. And that for me, during this COVID 19 coronavirus epidemic, that's been the one thing whenever I find myself stressed or anxious, I go, I take a deep breath, I go. I'm in charge of my inner world. I am both responsible for and in charge of my inner world. And for the first few weeks I wasn't sleeping. And then once I remembered that, oh, there's no point in laying here awake at night, my mind running through all the scenarios of what could go wrong that might serve me during an hour of intentional time of preparing for the worst, but not when I'm trying to fall asleep. My only objective is falling asleep, right? So anyway, just realize that excessive worry is so counterproductive to your immune system, to your quality of life. You've got to accept life as it is. Accept all things you can't change unconditionally. Focus all your energy on what you want, which starts with feeling good, right? And what you need to focus on, talk about, think about and do in order to experience what you want or move in the direction of creating whatever it is that you want.
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Awesome. I love that. And it's interesting, as you talk about like the five minute rule, I also think about Mel Robbins book about the five second rule, right? And I definitely apply those things. And you know, with my own work and self growth and development, you know, one of the things, the tools that I had learned was running the thoughts, right? So you set a timer, you run all your thoughts, you get crazy, you give it to yourself, you pause, you do it again if needed, you pause and you do it again. And it's funny because you kind of start to run out of all of the bitching, complaining, whatever, you're like, I'm done with this. You know what I mean? So it's very interesting and I just love to hear your story. But before we get into how your life experiences transitioned into becoming the author of the Miracle Morning and the Miracle Equation and Savers, I just want to take a brief moment to thank our sponsor. There are so many ways to keep your practice organized, but TherapyNotes is by far the best. They're easy to use. Secure platform, lets you not only do billing, scheduling and progress notes, but also create a client portal to share documents and request signatures. Plus, they offer amazing unlimited phone support. So when you have a question, they're there so you can get help fast. Get started with TherapyNotes today, trusted by over 60,000 professionals. Go to therapynotes.com and enter promo code PPS as in Private Practice Startup and you'll get two months for free. Also, you can listen to episode 54 where we interviewed Brad Pleiner and took an in depth view into their ehr. When you're in private practice, it can be tough to find the time to review your marketing efforts and make improvements where needed. Whether you're a seasoned clinician whose current website needs to be revamped or a new therapist building a website for the first time, BrighterVision is here to help. By first understanding your practice and what makes it unique, Brighter Vision's team of developers will create you a custom website catered to your specific marketing goals. Better yet, they provide unlimited tech support to make sure it stays updated and professional search engine optimization to make sure you rank high in online searches, all at no additional cost. To get started for $100 off, head to brightervision.compps Again, that's brightervision.compps so go ahead Hal, and transition us into how did your life experiences then create you becoming an author?
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Yeah, I barely could get an essay written in high school, so that wasn't like a dream to be an author. When I had my car accident when I was 20 and people like doctors started to say that when they thought I was in denial. And then the more they got to know me, my psychologist and they go my therapist, they're like the way you see the world or you're Especially at a relatively young age of 20. I forgot who said it. It was one of my doctors, like, you should write a book and that. I'm like, yeah, right. And I planted a seed. And it took me six years. I think I started writing like a few months later. I got a paragraph done. Took me six years to write that book. But I wrote it not because I wanted to be an author, but because I felt a sense of responsibility to share my life experience and the lessons I had learned with other people. And that first book was called Taking Life Head on, published in 2006 when I was, I think 26 years old and then wasn't planning on writing another book six years later, or I should say a year later after the book published, the economy started to crash and I crashed with it. And to keep a long story relatively short, after six months into a downward spiral and actually, you know what? This is the first time I've been able to talk about this since the economy right now is starting to tank. So I just remembered this when I came up with the miracle morning. It was 2007, 2008, when the economy was crashing and again, I crashed with it. And when I started applying this morning, practice that I'll tell you about here in a second, my life changed so fast That I told my wife, I'm like, this morning routine I'm doing feels like a freaking miracle. Like, this is because I had doubled my income in two months doing the morning because of the morning practice. And the miracle morning, it wasn't called the miracle morning. And she goes, I go, it feels like a miracle. She goes, it's your miracle morning. I go, yeah, I'd love that. And I started writing in my schedule, miracle morning, but again, not a book idea. And then it's almost like serendipitous that one of my coaching clients at the time, Katie, said, hey, do you have a morning routine? I keep hearing about morning routines. And I'm like, oh my gosh, I can't believe you asked that. I literally just. I'm calling it my miracle morning. Let me tell you about it. And she's like, I'm not a morning person. But I keep hearing how important it is to a morning routine and start your day centered and on purpose and focused and with discipline and all this. And so I told her the miracle morning. And then she goes, well, how do you beat the snooze button? That's the hard part. And I gave her some tips on how to do that. We get on the phone two weeks later, and I go, hey, how'd your morning routine go? You know, checking in on our commitments. And she goes, I go, did you wake up every day at 6am like you committed? And she said, not exactly. I said, that's okay. How did it go? She goes, you were right. I woke up at 6am for the first few days and it was so good that I wanted more of the time because this is what I had in my experience that I shared with her. She goes, I bumped it up to 5am and for the last week and a half, I've gotten up at 5am every single day. I'm running again. She said, I've read an entire self help book. She said, I just had the best week in my sales career. And she goes, it's totally attributed to this miracle morning thing. And that was when the light bulb went off and I go, number one, I have to tell the rest of my coaching clients. And it kind of kept evolving that man, that same sense of responsibility. Like if this morning practice, this miracle morning thing, changed my life and I wasn't a morning person, it changed Katie's life. She wasn't a morning person. It changed. At that point, I shared it with all my coaching clients and, you know, I don't know, 80. Most of them were not Morning people. I went, this could change the world. It could change anyone's life. And so I shared it. That's when I started writing the book. And again, I'm not a great writer. I'm a slow writer. It took me three years. But now the Miracle Morning book has been translated into 37 languages. It has sold over 2 million copies. It's practiced daily by over a million people in over a hundred countries. In fact, this morning we had the first ever miracle morning virtual meetup. And we had people from Italy and Spain and France and Japan and Canada and America and Brazil, like, it was crazy. And some of them were up at like, you know, it's like four in the morning and it's like nine at night. It's like, whatever. But anyway, so that's how the miracle morning came to be, is it was originally just my morning routine that I was desperately trying to get out of this economic crash where I had lost over half of my income. I was deeply in debt, $52,000 in credit card debt. My body fat percentage had tripled in six months. I was losing my house. The bank took my house away because I couldn't pay the mortgage. And the miracle morning, because I decided to dedicate it to developing myself into the person I needed to be and with the qualities and the skills and the attributes and the knowledge to increase my income at that time. And it worked. And, you know, and so I've realized kind of the miracle morning, whatever you apply it to, whatever area of your life you want to improve, whether it's finances, like it was for me, whether it's health, you know, we have Mike Eaton. There's countless people, but Mike Eaton is a early miracle morning practitioner. He lost 90 pounds within, like, three months of doing the miracle morning, maybe six months of doing the miracle morning. But it really is universally, you want to improve your marriage, you apply it to that. You want to improve your health, you apply it to whatever it is that right now you're struggling with. And it begins with your mindset. Right. If you're, you know, you're putting yourself in that peak mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual state every morning so that you can take that version of you out into the world.
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Yeah. And as I'm, you know, listening to you, our audience really serves therapists. Right. So therapists are very empathic. Right. And we have a lot of the mindset stuff ourselves. Sometimes we're not good at practicing it. And, you know, when I think about this time is a lot of therapists are working with clients who Are stressed, fearful, worried, and some of their fears are a reality. And sometimes we're absorbing and taking that on. Being on telehealth sessions for hours and hours and hours, you know, what is your advice or suggestion really coming from an empathic place, but also a place of, you know, letting them know that they can shift and it's okay. We talk a lot about self care and things like that. And sometimes, like I said, we're really bad at honoring ourselves, but we want to dish out all that advice. So what would you say to therapists who are really in the trenches of the emotional stuff that people are dealing with?
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Yeah, I think that therapists, even more so. Right. Need that self care practice, which is what the miracle morning is. And what I found. So recently I found a sequence of doing. So there's six practices. The miracle morning, you mentioned them earlier. They are organized into an acronym that is the savers. These are the life savers. S, A, capital S, A V, E, R S silence, which is your meditation or prayer. The A in savors is for affirmations, written statements that articulate the mindset, the beliefs, the habits, the behaviors that you need to embody. And you read them every day to remind yourself, not to trick yourself into believing that everything's gonna be okay, but actually to program your conscious and subconscious mind to direct your behavior in a way that in your emotions and energy in a way that serves you best. The V is for visualization, the E is for exercise. The R is for reading. And the final S is for scribing, which is a fancy word for writing or journaling. Right. And those practices, that acronym helps you remember kind of. You can run through it in your head and make sure you do all six of those. Most people do all six every morning. From our surveys, it's like 80% do all of them. And then some though, they'll divide them up. Do some Monday, Wednesday, Friday, some Tuesday, Thursday. Some they'll do in the morning, some they'll do in the evening. It's very customizable. And you can also switch the order out any way that you want. But here's what I realized for therapists where I think it's something to consider. I recently woke up and I usually start with silence. I usually meditate and pray. First thing, I was going through a period of excessive stress and anxiety. This was just a couple months ago. And I. My meditation was a mess. I was like. My body was stressed, my mind was stressed. And a lot of us experience that. Right. So you're sitting There, quiet and like you're the internal chatter, right? You know, COVID 19, your financial situation, you're like so stressed, right? So what I found was two things. Moving up. First of all, moving up. Scribing, journaling. So I journaled first and I got everything out of me, right? Everything. Like, I'm stressed about this, I'm feeling anxious about this. This sucks. I'm worried about this. I don't want it, right? I just got rid of it all. I surrendered it to the page, you know, and then I was able to. Okay, I know it's all there, right? So you're able to separate yourself. I know it's. Now I can go meditate in peace. Like, I don't have to take that shit with me. Like that's there. It's in the journal, right? And now I can meditate in peace. And then another piece to consider is if you still feel there's like a physical energy, go exercise, right? Go for a walk, go for a jog, do some jumping jacks, jump on the trampoline, whatever, get it out. And while you're doing that, whenever I exercise, I always do positive affirmations, even if they're like, I'll just freestyle and go like, I'm feeling good, I'm feeling awesome. Because what you're doing is you're anchoring those intellectual thoughts, but you're combining that with heightened breath and blood flow, right? And exercise. So you're combining, you're anchoring the intellectual thoughts with the enhanced physical capacity to get a better effect. So that's also an option. But that's what I would say is a. It's crucial if you're a therapist that you release all of the built everything you've absorbed. And my coach, it's funny, he told me that last week, I have a call with him in eight minutes, but we were talking next week and he goes, I always feel like I'm impervious to any. I've got it all kind of figured out. I help people deal with their stuff. He goes, and I got off a day of calls and I just went, whoa, I've been taking so much negative energy from other people. And he realized, and I have not been doing my self care. And it built up until a point of where he was spilling over, right? And so that was a wake up call for him to get back into his self care. So, yeah, if you're a therapist, it starts with your self care. It also is because you've got to be the change you want to see in Others and lead by example. And that's where the miracle morning can be so important. If you're a therapist or any kind of work in that regard, it's interesting.
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That you talk about, like, the exercise. So being on all these telehealth sessions and webinars and conferences online, like, I've experienced a of lot, lot of, like, neck and back pain. And it's interesting. So Sunday morning I got up, I was like, we live in sunny South Florida. I got on the bike, I took a 40 minute bike ride, and it really warmed and loosened the muscles. And it's funny because I was having anxiety about finances, right? And I was like, I just started saying out loud, I'm like, money's easy to make, money's easy to make, money's easy to make. And boom, I drove, I drove. I rode by a penny. So I turned around and I picked that penny up. I was like, that's the reality. Like, that's the truth. Right? And I know for me, you know, working through my own miracle morning and utilizing the Savers really grounds me in a place of clarity. And then I think we can make clear decisions from there about what's next. Right. We can't make clear decisions from the anxiety or the panic or the fear or the worry. And the reality is this is a moment in time. Right. It feels like it is forever and it's going to forever change the world. Yes. But it is a moment in time. And I think it's really important to focus on the things that we can do with our inner world, not only today, because we don't want to lose this practice, but really taking the time to do the savers. I love that you put it in such an easy acronym to really help ourselves, but for our audience is also helping our clients because sometimes you do have to kind of wash that stuff off of the day. And I know therapists utilize other techniques and things like that to be able to do that. So, Hal, I so appreciate you being here and taking the time and just being, you know, a change agent in the world and making this your commitment and your life's purpose. And I'm just honored to have you on our podcast. What do you want people to take away from your message today?
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Yeah. I think the biggest thing is that you are both responsible for and in control of you. Right. And so which would be the, I guess the opposite of the victim mentality. And, you know, when I was in my car accident, I had every, you know, it was like, you know, a softball pitch of victimhood right? Like, oh my gosh, I was hit by a drunk driver. Not my fault, right? I might never watch it again. That's horrible. I mean, on and on and on. And I went, that doesn't serve me, right? And so in the same way that blaming other people or circumstances for anything regarding you, your quality of life, that just gives your power away and you have to take your power back. And it starts with your inner world and optimizing your inner world. I like what Michael Stinger talks about in his book the Untethered Soul, the Vow of Happiness. People say, well, yeah, of course I want to be happy, but I'm not going to be happy if this doesn't go the way I want it to. And this thing happened. It's like, whoa, whoa, whoa. Do you want to be happy only if everything is perfect out there, or do you want to be happy? Because if you want to be happy, that's a value make, right? That's a value make. And so, yeah, I would just encourage you to really realize that you deserve to feel good. And you deserve to feel good even when things are going bad. And I would say that life is a miracle and even when it sucks, it is still a miracle, right? So we can be grateful for every moment.
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Thank you so much. And where can people find out more about you, your community, your books?
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B
Yeah, go to MiracleMorning.com that's the best spot. MiracleMorning.com and I invite you to join the Miracle Morning community on Facebook. It is 248,000 members and it's all very word of mouth. It's just people that are waking up every day and dedicating time to becoming the best versions of ourselves and supporting each other in the community and doing the same thing. And it really is. It's really some of the finest evidence of humanity and especially right now during this time that I've ever seen.
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Sam.