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Episode 101: 3 Steps to Know When to End Things
Jul 14, 201300:17:29Tap to summarizeWhy We Need to End Even A Good Thing Welcome to Episode 101 and the final episode for The Daily Interaction show. Today’s topic is why and how we need to end even good things in life. You know that nagging voice in the back of your head that says you need to get out of something, or do something else with your time? Everything may be going great in your business, or your relationship, or even your job, and a part of you just stops being totally into it. That’s when the voice in your head starts talking louder and louder. If you ignore the voice, it will keep harassing you until you listen. You cannot continue ignoring your inner voice without consequences. I ignored my inner voice for years when I was at corporate – and finally, I was able to get out of that job and into my business because the voice got louder and louder. You have inner wisdom. You know best what’s right for you. In that example, my inner voice knew that I am not made for a corporate career, and I was meant to walk the entrepreneurship path – and it was right. So how do you listen to your inner voice and gather enough information so you make the right decision? In this episode, I talk about the 3-step process that is very useful when you apply it overtime you hear that voice complaining about something you are doing – and this can be something very bad such as a toxic relationship or something very good such as a cushy lucrative easy job. Get very curious. Curiosity quiets the self-judgement and heavens knows we have more than enough judgment to deal with, and curiosity opens the door to clarity. Observe what is happening. Observe why you are feeling this way. Observe a lot and ask yourself questions. Be gentle and kind to yourself. We are very fragile and vulnerable on the inside. So exercise plenty of kindness in your dialogue as you gather your information. The iTunes Page: Subscribe & download! The RSS Feed: Follow the Feed! Listen to the show: Why I Am Ending the Daily Interaction Podcast As you may have guessed, the nagging voice came to me a while ago about my beloved podcast, and I did the most natural thing of all: I completely ignored it. Until I could not ignore it anymore. This is a perfect example of when you hear the nagging voice about the good and even great things in your life. Why would you want to end something good? Why would you want to stop doing something that brings you and others usefulness and even joy? So I went through my 3-step process, and when I got very curious and observed why I am feeling this way, I realized it is not because I don’t love podcasting and creating something that you enjoy. Of course I do. There are just other pressing projects, books, commitments and works that call my name and need my attention. To all my listeners: THANK YOU for your love. Stay tuned for more! This marks the final podcast of The Daily Interaction Show. I am proud to say that the podcast was sponsor-free and ad-free and completely free for 2 years, and that I produced a show for you every week except 2 random weeks where life and circumstance simply overpowered me. We had a great run, and you can access the entire archives anytime. Going forward, the focus will be on Prolific Living blog, as well as other surprise works I have in store for you. Hop on the list below not to miss a beat, and stay confident, stay brilliant, and share your thoughts on how you end things in your life when the time is right and when that inner voice beckons you to do so. Use Your Inner Powers Bonus: 21-Step Confidence Building Series
Transcribe →Episode 100: Making Positive Life Changes with Leon “The Encourager” Bullard
Jul 12, 201300:36:37Tap to summarizeMaking Positive Change with Little-Known Communication Secrets “As is a tale, so is life. Not how long it is but how good it is that matters.” ~Seneca Welcome to Episode #100 of The Daily Interaction Show and to my conversation with a gracious grace, Leon “The Encourager” Bullard on how to make positive change first in your life and then in the life of others. If you can communicate it well enough, you can have anything you want in life. ~The Daily Interaction Show Leon is an author, a wellness and fitness professional, and a brilliant communicator and speaker, with a strength in clarity and persuasion. As a personal development expert, Leon is focused on educating, coaching and encouraging others to live healthier and more productive. He has over 10 years work as a fitness trainer and 8 years work as a behavior modification coach and speaker. He is the author of Triumph At Last. Also Leon has a great newsletter at chasevictory.com if you want nudges for staying healthy. His focus is on healthy living and he is a supreme example of that so he lives and breathes his own advice. And he is a wonderful speaker from years of knowing him at Toastmasters. For today’s talk I want to talk about the courage that it takes to help people make changes in their lives and Leon is doing that with his business and also with his powerful speaking so we’ll get his secrets on that. The iTunes Page: Subscribe & download! The RSS Feed: Follow the Feed! Listen to the show: How to Make Positive Change One with Communicating Well Here are the interview questions I posed Leon Bullard in our conversation: 1. Leon, it’s a luxury that I know you so I can base my questions on personal experience and I always noticed that you were a natural persuader. How do you do it? How can we learn the basics of persuading the people in our lives without coming across as pushy? (Feel free to give us examples) 2. I still remember in 2009, you gave an amazing speech at a Toastmasters contest. Are you still active in Toastmasters and how are you using your public speaking skills in your own business? 3. So I know your passion is about helping people become healthier in their lives, and we share that passion. What made you decide to pursue personal development and helping people get healthier? 4. Okay let’s talk about some of the challenges because I am sure you have had to work hard on your amazing communication skills. What are some of the difficulties you faced AND overcame along the way? 5. Let’s say I am really shy, terrified of interacting with people much less groups, but I am dying to get my story out there because I know it can help create positive change for some people. What is the first step I could take to overcome this debilitating shyness and get courageous? 6. Leon, was there anything that I didn’t ask you that you want to share on this topic of getting the courage to help people change. 7. If you could give my listeners one actionable takeaway today to help them inspire positive change in the people in their lives, what would you say? IF YOU LOVE US, and want to show your appreciation for this free podcast, won’t you give us a shout on iTUNES! Thank you for showing your LOVE! Use Your Inner Powers Bonus: 21-Step Confidence Building Series
Transcribe →Episode 99: 5 Secrets to Creating Massive Business Success
Jul 5, 201300:18:28Tap to summarizeWelcome to Episode #99 of The Daily Interaction Show. Today’s solo show comes to you from a speech that I gave earlier this week. I just spoke at Women of Power Summit held this past Tuesday – teaser video here – and it was such an honor to speak to these amazing women who are finding their way from corporate to self-employment, which is one of my passions: How to go from a corporate employee to a successful entrepreneur. The title of my talk was Lessons in Transition: Going from Corporate to Entrepreneur and the second half of my talk focused on the 5 secrets of creating massive success in your own business. These are secrets that I learned the hard way but I don’t want you to learn them that way. It was no fun! And that’s what I am going to share with you in today’s podcast. And these are secrets that are going to take you some time to digest and to implement until you start to see the massive success and impact they can have in your business, so please do be patient, my dear. This is not a turn-key solution. This is a change that takes place in your heart first and your mind second before it even touches your business. But when it does and when you put them to work, it’s more powerful and effective than anything else. It is the way to tap into your own creative genius and powerful inner wisdom. I have seen the results of these secrets to massive business success in my own company as well as for my students and clients. Thinking about leaving that corporate job to start your own business? You need an exit plan first, darling. Hop over to Smart Exit Blueprint and grab the FREE gift I have to get you started.. The iTunes Page: Subscribe & download! The RSS Feed: Follow the Feed! Listen to the show: Top 5 Secrets to Creating Massive Business Success 1. Trust yourself and your decisions: You DO know best. The problem starts with you not thinking big enough of yourself and that’s part corporate conditioning that happens after years of just being a follower of the rules and the systems laid before you. You second guess everything and have to run every simple thing by a whole team or by your boss. When you enter the entrepreneurial path, you are on your own, darling and you have GOT to trust yourself. Completely. Honestly. Totally. And it starts with thinking bigger of yourself. You are not out to create a tiny itty biz with 3 clients and maybe a product down the road. Think bigger! Dream bigger. Create a massive vision and then you will work your way to it, and you will close the gap. But start with thinking big. First, start to undo the conditioning of years of corporate and realize that your new business is not another job, there is no roadmap or blueprint if you want to leave your own unique footprint behind so allow your creative genius to come forth. 2. Get in the right frame of mind: The right mindset sets you up for success and the wrong one for failure. Simple as that. Don’t make the colossal mistake of just going through the motions. You do not do everything from quitting your job to starting your business and offer products and services without first taking the time to adopt the right mindset. If you’ve been in corporate, you likely have a very limited mindset. You need to ADOPT and EMBRACE the NECESSARY mindset for success, which is that of abundance, possibilities, unlimited number of failures before you are met with success. And yes, you want to embrace it like your new best friend. The good news is that you can learn the necessary mindset for success. Listen to seriously inspirational people and learn from their stories. Byron Katie. Tony Robbins. Robin Sharma, to name a few. Read books. And get away from negative toxic people who are so disgustingly pessimistic that you get depressed just walking within a mile of them. 3. Create a business or a company that completes your vision, not another job. We get so busy, so ridiculously busy to get our company going that we lose sight of why we started it in the first place. You are not here to give yourself a job. You are here to create wealth. You are here to create an asset and a value that goes on long after you. You are here to make a difference and to fulfill a vision. But the job mindset is a condition from your employee experience and you need to ditch it when you come into this space. Begin by recognizing this one in everything you do and identify what could be just a task that could deb handed off versus real effort toward fulfilling your vision. And as the brilliant saying goes, spend less time IN your business and more time ON your business. 4. Build massive wealth instead of chasing every dollar and cent. You are not here to have a job, we covered that but you are also not here to chase every penny. Sure it’s exciting to make your first dollar but beyond that, think very careful what income streams you chase and whether that’s worth your time. Starting your own business is not easy but chasing the dollars is one of the most common mistakes of the new entrepreneur. So in order to avoid this one and to be more in the wealth-building mindset – get over any money stigma issues first, make sure you have some runway with your savings so you are not paying every month’s bills and living paycheck to paycheck, and this helps you relax and think more long term about your business and hence your actions to fulfill those goals for the business. 5. Ask for help early on and invest in your support system instead of being a hero. Listen, it’s heroic enough to start your own business, and I want to congratulate you on that, especially since it’s not likely that your friends and family exactly cheered you on as you made the decision. Let them go! This is your deal, honey! Your life, your path, your thing! But the secret is to stop being a hero and to start asking for help as soon as you need it. It takes courage to do this but it’s better than going to it solo and trying to figure everything out on your own. You are not here to impress anyone. You are here to fulfill a vision and there are so many others who are more than happy to help you because figuring it out on your own will cost you time, money and more mistakes. Get in the right forums and support groups. Check out my online business survival kit. Find a mentor. Get into a mastermind group. Hire yourself a business coach. Understand the power of coaches. I adore my coaches and my own regret is that I did not invest in them sooner. And go on this journey with the right support group. Use Your Inner Powers Bonus: 21-Step Confidence Building Series
Transcribe →Episode 98: Little-Known Facts to Getting A Job Fast with Joshua Waldman
Jun 28, 201300:41:12Tap to summarizeHow to Get A Job Fast in Today’s Social Market Welcome to Episode #98 of The Daily Interaction Show and to my conversation with a talented and wonderful guest, Joshua Waldman, on little-known facts about getting a job today. If you can’t communicate it with skill and savvy in the online world as well as in person, you will be hard-pressed to find the right job, but if you know these little-known facts on job finding that Joshua shares with us on the show, you can increase your chances of getting noticed and picked up by the right employer significantly. Joshua is an author and a social media expert at helping job seekers undertand how to position themselves at an advantage in today’s social world. He presents keynotes, trainings and breakout sessions around the country for students, career advisors, consortiums and professional organizations and he is a super nice guy to boot. He gives you a ton of information on getting a job fast at Career Enlightenment. We talk about how you should present yourself to the world, how you should manage your online reputation and what to do when things go wrong so you can quickly fix the damage. So take a listen and I’ll talk to you on the show. The iTunes Page: Subscribe & download! The RSS Feed: Follow the Feed! Listen to the show: Questions on Getting a Job Fast in a Social World Whether you are college age or in your 60s and returning to the job market, you have got to understand these tips before you can secure a great job: 1. Joshua, the job market is so different with the advent of social media but not just for the new graduates. Anyone that is getting back into the job market will experience these shifts too. So can you share with us your top 3 tips for how a candidate can use social media effectively to get a job? 2. I am very curious to know what you think about the value of a college education today for job seekers. I suppose it depends to some extent on the degree. You need a medical degree to become a doctor or a law degree for lawyer but beyond the traditional job types, what are some ways college may be over-rated? 3. I read your book, A Student’s Guide to Surviving Facebook after College, and wanted to ask you to comment on the importance of keeping personal and professional life separate (if so) and what are some practical tips in that area? 4. Joshua, of all the social media platforms, if a job seeker had to pick one, what would it be and why? 5. So when it comes to presenting yourself, your resume and profile, do you think it’s best to be traditional or is it okay to get creative, such as videos and blogs and portfolios of your work if you have such a thing or any other ways beyond traditional resume? 6. How important are job interviews really? They say most of the decision is made before companies even you on-board for the official interview. Is that true? 7. Interview tips: I know this is a nerve-wracking thing for all of us. What are your best tips for more the job seekers who really need the job and yet don’t want to appear desperate? 8. There is so much more I’d love to ask you! Is there anything else that you wish I had asked or that we had shared with our listeners today? Any parting messages for my listeners? IF YOU LOVE US, and want to show your appreciation for this free podcast, won’t you give us a shout on iTUNES! Thank you for showing your LOVE! This podcast is part of Prolific Living Media and it is produced weekly and released every Friday. For questions and comments, please email the podcast: tdi@prolificliving.com. Use Your Inner Powers Bonus: 21-Step Confidence Building Series
Transcribe →Episode 97: How to Be a Coach and Mentor to Yourself
Jun 21, 201300:25:46Tap to summarizeWelcome to Episode 97 of The Daily Interaction Show. Do you want to hire a coach or have a mentor but can’t afford it or can’t seem to find the right one? Today I answer Silvia’s question and show you how to be a coach and mentor to yourself. From Silvia, a listener request: What can a person who is in a stage of life where there are no mentors available do? We all know the importance of a mentor (or mentors) in one’s life, but there are times when a person might be flying solo (work wise), in strange waters and with not many people who would serve as mentors around. Like living abroad, in a place where you don’t speak the language, the society is very different from your own culture and you work by yourself, not in a company with a formal structure. I would think about hiring a coach, but say there are financial impediments at the moment. Listening to podcasts and reading is one way I found. What else would you suggest? How can you take the best out of the means you have? What are these means? Thank you Silvia for asking the question. There IS a lot you can do without hiring a coach. The iTunes Page: Subscribe & download! The RSS Feed: Follow the Feed! Listen to the show: I admit I have been very resistant in hiring coaches for myself. I had several mentors at work but investing in myself was not a concept I truly embraced but then I decided to put my money where my mouth is last year and I’ve now spent several thousand dollars in my business and my own improvement. Results? I can say the skepticism has fallen and I’ve seen the progress that I can make with a one on one coach. So I’m starting the answer with sharing personal experience and letting you know that it’s okay to have resistance, doubts to hiring coaches. Sometimes the resistance is purely financial but sometimes it’s emotional too. And you need to respect it. But to your question, when you are not in a position to work 1:1 with a coach, what do you do? Let’s dive into the conversations to have with yourself. Remove the bad influencers immediately: First, let’s take stock of what is the current input into your system, before we modify it. Who are your current influencers? Who do you hang out with? What programs do you listen to? What material – reading, listening, watching – do you consume? As you think about these people, ask yourself questions: Are they negatively affecting your enthusiasm for work? Are they giving you bad or good advice? Do they have your fulfillment and happiness and best interest at heart? Sometimes, even the people closest to you may not be your best advisors. Click to Tweet. So after you have pruned the current influencers in your life, take stock of where you are. And take a deep breath. Look around and ask “What do I need now?” Check out In-person events and meet-ups in your area Start small but find a group of people in your local area that you can connect with. Start small and look at all the options available to you. Start with some of the free ones. If you are interested in starting a side hustle or changing jobs or advancing your career, there are groups/ meet-ups that happen in every place now. Look them up and attend a local event, and when you go there, introduce yourself at least to 3 people. Have a conversation. and give the meeting/event a chance. Secret meet-ups not announced, you have to know someone – so hang out with people you want to get to know in your town….. You also need to be conscious of everything that influences you – so the books you read, the podcasts or audio that you listen to …. and also it has to be in line with where you are going so if you don’t know where you are going in your career, then you are in exploration phase so inspirational stuff motivational stuff is helpful such as Tony Robbins, If something makes you feel bad or small or insignificant STOP watching, listening & consuming it! Click to Tweet this. So line up these audios, put them on your audio device, and listen to them. Watch the videos. Take notes or just watch. Join a Mastermind Group Another thing you can do is fine a small group of people to mastermind with. This takes a little thinking and planning and selection process is key. You need a very small group that keeps you motivated – this one pays off the most. The right mastermind group can help you leapfrog from where you are to where you want to be, but don’t be shy about how you go about this mastermind, and if at first, you don’t pick the right people, learn how to part ways professionally and find the right people next. What do you think about hiring a coach? The real question you have to ask yourself is what do you want to accomplish from working with a coach? And how can you start moving in that direction so you begin to make it happen for yourself? The right coach with the right approach can help you make amazing progress but you can also be a great mentor and coach to yourself using some of these ideas. So what do YOU think about hiring a coach? Have you ever done it and if so, how did it turn out? How about being your own coach and mentor? Share your thoughts in the comment below. IF YOU LOVE US, and want to show your appreciation for this free podcast, won’t you give us a shout on iTUNES! Thank you for showing your LOVE! This podcast is part of Prolific Living Media and it is produced weekly and released every Friday. For questions and comments, please email the podcast: tdi@prolificliving.com. Use Your Inner Powers Bonus: 21-Step Confidence Building Series
Transcribe →Episode 96: The Secrets to Polished Speaking with Sharon Hill
Jun 14, 201300:32:22Tap to summarizeWelcome to Episode #96 of The Daily Interaction podcast and to my conversation with a brilliant communicator, a vibrant source of energy and delight, and also someone that I consider a good long-time friend, Sharon Hill. The podcast motto is simple: You can have anything you want in life if you can communicate well enough! A little about Sharon: Sharon A. Hill, author, speaker and MBA, spent more than 20 years as a development and marketing manager at Fortune 500 giant IBM. As a Toastmasters International award winner, Sharon displays mastery and confidence speaking for audiences ranging in size from 20 to more than 500. Sharon Hill teaches, writes, speaks and coaches individuals and companies about the skills necessary to become grounded in all human interactions while leveraging the advantages of technology. She offers learning combined with a keen sense of humor to enhance and complement each experience. The topic we explore is two-fold, first, her passion with Toastmasters and what you my listeners can expect to get from considering a toastmasters club in your area and communicating with poise, etiquette and grace whether you are on or off the stage. Ready? The iTunes Page: Subscribe & download! The RSS Feed: Follow the Feed! Listen to the show: Interview Questions on The Secrets to Polished Speaking 1- Sharon, let’s start off by having you tell us how and when you came by Toastmasters, and what makes you still SO passionate about Toastmasters. I was active in Toastmasters between 2003-2010 and of all the people I met, you left the largest most indelible impression on me. 2- There is this “je ne sais quoi” about some people that just attracts us by being there. You talk about “becoming grounded in all human interactions” and I suspect this has a lot to do with their ‘elusive’ power if you will. I want to hear you talk to us more about that. How do we become grounded? 3- I’ve heard and seen you speak on numerous occasions, Sharon. You are always so polished, so resonant in your voice and so connected and yes very grounded. Is there a prep routine that you follow, anything from warming your voice or meditation or mind work that you could share with us? 4- As you know, Sharon, we get terrified when we think of public speaking. Even after years of doing it, I get nervous about it and I’ve just come to believe this is a human condition. But there are so many ways to deal with it. What are your recommendations? What are some techniques that work particularly well? 5- You know, I think of these processes as a journey, and in this case to becoming a great communicator. And in my experience, in these journeys, there is often a turning point where you experience a shift so great that it helps you leapfrog to the next stage. Sometimes it’s just a bolt of self-awareness, sometimes a particular event or something a friend/coach shares with us. Did anything similar happen to you and could you share it with us? 6- To what extent would you say that Toastmasters has been instrumental to your success as this fabulous polished communicator? I know that it helped me tremendously. And would you say that anyone can get these benefits from Toastmasters? 7- For those of my listeners that may still have doubts or other reasons not to consider joining a club, what other ways can they improve their communication skills? What do you recommend? 8- Sharon, there is so much more I’d love to ask you! Is there anything else that you wish I had asked or that we had shared with our listeners today? Any parting messages for my listeners? So did you take one tip away from how to become grounded in your speaking? IF YOU LOVE US, and want to show your appreciation for this free podcast, won’t you give us a shout on iTUNES! Thank you for showing your LOVE! This podcast is part of Prolific Living Media and it is produced weekly and released every Friday. For questions and comments, please email the podcast: tdi@prolificliving.com. Use Your Inner Powers Bonus: 21-Step Confidence Building Series
Transcribe →Episode 95: Body Language: What Messages Are You Sending at Work?
Jun 7, 201300:24:35Tap to summarizeWelcome to Episode #95 of The Daily Interaction podcast. Today’s episode is all about your non-verbal communication with focus in the workplace. How are you presenting yourself through your body language? Are you even aware of the message you are sending? Do you like the message? If not, how do you change it to fit your ideal of what you want to say to the world about who you are and what you are all about? Quick Announcement: The Healthy Juicer’s Bible Book signing & Fresh Free Juice with Demo in Cary NC June 11th B&N at 7pm. Details for your invite. The iTunes Page: Subscribe & download! The RSS Feed: Follow the Feed! Listen to the show: First, a self-examination. What do you think your body language is saying about you? In other words, if you don’t say a word with your mouth, what is the conclusion someone may draw about you? What words might they use? Confident? Timid ? Smart? Knows what she is doing? Acts bossy? Ignores people around him? Feels like she is better than the rest of us? Really in charge? Your homework: write down the top 3 things you think people might say about you – alright. Then ask yourself: Do I like these descriptions of myself? Are these the words I want them to use to describe me? If not, what do you want them to say about you? Let’s match up your body language to what they will say. I am going to take a guess here. You want them to say you are confident, a leader, smart and in charge, on top of things, someone who delivers results, listens well, a kind helpful resourceful person. And yes, they can say all of that about you just by watching and observing your body language. How does your body say this? How can your body say this? Posture first: Let’s start with your posture – how you carry yourself? Are you stooped? Do you hunch over? Or are you standing tall – shoulders back – head over shoulders – chin back – hands at your side? Eye contact next: Focus on making eye contact. You don’t have to stare. If you have trouble with this, at the very least, avoid looking up or away or at the floor. Your work is to observe, observe and observe. Never judge. Never grade. Never be harsh. Just watch what is happening! The process: first you become very conscious and aware of yourself, then you pay attention and might get a little uncomfortable, then you begin to change and then it becomes comfortable and second nature. So how did you do? How is your body language? And what changes do you now need to make to get that message precisely right? Do you love The Daily Interaction? Give us a shout on iTUNES to show your love! This podcast is part of Prolific Living Media and it is produced weekly and released every Friday. For questions and comments, please email the podcast: tdi@prolificliving.com. Use Your Inner Powers Bonus: 21-Step Confidence Building Series
Transcribe →Episode 94: Unraveling the Lunacy of Romantic Relationships with Alan Stransman
May 31, 201300:52:53Tap to summarizeWelcome to Episode 94 of The Daily Interaction Show. We are going where we have not gone before in this episode to explore love, loss and lunacy of us in romantic relationships. This is a conversation is with one of the best writers I’ve ever read and someone I am delighted to call my friend, Alan Stransman. Alan Stransman is the author of two books: “Don’t Let Your Dream Business Turn Into a Nightmare: A Cautionary Tale for Would-Be Entrepreneurs” and “So, Why Have You Never Been Married?: A Memoir of Love, Loss and Lunacy”. Alan began his professional career as a teacher of English and Film at the high school level, and then transitioned into broadcast TV production. In 1999, Alan Stransman created the television series “Spectacular Spas” and then founded one of the first day spas in the world for men, called The Men’s PowerSpa, in downtown Toronto. That entrepreneurial venture was the basis of his first book “Don’t Let Your Dream Business Turn Into a Nightmare”, which The Ivey School of Business at the University of Western Ontario has been teaching as a case study in entrepreneurship programs. Alan’s second book “So, Why Have You Never Been Married?” is a funny, poignant and intimate account of his lifelong pursuit of love and tenderness, and is an homage to the writers that helped shape his sensibility: D.H. Lawrence, Henry Miller, Philip Roth and William Wordsworth. Alan is also a ghost writer that helps you write your own memoirs and one day I hope to hire him to write mine! The iTunes Page: Subscribe & download! The RSS Feed: Follow the Feed! Listen to the show: Special Gift: Download the transcript of this entire conversation here. Questions on Memoirs and the Lunacy of Romantic Relationships with Alan Stransman 1. My first question for you is why you wrote your memoirs? I interviewed the author of Funny in Farsi, Firoozeh Dumas, and she told me that in her experience, everyone wants to write their memoirs but each of us for our own reasons. Yours? 2. One unexpected reaction I had from reading your memoirs was how much it reminded me of the way I used to handle disagreements with my ex-boyfriends or even with my husband. Full of blame, self-righteous, hurt, screaming, defensive and feeling like the worst victim in the world over STUPID STUFF. It was pure lunacy. This is hardly ever the way a man acts (in my experience). What would you say is the reason behind this crazy outrage in us women in your experience, Alan? 3. One of the most common reactions was when the women in your memoirs had some hidden expectations and the man – you in this case – had no clue about these and therefore could not fulfill them. The women would just get mad without showing much interest in SOLVING the problem. Now, you dated women from all walks of life but this seemed to be a common thread: Getting MAD. They may have shown their anger differently but they still all got mad at these secret expectations. Can you help us understand that and perhaps avoid that in our own relationships? 4. So we talked a little about lunacy. Let’s move on to love and loss. I felt sad when each of your 3 most significant relationships came to closure, each on their own bitter terms. Sad not just for your loss but also the loss of what could have been and what came so close and yet slipped away. I know I am not alone in saying that sometimes we ruin a good thing and look back with regret. How do you look back at the loss you experienced? What does it represent to you now? 5. The real gist of your book is in the epilogue and the Wallace Stevens poem, The Emperor of Ice Cream. And the fact that people do not love what is, they love what seems. “Let be be the finale of seem”, says Stevens. If we really loved each other for who we really are, how would love end? But where is that distinction? Do we make up stuff in our head and project it to the person we supposedly love? 6. Alan, in these conversations on The Daily Interaction show, I like to include my listeners and what we do is we end every conversation with an immediate action for the listener. What would you give as that action to our listeners today to help them navigate the waters of their romance more effortlessly and smoothly? This book is not about relationship advice and yet I took away more from it more than the best books on dating and relationships because it was real, and went into gross detail about the intricacies of what makes and breaks relationships! IF YOU LOVE US, and want to show your appreciation for this free podcast, won’t you give us a shout on iTUNES! Thank you for showing your LOVE! This podcast is part of Prolific Living Media and it is produced weekly and released every Friday. For questions and comments, please email the podcast: tdi@prolificliving.com. Use Your Inner Powers Bonus: 21-Step Confidence Building Series
Transcribe →Episode 93: Be Less Careful: Time to Claim Your Creative Genius
May 24, 201300:21:02Tap to summarizeWelcome to Episode #93 of The Daily Interaction podcast. The other day, my voice coach told me to be less careful. LESS careful! It’s not an advice you hear every day. What does she mean, I wonder? But I liked the sound of it and later, I got exactly what she said which inspired this podcast Let’s get less careful and more creative together. In this solo show, I want to tap into the source of all your success and unique contribution to the world: your creativity or your creative genius as The Artist’s Way at Work calls it. The artist’s way is NOT a book intended for only the traditional artist. It is called as such because if you LIVE your creative genius, you are an artist. As am I. As is everyone else. Creativity does not just mean you are drunk and in the clouds, holding a paintbrush and drawing on a canvas. Sure, that can be creativity but it’s not all there is. Creativity is also creating your own business plan, writing your book, pulling together a session with a client, taking care of your pet and parenting your children . It is a matter of owning up to your own internal creative genius and then APPLYING it, bringing it to life. The 4 stages to unleash your creative genius: 1. Perception – Bust the myths: Creativity does not mean you are not serious or responsible – the opposite. 2. Acceptance – End the denial – creativity exists within all of us. 3. Permission – Give yourself permission to be creative. Write down the vow. Sign the paper. Carry it everywhere. 4. Awakening - Have fun as you awaken. This is the best part where you learn to tap into that creative genius. Let’s go deeper into each of the stages and remember to listen to the podcast for the full reveal: 1. Perception “It is one of the paradoxes of creative emergences that by taking ourselves more lightly, we take ourselves and our work more seriously.” Creativity creates an outlet, a way for you to be more of yourself. 2. Acceptance Creativity does not belong to a select few. Our society associates big extremes with creative types. The negative extremes: crazy, broke, drunk, irresponsible and positive extremes are brilliant, genius, special, visionary and unique…. both are so hard to live up and so no wonder we go into our shell and leave creativity to the business of others. The Artist’s Way at Work tells us creative types can also be realistic, responsible, solvent, cheerful, interactive, sane (my favorite) and optimistic! 3. Permission Who needs to give you permission today to brush your teeth or go to your friend’s house or attend an event? If you are over 18 years old, most likely it’s YOU! Okay then! Now why then do we steal away the permission – the RIGHT – to be creative? Maybe in the past, teachers and parents stole it away. Maybe they mocked or ridiculed or sneered or gave you the look. That was then. Leave it where it belongs: in the past. Starting now, give yourself full and utter permission to be creative. It is NOT silly. It is your human nature yearning to find a home so please stop suppressing it. 4. Awakening Awakening happens after the first 3 stages and it is the most remarkable part. The question is HOW do you let it flow and awaken? Listen to the full episode to really understand the 4 stages and how to apply them in your life. If you want to put together a plan to tap into your creative genius – which could be holding the key to a lot of seemingly unrelated struggles in your work or profession, schedule a free consult with me! The iTunes Page: Subscribe & download! The RSS Feed: Follow the Feed! Listen to the show: IF YOU LOVE US, and want to show your appreciation for this free podcast, won’t you give us a shout on iTUNES! Thank you for showing your LOVE! This podcast is part of Prolific Living Media and it is produced weekly and released every Friday. For questions and comments, please email the podcast: tdi@prolificliving.com. Use Your Inner Powers Bonus: 21-Step Confidence Building Series
Transcribe →Episode 92: Who Would You Be Without Your Story with Byron Katie
May 17, 201300:52:00Tap to summarizeByron Katie Shares the Method of Self-Inquiry My guest today on the Daily Interaction Show is Byron Katie. Katie created The Work, which is a self-inquiry method that teaches you how to free yourself from your thoughts, the cause of your suffering, and how to find and embrace the truth. She has changed the lives of millions since the day that she woke up from her own dark depression and followed the voice of truth. You can see the video of this interview on Byron Katie’s website. One gorgeous day in the fall of 2012, I tuned into Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday and hear a voice that instantly hooked me. It was Byron Katie talking about her method of self-inquiry and it was fascinating to me. I had learned about affirmations from Louise Haye and studying my own personal development journey for a while and NEVER had I come across anything – a method, a system, a tool – that unraveled the powerful hold that thoughts exerted over my mind… until I learned about The Work. That day, I was hooked on Byron Katie, and have since watched dozens of her videos, read Loving What Is: Four Questions that Can Change Your Life and listened to it on audio. And today I invite you to do the same with my conversation with Byron Katie. Check out thework.com for Byron Katie’s FREE repository of resources, 9-day workshops, and schedule of events. The Story of Byron Katie In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year spiral into depression, rage, and self-loathing, Katie woke up one morning to a state of constant joy that has never left her. She realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts, she suffered, but that when she questioned them, she didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Her simple yet powerful process of inquiry is called The Work. The Work consists of four questions and the turnarounds, which are a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe. When you question a thought, you see around it to the choices beyond suffering. Byron Katie’s six books include the bestselling Loving What Is, I Need Your Love—Is That True?, and A Thousand Names for Joy, which is next on my audio book list! The Daily Interaction Show iTunes Page: Subscribe & download! Listen to the conversation now: Questions for the Byron Katie Conversation about The Work 1. In your book, “Loving What Is” you talk to us about how our stressful thoughts are the root cause of our suffering. Before we talk about how we can change this, can you explain the relationship between stressful thoughts and suffering and give us an example? 2. I love what you said about The Work: “It is a way to contact wisdom because all the answers are inside of us.” But if you are the type of person that is constantly looking for answers outside of yourself, how do you begin to prepare yourself to do The Work, which teaches us that all answers are within us? 3. Would you give us an explanation of The Work? Who can benefit the most from doing The Work? How do we begin to apply The Work? Can they do The Work on your own or do you need guidance first? 4. You once said that when a thought enters our mind, it becomes our God, we worship it and there’s no more room for anything else. In order to get ready to do The Work, how do we know which thoughts to work on? Do we put all our stressful thoughts to the Inquiry or would doing The Work on a few of them cause an avalanche effect and take care of the rest? 5. Does The Work inspire us to take action? For instance, we apply the work to a stressful thought such as “I am miserable at my job.” If we do The Work successfully, would we just feel better about our job or also be empowered to take action and to change our situation for the better? 6. I love the focus of The Work on ourselves but what if anything do you recommend doing for a beloved person in our life who is suffering from his or her thoughts? I like to add that especially when you know this person would rather be right than free and in peace. 7. How does The Work help us move away from a scarcity mindset and move towards an abundance mindset? 8. My favorite part of “Loving What Is” are the 3 types of business: My business, your business, God’s business. Can you help me and my listeners better grasp this one with an example? IF YOU LOVE US, and want to show your appreciation for this free podcast, won’t you give us a shout on iTUNES! Thank you for showing your LOVE! This podcast is part of Prolific Living Media and it is produced weekly and released every Friday. For questions and comments, please email the podcast: tdi@prolificliving.com or call us: 240-347-3693. Love to hear your thoughts about this conversation and most of all, your experience if you decided to do The Work and the Turnaround with the 4 Questions. Use Your Inner Powers Bonus: 21-Step Confidence Building Series
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