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803. Q&AF: Dealing With A Bad Manager, Delegating Tasks & Being Honest With Your Child Athlete

REAL AF with Andy Frisella

Mon Oct 28 2024

On today's episode, Andy answers your questions on how to deal with a bad manager when the owner isn't involved much with the team, the best way to combat your prideful ego with delegating tasks to the other individuals on your team, and how to...

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Podcast Summary: REAL AF with Andy Frisella - Episode 803

Title: Q&AF: Dealing With A Bad Manager, Delegating Tasks & Being Honest With Your Child Athlete
Host: Andy Frisella
Guest/Contributor: Co-host
Episode Description: In this episode, Andy Frisella addresses three pressing questions from listeners, offering no-nonsense advice on leadership, business delegation, and handling challenges in youth sports. Through candid discussions, Andy emphasizes personal responsibility, ethical entrepreneurship, and the importance of perseverance.

1. Navigating Leadership Amidst Poor Management

Listener's Dilemma:
A young sales professional seeks guidance on how to ethically position himself for a sales manager role within his company, where the current manager is ineffective, and the owner remains unaware of the internal issues.

Andy's Advice:

Lead Without a Title:
"You don't have to have a title or a permission or acknowledgement to lead. Leading is something that leaders do on their own, regardless of what title they have." ([06:19])
Demonstrate Unparalleled Performance:
Andy urges the listener to excel in his role, producing results that are undeniable and surpassing company records.
"Put up numbers that that company's never seen before ever, in the history of their company." ([07:00])
Approach Ownership with Proven Results:
Once significant achievements are made, approach the owner with concrete evidence of success to advocate for a leadership position.
"If you can do what you say you can do, here's what I'd recommend putting up numbers... and then I'd recommend going to the owner himself and saying, hey, you see what I'm doing here?" ([09:00])
Avoid Entitlement Mentality:
Andy criticizes the entitlement often seen in younger professionals who expect rewards without proven performance.
"If you pay me, I'd go do it. That's not how the it works." ([10:00])

Notable Quote:
"Put up or shut the fuck up. That's it. You're either putting it up, you're setting records, you're kicking ass and you're going to get paid more. Or you're coasting, you're bitching, you're whining, and you're going to be working at Taco Bell when you're 50 years old." ([10:30])

2. Effective Delegation and Overcoming Leadership Ego in Small Businesses

Listener's Challenge:
A landscaping business owner is struggling to delegate tasks, feeling overwhelmed by day-to-day operations, and battling an ego that hinders effective leadership.

Andy's Guidance:

Value Every Role:
Recognize that every team member's role is crucial to the business's success.
"Without them, you ain't. So you might as well help them feel real good about what they do and help them be great at that so they can progress." ([20:08])
Attitude Adjustment Over Delegation:
The core issue isn't just delegation but the leader's attitude towards the work and the team.
"This is an attitude adjustment from someone who's clearly not ready to lead, that needs to make an adjustment and say, hey, I am not going to ask my people to do anything that I cannot do at a very high level." ([21:22])
Lead by Example:
Engage in all aspects of the business, even the menial tasks, to show commitment and humility.
"Every single day I go to one of our trash bins and I fucking empty it. My job as the fucking founder... is to fucking make everybody else better." ([21:30])
Ethical Entrepreneurship:
Emphasize caring for employees and customers as the foundation of a successful business.
"Ethical entrepreneurship is knowing that every single person that is around you deserves your best as a founder, owner, CEO, leader." ([24:46])

Notable Quote:
"Your job is to fucking make everybody else better. That's the job." ([21:40])

3. Supporting Your Child Athlete Through Adversity

Listener's Concern:
A parent is distressed that his son, despite significant effort in football and other sports, is being sidelined in favor of another student with advantages rooted in favoritism and financial influence. The son is contemplating quitting all sports.

Andy's Perspective:

Persevere Through Unfairness:
Encourage the son to continue striving for excellence despite setbacks.
"If you quit, you're going to quit everything hard in your life." ([27:48])
Outwork the Competition:
Emphasize that surpassing peers through hard work and dedication can overcome advantages like connections or financial backing.
"You're getting your first taste of it here as a young man, which is actually a blessing in disguise. So my advice would be this. If you quit, you're going to quit everything hard in your life." ([28:00])
Long-Term Commitment:
Highlight the importance of long-term dedication and resilience in achieving goals.
"A lot of winning has to do with us not quitting when everybody else quits. That's really it. It's a game of longevity." ([32:00])
Real-World Lessons:
Prepare the son for the inevitable challenges in life by teaching him to respond with strength and perseverance.
"It just ain't fair. People with connections, people with money... We overcome that by being great." ([33:00])

Notable Quote:
"If you were my son, I wouldn't let you quit. That's it. My dad, I tried to quit when I was in high school because I didn't like the coach. You ain't quitting." ([29:36])

Key Takeaways and Insights

Leadership is Action, Not a Title: True leaders emerge through their actions and the value they bring, not merely by holding a managerial title.
Performance Drives Advancement: Demonstrating exceptional performance and tangible results is the most ethical and effective way to advance in any organization.
Humility in Leadership: Successful entrepreneurs and leaders prioritize the growth and well-being of their team, recognizing that their success is intertwined with their employees' success.
Perseverance Over Entitlement: Overcoming challenges requires relentless dedication and the willingness to push beyond perceived limits, rather than expecting rewards without effort.
Ethical Standards in Business: Building a business grounded in ethical practices and genuine care for employees and customers lays a strong foundation for long-term success.

Conclusion

In this episode of REAL AF with Andy Frisella, listeners receive straightforward and impactful advice on overcoming managerial challenges, effective delegation in small businesses, and supporting young athletes facing unfair obstacles. Andy's emphasis on action, ethics, and perseverance serves as a guiding framework for individuals striving for personal and professional excellence.

Notable Closing Quote:
"Grow up. Realize this. There's ethical entrepreneurship and there's unethical entrepreneurship. Ethical entrepreneurship is knowing that every single person that is around you deserves your best." ([24:46])

For More Resources:

75 Hard Program: Dive deeper into the mental transformation program discussed by Andy. Available for free at andyforsoa.com.
Book on Mental Toughness: Enhance your understanding of mental resilience with Andy's comprehensive book, also available at andyforsoa.com.

Thank you for tuning into REAL AF with Andy Frisella. Stay committed, stay real, and keep pushing towards your goals.

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Andy Frisella (0:16)

What is up, guys? It's Andy Frisella and this is the show for the Realist. Say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society, and welcome to reality, guys. Today we have Q and A. That's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers. Now, if you're unfamiliar with the show, Q and A, F is about anything. It's about personal development, business, life, entrepreneurship, how to kick ass. You can ask about what's going on in the world, too, but typically it's about how to get better. We'd like to start the week off with that. Now, if you want your questions answered on the show, you could do so a couple different ways. The first way is, guys, you can.

Co-host (0:52)

Email these questions into ask andyndyforcella.com or.

Andy Frisella (0:55)

You go on YouTube in the comments section. You could Dr. Drop your question in the comments. We'll choose some from there as well. Now, tomorrow we're going to have cruise the Internet. That's a current event show, okay? We call it cti. We put topics up on the screen. We speculate on what's true, what's not true, and then we talk about how we the people have to solve these problems going on in the world. All right? Other times we're going to have real talk. Real talk is just five to 20 minutes of me giving you some real talk. And then we have 75 hard verses. That's where people who have completed the 75 hard program come on the show. They talk about how they were before, how they are now, and how they use the 75 hard program to reclaim their life. If you're unfamiliar with the 75 hard program, it is the initial phase of the live hard program, which is the world's most popular mental transformation program in history. And it's free. You can get it for free, the entire thing at episode 208 on the audio feed only. There's also a book available called the Book on Mental Toughness. You can get it andyforsoa.com it is a lot more in depth. It includes the entire live hard program, plus a whole bunch of other stuff, a bunch of chapters about mental toughness, why it's important, how to use it, some case studies on some famous people who have used mental toughness to become the famous people that you recognize. All right, so you can get that at Andy for now, you're probably wondering why it is we do personal development and what's going on in the world. And it's because this. We have to be aware what's going on, and then we have to know the techniques on how to get better and become the change in society. So we do both of those things here. We talk about what's going on in the world, we talk about what we need to do there, and then we talk about, through Q and A and personal development, how we need to individually get better. Because the truth of the matter is, nothing changes unless we change. We are society. All right? Personal excellence on an individual level is the ultimate rebellion that all of you are looking for. All right? So that's why we do what we do, and we do it a little different than everybody else. We don't run ads on the. Okay, I don't answer anybody. I don't have anybody telling me what I can and can't say. And in exchange for that, I ask very simply that you help us share the show. We're constantly dealing with shadow bands, traffic throttles, all that stuff that they do on the Internet. Hopefully it ends soon after the election. But right now, we're dealing with it, and we need your help to grow the show. So if the show helps you, if it makes you think, if it makes you laugh, it gives you a new perspective, if it's something that you think needs to be heard, do us a favor and don't be a hoe.

Andy Frisella (6:27)

Well, I mean, look, dude, you don't have to have permission to lead anything. That's the biggest thing that people don't understand. You don't have to have a title or a permission or acknowledgement to lead. All right? Leading is something that leaders do on their own, regardless of what title they have. In fact, some of the most effective leaders in the world are what you would call peer leaders, meaning they don't have the title of leadership, but they take over the lead of the team. And you know what happens whenever that person who is a peer leader becomes the leader of their team? Now they have leverage. Now they can go to their manager and they can say, hey, all my guys are with me, bro. We're doing this, we're doing this, we're doing this. You're not doing your part. We need this, we need this. We need this to do our jobs, and you're not providing that. So what do we need to do to get that? Okay. And that's one way you can go about it. Another way you can go about it is become undeniably great at selling whatever it is you're selling with your team. And then when you're kicking ass and everybody else is looking like, which you seem very confident that you can do, which I question your confidence. To be completely honest, anybody who's 25 years old that sounds that confident usually has an ego issue just being honest. So I. If you are who you say you are and you can do what you say you can do, here's what I'd recommend. I'd recommend putting up numbers that that company's never seen before ever, in the history of their company. Not even close. And then I'd recommend going to the owner himself and saying, hey, you see what I'm doing here? I could do this for your entire company if you let me. How about that? That's an ethical way. What do you mean ethical? You mean like going around the manager? If that guy's not doing his job, who's he holding back? Oh, he's holding back you. He's holding back all your teammates, all the people you're working with. So really the ethical thing is to go to bat for those guys, do what I'm saying and then get this out of the way straight up with your performance, or get them to start rowing the boat. So there's a lot of ways you can go about this, but the number one thing that has to happen for you to go about this is you have to win and put up numbers that no one can deny, which everybody talks about all the time. All the numbers they can put up and all the they can sell and how great they were at their last job and how awesome they're going to be at this job if we just give them this and this and this and this. Well, if you're that good, why the are you not doing it? Okay, so let's be real. The owners met 50, 25 year old kids that have come to him and said, I could do this and this and this and this and this. And I'm going to tell you what, the minute you walk out the door, he says, yeah, that, I've heard that before. But the response would be different if you went out and you put the numbers up and then went to him, okay? And this is what people do. If you're an entrepreneur, I'm going to give you the most valuable advice you'll ever get about providing for yourself an income. It's not, hey, if, if you pay me more, I'll do this. That's not how the it works, okay? It's, I'm doing this, I'm kicking ass, I'm dominating, I'm putting up numbers that you've never seen before. I'm worth this. That's the way it works. A lot of you try to get paid off of what you're going to do when in reality you only get paid off what you're already doing or what you've done. All right? So, and that's entitlement. That comes from an entitled culture of the younger generation who believes that they're worth way more than they are. They say, oh, pay me what I'm worth. Well, you're not selling anything. You're not doing anything. Well, if you paid me, I'd go do it. That's not how the it works. That's not how it works. Nobody pays a, you know, a baseball player, you know, a hundred million dollars for what they're going to do. They get the 100 million doll contract after they've proven themselves, okay? And they may have proven themselves in the minor leagues, they may have proven themselves in college, they may have proven themselves for that first two year contract where they made league minimum and now they're getting 100, 200 million dollar deal. Okay? But there's a prove yourself phase that has to be recognized that a lot of you young don't get, okay? If you're not putting up numbers and you're not putting up records and you're not setting the standard, you don't have a standing to go in and ask for anything. So don't get it twisted. Don't listen to your fucking loser friends and your uncle who never did anything and all this shit when they badmouth their places. Well, if they paid me, I do this more. Well, that's why you're not getting paid, because you're a fucking idiot. You don't understand how it works. Works like this, put up or shut the fuck up. That's it. You're either putting it up, you're Setting records, you're kicking ass and you're going to get paid more. Or you're coasting, you're bitching, you're whining, and you're going to be fucking, you know, working at fucking Taco bell when you're 50 years old.

Andy Frisella (29:37)

So, you know, and I was lucky enough to have a dad that pushed me like that. And, you know, my dad would probably nowadays if. If his parenting was broadcast all over the Internet, he'd probably be in jail. But the truth of the matter is, I'm very thankful for it. And I think there's a lot of bad parenting strategies out there because of the feel good do gooders, you know, and the participation trophy culture, which doesn't sound like that's the case here. But we have a lot of parents that just don't push their kids in anything, and then they act surprised when they don't do well in life. To do well in life, you have to be good. And you're learning a lesson here. You can't be as good. You have to be better. And you have to be so much better that it doesn't matter if that kid's dad was building a whole entire new school out of his own pocket. You got to be better than that kid. And play where everybody in the crowd knows that if he plays that kid, it's only because of that. And you're not that good because if they did, they would play you. All right, get back to work, bro. You know, it sounds like you got a really good momentum. It sounds like you're doing 75 hard. You lost 50 pounds. You made a lot of progress, dude. I know you're frustrated because of this going on, and that's. That's aggravating. I don't get everything I Want. In fact, right before this podcast, I had to tell these guys that I wasn't getting something that we plan on getting, did I not? Okay, so I'm fucking grown man. That shit still happens. And I have all the connections. Okay, it's going to happen to you, too. So how are you going to respond? Are you going to respond by saying, oh, poor little me, he gets the advantage because his dad's big shot and blah, blah. You'll be saying that same at your job in 10 years. You'll be saying, oh, he got the promotion because, you know, he sucked the owners wee wee. You know what I'm saying? Like, you'll make up some. And dude, that's what. And then your life, your life, you'll be 50 years old and you'll be a loser, and that'll be that. And I don't think that's what you want. Bro, you're 15, 16 years old. You're putting in all this work. Don't quit, get better. Those are the two things that you need to do. And if you don't get better than that, kid, because, dude, sometimes you can't be better than people. Some, like, if I was playing basketball against LeBron James, it doesn't matter how much work I do or how much I put into it, because he's still going to be better. Yeah. So we got to be, and this is a good lesson for people. We got to be real about our strengths and weaknesses so that we can produce the result that we're looking after. And yes, there's a lot of truth to, you can do anything you want, but there's also limits to that, too. Okay, in the real world, yes, but they're not as bad as you think. They're limits based upon, like, physical ability. Right? Like in sports, like, bro, if you run a 5, 2:40, you probably ain't playing college football, you know, unless you're £400, you know what I'm saying? If you can't dunk a basketball, you know, you probably ain't playing in the NBA, right. You know, there's limits. And the good thing is, is that in the business world and in the life world, there's far less limits than in the sports world. So you're dealing with a very harsh reality. Possibly now it could be possible, too, that you're just a young man and you haven't developed enough and you're just kind of getting your athletics going on because you're making all this progress and you could come back next year and be dominant. I Promise you this. If that kid knows he's going to start over you next year and you're hungry, he ain't going to work as hard as you're willing to work.