Andy Purcell (21:58)
So. So check this out, dude. This is exactly the process of. It's totally normal. It's. First of all, there's. I just want you to know this is normal. I've been through it. And you're going to go through it multiple times on your journey. Okay, so here's how it happens. You start out, you have a group of friends, and that group of friends is based around. Usually, you know, you just know them. They. They grew up in the neighborhood, or you went to college, or maybe you went to high school or whatever, man. And usually it's just social friends. It's like you drink together, you smoke together, you hang out together, you do fun shit together. And when you start to get ambition and you want more for yourself, when you first say it, all these guys like, oh, yeah, man, that's awesome. And some will say, well, dude, are you sure? Are you. Are you sure you want to do that? And it creates this weird dynamic because you're doing something that all of them aren't doing. And so what happens is when you start to go down the path, the nature of business is so difficult. It takes so much time that people just don't understand it if they've never done it. So then they start to get negative and they start to say, well, don't forget where you came from. And, hey, you know, I think, O'Neill, you're, you know, you're getting a little too big for your britches. And they say stupid ass, and it becomes. It becomes a drag, okay? And then us as entrepreneurs, we get blamed for it because we're trying to better our lives and we have to remove ourselves from this negativity because we only have so much energy. And what happens is the. Our old friend group. While we still might love them and we still might care about them, and we might always be cool with them. Like, I am so cool with everybody that I've ever had as a friend in the past. But we might not talk every day, we might not go to dinner, we might not hang out, I still love them, but I don't have the time or the energy or the will to waste my time because I have big vision, big goals, and that naturally creates this place of isolation and what I call no man's land. And so there's. There's good news here. The good news is, is that it's temporary, okay? So what's going to happen is the more success that you have with your company, you're going to start to meet some of these business owners who, you know, you're doing these cleaning services for, and you're going to have more in common. All right? These guys are hustling, these guys are working. These guys have big goals. And your new friend group. And by the way, this takes time. This doesn't happen in one day, okay? This could be a year. This could be two years. It depends on how hard you're pressing to move forward. But you'll find a new grand, a new friend group that has commonality, shared interests, and understanding of what you're doing. Because think about this. If you go back and, you know, all your friends are talking about what's going on with the. The sports game, they don't have anything. You don't have anything to talk about with them anymore. So we just kind of grow apart. And, dude, that's part of life. But you end up with this new friend group who has all these things in common with you. And by the way, because they're on the same mission as you, they don't drag you back, bro. They will actually encourage you. They will teach you things, they will connect you, they will push you forward, and it becomes a much more valuable and fulfilling experience to be around friends who share the same goals and missions. And the cool thing about these friends is, you know, there's a saying that I like to use is busy people. Understand busy people. So, you know, they're not getting mad if you don't show up to the dinner. And they're not getting mad if you don't text them back. And they're not saying, oh, you know, O'Neill, you're. You're get. You getting too full of yourself, dude. You need to humble yourself. They know that, like, when we hang, we hang. And if, you know, we text each other and we don't hear back for a couple days, it's no big deal. And by the way, I'm going to stop right here and remind all of you guys that if you are a young entrepreneur and you text someone and they don't text you back, and then you. You hit them with, oh, I thought we were still, bro. Nobody that's successful deals with that shit. That is peasant behavior. If someone texts me and then I don't text them back, and then they hit Me with, oh, dude, what, like some kind of guilt trip? I will never talk to them again. They're not my kind of people. So if you're a young guy or young girl, remember that. Do not fucking do that to the people ahead of you. They will cut you right out. But anyway, when you find this new friend group, they're going to push you forward. They're not going to drag you back. And if you continue to go down the path and you continue to grow, you're going to go through the same process again, all right? Because you're going to outgrow that friend group and. And then you're going to go back to being in the middle where you feel like you don't really have any friends. And then you're going to find another leveled up friend group who can now associate with you more. So I've done this number of times through my life where the different stages of business, I had a different circle of friends, and that's just the way it goes, bro. So you have to understand, dude, this is normal. It has nothing to do with you. It's called life. And as we grow, we are going to naturally disconnect with people who don't grow and connect with people who are growing. And, bro, let me tell you something to help you deal with this. It's not like they couldn't have went with you. They could have went with you, okay? So I know that if you listen to my show, I already know that you're probably a really good dude and you probably care a lot, and it probably makes you feel guilty and feel bad that you're moving on from this friend group. But just remember, they could have went with you. They could have went down that path, and they chose not to. And you have no obligation. And you should not feel guilty about taking care of yourself, your family, your future family if you don't have one and handling business, period. So what do you think, bro?
