993. Q&AF: Building A New Identity, Work Vs "Me Time" & Progress Paralysis

Summary

REAL AF with Andy Frisella — Episode 993

Q&AF: Building A New Identity, Work Vs "Me Time" & Progress Paralysis
Date: January 26, 2026
Host: Andy Frisella
Length: ~50 minutes

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Episode Overview

In this Q&AF episode, Andy Frisella and his co-host dive deep into three listener-submitted questions, addressing the challenges of personal transformation, the balance between hard work and personal time, and overcoming paralysis when striving for entrepreneurship. Andy draws heavily from his own experiences, blending his signature tough love, directness, and motivational insight to deliver actionable advice on building an unbreakable mindset and achieving long-term success — whether in business, health, or personal growth.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Building a New Identity: When Does It Catch Up?

(05:22 – 15:45)

• Question Summary:
  Listener asks: "I'm developing better habits and achieving bigger goals, but inside I still feel like the same person. When does my identity really catch up to my life, and can I speed it up?"

• Andy’s Core Insight:

  • Your external reality improves because of the actions your former, less-successful self took. Don't forget where you came from.
  • Many fail after winning because they let success go their heads and forget the mindset and actions that got them there.
  • True long-term winners never lose sight of their origins or get complacent.
  • Identity should stay connected to hunger and humility; results are from disciplined habits, not superior inherent qualities.

• Notable Quotes:

  • “When people fail in life… they fail because they forget what life was like before.” (05:56, Andy)
  • “None of us are actually great. We’re the result of great actions over the course of time.” (10:13, Andy)
  • “You want to get to a point where you understand that the actions produce the result… those things have to be applied every single day to maintain or escalate from that point.” (15:37, Andy)
  • “I know that 350 pound, fat, lazy motherfucker that I used to be is still in there. He's just fucking waiting. I'm aware of that because I'm old enough to have gone up and down that curve.” (13:09, Andy)
  • “I act like it’s day one… all my goal is is to win the fucking day.” (14:38, Andy)

• Memorable Moment:
  Andy’s raw honesty about his former self and the ongoing internal battle keeps listeners grounded in the reality that discipline is a daily decision, not a destination.

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2. Work vs. "Me Time": Avoiding Resentment Without Losing Your Edge

(16:53 – 28:38)

• Question Summary:
  Listener, the main point of contact at work and home, asks: “How do you keep winning without resenting the life you’ve built for others? How do you balance selflessness and selfishness without burning out?”

• Andy’s Core Insight:

  • Success brings massive responsibility; more people will depend on you as you progress.
  • If you’re "successful" but never have time for yourself, you’re not running your system effectively — you’re running it inefficiently.
  • Andy’s system: Five critical tasks per day (“The Power List”). Complete those, and the rest of your day is yours.
  • True happiness doesn’t come at a mythical ending; it’s enjoyed in the process, daily.
  • Winning at the highest levels means perpetual movement — there’s always a new goal or a bigger mountain to climb. Macro (not micro) balance is key.
  • Enjoyment and fulfillment are built into the structure and people you choose for your business/life.

• Notable Quotes:

  • “If you have a company and you’re making money and things are going well and you still don’t have time for yourself… you’re not running your life right. You’re running it inefficiently.” (18:14, Andy)
  • “You have to decide what a win is. For me, a win is very simple. Five critical tasks a day.” (20:27, Andy)
  • “If you don’t adjust how you see your day, it’ll never be your time. There will always be a list. There will always be to-dos. There’s always going to be problems. There’s always going to be people.” (21:48, Andy)
  • “The only way to win long term is to be like the first guy who’s always stacking on top.” (25:18, Andy)
  • “People ask me, ‘How do you balance work and life?’ It is my life… it’s all one thing.” (26:50, Andy)

• Memorable Moment:
  The candid breakdown of “micro vs. macro” balance and the myth of ever arriving at a cushy endpoint ("the place you’re trying to get to is mythical. It doesn’t exist. It exists every single day.” 25:30, Andy) reframes how ambitious people should view achievement and fulfillment.

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3. Progress Paralysis: How to Jump from Being an Operator to an Entrepreneur

(28:38 – 49:14)

• Question Summary:
  A 25-year-old general manager who’s grown a restaurant from $1.3m to $2.3m and yearns to start his own, but feels financial and existential “paralysis.” How to kick open the door to entrepreneurship despite fear and lack of a safety net?

• Andy’s Core Insight:

  • To the young manager: Ask yourself what your life looks like if you DON’T bet on yourself. If you’re truly built for greatness, no amount of salary will ever be enough.
  • Managing and building are VERY different. “Your ass isn’t on the line” until you’re the owner.
  • The entrepreneurial mind never rests—it’s a blessing and a curse; you have to be built for war.
  • Most people want the trappings of success, not the 20+ years of hardship it takes to get there.
  • Tactical advice: Instead of making a full leap, minimize your lifestyle, take extra jobs if needed to support the transition, and only fully jump to your own venture when it can pay your bills. Most aren’t willing to take these humbling backward steps.
  • Don’t wait for or expect raises—learn to advocate for your value with facts or consider your exit.

• Notable Quotes:

  • “What’s your life going to look like if you don’t do it? ... If you are one of these people that has always known—‘I’m meant for something more’—no amount of money is going to make you stay.” (30:08 & 31:06, Andy)
  • “Managing something and starting something from scratch are two different things… It’s not the same thing as putting your balls on the line and fucking writing checks not knowing if you’re going to be able to pay them.” (31:34, Andy)
  • “If people actually knew what goes on in my head on a daily basis, they would never be an entrepreneur.” (33:30, Andy)
  • “You have to be built for war, bro… your mindset’s the same (as a warrior). I’m thinking of all my people… like being on a battlefield.” (36:54, Andy)
  • “For most people, that’s a miserable life… but for people who are built for it, that’s all they want.” (37:32, Andy)
  • “How much money would [your boss] have to pay you for you to give up on that? He couldn’t even fucking afford it, bro.” (31:00, Andy)
  • “You work two, three other jobs the first ten years… I worked those jobs to support myself so the business could stay open. This is the part nobody talks about.” (43:19, Andy)

• Co-host Follow-Up:

  • Realistically, you’ll need to live below your means. Most people won’t “downgrade” now for greater rewards later, and that’s what keeps them stuck.
  • Andy strongly emphasizes that “no one’s giving you a fuckin’ raise”—you must build, display, and make the case for your own value; don’t expect others to recognize it without proof or your advocacy.

• Memorable Moment:
  Andy’s brutal breakdown of entrepreneurship as “war,” his view on the mental noise and stress, and his analogy of warriors and chess pieces (36:54–38:36) highlight both the sacrifices and the mindset required for greatness.

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• [05:22 – 15:45] — Building a New Identity: Internal struggle, remembering your "old self," and leveraging humility.
• [16:53 – 28:38] — Work/Life Balance: Power List, macro vs. micro balance, and structuring life for constant progress and enjoyment.
• [28:38 – 49:14] — Progress Paralysis: From manager to entrepreneur, the real trade-offs, overcoming fear, and managing value.
• [43:16 – 44:18] — Tactical advice: How to minimize your lifestyle to transition safely to business ownership.
• [45:00 – 48:53] — On advocating for your own raises, value, and career advancement—crucial for both entrepreneurs and employees.

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Notable Quotes Recap

| Timestamp | Speaker | Quote | |---|---|---| | 05:56 | Andy | “When people fail in life… they fail because they forget what life was like before.” | | 10:13 | Andy | “None of us are actually great. We’re the result of great actions over the course of time.” | | 14:38 | Andy | “I act like it’s day one… all my goal is is to win the fucking day.” | | 18:14 | Andy | “If you still don’t have time for yourself you’re not running your life right. You’re running it inefficiently.” | | 21:48 | Andy | “If you don’t adjust how you see your day, it’ll never be your time. There will always be a list.” | | 25:18 | Andy | “The only way to win long term is to be like the first guy who’s always stacking on top.” | | 26:50 | Andy | “It is my life… it’s all one thing.” | | 30:08 | Andy | “What’s your life going to look like if you don’t do it?” | | 31:34 | Andy | “Managing something and starting something from scratch are two different things.” | | 33:30 | Andy | “If people actually knew what goes on in my head on a daily basis, they would never be an entrepreneur.” | | 36:54 | Andy | “You have to be built for war, bro… your mindset’s the same (as a warrior).” | | 43:19 | Andy | “You work two, three other jobs the first ten years… I worked those jobs to support myself so the business could stay open.” | | 47:09 | Andy | “You have to be undeniably great. You have to display that you’re undeniably great.” | | 48:07 | Andy | “You should never be embarrassed to talk about money. That is a fucking real thing.” | | 49:03 | Andy | “If that’s true what you say, you need to leave that job and figure it the fuck out because you will ruin your life.” |

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Tone, Language & Atmosphere

Andy’s approach is no-nonsense, unapologetic, and intensely motivational, peppered with humor and gritty real-talk. He’s unafraid to call out comfort, complacency, and entitlement, motivating listeners to take extreme ownership of their lives and careers.

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Summary for First-Time Listeners

This Q&AF episode is a masterclass in tough-love personal development. Andy walks listeners through the mental frameworks, daily systems, and emotional realities that separate lifelong winners from those stuck on the “success roller coaster.” It’s candid, practical, and often challenging — perfect for entrepreneurs, leaders, and anyone determined to push past their current plateau.

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For more on building discipline, personal transformation, and entrepreneurship from Andy Frisella, check out Episode 208 (“75 Hard”), Episode 16 (“Win The Day – The Power List”), and Andy’s book on mental toughness.

Transcript

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[Andy Frisella]

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[Andy Frisella]

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[Andy Frisella]

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[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

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[Andy Frisella]

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[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

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[Andy Frisella]

Yeah. Big group of. I just found this out, but a really big group of people starting 75 hard on Monday. So.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

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[Andy Frisella]

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[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Joe.

[Andy Frisella]

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Yeah.

[Andy Frisella]

Ice cream Joe. All right. Thank you, brother. Joe. Yeah, no, that's just called being. That's just called being courteous, bro.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah, listen, Joe's the guy.

[Andy Frisella]

Hey, I come in here and is ready to go. It's appreciated. I'll take it for granted.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

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[Andy Frisella]

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[Andy Frisella]

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[Andy Frisella]

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[Andy Frisella]

Yeah.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

And then I'm like, okay, well, like, the new OG flight. Like, there's nothing that could be possible. And then this thing comes out. Yeah, all right, that thing's. And, you know, I. Dude, I'm. I'm ready. Yeah, I'm ready.

[Andy Frisella]

Yeah.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

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[Andy Frisella]

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[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

That's full time. Yeah, I know this, dude. I let that orange sit the other day on accident. I wasn't drinking it fast enough. And so, like, the carbonation loss. Yeah, it was still fucking delicious.

[Andy Frisella]

Oh, yeah. Like.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

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[Andy Frisella]

Yeah.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

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[Andy Frisella]

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[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

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[Andy Frisella]

Yeah, orange drink.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah, man. Well, guys, let's make some people better today, guys. You guys know how this goes. I got three. We're ready to roll.

[Andy Frisella]

You got three what?

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

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[Andy Frisella]

That's right.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

And potatoes.

[Andy Frisella]

Open up.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Guys. Andy, question number one. Andy. I'm doing things now that the old version of me wouldn't even attempt. Better habits, harder conversations, bigger goals. But internally, I still feel like the same person. How long does it take before your identity actually catches up to the life you're building? And is there anything you could do to speed it up?

[Andy Frisella]

Huh? I. Look, first of all, why. Okay, consider this. The reason you're moving so good is because you remember what it's like to be the old you. That's not a bad thing, okay? When people fail in life, whether it's a business or whether it's their personal development or whether it's their fitness, they fail because they forget what life was like before. All right? We see this all the time in business. People make money, they get in a comfortable spot, and then all of a sudden, they're broke. All right? So the reason this happens is because their identity changes from someone who is being a hard worker, who is thinking, who is solving problems, who is innovating, who's pushing themselves down the path to this place where they start to take it for granted. And they assume that it's always going to be there, which it will not. And the most common types of people that lose are not actually people that just never try. It's actually people who won once and they win once, and they attach their identity to that win. And then they lose all of the habits and all of the work and all of the discipline and everything over the course of time because they identify with that win. People who win long term, people who win over the course of their life over and over and over and over again, they never forget who the fuck they actually are, okay? So it's this nuance that you have to learn to master, which is being grateful for where you're at, being grateful that things are going good, but also remembering that things are not going good because you're you or you're gifted. Things are going good because the old you was willing to do things that produce the current reality that you live in. And when you Lose sight of this and you lose the perspective that the current reality that you live in was built by someone who used to exist. You want to keep the, that created all this moving. Okay, does this make sense? All right, so a lot of people completely their entire lives up by thinking that their success is the result of them, when in reality it's not the result of them. It's the result of the actions that the previous version of them have taken which have produced this reality. Okay? So now you're in a reality of comfort, you've got some money in the bank, you, you're, you're pretty fit, things are going well. And then you stop, you stop doing the things that hungry person did. You stop doing the things that fat person did to get in shape. You stop doing the things that broke person did to fix that problem. And then what happens? The problems start to happen again. Okay? And slowly and surely you go back down to who you used to be in reality, not just in your mind. So when we think about this, what is this problem? Right? This is actually an ego problem, okay? And when we talk about being humble, this is where humility is applicable. We have to understand and detach our results from our identity and understand that our results come from the actions. So what most people do is they go through this situation of life where like if you imagine a bell curve for those of you who are listening on audio, and you start on the left hand side of the curve and you don't know shit, you don't know anything. You are very willing to learn, you are hungry, you are a sponge, you're willing to do things that other people won't do. You are willing to work harder, you're willing to work smarter, you're willing to pour into yourself because, dude, you're a blank slate. And you know, you're a blank slate. So what happens is you start to move up the curve and things are going good. And, and you're continuing these habits because they're still fresh for you. And you're, you're like, fuck, yeah, this is working. This is going good. And what happens is you get to the, to the top, which you perceive as a top, which is not actually the top. You get to the top of this curve and what happens for most people is they start to believe that the reason that they are at that curve is because they are great. No, you're, you're not great. None of us are actually great. We're the result of great actions over the course of time. And so when your identity actually switches from, you know, you're this hungry individual who doesn't know to. I'm great because I breathe the air and I walk. You know, I'm. I'm the man. What happens is you start losing the perspective of what it took to get where you are, and you stop doing those things. And then you slide down the backside of the curve. Okay. And you don't notice it at first. At first it's just a cut corner. At first it's just a, you know, missed workout. A missed workout or, you know, a missed meeting or something like that. Right? And then before you know it, your life's falling apart and you can't figure out why. And then you find yourself back at ground zero, which people. At this. Now, what people call this part start. It's no longer ground zero. It's rock bottom.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

That's right.

[Andy Frisella]

Okay? So now you're back, you're at, quote, unquote, rock bottom, and you have to start again. So you get. You get hammered so hard that you humble yourself, and then you're like, okay, well, I gotta. I gotta get back to this. And then what happens? The process repeats, and you start to go up the curve. And for most people, they make the same mistake again. When things start getting good, they get comfortable, and then they go down the curve. So most people live in this. In this series of curves, okay? Up, down, up, down. And the goal is for you, when you get to the top of that first curve, when everything's going good, you're making some money, you're fit, you're kicking ass, you are the fucking man. But you have to remember that the reason that you're there is because of the actions that you took. And if you continue to take those actions when you're at the top, that's where you continue to escalate. And the mountain actually never ends. You just keep going up and up and up and up and up. And so this is the difference between people who win consistently and continue to level up and people who kind of, like, live this up and down, you know, lifestyle, whether. And this. This can apply to any area of your life, and it should apply to all areas of your life, right? Because success isn't just money. Money is very important, but it's a bunch of different shit.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

So it's such an interesting thing, man. Like, it's fun. Like, now, hindsight, I've. You know, you've. I've heard you say this many times, and I never really understood it, but you're like, dude, I'm still a lazy Dude, I'm still a.

[Andy Frisella]

Exactly.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

But like, that makes sense. I think the thing too is, like, dude, I can understand why a lot of people get in that. Because for a lot of people, they're probably afraid of that old version of them. They want to get so far away.

[Andy Frisella]

Should be afraid of it. Yeah, that's what should push you down, down the road.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

They forgive.

[Andy Frisella]

That's right. You should. Like, I. Dude, I know. Like, I know that 350 pound, fat, lazy motherfucker that I used to be is still in there. He's still in there, man. He's just fucking waiting. He's waiting for his time. He's waiting for his opportunity to come out. I'm aware of that because I. I'm old enough to have gone up and down that curve, okay? So at. At 36 years old, I decided, hey, I'm fucking not doing this shit no more. And I'm just going to stay on the gas. And you know what's happened? Everything I just told you, I continue to go up, up, up, up, up, up. And even, you know, my buddies who are successful, they're like, fuck, dude, all you do is win. Yeah, because I behave like a broke person all the fucking time. And you know, people get around me and they're like, why is he so urgent? Why does he get so fucking intense? What is his deal? Why doesn't he do this or that? Why doesn't he just relax? Because, bro, I know what fucking happens when you do. Because I know who the fuck I am on the inside. And I know my propensity, just like most people, is to be lazy as fuck, to. To waste my time, to not be productive, to not train. And I don't want that. So I keep it very, very close and I let my identity be nuanced, okay? Like if. If we're having a real conversation and they say, okay, you know, like, how do you feel about things? Fuck, dude, I feel good. I'm pretty much the fucking dude, okay? I've done a lot of shit, built a lot of companies, built a bunch of podcasts, Two number one podcasts. Fucking biggest mental transformation program. I've done a lot of shit, okay? But when I show up every day, I act like it's day one. Like, like all my goal is is to win the fucking day, okay? So, you know, I know what I am and I'm okay with that and I'm aware of that and I don't try to hide that. And I let that drive me down the path. And so when you Say, like, when this person says, well, when does my identity catch up? You really don't want it to, if that makes sense. Okay. You want to get to a point where you understand that the actions produce the result and. And you are. You are feeling good and proud and confident, and you developed, you know, the grit and the fortitude and the mental toughness to push through. But you also understand that those things have to be applied every single day to maintain or escalate from that point.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Because that would you. Is still there.

[Andy Frisella]

It always is. It always is so fucking real. Yeah.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Oh, dude, I love it, man. I love it. Yeah, I love it. Let's get to. Let's get to question number two.

[Andy Frisella]

This is why people that gain weight and lose weight go back and forth, back and forth, back and forth, because they're not solving the real problem, bro. This is why 75 hard and live hard is such a big deal. Everybody tries to make it about your. Your weight and your body fat percentage and your training and all this, when in reality, dude, it's training your brain. It's getting your brain conditioned to be highly disciplined, to be able to adhere to a plan all the time, not just when you feel good, right? And when you switch that. When you switch your understanding that everything comes from your mental toughness, your ability to succeed in life, every area, and it becomes a mental game. It's just. It's just. It changes your life. And anybody who's done 75 hard knows this. This is why people who do 75 hard and live the live hard lifestyle continue to escalate up if they're doing it correctly.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

100. Dude. I love it, man. Guys. Andy, question number two. All right, Andy. Andy. I'm the person everyone counts on at work, at home, and my family. If something needs to get handled, it usually falls on me. I chose this life, and I'm proud of that. But some days I'm exhausted, and I feel like there's no space left for what I want. How do you keep pushing to win without resenting the very life you worked so hard to build? I don't want to be selfish, but it's like, okay, guys, you guys are good. Yes. Okay, it's my turn now. How do you balance the. I guess getting to that point of. You talk about an unselfishness and selflessness, right? Where does that. Where does that cross?

[Andy Frisella]

Well, you know, look, dude, Success comes with real responsibility, okay? And when you start to win and you start to do things, other people around you become dependent on you, and you become responsible for their outcomes in certain situations. And you have to understand that there's no world where anybody's built anything significant, especially significant wealth, where the responsibility isn't much greater when they have it than it was before. So this is a reality of becoming successful. Like, this is just part of it. Other people are going to depend on you. You are going to be responsible for other people. And if you're not, you won't be able to get where you want to go. It's impossible because it takes more than just you. So you have to understand that the reason you are in the life that you have is because you've handled shit so well for so long now. I can understand what you're saying because I've struggled with this as well, and I still struggle with this. Okay? There's a reason that I don't travel all over the place. There's a reason that I'm not at every, you know, big event. And yes, I like to work and I like to create and I like to build and I prefer that over doing all that other shit. But yeah, it'd be cool to be able to do some other stuff and I could do those other things. And the reality of doing those things is as simple as you understanding that having time for yourself is a matter of being effective or ineffective. And if you have a company and you're making money and things are going well and you still don't have time for yourself and you still don't have the ability to live a life, you're not running your right, you're running your inefficiently.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah, okay.

[Andy Frisella]

And this is why the what I talk about the 24 hour game and the power list is so important, because when. And by the way, you can get the powerless podcast for free. It's called Win the day episode 16 on Real AF. You want to go listen to that? It'll give you the. The. The play to run. But the whole thing is, is like, dude, you can only do so much in a day. So if once you do your 5. 5 critical tasks in a day, you the rest of your day is free for you to live your life. That's the whole idea of the powerless system, which by the way, all these other are trying to steal now and pretend like it's there. Core five or whatever the they call it. Look, dude, I've been running this system for damn near 30 years, okay? It works. And the reason I created the system was because I understood very simply that I needed to enjoy the process along the way. So the whole point. And by the way, if you're in operator standard, if you're in the operator standard app, you understand, you're starting to understand this very well. We're playing a 24 hour game and there's only so many things that you can get done in a day. And as an entrepreneur, there's going to be a list a mile long. Whenever you choose to address it. It's going to be there tomorrow, it's going to be there the next day. The list never gets shorter. So you have to decide what a win is. For me, a win is very simple. Five critical tasks a day. Those do not include my to dos. These are critical tasks that move my business forward, my goals forward. Once those things are done, the rest of the day is mine to, to do with whatever I want. Now I choose usually to like, continue to work.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah. Reinvest that time back.

[Andy Frisella]

But when I, when I. Yeah, because, because dude, I like being here and I like being around the guys and I like doing the, the, the things. Right. But when I was younger, you know, you know, I, this is, even when we were building the business, like I, I would do the five critical tasks. If I got done by noon, bro, I'd leave, I'd go do whatever I want. Drive my car or, you know, whatever.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah.

[Andy Frisella]

So you have to come up with a way for you to enjoy your life as you go down the process. Because here's the thing, dude. This, this place that you're trying to get to, where you're like, when is it going to be my time? If you don't adjust how you see your day, it'll never be your time. There will always be a list. There will always be to do. There's always going to be problems. There's always going to be people. And you have to understand that true happiness is not this destination that you're trying to get to. Enjoying your life is not this destination. Enjoying your life is something that you do on a daily basis. Right? So this idea, and a lot of people have this, especially when it comes to winning and making money and, or running a business. You know, once I get here, everything will be great. But dude, you're never going to get there. And I'm not saying you won't get to your goals, but when you get to your goals, you're going to have new goals because that's what winners do. So if you're constantly stacking new on, new on, new on new, you tell me when you're going to live your life. The answer is Never.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah.

[Andy Frisella]

And by the way, your business should be built in a way where you enjoy it.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

I was about to say you like the people.

[Andy Frisella]

Yeah. You like the people you work with? You like, dude, I love coming here every day. Honestly, dude, like I could be in the worst mood ever in the morning and once I walk in here, I love being here. This is, this is. You should build your business understanding that you are going to spend a lot, most of your time there. So you want to work with people that you like. You want to do things that you think are cool. You want to build things that you enjoy building. You want to create things that you're proud of. These are important things to being happy long term. And because money is not going to be the only thing that does it. Now, I can promise you this, you're never going to be happy with no money, right? Like all your friends are going to say stupid shit like, oh, you gotta live your life. Well, how are they living their life? Oh, they're living it in the basement playing Call of Duty or they're living it in a bar stool. That's not living a life, bro. So, you know, you gotta reframe how you think about it and you got to reorganize your effectiveness and make sure that you're looking at your Life on a 24 hour basis and just stacking wins. Win, win, win, win, win. And part of those wins every day is being effective enough to have a life. Okay. Like, dude, really, if you're in a place right now where you're like, oh, this is consuming me and I'm working 17 hours a day, like, dude, yeah. That sometimes you have to do that stuff. Sometimes it lasts for a couple years when they're two, three years, especially when you're starting. But the reality is, is that you have to build a life and a business that you enjoy because that does become your life, right?

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah, absolutely. Dude, I love it. Yeah, I love it. Dude. I feel like there's a tough thing.

[Andy Frisella]

It is, it's a nuanced thing. Yeah, it is, it's a, it's a, there's nuance to everything in business, in life and performance. But it's, you know, if you're a driven person. Okay, here's the thing. If you're a driven person, like I said, you're gonna, you're gonna, you're gonna get 90% to where you wanna go and then you're gonna be, have a new set of goals. It's gonna be grow the business bigger. It's gonna be do this thing. And that's the only way to win long term is to continue to reset the bar. Okay? Because if you become one of these people that just gets to the point and they say, oh, I got it now you're like we talked about in the first question, okay? Because here's what you don't understand. And a lot of people fail to understand this. Everybody else is continuously moving forward. They're innovating, they're pushing, they're working, they're trying. So the market is always shifting forward, okay? Advancements are always happening. The minute you say, oh, I'm good, man, I got, I got my, you know, $500,000 house at the lake and I got a BMW and you know, I got a bass boat or whatever the fuck you're into that, listen, that's it, you're gonna get killed because you're gonna stop right where you are and everybody else is gonna pass you by. And this is how the game works. So the only way to win long term is to be like the first guy who's always stacking on top. Expanding new, innovative, pushing harder, getting bigger, scaling out, which means more responsibility, which means the place you're trying to get to is mythical. It doesn't actually exist. It exists every single day. And you have to be aware of that. Once you're aware of that, your life perspective changes and it becomes, you know, like. Because people are always asking me, they're like, well, dude, how do you balance work in life? It is my life. Like it's just my life, you know, like it's. That doesn't mean that work is my life or life is my life. It means it's all one thing.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah.

[Andy Frisella]

You know what I mean?

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

It's also a day to day thing. Like you said, man. Like there's going to be some days where. Yeah, I did, I did. I had great balance today. Yeah, There'll be some days where like that fucking scales tipped to the other side.

[Andy Frisella]

Yeah.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

It just is what it is. Yeah, let's try again tomorrow.

[Andy Frisella]

Listen, dude, the balance is a macro balance. It's not, it's not micro balance. You know, people, people misunderstand. Like they, they think they got to have a certain amount of time every day. Like, you know, at 4:00 clock I got to walk out the door because that's this time. Well, if that's the life you want and be an entrepreneur, that's not reality. That's never going to happen and you're never going to win in that, in that situation. It's not going to work. You should be an employee that gets a job and comes in and goes home, is happy with staying exactly where you are, okay? Because there's three kinds of people. There's the people who come in and, you know, they. They do their job and they get paid, and then they go home. Then there's the people that come in and they progress. They improve their skill set. They do more that's asked. They anticipate needs. They contribute to the winning. Those people move up. And then there's the people who create from the ground, the ground zero, which is an entrepreneur, okay? All three are needed. All three of those things are needed and valued. You have to decide which one you want to be, but you don't get the benefits of being an employee and the winnings of being an entrepreneur. It doesn't fucking work like that. So you got to understand, dude, what you're signing up for. You know, you're signing up for a different kind of life. You're signing up to play a different game. And all this shit that you see online and all these posts and all this fucking nonsense, that's for other people, dude. That's not for you, you know, not applicable. It's not.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

I love it. Yeah, that's real, man. That's where we got one more question for you, Andy, guys. Andy, question number three. Andy, my question to you is I've been a general manager for a restaurant for three and a half years now. I started in the restaurant industry eight years ago, and I've worked my way from a line cook to the position I'm in now. I'm only 25 years old, and I have turned the restaurant I'm running now from a 1.3 million operation to a $2.3 million operation in three and a half years. I mean this with respect to the owner, but he is more of an investor. I am the day in, day out running the operation. No exaggerations. I know I'm young, but I have this calling of being great. I mean that with 100% confidence, I know I can run a restaurant and make it successful. My goal is to start my own restaurant. Due to the fact that my boss does not believe in raises, I have not received one in three and a half years. Even with the growth of the company we're in, we are about to open up our second location. There's still no talks of more compensation. I'm in the position where I know I could be successful in doing my own thing, but I have paralysis that's keeping me from doing it. I'm not scared to fail. I'm sure there will be some failures in my future, but one thing is I won't quit. What advice would you give to a 25 year old who has a wife and a newborn baby to get out of that paralysis and kick open the door and start their own thing and become one of the great business entrepreneurs in this country?

[Andy Frisella]

It's very simple. What's your life going to look like if you don't do it? If you stay right where you are and this dude pays you right what he pays you, which you clearly said he was going to, and you stay five more years there, what's your life going to look like? Very simple. You already know the answer. Okay? And by the way, if you are who you say you are, and you are one of these people that's called to be great, and you are one of these people that has always known, like, I'm meant for something more. I'm supposed to be winning. I'm supposed to be doing this. And you, you feel that on the inside because no one's going to come tell you that. Like, that's a calling. How much money would it have for he. For him to pay you? How much money would he have to pay you for you to give up on that? He couldn't even fucking afford it, bro. Okay? Like if he came and said, hey, here's a million bucks a year and you truly have what you say you have, it wouldn't be enough.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Not enough.

[Andy Frisella]

Okay, so you're not. This isn't even about the money. This is about what the you're going to do with your life. And yeah, clearly you do know how to run a restaurant, but running a restaurant isn't the end all be all. Can you create a brand out of the restaurant? Can you, can you create a place where it provides the financial outcome that you actually want to provide? Are like managing something and starting something from scratch are two different things. Okay? You have a great perspective because you've grown up. You went through the line cook, you went, you learned all the jobs, now you're managing.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah.

[Andy Frisella]

Huge deal. Yeah. Still not the same thing. Still not the same thing as putting your balls on the line and fucking writing checks, not knowing if you're going to be able to pay them. Okay? It's, it's, it's not the same thing, dude. At the end of the day, that guy who you say is an investor, his ass is on the line, yours isn't. All right? And that's why Those people get. Make the most money because they can handle the uncertainty and most people can't. What most people don't understand is that they're living in a situation of uncertainty anyway. Because what if the restaurant fucking tanks? What if it's get. What if something happens? What if someone finds a mouse head in the stake and it makes the news? Okay? Like, you're, like, one thing away from being unemployed. You just don't understand that. So how I would look at this if I were you is what's my life going to look like if I don't do this? Okay. Because if you are truly called to become what you say you want to become, which is one of the greatest entrepreneurs and I'm assuming restaurant doors. You can't do that where you're at.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah.

[Andy Frisella]

And every day that you stay there is a day that you're not going to get to live that out. So you got to be real about what you're trying to trade. And I understand. Yeah, it's fucking scary. But you know what the game is? You know what the game is? The game is fucking jump and figure it the fuck out. That's the entrepreneur game, okay? And not everybody's built for it, dude. There's a lot of great managers. There's a lot of great managers that cannot do that. Part of it they cannot do is a different. I was actually just getting my hair cut and I was thinking about this. And, dude, I was thinking like. Like, I'll just be honest. Exactly what I thought. Exactly. What I thought was if people actually knew what goes on in my head and a daily basis, they would never be an entrepreneur.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

No. No. They'd be in therapy somewhere.

[Andy Frisella]

Yeah. Yeah. For real, because, like, legit. I'm sitting here and I'm thinking about the new arcane tech, Then I'm thinking about first form, then I'm thinking about S2, then I'm thinking about cannabis, then I'm thinking about tequila, then I'm thinking about the show, then I'm thinking. And these thoughts are all, like, trying to organize themselves in my brain. And my head is hurting, like, legit. I'm sitting in the chair, I'm like, I got a headache. And then I thought, well, I think everybody's head would ache if they had all this going on at one time. Okay? And it's just not for most people. It's just not. Because it consumes you, dude. And then, like, on top of it, try to have a normal relationship. It's almost fucking impossible. Because here's the thing. Dude, I'm always there. I'm always there. I'm always there. I'm all. My brain is always. It's so hyper vigilant to solving problems that when there aren't problems, guess what?

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

That's a problem.

[Andy Frisella]

I try to find a problem.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

That's right.

[Andy Frisella]

Okay, so my. So your mind becomes so conditioned to. To executing and solving problems that it's almost impossible to be at peace. Because even when you're. Everything is calm and everything is going okay, you're still in this place of like, all right, something's going to happen. I got to fucking. What's going to happen? I'm going to anticipate. Because true entrepreneurs are anticipating needs. They're not reacting, they're anticipating. So when I'm sitting on the beach somewhere doing normal rich guy shit, you know what's going through my head? All right, this could happen. Here's how we protect against this. This could happen. Here's how we do this. And I'm doing that for all these different things at once.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

And, dude, it sounds. It sounds insane to people. Like, hey, guys, we're about to start playing on it. That's not a problem.

[Andy Frisella]

Oh, yeah. You guys know. You guys know these dudes? Dude, these dudes will get texts in the middle of the night that have nothing to do with anything that we talk about. And it'll be like, hey, we got to do this and this and this. And you. And you guys here, the podcast team will be like, I know you're thinking it. You don't say it, but, like, what the fuck? You know?

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Like, it sounds insane to the average person.

[Andy Frisella]

It sounds insane to my own team. Yeah, but like, bro, I'm looking way down the pipe. I'm looking way down the pipe. I'm looking. All right, here's where. Where things are going. Here's where we got to be positioned. This is what needs to happen. And when that's going on, on multiple projects, bro, your brain doesn't have the capacity to process other kinds of information. And luckily, God blessed me with a pretty good brain, you know what I'm saying? Like, so I think, you know, for most people, like, dude, that's a miserable life. It's miserable. But for the people who are built for it, that's all they want. That's all they want. Okay, like, when I. When I sit down and, you know, Dana and I talk, right? Or I talk with Hermosi or any of my buddies who are hyper successful. Ed Mylet. We're. We're all. We're all like that. We're like, dude, when you sit down, like, you sit down and have a cigar with Ed, you might sit there in fucking silence. And that's the cool, that is a cool thing. Like when you're other. Around, around other high achieving people, you could sit there in like super fucking silence for an hour, just thinking. And then, you know, Alex will say something like, have you ever thought of this? Or what about that? Right? And like, it's just, it's, it's a, it's just a different kind of dude, bro. Or woman. It's just a different person. And for most people, they can't handle that, dude. And that's not me saying, beating my chest saying, oh, I have this. No, that's just what I'm built to do. Not everybody's built for it, bro. And that's one of the biggest problems with entrepreneurship. And I don't want to discourage people by saying this, but you have to. You have to be built for war, bro. You have to be built for it. You. You know, and I hate to use the example because, like, I don't want to disrespect like actual warriors, but your mindset's the same. Okay, I'm thinking of all my people and I'm thinking of like. Because at this point, dude, it's really not about me anymore, okay? It's about my people. Yeah, I'm thinking of all the things and I'm like, okay, I gotta protect. It's just like being, being battlefield. Yeah. You know, I've never been on one, but I imagine this is what it's like. Yeah. Okay, here's what could happen. This is what could. All right, I need you guys to move over here because they're going to fucking hit here and if you don't move, you're going to get fucking killed. And that's the same concept in business. You're moving chess pieces to win this game. And you know, most people look at that and they say, well, that's no way to live your life. But like, dude, you know, and you've been there when I've been talking to Dana. You know what fucking Dana says? I fucking love it.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

I love it.

[Andy Frisella]

I fucking love this shit with a smile, right? And dude, they do love it and I love it. But like, I. Most of you would be fucking miserable. And I don't mean that out of disrespect. I just mean that as a fact. Like, you just, it's not for you. Pick one thing, be good at it, make some money. Keep moving down the pipe. Don't do 500 things. Do the. You know, like, there's levels to entrepreneurs, bro. Like, there's, there's like inside, okay, so it's. It's basically 8% of the population is actual entrepreneurs, and less than 1% are actually successful. And inside that less than 1%, there's like, levels in that 1%, okay? And like, the true fucking killers, like these mother. All they want to do is fucking hunt, bro. That's all they fucking want to do. They. They're built for it. They're built for conquering. They're built for building. Like, bro, if I was. If I was in the, you know, the, the, the. The 1200 year, you know, if I was living in the year 1200, bro, I'd be conquering worlds, you know what I'm saying? Like, I'd be. I'd be riding in on horses and we'd be killing, and it would be straight up conquering. Because that's what I'm built to do. I get to do it in business, which is great and safe. Yeah, yeah. Not always. Not always people like, die, you know. Not always. Yeah, not always, bro. You get. You get in there and you get into big money and you start with people. They. They don't. They don't. Like, this is another thing, like when you get into big money and there's big money online, people do all kinds of up, bro. They'll hire people to go get a job at your company and try to. Corporate espionage. They'll try to sabotage you. They'll try to with you. They'll threaten you. Like, these are like, It's a different world, bro. It's like old school gangster. And you got to be a real gangster to deal with it.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

That's real.

[Andy Frisella]

So. And you know, you know that, bro. Listen, so I get it, you know, and I don't say that to discourage people because you can condition yourself me. But it's all about what the you actually want. Like, what the do you want, right? Do you. Do you. Do you like, you have to be real about what you want. And nobody really ever asks themselves, what do I really want? They see the car, they see the house, they see the. They see the garage, they see the. The private travel. They see the hobnobbin with other people and they say, I want that, but they want that. They don't want the. That comes with it, right? Because there's 20 years of backstory for these dudes. All of them, 20, 30 years of just eating to get to that point. And like, dude, that's not for everybody, man. Yeah, it's just not. And, but, but it's achievable for everybody. That's the thing. You can do it. Do you want to do it? Is the. Is the question. So, like, to this guy who's saying, I want to be one of the greatest ever, bro, you're going to trade a lot for that. There's a lot. The greatest restaurateurs in the world, they're. They're no different than Dana White in their world, right? They run their world. Dana said something to me, dude, when we were talking about Trump one time, he's like, you know how you run? You run your world, right? And I'm like, yeah. And he goes, I run my world. He goes, donald Trump runs the world. So. But there's levels, okay? So, like, like, you could criticize Trump all you want. And that's why, like, I get a good read on what's going on with the dude because I understand the level of where the he is. He. That dude's a straight up warrior, bro. You can't get where he got without being that way. It's required. It's dude. It's a different kind of dude. And it's just not something that most people can do because. And not because they can't do it. They can't survive the process of doing it. They'll fucking go crazy. So I believe that you could become who you want to become. And I believe that you think you want to be great, but you have to ask yourself, are you willing to pay the price of greatness? Because that is the most important question.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

I want to do one little final follow up on this for you. I know we're running out of time, but I want to ask you this because the money aspect and not getting the raise aspect he mentioned. Right, okay, cool. Like, and again, what if you don't do it? You stay there. How realistic do we need to be? Like, he's not about to start this entrepreneur path.

[Andy Frisella]

Okay. It's very simple.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

And make some money either.

[Andy Frisella]

Very simple.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

You know what I'm saying?

[Andy Frisella]

Very simple. You work in. Okay. I worked two, three other jobs the first 10 years I was in business. I worked those jobs to support myself so the business could stay open.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah.

[Andy Frisella]

This is the part nobody talks about. So if you're going through an adjustment of working for someone else, but then starting your own thing, you got to minimize your life. You got to get rid of that nice car. You got to get a piece of you Got to get rid of that nice condo or that nice house and go live in a. Okay. You got to downsize your life to where you can just function. Then when you're. To that place, you're working towards the thing, and then when the thing starts to pay a little bit of money and you can survive over there, like, you start a restaurant, things start going well, you're able to start making a little bit of money. When you're able to replace the income that comes from that, you are doing the other jobs of support. That's when you make the full jump. Okay.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Not a moment before.

[Andy Frisella]

No, no. But most people aren't willing to take that step backwards because it's a little embarrassing.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah, Right.

[Andy Frisella]

So that's where the hang up is for most people. Most people don't want to go from driving a, you know, fucking Tahoe or a Denali to driving a fucking 1987 beater.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah. Ford Ranger.

[Andy Frisella]

Right, exactly right. People don't want to do that. And. And that ends up costing them their entire lives. Like, that's fucking crazy.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

That's part of that process for sure.

[Andy Frisella]

That's fucking crazy. And by the way, I just want to hit on this, too. And this goes for everybody who's an entrepreneur or an employee. No one's giving you a fucking raise. Like, that doesn't. That's not what happens, bro. Like, very few companies will proactively come and say, hey, here's the fucking raise. Your job is, you understand, like, you work for you, okay? Now, you might be part of a team, but you're bringing something unique to the team. What's that worth? You have to start thinking of it as, like, the operator thinks of it. What is my value here? And if your value is not really strong, you got to build value. If your value is strong and you're not getting the recognition, then you have to be very tactful and say, okay, here's what I do. This is what I believe it's worth. And you have to go have a conversation and say, with the fucking facts, by the way, not bullshit. Here's the facts. I do this. I do this. I do this. I do this. I think it's worth this. I'm currently getting paid that. I would like to have a talk with you about this. That's where the conversation starts. And a lot of people rot away in what would otherwise be great careers because they're afraid to have a conversation like that. You're. You know how many people quit their fucking jobs because they're like, oh, I'm not getting paid enough. Well, did you fucking ask to get paid more?

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

They've even had a meeting.

[Andy Frisella]

Did, did, did you, did you display your value?

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Right?

[Andy Frisella]

Are you being honest with yourself about your value? Right? Like, dude, and then what happens is these people quit and they go somewhere else and they have the same habit. They think that everybody's going to just reward them. And part of being successful is like, everybody likes to say, oh, I fucking know my worth. The motherfuckers that say that don't have no worth. They just don't. Your job should be to be so fucking good. So good, so good that the company couldn't operate without you. And when you can get to that point, you could write your own check. And that's the way you should think about it as an entrepreneur or as an employee. If you just consistently get frustrated because you're not making enough money and go from thing to thing to thing to thing to thing, you're no different than the entrepreneur that quits over after two years and they end up wasting their whole lives in seven different businesses that never work. All right? So part of maturity and part of like. And by the way, a lot of people are full of shit, okay? A lot of people will come in and they'll say, I'm so worth this. And that doesn't mean anything, dude. That doesn't. Just because you feel like you're supposed to make more money doesn't mean you're worth more money. Okay? You have to come with the facts. You have to show your worth. And it's your job, not the employer's job, to compile that and display that worth. And an ideal situation. You work for a good ethical company, they will recognize your value beforehand. But that's not most places. Most places you're going to have to go and you're going to have to say, hey, boss, here's what I do. This is what I've done. These are the things that I handle. This is how good it gets done. Do you agree that it gets done? Well, yes, I agree. Well, here's what I'd like to be paid. And that's a normal conversation that a lot of young people just fucking won't ever have.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

That's a grown up adult.

[Andy Frisella]

That's it. Dude. You should never be embarrassed to talk about money. You should never be embarrassed to talk about money. That is a fucking real thing. Ok? And so many young people will ruin their lives because they cannot have a conversation about money. It's a normal thing, but it's on you. And if you aren't willing to put those things together and display it in a way that makes sense or actually be valuable, you're going to rotate. That's the reality, dude. So you have, you. You have to be undeniably great. You have to display that you're undeniably great. If a good company, you work for a good company, you're gonna say, I love that guy, we gotta keep him. But not every place is like that. So it's on you to market yourself. You see what I'm saying?

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Absolutely. This guy's situation, you got something scratching on the inside of you.

[Andy Frisella]

Oh, it doesn't matter. For that guy, if for. For this dude particular. I was just addressing everybody.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

Yeah, yeah, no, for sure.

[Andy Frisella]

For this guy in particular, if that's true what you say, and it's true, you. You need to leave that job and figure it the out because you will ruin your life.

[Andy Frisella's Co-host or Producer]

I love it, man. I love it, dude. Well, guys. Andy, that was three.

[Andy Frisella]

All right, guys, we'll see you tonight, 7:00pm Central. Don't be a hoe, share the show.

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