Joel Pollock (3:11)
Good morning to you. I hope you can hear me and see me and everything. It's really impressive, by the way, that you guys are keeping this going. And I'm just looking on the Rumble platform. There are over 2,000 people watching live, which is incredible. So congratulations to you, and I think that means this is becoming a regular thing, and I'm really happy about that. So let me dive in. First of all, I am Pollack. I am the new opinion editor of the brand new California Post, which just Started a week ago today and I'm in Santa Monica, California right now, although my family and I have temporarily relocated to Washington D.C. since the Palisades fire. So I go back and forth. So if you see me complaining on Sunday about the ice and snow in D.C. and there's Monday of sunrises on the beach, that's why I am very happy to be here. And I miss everybody on this rumble stream. I miss everyone who was at the memorial last weekend. For Scott, it was an incredible experience and I've actually never been part of a memorial like that where every stage really added something special. I've watched it now three times and go back and watch it. You don't have to feel guilty about watching it at one and a half speed. That's just fine. But go back and watch it. It's incredible. And I'm just amazed at the connection we all made with each other. We hung out afterwards. It was really great. And you see people at these events and unfortunately they happen too often. But you see people that you've seen at other memorials or you see at conventions and there are debates that people have online about various topics. And then you see each other at these big events where you realize a lot of those things don't matter. And it's just great to come back together around what we all share in common. I want to show you a couple things that are special, but first I'm going to talk a little bit about a reframe that I have felt very helpful because as I thought about what I would say today, I thought of so many different things I could say about Scott, about what I'm doing on the biography, about what I'm learning about Scott's lessons in my own life. But I decided to narrow it down for this episode to one reframe. And maybe if I'm invited back, I could do more reframes or more lessons in the future. But these things are occurring to me all the time. And so I'm going to get into that reframe in a minute. But let me just show you a couple of things that are interesting. So I have a funny way of writing and I actually wrote a book. It's an ebook on Amazon called How to Write. And I have my own method for writing. I have terrible writer's block. I had an incredibly difficult time when I was at college writing my senior thesis because I would stare at the blank page for days on end and think of all the things I needed to say, but I had no idea how to say them. And I got very little guidance. My thesis advisor said, well, make an outline and then just write point by point to the outline. But that didn't seem right to me. And in the end I finished. But I wrote a massive amount overnight, and it was an incredibly awful experience. And I just decided I never wanted to repeat that again. So I came up with some writing techniques, and one of them is called the visual block method, which I can explain another time. You'll see a little bit of it here in what I'm about to show you. But one of the other things I started doing was writing longhand. I don't do that for every book I write, but I find that producing a physical product, pen on paper, ink on paper, motivates you to keep writing. And it doesn't matter if what you write is nonsensical, out of order, disorganized. When you write on paper, you know you're going to have to come back and do another draft. So you take the pressure off and you just write whatever needs to be said and you discover what needs to be said in the course of writing so you know you're going to come back and fix it. You just get everything out on the page and it keeps you going from one page to the next, one day to the next. So this is my longhand so far of Scott's biography. Now, if you can't read any of it, don't worry about that. It's all in my scrolling cursive writing. You can see a little bit of my visual block method because I've got each page divided into paragraphs or four lines each on this particular notebook. Sometimes it's three lines each, but I basically write visually. I write according to blocks that I create on the page. And that's great because it motivates you to fill the block. If you don't know what you're saying, you fill the block. If you have too much to say, you trim it to fill the block. And it just keeps you going from one idea to the next. So this is the early draft of Scott's biography that I'm working on, and I try to go topic by topic. I may rearrange these as I go, but. But I'm at the point in the draft where I've worked through Scott's early life and his career in banking in the Bay Area, moving on to Dilbert and then moving on to other businesses that he started, like his restaurants, which he talks about in some of his books and he spoke about often in his live stream and other ventures that he did. And now I'm moving into some of Scott's theological views, which I think are very important to some of his other views. So this, of course, is Scott's famous book, God's Debris, which I have with me here. And I'm going to go through what Scott said, why he said it, where these ideas might have come from in his own life, and how he interpreted them later as he developed his own theories of managing the reality and simulation that we live in. So that's the biography project. It's a little bit every day. I probably devote one hour to it a day. I have an incredible amount of work to do with the California Post. I've got four kids who I love, I've got a beautiful wife, and I'm constantly cleaning up and doing other sorts of household chores. So there's a lot to balance, the good things and the difficult things. And I think if you can find an hour a day to focus on a creative project, you can really move it along. One of the best lessons I learned about creativity was from a book called the Artist's Way by Julia Cameron, which many of you may have heard of. But when you get into the practice of writing early in the morning and you get into the mentality of I just need to do a little bit every day to move it forward, eventually you become amazed at what large things you can actually accomplish. I think about Scott often in this context because he would say, you need to schedule time to exercise every day. And even if all you do is drive to the gym parking lot and sit there and then go home, you still count it. No, you didn't do exercise, but you still went to the gym. And once you get yourself in the habit of doing it, eventually it becomes something bigger. It becomes more rewarding. And that's a lesson you can apply to a lot of other things in life. What I want to talk about in terms of the reframe has a little bit to do with what I mentioned before about the challenges of managing workload and work life balance and all of that. When I think of Scott's lessons. Scott taught us how to apply different filters to reality. We all understand reality through a filter. I've got CNN on, on my TV here in the hotel room. And their filter is completely different from Fox the Ice incidents, for example. CNN sees it through a Nazi fascism filter that this is the American version of fascism. We have the secret police arriving in communities and dragging people away and demanding to see their papers and taking children and all kinds of things. That's the CNN narrative. And they allow a little bit of diversity around that viewpoint. But essentially you're forced to talk within that narrative. If you go to Fox News, the narrative is very different. This is law enforcement. It is a filter of fulfilling campaign promises, securing the border, making America safe. And there you can talk about the dramatic drop in crime since the ICE enforcement started because crime has fallen everywhere. It's not something that one mayor is doing or one governor. It really is about the national policy of rolling out ice. And you talk about commitment that Trump made and voters are getting what they voted for. And this is all building up toward the midterm elections. And as Scott often noted, traditionally the party out of power does better in midterm. So you'd expect Democrats to do well in the midterm elections unless something big happens. And something might happen. But we all have different filters, which is the point of this little digression into the news. And we can choose our filters. This is Scott's point. So if you want to live in the world where we're governed by a Nazi regime and you have to be afraid everywhere you go, you can live in that world. However, that world might not correspond to reality. And you might consider a more productive filter, which is the other side's filter, which is the law enforcement filter, that if you obey the law, things will generally go pretty well with you. Or you can take a completely different filter, which is that I don't have any power as an individual citizen to have any impact whatsoever on these things. They don't really affect my life. So I'm going to adapt a completely different filter that focuses on what I can do today. I don't have to get directed into this political conversation. I take an interest in politics. I know what's going on. But I turn the sound down, I scan the headlines. I don't have to read the articles. You take a different filter. But the point is, choose a filter that helps you, helps you achieve something. The best filter isn't necessarily the one that corresponds to the facts. It's the one that helps you get where you're going. And I've really struggled in recent days with the workload that I have. The California Post is an amazing publication, but unlike where I worked for 15 years, Breitbart News, the California Post is not just online and it's also in print. And print newspapers have deadlines and the deadlines are non negotiable. When you work in the online world, you give yourself a little leeway. You can go earlier you can go later. But in the print world, things have to happen at a certain time. They can't happen before and they can't happen after. They have to happen at a certain time. And that means that for about five or six hours of the working day you are stressed out beyond belief. I'm pretty chill right now, but in about 15 minutes my time is no longer my own and I am thrust headlong into this storm of news and articles and changes and edits and fixes and meetings and checking back in and social media and did you remember this? And it's crazy. And yesterday I work on Sundays because I have to prepare the Monday paper. Yesterday I was trying to manage all that while at the same time also being a good parent. So I had my son's indoor baseball practice in the middle of absolutely frozen Washington D.C. they have at least an indoor facility, so I had to take him there. That was about a 40 minute trip from our house. And then I had my daughter's rock and roll concert. She's in the School of Rock program. So we had to come back from baseball practice in time to see my daughter perform Nirvana. She's very good. She was excellent. It was also her birthday, so I did not want to miss her concert on her birthday. And in the midst of all that, I'm trying to work. And that would be a challenge even if I lived in la. It's not just a DC versus LA thing. It's not just a remote work thing. If I were in la, if we all lived in la, and we will again one day soon, hopefully. But if we were all in one place, I'd still be managing that challenge because I have children and I love my children. I love my family life. It's the reason I do everything I do. So I would have had that really tough balance to strike. And it was exasperating. It was really, really difficult. And it wasn't as if yesterday was extraordinary in any other real way. Because even though my daughter had this concert, it's not like Sunday is a free day. She also has rehearsals on Sunday when she doesn't have a concert. So I've got to run around. We have four children, so my wife and I often split them up and we do different things with different kids. We don't really have a choice of leaving all the kids with one person or another. Except my wife is very indulgent because she lets me do this bi coastal thing. So she's got the kids now. When she's away, I watch all the kids. She was in the Navy Reserve for 11 years. So I often had the children to watch, although we had fewer of them, so maybe it was a little bit easier. But it's a challenge. It's a massive challenge. And you start to have very negative thoughts. And the thoughts you have are things like, this is why Americans don't have kids. It's just so hard. Work is hard. It's incredibly difficult to balance all these things. We can't afford a nanny right now, so how do we go forward? I mean, we have the situation we have. We'll just manage it. But you can see why people on the outside looking in might think, this is not really something I can afford to do or want to do. And you really just can pull yourself into a complete funk. And it happens every single day because you have childcare responsibilities, family responsibilities every day. And if it's not the children, it's the groceries, it's cleaning up the house, it's doing whatever you have to do. Sometimes it's something unexpected, an illness or, God forbid, a car accident. These things happen, and you have to manage them alongside all the other things you have to do. So I remembered an important thought that I had a few years ago, and I think it's a reframe. And Scott didn't use this one, but I think this thought falls into the category of Scott Adams reframe type of ideas. And that is that sometimes managing feels like not managing. That is to say, you can be managing a situation and you feel like you're not managing it, like everything's out of control, things are spinning to the side. You feel miserable, you're upset, you don't know how you can go on. But you come to the end of the day and you look back at the end of the day, and actually, you finished all your work. Your kids all got to their events on time. Maybe a minute or two late here and there, but everybody's safe. Everybody got dinner, and eventually everybody's in bed. And wow, I can't believe things are calm right now as I'm heading to bed, turning in for the night. They felt so out of control earlier today. And I think it's just important to remember that sometimes when we feel that way, that's not the reality. That feeling of helplessness, of frustration and stress, isn't necessarily a sign that you're failing. It's part of the feeling you're going to have when you're managing many different things. And we don't live in a simple time where we manage only one thing. At a time none of us lives there. In fact, maybe human beings never lived there. Even before technology and all the different things that captivate our attention and compete for our time. Even before all that, people had so many things to do, maybe more things to do. When you think about the fact they didn't have labor saving technology, doing the laundry took all day. So this is something we've had to do for a long time. And I think it's just important to remember, number one, it is important to take a break once in a while. So I have the Sabbath on Saturday for religious reasons. I take one day where I'm not doing anything. I think that's important. So you manage the other six days. But in addition to that, when you're in the thick of it, don't panic if it doesn't feel right. Because managing sometimes feels like not managing. And. And when you think about that, reframe, it really helps you understand that what you're doing could be objectively right and objectively successful, even if what you're feeling subjectively doesn't feel that way. Now, there are some situations where that feeling of being out of control is something you want to pay attention to. Maybe you are doing too much, or maybe things are too difficult, or maybe you need to change the system you use to run your day, or maybe you need to change jobs or you need to figure out another arrangement. So don't ignore that signal. But you're going to have that signal even when you're succeeding. And that's especially true of parents with kids. Kids are wonderful, but they also do random things at random times. Random things happen to them. You can't control when a baby gets sick. You can't control when a kid gets hurt or a teenager comes home in a bad mood or they get a bad grade at school, or whatever it is. You have to accept that certain things are beyond your control. And so you're going to feel out of control a lot of the time. I'll just close with this. There's a thought that I have now as I'm telling you this. There's this great movie with Steve Martin and Diane Keaton, the late Diane Keaton, Parenthood. A lot of other great actors in the movie as well. But there's a scene where Steve Martin argues about whether the carnival ride that's best is the roller coaster or the merry go round. The roller coaster is scary. It goes up and down, but it's thrilling. The merry go round just goes in one direction and might get a little dizzy. It's a little boring, but it's always the same and he decides that the merry go round is better. He's just so stressed out. So many kids, so many challenges. And there's a scene later in the movie where his kid starts destroying the school play on stage. His kid is causing chaos and the camera starts rolling as if he's on a roller coaster. And eventually, instead of looking around in absolute horror at the destruction his child is causing on stage and terrified of where this roller coaster is taking him, he starts laughing and enjoying the ride. And I think that's the transition that we have to try to make. And I have to try to do it again today. I don't know if I'm going to succeed, but I think that reframe is just one to keep in mind. It has helped me in the past that sometimes when you are managing, it feels like you're not. So that's my reframe.