Brian Romel (19:07)
Yeah, exactly. You come to a really good point. Men are not as social as a creature as women. And I'm not trying to be sexist. It just is the way the factory programming generally comes. Right? So when you hit your factory programming, there's a social nature and not social nature. So most men will garner their social connections most of their life through their work. If you take away their work, you take away their social connections. You can only go to the golf course so often. And then it's the usual suspects. There more men like you that have been retired and you don't have any purpose. And it tends to go down very quickly. I can say the same thing about women where, you know, they have an afternoon wine and then all of a sudden it's wine all day long. And then they sink into this. I don't have any meaning or purpose in my life. And so, again, one of the reasons I'm trying to write this, some of the themes in the series is to help prepare. What does it look like when I don't define myself by my job? You know, what does it look like? It's only been about 200 years, 300 years, that we've totally cemented our identity to our job. Now, throughout history, we had guilds within our families. In fact, our names were even tied to, you know, Goldsmiths, Cooper, things like that. You know, the jobs that our family did, but they were so intricated into our lives that there was no separation between the job and what you did. It was so kind of wrapped up. We don't have that same sort of thing. Although some people bring their work home, we have a separation between what we do and what we do. At home. But we define ourselves by how we produce in our life. Am I making enough money? Who am I comparing myself with? A lot of folks get on the life bandwagon after coming out of university, comparing themselves to their peer group. Like, you know, am I making as much money as this person? Am I doing that? That's the quote, unquote rat race. And that pretty much established itself in the early 1950s. It was right after World War II when we started to develop this sort of American dream. And it's funny because in the last two of the series, because Universe 25 is a couple of articles ago, I really am exploring what that looks like. How did we get the American dream? Who, who built that? It started with a guy named Edward Bernays and it worked its way through other. Other folks. The soap opera. I wrote about how the soap opera was manufactured to, in a sense, weaponize the stay at home mom during the afternoon to create that social connection that they were not having in a suburb. Right? Because we were living. We're designed to live in a communal structure, a family, extended communal structure. That's our way. It's not socialism. It's actually the opposite of that. But a lot of people equate it to that. We have these layers of voluntary and forced family is forced and involuntary coagulations that we call our local community. And it's designed to form different safety nets mentally, emotionally, physically and financially. Because we do need those things. I mean, we can all be lone wolves out in the forest, you know, certainly. But we decided voluntarily to organize. That's how humanity existed for most, most of its existence. And then when we organized, we had to create a pecking order. And then we created what we call today democracies. You know, we live in a republic, not a democracy. But you know, later on a more mature form of governance is, you know, you have established rights. That's what a republic is. And then you where they ordained by a, by a human node. They are ordained by God, right? They're given to us, you know, these rights. So coming back to the organizational structure, you have a fourth structure that comes from your family. So that gives you the idea of responsibility. Why do I have, why do I have an honor to my family? Why do I have an honor to my local community? And so when you break that up into suburbia in the 1950s, what happened was a lot of women felt isolated. They were locked up. It's like, how do I interact? Well, I can go down the street and after that you just couldn't form the right structures. So the soap opera was designed to become that local community where they would check in and it became quite addictive. And so it would create a form of emptiness in a lot of women that would be fulfilled by the instant foods and the instant detergents, soaps that would allow them to get their day moved along quicker after they took three hours out of their day to watch the various daytime dramas. And so what happened is psychiatrists and psychologists and psychoanalysts analyzed this emptiness that people felt in that form of the American dream. And they gave them back a commercialized version of it by feeding them the things that they needed to fulfill their life, even questioning their existence. Oh, look at that doctor has the best life. And look at all the women that want him. Maybe I need to be one of those women. And. And it questioned whether or not their husband as a plumber was just some lunk that they fell into and that somebody else has a more beautiful life. So that's part of the conditioning that we all have gone through. And it's very hard for a lot of people listening because we've all formed. I'm guilty. We are all guilty of forming our life around that narrative. And it's very hard to get out of it. I mean, we have. Look at me. I got a lot of junk behind me. We collect junk. We want to have stuff, and we want to, you know, we want to do things. It's hard to imagine what abundance looks like on the other side when you don't have to work really hard to get certain things. And what do you become? And like Owen said, without the pressures of forming, you know, something meaningful in your life, you could actually go the other way and just kind of give up and want to die. That's kind of what happened in universe 25. If you couldn't be a beautiful one. And only so many had these penthouse apartments because they're all the highest places, by the way. All the beautiful ones were up in the penthouses. And this pecking order developed naturally to try to take care of the beautiful ones. And one of the things I don't want to delve too far into is the perversions that took place within that culture. I mean, all sorts of perversions, certainly sexual. The beautiful ones lost their sexual identity. They. They became pansexual. The ones right below them were. Became pansexual. They didn't understand what they were there for any longer. And now you can imagine how dangerous of a thought this is in today's society. And I'm just asking you to look around and say, are we seeing any of this today? Are any of these things manifesting and what do they look like as we move forward?