Host (possibly Erica or main moderator) (47:34)
It's gonna be page 189 in the paperback, and it's called people think like you. And this is, like, so important for everybody listening to remember, like, even when we have differences of opinion about things, you really never know why. And so I love how Scott wrote this out. And I'm just going to read it, and then we'll discuss it. Okay, so page 189. People think like you. One of the worst misconceptions of life is that other people think the same way you do. Humans are similar in a lot of ways, but in any specific situation, your basket of preferences and mine will be different. That means you can't reliably predict what people will do or why they will do it unless money is involved. But we imagine we can predict well because we make the poor assumption that people are working with the same set of variables and intentions we are. That is rarely the case if you don't understand someone's motives and you end up guessing based on how you would feel in the same situation, you're indulging in nonsense. The usual frame. Others think and feel approximately as I do. The reframe. Others are unimaginably different. When others act in ways you would not, don't assume they are necessarily lying, selfish, stupid weasels. They might be exactly that, but that's not the first explanation you should go with. Instead, assume you are all seeing. Is all you're seeing is a difference in priorities or a difference in who brainwashed each of you. The power of this reframe is that it helps you understand why you can't change people's minds. You might be looking at the same facts, but the process processes in your heads are as different as porcupines and bowling balls. And I wanted to bring that one up because, you know, oftentimes, like, so we're giving our opinions here. You know, it's my opinion. But what you might not understand is maybe I have a. A method to my madness. Maybe I'm saying something just to be provocative, but you don't know that. Or maybe. Maybe I got information you didn't get, or I had a life experience that made me feel a certain way. I do. Maybe there's a lot of nuance to what I'm thinking. So, like, if somebody gave me, like, a. A list of a thousand questions and said, you know, how do you feel about each one of these things? You could never predict my answers on those because I have so much nuance in me, Erica. I have so much nuance in my thinking. I'm not, like, left or right or center. I am all over the place on every different issue. So I say that one. I'm bringing this one up because being on here subjugates us to criticism and opinions and people telling us what to do and how to think and listen. That's, like, fine. Like, it doesn't bother me when people do that. Like, I kind of get where they're coming from. But it is who you were brainwashed by. So we have to allow people to have their own opinions and. And to think differently than you. And like I said, you never know the motive behind it. Like, I'll. I'll make a random Twitter poll. Who would you rather be aligned with? And I'll give you the choice of, like, Don Lemon or Joy Reid. And then people are like, oh, my God, you know, or, you know, I could be like Don Lemon or Tucker Carlson and be like, oh, I see what you're doing here. And I'm like, you don't see anything I'm doing here. So it's like. Like, you know, it's that silly, you guys. So I just want to recommend that we understand that everybody has different opinions about things for all sorts of different reasons, none of which you can predict or know. Like, you might think, like, oh, I've known Erica for 10 years on here, and this is how she'll feel about it. But something might have changed my mind last night, and I might take a sharp turn and. And I could take a sharp turn again the next day and make a U turn and spin around. So just try to let everybody have their own free thinking opinion. And I think it's okay to bring other ideas and opinions to people and to have A discussion. But we can't be so sure that our opinion is the only way and be so dug in. And I also want you guys to understand that when new information comes, it's okay to reassess what you think and maybe find some nuance in it or understand. Understand how it could be another way. And I, like I always say the superpower is. Is if the information changes and you can change your opinion and publicly do so and not be afraid. You have a gift. That means your ego is not ruling you. Your friend group isn't ruling you. You are a free thinker, and there is nothing better. I mean, Walter Kern talked about it yesterday, you know, or we heard it yesterday when he spoke at Scott's memorial service, that he was free. And I hope every one of you know that you can be free and. And be in charge of your own life and your own thoughts, and you can allow others to do that, too. I'm going to toss it to Marcella first. And you can see us here, like, you know, we. We have differing opinions, the three of us. We're. We're three very different people. But, like, I'm obsessed with them. Like, I love them so much, and it doesn't matter. I do. I love them so much, and it doesn't matter, like, what we think. Like, we're. We still have affection for each other. So, Marcel, what do you think about this reframe?
