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The Scott Adams School - 08/07/26 KING RANDALL In The CLASSROOM!
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Good morning, everyone.
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Look who's here.
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Hello.
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What's up?
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Our friend King Randall. We did it. We did it. We're so excited. Okay, let me get this going over here. Thank you, Dr. Von Hardy, for the great thumbnail with King. That was so cute. So good morning, everyone. Yay. Here they are. They're all coming in. Let's wait for YouTube to come in and rumble. So, King, do you have good plans for the weekend?
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What am I doing this weekend? Yes, I do. I got baseball with my son, my oldest son. He's playing ball. So, you know, tournaments take all day. So we'll be playing some baseball.
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I know the drill. My son went all the way through that with the travel, baseball, all the way up to a college team. What position did your son play?
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Second base.
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Nice.
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Yeah, he's the second baseman. Spends a lot of time playing ball. And, you know, we just opened up a new baseball training facility with the organization mainly aimed at kids who can't afford to play the sport. So with the revenue that we're bringing in, we're assisting.
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Oh, we lost sound for a second here. Wait a little. Can you hear us, King? I can't hear you. Can you hear a moen?
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No, I can't.
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Okay. Yeah, your sound went out. Maybe you had a phone call interfere or something. Not sure. Not sure. It's okay. This is how it goes. Scott loved nothing more than a glitch. Right, you guys?
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It's not The Scott Adams School without some tech glitches now and then.
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That's right. This is where we throw things out the window. Oh, now I hear you. Okay. All right.
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There we go.
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Yay. I see YouTube in the house. Everybody's here, you guys. So let's do the thing that we have to do because it makes everything better. And then we'll come back and talk to King Randall.
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Go.
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Ah. Refreshing and delightful. All right, you guys. So we were talking backstage with King, and I let him know, oh, by the way, King Randall is King Randall's name. His name is King Randall. So. But you can find him on Twitter at New emerging King. Right?
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New emerging King.
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Okay, perfect. So. So I was prepping for the show, and I was telling King, I've been watching him since you very. Was it like 2019 you came on to X with?
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Yes.
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Okay. So, like, during the start of the pandemic, you really got this going.
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Yeah, I started out of my house originally, and it was before COVID And so I started teaching kids, like, how to work on cars and houses and different things, teaching them how to grow their own food, how to paint and what have you. And I did it all out of my house. And I had crazy parents believing this 19 year old kid at the time to teach their kids all these different things because nobody else was offering it. And I just kind of wanted to try and do something that I wasn't seeing happen in our community. Instead of just talking about our boys, I wanted to try and fix it. And so from there, Covid happened. And after Covid happened, I had to shut everything down. And parents were still asking me, king, can you do something for the kids anyway? And I was like, well, they're going to have to come live at my house. And they were serious. So I ended up getting some bunk beds and put them in my living room, and the kids came to live at my house. I had, like seven boys come live with me for, like, all of 2020. It was crazy business, but it was the coolest thing ever. I have so many memories, pictures. Some of those kids are going off to the military. Darnell he is a combat photographer in the army. Deshawn Bradford, he is a diesel mechanic. Now he has a speech and hearing impairment. So we introduce him to automotive repair because he doesn't really have to say so much and do so much. He can just move his hands and so he's doing that. Those kids are all doing something special and that's what means a lot to us. So, yeah, just a lot of time put in. A lot of time put in.
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That says a lot about the value of what you've been doing to these families and also just the trust they put in you. I mean, it's hard for me to imagine saying, I'm going to go let my kid live with somebody a year.
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Yeah, yeah, I know.
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But when you think about what the parents are going through with their sons and some of their hard stories that they have, it's like a no brainer for them. They're like, my son is losing himself. You know, I'm, I'm losing my son, I'm losing my family. Anything will help right now. And so that's where they're going with it. They're just like, you know what? Take them, you know, and help me as much as possible. And that's what we're doing.
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So now, did you have your own kids at that point?
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Yes, I had my oldest son at that time. Yes, ma'.
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Am. And how old was he at that time?
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He was born at the same time as the program, so the program was born 10 days before my son. So they almost have the same birthday.
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All right, you guys, I'm feeling a bit like a loser and an underachiever, but that's okay. That's amazing. So we, like, we all need to catch our breath from just this opening statement. I had no idea about that. They were all living at your house. Crazy commitment. And that says so much about you. And why are you like this? How did you get this way?
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I was raised in a full family. You know, sometimes when I go on, like, other shows, they're always looking for like some hard story for me to say, like my mom was on drugs and this and that or whatever. Like, no, this is why we need those good families, because it produces things like what we're doing now. Like, I had my grandfathers, my uncles, my stepdad, my mom, my grandma raised in the church, you know, the whole nine. I had all those things growing up. And so that's what has molded me into what you see today. And so I just try and introduce these things to kids. And for me I did not know that just growing up that other kids didn't have this. Our neighborhood was a family. So it wasn't just even my family. You had this guy who's a deacon at the church. His name is Deacon Bogan. He was behind. He lived behind us and he used to teach us how to cut grass. Mr. David down the street taught us how to lay bricks. My stepdad taught us how to weld and paint cars. And so all the kids from the neighborhood, you know, would be there. And my stepdad would do Bible study on like Thursday night. And so the kids would come over our house. My mom would cook for everybody. I mean, our neighborhood was a family. And so that's how I grew up. So I wanted to try and introduce some of these things to other kids because to fund the program, when I first started, I was cutting hair and fixing cars and working on houses. Like I had to become like an all around handyman just to make it work. But that's what I had to do because I'd originally lost my job and that was God's push for me to do what I'm doing. I was driving a forklift and I was working a graveyard shift and apparently I fell asleep one evening and didn't wake up for a while. And I don't even remember, I still don't remember it to this day, but I lost my job and that's what kind of pushed me into doing what I wanted to do. I had been saying it for a while, but I was like, yep, this is it, let's do it. And so I started it and I just kept working. And you know, we've grown to where we are now. And you know, I'm still not satisfied with where we are, but definitely want to continue growing.
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Well, that's the show, everybody. We can leave now. We're all inspired. Bye bye now.
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It's so incredible to me though, like you just described, like, you're about to have a new baby and become a father for the first time. And ten days before that, you know, you've got your wife about to pop out a new baby and you're saying, you know what, I'm going to start helping a bunch of other kids. Like, that's not something that would have
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been in my head.
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I mean, what inspired you to do that?
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And wait. And by the way, and your wife going along with that, like, and she's about to give birth whole, so she must be queen Randall.
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So, yes, so at that time I was. They weren't living with us at that moment, that. At that time that we were just doing field trips and different things like that. They didn't start living with us until, like I said, 2020. And my son was about one year old. But the kids love the boys. The kids love my son, and they had a special relationship with him, too. So I got plenty of pictures of them with him as a baby, and a lot of them have come back by and see he's 70 years old, and they're like, this is baby King. Oh, my God. When he was just a little baby and stuff. It's so crazy. But, yes, the family has been a huge assistance with what we do. My family in particular. My family is extremely important to what I'm trying to do. They have spent a lot of time trying to help me. Even, for example, 20, 21, we were trying to buy a school building from our local school system. It didn't work out, and I had already had 40 kids signed up for the summer program. And we originally tried to get the kids into a hotel. I didn't think about how bad of an idea that was at the time, because the kids, as disciplined as they are, when I'm not around, all that goes out the window sometimes. So those were new kids. I had not had them before. And so they were at the hotel, like, going nuts. They were, like, throwing cereal and throwing ice on each other and knocking on people's doors and whatever. Imagine 40 teenage boys. My grandmother calls me and says, you bring all those boys over my house right now. And so I had a school bus that I had just bought, and so that was the only way to transport them around. So we got on the bus, we left the hotel, went to grandma's house, and we had air mattresses everywhere, whatever. And my grandma and me, we just got them all wrangled up. She would cook for them every morning. If they wanted to stay up all night and not go to sleep, she would make them clean up and wash dishes and whatever, you know. And they love my grandma to this day. Like, that whole squad. It was a very beautiful, aggravating, great, annoying, amazing summer. So we had a good time. We did a lot of different things. So many field Trips. We celebrated July 4th together. We did barbecues, we worked on cars, we worked on houses. I mean, that was a beautiful experience. But my family is the. One of the biggest, you know, parts of our organization, because sometimes when I have to fall, you know, they're there to catch me, and that's what matters.
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That is such a great message, you guys. I Mean, I want to be adopted into your family. Honestly, you take 50 year old plus women because they would welcome you with open arms. Oh, that is so sweet. I bet they would because they're all amazing kids in there. And, and I love that you're now including women or young ladies, I should say, into your school. I think that's great because again, they. Everybody needs these skills. They need the confidence, they need. You know what? One thing that I know Scott loved is that manners are so important, right? So manners are a superpower. And that's what's like, caught Scott's attention. And I love how you're teaching them to make small talk, make eye contact, you know, what do you say? You know, talk to them when there's down moments. So, yes, you guys, I need a field trip. I need a field trip to Albany, Georgia. Come on down, let's go. So I love that, but I thought what I would play just so everybody can get an overview of where you're at now. So king just turned 27, you guys, a few weeks ago. He is 27. That is just so amazing. Like, all you're accomplishing and, and just I'm imagining people emulating what you're doing and, and just having like, these schools, like, in every state, like, and then every municipality would be amazing. So good ideas are definitely infectious. So I want to play this is the pinned tweet on your X account. So if anybody wants to get the gist of what's happening, let's watch this and we'll be back in two minutes.
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Back in 2021, the Extra Boys program was two years old. It was only me on staff. We were operating out of my house. We were operating out of my grandmama's house. And we didn't know what to do. We got online and said we need to raise $70,000 to buy a new building for our students. And we did it. We raised $70,000 in 48 hours, all because of people like you who have been supporting us, who have been sharing, who've been liking, who've been coming and who've been giving. But I want to go down the line because we've been fundraising since 2021, and we have done everything that we said we were going to do with our funds. I have just turned 27 years old, and I do a fundraiser every single year for my birthday. And since I turned 27, we. We're going to raise $270,000 to make things happen. King, what we going to do with that money for when I just Showed you everything. We said we going to do, we make it happen. We said we needed to get our building painted to start out because it was quite ugly just to buy it. We bought an old office building. So we had to make something work with what we had. We ended up getting this building painted. We have a mural here. We said online, hey, we want to put something beautiful on our building. People gave, people showed up. People got on our Amazon wish list and they gave. We said we needed to be able to transport our boys everywhere they needed to go. We got online and said, we need to buy two vans and you all made it happen for us. The building that we purchased was an old office space. It was offices everywhere. It wasn't quite adequate for after school. We needed it to be renovated. We needed to tear all those office spaces out. We needed to make it feel like an after school program, not an office building. And we got it done. We raised that money and we got our building renovated on the inside and the outside. We got new flooring, new lighting, new chairs, new tables, new desks, new everything. School supplies, smart boards, et cetera. You all donated it right off our Amazon wish list. Why do people keep on giving? Because we do exactly what we say. We never had a kitchen space in our facility all that time. And we ended up raising money to build a kitchen in our facility. And here we have it. Everything that we say we gonna do, we end up doing it. We said we wanted to open a baseball and softball training facility here in our southwest Georgia area for those kids who couldn't afford to play and those kids who wanted some adequate training. And we did it. And when this program began a long time ago, it was just me on staff, all by myself. The Expert Boys program stands as a non government funded program that pays a livable wage to our staff members. So we also have staff members that are happy to come to work, that are not worried about how they gonna pay their light bill, that are not worried about how they gonna eat. We make sure they're taken care of, and they make sure our students are taken care of. And not only that, our program still remains free for all participants. We wanna make sure our students can eat every single day. We gotta make sure gas is in the vans, we gotta make sure the vans stay maintenance. We gotta pay the light bill here, we gotta pay the Internet. We gotta make sure the kids are being adequately serviced here. And not only that, because we're adding the girls. The girls have asked me in their little birthday cards that they wrote to me to make the X for Girls a permanent thing. And we're gonna do it, but we're gonna need your help. We to need your help to make this a permanent thing. We're also doing the girls a pageant in December. So in December, we're going to have the girls get a chance to have some confidence, to feel pretty, to teach them etiquette, to teach them all types of different things that I feel like and my staff feel like young girls need to know. But we can't do this without your help. We're raising $270,000 for the extra Boys and the Extra Girls program. You can simply, when you send your donation, put in a memo line who you decide that it's for, and we'll make sure that happens. We're going on year eight. We're still a little baby program, but we are continuing to make things happen. And if you want to see this work continue, go to the extra boys.org/donate to be able to give to our campaign. Delta has already started us off with $10,000. So let's raise the other 260 and make this thing happen for our students. Thanks so much. Have a blessed one. Peace.
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Yes. And where are you now? Where. Where are you now with the. With the goal?
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We are almost at 65,000. I posted that about a week ago. And so people have been giving, and so I'm super excited. I think I didn't expect it to move that fast, but people are excited about what we're doing. And again, just like I mentioned, you know, people love to give because we always share what we're doing. Even with the Amazon wish List, people give direct items. And so when we get those items, people get to see them in the videos, get to see them in the background or see the new desk they bought or see the baseballs they purchased for us or whatever. Like, people love to see those things. It makes them feel apart. And another thing that, you know, I always preach about, too, is I believe in my town of Albany, Georgia. And so I get a lot of people asking about me franchising or any of these different things. And I've mentioned before, you know, I will try and help people start whatever it is that they're doing, you know, wherever else, they can have their own name or whatever. But my focus is on my hometown. We have a very, very, very poor community, and we have a lot of kids that need help. I don't ever want to become one of those Fortune 500 nonprofits. That's what I call it. I don't want to be one of those. I want to continue to be grassroots. I want to work in my hometown and become as big as we can in my hometown. And like I said, I would love to inspire people to do it elsewhere and try and do what I'm doing. And most people are always asking, how can I get started? By starting. Just like I mentioned at the beginning, I did this out of my house. You just have to want to do it. We started a book club. I started at the library. I used somebody's local business to have our little after school program. You just partner with people. If you want it to happen, you'll make it happen. And you can start off with one or two kids. We have 25 kids now. We serve them five days a week. We feed them every day is completely free to them. They don't. We don't charge anything. We pick them up from school every day. We give them toiletry items, et cetera, et cetera. And this is through people that just like what we're doing and see what we're doing every single day. And so we try to constantly share and constantly show people what we're doing. But yeah, this is me talking a little bit. I can only put three minutes on a video, so I have to speed them up.
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I love it. I love it.
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And I can only put, I can only put so many things that we, you know, we fundraise for in the video. Like, we fundraise for so many different things. Basketball courts, we got a brick mailbox outside. We got other stuff that we fundraised for that we've completed. And people are, you know, happy to just continue giving because they love to see what we do with it every time.
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So we're. I'm, I'm going to need your Amazon wish list link. I don't know if it's. Is it like a verbal link or something you have to send to me? Is it.
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If you, if you go to the website. Asaboys.org like our website has everything, the Amazon wish list, how to donate, how to give. You can see pictures, video. It's all, all on the same website.
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Okay, so what's the website?
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It's the x4boys.org that's t h e x f o r b o dash y dash s dot org and then if you want to just go to my social media accounts for those who have not seen videos. I see some people asking about the kids. You can actually just go to like Instagram, Facebook, type my name in or type in at new emerging king we have thousands of videos with the kids. It's so many videos.
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Oh, my gosh.
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That's why people continue to give you guys.
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I. I'm telling you, I've been watching King since he's been on here, and I did pull a few clips for you guys because you. You have to just see. But this is one of my favorite ones. I told King where you're doing. Where is it? Oh, did it not come over? Oh, here it is. Okay, so they. They take. They. They put the kids in the environment of, like, a hotel, a restaurant, you know, in front of a car. How do you check the oil? How do you do the thing? And here they are. They're having a class about eating etiquette, and it is my favorite. So let's. Let's watch this. This is adorbs.
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Lower your hand.
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Put the.
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The handle of the fork in your hand in your palm. The handle of the fork in your palm.
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Good.
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And we're cutting and pivot. Good job. Good job. Take your time. Chew with your mouth closed, please. Remember, close the lip and cut.
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Obsessed. I love this.
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Okay, great job. Now, because you have salad. Salad dressing all over your lips. What's your pause position in European style? Upside down V. Fork overlapping the knife.
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Good.
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Now you take your napkin, place it
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on your index finger, and dab.
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Tastes good, don't it? Good job. Now place it back on your lap.
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I'm so proud of you.
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Great job.
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I mean that. You know, think about it, you guys, like, the first time you went to a fancy restaurant, and maybe you, like, weren't with your parents or a friend invited you. You're like, I don't know what to do. What do I of, like, facing that head on one day, you know, just out of the blue, they're prepared. They. They have an understanding. I love that. Oh, and do your kids know all this etiquette?
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Probably some of it. But I, you know, I don't think I've ever, like, explicitly taught them etiquette or like a finishing school sort of thing, but they. I probably should have.
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I.
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You know, I think most people learn from example. They learn from the people around them. And I mean, I've said that about parenting. Is that, like, you know, there's a quote I love. I think it might have been Maya Angelou, but I could be wrong where she. Something like. Actually, I think it was someone else. But the quote was like, children have never listened to their elders, but they've never failed to imitate them. It's something like, I might be Paraphrasing a little bit, but it's like you need to show them. You need to show them. And by your example is probably the best way where they just seem to pick it up by osmosis. And I've definitely seen that in my kids, where things that I never taught them explicitly, they somehow just absorb from watching me and watching their mother. And, like, it's just incredible to see how it happens. But I think in your case, it is great to explicitly teach those things because again, a lot of people just don't have good examples to model their behavior after. And I'm not faulting their parents. I know they're often struggling or maybe they didn't ever get exposed to those things. But, you know, I think it's great to be able to just give people good examples to model their behavior after.
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But another reason, that's another reason why the family is so important. You know, like King saying, like, he had the family, the community in the neighborhood, and everybody was just teaching everybody all the time, which I love King.
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Now, nowadays I just see a big helping of everyone wanting an award for doing it alone. And to the point now where people are trying to do it alone on purpose and stressing themselves out on purpose, you know, and because now it's cool to have something wrong with you. It's cool to be stressed out. It's cool to be depressed. Like, people want to post about it. People want to post themselves crying. People want to post videos of their kid crying and them looking sad about it. And I was like, it's, it's a fad now to do it all alone. Meanwhile, you have grandma that could help, aunt that could help, uncles that could help, coaches that could help. I, you know, I have my son around men all the time. My oldest sons, they are around me constantly. And not just me, I want them to be around other great men because I can't give them everything. I don't know everything. And just like you mentioned, a lot of learning for children is innate. They're going to learn it just by seeing you. So even with my sons participating in the program, I'm constantly fathering my sons in front of the other children so they can see what a father is like. And not only that, especially because a lot of them haven't experienced a father. So they get to see me father my own sons. I make sure my sons participate, but also get onto them. I teach them I love on them or whatever, so they can see that and like, okay, this is probably what I should be doing now. Right now, they're maybe not just fully paying it attention, but they're going to remember as they get older and those core memories, they're going to remember all the things that I was teaching my son. And your kids, they will teach you so much about yourself because they're a reflection of you. So like my son, for example, my oldest son, he has a lot of trouble with just confidence sometime, like even just using sports. I tell people to use sports not just for learning the sport, but learning who your child is in difficult situations. And so sometimes, you know, he'll lose his confidence. Now he's a great player. He practices all the time. We spend a lot of time training or whatever, great player, but he won't believe in himself sometime. Even if we know he has the capability. He'll get scared and not think that he could do it. I'm like, dude, you killing it. They wouldn't even have you on the team or even starting if you weren't capable, you know. But he has to believe it on his own. But then I'll remember sometimes, like how I struggle in those areas and literally it's like looking at a mirror. I'm like, dang, he's doing some of the same things I do sometime or sometimes I'm afraid to speak up or say something or stand up in this way. And so he makes me look at myself because he's just mimicking what is what he's seen his father do sometime, or even if he hadn't seen me do it directly. Just our spirits are intertwined. So he has that, you know, low self confidence sometime, or not believing in himself sometime or allowing what people have to say about you, you know, to hinder you sometime. And so it'll make you have a mirror. So now I'm like, okay, how do I fix that in front of him so he could see me do it and so he can emulate what he's seeing from me. So it's not just me telling him, hey, be confident, do better. I have to show confidence in ways that he can see. So that way he wants to emulate it. So I absolutely love fathering because it teaches me a lot about myself. There's a lot of character building there. And everybody knows your oldest child is your experiment almost.
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You're growing up together, so that's so cute. And I love what you're saying though, because you're showing them how to be a good father. And if you don't see it, you don't know, right? So you might just see what you see on TV or in a movie or a video game. And TikTok, I should say TikTok. And, you know, not the best examples, I can guarantee you.
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But it's clear that. It's also clear that you're teaching them a mindset. You're teaching them about, you know, like Jocko Willink would say, extreme ownership. But it's like you're empowering them. You're giving them the mindset that I can make my life better and I can do these things and I can solve these problems and I can make things better. And it's the opposite of what you were saying about the victim mindset, where it's like, oh, I can't do it. Everything's so hard. Other people are keeping me down. Like, that just leaves you with nothing. And you feel like you can't ever make anything better, and you end up not taking action and not making things better. And I think it's. I agree, it's like a terrible mindset to be in. And there does seem to be this division in our society that I hope we can get rid of where people are saying, oh, I'm just, you know, things are so expensive, and I can't do this and I can't do that, and it's all because of these other people, but it just leaves you. Leaves you with nothing. And so if you can take ownership and say, you know what? I'm going to focus on my own life and I'm going to make it better, and I'm not going to worry about all that other stuff. I'm just going to do things that, you know, make me more capable, make the people around me more capable. I'm going to help other people. And to your point, when you help other people, you end up learning a lot yourself. And it's just like a great, positive cycle.
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Right? Right.
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Absolutely.
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Lead by example. I love it. So this is just a little pivot I spoke to King about before the show because it's so interesting how, you know, people want to be so divisive in this country anymore that they'll even take it to, like, whether they would donate to Kings school or not. And I thought this was an interesting experiment. I. I actually did something like this once, too, King, so I love that you did this. Let's. Let's listen to what happened here. When King Randall made a post about who he was going to vote for
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for president, I made two separate videos before the election. One of the videos said I was going to vote for Kamala Harris.
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The other video said I was going
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to vote for Donald Trump, and I just wanted to see the mixed reactions from people and how people would react because I do a lot of work
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from my hometown, do a lot of
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work for my community. I work with young boys, and I never said who I was voting for, but I made those two videos because I want to show people how they are in reality. I made the Donald Trump video, and I made the Kamala Harris video. Under the Kamala Harris video, you definitely had some Trump supporters, like, well, we understand that you may have a different opinion or whatever, but we still support what you do. Maybe you'll wake up one day, etc.
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Etc.
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You know, things like that. It wasn't nothing vile with no bad comments or nothing. I make the Donald Trump video. I got people to unfollow me. I got people saying they can't support nothing I do no more. I got folk calling me all types of names, etc. Etc. But what's crazy is all of the. The Kamala Harris supporters have become what
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they accuse Trump supporters of being.
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When you say you support Donald Trump, y', all. Y' all be ready to kill them. Y' all ready to burn them at the stake. You call them all types of names. You're unfollowing me. You don't care what they doing for their community. None. If you support Trump. F you, I hate you so much, et cetera, et cetera. But all the people under the post, all the Trump supporters, when I said I was gonna vote for Kamala, it was all love anyway. They was like, well, we still support what you're doing. We still gonna donate. We still love the work, even though you don't have to support Donald Trump, et cetera, et cetera. So I'm only receive hate from the people that call themselves the tolerant side, the side that's supposed to be about love, the side that's supposed to. That's not about hate. But it's crazy, because anytime somebody doesn't agree with you, all you spew is hate. All you give is hate. So it's funny how everybody who call themselves Democrats, you have turned into what you accuse the Republicans of being
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Such an important message because we just spent a half an hour highlighting everything King has been doing from the kids in his home. And, you know, just blood, sweat, and tears, fundraising. It's free for the kids. He's feeding them. They're picking them up at school. And then someone has the nerve to be like, yeah, no, you're voting for someone. I don't like, and it's like, so we're unfollowing you and no more donations and blah, blah, blah, which is just insanity. And I'm so glad, King, that you pointed it out, like, what was your intention? Like, what did you want to get across then? Because you're not very political.
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But, yeah, yeah, it's just what you mentioned earlier about, you know, politics and how they dupe us on both sides, in my opinion. We spend so much time exhausting ourselves in the world of politics and not just actually going outside and being with our neighbors. We don't even know what's going on outside anymore. It's all just what's going on on Twitter, what's going on on Facebook or what's going on with Candace Owens or whatever. And. And we're not outside, like, actually spending time in our community to see that people still love each other, to go to football games and see that people are, you know, not divided. People are loving each other every day. People are spending a lot of time with each other. There are churches helping people. There are nonprofits everywhere that are helping people out. But when you only want to show and spend time in the negative, then that's all you're going to see. Your algorithms are made for you. They're made for what you want to see. So if you only want to see negative political posts all day, every day, then that's what you're gonna think about all day, every day. And I just. I told somebody before, you know, I don't want to be an activist. You know, you have to spend all day angry all the time. It's just. You're angry all day. And I'm mad at the Democrats. I'm mad at the Republicans. Just all day, every day, just angry. I'm like, just go outside for a bit. Put your phone down and. And get off YouTube or get off your laptop and just go outside and spend some time with people. Spend time with those people you call yourself don't like or whatever. And you'll realize that all the stuff that you see going on online is not going on in real life. Half of these arguments that we're having online, we're not having in real life. We're not talking about this stuff at church. We're not talking about this stuff at the football games or at baseball tournaments or wherever. No, I've heard none of these political conversations in person at all. Everybody's online talking about the trans this and the LGBT that and this and whatever. And I have not heard any of these conversations in person and maybe just where I live, but nobody's talking about this stuff. So I like to spend my time in the community, and people are like, well, what do you think about what's going on politically? I don't know. I've been spending time trying to fix my own community. I don't care what's going on out there. Like, it's not affecting me directly right now. So I want to spend time working with these kids, trying to help their parents and trying to help them figure out how can they maneuver best in this world when things are expensive, when things are taking a toll on them. How can we help you get a career? How can we help you get a better job? How can we give you a better skill? How can we teach you how to read and write? Like, we have so many bigger issues. We spending so much time on politics. And I challenge people to check themselves for a moment. Like, man, I spend all my day thinking about what Trump or the Democrats or whoever is doing. Go outside for a moment. When's the last time you spent some time with a local nonprofit? When's the last time you volunteered for something? When's the last time you got outside and really just spent some time in your town trying to do something? And people think you just need, like, this massive nonprofit and these big old buildings or whatever to make a change. Like, no, just start with one person. You could feed one family for a week, or you could take one kid to school, make friends with his family and say, hey, I'll take him to get ice cream and mentor that child. You know, like, just all these things you could be doing in your community, but you have to want to do it. But I also understand people enjoy complaining. They enjoy, you know, the Twitter fingers and talking trash and whatever. Some people live for that, and that's fine. But for those people who really, you know, want to help their community, spend some time and go outside and go do it. Nobody's stopping you. You're stopping yourself.
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Totally, Owen. I mean, I just have to pause because I have to keep reminding myself that you're 27. Like, you are so, so, like, wise beyond your years, and so, like, a credit to you and to your family and your community, because you're speaking as if somebody who had, like, all this life experience and, like. Like you're, you know, 65 years old, and you've, like, been through it all, and it's like, you are so there, King. Like, your message is so spot on, and it's always positive, and you're always Coming from a good place. And I just. I mean, Owen, just. Crazy impressive, right?
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Yeah, no, I. I think it's. I think it's a great point you're making about and how a lot of it is a distraction. Some people, I think, might be attracted to it for that reason. They might be just not liking what's going on in their own life and they want to avoid it, and they start focusing on politics or what's happening halfway across the world and complaining about that when they're just not doing anything to help themselves. And so I think it is a great thing to point out, and I think Scott was doing a lot of that, too. I mean, obviously, Scott talked a lot about politics. We talk a lot about politics on this show. But at the same time, Scott had all of his micro lessons. He would focus on little skills that you could learn and little ways you could do things better, and talked about Dale Carnegie stuff, which I'm going through with my group on X right now. They're just simple things that you can learn that make you so much more effective and is practical. And that's one of the things that really resonated with me about Scott Adams was just, I love things that are practical. I love things that I can actually put into practice and make my life better. Like, I don't. I don't like focusing on things where it's like, okay, well, that's interesting, but I can't really do anything about that. Oh, why did I even waste time on it? Why don't I focus on things that'll help my. Help me with my job or help me with my family or help me with my community? And you guys notice the right place,
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the times where you get. Where you do get distracted. And let's say, like, you know, you have something real happening in your life, whether it's good, bad, and different, but you're not on your screens, right? And you're just, like, living your life. You're handling the thing. You're doing the thing thing, and you're like, oh, I don't even know what's going on over there in Twitter world. Like, it's not. It's not showing itself to me in my real world. So I actually have to go back to the toxic cesspool to see what I've missed. And then now I'm all caught up. But so I. I just. I love that you put that example out there. So I also want to say that recently, I. I'm assuming this is very recent, that you're have a program now for the girls, is that like pretty new?
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Yeah, we just brought the girls in back in, I think June. It was June. We brought the girls in.
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Had.
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People have been asking for years, you know, when you gonna do something for the girls? And personally, I was just nervous about it. I'm like, I've never had a girl don't know nothing about a girl. Just had my first daughter for Thanksgiving and I again, didn't know what was going on. I'm like, this is a whole new thing. But anyway, I finally gave in and it was a great experience with them. We had such a great time. And like, the girls were like, so happy. They were like, please, like, keep this. You keep this going on for us. Because I originally just gonna do like some one off workshops with them and like, you know, just here and there. But they were like, no, we want this to be a thing like, Candace, can we come here all the time? Can we do something? So I'm like, okay, we'll figure it out. So we'll figure something out. So let me go raise some money and figure out to have you guys here too. So right now I probably could have them maybe two to three times a month. But eventually we want to grow that. I do have another building that's on our property that's not renovated yet, so probably in January, where we're going to try and do a fundraiser to get that building together so the girls can come there every day, just like the boys do too, and they'll be in separate spaces.
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You know, I. I really do love that you emphasize that you're doing this for your community. And I like, I like that idea that you, you don't have to branch out and go far. Other people can emulate what you're doing in their community. But I think when you're protecting and teaching and mentoring your own community, I think that's like where the real like heart and soul comes from, because it's like a vested in your neighbors in your area. So I love that I have one clip for the, for the girls. This is just cute. Let's take a look.
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What y' all looking for?
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Her purse Say what?
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How you lose a purse.
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It was behind me. You said you left it. It was right there.
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I'm saying, did you leave it behind
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when you went to the bathroom or something? I didn't have it.
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I didn't have it right. So should we leave our purse just anywhere?
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Huh?
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So we just leave our purse anywhere? No, we should never leave our purse
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because I left the table. So that means your purse was vulnerable.
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So you got important information in there.
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You got your id, you got your
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license, you got money in there, your phone, and somebody could take away your
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whole life and you didn't lift your purse.
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So should we be leaving our person away? Valuable lesson learned, right? Never leave our person anywhere.
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Always keep that person on your person.
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In most of our purses.
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Got that strap. Crosses.
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Yeah, you can get. You can get a purse. It's right, though. There you go. Always keep a check on your purse. Y always keep a check on your purse.
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Y' all hear me?
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Yes, sir. All right, family, the video you just watched was a part of the Extra Boys and girls program.
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We just now added in a girl world.
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So we want to make sure that becomes a permanent thing. We're doing a fundraiser for 270, 000. So please go to our website at the extra boys.org donate to be able to give to our program so we can continue to remain free. It operates five days a week. We are free program. We don't take any government funding. We operate exclusively from people who like, share, comment, and give. Like you. Thank you so much for watching our videos and we look forward to you giving to our program. Thanks so much.
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Love it. I love it. You're like, your whole life's in there. And every woman in this chat was like, oh, I've been there. It is like, oh, you get like a chill down your spine. Yeah.
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Yep, I did. And another one that I did too. I don't know if you'll be able to pull it up, but these are more serious. So we try to again, put the kids in real life scenario training. This is what I learned from my time in the Marine Corps. We got taught things, you know, as far as knowledge, they called it knowledge. But we also had to do this thing called practical application. And that means you have to actually apply the knowledge that you learned, you know, sitting down. And so for us, we put the girls in situations that can be real and the boys too, for them to understand things that could possibly happen. So, for example, we were getting in the van. I told them we were about to go somewhere, and I had this random guy in the driver's seat that they did not know. And so they get inside the van. And only the last girl noticed that somebody was new. She was like, hey, who is that? But everybody else is just sitting on the van or whatever like that. And so I posted a video and, you know, basically I told him to get out the van. I was like, you know, Just pay attention. Always. I'm like, nobody even paid attention to who the driver was. And so some of the comments were like, well, they trust you, so of course they're gonna get on the van. I said, but that's the point. I said, most, you know, statistically speaking, you know, people that harm you are people that you know. Especially, like when it comes to sexual abuse or whatever like that, it's usually somebody that you trust. And so that was my point, you know, never turn off your attention. Regardless if it's your mom, dad, me, whatever, keep your attention on. As a young lady, you just ask them to introduce the person. Just ask who that is, and that's important for them to know. Or the other day at the restaurant, they were getting on the van again and I had this guy just slowly walking toward the van. Nobody paid any attention. Nobody looked at him. I had one girl, she looked at him and she like, just like, was like. She was looking scared. She didn't know what to do. But that was a lesson for her too, because that's when we say something like, you saw there was danger, but you didn't say anything. I didn't say anything to her. I saw her see him, but I didn't say anything because I wanted to walk all the way through it. They were all the way on the van and he walked all the way close to them. And I said, this is why it's important as a young lady. When you're leaving a restaurant, when you're leaving grocery store, just take a second, just look around before you step in the car. Before you get in the car, just take a look. You never know, somebody could be watching you. I said, he was watching you guys all the way from his parking spot. He walked all the way over here and nobody noticed. I mean, he was far away too. I'm like, but this is again, you know, why it's important that we do these things. And so now these young ladies will be out and they're going to remember these little lessons, like making sure. Who is this Driving the vehicle? Making sure they're checking their surroundings and they're going to go home and tell their mom, hey, mom, make sure you look around before you get in the car, you know, because just, just be safe, you know, because anything could happen. So these, these little real life scenario training things that we're doing now, which I call practical application, they matter because, you know, life is not going to give you a worksheet. It's going to give you a real
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test and you got to Pass it a hundred percent. And I always point out to the men in my life, I'm like, going through life like if we went through the same exact day, going through it as a woman is. Is totally different than it is for a man because women are just naturally more vulnerable, and men are a lot stronger. And so, you know, like, I'll always say, like, we have, like, these parking situations where, you know, you park in a spot, you get a number, you have to go to the meter and put your credit card in the meter for the spot you're in. And I'm like, a guy doesn't think about it, but I'm like, as a woman, I'm going to that meter by myself, maybe with my wallet in my hand. I'm paying attention to the thing and my credit card, and it's like, no, that's just like an impossible situation. Like anything could happen. So my head's always on a swivel. It's. We always joke. It's part that I'm an Italian Jersey girl, but my head is always on a swivel because we are more vulnerable. But that's great. That's a great lesson. I. Yeah. And everything.
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It's so. It's so. Like, even again, missing the restaurant one again, because we did a lot at the restaurant at day with the girls. And you know, one of my girls, she's always talking trash. He's, you know, my. My loud talker. And so I purposely had things done to her at the restaurant just to see what she would do. So, for example, you know, we brought her wrong food. We didn't give her a cup. We didn't give her a straw. We didn't give any utensils. But when it was time to. To say something and speak up for herself, she was afraid. This is the same young lady, too, that I told you was afraid to say that she saw the guy. And so she's having to learn that when the rubber hits the road, you gotta say something. You talking loud or speaking any other time. But when it's time to, you know, speak up for yourself, as a young lady, you want to have that confidence. And so it's very important. You know, we had to wait her, you know, be mean to her a little bit and whatever. And she was just, like, flustered, like, oh, my God, like, this is happening right now. I'm like, it's happening.
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So you have to accept that I'm never coming here again. Yeah, no tip. I'm leaving. Yeah. So I want to make sure I get To Eli. Because I told you, Eli just, like, touched my heart so much. And I want to play this clip, and then we'll finish the time chatting, but I don't know. I just love this whole video. And you'll. You'll give us the update on Eli after. Okay, one sec.
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Okay. Shake my hand hard. Eye contact and shake my hand hard.
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Good job.
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Good job.
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All right,
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what's on the.
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Right now to show me. I'm ready to go visit already.
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High five.
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B
Good afternoon, sir. Yes, sir. Thank you.
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D
What's up, man? How you doing?
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It should be it. Let me know if it's working.
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That's it.
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All right.
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There you go.
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Hold it right there, Eli.
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C
I mean, so sweet. And. And also noticing all of the fun things everybody's doing, all the things they're doing while they're learning and communing and, you know, nobody, in my opinion, has done more to combat racism than Scott Adams. When I tell you, when I go through his catalog of lessons, the majority come out to be about racism and how to stop it, how to dispel it. The whole thing, it is manufactured at this point. And so I just love that. And I love Eli being there with the kids. Like, they're. They're. Nobody's racist or kids, you know, they're just like, we're all kids. Right, right, right. So tell us more about Eli.
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Yeah. Eli just turned 8. We just had his birthday party at that building. We had the water slides and all that stuff there. So that was pretty funny. If you would have told me. I would actually send you some pictures and stuff from it. We had a really good time there. But to see his birthday party, like, a completely mixed birthday party. Like, black kids, white kids, white families, black families. I mean, it's beautiful. And that's what I tell people about going outside. Like, I mean, online, you just. People are just looking for anything. Like, for example, just yesterday in our hometown, we have a Lee county school system. They're more. I think they're more majority white. But anyway, there was this one picture. You know, they just posted pictures of the kids, and so they line the kids up via, like, who has a lunchbox? They are in the front of the line. Who didn't have lunch boxes in the back? Apparently, in this specific picture, the black kids didn't have lunch boxes. The white kids did, and the white kids are in the front now. The teachers just, you know, just posting pictures of the kids. They just posted it up and they're like, lee County's racist. They put all the black kids at the back of the line. And this is racism in 2026 and this and that. So the school system deleted the picture, and they're like, oh, see, they deleted it because they knew it was racist and this and that. I'm like, you guys are insane. So y', all, the kids. I'm like, well, send your kids to school with lunch boxes then. Like, I mean, it's ridiculous. But, you know, even, you know, people have even asked me, like, well, why is it only for black kids? I'm like, it's not only for black kids. We live in a 77% African American town, and we live in a very impoverished community. So we're mostly going to get black children. I said, now, if white people want to sign their kids up, have fun, you know, have fun with it. But for the most part, you know, most of our children are African American in our town. Have we had other races? Absolutely. But Eli and his brother have probably been the longest standing in the ex boys program. His older brother Grayson is in the program also. And so they spend a lot of time with us, and they've just learned as time has gone by, you know, different things. And Eli, his brother are homeschooled, so there we have to. You pick them up from their house after school every day. But, yeah, it's. It's a beautiful thing. Eli spends a lot of time with us. He's grown a lot, and even with whatever, you know, impairments he has, he does fantastic. He spends a lot of time with the boys. He gets treated normally just like everybody else. And he loves being there. He loves me to death. His brother does also. And they just love being there. And that's what I love for the kids. Like, I want them to have a space where they actually like coming to somewhere where it's also cool to do the right thing. Because many of the times we don't reward children for doing the right thing. It's always like, oh, they should do the right thing. You're supposed to do that. I'm like, yeah, but life gives you rewards for doing those things. So when you go to work, you want to get paid. So why would I not, you know, throw him a party for becoming student of the month. So our student Bobby was the student of the month at school. And, you know, at school, they just gonna give you a piece of paper and say you're a student of the month. Congrats. But no, we threw him a whole party. Like, we threw him a party. We got cake, balloons, whatever. And that was important because now he wants to continue doing good because he gets a lot of attention. So I don't think, you know, we should keep subscribing to the idea like, oh, you should just do good, and that's it. You should just clean up your room. No, incentivize it. If he cleans up his room, go take him and get ice cream. If he washes the dishes, let's go do something. Like, let's. Let's reward that because it be just as hard, you know, with the rewards as you are with the punishment. If you're going to punish them hard, reward them hard, too. Even if it is for the small things, you know, you got to do it because you want to encourage the small things to continue. That's what I believe in.
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Small things turn to big things. There's one other thing I wanted you to tell us about. We only have a few minutes left, but, Owen, for some reason, I see you heading one of these up, but. So everybody listening to this, whether you're a. A man or a woman, just ask yourself if this is something you might be able to do. Maybe you could ask a friend to help you. But you do zoom calls for fathers, right? So they meet with you and you kind of. Well, you tell, but you, like, brainstorm on fatherhood.
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Yeah. So I've been working on this program called the dad Standard, But. But I've also had moms, too, that have been asking for tips, those who are single moms. Would you have a lot of those, too? So thinking about doing a separate program for them also, where we meet once a week. They can ask whatever questions. I'll do a teaching for about 30 minutes, talking about some things that they could work on for the week with their kids, and then they can ask whatever questions they have. And just based on whatever wisdom I have, I let them know, hey, this is not a counseling session. I'm not a therapist. I'm not a behavioral analyst. I'M just giving you the wisdom that I've learned growing up. This is what I can give to you. So they could ask those questions, but we'll have the dad standard. And I'm working on, you know, something for single moms to be able to have, so that way I could give them wisdom based on what I've been able to discover with the single moms that I work with. As time has gone by, you know, obviously my mind has changed in so many different ways, you know, since being 19 all the way to 27. I mean, who I was two years ago is different, you know, so who I am now is different. You know, you think different things, different things change. You come up with different solutions, you come up with different ideas. So the thing I've learned as of late, those are what the things matter to me.
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And now you charge, like, a fee for it, right? Because time is money. Also, like, you're. You're giving constantly. So, you know, for some people, you know, maybe you do it for free to start, and you grow it, and then you're like, oh, my God, I love this. But, you know, but so you charge a fee, and people could do that also if they felt like it was warranted or it was great growing or whatever. But you can do it however you want it, you guys. But there are kids and there are parents and people that need mentorship. And I always tell Owen what a great dad I believe he is based on what I know about him and Owen. I could just see you doing that.
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I would love to. I mean, I think, you know, some of the observations I make based on what you were saying was, like, at first, kids, I think they love learning. They love picking up new skills. It's just a natural thing where they're like, wow, that's cool. I like to learn these things. But I agree with you that the incentives matter, too. And that's something Scott always talked about because he had an economics degree, and he was always in that kind of mindset of anything you make harder with friction, you're going to have less of it. And anything you give an incentive to, it's going to lead to more of that. So I think that's great, too. And so, you know, I just applaud everything you're doing.
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B
It's just really great.
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C
Yes, I agree.
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B
I appreciate you all.
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C
Yeah, no, King, I just know, like, I'm reading the chat as we're going along, and you're just, you know, you're like our. Our favorite uncle from Georgia now. So
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B
I Appreciate how I've been watching the growing of the viewership since we've been on and it's been growing and growing. So if you're watching whatever platform you're on, hit the share button, hit the retweet, whatever, however you do it, or copy the link, send it to all your contacts, whatever you need to do, but definitely share what's going on here. Like comment, subscribe, the whole nine. You know, you know the things they always say on the videos here, as
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C
Joe Biden says, you know the thing and. Perfect. Yeah. So we have a, we have five minutes left with you. We want to take every opportunity. So what is some good advice do you think for let's just say fathers right now, something they could start doing today to affect a change in their kids or like a neighbor's kid, somebody. What, what's one thing that they should try
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B
for you as a father? Get, get some other men around your, your, your son that you trust. Have them spend time with coaches, have them spend time with other mentors, older people. I mean, also allow your kids to struggle and fail. Do, do give them pain, not physical pain, but mental pain. So it molds them. So I put my son in situations all the time where it forces him to have to grow. It forces him to have to speak up for himself. It forces him to have to, you know, get, speak up with his chest. It's very important that you, you gift your sons mental pain and not in a way where I'm saying abusing them, but in a way where you are challenging them to become better. Because they're not going to always be a kid. They're going to be a young man one day. They're going to be, you know, a young lady one day. So you got to give them that pain that life is going to, to give them. You don't want them to have to discover it and get punched in the face by life later. Have them go through those things now. Have them have to speak up for themselves now. Have them learn some betrayal now. Have them learn all those things as time goes by so you make a real wound, a well rounded adult because that's what we're aiming for. We can't look at them solely as kids. We have to look at them as future adults because that's what matters. We don't want to create any problems for anybody's daughters or sons. They're going to be a husband one day, they're going to be a wife one day. So please spend that time and making sure you gift Them the gift of hardship. They need it.
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C
And what do you think, King, about being an example for your kids? I see a lot of parents, I've personally seen people who have kids who are, like, totally disrespectful to the husband or wife, or they're shouting at each other, or they're like, you know, maybe. Maybe a wife is taking abuse from a husband or vice versa. And the kids watch it. So what do you think in a situation like that? Like what? What should parents know it?
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B
Kids are going to do all innate learning for the most part. Again, we can tell them things, but most kids are going to listen to stuff from other folks. But from you, they're going to watch what you do. They're going to watch everything that you do. I'll give a perfect example. One of the moms came to me about her son's attitude and how he acts and the way he does things when he's upset. But I remembered that she was upset when she came to tell me about it, but she was doing the same thing that he does when he's upset. And so I stopped her while she was talking. I'm like, ma, you see how you're doing this whole thing right here? He does the same thing. He turns his face the same way, he moves his head the same way. Because I have him all the time. I'm like, he's doing what you do. And she didn't even pay any attention. And when she realized that it was like a light bulb went off, she's like, oh, he's watching me. He's watching you. You can tell him this stuff all day, but he's going to watch everything that you do. So they're going to watch everything you do. So it's very important. If you're going to be around your children often, please make sure you're emulating what you want to see from them, because they're going to do innate learning. They're going to learn everything that you do from the way you turn your face, from the way you turn your head, the way you hold your hands, the way you stand, the way you walk. They're going to watch all of it. They're going to mimic it to a T, because that's what they are. They're little mirrors. Your children are a reflection of you almost every time.
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C
And so you want to show them as a father or a mother, what they should expect in life is acceptable as a father or mother. So if you're. If you're accepting a lot of BS from your partner and you're allowing, like, abuse to happen, or, you know, you're allowing, like, you know, you're seeing your mom be talked to in a derogatory way or vice versa.
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B
Right?
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A
You're.
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C
You're showing your kids that that's acceptable for you. You can act like that or you can take that. So they are, they're just like little machines watching all the time. And there's nothing worse for a child to witness their parent having any kind of hardship or abuse. Like, it, it kills a kid in her soul. So you have to be careful. Oh, and any last message or comment or question,
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A
I just, I, I again, I applaud what you're doing. I think hopefully you'll have a lot more success with your fundraising goal. And I just think everything you've shown us is a great example of what an individual can do to make things better. That, you know, a lot of what's being taught in our schools is kind of a terrible example, in my opinion, from a lot of the things I've heard. You know, that. I mean, the most extreme one was like, I think they, some schools have started teaching something called adultism, where they're literally telling you not to respect your parents and not to, like, kids have rights too, is kind of the idea, I guess. But it's like, no, you need to follow your. You need to obey your parents, you need to respect authority. You need to do that. And they're teaching in the exact opposite of that, and government is even worse. So, you know, they're trying to teach you to be dependent on them. So I love seeing what you're doing, just making your own community better and just making a difference in the world. So thanks for doing it.
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C
Thank you.
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B
I appreciate it. Most definitely.
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C
Did you enjoy coming on the Scott Adams School?
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B
Of course. Glad to be back. You know, after Mr. Scott, I was on with him and, you know, we texted all the time. I texted him all the way, you know, until the end, so he couldn't text anymore. But I always checked on him and made sure he was okay. So glad to still be here and taking sips. But I appreciate everybody. He helped me a lot in the beginning, too. So thank everyone. And again, for those people that are asking, asking, the website is the x4boys.org and if you just, if it's more simple for you, just type my name in on Instagram or Facebook or whatever, you. You'll find your way. You'll find your way eventually. But you could find the extra boys.org or go on any of my social media at New Emerging.
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C
King and I will post all of the information after the show, you guys, on locals and X and wherever I can. So you guys can also find everything King Randall is doing. And we thank you so much, King. It was such a pleasure. We had a whole hour with you. Like, what a gift. And I'll be bugging you because, you know, I have your number now, so I'll be sure.
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B
Yeah, just reach out.
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C
I will. Because they're going to want you to come back time and time again, as do Owen and I. And Marcella is our other co host. She's sorry she couldn't be here today. She's an attorney and sometimes she has to jet off to court, but she was very excited about you coming on as well. So, as always, we always say thank you to Scott and to Shelley that they, you know, allowed this show to continue on after. And we're so happy to be here every day. And we thank everybody for showing up every day. It's amazing. And we always give a closing sip to our beloved Scott. We tell everyone to be useful, and boy, did we get an example of useful today. So you guys take the lessons we learned today, apply them wherever you can, and teach them to other people and let emulate what King Randall's doing as best as we can. And we look forward to seeing you again with us one day soon, King. So we appreciate you. We'll be here. Good. A closing sip to Scott. And I'll stay after for a few minutes with you guys and we'll let these guys jet off. Okay? Thanks to Scott.
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A
All right, Scott.
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B
Bye, guys.
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C
Oh, and if you have to go, you can go. It's up to you.
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B
I'll see you later.
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C
Okay, thank you so much. All right, guys, so I'm not playing an Akira song today just because we're testing something. Spotify is very unhappy with me and my music. I'm not sure if it's Akira and I'm not sure if it's the clips that we play. So today I'm just not going to play one just to see how that goes. But, you guys, is he amazing? I. I freaking love him. What a. What an example he is. So I'm so glad that he came on with us for the hour. Oh, thank you, Lemon minty. So I'll just, you know, say goodbye to you guys here. Oh, and I forgot to mention the afterparty tomorrow for Owen. Okay, So I will post it. Sorry, Owen. So tomorrow, Owen has his afterparty on X at Owen Gregorian And SJV will be there with him. And he's like I always say, has the patience of a saint. So you guys can have like these long form talks with him about news and, and anything, you know, that you want to talk about. So make sure you join him there. It's the same time as the Scott Adams School. Okay? So he does that on Saturday and on Sunday he usually does a spaces for his subscribers and they're doing a book club right now. You didn't have to read it though. You could just go in. So you guys, thank you so much. I will read all your comments after. I hope you enjoyed today's show. Is a great way to end the week and whatever. A freaking inspiration. And I'm gonna post the links for him and I am absolutely gonna go on his Amazon wish list and send something off to him. So love you guys. So we'll say our goodbyes and I always want to come on on the weekends and like, either on my channel or on Scott's channel. But I have to tell you, like, I am so swamped right now with all of the jobs. So we'll. We'll see how it goes. Okay. But you guys are the best. Have the best weekend. If I don't see you guys and we'll be back Monday. Oh, and I have a surprise guest for you next week. One of your favorites will be here. We have two guests next week.
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B
Ooh.
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C
Yep, so far. Okay, so I'll see you guys on Monday. Okay, thank you. Bye, guys. Love you.
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D
It.