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Dasha
The audio levels are calibrated. We're back.
Kate
We're back.
Dasha
Heat wave.
Kate
I was thinking of saying hello in a bunch of different languages, and then I realized I don't actually know how to say hello in any other languages.
Dasha
Nihau.
Kate
Hola.
Dasha
Privet. It's just the same language. Bonjour.
Kate
Yeah. True.
Dasha
When people say we're stupid, people say.
Kate
I mean, this kind of weather makes you feel, like, kind of bloated and sluggish, but also good because you lose your appetite. Don't really feel like eating.
Dasha
Kind of glowing from sweating so much.
Kate
Clammy maxing.
Dasha
Yeah. And it'll pass. Yeah, I guess. And the humidity is kind of nice.
Kate
Mm.
Dasha
It's better than the long winter.
Kate
True.
Dasha
How was your week?
Kate
Good, I guess. It's all a blur. I don't remember anything.
Dasha
Yeah, I was in Miami.
Kate
Oh, yeah, right.
Dasha
My Uncle Vulva's 60th birthday. Shout out. Vlad had a ball, got some sun. Mm, Do. Here's a question for you. Do you think it's too late for me to go to law school?
Kate
I knew you were gonna say that. Well, I already said this to you. I think that unlike Kim K, you can definitely pass the bar on the first try.
Dasha
Been thinking I could ask the bar.
Kate
I think you can. You can probably nail the L set.
Dasha
You think?
Kate
Yeah, because it's all logic games, which.
Dasha
Yeah, well, ever since. Not a paid advertisement, unfortunately. I told you and Elena, I got that brick thing that prevents you from using your phone, that stops you. You can block certain apps. So I. Because I totally lack self control and have clinical depression, I haven't been playing as much chess with the aid of this tool, and now I'm like, I could do anything.
Kate
Do you feel like your brain has been reset?
Dasha
I mean, I just. No, not quite. I think, like, in a couple weeks, I'll really feel the effects.
Kate
Do you have an appetite for media that's not online, online chess or online posting?
Dasha
Well, I do very mindless. Like, act like Twitter at Instagram. Scrolling. Mostly just to, like. Because I text a lot and then kind of to fill the time, I end up scrolling. You know, we should start a law firm. Oh, my God, that's such a good idea.
Kate
Can you imagine? We just lose all the cases.
Dasha
Well, that's the other thing I'm worried about with my new career is that, like, I have too much baggage and people won't want to hire me.
Kate
Yeah, you'd be, I guess, like, kind of a meme. Celebrity attorney. But it's not the first time someone's done it.
Dasha
But maybe, maybe I go into. Maybe I'm a defense attorney. Objection, your honor, excuse me, you're out of order. But if I do, like if I'm a defense attorney pro bono, then no one can, you know, they're stuck with me. They don't want the chair.
Kate
True.
Dasha
I'm their last hope. Just an idea. There's just. It seems like there's a lot of shitty lawyers.
Kate
Yeah, I would say like probably 90% of lawyers are shitty. Just like 90% of everything.
Dasha
I was asking my analyst this. He refused to answer. Classic. But yeah, I love to perform and I love to argue.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
But I don't love paperwork and I don't love institutions.
Kate
Well, sure, but you can brand yourself as a rogue. A rogue firebrand attorney like Gloria Allred, who represents like women or repeat offenders. If we start a law firm, we
Dasha
would need a third. Why?
Kate
With an equally like long winded and confusing catchy and Necrosova like it would be like Katya Nekrosova third other multi syllable annoying Slavoid or caucasoid name that ain't nobody can pronounce.
Dasha
That's gonna hinder us for sure. Kotchi and Nickersova and associates.
Kate
Yeah, there you go. They're not showing up in the search. We can do that thing that like all annoying like online micro celebs do where they like pretend to be canceled to drum up interest.
Dasha
Like they self cancel to start the gofundme.
Kate
Yeah, I mean you, you are legitimately kind of canceled. So that's also.
Dasha
So I need a new job inroad.
Kate
Because you can say like I. I've been through the Kafka esque, nightmarish like trial that is like dealing with the institutions.
Dasha
I could be an entertainment lawyer for other canceled celebs.
Kate
So true.
Dasha
I could do like a reverse McCarthyism.
Kate
And then you just hire a bunch of simps who do all the annoying paperwork, red tape, bureaucracy crap. You don't do that yourself.
Dasha
So you're. But law. In law school you do. It's just a lot. But that's what appeals to me too is it's like it would give me a lot of structure and purpose which I'm lacking a little bit. And now that I have the brick
Kate
app,
Dasha
like nothing can stop me. What? Adhd? Just something. Just something I've been thinking about.
Kate
I believe in you, Dasha.
Dasha
Maybe architecture.
Kate
I'm thinking school.
Dasha
Some kind of
Kate
adult education.
Dasha
I need a. Another degree to get out of the.
Kate
To escape the criminal Justice.
Dasha
Criminal justice. Exactly. The D. A. DASHA. Maybe then I could be a judge. I'd be really good at that.
Kate
So true.
Dasha
Because I love judging, and I'm very fair. I guess what I. Yeah, what I really want is to, like, play a lawyer in a movie.
Kate
I mean, I'm sure that can be arranged.
Dasha
I mean, probably not, you know, for a while.
Kate
I mean, I think what we're all looking for is, like, a sustained intellectual pursuit, which is hard to have, and,
Dasha
like, safety, you know, just kind of like, this is, you know, my career.
Kate
It's not actually hard to have. We're just, like, lazy and self indulgent. It's.
Dasha
You need discipline. Yeah. Which I'm developing, and law school is gonna straighten me out.
Kate
Maybe I'll join the military.
Dasha
I don't know. Life's so long, you know?
Kate
It is.
Dasha
I could do all sorts of things. Well, did you see, like, probably just keep podcasting.
Kate
The Russian surgeon general or whatever said that 39 and under is considered young. I'm past the cutoff, y'. All. I'm old.
Dasha
I'm young.
Kate
You're young.
Dasha
I knew it.
Kate
Yeah. Well, I'm assuming they're doing that just so that they can expand the age bracket of who qualifies for, like, military conscription. It's probably something dark and sinister, I'd say.
Dasha
Definitely. Probably something.
Kate
But it feels. Feels good. I'm just shy of being young. I'm not that old.
Dasha
Well, I looked into it recently and globally. Like, everyone in the world, most people are younger than me.
Kate
Well, yeah, but that's because most people are, like, African or Chinese.
Dasha
Indian.
Kate
Indian.
Dasha
And in America, hard to say. In the west, young. Young enough.
Kate
I mean, obviously, young is a relative thing, which is not to say, like, age ain't nothing but a number, but it's just, like, depending on what career
Dasha
path you choose, your options get limited.
Kate
Sure.
Dasha
Like, I won't be an athlete.
Kate
Yeah. Like, being, like, an athlete, an actress, a model. Not that young. You don't make being a lawyer or a politician very young.
Dasha
Kind of young, but I don't want to go into politics.
Kate
Sure.
Dasha
Yeah. It's such a dirty business, you know, and it's.
Kate
I just.
Dasha
I don't have the stamina, even though I have the focus.
Kate
And you're just going to be disappointed even more.
Dasha
You know, I'm gonna take a practice. Elsa, you should. Because Chat. GBD said no.
Kate
Well, there's no loss in that, because it could be fun and entertaining and maybe you might, like, sharpen your critical thinking faculties. Or whatever.
Dasha
That would be interesting. Yeah. And maybe I'll do so well they'll just fast track me.
Kate
Ladies, take a practice lsat.
Dasha
It's not like math law.
Kate
I guess it does have a similar basis of logic, but I feel like you're good at that.
Dasha
I did philosophy. Ba.
Kate
Yeah, that's a pre law.
Dasha
That's the pre law degree par excellence. They told me.
Kate
Well, when you were doing philosophy, they. It wasn't like reading Hegel and Heidegger exclusively. They did make you do a lot of, like, basic logic work, Right? That's what I remember from the two or three, like, philosophy classes I took in college.
Dasha
Not so much in my women's private college. There was like a Nietzsche guy and a Wittgenstein guy, and I kind of did the 19th century German, which is pretty.
Kate
Not lawyerly, actually completing the circle of German idealism.
Dasha
Birth of tragedy.
Kate
I guess I've had the same yearning because I went to see the Raphael show at the Met with Fernando, which really just activated my art history brain.
Dasha
Oh, yeah, you could finish up that degree. You could go back.
Kate
Yeah. I would have to write a PhD thesis.
Dasha
You could do it.
Kate
I could definitely do it, but it would be an annoying slog.
Dasha
And for what? Yeah, this is your thesis. Babe, stick with me.
Kate
We're going right to the.
Dasha
We don't need to do anything else. I think we're doing all the right things.
Kate
Well, when people yell at me that I'm a failed art critic, it's like, with all due respect, all art critics are failures because it's a failed professor.
Dasha
Like, basically, Peter Schjeldahl.
Kate
If you're an art critic, you're a thwarted visual artist, which is why you get into it in the first place.
Dasha
You think?
Kate
I think so. Part of it.
Dasha
What about Peter Schjeldahl? That's the only art critic right now. Or Dave Hickey?
Kate
Oh, yeah, he's a good one. Yeah. But he's more of, like Clement Greenberg, Jerry Saltz.
Dasha
The best critics are like, kind of like. Hickey's more of an essayist, kind of in his own right.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
And so his art criticism is sort of besides the point. He, like, uses it as, like, a medium.
Kate
Right.
Dasha
To express himself.
Kate
Exactly. Yeah. I mean, I guess you can see any kind of criticism as like, a subsidiary art form of the genre or form it's criticizing in the first place. That was like, the ongoing argument in grad school. Is criticism a legitimate art form onto its own and, like, yes and no.
Dasha
It can be.
Kate
It can be Schrader was a film
Dasha
critic before he, you know, went on to have his great career.
Kate
So was Nick Pinkerton.
Dasha
True. Still is a film critic.
Kate
Well, I always like when that happens. When people start in a critical path and end up in an artistic path. That's inspirational.
Dasha
Yeah. What's on our docket,
Kate
Chick? Shit. Mango.
Dasha
The guy who made Mango died two years ago. Fell off a cliff. Yeah, they're saying his son pushed him.
Kate
Yeah, yeah.
Dasha
You tell me this for the first time.
Kate
I know, I know. That's okay. I'll still keep buying that garbage.
Dasha
What can you say? He led an amazing life. He made a great store. I was up in Mango the other day.
Kate
Oh, really?
Dasha
Yesterday, in fact.
Kate
Mango Outlet. Oh. You know what has made me a much happier person, by the way? When I stopped shopping on the Real Real and started shopping on Thredup, which is like the ghetto mass market version because it has all my favorite like Y2K mall brands. Yeah, the Limited Theory
Dasha
Vinted is a good bb. Yeah, I'm an ebay head, but I make a lot of ECBG ill advised purchases.
Kate
Me too. But Thredup is amazing because you can literally just, you know, buy 16 things and spend $12 on each. And the total bill is like around $200. But then you get a 40% off promo code. So you're. So you're like $140 for all this and all this stuff that doesn't work. I just throw it out into the street or give it to Chinese people.
Dasha
There you go.
Kate
I'm like swimming in low rise boot cut pinstripe pants and black shift dresses. I'm going to be throwing a lot of shit up on Depop. They like, when you like return stuff, they're like, you don't have to actually send it back. We'll give you a credit to shop if you keep it. That sounds like a good business model. A global landfill. It's amazing.
Dasha
I gotta try. I think I've probably bought something on there before.
Kate
It's amazing. People be like, she must be really miserable in her personal life if she's posting like this. And I'm like, yes, yes, I am. I'm bloated and my tits don't fit into anything and it makes me irritable like a bull in a China shop. But then I go on Thredup and like go nuts. The clouds clear and like the sun comes out. I'm like happy as a clam. Doing like TikTok dances.
Dasha
Doing an office siren law.
Kate
Yeah, I mean, I guess we're, like, ahead of the curve in going to adult university because, like, we already do the dress for the job you want thing.
Dasha
What, by.
Kate
By wearing, like, pencil skirts and shrunken blazers?
Dasha
Yeah. Like secretaries in a porno.
Kate
I like. I like dressing like I'm employed.
Dasha
Me, too.
Kate
I don't like going around in, like, sweatpants or gym shorts. It makes me feel like fat.
Dasha
I like to do both. But I like. Yeah, I like to do my United nations larp, too. And it seems like a healthy evolution from the Coquette style that I really put on them. I don't really think that I did a lot for it.
Kate
Oh, I just opened Twitter, and there's a new move over Leia Seydoux. There's a new soundbite from Mindy Kaling where she says she understands criticisms of her weight loss because it's sometimes no fun when one of your favorite actors loses weight. Whose favorite actor is she? Yeah.
Dasha
That's pretty h. Presumptuous of her. And is it, like, who is so upset that someone lost weight? Yeah,
Kate
nobody, I guess. Some people think it's we. I don't know. Whatever.
Dasha
Some people think celebs are their friends, I guess.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
Yeah. And Mindy K. Like, must have some fans.
Kate
She does. Yeah, I'm sure.
Dasha
How much weight has she lost? She doesn't even look that skinny.
Kate
No, she does look much skinnier. And she got a little bit of tweaking done to her face, too. She looks a lot better, I guess. I don't really follow Mindy Kaling looking lighter. The Michael Jackson.
Dasha
No, they're just like, Indian women often do, you know, they brighten their complexion.
Kate
Yeah, I don't think she did that, actually.
Dasha
That's a big part of their kind of, like, Indian beauty Reddit. Yeah, just some. I'm not being racist. I think her skin color is beautiful.
Kate
Yeah. Indian women get lighter skin to mimic Western beauty standards, and black women glue Indian hair to their heads to mimic Western beauty standards. It's like a human centipede of people mimicking Western beauty standards or what they think they are. I guess this Mango guy was worth 4.5 billion.
Dasha
Richest man in Spain.
Kate
I thought that was the Zara guy, but I guess they trade off.
Dasha
They're both.
Kate
I think they're like Democrats and Republicans.
Dasha
Yeah. Based on how my loyalty to each switches depending on how I'm feeling.
Kate
And, like, the son and his two sisters took over the company and then
Dasha
pushed him off a cliff. I don't. I don't know. That seems crazy.
Kate
Well, yeah, this is my question. People are always like, why postpone the inevitable? And I want to invert that and say, like, why accelerate the inevitable? Like, you're going to inherit his wealth and take over the company anyway. Why, like, solicit bad karma and legal suspicion by, like, killing your dad?
Dasha
Patricide. Yeah.
Kate
Like, I. I don't know. Like, I was like, it defies credulity. Like, you think you're not gonna get caught. I guess there's no, like, cameras in the wilderness.
Dasha
Well, I don't think, you know, if I was his lawyer, I can make a good case for why I don't think he did it.
Kate
I guess it's not clear what happened. And right now he's a person of interest or like a suspect, but he's.
Dasha
There's forensic evidence that's not adding up, but maybe it's all an elaborate mango marketing scheme.
Kate
The mango hoax. It's like a triangle of sadness type thing. Like, it has like a. Almost like a cinematic quality to it. That's like tragicomic. The folly of the ultra rich.
Dasha
Right.
Kate
Maybe he tragic, bitchy, controlling Russian mistress who put him up to it because she was sick of his father's influence and wanted to get the bag. I don't know.
Dasha
But they had already taken over his company. No, I have no idea.
Kate
He was relatively young. I think he was only like 71. He was young. He was spring chicken. And then the son is 45.
Dasha
Okay. I think, I don't know. More will be revealed. I'll be following this case closely. And I'll keep buying that garbage. I got a nice linen shirt.
Kate
That Mango. Yeah, they're good. Mango outlet. Like I said, regular mango.
Dasha
It's nice stuff. Zara hasn't been hitting lately.
Kate
No, Mango's like less trendy than Zara. Yeah, Zara loves to do like the Kate Moss, like, middle era, after she became like a supermodel, but before she got the facelift thing when she was like, running around with Pete Doherty and wearing like festival.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
Gear.
Dasha
Zara's like, I don't know. I don't know what the issue is. I used to love it and then.
Kate
Me too.
Dasha
Now it just doesn't. It doesn't satisfy me anymore. Zara home.
Kate
Zara home is great.
Dasha
And Zara kids also great. And I'm not going to lie, I bought some stuff from Mango. Also has. Makes teen clothes.
Kate
I know. I love the teen vertical or whatever
Dasha
you call it as a young 35 year old. Some of those clothes suit me, actually. How's the size a little smaller. Okay. But like, normal.
Kate
Right.
Dasha
Um, but it's like, lower quality, I'd say all around.
Kate
Yeah. Because teens love to, like, run through fits.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
I was on Mango Teen recently because I'm, like, still looking for perfect athleisure, and they're kind of midway between Brandy Melville and, like, Gimagas. It's like American Athleisure with a Spanish spin.
Dasha
The Essence sale. They went bankrupt.
Kate
I know.
Dasha
Yet they still exist. And it's not. I can't just. I've made too many truly stupid purchases from there. Regrettable. And there's nothing I want. I need sandals. I need a summer sandal. And I kind of need maybe some more dresses. I marry Condo'd again. So I did the whole inventory, got rid of everything that wasn't giving joy. And so now I'm evaluating, like, what I can reincorporate into my wardrobe. Right. Thread up, thread up. Let's go.
Kate
Yeah, just like, you can get tons of a cute little khaki drab sun dresses.
Dasha
The dress I wore to my uncle Vova's birthday. I posted pictures of his cop Copine. Yeah. It's like a denim dress with the gorgeous ebay. Uh huh. Yeah.
Kate
That was a really cute dress. That's a good brand. It's like that brand and then like, other Euro brands nobody cares about. Like Plain suds.
Dasha
No.
Kate
Gatekeeper Diesel.
Dasha
Yeah. Don't blow up. Don't. Don't blow it up too much because
Kate
I know I thought about this before I boosted thread up, but there's like, so much to go around because it is really, like landfill vibes.
Dasha
Yeah, that's cool.
Kate
They just, like, dump everything in there. And it's like, coming from, like, Georgia and Texas.
Dasha
Not like. Well, I've bought things on Etsy before from Malaysia, similar era, kind of overpriced, but then they always show up smelling like a dead body. So you have to include the cost of dry cleaning.
Kate
Oh, right, yeah, true.
Dasha
Which adds up. Just put thread up. So get. You heard it. Get the Brick app and. But don't block thread.
Kate
Go on Thredup.
Dasha
Block all the other apps on your phone except Thredup and lock the in.
Kate
Okay. Yeah. I was like, telling you girls, I re watched Lost in Translation because. Spitefully. Why angrily? Because Justin Murphy had that cretinous horny take about. When I was young, that movie was about a dirty old man predator grooming a vulnerable nubile young girl. And as I got older, it acquired a new spin. And it was about one man's colossal restraint in the face of looming sexual temptation. Crazy. I was just like, no, no, no. That's not at all what that movie's about.
Dasha
That's not what that movie's about, like, at all.
Kate
All. It's such a moving, touching, and hilariously funny film about two lonely souls with, like, failing marriages adrift in this foreign land who come together because of, like, some shared philosophy or commonality. I know, I know. I, like, cried in the end when he, like, jumps out of the car
Dasha
to whisper, sweetie, you know what it is?
Kate
Oh. It's like, if you could make, like, create the perfect movie in a lab, this would be it.
Dasha
I mean, you know, I love it. It's one of my favorite.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
But, like, the.
Kate
The sexual element is so, like, secondary. Oh, that's so sweet. I was just crying. And I know I have to edit for interest because, like, I get all enthusiastic about, like, media. I, like, reconsume and want to, like, talk about it on the podcast, but, like, ain't nobody care.
Dasha
I know. We'll do a translation review episode.
Kate
We honestly could. It's also a very Welbeckian film. Like, the sense of humor is very Welbeck.
Dasha
The, like, Orientalism.
Kate
Like, just, like, disappointed and dissatisfied by life, but somehow hopeful. Just like the. The first couple of sequences where he suffers, like, demeaning microaggression after demeaning microaggression. Like, the shower head isn't tall enough for him to shower comfortably.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
And all these Japanese people are really nice, but annoying. His, like, bitch wife is, like, faxing him passive aggressive messages. I forgot why I was talking about this.
Dasha
I forget too, though. I'll say. I know Sophie made it when in the aftermath of her, like, divorce with Spike Jonze, but his character, in my many reviewings of it over the years, I've kind of developed more sympathy for him. Like, even though I love ScarJo's character and the heart of the film, you know, like, my Justin Murphy esque annoying take is that she's kind of like a snob and her husband's, like, working.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
And she's like, I know it's not, like, sexual tension, but she's like, she could be happier. I get why.
Kate
Yeah. And there's a interesting plot arc with her foil played by Anna Faris, who's like, this, like, a karate stupid bimbo actress. She's, like, at the press conference saying all this stupid shit.
Dasha
Like, she doesn't know that Evelyn Waugh was a man.
Kate
Yeah. And she's like, oh, I love Asian Culture like martial arts and sushi. And I really tried to channel that in my performance. Or when she's like, at the rooftop bar being like, I'm not anorexic. I just really have a high metabolism. And you're supposed to, like, hate this girl and think she's like, vapid and dumb, but actually she's endearing and likable because she's being herself.
Dasha
Yeah. And Anna Faris is variable cast. She's a very, like, black dress.
Kate
And it kind of reminded me of the whole Lea Seydoux discourse because, like, not to be too much of a hater or a Debbie Downer, because I do love Lea Seydoux and think she's, like, sexy and talented and smart.
Dasha
Well, so she's in. She has two films at Cannes and she gave an interview where the poll quote was that she became an actress because she didn't know to feel that she really existed. She needed to have herself documented.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
She made this kind of, like, existential. She pontificates on it more in the full interview.
Kate
Yeah, yeah, we. I'll quote the tweet. I have it written somewhere. But, like, periodically, one of the things that I find somewhat tedious and grating is like, when they wheel out some prestige French actress like Isabel Huppert or Juliette Binoche or Lesey do, and they say something like, quirky and profound and everybody claps and cheers. Like, to me, that's really no different than being like an Anna Faris girl living her truth. Yeah. And it's like everybody's like, oh, this is so wise and so profound and so French. It makes me want to smoke a cigarette. It is nihilistic and existential.
Dasha
Well, it just is French.
Kate
Yeah, but it's just like, also.
Dasha
But it's. You're right. It's like their version of like, Anne Hathaway saying, like, inshallah, or talking about her gay brother or something. You find it a little pandering. Yeah.
Kate
It's almost like not even their fault. Because if you read that full Variety interview. Yeah. She's promoting. What's the movie called?
Dasha
There's a sci fi one. And then there's one called Gentle Monster. Yeah. About a woman whose husband has child pornography.
Kate
Yeah. So that one. And then there's the Unknown, in which she plays a photographer who has a one night stand with a woman wakes up trapped in her body.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
So both of these films sound interesting because they're like, playing to two, like, central taboos which are like, you know, transgender and pedophilia and Obviously, the, the comments themselves are topical to the film she's currently promoting and should be taken in that context. But also, like, the reaction to them is reflective of, like, the wider discourse around women and their issues.
Dasha
Well, it's just. I mean, to me it seems like the most obvious thing in the world that someone would choose someone like Leah Seydoux, who is one of the last. She's like, She's a real aristocrat.
Kate
She, like, she's a Nepo baby, whatever.
Dasha
She's like beyond Nepo.
Kate
She's literally.
Dasha
She's like a princess. Yeah. Practically, like, can do whatever. But anyone who like, really chooses acting, if they're being honest, it's because they have like a void and a particular void in them to fill that they feel compelled to.
Kate
To do. Yeah. Or like even less charitably, like they understand that they are sexy and attractive based on the reaction that they've getting from other people all their life and have that classic woman thing that we all have. It's like she did the Kofi Fi Anon meme. Like, women think they don't exist unless somebody is perceiving them and recording them. But before we get into that whole thing, Lost in Translation is amazing. This is the Lost in Translation review episode, I guess, because it, it just demonstrates like actual empathy and that you feel that you find both characters or all the characters relatable in a way, except for like those pesky and alienating Japanese people who are just like cute and charming. I guess you can sympathize with the man, you can sympathize with the woman. You can even sympathize with, like the annoying, clout chasing fuckboy photographer husband.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
Who like, doesn't see what a beautiful and sensitive person his wife is and is infatuated with this like, annoying actress girl because she's cool and famous and
Dasha
he's like a careerist, basically, is the implication that he's there, you know?
Kate
But I can see what you're saying, like, if you take it from his perspective, it probably is like a little annoying and irritating to have you bring your girl loafing around in the hotel room in her panties all day.
Dasha
And she thinks she's so much smarter than everyone because she is. But she's, you know.
Kate
But she did, like, Sofia Coppola accomplished what Lena Dunham did with like the famous girls abortion scene.
Dasha
I don't want to have the zoom shut off. I'm sorry.
Kate
Oh, word. No, don't worry.
Dasha
I'm scared to move.
Kate
All right, so yeah, the story Based on a graphic novel co written by Arthur Harari, this is the Unknown Not Lost in Translation might sound like an allegory of trans identity. It made me think that, of course, Seydoux says, before she dug deeper, but it's more the question of, do I exist? It transcends the gender of a person. Here's the full passage. I'm going to tell you something very intimate. She goes on. The reason why I do the job. She trails off and starts again. I never really wanted to become an actress, but I wanted to exist. The only way I found to exist was to have my image printed on a film and to have the proof of my existence. I mean, Jon Berger talks about this.
Dasha
Yeah, but for actresses especially. Yeah. Like, you don't have. I mean, when I was a struggling actress, even before that, I, like, was out of college, I moved to la. I, like, knew I wanted to do something.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
And I kind of was, like, writing poetry, you know, I was like, maybe I'm a poet. Maybe I'm a conceptual artist, you know? And then I did wanna be an actress. Cause it was like, that seemed like a good vehicle for things that I thought I could accomplish in the world.
Kate
I really wanted to express. It's like when John Berger says, Berger, whatever. Men act, women appear. Camille Pollio has a spin on this line. My favorite one, the most charitable one, is Quentin Crisp when he says, some people have a talent for doing and others a talent for being. And women and gays have more of a talent for being than they do for doing.
Dasha
And. Well, I think a lot of contemporary actors, especially in America, is that they don't even really have a talent for being, like, they have the same. They want to be seen, but they don't actually really have anything to offer or, like, express. They just want kind of like. And that's why, like, people don't want to be actors anymore. They just want to be streamers. Because they want just, like, the direct experience of, like, the attention.
Kate
Yeah, it streamlines the whole problem process. You go from zero to one.
Dasha
But, like, what? A real actor is different from a streamer because of their, like, high sensitivity to being. And they're an increasingly rare supply.
Kate
Well, yeah, I mean, I think acting now, if it gets a bad rap, gets a bad rap because of all of these, like, zoomer actors who, as you say, don't even have a talent for being. They're like totally manufactured beings. They have, like, no personality, no point of view, no taste, no culture.
Dasha
But it's nice they can still do it in. In France for now. She's my favorite actress I've ever worked with. Why? Well, I loved her for so long. I literally had, like, a picture of her, like, ripped out of a magazine on my wall, you know, and she. We had like two scenes together and she asked me to come to her hotel and, like, run lines. And she opened the door and she was wearing these really cute, like, pajamas. And I literally was like, am I like. I was like, am I having, like, a dream?
Kate
Like, this is crazy.
Dasha
But she was like. We spent like a day together and, like, chatted, you know, casually in between takes and stuff. And she was very sincere. She was really, like, I don't want to say down to earth because people love to say that about actresses. And she wasn't really. She had this kind of like, real, like, dignity kind of about her, but
Kate
also like an openness because she's an aristocrat and has nothing to prove.
Dasha
Yeah, exactly. And that was so, like, refreshing. And I asked her, like, what she was going to do when this film wrapped. And I also really liked that. She said. She said, I'm tired, I'm going nothing, you know? Whereas, like, in America, actors are always like, what's my next project? Get my agent on the horn. Like, they call their constant.
Kate
Yeah, I got a new script and she wasn't like, options.
Dasha
Yeah, she was like, I'm tired from working, so I will rest.
Kate
Well, it seems like they also, like, put, like, their vocation in its proper place and are able to, like, strike a healthy work life balance and, like, get married and have children and all this stuff.
Dasha
She also told me because she has a child with another, like, sigh on
Kate
two now, I think. Yeah,
Dasha
but she said 35 is a good age to have a child because the true queen are not too young, but you are not too old. And I was like, love to hear. Yeah, thank you.
Kate
And then she goes on to say, I was like, nobody, no one really cares about me. How heartbreaking. I reply, yeah, but it's true. Seydoux says with Parisian flatness, she doesn't want sympathy, but she needs to be understood in a way. Acting, this is why it's so important and fundamental for me. I have this need to be seen. I think she's just, like, spitballing and making conversation there. And I doubt she's ultimately that invested. It seems like.
Dasha
Yeah, she's probably explaining it in pretty plain terms.
Kate
Yeah, I ran afoul of your fan account, Dasha Perv, who I like by the way. He or she posts yeah. Good content. But they said you wouldn't get it. You're not an actress. Which annoyed me, because it's like, honey, we're all actresses here. It's just some women do it for money, some do it for free, like.
Dasha
And actresses are all prostitutes.
Kate
Yeah. There's no specific conceptual barrier to entry, to being an actress. There are other barriers to entry.
Dasha
I think it takes a certain temperament. Yeah. But I don't think you. And I don't. You lack it. But I also don't think it's a particularly virtuous temperament. It's kind of human. Yeah.
Kate
I don't know. But, like, you can conceptually understand, like,
Dasha
you can understand wanting to be seen.
Kate
Yes. Or why somebody would gravitate toward that line of work or what they're hoping to achieve.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
It is a question of, like, temperament, inhibition and degree. Ultimately, I think every woman at some point, especially women who, again, understand based off of some data or experience that they are attractive, have entertained the idea of becoming an actress at some or other point in their lives.
Dasha
Well, something one of my main acting teacher told not me, like, the class that stuck with me was that because he would teach a course in New York and LA and like, alternate. And I studied with him in la, and LA has a lot of, like, just Australian brain dead, you know, like, really, some of the worst actors.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
And he was like. He'd have like, very classic, like, acting teacher chimp outs, you know, where he would break us down to build us up or whatever. But he said, like, you. You're. You don't even want to be actors. You're just lazy and you're hoping someone will, like, discover you and give you a life, but you don't want to actually, like, pursue it. You lack the talent, you lack the ambition. You can't be an actor. And you just are resting kind of like on this, like, fake ambition. And then you can say, like, oh, it didn't work out because I didn't. I wasn't discovered. Yeah.
Kate
You're, like, coasting off of the enthusiasm and, like, horniness of youth. I mean, that's, like, true. And it's like a good filtering mechanism to, like, chimp out on the.
Dasha
Cause you don't want to figure out what you actually want to do.
Kate
Yeah. Or, like, lack the will or the vision. I mean, I think actresses are probably more artistically inclined than your average woman.
Dasha
Sure.
Kate
I think they have, like, more will in, like, imposing their vision on the world. And crucially, they're much less inhibited.
Dasha
I Don't think.
Kate
Well, like, I would. I would also surmise that the smartest actresses are much more solitary than they are social, even though they have to network.
Dasha
Definitely.
Kate
And do press and stuff like that.
Dasha
But I'll say, I don't think it's about. I think the best actresses don't want to impose their will or vision. They, like, do take on kind of like a sacrificial role of like. Yeah. Helping some, like, you know, in service of someone else's vision. Yeah.
Kate
Or they have.
Dasha
Are able to do that, you know, And Lea Seydoux is one of the. She is. She plays a lot. She has a tremendous range. She's beautiful, obviously, but isn't, like, scared to look ugly.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
She did that sci fi movie Postpartum.
Kate
She's not scared to look fat. Wait, I'm gonna scoop my package.
Dasha
Okay. Yeah, go get it, girl. Thread ups here.
Kate
It's really embarrassing when we do sober daytime episodes because people get courtside seats to my shopping addiction. No, but you're right. I guess I should rephrase that. I guess most actresses don't really have a strong vision of their own. I think you're kind of the exception because you're like a hybrid person who's like a writer and filmmaker.
Dasha
Multi hyphen.
Kate
Yeah. But I guess they see themselves as maybe vessels for somebody else's vision.
Dasha
And she says something to that effect that she, like, has that she's able to inhabit roles because she doesn't have, like, a strong identity.
Kate
Which is a brave thing to say.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
Because everybody wants to, like, cling to some kind of identity. And it is like, just. It is just powerful and inspiring to be like. Actually, I. I don't really.
Dasha
Yeah. And of course she does.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
And. Well, I've said this before, but I think male actresses really, really suffer the most because to them, they're, like, just too egoically fragile. And in my experience with, like, male actors who, like, work a lot, they, like, do kind of lose themselves, but then they develop all of these, like, like angry neuroses. They have all these complexes about being, like, a cuck and, like, you know, they just are. They get much more damaged.
Kate
Well, because they are in such a kind of spiritually female field, even though, I guess acting was a historically male profession to the point that, you know, before women's lib, in many cultures, just men played all the roles, including the female ones.
Dasha
Shakespeare.
Kate
Yeah, yeah. And Japan, whatever. But.
Dasha
But yeah, one of, like, the hazards of the profession that men's don't seem to wear as well is. Yeah. Being able to, like, being receptive and being kind of. Yeah. A feminine and remaining, like, intact psychologically.
Kate
This is also, I guess, downstream of social media that, like, with a lot of actors, especially kind of the older ones, they have very often quite masculine faces, but then they open their mouths or they do some stunt and they sound like stupid, flighty women.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
Like Willem Dafoe or Daniel Day Lewis or whoever. Where you can tell that they're like. Yeah. Kind of insecure blowhards who.
Dasha
Willem Dafoe has always been kind of a fet. He's not even, like, traditionally masculine, I think, but, like.
Kate
But he looks like a Herman Melville character or something.
Dasha
The guy we were on the plane with.
Kate
Oh, Mark Ruffalo.
Dasha
Mark Ruffalo.
Kate
He's got such a great hearing between the seats.
Dasha
Yeah. And it's like flat bill cap, fracking activist.
Kate
Mark Ruffalo, skinny jeans.
Dasha
But, like, incredible. Yeah. Amazing actor, great face, has had so many great roles. But then, yeah, like, every time he says something, it's like, ugh, just.
Kate
Well, then he's like an Adam McKay climate change faggot.
Dasha
Exactly.
Kate
And like, top Democrat.
Dasha
One last thing I'll say about Leo Sea do.
Kate
She got them titties.
Dasha
She's fantastic. She took her shoes off in front of me. I started sweating. No, something that really endeared her to me was I watched her take, like, a phone call with one of her friends, and it was like, very brief but affectionate. But basically the whole. The content of the phone call was she was telling her friend about a moisturizer that she really liked, and it was the SkinCeuticals Triple Lipid Restore cream. And it's great.
Kate
I'm going to explain that.
Dasha
No, it's. It's expensive, but it really. It's like the best moisturizer I've ever used, probably. And she looks. She looks great.
Kate
This part was interesting. There's a soft spokenness that makes the listener lean in, whether conveying seduction or threat. I, like, hate the writing on these.
Dasha
Yeah, it really does hurt.
Kate
Seydoux also approaches her beauty with a quintessentially French casualness. Often she leverages her preternatural calm and plays against her angelic looks to assay authority figures with a certain menace. I mean, the thing is, when you have people talking about themselves on social media, all the mystique goes out of the window because you realize that people aren't really that chill or casual about their image.
Dasha
Well, she doesn't use social media.
Kate
Yeah. I know, but when she gives the interview, she talks too Good.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
And she's like. I'm sure. She's also just gotten cooler and chiller with age and with kids.
Dasha
She's probably always been like, but, you know, looking like that.
Kate
Sure. But I guess she did all those sexy American Apparel ads.
Dasha
Yeah. She's always been pretty comfortable in her body.
Kate
Yeah. But it's. But you realize that, I mean, I don't know about her particular situation, but you realize that it's. A lot of it is a ruse. Because the trick with women, the name of the game, is, like, making yourself look as maximally effortless as possible when actually you put a great deal of effort into your beauty and image and self maintenance for some.
Dasha
Some women look high maintenance. Some women cultivate more of a batty aesthetic, but in France, it's not fashionable.
Kate
But she then goes on to say that when she was 18, she suffered from strong panic attacks and still gets them even now. And she says, when I have a panic attack, it's the vertigo of being yourself. I remember having a panic attack. I watched myself in the mirror and I was like, this is me. I am my. What I see in the mirror is actually me.
Dasha
Must be. Must be nice.
Kate
Like, oh, these are my gigantic milky titties.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
But like, the panic. Who has panic attacks?
Dasha
People have panic attacks.
Kate
That's crazy. I can't imagine having a panic attack.
Dasha
Really? Yeah. You've never had a panic.
Kate
I've never had a panic attack.
Dasha
That's crazy.
Kate
Like what? I guess to. I, you know, Tony Soprano had panic attacks. That was a big plot point in the Sopranos.
Dasha
But, like, usually panic, I mean, it manifests in different ways. Typically there's some kind of, like, cough. Cognitive dissonance. I would say. People of, like, extreme privilege. Yeah. Are more prone, ironically to it. Like.
Kate
Yeah. It feels like something that neurotic and sheltered people have. I'm not trying to be a hater here, but, like, I doubt any working class person has had a panic attack ever.
Dasha
No, of course they have. But sure, it's just a panic attack is just the. You know, your nervous is like, highly sensitive People sure have, like, dysregulated nervous Systems. That's why ChatGPT said I can't be a lawyer.
Kate
Yeah. To me, it always felt like, you know, I guess losing control of your bearings and your emotions in a way that makes you psych yourself out and feel like you're having a heart attack. That's what I've mainly read about, panic attacks. That it feels like having a heart attack.
Dasha
Yeah. It's a physiological response with sometimes, like, dissociative.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
Elements.
Kate
Yeah. I have you had a panic attack?
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
Like, many or not?
Dasha
Like, you know, I don't. I wouldn't say I, like, suffer from panic attacks, but I definitely have. Yeah. Yeah.
Kate
I don't. That. I really. I don't know.
Dasha
But the.
Kate
The other thing is that, like, you know, it doesn't really change my opinion or impression of her, but, like, probably you shouldn't reveal that in the media.
Dasha
I mean, it's not fair when you have to do these interviews. You know, you're just taught. It's happened to me.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
You meet up with some journalists, you're just talking, and then they. The way that, like, the information is conveyed is kind of out of your control.
Kate
Sound off about how the Jews are controlling your life.
Dasha
You know, Next thing you know,
Kate
they're like, focus.
Dasha
You know, I'm sure she said a lot of things.
Kate
She does seem, like, relatively humble and private.
Dasha
Yeah. No, she asked me what I like to do for fun, and I was like, don't.
Kate
Don't say. Don't say. Don't say shit posting.
Dasha
Don't say shit posting. Don't say shit posting. And she told me she liked to do, like, home improvement projects. She was. Yeah, she, like. I don't think she's, like, meant she would, like, mention her panic attacks in an interview to like, make herself seem relatable or to, like, endear someone to her. Like, she does seem very. Maybe I'm just in love with her.
Kate
Well, she does seem, like, less calculated. Yeah, that's what I heard. Though maybe that's also really good branding. I don't know.
Dasha
I don't think there's anything like. She has so much money. She doesn't need the money. She doesn't need the career. She just needs to be seen. And we're lucky to see her.
Kate
Yeah, she's got something. And, yeah, she talks about. Though even though she's been in dozens of films, from Franchise Fair to Auteurist Cinema, she still feels a sense of dissociation about her own image. Obviously. Again, all of her comments are primed to dovetail to the theme of the movie that she is promoting. So you have to take everything with a grain of salt.
Dasha
She's not like, punta. She's not right. Writing a memoir. She's not, like, pontificating randomly. She's talking about a film that deals with identity.
Kate
Yeah. And, like, dissociation. She says, when I watch a Movie with me. Sometimes I'm like, is it really me? Do I really look like this person?
Dasha
You do, babe. I.
Kate
You sure do. But that is like scary and relatable because, you know. Yeah. Sometimes you'll just see like a clip or a pic of yourself somewhere and it doesn't need to be an unflattering one. It could be an extremely flattering one. And you're just like, pulled out of yourself and you're like, ugh. No, because it's like horrifying and you have to like, in that moment, in those milliseconds, like confront all of your folly, your vanity, your stupidity, your lack of humility.
Dasha
Yeah. It's unnerving.
Kate
This was also smart. I actually liked the interview. Of course they picked the quote that was the most controversial that they.
Dasha
Is it even I don't see the controversy. It's just the truth. Well, it's controversial about the truth. Yeah.
Kate
I think it just. Well, yes, you're right.
Dasha
But it gets that actress want to be seen.
Kate
But not just actresses, women in general. It's like a real woman moment.
Dasha
Sure.
Kate
Actresses, like prostitutes, are, I think, slightly more honest than most women in that they admit this about themselves and pursue it wholeheartedly.
Dasha
Well, the thing that is, like refreshing and non controversial is that a lot of people, a lot of actors, actresses don't admit that they, like, try to pretend like they have some like, altruistic reason for their pursuits. When they do, they just want to exist and be seen like anyone else.
Kate
I'm just trying to raise awareness about the migrant crisis and climate change when I show my tits on camera. And this was also smart, where she talks about how science fiction allows you to be even closer to human emotions because it's so unrealistic that if you decide to believe in what you see, you can really immerse yourself in the human emotions. And she's obviously talking about like making strange the Monday. And you can get a sense obviously that she's like a cut above most current younger actresses because she's just smarter,
Dasha
wiser, Frencher, more richer, more well educated, just stellar.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
I'm sure she's got her, you know, problems.
Kate
Sure. Like every, like everybody. But she, I guess, also the. The most interesting and relatable part of it was when she talks about how she's a really shy person and that's actually why she got into acting.
Dasha
I think that's probably also true of better actors. Like you were saying, like, obviously there's like a tension. You need to have some semblance of exhibitionism, obviously. But you also, the best actors, probably have the restraint of shyness to motivate them. Yeah.
Kate
And I think that charitably, part of the reason they get into acting is because they want to master their shyness. And slightly less charitably, though, these things are related. Shyness is sort of arrogance, maybe the worst kind of arrogance, because you're like, well, I know something about myself, and I want the rest of the world to perceive it, but on my own terms.
Dasha
How is that shy?
Kate
Well, because you. You live with this secret perception of yourself, and your challenge in life is to make it apparent to everybody else.
Dasha
Is it?
Kate
Yeah. Like, often through maybe opaque or indirect means.
Dasha
Yeah, I know what you mean. It's like withholding and
Kate
generous.
Dasha
Yeah. It's like. It's. Yeah, it's paradoxical.
Kate
But I believe that she's probably very shy. Yeah. She seems like it. I mean, shyness is not painfully shy. Sure. Yeah. And I think, like, you just get less shy with age.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
But you always remember your former shy self and sort of, like, cringe at it.
Dasha
Morrissey's shy.
Kate
Yeah. But he's also like.
Dasha
He rips his shirt off.
Kate
The most arrogant prick ever.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
Yeah. I mean, I think shyness is, like, narcissistic in a way. I say this as an extremely shy person myself, because
Dasha
you.
Kate
I guess in some ways, I mean, everybody feels this way secretly. You feel, like, better than other people. And I think, actually, the real challenge of overcoming your shyness is realizing that actually you're not any better than other. Anybody else.
Dasha
Yeah. And that other people also have the same. Yeah, yeah.
Kate
Pain and struggle.
Dasha
Unless you're Morrissey or le, as they do, in which case you are literally in every measurable metric, you're kind of better. Yeah. Yeah. I probably wouldn't want to waste my time with some.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
Well, Morrissey also. He's not a real aristocrat, but he has, like. Like an aristocratic spirit. And shyness. She's also kind of esl.
Kate
Yeah. Shyness is criminally vulgar, and it'll stop
Dasha
you from doing the things in life that you would like.
Kate
Yeah, yeah.
Dasha
I forgot. I forgot what I was gonna say. I. Oh, that she's a little esl.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
Like, obviously speaks English, but, like, when she says shy, there's probably, like, a French word that describes something.
Kate
It is lost in translation.
Dasha
I cannot explain to you is a certain je ne sais quoi, my melancholy.
Kate
But basically, overcoming your shyness just means acquiring humility,
Dasha
I'd say. Yeah. Or like, acquiring. Yeah, acquiring Confidence also. Yeah. Requires humility because, like, who the fuck
Kate
are you at the end of the day?
Dasha
Exactly.
Kate
Again.
Dasha
Unless you're more as serious. Take some space. Take whatever you need. Celebrities are just like us.
Kate
Well, on that note, should we talk about Alex Cooper?
Dasha
Oh, yeah, another actress. Call her pregnant. Good podcast title.
Kate
I mean, I feel like maybe people are mad.
Dasha
I don't have much to say. I don't see anyone mad at her because I have a real. My algorithm is all fucked up. Oh.
Kate
I only saw people being really mad at her or defending her for the wrong reasons. People are mad at her because she's married and pregnant. But she promotes the single life and hookup culture and a lifestyle of promiscuity to impressionable young women on her podcast, but does the exact opposite in her everyday life. Does she?
Dasha
I thought she was just like, talking to Kamala Harris or whatever.
Kate
Like, who cares? She should be robbed of her wealth and beauty and happiness. Her head should be shaved. She should be paraded in the public square and get thrown in whore jail. I don't. Yeah, I don't personally, like, engage with. With. Call her daddy content outside of seeing like the occasional, like, Cardi B or Kim K or Kate Hudson clip.
Dasha
It's an interview show. It was two girls. Blonde, brunette. Yeah. Didn't have the staying power, the strong bond that we have.
Kate
It's kind of inspired by Red Scare, you might say.
Dasha
But now she's solo, so it seems like it's mostly like an interview show. Yeah.
Kate
Where she interviews other successful high powered girl bosses. And. And the recurring theme is how, like, women like bad boys more than nice guys. Which also, like, isn't true.
Dasha
Yeah, it's like, whatever. Just it's.
Kate
Women don't like weak simps. They can smell it. They can see right through it. They actually like when a confident and powerful man is nice to them personally. Yeah.
Dasha
And inasmuch as she. Again, not a listener, but I think inasmuch as she promotes promiscuity, it's to the extent that, like, promiscuity is just like a female interest.
Kate
She's pandered.
Dasha
That's her audience. People aren't like, stumbling onto Call her daddy and like, deciding to have casual sex. They're, like, listening to, like, affirm their worldview about.
Kate
She's not listening to things they already believe.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
Shifting the Overton window to greater.
Dasha
To what?
Kate
Yeah, degradation and depravity.
Dasha
And she got married a couple years ago, which she, I'm sure discussed on her show. Like, I don't think it's like. Like, why wouldn't she be pregnant? What are we talking? What are we talking about?
Kate
And she seems like smart and savvy and self made, which I can respect.
Dasha
She betrayed the other one. Or I forget what happened.
Kate
I mean, I think they probably betrayed each other. We talked about it. I guess I don't love what she stands for, but I can't really object to it either. It's kind of par for the course. I don't think she's promoting anything so much as reflecting it back at people.
Dasha
It's very like mid market. It's not. It's like, it's not. She doesn't seem like an extremist or like it's not like a kink podcast or a polyamory podcast. Like, she definitely doesn't have an agenda. She kind of just does. Whatever.
Kate
Yeah, she's like a cultural centrist, I guess. And like, I don't know who needs to hear this, but obviously, like, having a slutty face in your 20s does not and should not preclude you from like getting married and having a baby. There's no law that says if you were a slut in your 20s, you can't settle down in your 30s or 40s or whatever.
Dasha
And how slutty could she even have been? Yeah, I don't know. In the grand scheme. You know, in the grand scheme of things. Yeah.
Kate
And obviously like, men like girls who are slutty and chill and fun. They like party girls and it girls.
Dasha
Riley Reid has a baby.
Kate
I know, you know, like of.
Dasha
Come on.
Kate
Why should Alice Cooper frigid or rigid women, though, that now there is this new trend that I'm naming called like the frigid, which is like, you know, the girl who acts ostensibly and slutty but has a bunch of rules around it, is kind of not sensual or sexy. Is doing it almost like mechanically.
Dasha
Say more.
Kate
Goes on to complain about it when she's sexualized by other people on the Internet. Even though you yourself were the one who invited all of this brother, you were the one who made the effort. Yeah, like that's kind of a through fair. There's a good line in one of Welbeck's books. I want to say Possibility of an island, but I'm not 100% sure. Maybe like whatever Atomized or whatever, where he talks about how the classic mistake that women make is in assuming that men want you to be bashful and demure around matters of sex, which is not true at all. Men actually really, like when women Are blunt about sex looks just not vulgar.
Dasha
What's the difference?
Kate
Well, they like it when women are sensual and sexually open.
Dasha
Right.
Kate
And like horny. They. But they don't. They don't want you to say some like, dirt bag left vulgar about like, I want to come on your or something like that. I guess what's a little off putting to me personally that you see a little bit on Call Her Daddy is this very millennial coded thing that women do where they gloat about their sexual exploits like men.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
That's unappealing and unattractive. There was the clip going around of Charlize Theron being like, I just had sex with a 26 year old guy and it was fucking awesome. Everybody should try this. And that made me kind of sad and depressed because Charlize Theron is like, doesn't need to be a beautiful woman. She looks. Not only does she look good for her age, she looks good for any age. She's like out there mogging girls half her age, much like Megan Kelly, who she played in Bombshell. And like, why does she need to go on Call her daddy or like the Metro Card interview show and gloat about how she gets the ick from guys saying they want to make love to her or brag about how she's fucking zoomers?
Dasha
I agree. That is unbecoming. And it feels like recession indicator. Yeah. Like, what is she promoting? What's going on? Has she fallen on hard times?
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
Did you have brain damage? Like, why?
Kate
Yeah, like, why do you need to do. You don't need to do this. Be more like Leia say dude, girl.
Dasha
And I get. Well, Call Her Daddy is a part of like the barstool universe, so it makes sense that that's kind of their brand. And they're like in a boys club. So they're like matching the locker room talk. The tone has been set kind of by virtue of the podcast network they're a part of.
Kate
By the patriarchy.
Dasha
The podcasting patriarchy, the Dave Portnoy patriarchy,
Kate
the Portnoy podcasting patriarchy.
Dasha
So in their case, I guess. I guess they're kind like how they're just kind of like playing ball.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
And like, well, female comedians do it a lot too.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
It's also kind of like a boys club. And they want, you know.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
They're like, you think you can do blue humor? Yeah.
Kate
I feel like female comedians are like the only women who actually do use the term canons to refer to their tits on stage.
Dasha
Yeah. And it's Rarely done well. And yeah, it's very vulgar. I mean, not for me.
Kate
One of my early misogynist red pills to share an embarrassing anecdote about me. When I was like in my early 20s, I. I used to make the pilgrimage to that improv theater by fit. I forget what it's called now.
Dasha
Upright Citizens Brigade. Yeah.
Kate
And it was like Chris Gethard and the one tall guy with sad blue eyes from that Silicon Valley show. And a lot of people who like later went on to have pretty successful comedy careers.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
And they would improv and originally it was all male, but I started noticing that when they brought a woman on stage, she would immediately take the air out of the room and just like fumble the momentum and the dynamic because she would just, just in make everything sexual, start humping somebody's leg and everybody was like kind of forced to like clench their sphincter and laugh.
Dasha
Comedy critic.
Kate
But like without fail, anytime a woman took the stage, this happened.
Dasha
It's cheap and it's easy. Yeah. And yeah, there's. I'm trying to think of like who even like a great female stand up is.
Kate
I mean even Lisa Lampanelli, who was like pretty funny in her heyday. Like all her jokes were about getting railed out by black, which was pretty, pretty funny.
Dasha
Not bad. I mean like Maria Bamford I like. But she kind of was doing like the whole like anti sex autism thing, which works. But yeah, I'm not really a fan of like Whitney cumming.
Kate
Yeah. Or well, she kind of has cumming in her name, so what can you expect?
Dasha
Sarah Silverman. Yeah, she's funny and like diverse. You know, she actually doesn't like sex. She's like kind of tom boyish but not butch, but pretty enough and doesn't do too much. Like when she does do sex stuff, it's not like hyper personal. It's not just like a body anecdote. Yeah. About like some.
Kate
What some body did to you.
Dasha
I mean body like B A W Y.
Kate
It's always like this. Yeah. And then he was fucking me and I realized I forgot to pull out my tampon.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
Like that kind of level of humorous
Dasha
but like you not highbrow. Like the humor here at Redskin Podcast.
Kate
But like that's been codified into like a millennial feminist trend. But like charitably you can forgive it because I think like women of our generation are probably so disappointed in love through circumstances not only of our own doing, but which have nothing to do with us. Just like general demographic trend lines. And everybody obviously has to save face about the fact that, like, sex and romance are fraught with the possibility of, like, rejection and disappointment.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
And you have to project this attitude of invulnerability. And, of course, women are at their best when they're sensitive and vulnerable.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
Versus, like, brassy, bitchy girl bosses.
Dasha
And I'll say also charitably with comedy, it's like, it's already such a, like, loser ghetto that, like, you were just. You're just punching down. Yeah. Like, they're already debasing themselves so much. Why not? You know?
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
What can. It's already irredeemable to get up there and do a tight 10. Yeah.
Kate
Whenever people are like, anna, you should do stand up. I'm like, well, A, I'm not that funny. B, you know, I don't want, like, another referendum on how I'm fugly. And this is the ultimate one.
Dasha
It's. Yeah. It's tough.
Kate
If you get up there on stage, you're fugly with your stool. Yeah. The other thing that, like, nobody talks about is, like, how that it. That it is hard in a specific way for, like, really successful, powerful girl bosses. Because the dating pool shrinks.
Dasha
Right. Because men are down so bad.
Kate
And then they also run the risk of getting preyed upon by, like, gigolos and users and people who are in it for the wrong reasons.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
Of course, like, people are still practicing, like, assortative mating and that they want somebody who matches them more or less is on their level. But that does, as I understand it, become harder and harder to achieve the richer and more visible you are as a woman. Because I think having a career maybe is not a deal breaker, but it's not a value add.
Dasha
Yeah. It's a tougher sell. Yeah.
Kate
And so then you. Yeah, again, like, run the risk of attracting the wrong guys.
Dasha
And if you're artistic, then you're probably temperamental. If you're, like, driven in any way. You'll also have, you know, character traits. Yeah. That make you possibly difficult.
Kate
Yeah. More of a control freak or something like that.
Dasha
Either. Or a bastard freak. Yeah. Either a control freak or, like, totally out of control. Like, you'll kind of oscillate between. It's hard to be, like, a balanced person for anyone.
Kate
Yeah. And that.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
That makes things more difficult. You're not. I mean, not. Not that, you know, normies don't have their own problems, but you're just, like, not a normie. You're not an npc. It's, like, harder to settle down. I saw A study on X that said that men who win the lottery tend to get married and have children immediately, whereas women who win the lotter tend not to get married or have children. Which is supposed to show, again, that empowering men economically raises tfr, while empowering women economically accomplishes the opposite. I think that conclusion is probably true, but it doesn't necessarily follow from a study like that, which is, like, way too narrow and specific to be anything but anecdotal. Like, how many people are lottery winners?
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
But there is, like, this legitimate effect of, like, rich widows and spinsters being preyed upon by gigolos, by pedophiles,
Dasha
by
Kate
all sorts of questionable men. This was a plot. I'm, like, firing on all cylinders today because I'm not drinking and I'm reading and watching movies, but that's. I was rereading Alberto Moravia's Time of Indifference recently, which is one of my favorite books that he wrote when he was like, 21 or 23. And that's like a major plot arc. It's about this, like, rich, middle aged woman who's consumed by jealousy because. Because her lover wants her teen daughter, but she wants the lover because she wants to, like, clout mog everybody in her bourgeois society.
Dasha
That sounds pretty good.
Kate
It's amazing. And then her son is like an angry young man.
Dasha
Charged.
Kate
Who gets progressively angrier.
Dasha
Yeah, I bet.
Kate
Because mom's a whore.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
And a bitch.
Dasha
But.
Kate
Yeah. No wonder, like, female lottery winners are, like, reluctant to couple because they're, like, in a riskier. I'm being such a feminist.
Dasha
I mean. Yeah. Like, what are you gonna. It just make. It makes more sense for a man to, like, get a wife.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
That he can support with his lottery
Kate
winnings and then produce offspring on his lottery winnings. Yeah.
Dasha
Then like, a woman, like, you know, a woman still wants, like, to be taken care of. She's just not in a position. Yeah. Even with the. Should we start playing the lottery?
Kate
We should. Yeah. We should just. We need to stop all of our, like, fake bullshit dreams of, like, going to law school and reading more books.
Dasha
No, I'm starting.
Kate
We should just go back to our roots of being, like, Russian Euro trash and do lottery tickets.
Dasha
You never know. It could be. I'm feeling lucky.
Kate
You know, this was foretold because I ran into Paul Kupo at that art opening and he'd be buying lottery tickets for people's birthdays.
Dasha
Cute.
Kate
That's a good gift. Yeah, it is.
Dasha
It's great. Should we talk about the UFO disclosure?
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
Not Much to report, really. Trump posted a AI generated picture of him with a shackled buff gray alien wood.
Kate
He's mogging club. He's mogging clav claviculet.
Dasha
And they the Department of War. I keep forgetting they renamed it that disclosed 162 files on sightings of UFOs going back 80 years, a lot of which were already disclosed. Trump declared on Truth Social. Whereas previous administrations have failed to be transparent on the subject. With these documents and videos that people can decide for themselves what the hell is going on, have fun and enjoy. And that's really giving bread and circuses.
Kate
His heart's really in it this time. Yeah, I guess they've moved on from catfishing and breadcrumbing people with the Epstein files to catfishing and breadcrumbing people with the UFO disclosures.
Dasha
Like government mistrust is at an all time high.
Kate
I know.
Dasha
Ain't no one. I mean, if you are really taking any of these disclosures seriously, you're stupid.
Kate
Yes.
Dasha
Why would they tell you the truth? Why would they tell you anything?
Kate
Well, it's like what you said. I believe that extraterrestrials exist, but if the government knows anything, they're sure as hell not telling us. Imagine if aliens came to Earth. I like to do this thought experiment a lot because it's funny. And they're little green men or gelatinous blob that. That consumes everything.
Dasha
And they said, take me to your dealer.
Kate
Yeah, it's like bath.
Dasha
And they like to smoke weed.
Kate
Yeah, they like to blow trees. And they see like human people. They see Leia Seydou and they're like, no, she's ugly. Her tits are too big. Because like they're little green men. So their pinnacle of beauty is like Michelle Welbeck. Or they're like a massive blob and their pinnacle of beauty is like fat people of Walmart.
Dasha
Well, if they're like from an advanced civilization, they probably are like kind of post sex.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
I feel like they've transcended these like lowly human kind of. Well, J.D. vance said back in March, I don't think they're aliens. I think they're demons. Anyway, but that's a long discussion. Yeah, I mean every, every, every great world religion, including Christianity, the one I believe in, we know, has understood there are weird. That book has understood there are weird things out there. When I hear about an extranatural phenomenon, that's where I go. The Christian understanding that there's a lot of good out there, but there's also evil out there, Which is like. Yeah, there is a lot of, like, Christian scholarship about Seraphim Rose, who might be canonized soon, wrote a whole book about, well, a whole lengthy chapter in his book, Orthodoxy in the Future, where he kind of makes the case that it's like, it's not exactly that aliens are demons, but it's that there have always been kind of like paranormal phenomenon. And it was only in, like, the post war era, post atomic era, really, where UFO sightings and all of the, like, discourse around aliens became. Kate said it very well, actually, in our chat. She said that ufology is like low American folk culture, and in, like, a secular world, it becomes like a folk religion that has its own, like, very similar systems. It's like anti Semitism. Well, it's really. Yeah, it's about, like, who. Who controls the world. Yeah. Because we don't know.
Kate
The truth is looking at the wrong aliens.
Dasha
There's a real reality and we don't know what it is, but it could be revealed to us. It, like, mirrors kind of Christian revelation in a similar way. And in the Rose book, he quotes this French guy, Jacques Valli, who did a lot of. Wrote a few books. He says the idea of extraterrestrial intelligent life has, in a few years become astonishingly fashionable among scientists as well as fortune tellers, as a result of a great thirst for contact with superior minds that will provide guidance for our poor, harassed and hectic planet.
Kate
So he was like, if I do not study UFOs, how do I know whether I even exist? That's true, but I bet the reality is also more mundane, and there is a legitimate field of study around extraterrestrial life. This should be explored further. It's interesting. I mean, I suspect that there almost certainly exists extraterrestrial life, but there has to be. Who knows?
Dasha
Who are we to say?
Kate
Yeah, and it could be something as, like, uncanny and exciting as, like, like almost a parallel humanoid universe many galaxies away. Or it could be like, unicellular amoeba, creatures that have managed to survive on some desert planet. I was reading those articles you sent me and noticed that a lot of the UFO activity was reported in places like Central Asia and the Middle east and like the Aegean Sea. That is places where there are, like, military installations and, like, client states of, like, the United States and Russia and Israel are testing out military technologies.
Dasha
Yeah. Which is why it's also notable that it's came out of, like, the Second World War, where our, like, military capability evolved exponentially. Since then, you know.
Kate
Yeah, it's exactly. It's like. Well, it's like the thing they say about autism. It's like, is it that autism cases have increased or that the diagnostic criteria for identifying autism have expanded and become better? It's like. Well, yeah, the technology around perceiving paranormal activity or whatever is just vastly better. It's not merely what you can see with your own eyes. Like, maybe there are, like, certain things that you can record or measure.
Dasha
But if, honestly, if there was, like, something really compelling to disclose, the tech should be there to have. Be more conclusive. But it is just also, like, some blurry thing. There's three dots. There's some, like, you know, it's all. I just. I have, like, no appetite for it.
Kate
Me neither. Yeah. I was, like, struggling to drum up enthusiasm for this topic, though. We're actually doing an amazing job.
Dasha
I like to. You know, I looked at some source materials and stuff.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
They're just not. It's just none of my business. Like, space in general. Not that interesting to me. And then extraterrestrials. I wouldn't trust anyone to tell me anything. True.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
And. And, yeah. The Christian perspective is. Yeah. Is that there have always been phenomenon that, you know, people have encountered. Often it was demonic. Yeah.
Kate
And I guess the scary thing is that extraterrestrials and Christianity are not mutually exclusive, but they do come into conflict with each other. Because if you could reasonably conclude that extraterrestrial life exists, that flies in the face of any worldly understanding of faith,
Dasha
not necessarily for God. You can just say, like, it wasn't God's, you know, whatever. There's no aliens in the Bible, because that wasn't. We weren't supposed to know until now or whatever. But the world is not just Earth, and ostensibly, there is still, like, the sovereignty of the kingdom of heaven.
Kate
Yeah. That, like, transcends the entire knowable and unknowable cosmos or whatever. Sure.
Dasha
Yeah. Like, for me, it wouldn't even if I, like, had some conclusive evidence or even, like, my own experience.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
I don't think it would shake me.
Kate
Like, it would shake your faith. I see.
Dasha
Yeah.
Kate
Wow. This conversation is giving Leia Seydoux for how existential it is. Yeah, I guess it is. Like.
Dasha
But I would. Yeah. I would be wary, as Seraphim Rose says in his book of, like, spiritual deception, that there will come a time where we'll be told. He has, like. He's a very, like, apocalyptic writer. Yeah. That there will be a time where we will be told things about Reality, not by extraterrestrials themselves, but systems of information will be created that undermine people's faith. And that's kind of his UFO take, from what I can gather. Yeah.
Kate
I guess shake the foundations of your faith.
Dasha
Like, you don't need to be looking out there for answers. You need to be looking. You must be looking within, in your soul and contemplating. You need to be silence. Silent in the presence of God and stuff.
Kate
Yeah. But I guess you can see how this would devolve into like a low IQ conspirator discourse of people being like, this is just a distraction from other things, which are distractions from this other bigger thing. That's like the theory of everything that we don't know about.
Dasha
Well, it is just, I mean, you know, like, war.gov UFO is like. Like, I went on the site and it's like you can. Yeah, you can like, click through all the files and I was like, this very clearly is like a distraction.
Kate
Yeah.
Dasha
And Trump's literally saying, like, have fun. Like, fig, what the hell's going on?
Kate
Roll up your sleeves, get in the. We dig up those files. Like, woo.
Dasha
But.
Kate
Well, there was that part where they were talking about, wait, I'll pull it up. Where I totally miss this. About how Trump has previously released records related to the assassinations of President John F. Kennedy, Senator Rober of Kennedy, and Martin Luther King Jr. That revealed little beyond what was already known.
Dasha
Yeah. They released these files and everything that was already released is in there. And the parts that are redacted are still redacted.
Kate
Yeah. And it's like, most likely the powers that be know something that we don't and are not declassifying certain elements of
Dasha
these cases, but they give the appearance of disclosure to make people feel like it's like a. It is a psyop.
Kate
Like. Yeah. But another, like, more mundane but not implausible option is that they also just don't know. It's like when people quibble over who killed Biggie and Tupac.
Dasha
Someone's gotta know. God knows.
Kate
Yeah. And is it. But I think that important that we know.
Dasha
I think that's more likely is even if they know, they don't, like, really care. And it is just kind of like, I don't know, catnip fodder for, like, ostensible, like, administrative accomplishment without actually having to do anything or, you know.
Kate
Yeah, I guess, like, not to be a doomer, but I saw some Fox News clip of Donald Trump endorsing Spencer Pratt where.
Dasha
Okay, now it's working. Yeah.
Kate
So, yeah.
Dasha
You saw a video.
Kate
I saw a Fox News clip of Donald Trump endorsing Spencer Prout that. I don't know if it's real or not, but I think it's real. Not to be a doomer, but he did seem a little bit slower and more tired than he usually is. Could be a, you know, a random thing, like he was having a bad day.
Dasha
But, I mean, he's old. Yeah. He's giving an unhinged by it, you know, what can you do? Yeah, I didn't see the clip. I guess that's like. That's. That might, like, hurt Pratt in la, though. I don't know.
Kate
The Trump endorsement. There's a lot of MAGA people in la, and he's kind of like a rogue.
Dasha
Yeah. But I thought it was nice that he was, like, a Republican who wasn't so divisive. I thought that was, like, aiding him in his campaign. But that's why I'm not getting into politics, because.
Kate
I guess Intelligencer did point out that this is reminiscent of, like, supermarket aisle tabloids that were like, Hillary Clinton adopts an alien baby Martian ambassador or whatever. Yeah, yeah. It's fun.
Dasha
Throwback.
Kate
Mm.
Dasha
Kind of a glittering image of sorts.
Kate
So little has changed. Yeah. Yeah.
Dasha
Anyway.
Kate
Yeah. I wonder what Martin thinks about those UFOs.
Dasha
Like a land on his forehead. Yeah. He's.
Kate
His five head is like, beaming in dispatches
Dasha
from extraterrestrial light.
Kate
This is a great landing strip for us fellas.
Dasha
I mean, the truth is out there. Yeah, but it's not on boar.gov UFO.
Kate
No.
Dasha
Though kind of a good. Good graphic design. Whatever. Zoomers in that department's doing a good job. Yeah. But anyway.
Kate
Yep.
Dasha
We'll see you in L. Sam.
Podcast: Red Scare
Episode: Call Her Pregnant
Date: May 22, 2026
Hosts: Dasha Nekrasova, Kate
This episode flows with Red Scare’s signature blend of self-aware cultural commentary, satire, and loosely structured but incisive banter. Dasha and Kate touch on everything from personal aspirations (like law school and adult education) and cancelled celebrity narratives, to fashion, critiques of showbiz narcissism, the “Call Her Daddy” podcast phenomenon, and ponderings on government UFO disclosures. The duo’s shifting dialogue weaves together observations about aging, femininity, ambition, social perception, and the strange, ongoing drama of public figures.
[00:24–07:45]
Dasha and Kate open with radiant complaints about the heat and how summer humidity beats a long winter.
Dasha shares travel tales from Miami and floats the idea of going to law school:
“Do you think it’s too late for me to go to law school?” — Dasha [01:32]
They riff on being “cancelled” and discuss if Dasha’s notoriety would hinder her in a legal career.
Kate is supportive but skeptical about the realities of legal work and institutions.
Notable Quotes:
[06:44–12:07]
Dasha mentions using the Brick app to curb distractions and reclaim focus. She muses about needing “structure and purpose.”
Both hosts joke about starting a law firm, pivoting to musings on pursuing additional degrees in their thirties.
They reflect on the relativity of age, career options, and the increasingly blurry boundaries of "youth."
Notable Quotes:
[08:23–10:31]
Discussion moves to recent Russian redefinitions of "youth" (under 39), global age demographics, and cultural limitations for career pivots.
They muse on the deadline for athletic, modeling, or acting success, emphasizing that legal and political careers can begin later but have their own tradeoffs.
[12:07–13:41]
Kate and Dasha dissect the art critic archetype and its connection to being thwarted artists.
They contemplate the value of criticism as a legitimate art form.
Brief shoutouts to critics like Peter Schjeldahl, Dave Hickey, and turns in film criticism careers.
[13:52–16:47]
Mourning Mango’s founder’s mysterious death and the store’s legacy.
Ecstatic descriptions of shopping on Thredup ("ghetto mass market version" of RealReal), Depop, and appeals of cycling through Y2K mall brands.
The emotional rollercoaster of fast fashion, online shopping, and self-image.
Notable Quotes:
[17:10–19:17]
Kate reacts to Mindy Kaling’s comments on her weight loss.
Discussion on colorism and beauty standards, specifically among Indian and Black women, and how these are shaped by Western ideals.
Notable Quotes:
[25:15–56:05]
Dasha watched Lost in Translation (2003), rejecting the idea it’s about sexual temptation, focusing instead on its loneliness, humor, and universal yearning.
They examine actress Lea Seydoux’s interviews at Cannes, especially her statement about only feeling real when seen or documented.
Deep dive on why women, especially actresses, crave recognition, citing John Berger, Camille Paglia, and personal anecdotes.
Dasha recounts working with Seydoux and being charmed by her sincerity, “aristocratic” confidence, and honesty about needing to be seen.
They debate the traits of great actors, the difference between “streamers” and actors, women’s desire to be seen, and the rare ability to “just be.”
Notable Quotes:
[56:14–60:05]
Explores paradoxical nature of shyness and arrogance, especially in creative women.
Dasha and Kate reflect on shyness as both a handicap and a hidden form of self-importance.
The tragedy and humility of seeing oneself from the outside; the role of “being perceived” in contemporary femininity.
[60:22–73:53]
They parse the culture war around Alex Cooper (“Call Her Daddy” host) becoming pregnant and the backlash over her past as a “sex positive” influencer.
Dissection of accusations of hypocrisy thrown at Cooper for promoting promiscuity yet settling down.
Explore millennial sex talk, gendered double standards in sexual expression, and why interviews with women like Charlize Theron feel performative or desperate.
Tension between “slut phases,” societal judgment, and the market for sexual storytelling.
Riff on the awkwardness of women using “locker room” humor, especially in male-dominated formats like Barstool/Call Her Daddy.
Notable Quotes:
[69:14–73:53]
Kate shares observations from improv comedy, noting how female comics often default to sexual jokes, which can cheapen the performance.
How success among women can shrink the dating pool, attract wrong motives, and create a double bind.
The perils of being a “non-normie” woman and statistics on lottery winners.
[76:27–88:13]
Discussion shifts to the recent government “disclosures” of UFO files.
Dasha and Kate remain deeply skeptical, framing the phenomenon as a blend of “bread and circuses” distraction and American folk religion.
References to Christian apocalyptic thought, the demonic interpretations of UFOs, and the boredom of most actual “disclosures.”
Musings on the parallels between UFOs, anti-Semitic conspiracy theories, and our collective need to believe in hidden controllers.
Notable Quotes:
This episode exemplifies Red Scare’s ability to tie together disparate threads of contemporary culture—cancel culture, influencer hypocrisy, female self-presentation, and even government psyops—into a conversation that’s as funny as it is thought-provoking. Dasha and Kate remain (reluctantly) optimistic, eminently relatable, and irresistibly sharp, creating not just a time capsule of a cultural moment, but an ongoing dissection of modern life’s absurdities.