Is it dangerous to treat emotional intelligence as a universal standard?”

We talk about emotional intelligence like it’s neutral, universal, and the same for everyone. But what happens when culture, race, migration, language, and survival literally shape how we express feelings, set boundaries, and show respect?

In this powerful conversation, Dr. Payal Beri sits down with Farah Harris, a Haitian American psychotherapist, emotional intelligence expert, and founder of Working Well Daily, to explore why EQ can never be “one-size-fits-all” for people of color.

They dive into:

Growing up Haitian in the U.S. and feeling “too American” back home, but “too foreign” in America
First-born / “junior parent” pressure in immigrant families
Language, accents, and mother-tongue shame
Why we don’t “season our chicken” the same — and what that has to do with EQ
How cultural values shape grieving, anger, “respect,” and emotional expression
Why Black and Brown kids are taught to mute their feelings for survival in white-dominant systems

If you’ve ever felt like you don’t quite belong anywhere — not in your parents’ homeland, not fully in the country you live in — or you’ve been misread as “too loud,” “too much,” or “too cold,” this episode will help you reclaim your emotional language with context, compassion, and power.

🔍 In This Episode, We Talk About:

Is EQ really universal?
Haitian American, oldest daughter, third culture kid
Language, accents & mother-tongue shame
“We don’t season chicken the same”
Culture, values & how we grieve
Bias, projection & the “two-sided mirror”
Technology, capitalism & chronic reactivity
Third culture kids & global mutts
Safety vs. self-expression for kids of color
From judgment to curiosity

By the end, you’ll walk away with a reframed understanding of emotional intelligence: not as a rigid checklist, but as a context-rich, culturally-rooted way of relating to yourself and others.

Connect with Farah Harris:

Website: workingwelldaily.com
LinkedIn: search “Farah Harris LCPC”

Book: The Color of Emotional Intelligence (available where books are sold & on Audible)

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