Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey

Ep 1247 | Three Men & a Baby: Polyamory Is Infiltrating Foster Care
Date: September 29, 2025

Overview

In this episode, Allie Beth Stuckey critically examines the increasing normalization of polyamorous and alternative family structures within foster care and adoption systems. She addresses recent news from Quebec, where a polyamorous trio adopted a child, and explores the broader societal, ethical, and theological implications of such developments. Wrapping the episode, Allie pays tribute to the late Voddie Baucham—a major voice in the Christian community—highlighting his legacy. The analysis is delivered from a distinctly Christian, conservative worldview.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Christian Hope Amidst Cultural Chaos

• [02:10] Allie opens with encouragement for Christians feeling overwhelmed by current events, emphasizing God's sovereignty and the assured victory of Christ.
  • Quote: “We are to push back against darkness from a place of victory, not just for victory.” – Allie [03:56]
• Encourages listeners to stay engaged in societal issues rather than retreating out of fear.

2. The Importance of Christian Action in the World

• [07:30] Allie stresses that politics and policies affect real people, especially children.
  • “Politics matter because policy matters, because people matter.” – Allie [08:04]

3. The Power of Small Acts of Faithfulness

• [10:30] Shares Wayne Grudem’s testimony about starting a Christian school and its eventual impact on Charlie Kirk.
  • Quote: “You never know what seeds your small step of obedience is planting. …God is doing something with them.” – Allie [13:23]

4. Acknowledgment of Tragedy: Michigan Mormon Community Attack

• [18:55] Allie addresses a recent violent attack on a Mormon community in Grand Blanc, Michigan.
  • Raises concerns about ideological radicalization leading to violence against religious groups.
  • Prays for the affected families and urges increased governmental action to prevent such violence.

5. The Rise of Polyamory in Foster Care and Adoption

• [25:30] Allie discusses a viral story from Quebec, where a polyamorous group of three men adopted a girl through the foster system.
  • Critiques the shift away from the traditional family as ideal and calls for centering children’s needs, not adult desires.
  • “We are no better than any other pagan society that has ever lived. We are still sacrificing children, whether it’s through abortion, …or …adults’ sexual whimsical.” – Allie [28:33]
  • Decries the approval of polyamorous, “polycule” families as intentionally depriving children of a mother and father.

6. Legal Developments and the Slippery Slope of Redefining Family

• [33:55] Highlights similar legal precedents in New York and other states permitting custody and parental rights for polyamorous groupings.
  • Challenges the philosophy of “love is love” as insufficient and unbiblical.
  • Cites Genesis and 1 Corinthians to argue for biblical boundaries in family and marriage.
  • “Anytime you venture outside of God’s ordained definitions for marriage and family …things get complicated.” – Allie [37:10]

7. Surrogacy vs. Adoption: An Ethical Distinction

• [44:00] Allie draws a moral distinction between adoption (redeeming a broken situation) and surrogacy (intentionally creating a broken situation).
  • “Surrogacy …creates a broken situation. …Adoption, as a rule, redeems an already broken situation.” – Allie [44:30]

8. Data on Family Structures and Child Outcomes

• [47:45] Provides research data on how children raised by their married, biological parents fare best.
  • Cites multiple studies demonstrating superior outcomes for children in intact two-parent biological families (cognitive, economic, emotional, behavioral).
  • Notes increased risks for children in single-parent homes, cohabiting houses, and especially those living with unrelated adult males.
  • Notable statistic: “65% of single mother households live below the poverty line. …Children of single mothers had a 40% higher risk of dropping out of high school compared to peers from married biological parents.” – Allie [50:34]

9. The Role of the Church in Adoption and Foster Care

• [53:26] Responds to critiques of the church “not doing enough,” citing research showing evangelical Christians lead in foster care/adoption efforts.

Memorable Moments & Notable Quotes

• Challenging “Love is Love” [35:40]:

  “Love is not love. …It’s something deeper than that. It is seeking the best interest and the highest well being of the person that you are trying to love. …We define love how God defines it.” – Allie

• Dangers of Redefining Parenthood [39:02]:

  “If three people can all claim to be a valid parent to a person, then why can’t 50?” – Allie

• Summary of Family Data [47:50]:

  “Children in stable married biological two parent homes consistently show the best outcomes across multiple domains…” – Allie

Tribute to Voddie Baucham

1. Announcement and Legacy

• [55:00] Allie shares the passing of Dr. Voddie Baucham, influential pastor, theologian, and advocate for Christian education.
• Remembers him as “an incredible minister, preacher, husband, father of nine kids.” – Allie [56:25]

2. Key Quotes from Voddie Baucham

• On Christian vs. Secular Education [54:36]:

  Voddie Baucham: “We do not have a God who calls upon us for blind faith. We have a God who speaks. We have a God who has revealed himself.”

• On Sending Kids to Public School [56:17]:

  “If you send your kids to Caesar, don’t be surprised when they come back Romans.” – Voddie Baucham (quoted by Allie)

• On Social Justice [59:47]:

  “What we have to do is we’ve got to just stop …stop letting people make us feel guilty about things that we haven’t done, about things that we’ve had no part in. Enough already.” – Voddie Baucham

• On Christian Hope in Death [63:19]:

  “You are going to hear a rumor one day that Voddie Baucham is no more. Don’t you believe it…though I die, I will rise with Christ. It will not be the end of me…” – Voddie Baucham

3. Allie’s Reflections

• Acknowledges the loss to the Christian community, encourages support for Baucham’s widow and children.
• “We should all hope that when we die the gospel will be spread further because of the things we said and did on earth. So that’s a good lesson for all of us.” – Allie [64:30]

Segment Timestamps

| Segment | Timestamp | |------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------|------------| | Christian encouragement and intro | 02:10 | | The importance of Christian engagement in politics | 07:30 | | Wayne Grudem’s testimony: significance of small faithful acts | 10:30 | | News on Michigan Mormon community shooting | 18:55 | | Quebec polyamorous adoption case: Analysis begins | 25:30 | | Legal, cultural, and biblical response to polyamory in adoption/foster care | 33:55 | | Surrogacy vs. adoption: ethical and theological difference | 44:00 | | Research on family structures and child outcomes | 47:45 | | The role of the church in adoption/foster care | 53:26 | | Tribute to Voddie Baucham: announcement, legacy, and memorable quotes | 54:36–64:30|

Tone and Style

The episode maintains Allie’s characteristic blend of passionate, in-depth conservative Christian analysis, fused with urgency, theological references, and personal encouragement. She alternates between empathetic pastoral comfort and unapologetic critique of cultural trends she views as antithetical to biblical values.

For Further Listening

• For more on the IVF discussion, see prior episodes as referenced by Allie.
• To support Voddie Baucham’s family, visit the Gifts and Go campaign referenced towards the end.

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