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Here's why we don't do Santa Claus in our home. Also, Jesus was not a refugee. We are getting into all of this on today's theology episode of Relatable. It's brought to you by our friends at Good Ranchers. Go to goodranchers.com use code ally at checkout for a discount. That's good ranchers.com code ally.
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Hey guys. Welcome to Relatable. Happy Wednesday. Hope everyone is having a wonderful week so far. All right. We decorated the Relatable set for Christmas. One of you messaged me or you commented somewhere and you said, where's Relatable's Christmas tree, y'? All. I had completely forgotten about that. I think that I would have forgotten if someone had not brought it up. So thank you so much. I wish that I had remembered earlier because I like to max out the Christmas tree behind me as much as possible. And I actually think it makes the set look better. And it makes me think I need to paint these walls because ever, ever since I got my colors done and I realized that black actually washes me out because I'm in autumn, I've realized my set is all the wrong color scheme. So one day, maybe next year, you'll show up here and you'll see that we have painted these walls Relatable green. We'll see about that. But for now, we just have Yuletide decor. And, and I know that I'm going to get comments about the reindeer. I don't know what the comments will be. You guys Surprise me sometimes. Some of you are going to like it, some of you are not going to like it. There's going to be a random troll out there that says, you've changed, Ally. You would have never had a reindeer last year. I got a comment just the other day from someone saying, you know what, stop with this new y' all thing that you're saying. You're trying too hard. And I was aghast because I am a born and raised Texas. What am I supposed to say? Use Guys, we don't say that here. I don't. I don't even know how to say anything besides y'. All. It's just efficient. So I know that I'm going to get some comment on the reindeer. I like the reindeer. It's Dasher specifically. I decided that. All right, let's get into this Christmas themed episode. Today I get asked every year without fail, from a new follower, listener, viewer, what do you think about Santa Claus? As a Christian mom, do y' all do Santa Claus? And my short answer is no. And I'll give you the explanation for why. And I first want to say, before I give my explanation, that this is a Christian liberty issue. Okay? So we have freedom as Christians to disagree on this. So you can of course post your commentary, post your opinion about this, and you can disagree with me, and that's completely fine. We are both Christians, we both love God's word, and we're trying to do the very best we can to disciple our children. I don't have any condemnation for you if you are pro Santa family. And I hope that you will be respectful in your comments to me if you differ from my perspective on this, and I imagine that many of you will. Because I grew up as a pro Santa person, I was raised believing in Santa, believing in the Easter bunny, believing in the tooth fairy. I don't think my parents pushed these things very hard. But it is fun to imagine. And I do believe that imagination is a really important part of childhood. That's why I think reading fiction to your children like the Chronicles of Narnia, even though those things aren't real, stretching your imagination as a child is really important. And I've always loved having an imagination and loved being creative in that way. So I don't think it took very much for, for me to believe in Santa Claus. But I was the youngest and my brothers are ten and seven and a half years older than me. And so when you have older siblings who obviously realize that Santa Claus is not real, long before I did as the Youngest child, you kind of grow up more quickly. You just do. And I remember I was 6 years old and I had just lost a tooth. And I looked out the window and I said something to my 16 year old brother about the tooth fairy coming. And he kind of like made a noise or rolled his eyes or something like that. And I noticed that reaction and I was like, wait a second. And I don't remember if I asked him if tooth fairies aren't real. He probably just told me, you know, how like 16 year old boys are. I don't remember exactly what he said, but his reaction really made me start thinking, and I was thinking all night about that. Hang on. Why did he act like it was silly for me to believe that the tooth fairy is going to come tonight and take my tooth and give me money in exchange? Who else would be doing that? Hang on just a second. Then of course I started thinking about everything else, like the Easter bunny and Santa Claus. And I decided this was in the summer. I decided the next day I was going to confront my mom about this. And I still remember we were in the backyard and I asked her if the tooth fairy is real. And she just paused and she told me, no, it's not. And then, shock of all shocks, my deductive reasoning really was kicking in. And this was devastating to me when I asked her, hang on, does that mean that Santa Claus is not real? And she told me the truth that Santa Claus is not real. And I was like really hurt. I don't think this is the experience of all kids. And I'm not saying it's going to be. I'm not saying you're irreparably traumatizing your child by telling them that Santa is real. But I was, I was legitimately hurt by this. I was shocked by this. And I think also the fact that I was so young in my belief that I really wanted to hold on to was like disrupted while I was still in kindergarten was a little bit jarring for me. But I remember declaring from a young age that I was not going to tell my children that Santa Claus is real. And again, this is not me trying to make the point that you are going to make your child feel betrayed. I have a wonderful relationship with my parents. I trust them very much. I never had a hard time believing and knowing that Jesus is real, even though they told me that Santa was real when he really wasn't. I, I didn't have all of that stu stuff that some people warn may happen to your kids if you lied to them. About Santa Claus. I just felt hurt in the moment, and I just knew that I didn't want to tell my kids that Santa was real. And so that really leads me to my first reason of why we personally do not do Santa Claus. Because it causes confusion. It is a form of deceit, I believe, and it can cause confusion in kids. Of course, we want our kids to trust us. Uh, we want them to believe what we have to say, especially about important spiritual and mysterious matters. And it can cause this kind of dissonance or confusion in a child when we tell them that someone is real, is giving them gifts, is watching them when they're sleeping or when they're awake, is taking a tally of the good deeds they do, the bad deeds they do, putting it on a list, and then allocating gifts in accordance to their behavior, and then to tell them one day that that system of morality around Christmas time doesn't exist. I do believe that that causes, even if just for a moment.
