Ep 1303 | How Praying for My Future Husband Changed My Singleness | Christian Bevere

Relatable with Allie Beth Stuckey (Blaze Podcast Network)
Released: February 13, 2026

Overview of the Episode

This special Valentine’s Day episode explores Christian Bevere’s journey of faith and intentionality through praying for her future husband—and how this changed her outlook, healed her heart, and prepared her for marriage. Allie and Christian candidly discuss Christian dating, courtship vs. modern approaches, mistakes made as young women, sexual purity, the power of scripture-based prayers, and learning to trust God wholly in all stages of life and relationship. Whether single, dating, or married, listeners are encouraged and challenged to embrace faith, accountability, and biblical wisdom in their relational journeys.

Guest Introduction: Who is Christian Bevere?

[01:21]

• Christian Bevere is a podcaster and author of Future Husband Present Prayers, married into the well-known Bevere family in ministry.
• Describes herself as someone who married “so far out of what I deserved, and it is only by the way of prayer,” now a mom of two, eager to help others navigate relational confusion.
• Observes that both singles and marrieds are bombarded with confusing relationship messages, but “the Bible actually has more to say... that can benefit anyone trying to do relationships well.” (Christian Bevere) [01:21]

Why Pray for Your Future Husband?

[02:32 – 04:06]

• Motivation for the book rooted in a personal season of confusion after college, uncertainty in dating, and the persistent God-given desire for love and marriage.
• Saw the loose, uncommitted way society and even some Christians approach dating; wanted “specific, intentional wisdom” that the Bible offers.
• Began praying daily for her yet-unknown husband, dedicating a brown leather Bible to him.
• “I’m going to pray for him daily. I’m going to submit this desire to the Lord, because it’s obviously not going anywhere.” (Christian) [03:45]

Early Mistakes and Lessons Learned in Dating

[05:44 – 08:40]

• Christian and Allie share honestly about compromises made for attention or out of fear—attending parties, lowering standards, chasing affirmation.
• Both recount seasons of being “not trusting the Lord” as the root of unhealthy romantic pursuits.
• Key learning: The world tells young women their “standards are too high,” but Godly character and purity are worth holding out for.
• “If who I am is not enough... maybe I need to dress a little differently. Maybe I need to move my standards... It’s a domino effect.” (Christian) [06:37]
• “The umbrella that covers both [paths] is that I was not trusting the Lord.” (Allie) [09:28]

Trusting God & The Role of Faith and Scripture

[10:44 – 13:49]

• “You don’t outgrow that faith... The same faith that you need—Lord, I’m going to trust you with my love story—is the faith you’ll apply when you go through hard seasons together, when you are married.” (Christian) [10:44]
• Hebrews 11 is cited as a framework for trusting God without seeing the answer, embracing “the assurance of things hoped for that are not yet seen.”
• Honest validation: “He doesn’t guarantee to give thing that we want.” (Allie) [11:55]

The Power of Prayer – Internal Change and Healing

[13:49 – 17:24]

• Praying for a future husband shifted Christian’s heart—released her from performative behavior, equating worth with relationship status, letting go of bitterness and self-sabotage.
• “There was this unreleasing... of, okay, what does a marriage look like for me?... Do I truly believe that you have a good relationship in store for me?” (Christian) [15:11]
• Testifies that prayer brought healing from old wounds and restored faith in God’s plan.
• “Time spent in the Lord’s presence is not wasted time.” (Allie) [49:10]

How to Pray Using Scripture

[17:24 – 19:14]

• The intent: “I didn’t want my prayers to only be what I could contrive in my mind... I wanted to say, Lord, what does a godly man look like? Well, let’s go to the Word.”
• Prayed specific verses over her future husband—his character, calling, faithfulness, leadership, etc.
• Gave her husband the prayer Bible on their wedding day, discovering many prayers matched his real-life seasons of need.
• “There’s so much power [in] when our prayers are spirit-led, they’re scripture-based.” (Christian) [18:38]

Meeting & Discerning Her Husband

[19:14 – 25:34]

• Met her husband at 23 after praying intentionally for about two years; got engaged and married the same year.
• He reached out on Instagram after mutual connections (a story involving accountability and family connections).
• Christian asked God for clarity so she would only date and marry the right man, leading to a relationship marked by intentionality, clarity, and spiritual confirmation.
• “I want every girl to get to have [a man who leads with clarity]... A man that knows he wants to be a husband... will date differently.” (Christian) [22:52]

Markers of a Godly Relationship & Red Flags

[25:34 – 32:18]

• What changed: Her desire to “let go of things that are not your best” replaced a previous pattern of “picking who I want and asking the Lord to bless it.”
• Practical advice: Don’t be afraid to ask tough questions early; one only needs the “right one,” not everyone’s approval.
• “If you are convincing yourself that he likes you or that you like him, you probably just need to break up.” (Allie) [29:11]
• Both agree: when it’s right, there’s “clarity and peace,” not confusion or striving for attention.

The Role of Attraction and Specificity

[32:18 – 36:43]

• Both argue for the importance of both character and attraction—not just “he loves Jesus, so anyone can fit.”
• “If your yes is like ‘meh...’ what really is, how much of a gift is that yes?” (Christian) [34:46]
• Encourage trusting God for a relationship that fits uniquely with both callings.

Courtship vs. Modern Dating & Purity

[36:43 – 41:28]

• Discuss the value of accountability and communal involvement in romance—protection, clarity, and support.
• “Get people around you... bring people in. If he has nothing to hide, then there’s going to be nothing that has to be hidden.” (Christian) [38:42]
• On purity: Citing her husband’s role in setting firm boundaries and using accountability partners. “Why put yourself in a position that’s so hard? ...It’s hard to be right on the line and not tiptoe it.” (Christian) [41:04]
• Critiques “purity culture” excesses, but upholds scriptural calls to flee temptation.

Stories of Answered Prayers

[43:27 – 46:18]

• Testifies to seeing prayers answered in her husband’s leadership, fatherhood, and pursuit of purity.
• Recalls a specific prophetic dream that was fulfilled in real life—her husband’s appearance in a dream and then in reality.
• “Not that [answered prayer] is all on my own strength, but I’ve just come alongside... and believed the Lord will grow and equip him.” (Christian) [43:41]

Encouragement for Long-term Singleness

[46:18 – 50:36]

• The principle of Future Husband Present Prayers is for “anyone, no matter the timeline”; hope and faith are never wasted.
• “My MO would say to have faith. Not that it’s easy, not that you don’t have valid emotions and frustrations, but because I would rather wait on something believing the Lord can do it, rather than short sight it, because I stopped believing that he was going to do something.” (Christian) [48:25]

On Comparison and God’s Timing

[50:36 – 54:03]

• Comparison is a trap—everyone’s “timeline” will look different, but “you are not forgotten.”
• Uses the story of Jairus in Luke 8: Sometimes God seems “late” but is working in ways we do not see.
• “God’s eternal plan of redemption is always going off without a hitch. He’s never surprised or taken aback.” (Allie) [52:46]

Takeaways for Married Women: Continuing in Prayer

[54:03 – 58:41]

• The book and its principles apply to marriage, not just waiting: “My time praying for my future husband isn’t enough to sustain our marriage. I need to stay in prayer... The enemy hates marriage.”
• Encourages women to pray life over their men, speak to “the king” and not “the fool.”
• “There is a king and a fool in every man and who you speak to arises.” (Christian) [54:55]
• Prayer is as necessary for sustaining marriage as for finding a spouse.

Memorable Quotes & Closing Thoughts

“Time spent in the Lord’s presence is not wasted time.”
— Allie, [49:10]

“I want to challenge myself and challenge other women. Let’s pray for our husband. Pray for your future husband. Speak well of them and call into things not that yet as they are, but as they could be.”
— Christian, [56:12]

“It only takes one. It actually doesn’t have to be 10,000 guys that you would marry out there. There just has to be one guy that you would marry.”
— Allie [28:20]

"If we see how sacred and sweet marriage is... why would we water it down to just something that's a good option? ...you need that [foundation] on the days and season where it's hard."
— Christian [31:54]

Resources & Where to Find Christian Bevere

• Book: Future Husband Present Prayers available on Amazon and major bookstores [59:07]
• Podcast: Dear Future Husband Podcast
• Instagram and social channels: @christianbevere

Final Encouragement

This episode is a refreshing and faith-filled exploration of relationships, scripture, prayer, and perseverance. Allie and Christian urge listeners at every stage to lean into God, hope audaciously, and trust His timing—finding joy and purpose in every season, and remembering the profound difference that intentional prayer can make in both personal growth and the pursuit (or sustaining) of a Christ-centered marriage.