If you’re in a long-term relationship or in the beginning of one, it’s important to know that your sex life together will ebb and flow. With time couples often struggle with sexual intimacy for a number of reasons. I could be boredom or changing sex drives in one or both partners that makes sexual connection and satisfaction more difficult. Tom and Lisa open this conversation addressing the reality of mismatched sex drives, the biology and human experience that contributes to those changes, and dive into ways couples can communicate and support each other through loss of intimacy and sexual satisfaction so that no one is feeling rejected or alienated/

Relationship Theory with Tom and Lisa Bilyeu encourages healthy, loving, life long relationships. Whether you are fresh out of your last relationship, on a break, taking time to heal from a breakup, or looking for ways to strengthen the romance and bond in your current relationship, Tom and Lisa are sharing their 20 years of experience. They’re taking questions and giving relationship advice that will enhance all of your relationships.

SHOW NOTES:

Mismatched Sex Drive | How to accommodate each other and not feel badly about it [0:35]
Changing Sex Drives | Tips for navigating changing sex drive with time in a relationship [9:55]
Satisfaction Level | Understanding what it takes to satisfy each other and compromise [15:23]
Talking Porn | Lisa shares about watching porn, having no secrets, and no judgment [18:37]
No Judgment | Open space and judgment free zone for wanting sex and not wanting it [21:09]
Sexual Compatibility | Compatibility of sex, values, and trust for serious relationships [25:22]
Sex Drought | Lisa and Tom share different sides of a sexless time in their marriage [29:45]

QUOTES:

“Where a lot of the friction comes from is feeling like, either side is doing something wrong or doing something to hurt you” Tom Bilyeu [2:34]

“How do we both get what we want? And that's the thing, we're always looking to compromise.” Lisa Bilyeu [6:55]

“If you're in a committed loving relationship, and you're not thinking about what your partner wants, that is a horsemen of the apocalypse” Tom Bilyeu [7:37]

“The thing that we settled on is, I'm never going to be afraid to ask for sex. And you should never be afraid to say no.” Tom Bilyeu [21:44]

“The thing that we settled on is, I'm never going to be afraid to ask for sex. And you should never be afraid to say no.” Tom Bilyeu [21:44]

“If you're having sex in order for them to value you, that's obviously a disaster waiting to happen. So just really thinking through what the reason is of why you want to have sex with them, and then just own the reason.” Lisa Bilyeu [27:41]