Ken Burns on love and grief (Part 2)

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Episode: Ken Burns on Love and Grief (Part 2)

Release Date: January 13, 2026
Host: Adam Grant
Guest: Ken Burns (historian and documentary filmmaker)

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Episode Overview

In Part 2 of his conversation with acclaimed documentary filmmaker Ken Burns, Adam Grant explores deeply personal and philosophical terrain, focusing on themes of love, grief, loss, and the meaning of legacy. The episode features a lively "lightning round" with career and creative insights from Burns, as well as a heartfelt reflection on how grief shapes our lives and work. The discussion blends historical perspective with vulnerability, offering listeners both inspiration and comfort.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Power of Presence Through Adversity

• Parenting through Divorce
  • Ken reflects on being a single father, suggesting personal challenges enhanced his presence and priorities as a parent:

    "The failure of the relationships were in fact a godsend with regard to parenting... it didn't permit the distractions of my work ... to take away from the fundamental stuff." (01:02)

  • Burns: “I'm nowhere near as good a filmmaker, I think, as I am a father.” (01:27)

2. Lightning Round: Career Reflections & Iconic Dinner Guests

• Worst Career Advice

  • Move to New York, not New Hampshire (despite his gut and creative interests); skepticism about his slow zoom technique ("No one will ever look at a Zoom that's 35 minutes on a single face... Please do it anyway.") (02:44)
  • Best advice from Robert Penn Warren:

    "Careerism is death... Careerism does presuppose that somebody else has already determined the rut you're in..." (03:29)

• Dream Dinner Party

  • Guests: Louis Armstrong, Abraham Lincoln, Benjamin Franklin, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Abigail Adams.
  • On Elizabeth Cady Stanton:

    "She's the writer... just phenomenal stylist... you can't even say a proto feminist. She's a feminist and she's anti-slavery." (04:10)

3. Documentary Ideas and Historical Fascinations

• Ken's Response to Film Ideas:
  • Lucy Stone (Suffrage Movement):

    "Terrific project. I agree... wonderful story." (05:21)

  • Supreme Court:

    "Oh, fantastic... filled with spectacularly good and spectacularly bad decisions." (06:34)

  • Future Projects Mentioned:
    • LBJ & the Great Society
    • Emancipation to Exodus (Reconstruction)
    • Barack Obama (multi-hour interviews ongoing)
    • Civil Rights, Cold War, CIA

    "If I were given a thousand years to live... I wouldn't run out of topics in American history." (07:59)

  • OSS/CIA Origin Story and Anecdote (Ho Chi Minh on Independence):

    "Within five weeks, they [Americans] have been told unequivocally by the State Department. Get away from this guy [Ho], he's a commie and we don't like commies anymore.” (08:57)

4. Reflections on Legacy and Rethinking

• Best Post-Presidency:
  • "It's obviously between Jimmy Carter and John Quincy Adams and I can't decide... John Tyler had the worst." (11:22)
• On Changing One’s Mind:
  • Letting go of the need to make others wrong; striving to “check that knee jerk necessity.”

    "The actual act of trying to check that, you fail. But trying to check that is actually what we're supposed to be doing." (11:56)

5. The Enduring Half-Life of Grief

• Ken Burns on Grief:
  • Cites the “endless half-life” of grief after losing his mother at 11:

    “That was 60 and a half years ago. And I wouldn't do what I do if she hadn't died.” (14:50)

  • “Do you agree that the half life of grief is endless? It pays dividends, it has its positive aspects to it, but at the same time it's loss. And loss is loss.” (14:50)
• Adam on Closure:
  • “Closure is a myth... If you love someone, you never let them go. I think grief seems to ebb and flow over time... but I don't think it ever fully fades.” (15:43)
• Memorable Anecdote:
  • Ken’s uncle, after losing his wife: “I want Sarah.” (16:02)
  • Ken: “I am, as I think most people are, in some ways defined much more by loss than by the good times, the gated community, seeming security and that. It's really about these moments and the decisions that you make in them.” (16:43)

6. Perspective in History and Life

• Dual Focus – Macro and Micro:
  • “There is a profound similarity between the architecture of the atom and the architecture of the solar system. Too often we focus either on the macro or the micro to the exclusion of the other.” (17:40)
  • “It's really good to... exist in the tension between the cosmic and the microscopic, the atomic.” (18:19)

7. Enthusiasm, Optimism, and Purpose

• On Criticism for Optimism and Enthusiasm:
  • "Cynicism, that's a luxury that you may possess. I do not have that ability to be cynical. I have to remain optimistic about the human condition because I'M delving into it..." (20:37)
  • Origins of enthusiasm in etymology: “God in us.” (18:40)
• On Grief as Animating Force:
  • Ken’s late father-in-law told him:

    “You wake the dead. You make Abraham Lincoln and Jackie Robinson come alive for us. Who do you think you're really waking up?” (21:40)

  • The name Lila (Ken’s mother)—from bereavement to daily joy as his granddaughter’s name:

    “So the name that was draped in black…we now say it all the time... These are the gifts.” (22:07)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Robert Penn Warren on careerism:

  “Careerism is death.” (03:29) — Ken Burns

• On optimism as a worldview:

  "Cynicism, that's a luxury that you may possess. I do not have that ability to be cynical... I have to remain optimistic about the human condition..." (20:37) — Ken Burns

• On bringing history to life out of love and grief:

  “You wake the dead. You make Abraham Lincoln and Jackie Robinson come alive for us. Who do you think you're really waking up?” (21:40) — Ken Burns’ father-in-law

• On grief’s relentless presence:

  “None of us get out of here alive. So what... is it that tends a garden, raises a child, cures a disease, does a symphony? This is the project.” (12:55) — Ken Burns

• Transformative power of love and grief:

  “Isn't that the ultimate purpose of grief?... to transform.” (22:07) — Adam Grant

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Timestamps for Important Segments

• 01:02: Ken on parenting and single fatherhood
• 02:44: Worst career advice and Warren’s “careerism is death”
• 04:10: Dream dinner party guests (with praise for Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Abigail Adams)
• 05:21: Documentary ideas: Lucy Stone, Supreme Court
• 07:59: Ken’s current/future projects and the unending supply of history
• 11:22: Best/worst post-presidencies (Carter, Adams, Tyler)
• 11:56: Letting go of the need to make others “wrong”
• 14:50: On the “endless half-life” of grief; impact of losing his mother
• 16:02: Personal story of his uncle’s direct grief
• 17:40: Perspective/macro vs micro in life and in history
• 18:40: Optimism and etymology of “enthusiastic”
• 21:40: On making the dead “come alive” through storytelling
• 22:07: The transformation of grief through familial ties and time

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Conclusion

This conversation moves seamlessly from the professional wisdom of a master storyteller to the intimate details of loss, reconciling the legacy of those we’ve loved and lost with the work we do in the present. Ken Burns and Adam Grant blend insight, wit, and vulnerability to illuminate the cyclical nature of grief, the necessity of optimism, and the joy of reconnecting with the past to enrich the present and future. Anyone navigating love, loss, or questions about meaningful work will find resonance and inspiration here.

Transcript

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[Ken Burns]

I've been divorced. I've been a single dad twice. The failure of the relationships were in fact a godsend with regard to parenting because it didn't permit the distractions of my work, which are enormous, to take away from the fundamental stuff that for half the time I had to be there and cooking dinner and doing laundry and, you know, homework.

[Adam Grant]

Wow.

[Ken Burns]

I have four daughters and they're 43 to 15. I'm nowhere near as good a filmmaker, I think, as I am a father.

[Adam Grant]

Hey, everyone, it's Adam Grant. Welcome back to Rethinking my podcast with Ted on the science of what makes us tick. I'm an organizational psychologist and I'm taking you inside the minds of fascinating people to explore new thoughts and new ways of thinking. This week, we're back with the king of historical documentaries, Ken Burns. In this second half of our conversation, things turned a little personal. We talked about the role of loss and grief in his work and about how he hates careerism. And I put him in the hot seat with the biggest challenge I could think of for someone like Ken Burns. All right, I want to ask if you're up for a lightning round.

[Ken Burns]

Sure. Well, you know, if I can have 6 part 12 hour answers.

[Adam Grant]

I know this is a very constraining forum for you.

[Ken Burns]

Yeah, no, no, no. I'm just warning you in apology for the tendency to get excited and then go on.

[Adam Grant]

It's part of the magic of your work, not something you should apologize for. Okay, so first lightning question. What is the worst career advice you've received?

[Ken Burns]

Why would you move to New Hampshire when you've been offered a job in New York City and you don't have a paying job? Because you're working on a film about the Brooklyn Bridge. My first one. And conversely or not conversely as a parallel to that, I was told by someone in an animation studio where we animate the movements on the photographs, said no one will ever look at a Zoom that's 35 minutes on a single face. And I said, please do it anyway, you know. But the best advice was from Robert Pen Warren, who looked at me once and fixed me with these. They called George Mead the General at Gettysburg, the Union General, a damned old goggled eyed snapping turtle. And red Warren was like that too. And he looked at me, he said, careerism is death. And I've actually never used the word career except in the way we're speaking out it now. I refer entirely to my professional life because careerism does presuppose that somebody else has already determined the rut you're in, the course you're going to take, and has limited all a priori, therefore the options and the ability to escape the specific gravity of that particular course if it turns out not to be, as Emerson said, if it doesn't inly rejoice, which is the greatest adverb inly. In self reliance.

[Adam Grant]

All right, you get to host a.

[Ken Burns]

Dinner party with Louis Armstrong, Abraham Lincoln. I want people that would talk Franklin and Elizabeth Cady Stanton. She's married and she has kids and so Susan B. Anthony gets all the stuff, but she's the writer. She's the one who's just phenomenal stylist. I really love her. And in the revolutionary period, Abigail Adams may be the best writer of them all. And so gutsy and so fantastic. She has a great relationship with her prickly, obnoxious, as he called himself, husband John. But she's great. She's. You can't even say a proto feminist. She's a feminist and she's anti slavery. Back then like episode one, she's like, you know, this is wrong, everybody. You know, cut the crap.

[Adam Grant]

Well, that. That actually anticipates my next question, which is I wanted to get you to react to a few pitches from me on who might be the subject of your next film.

[Ken Burns]

Even though I know what I'm doing for the next, of course, seven, eight years. And I now have to say, God and funding willing right now that I'm.

[Adam Grant]

Yes. Of. So the first one is maybe this is a sequel to not for Ourselves Alone. But I think Lucy Stone is the unsung hero of the suffrage movement.

[Ken Burns]

I agree. Terrific project. I agree. She wonderful story. And in fact, when I worked with My longtime editor, Paul Barnes, who was a co producer on this and the Roosevelts. And while we were editing Civil War, every day we'd go out to lunch in New York City with whoever kind of collected, and he'd just be talking about this biography of Stanton and Anthony. And I just. I listened to it and it sounded so great. I said, we'll do it it. So we did do it. And they die well before, but it's their language that becomes the amendment. Yeah. And the work is ongoing. You know, it's ongoing.

[Adam Grant]

All right. So you may not take it on, but you think someone should do the Lucifer.

[Ken Burns]

Oh, my God, yes. Oh, and they. And I'm sure they have, I mean, American experience. You sure there. There's not something that hasn't taken the post Stanton Anthony suffragists and done something with. With those folks. I mean, we mentioned her and we take it right up to Harry Byrne in Tennessee, passed the deciding vote in the last state that will ratify that amendment. And he'd been against the amendment, but he come with a letter from his mom who told him to do the right thing. And he did.

[Adam Grant]

There we go.

[Ken Burns]

All right.

[Adam Grant]

Second idea was history of the Supreme Court.

[Ken Burns]

Oh, fantastic. Fantastic. And, you know, I think after, I guess you'd have to say all the President's Men, that Bob Woodward's best book is about the Supreme Court. And a lot of other people have added some pretty good scholarship about it. I. I think it'd be a terrific thing. I mean, it's just filled with just spectacularly good and spectacularly bad decisions. You know, you can just do it on the bad decisions. Right. Yuval Levin, the conservative scholar that I was speaking with a few weeks ago, said that the founders would not be surprised by finding somebody wanting monarchical powers. They'd be surprised that Article 1, the legislative branch had given up and ceded so much of their powers. That's the thing. They'd be just what we designed this. You guys at the center of it. And Levin said you got to think of it in tenses that the legislative is future tense. You shall do this. The executive is present tense. I will execute this. And the Supreme Court is past tense. Trying to make sense of what the tension between the future and the present is. It's sort of an interesting kind of elemental and yet completely seductive way of thinking about something that we tend to just burden with too much thinking and too much. Much binary thinking when it needs something with more finesse.

[Adam Grant]

You're just going to greenlight all of my pitches. Is that what's happening here?

[Ken Burns]

Well, you know, because I really love, as I said, if I were given a thousand years to live, which I won't, I wouldn't run out of topics in American history. We're working on LBJ and the Great Society. We've been working on it for years. We're working on Emancipation to Exodus, which is the story essentially of Reconstruction both before and after the most misunderstood period in American history. I've conducted eight two hour interviews with Barack Obama. No rush, because I want to escape the specific gravity of journalism to be able to do a big series on him. I think I've got at least two to go. He'd probably say one or maybe none. I'm done talking to you. We've been filming people who knew Dr. King. I want to do a series for years. It was going to be on the Cold War. Now I want to do it on the CIA because I figured you get the Cold War, but you also get all that intimate stuff. Stuff of the CIA. Right.

[Adam Grant]

Well, that was going to be my third pitch actually was the precursor to the CIA. The OSS I thought would be a great.

[Ken Burns]

My favorite moment is that on September 2, 1945, that's the day the Japanese are surrendering on the USS of Missouri and Tokyo Bay unconditionally. In Baden Square in Hanoi, Ho Chi Minh. This nationalist leader that the Russians and the Chinese are suspicious of because he's purportedly a communist, but they don't think he is. His life has been saved by OSS officers who've paralyzed, parachuted into northern Vietnam and saved the life of a guerrilla leader in order to lead this thing. And he's saying we hold these truths to be self evident, that all men are created equal. And standing next to him are OSS guys. Within five weeks, they have been told unequivocally by the State Department. Get away from this guy. He's a commie and we don't like commies anymore.

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[Ken Burns]

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[Adam Grant]

Okay, next lightning question. This is inspired by one of our past guests, Jared Cohen. The question is, who do you think had the best post presidency?

[Ken Burns]

It's obviously between Jimmy Carter and John Quincy Adams and I can't decide. John Tyler had the worst. Yeah, I don't want to decide between those two guys. And everybody, I assume, knows enough within the sound of our voices. Adam, about Jimmy Carter, which is a remarkable, spectacular post presidency, not even hospice could kill him. You know, he's in hospice for a year and a half or something. But John Quincy Adams does what George Washington kind of suggests, that being a citizen is this ongoing project.

[Adam Grant]

You know, what's something you've rethought or changed your mind about lately?

[Ken Burns]

So I think I've had a series of acquired political or maybe even at times philosophical, but certainly just societal opinions that I've now rejoiced in letting go. My best friend, someone asked him what was the secret to his long marriage and he said, we try not to make the other wrong. And I always have tried to apply that because I find that there is this knee jerk necessity to sort of make this thing or this moment or that action or this person particularly wrong. And that the actual act of trying to check that, you fail. But trying to check that is actually what we're supposed to be doing. You know, when you're asking about the moral relativism, it's just a process, right? And none of us get out of here alive. None of us get out of here alive. So what, what, you know what, what is it that tends A garden, raises a child, cures a disease, does a symphony? You know, this is, this is the project.

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[Adam Grant]

Okay, one more question for you. What is the question you have for me? As an organizational psychologist, I had a.

[Ken Burns]

Conversation with Anderson Cooper on his grief podcast, and I said to him that I thought that the half life of grief was endless. I lost my mom after an eight year illness, nine year illness when I was 11 years old. And that was 60 and a half years ago. And I wouldn't do what I do if she hadn't died. And it's really way longer than anyone should be without a mother. So. Do you agree that the half life of grief is endless? It pays dividends, it has its positive aspects to it, but at the same time it's loss. And loss is loss.

[Adam Grant]

I do. I'm struck by the fact that our cultural narratives about grief are broken.

[Ken Burns]

Right?

[Adam Grant]

We. We expect it to be acute and then to fade. And we talk all the time about closure. And I think closure is a myth.

[Ken Burns]

I do too.

[Adam Grant]

I think if you love someone, you never let them go. I think Grief seems to ebb and flow over time, and we get better at processing it, but I don't think it ever fully fades, do you?

[Ken Burns]

No. My aunt Sarah just died, 92. Lived a great life devoted to. To her husband and her husband to her. And I was talking to my Uncle Johnny on the phone, and I was saying, I'm so sorry, and, you know, let us know if there's anything you can do, if there's anything you want. And he goes, I want Sarah, you know, And I just. I just burst into tears because, of course, it's like the little girl, you know, who's blowing out the cake at age 3 or 4. What did you wish for? I wish for cake. Right. Come on, get over it. You know, it's not world peace. It's not this, or this is I want cake. And there' something really direct about that. And there's something really direct about what my uncle said. And it just reminded me the extent to which I am, as I think most people are, in some ways defined much more by loss than by the good times, the gated community, seeming security and that. It's really about these moments and the decisions that you make in them.

[Adam Grant]

I think this is such a widespread misunderstanding of grief. And I blame it in part on the stage models that were popular for so long. That said, you have to progress through one to get to the next. And the reality is they're much more like phases of the moon where they wax and wane. And what that says to me is that moving forward after a loss is not about erasing our sorrow. It's more about gaining perspective. And in a way, Ken, that's what all of your work has done for us. You zoom in and zoom out in ways that. That give us perspective that we never could have had otherwise. And I think that's a beautiful thing.

[Ken Burns]

Well, that is a very nice thing to say. I do recognize that there is a profound similarity between the architecture of the atom and the architecture of the solar system. And I think that too often we focus either on the macro or the micro to the exclusion of the other. And it is possible to spend time, say, in this American Revolution project, where you are certainly with George Washington, but you're also with Betsy Ambler, who's 10 years old in 1775, and that there's nothing wrong with that. In fact, it's really good to collect, to exist in the tension between the cosmic and the microscopic, the atomic.

[Adam Grant]

I love that. And maybe at the risk of mixing metaphors, you know, in talking to you I have such a strong sense that you're more than a filmmaker. You are a conductor of history. As you talk about it, I can see you right, sort of orchestrating the different notes and melodies and instruments in a way that brings it together.

[Ken Burns]

The day to day process is so much about stepping back from it and permitting the stuff, not imposing. People are always saying, so 10 years, what sort of theory of it did you do? Essentially? What historiography? What lens did you see? You go, no, we have all these different varieties of perspectives. Any one lens is the blind man describing one part of the elephant. And you don't want that. You want a whole worldview of that elephant. So a lot of it is just stepping back. But what happens when we finish? People go, you worked 10 years. Didn't you get bored? You go, no, you have no idea. I don't want to leave this thing, this evangelical period where we're out for nine months talking and doing endless conversations and interviews and screenings and 40 cities and all of that, you know, it's wearing. But I love it because what happens is that then you're beginning to conduct your own set of emotions that you've developed over the last 10 years and, and, and to try to share them because it's infectious, right? If you. I remember once, right after the Civil War series, somebody, some journalist, wanted to take me down a peg, you could tell, and, and, and describe me as enthusiastic. And I knew it was in a pejorative context that it had been used. And a friend of mine said, look it up. And I knew he didn't mean the definition, so I went to the etymology and it means God in us. And I just looked at him and I said, thank you. Meaning, am I enthusiastic? I will plead guilty to that because somehow the Holy Spirit has just spoken in whatever story it might be. And I can get as excited about Elizabeth Cady Stanton and Susan B. Anthony or Benjamin Franklin or the Brooklyn Bridge or the Central Park Five as I can about the American Revolution or Vietnam or the Civil War, gosh, if the.

[Adam Grant]

Worst critique that somebody can make of your work is that you're enthusiastic, you've made it.

[Ken Burns]

Well, there was an article in a newspaper not to be named, the paper of Record, some people call it, in which the word optimism was used as a pejorative, as a naive and pejorative condition. And I go, f you, no, no. Cynicism, that's a luxury that you may possess. I do not have that ability to be cynical. I have to remain optimistic about the human condition because I'M delving into it and I'm meeting unbelievably interesting people that sustain me and also, I think, mitigate the grief. My late father in law was a well known psychologist in the Boston area named Gerald Steckler. And when I told him I seemed to be keeping my mother alive, he told me, I bet you blow out your birthday candles wishing she'd come back. I go, how do you know? And he said, well, look what you do for a living. I said, what? He said, you wake the dead. You make Abraham Lincoln and Jackie Robinson come alive for us. Who do you think you're really waking up? So Lila Tupper Burns, my mother, deceased since April 28, 1965, is here, right. She's part of the animating engine. The fuel of this project, of my trying to tell stories comes from her and her absence. Right? All of it is confounding and exhilarating at the same time.

[Adam Grant]

And isn't that the ultimate purpose of grief?

[Ken Burns]

That's exactly right, is to transform. You don't wear the widow's black for a year and then that's it, get over it. As you're saying, it's cycles. It's just you figure out how to respond to each cycle. So, I mean, a couple weeks ago I just broke down and cried. I missed her, you know, and I just missed her. It's 60 and a half years. And yet my oldest daughter, who had never met her grandmother, obviously named her first child Lila. And so the name that was draped in black gripe of mourning, we now say it all the time. I saw Lila yesterday. I said, lila. Granddaddy gives me a big hug and you just go, these are the gifts.

[Adam Grant]

Wow. Grief reminds us to cherish life. And no one reinforces that message more powerfully than you.

[Ken Burns]

Well, it's good to live and to live fully and to live, you know. Strange for someone who spends all this time in the past to live in the present. I mean, this is the process that we work on with just incredibly talented people. In the case of the revolution, Sarah Bottstai and David Schmidt, who make it happen that my longtime collaborator, Jeffrey Ward, cinematographer Buddy Squires. I've been working with Buddy for more than 50 years. I mean, it's their family members, it feels like. And it's important to acknowledge that. If I've said we a couple times, it's not royal, you know, there's a great. I will tell you, there's a great guy in our film that we follow throughout. A German mercenary named Johann, Evil Captain Johann evil and he is openly contemptuous of what he calls the rebels, just as the British. They don't call us patriots, they call us rebels. But he's in the surrendering army. Johann Ewald is at Yorktown and he says, who would have thought 100 years ago that out of this multitude of rabble would arise a people who could defy kings. Yeah, another one bites the dust.

[Adam Grant]

I will use the royal we and say, we are so grateful to have you in the present with us and I will take your infectious enthusiasm any day.

[Ken Burns]

Been my pleasure. Thank you. This has been an oasis of conversation. Adam. Thank you.

[Adam Grant]

Rethinking is hosted by me, Adam Grant. The show is produced by Ted with Cosmic Standard. Our producer is Jessica Glaser. Our editor is Alejandra Salazar. Our engineer is Asia Pilar Simpson. Our technical director is Jacob Winick and our fact checker is Paul Durbin. Our team includes Eliza Smith, Roxanne Hylash, Ben Ben, Chloe Chang, Julia Dickerson, Tansika Sung Manivong and Whitney Pennington Rogers. Original music by Hans Dale Su and Alison Layton Brown.

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