Delanie Fischer chats with Leslie John, Harvard professor and author of Revealing: The Underrated Power of Oversharing, about the nuanced risks and rewards of undersharing versus oversharing in our lives. They explore how the choices we make about what to reveal — and what to withhold — can profoundly shape our health, relationships, and even our careers. Leslie also shares practical, research-backed strategies for becoming a more effective and intentional sharer.

Episode Highlights:

Impact of Secret-Keeping on Your IQ (+ How Undersharers Are Perceived)
3 Studies About the Pros & Cons of Undersharing vs. Oversharing
Transparency in Job Interviews: What Kind of Shares Works Best
Burned by Oversharing? 2 Questions to Ask Yourself
Discernment & Balance: What to Share, When, and With Whom

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Oversharing vs. Undersharing: How Revealing Too Much (or Too Little) Shapes Health, Relationships & Career with Leslie John