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January is not where you become a totally different person. January is how you decide how you're going to show up for the rest of the year. And so this blueprint video is all about how you can take advantage of that fresh January energy and motivation. I wanted to make this video because we can all relate to the feeling of a brand new year. January feels different. Everybody else is on the same journey. So you're also being peer pressured into working harder. And every single January you do, but then you find that you fall off. It's because January has this magical energy. So I wanted to make an entire blueprint video dedicated to how we can change, channel that energy, do it in the right way, and actually make sure it stays consistent. So these are all the things you need to consider and put into action instead of just going into January blindly trying to become a new person and setting new habits and goals like you usually do. No, I'm gonna break down the full strategy because if you get these first 31 days right, you are gonna be in a flow state for the rest of the year. In this video, in chapter one, we're gonna be going through breaking down the month of January, arg, most important chapter, so much detail there. And then chapter two, your January mindset shifts so you're actually doing it right and staying consistent. And finally, chapter number three, your January habits slash your homework. So all of the actions you need to start doing immediately. Since we're on the subject of New Year, new you, leveling up goals, staying accountable, tracking your progress, and manifesting everything you want that you guys have to check out. My website, self obsessedjournal.com because I have both manifesting and growth guided journals that I personally designed to help you on your journeys. I personally journal in both of these every single morning. You don't have to use both if you don't want to, but go and look at the website and look at the descriptions and the benefits and figure out what's right for you. Because I promise you, we already know journaling is going to level up your life. But these journals take it A step further, I made sure to design journals that don't already exist on the market and do everything that all the other guided journals don't. This gives you more space to write. This takes into consideration building a relationship with yourself. And it combines all the advice I've ever given you in my videos in one journal. Chapter number one, Breaking down the month. Now, we all look at a year's overview and set goals for the year, but can we actually specifically place where those goals are going to go? So what I love to do is looking at the 12 months in a year and actually breaking it down either month by month, season by season, or quarter by quarter. So my first question to you is, what's the theme for January? What do you want to be your main focus? Because if you have this long list of goals or a huge vision board, just like I do, it can feel a little bit confusing and overwhelming knowing what to start. Or if you just go in and try and juggle everything at the same time, which is impossible. A really good and efficient plan would be to assign one to two of your goals per month and just focus on it for that month. It will feel way more achievable because of that. You'll be more motivated, you'll feel better about yourself and more confident and accomplished. We love that. Or instead, you can just assign a few goals of the same group to each quarter. So maybe the first quarter of the year is all about your productivity and your work goals. Maybe summer is more so about your fitness goals and your health and so on. Once you've assigned this theme to January, it's really going to help you understand what you need to be doing week by week, day by day, what's going to be in your morning routine and your night routine. Maybe you adjust those routines per quarter or per month. This is really important for you to consider. Step number two. I want you to stop overthinking and overwhelming yourself with everything you need to get done in the next year or five years, and instead just think about what can you get done in the next five days or even in the next five hours? What can you really squeeze in and accomplish that's going to help you make significant moves and leaps to where you want to be? When you give yourself an infinite amount of time, your mind is going to take that and be like, I'm going to exactly spend that huge timeline getting this done. Think about it this way. When you were studying for exams and you knew it was due in the next day, that day before you were concentrating and you were getting the entire thing done because you know now there is a limited time assigned to get the task done, but when you were told about the assignment two months in advance, you didn't do anything about it. The same applies here with your goals. And also when I talk about what can you really squeeze in in the next five hours or five days. I'm not even just talking about productivity and hustle culture. That's literally just one part of your life. Even spending time with your friends is so productive and leads you to this bigger picture of you having lived a really happy, loving, fulfilled life. Think about the five hours in your evening you have after school or work. Could you meet up for a coffee with a friend for literally 30 minutes and just fill your cup in that way before you go home and do what you have to do with your self care or your homework? Looking at it that way, instead of thinking I have a whole day to try and get this one work task done, but instead thinking hour by hour, I wonder how many things I could accomplish. You're going to be moving like a superhero. Step number three. Understand it's not about looking at the goals, it's all about looking at the steps. So I want you to have a think about all of the goals you have for 2026 and then next to each one write down or think about what are all the micro steps that I to accomplish in order to achieve that goal, even on your vision board. This is one thing I'm doing for my vision board this year. I'm not putting the big goal of making a certain amount of money, for example, I'm putting all of the steps that I need to do in order to fulfill it. For example, investing a higher amount, starting that new business or project I want to do, and so on. If you do it this way, you are going to feel so much more accomplished because you'll look at the day to day routine and actions that will inevitably get you the goal and it will be like, I could totally do that today, I can action that literally right now. But when you do this huge goal, it's going to take you a year to do. You're going to feel bad about yourself, you're going to feel hopeless and you won't feel motivated to do it. Once you've understood what all of these little micro steps are, I want you to put it into a habit tracker, whatever app that you use to organize your schedule or your calendar so it's a reoccurring reminder of what you need to do every single day. That way your vision board becomes this effortlessly flowing system where already the actions and the routines you have on a day to day basis is helping you get there without you even having to think about it or plan for it. And one step further you can take with this. This is what I've been doing with my Habit tracker over the last year or so is habit stacking it. So in my Habit app I don't just have read or exercise, I put every habit with a plus sign. I combine two habits in each habit tracker section. So it's oh, every single morning when I put my LED mask on that is adjoined with reading a few pages of a financial literacy book because that's one of the goals to getting to the amount of money I've put on my vision board. Or every day when I've had my lunch, I'm then gonna go on a 20 minute walk to get my steps in because that achieves my exercise goal. And while I'm on the walk, I'm gonna listen to a podcast about marketing skills because that's really what I wanted to accomplish this year. And when you do it like that, you remember every single day when I had my these are the two habits I need to do right after it. And then you don't forget. It's like this easy routine. Just like as soon as you wake up, you brush your teeth. Okay besties, before we dive right back in, I need to put you onto something I was checking out. Recently the Financial Conduct Authority has launched this new cool interactive tool on their Investsmart website and it's called the Hype Type Revealer and it basically tells you what your investing hype type is. And obviously I had to take it because self awareness is my whole thing. It's my whole brand. I genuinely thought I would come out as the calm one, like, you know, super unbothered. Just with my Matcha all the time, does all my research, I'm never rushed or chaotic. But no, I was wrong. My hype type that was revealed was informed, kind of did drag me a little bit because while I do do my research, I am 100% that girl that will like check the group chat and straight away think, wait, should I jump on this before actually checking any reliable sources. But that's exactly why I love the FCA Hype Type Revealer because it literally feels like you're in a group chat, but it makes you pause and ask yourself, am I being calm, informed or rational right now? Which I think is so important. Plus it doesn't promise to turn anyone into this investing genius. It just helps you understand how hype can influence you so then you get to become a smarter investor. So if you want your moment of truth, find out your hype type on the Hype Type Revealer on the FCA Investsmart website. Link is in the show notes. So go discover which type of hype girly you are. Step number four, you should be setting monthly goals that could be independent from your bigger goals or could be connected to the big vision board goals you have for 2026. We know that. But for January specifically, because you've got all that new energy, because it's the first month of the year, I want you to focus on the fact that this is all about who you want to be on 31st of January versus who you were on the 1st. It's all about that transformation. And that transformation that happens all boils down to how you spent each of the four weeks in the first month of the year. And of course, that really links back to what your theme of January is. And this is going to look different for everybody. For me, the priority for January is building up my workout tolerance. I have worked out very consistently over the last few years. However, I've never been the girl that works out every single day. I consistently do it three or four times a week, but I want to see if I can push my limit. I want to see if I can try something new and actually stick with it and just go a little bit harder. Harder by doing it every single day without fail. So January is all about that. If I love it by the 31st day, amazing. And I can continue it. And I would have formed it as a regular habit by then so it will be easier to continue for the rest of the year. And because that's my goal for the month of January, then week by week I'm building up a plan to slowly up the frequency each week, add in a few different exercises I've never done before, and then it's this slow, gradual process that by the 31st I would have accomplished. See how I didn't just say, by the first of January I'm going to be a totally different person and do things differently. How? I've never done that before. No, it's a slow, gradual process so you can actually keep up that momentum, not get burnt out or frustrated with yourself when you fail or tumble. Those 30 or 31 days gives you enough time to see how it's gonna work out and how it's gonna affect you. Plus, in the span of 30 days you're gonna have work and social events and school and things to do. And it allows you to see how that goal pans out in all different sorts of scenarios. Your bad days, your good days, your busy days. That way, by the end of the month, you're well on your way to establishing that goal throughout your life, because you gradually did it throughout the month. But also, you have enough data and information on how it's gon and where you need to squeeze it in and the right time and way you need to accomplish that step every day. Okay, so we've spoken a lot about what it looks like to break down a goal. So to finish this chapter, I wanted to give you guys a list on what you need to be doing week by week, day by day, and month by month to become the best version of yourself. So every single day, you need one. A physical win. This looks like walking, workout classes, weightlifting, sports, swimming, whatever you want it to be. You also need one mental win, for example, journaling, reading, or writing. And you need a spiritual win. This could be meditating, manifesting, or whatever works for you. So every single day, when you're thinking about your morning routine or what you do in the afternoon, or even your evening routine, I want you to take this into consideration. What is my physical win of the day, my spiritual win of the day, and my mental win of the day? If you want to take it a step further, like I do, then there's also the fourth win of the day, which is your routine win of the day. It's taking my supplements and spending quality time with my cats in the morning and evening. Some extra healthy habits I do every single morning and evening that super catered to me is choosing a really good outfit, like actually putting effort into my outfit and the accessories that go with it, because that truly makes me feel alive. It's something I'm so passionate about, so I have to make sure I have time for that every day because I just feel like a 2.0 version of myself every single time I dress good for the day. And another step I've been doing all throughout this year is romanticized morning silence. Waking up, spending time with my cats, working out, doing things slowly, silently, not rushing straight into work. That has been a game changer. So I have my physical win, my mental win, my spiritual win. A lot of those are factored into my morning routine anyway. And then I take it a step further by having a bunch of extra healthy habits like lymphatic drainage. They just take it a step further in my morning Routine. That's every day. Now this is what I think you need to accomplish every single week. What I'm about to say are purely examples. Please research it yourself. Think about what's going to serve you best for your life and your goals specifically. So every week you need one social wing. For example, going to a book club, having a coffee with your friend, a call with your family, going on a date night night every week you also need a fear zone win. So trying a new class, mastering a new skill, posting new content, speaking to somebody new, or just doing something you have been doing every single day but in a new, different way. Thirdly, you need a hobby. Win every single week. So whether you do art, knitting, calligraphy, make time for it at least once a week. And lastly, every single week you need a self love win. Of course, doing your shadow work, doing your journaling, keeping your promises to yourself, giving your five love languages back to yourself. So if it's quality time like me, it could be taking yourself on a solo date once a week. If it's acts of service, it could be doing your Sunday reset and planning ahead for your goals and your schedule every week. Inner child work, spending time with your star, developing your relationship with yourself. Love it. And lastly, I believe every single month you need to achieve these three things. One, your admin finances day. This is where you're sorting out your taxes, how much you're investing, where your salary is, going into different savings accounts, for example, or just getting back to certain emails and just sorting out the whole admin of your life. 2. Your deep clean reset day. Now, every single week or every single day you should be cleaning your home anyway. But it's so great every single month to do the deeper stuff that you never quite look at, like reorganizing your clothes, your drawers just to make sure that every six months to a year you don't have all this clutter that's built up and is stressing you out. And lastly, every single month you need to have your evaluating process and setting your new goals for next month. Period. So this is one day every single month where you look back and reflect on how the month's gone and actually figure out what were your wins, what were your losses, why did those losses happen? How can you bounce back from that next month and not repeat the same patterns? What were your wins that you can feel really good about and actually hype yourself up for them because that is equally as important and then also taking a little bit of time that same day to think about. Now how am I Going to do things differently next month. What are my goals specifically for next month? What's the theme for next month? Chapter 2 January mindset shifts mindset shift number one. January is a controlled environment. But the rest of the year and your life won't be. The reason that you end up being the most perfect version of yourself in January is because it's easy. Everyone's creating content about it, everybody else is doing it. All of your friends aren't drinking or partying, they're working towards their goals. You have the fresh start and motivation of a brand new year, and that's why it sticks throughout the month. But real consistency and transformation is all about how it sticks on your worst days, not the perfect ones. The systems that survive your chaos, your busyness, your pms, your bad moods, rainy mornings and unexpected life drama. Because if your habits are reliant on everything in your life and the rest of the day going smoothly, it's going to crash and burn. All the novelty and motivation of January just makes you do too much. You think you can juggle it all at once and that's why it lasts for a few weeks. And then you wonder why you can't get back to that state again. And that is exactly why I made my video the 30 day glow up Plan before January. Because if you start all of your goals beforehand and you have all of these systems in place, you'll be in a much more stable position to actually stay consistent with them. So the lesson here is don't set goals at your peak perfect self. Set them as your average self, who you are right now. And that doesn't mean you're going to stay your average self for the rest of your life. You're going to keep growing and transforming as you're building up these consistent phases block by block. But what that's dependent on is actually being accountable and acknowledging, where am I falling down at the moment? What are my weaknesses? What do I keep struggling with? What do I keep putting off? And how can I build in systems that reflect that and fix those problems right now? AKA what does the Monday sleep deprived, 3pm overthinking with PMS cramps do? What can she sustain? What does she need to get through the day and actually thrive? That is your new goal baseline. Because January is not about becoming a new person or becoming perfect. It's about becoming more consistent. Because that's what we fail on year on year. That's why we have to keep setting new goals in the first place, because we couldn't sustain the old stuff. We set for ourselves. So we think January is going to be this new turning point, but it never quite is. Ask yourself what can you do on even your worst day? What is like the bare minimum day? What is the bare minimum morning routine? Of course you're always going to aim to get it all done, but on the days that you're really struggling, what are the few things you can tick off that are going to give you the biggest results and biggest return on investment? What habits are going to help you survive your stress? What system are you going to have in place that's going to help you rebound on the days that you don't even want to get out of bed and you need to have those in place ready? What identity do you need to adopt that's going to help you be disciplined and work even when you're feeling low energy and low mood Mindset shift number two, you cannot become your future self while still remaining loyal to your past self. Now I've made an in depth video before on the power of a subconscious mind. And the great thing about January is it helps your mind be a little bit more flexible. Your mind is already a little bit more open minded. You have been thinking so much about change, you have so much messaging from the media and everything you're consuming about change because everyone's on the same page. That you have all this novelty and this idea of this seasonal reset that's kind of helping you along in the process of your brain rewiring itself yourself. So you need to take advantage of this. If it is now easier to rewire your subconscious mind which holds all of the ideas of who you've ever been, including all of your limiting beliefs and all of the secret little ways you sabotage yourself without ever really trying to or realizing this is the place to fix it. Because you're never going to meet those goals or level up into the new version of yourself if you're still responding to situations the way your old self did, if you still have the same habits and morning routine that your old self did, because all of those things got you your old self resolution results. You cannot try and get something different by doing the same thing over and over again. And this links into my third mindset shift, which is January is the most powerful time to quantum leap because of this. Because now you have all of these signals telling your brain it's time for a new timeline. If you don't know what quantum leaping is, it's about collapsing all of the distance and all of the time between where you are right now. And where your ideal self is, all of the emotional change, the behavioral change, the actions, the mindset, the identity. And the most efficient way to achieve a quantum leap is when you stop rehearsing your old inner narrative, your old story about, well, I've been like this and I've always been quiet or I've never been able to procrastinate and I'm not a writer, I don't have those skills. You step away from that story, you abandon it, you leave it in 2025 and instead you build up your new story. Now what I really recommend for this is actually scanning all of your goals. I hope that you've written a list in your phone or on a piece of paper somewhere, or looking at your vision board and then thinking, what is the identity I need to be able to achieve all of these results. And then I want you to write a script in your phone. You could even use AI to help you if you need to. But this is a script that I want you to read every single morning until it sticks. Because your brain is more likely to rewire itself. The more it gets a repeated idea fed into it, the more repetitive thoughts you have. That literally creates your reality, your inner dialogue, your self image, your self concept. Because as we all know, you don't manifest what you want, you manifest who you are. Quantum leaping. Isn't this like magical phenomenon? It's literally just repetition. It's the simple shift from rehashing your past and everything that happened in it, on dwelling on all the things that went wrong, to mentally visiting your future self daily. Thinking about how she behaves, how she acts, where she goes, what she does, what she invests in, how she spends her time, what she wants, what she thinks about, and then channeling that behavior today to close the gap. And finally, chapter number three, self obsessed habits to install in January, AKA your homework chapter. These are all of the practical actions I want you to start implementing today. To actually put in all the advice I gave you in this video into action. So you actually changed from watching this video and this wasn't a complete waste of your time. Homework task number one, the 1% rule. Essentially all this means is stop trying to reinvent your life overnight. Most importantly, stop trying to be a totally different person on January 1st, because it's not going to last that long. Approach January as the 30 day plan for you to improve yourself or your life. 1% every single day. By January 31st, you will have significant improvement and significant change and it would have been stable and slow and achievable which will make you feel really good about yourself throughout the process. That will build this consistent and disciplined habit that you can then continue for the rest of the year. Homework Test Number two Stop connecting with the old version of yourself. And in order to do this, you first need to build awareness on what are the actions or the mindset or the lifestyle that makes you your old self. What are the things that you know you need to leave behind and grieve and mourn in order to become a new version of yourself. Maybe it's to stop procrastinating while you work. Maybe it's to stop working in bed because it's so comfortable. Maybe it's to stop being antisocial and actually build a really nice community. Maybe it's stop looking at your phone first thing in the morning and actually get out of bed earlier. Once you identify what these habits are, you can build out a list or just a mindset where you know as soon as I engage in this habit, I'm going backwards. I'm staying exactly where I have always been. As soon as I do the opposite, I start building my newest self, which is no scrolling in the morning. Instead I'm right out of bed or no spending all weekend at home doing nothing but spiraling. Instead I'm gonna go out, meet new people or grow my relationships with my friends. Homework task number three build your bare minimum routine. Even just doing 50% of it on a bad day is still you actioning your goals and your self love just by keeping a few of those promises to yourself. Every single day is such a huge win. So this is about building out maybe three to five things you're gonna do. Even on your worst days, when you're on your period, when you don't feel good, when you're not productive or you're super, what you're going to do. It could be drink a liter of water first thing in the morning, go outside on a walk and get that sunlight. Do your skincare, do your journaling. Just like that. You've already made such great progress with these habits that are actually really contributing to your wellness. Wellness is easy and wellness is free. Homework task number four Create more than you consume. I love social media and I love consuming the right things. It truly helps me. I literally start my day with scrolling on social media apps or Pinterest because I've catered it towards my mindset and what I want to consume because it literally educates me and helps me. So I definitely think it has its role. However, you definitely need to be creating more than spending time on your phone. It will help you with your output. It will help you grow as a person. It will help you discover new things about yourself. It will make you more interesting, it will make you a more well rounded person. It will mean that you're actually living life instead of just watching other people live theirs. Online creation raises your frequency. Pure consumption depletes you. And finally Homework Task number five do your identity pack. I want you to get a piece of paper out and write a list. And at the top of this list the title is the Version of Me that Does Not Enter February because it's all well and good thinking about all of your great goals for January. But I want you to kind of build out this vision of the new version of you that will be living in February. Because if you get everything right in January, your reward for February is you don't even know who's living that life because you would have made enough transformation and change by then and there is nothing more motivating than that. But in order to do this you need to list every thought, pattern, behavior, emotional loop, standard self concept, bad habits that you are done with that you need to sacrifice in order to make that vision come true. And that's going to help you be accountable and actually stay on the right path. And that brings us to the end of this video. 2026 is right around the corner and I'm so so excited for you guys. Please comment down below. Let me know what was your favorite piece of advice from this video that you are going to take and make January the best of month and therefore 2026 the best year of your life. We got this. So much more new New Year content and advice and level up videos are coming your way so be sure to subscribe and stay tuned. And also before you go, check out all the links below in the description. Because I have so many resources, so many tools, so many products that are going to help you on your journey. They have all been specifically designed with you guys and your self growth in mind. Good luck, I appreciate you and I'll see you in the next one in 2026. Bye.