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feeling disconnected from yourself and tired of second-guessing everything you say, do, and want? in this video, i’m talking about how people-pleasing, fear of rejection, and old survival patterns can quietly pull you away from who you really are, until you barely recognize your own voice. we’re getting into why authenticity can feel so hard, how social media, relationships, and the need to be liked can shape a version of you that feels safe but not fully true, and what it actually looks like to come back to yourself with more honesty, self-trust, and confidence.♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:02:34 Chapter 1: Why You Lost Yourself in the First Place (The Diagnosis Before the Cure)08:18 Chapter 2: What Authenticity Actually Means (It's Not What You Think)15:06 Chapter 3: Homework and Actionable Steps🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:Shop my Abbott Lyon Collectionuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALPODCAST INSTAGRAMLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

hey girlies, i lost the outro clip during filming, so that’s why the ending is a little abrupt 😭 but i hope you guys still enjoyed the video. let me know your favorite part in the comments 💌becoming the IT girl starts with realizing you were never missing “it” you just needed to stop searching for it in trends, attention, or other people’s validation. in this video, we’re talking about what it really takes to become her through mindset shifts, self trust, and the daily habits that shape the way you move, present yourself, and create your life. this is for the girl who knows she is meant for more, is outgrowing old versions of herself, and is learning how to stop shrinking, stop trying to fit in, and fully step into her own energy 🩷♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction01:18 Chapter 1: Redefining the "It Girl" (The New Mindset)08:22 Chapter 2: The Transformation🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:Shop my Abbott Lyon Collectionuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALPODCAST INSTAGRAMLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

watch this when you want to give up and need a reminder that this difficult season of your life is not where your story ends. in this episode, we’re talking about feeling stuck, unmotivated, behind, or like nothing is working even though you’re trying your best. this is for the girl in a slump or in the messy middle who wants to keep going, trust her journey, and stay committed to becoming the woman she knows she can be. if you’ve been feeling discouraged, let this be the video you return to when you need perspective, comfort, and a push to keep going.♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction01:06 Closest to Change03:15 The Messy Middle04:24 Brain vs Comfort05:23 Hindsight is Clarity06:22 Future You Begs to Not Give Up07:29 Nothing Is Permanent09:00 Outgrowing Yourself09:33 You Are Doing Better Than You Think10:55 Baby Steps Only12:05 Future Self Thanks You14:50 Final Reminders🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:Shop my Abbott Lyon Collectionuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALPODCAST INSTAGRAMLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

hi girlies! guess what... it’s my 400th video! 🎉 i’m so grateful for your continued support and love through the years ❤️ and since you have also come a long way in your self-love journey, give yourself a pat on the back for your consistency because that’s a big deal. to celebrate my 400th video, we’re talking fake friends and why they’re not always obvious. i’m breaking down the signs of toxic friendships and jealous friends like constant comparison, “i could never” comments, disrespect disguised as jokes, gossip, and the weird energy when you’re winning. if you’re outgrowing friends or going through a friendship breakup, i’ll share how to protect your peace with self-love, boundaries, self-respect, aligned values, and slowing down who you trust because you deserve friendships that feel safe, supportive, and aligned with the woman you’re becoming.♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction01:48 Chapter 1: Signs You Have a Fake Friend09:23 Chapter 2: Getting the F*ck Over It14:04 Chapter 3: Protecting Yourself20:12 Final Reminders🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:Shop my Abbott Lyon Collectionuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALPODCAST INSTAGRAMLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Sign up today for your $1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today at http://shopify.com/AU💐 LAST CHANCE TO ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters!AMZif you’ve been feeling stuck, here are 8 harsh truths i wish someone told me sooner. in today’s video, we’re breaking down mindset, limiting beliefs, and why the version of “reality” you’re living in is often shaped by old stories and identity patterns. i’m also sharing why discomfort, embarrassment, and imposter syndrome are actually signs you’re growing, and how choosing self-respect over people-pleasing and family expectations is what builds real confidence and higher standards. if your glow up or personal growth feels stagnant, this video is for you 🤍♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction01:37 Harsh Truth #1: Dating Is On You03:54 Harsh Truth #2: Reality Is A Choice05:58 Harsh Truth #3: Run Toward Fear07:52 Harsh Truth #4: Alignment Over Popularity11:53 Harsh Truth #5: Adversity Has Purpose13:42 Harsh Truth #6: Pick Your Struggle16:20 Harsh Truth #7: Self-Love Sets Limits18:20 Harsh Truth #8: Stop Living For Others22:14 Final Encouragement🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Sign up today for your $1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today at http://shopify.com/AU💐 LAST CHANCE TO ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters!AMZit’s that time again, girlies!!! 💌✨ girl talk: valentine’s edition!!! in today’s episode, we’re having a cozy one-on-one bestie chat where i’m answering your juiciest dating questions, relationship dilemmas, situationship scenarios, and more. plus, i’m sharing self-love tips, confidence mindset shifts, and actionable steps you can actually apply to your self-love journey all year round. so grab your favorite beverage, a little snack, get comfy and let’s get into it. 🤍♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction: Happy Valentine's!00:55 Relationship & Dating19:46 Self-Love28:52 Final Thoughts🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:Epidemic Sound*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today at http://shopify.co.uk/Sign up today for your $1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today at http://shopify.com/AU💐 ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters!WTS | AMZdating gets easier when you’re already anchored in self-love ✨ in this video, we’re talking about healing old patterns, rewiring your beliefs about love, and dating from confidence — not craving. we’ll cover high standards, staying loyal to your solo life, and the shift from auditioning to observing (because you’re not here to convince anyone to choose you) 💐♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction to Self-Love Journey03:44 Step 1: Learning that Love is Safe06:17 Step 2: Condition Your Mind08:44 Step 3: Rewiring Your Belief12:38 Step 4: Self-love Is an Ongoing Process14:53 Step 5: Revisit Your Expectations and Standards18:44 Step 6: Find the Balance With Your Independence20:07 Step 7: Be Prepared to be Disappointed24:15 Step 8: Observe Instead of Auditioning for Love26:03 Conclusion🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:Epidemic Sound*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Sign up today for your $1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today at http://shopify.com/AU💐 PRE-ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters!WTS | AMZself-obsession isn’t selfish— it’s the foundation of confidence, self-love, and emotional discipline ✨ in this video, we’re talking about what it really means to be healthily self-obsessed and how embracing this energy can help you stop people pleasing, build self-trust, and finally raise your standards. i’m sharing the mindset shifts that helped me protect my peace, regulate my emotions, and glow up from the inside out, along with daily habits for self-love, tips to romanticize your life, and how to set boundaries without guilt. if you’ve been craving feminine energy routines, a confidence reset, or practical personal growth advice, this is your guide to becoming your most magnetic, self-assured self. whether you’ve been feeling disconnected or overstimulated, this episode will help you reclaim your energy, realign with your future self, and step fully into your glow-up era 💌♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:01:17 Introduction: Are You Self-Obsessed?02:54 Chapter 1: Redefining Self-Obsession18:12 Chapter 2: Practical Ways to Be Self-Obsessed in Your Daily Life27:11 Chapter 3: Homework🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:Epidemic Sound*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Shopify UK: Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at shopify.co.uk Shopify AU: Sign up today for your $1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at shopify.com/AU 💐 PRE-ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters!WTS | AMZ2026 is the year you will become untouchable ✨ in this episode, we’re talking about what it really means to be healthily self-obsessed. i’m sharing the mindset shifts, self-love habits, and emotional regulation tools that helped me stop caring what people think, stop overreacting, and start prioritizing my future self, peace, and power. if you’ve been giving everyone access to you while abandoning yourself, this is your sign to become the main character for 2026.♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Reality Check: Are You Truly Untouchable?00:48 The Key to Self-Leadership and Growth03:39 Defining Untouchable: Beyond Dating04:40 Tips for Becoming Untouchable07:28 Resilience and Self-Protection10:32 The Power of Self-Love and Self-Obsession16:21 Setting High Standards and Boundaries22:57 Final Thoughts and Encouragement🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:Epidemic Sound*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!

Learn a new language and get up to 60% off your subscription at http://babbel.com/SELFOBSESSED Shopify UK: Sign up today for your £1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at shopify.co.uk Shopify AU: Sign up today for your $1 a month trial with Shopify and start selling today for at shopify.com/AU 💐 PRE-ORDER MY LIMITED EDITION BOOK: “Buy Yourself the Damn Flowers” — with 2 new chapters!WTS | AMZwelcome to your 2026 glow-up mindset reset ✨ in this episode, we’re talking about the subtle ways you self-sabotage without realizing it, and how to shift into future-self energy in a way that’s actually sustainable. i’m sharing the mindset shifts i swear by whenever i’m rebuilding my routine, my confidence, and my overall energy for a new season. this is for the girl who’s ready to stop waiting, stop second-guessing herself, and start moving like the version of her that already has the life she wants. you’re going to love this one 🤍♡ WHAT’S IN THIS VIDEO:00:00 Introduction04:33 Silent Mistake #1: Stop “Trying” to Be Something You Already Are07:46 Silent Mistake #2: Acting With the Most Logical Next Step10:50 Silent Mistake #3: Only Acting When You “Feel” Confident14:13 Silent Mistake #4: Basing Emotions on Today15:54 Silent Mistake #5: Adding Your Way Into a Better Life Without Subtracting Anything18:36 Silent Mistake #6: Missing Things or Feeling Nostalgic19:59 Silent Mistake #7: Accepting Resistance and Difficulty in Your Life22:14 Silent Mistake #8: Trying to Fix Symptoms Instead of the System23:46 Silent Mistake #9: Addiction to Routine25:41 Silent Mistake #10: Not Scheduling Friendships27:50 Conclusion🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:SHOP MY ABBOTT LYON COLLECTIONuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 — buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSPODCAST INSTAGRAMMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: tam@mvetalent.comMusic Used:Epidemic Sound*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!