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Remember this, when picking out toys, it's important to see something that makes you feel good. You want to like the color, you want to like the way it looks. You want to like what it does. Like there's a little bit more to it. You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. I know. I can't believe it either. The holidays are upon us and that means it's time to give gifts to all the people that we love in our life. And every year for many, many years, we have done the Sex with Emily gift guide, which I love and my team does a lot of work on this. Cause we really wanna find the top gifts, the top pleasure essentials that you can give to everyone on your list. Listen, I get it though. Buying gifts can be challenging and overwhelming. In fact, I would say it's one of my biggest pain points in life. I really wanna get people the perfect gift. I try to take notes on my phone throughout the year if I think of something and then often I'm like that person. I don't have anything for them me out. But what I have found that whenever I have given the gift of pleasure, a vibrator, a lube, you know, just depending on whoever the person is in our life, everybody is very happy to receive something. We also have stuff on the list this year that isn't necessarily sex related but could be great for couples. Even your parents, even your grandparents. We don't discriminate here. Please rate Interview Sex with Emily wherever you listen to the show. It just helps get the show out to more people. And it only takes a few seconds. You can do it right now. You can also find me on Instagram, YouTube, YouTube, TikTok X, Facebook. All Sex with Emily before we dive into the episode, if you haven't heard the news, I have to tell you about my brand new membership Community Smart sx. It is officially live and I've had a blast the last few weeks because this membership is everything I've ever dreamed of and more. We're talking exclusive content, interactive workshops with top minds in sexual health. There's polls and so much more all made for the membership community. But honestly, my favorite part is the community. It's a safe space where like minded people support each other. They're sharing experiences, they're breaking down all the taboos around sex and intimacy. It's truly empowering. So if you're ready to really bring more pleasure into your sex life and take the steps. Smart SX is for you. So join the pleasure revolution today. Just head over to sex with emily.com click on the membership tab or head straight to sex with emily.com smart SX all right everyone. Enjoy this episode. Skincare you sip. Here's why I'm hooked. A few months ago I started sipping Peaks Radiant Skin Duo and wow. My skin looked brighter, clearer, more hydrated that glow unreal. And get this, I didn't change a single product on my shelf. Just added two sachets and the results showed up on my face. Sun Goddess Matcha is ceremonial grade packed with antioxidants that help firm, brighten and support clear skin. And yes, it support gut health too, which is so tied to how your skin looks it's even quadruple toxins screened. Then there's be fountain my daily hydration. Go to it smooths fine lines, deeply hydrates and gives you that plump skin glow with zero sugar or weird additives. I drink Matcha in the morning, BT in the afternoon. Easy, effective and it works from the inside out. And for a limited time. For Sex with Emily listeners, peak is offering 20% of the off the Radiant Skin Duo plus a free starter kit including a rechargeable frother and glass beaker. When you shop, visit peaklife.com Dr. Emily and use code EMILY20. Here's to healthy glowing skin from within. So I just think buying gifts are challenging for me. I put a lot of pressure on myself. I actually just bought a book called like Giftology or something that I read about. I think it's called Giftology because I just want to understand the science of giving gifts. I'm in that home mode right now. But again, I've never given anyone something from this list that they were not happy about. Just saying. And I think we can all agree that we all want more pleasure this season, don't you? I know I do. So I'm going to make the challenge of shopping one step easier for you with my highly anticipated annual Holiday Gift guide. And here's a fact I want to share with you. Research from the American Psychological association or the APA found that givers experience more happiness from giving gifts than receivers do from receiving them. Unless your love language is gifts, because then you probably receive a lot of love that way. And I think there's a lot to be said for like nailing it. Finding someone the perfect gift. That does feel good. And I think that is relatable. I do love finding the perfect gift, and it does give Me, joy. And I'm just someone who's like, I love a gift. It's a nice gesture, but it doesn't necessarily raise my joy or happiness level. I think I always just, I feel grateful, but I don't need anything. I need connection. I need pleasure, friendship. But you want to give someone something that they definitely are going to use for sure. I think that's part of the thing I obsess about. I'm like, are they going to use this? What if they already have one? What if they don't like the color? What if they can't return it? And so I just lean into pleasure. Lots of pleasure. This is a list of my favorite pleasure products that range from lifestyle, health, tech. And it wouldn't be my gift guy without sexual pleasure. Right. So this guide is accessible to everyone. Regardless of your budget. There is a wide range of products that are perfect for you and your loved ones. And get this. According to the National Retail Federation, the average American consumer plans to spend $875 on gifts. That's a lot of money. How much you spend does not equate to pleasure. You can buy a little bullet vibe and someone's going to be very happy for years to come. Today I'm discussing some of my favorite pleasure filled gifts for each person in your life. But before I get into the gift guide, these are some questions that led me into my gift guide this year. This is from Cindy in Indiana. She said, hey, Emily. Longtime listener. I'm super ashamed to admit this, but I hate giving my husband oral. I know I'm an awful partner, but he just does not taste great. I've had oral with past partners. It's been manageable. My husband's taste is different. What should I do? I totally understand that it's really hard to give our partners feedback around these kind of things, especially around taste or hygiene. We just sometimes don't say anything. We just think, okay, you know what I would rather, I don't think this is conscious, but we think I'd rather just suffer through it than embarrass my partner, make them feel bad. But I'm telling you, there are ways to have these conversations with our partner so they don't feel bad about it. And it's more like, I think you should know that there is a taste. You didn't always taste this way. But now I'm noticing there's a change because I'm gonna guess that this hasn't been going on forever. Cindy, usually it's a change in our diet foods. We're eating or not eating, we're not exercising, we're not sweating enough. Could be medications we're taking. There's a lot that goes into it. And what I like to recommend here, along with the conversation you could have with them, is the Pop Star Volume and Taste Supplement. This is a great option. You probably heard Dr. Josh Gonzalez on the show. He was talking about this product. It uses bromelain, which is the chemical found in pineapples, to improve your, your taste. But not only that, but also the volume. As we age or certain foods we eat, there's a lot of things that can go into it. But I don't have a penis. But I've heard that when you have a penis, it's thrilling. When you have a large load, I'll just say it like you love when you see it shoot across the room. Like that's important to you. As you get older, that might change. It might just be like, like a little bit fizzles out and that doesn't feel as good. So Pop Star can do both of those. And from now until December 15th, you can get a three pack of pop Star Volume and Taste supplement for only 90. You can use code EMILY for 20% off. That's a great gift. You can buy it for yourself, too. Remember, nothing wrong with giving the gift of pleasure to yourself. Here's another question. This is from Brianna from New York. She said, hey, Emily, I've listened to the podcast for the past three years and I've used my first ever sex toy because of you. And now I'm trying to get my girlfriends into the sex toy game as well, but I don't know how to get them into it. Oh, yeah. You know, I still know those people, too. In fact, I just came back from a retreat and there were women there who had been with their partners for a long time. And they're like, no, we just, we don't need it. I have a lot of pleasure. I don't need it. But I don't think, like, you need a vibrator. No one needs a vibrator. You're gonna live. You've lived this long without one. But probably sharing your experience, Briana with them and letting them know why you like the toy and how it feels good to you, what it does for you, how you use it with a partner and why that's so fun. I mean, again, I've said this a lot, but your partners will also enjoy the sex toy. It'll feel great on their bodies. Here's a great toy that I Love. I've talked about jaejoo for almost 20 years. I love all Jaejoo products. Those were the first toys that had that smooth silicone that feels so good. And they have this deep, rumbly motors that they use in other toys. But the ily. I love you, Pebble. It's perfect for on the go pleasure. It's discreet, it's fun, it's quiet, fits in your bag. And if you just want to explore more of your own pleasure or your partner's, it's amazing. What I love. This is a great one for clitoral stimulation, which is why it's great. Use it during penetrative intercourse or just on your own. So if you want the Iowa pebble, buy now with 30% off using code EMILY30. And if you're just starting out with toys, I often recommend getting something like a little pebble vibe. Because sometimes it can be overwhelming to get one of the more larger vibrators with all the bells and whistles because they just haven't started before. This is a great starter vibe. And if you don't feel comfortable picking out a vibrator for your friend. I got it. You can also get them a gift card. You can buy that@sexwithemily.com at our shop site because then they could peruse and find something that they love. Remember this, when picking out toys, it's important to see something that makes you feel good. You wanna like the color, you wanna like the way it looks, you wanna like what it does like. There's a little bit more to it than that. So gift cards also great. But everybody has always loved everything I've given them. From Jaejoo. Just saying. Next question. This is from James in Montana. Hey, Emily. I've been dating my girlfriend for three weeks now and I'm looking for something fun to introduce something naughty into our sex life. No sex toys yet. I think it's too early. Thank you. Well, if you just started dating three weeks ago, I mean, this isn't me because it was me. I'd be like, here's all my vibes and my lubes. Let's fucking go. But James, if you are looking to improve it early on, I recommend our guilty pleasures couples card game. I love these card games that ask you questions that you wouldn't think to ask somebody about their life, their sex life. That's. It's really about a lot about their intimate life and just like their personal life, this is how you get to know somebody. Sometimes we can't think of the things that we want to know about each other. But I can tell you, I just got back from a teaching in a seminar and I had everybody actually practice asking for what they want. They took a moment, they really practice thinking about their fantasies and intimacy and they had these really powerful conversations and some of them were with their partners for 10, 15 years and they said it was like a next level conversation that they never had had before about the specifics. So this could be a great way to get started. It's great for date night. You know, pull a card, ask each other questions and then you'll find out. Then you'll be able to know like, are we sexually compatible? Where do we want to take this? What's next on our list? It's like really fun foreplay. I love a card game. So that is our guilty pleasures coupled card game. And if you want to check out the gift guide and you want to read it for yourself, you have to check it out@sexwithemily.com giftguide. We also linked it in the show notes. We'll be right back after a quick message from our sponsors. So don't go away. Stocking stuffers. Now. You know, I've said for years that size isn't a thing. It doesn't matter how big anything is, especially your gift. You can put something into the stocking. Okay? So it doesn't mean more pleasure if it's bigger. Remember that too. These are some mini stocking stuffers. Okay? These are super fun. The Dame massage oil candle. I love a massage candle. Massage candle is looks like a regular candle, but it's not because it's made of a massage oil. You actually burn it. You light it, you let it burn for like 20 minutes and then it turns into the most like luxurious warm oil you can pour over a partner's body. It is so fun. I also love Via Hilove gummies and Vape bundle. I don't think I've ever experienced a company that makes cannabis that everybody loves. I give these to everybody. The High Love gummies. All my friends, if I go to party, I don't bring wine. I bring like a handful of high level libido gummies. They come in these little packs too, but you can also get the bottle. And I took them to a party recently and everybody had them and they were like, this was the best end of our life. So anyway, this is a very fun gift. You get their gummies and you get the vape funnel. If you're 21 and over, head to viahemp.com to shop for their huge holiday sale. For a limited time buy is offering up to 25 off site wide plus up to 50 off select items and bundle. And if you're hearing this ad post sale you can still save by using code Emily for 15 off. That's V I I A H E M P.com viahemp.com Take your passion and pleasure to a whole new level with high love from Via Hemp. All right, Morgasm CBD infused lube and Morgasm O lube. These are just perfect for increasing sensitivity and pleasure. They have CBD in them and so if you're someone with pain, someone who's not orgasming as easily as you want to, you want more blood flow is the gift for you, your partner, for everyone. More lube is the best. I think there should be a lube on every nightstand and you can never have too much lube in my opinion. And I have to tell you that lube is a game changer for any sexual situation. The more we use lube, the more pleasure we have. We might not always be as wet as we want. Our wetness level changes different times a month. And so if you just have lube right there, you add it each and every time, you will have more pleasure. So and Morgasm, it says it in the name. Need I say more? So those are three of my mini stocking stuffers but for the rest of them you can check out sexwithemily.com giftguide Next up, wellness. You know how I feel about our wellness. It's so important to take care of ourselves but our wellness is our sexual wellness. Like the more we take care of ourselves overall it's going to impact our sexual wellness and vice versa. We can't separate them. We can't silo that. So I am super, super passionate about you taking care of yourself and your sexual health. So here's some wellness products that we put in the gift guide I think you're going to enjoy. So we have the womeness marry and bright holiday gift. I love women S. They were actually the first women's like sexual health perimenopause menopause brand in Target a few years ago. They are one of the leaders in the space. They have their cult favorite let's neck and it helps to instantly tighten and smooth. It has this like roller on it that you roll on your neck. They have their best seller eye opener to help instantly brighten, smooth and de puff. I love this one too. I love that it has this little roller on. It's like a Little metal roller so you feel like it's actually like doing more than just rubbing cream on you. You can even, like store it in your refrigerator. And then they have these brand new reusable eye patches to help boost vibrance and deeply hydrate. I know this isn't gonna sound very sexy, but this changed my life this year and so I want to give this to friends so they feel good in their bodies too. I love Just Thrive. They make this probiotic that literally did change my life this year. I've not been great at taking supplements all the time, but this one, it helps your gut. If you feel bloated, it makes you more regular. So this is a duo they have. You can get both for the holidays. Just Thrive Total body boost. They have their probiotic that reaches your gut alive, which is major. And then it also has vitamin K27 and expert advise. You need this K2 for total body health. And just so you know, 97% of people in the Western world are K2 deficient. It's nearly impossible to get through a diet alone unless you eat like a lot of organ meats or multiple bowls of the Japanese dish natto. That's why they created it and so you can get this bundle together. Show someone that you care about their wellness or get it for yourself. Bathmate Penis pumps. I am telling you, there is such a curiosity about penis pumps. I've had so many guy friends come over after I've told them about it. They're like, can I get a penis pump? Because I had a few here to give to them. But they're a great choice. They enhance pleasure, they can increase size, they can help you with erection strength. I mean, it actually is a medical device that doctors recommend all the time. It can boost your confidence. And from 1125 to 12 4, they're having up to 35% off all pumps. So there's no code. But use our link in the show notes. And for the rest of the recommendations of the wellness products, just go to sex with emily.com giftguide finally, sex toys. I know you waited for this. It wouldn't be my gift guide without some sex toys. And these are some perfect ones for the holidays this season, Jae Joo makes the Hera Flex Rabbit Vibe. This is one of the best dual stim vibrators, meaning you can stimulate internally and externally. It is just an ador little rabbit vibe. It bends, it's flexible. You can make it so it actually works for your body, which is really cool. Buy now with 30% off using code EMILY30 at sex with emily.com Hara that's sex with emily.com H R A with code EMILY30. Then we have the Womanizer Wave Shower head masturbator. I know a lot of you had your first orgasms with the shower head. I've heard from you. Well, this one is actually made for that. You put it in your shower, you screw it in and you have a built in masturbator. As long as you're showering, you have an incredible orgasm as well. And then there's the Lelo Enigma double Sonic. So this is a spectacular new vibrator from Lelo. They're always innovating at Lelo. This one can get to your A spot. So the A spot is located slightly behind the G spot and it uses this unique sonic tip. This has like sonic waves of pleasure. It has suction, it has insertion, it has external stimulation. Like it can be hard to find the A spot with fingers alone and you can't really guide the penis towards there. So this, this toy is for the explorer in your life. Somebody who realizes that it's so important to expand your sexual pleasure and try new ways to feel good. This is your toy up to 25% off bestsellers and an additional 20% off with code EMILY20. And for the rest of my recommendations of sex toys, go to sexfelmily.com guide. Of course, I've added all the codes and discounts in the gift guide because I got you. I want you all to have an incredible holiday season. Give the gift of pleasure to yourself or someone you love. So that is my Sex with Emily holiday gift guide for 2024. You will find something in here that's going to give you joy, pleasure and a lot of fun this holiday season and years to come. These literally are the gifts that keep on giving. Happy holidays. That's it for today's episode. Thanks for listening to Sex with Emily and be sure to like subscribe and give us a review wherever you you listen to the podcast and share this with a friend or partner. You can find me on Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, Twitter or X and Facebook. It's all Sex with Emily. Oh, and I've been told I give really good email. So sign up on sex with emily.com and while you're there, check out my free guides and articles for more ways to prioritize your pleasure. 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