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Leslye (Host of 'she's so Lucky')
Welcome to this week's episode of she's so Lucky. My name is Les and I'm going to be solo today, which was a little bit unexpected because I initially had planned to do an interview today, riding the subway into the city to come to the studio. I'm actually in a new studio that I've never been in today, so that's kind of fun. And after I got off the subway, I looked at my phone and got a text from my producer that our guest canceled like 30 minutes before we were gonna record. And it happens and it's okay. And then I had this idea, why don't I just come on and why don't I talk about unpopular opinions that I have and maybe share some unpopular opinions from the audience if I can get submissions in time while I'm still recording it, it's all happening real time. I posted on my Instagram story, I think I'm going to talk about unpopular opinions that I have and I'd love to share some of yours too. So drop some here. So at the end I'm going to check and see if I've gotten any submissions that we could also talk about and giggle about. I have realized that as a creator, I tend to be a little bit too. Nice isn't the right word, but I tend to be a little bit too agreeable, I think. I tend to interview people who I generally agree with. I tend to not really push back on things or rock boats much. And I think a lot of that is my personality, just being not a confrontational person and being being somebody who I'm not driven by other people's opinions of me, but I generally want people to like me. I don't want to do things that I know people would dislike. And again, not saying that I'm a people pleaser, that it guides my behaviors, but I just tend to kind of go with the flow a bit and not do things that I know are going to get people up in arms often because I just don't want to deal with other people's feelings and I don't want to be responsible for other people's emotions. And I feel like the Internet is a place where we do that to one another all the time. However, what I'm also realizing is that's super boring. So I'm not going to come on here and do anything crazy or talk too crazy. But maybe it's okay for me to say some things that people disagree with, or maybe it's okay for me to Bring people on the podcast that I may not agree with. And it's something that I'm really wrapping my head around just to make the content more interesting, more compelling, and to kind of push myself a little bit. So these were all of the things that I was thinking about on the walk from the subway to the studio today, figuring out what on earth can I talk about? And I actually have a lot of unpopular opinions. None that I think are so crazy that I would get canceled over, but some things that I definitely think people would disagree with. Even a recent example of that in my Lucky Girl episode that we did earlier this summer where I was talking about Lucky Girl commandments, I had made a comment about how I think some of the language we use around solo travel has just had not matched my experience with solo travel, where people talk about how solo travel is always this super life changing experience. When I have done my solo travels, I just didn't have that experience. It didn't change my life. I saw some cool things, I did some cool stuff. I enjoyed it. But as somebody who lives alone, works alone, is single, and does 98% of things in life alone, I actually realized that I prefer doing something like travel or disrupting my routine. I want to share that experience with people and I think it's more fun with people. And that was just what I shared from my experience. And I did actually get quite a bit of pushback that on TikTok. And I was like, oh, this is kind of fun. It's kind of nice to maybe not agree with people all the time. So this is something that I'm working on in my big age. Sharing, I think pretty harmless unpopular opinions, but allowing space for us to disagree with one another. So that is what we're going to do today. So I actually want to share my first unpopular opinion. And this one, you know, might get the girls going. I think reality television is the dumbest thing I've ever heard or seen. And I don't really care what show it is. I don't like any of it. I don't think any of it is interesting. I don't care who's on Love island or who the couple is or what's happening on the back. All of these things. I don't care. I think it's super boring. None of it can hold my attention. I think it's really uninteresting. And you're never gonna get me to watch those shows. Every time that I have tuned in to watch those shows because everybody's talking about it and Because I just wanna be in the know with what everyone else is talking about. I'm always like, wow, I wish that I could get that time back. Particularly during COVID The early days of COVID when the first season of Love is Blind was on. Everybody was talking about it and I was like, okay, everybody's talking about this show. I know normally I'm not into dating reality shows. I'm going to give it a try. And I sat and I watched that whole first season of Love is Blind. And at the end of that first season, I was like, wow, this is 12 hours of my life that I will never get back and that I would like a refund on immediately because I find it so boring. And I haven't always felt that way about reality tv. I think growing up in what I would consider the golden age of reality tv, it was so much more interesting. I used to love shows like the Real World and Flavor of Love, and I love New York because there was this grittiness to those types of shows that I thought was so interesting and so refreshing. And now it. I just. It's boring to me. It's. It's. I'm just like, not interested. It doesn't capture my attention in the same way. And anytime I turn on one of those shows and I try to watch them, I just end up being bored, tuning out and zoning out on my phone. So if I'm going to watch tv, I would rather watch a really great scripted series where there is good acting and storytelling. I love a good documentary. I would love a good docu series, a good documentary. The last documentary I watched was the Barbara Walters documentary on Hulu, which I just thought was really, really interesting. I mean, Barbara was a little wild, but I just thought that that was more interesting. And so I would watch something like that. Or even recently was watching the docu series about Hurricane Katrina on Hulu and National Geographic as well. Things like that, to me are so much more interesting and capture my attention so much more than watching these reality shows. I just think that they're dumb, and I don't think that people who watch them are dumb. I know so many smart people who love it down, who, when Love island is on, they're sat every day, which is crazy to me that that show comes on every day. It just seems excessive. Or housewives. It's like they're sat some of the smartest, coolest people I know. And that's cool. But for me, it's just never going to be a thing. It's never going to be a thing. I've tried them all. It's not interesting to me and it hurts my career for sure. Because I know if I watch those shows and if I made content talking about those shows, I absolutely would have more engagement followers, whatever, because it's always a trending topic. And that's just an L that I'm going to have to take because I just, I could not be less interested in anything than I am in those shows. So that's my first unpopular opinion is like, I think reality TV hasn't been that good since like 2006. So deal with it. Cancel me. And if me sharing that makes you want to cancel me, that's okay. We can part ways here. 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Leslye (Host of 'she's so Lucky')
Now the other unpopular opinion that I have is that I think there is nothing more cringe than the term mean girl and how much so many of us use the term mean girl on social media. Walk with me here. We throw out the term mean girl often when there is someone we don't like. If somebody has a negative interaction with another woman, if a woman is perceived as, you know, being unpleasant or having an attitude or maybe does something shady. Social media TikTok in particular tends to like dogpile on this person and call them a mean girl. And now listen, I'm not here to pass judgment on anyone's behavior or just say whether or not someone behaves poorly or doesn't. But the general consensus is that if a woman or young woman exhibit some type of behavior that we in community generally don't like, automatically this person is labeled as a mean girl. And maybe that person is exhibiting bad behaviors. I don't know. I kind of stay out of it. Here's my issue with the term mean girl is we're beginning to use that term to describe people who are like 30 plus. And as a true millennial, born right smack dab in the middle of the generation, like, I'm not a geriatric millennial or a zillennial. I am a true late 80s millennial. I was of the prime age when the movie Mean Girls came out. Okay. I was 14 years old in the spring of 2004. I was a freshman in high school. I remember being very excited to go to the movies and to see it. It as millennials, we hold that movie so dear to our hearts because it is a big part of our generational zeitgeist. Okay? But I think because I was the appropriate age when that movie came out, the idea of referring to somebody as a mean girl 20 years later, like using the term mean girl over 30, and if I'm talking about somebody over 30 sounds dumb as hell, I'm so sorry, it sounds so stupid. And I think that if somebody is exhibiting behavior that is not great, like if somebody is mean, if somebody is rude, if somebody is harassing somebody, if somebody is assaulting somebody and they are grown as hell, I think we can use the actual language to describe it. But I think to write someone off as a mean girl is very middle school, high school language to me, maybe because I was the age when that term really came to be. And I also think it's really reductive because if you see content about, you know, the for you page dog piling on someone for being a mean girl, and then you hear about what they are doing to be called a mean girl, it's often like very serious. It's very much like, oh, this person was harassing somebody. They're a mean girl. And I'm like, no, they're just harassing somebody. Like, to call it mean girl behavior, I think is a little bit reductive. And I think it trivializes some things that can be like low key serious. I think that if you are over the age of 25 and if you are referring to somebody over the age of 25, let's use different words. Let's use different words because particularly being 30 plus maybe we can make the cutoff 30. Let's stop using the term mean girl over 30. I also think ideally people would stop being mean, right? That is, that is best case scenario is like, don't be mean. But if somebody is, or if somebody is behaving badly, let's name the actual behavior. If they're a grown ass woman instead of calling them a mean girl. I just think it's very cringe. It's very, very cringe. And I wish that we would stop doing it. I also feel similarly around the language of someone being a girl's girl. And this is as somebody who is very pro woman, you know what I mean? I. It's very rare that I'm not taking a woman's side or trying to, to do something to help another woman if I'm able to. But I then think we use the language girl's girl or not a girl's girl, kind of weaponized. If somebody does something that we don't like or if somebody does not do what we want them to do in that moment, then all of a sudden they're not a girl's girl. And I'm like, yeah, but again, we're grown ass women. You know what I mean? You know what I mean? It just, I'm here, I'm here for the support of it, of one another as women and, and younger women, but I think some of the language is just a little bit cringe. It's a little bit cringe. And I also know for a while would use the word girly a lot. And I got the feedback that I was using it too much and I understand that now and I've cut way back on using it. But I think when we then use the cutesy language to weaponize it against each other, it's a little bit cringy. It's a little bit cringy. You know what I mean? Are they a girl's girl or are they just cool as hell, you know what I mean? Are they girls girl? Did they have your back? Like, let's use the actual language to lift each other up. And if someone maybe does something that we don't like or does something that we don't agree with, I think we can also use the real language to talk about that. Like, hey, I felt like you stepped over this boundary or I felt like I couldn't trust you in that moment to be like, you're a mean girl, you're not a girl's girl. Particularly again, over 30, I just, I don't know. There's something about it, something about it that grinds my gears, you know what I mean? And I like to use the real words to compliment people or the real words if somebody does something that doesn't sit right. Because I think that words matter and language matters, and I think that we can all grow when we use the real words. So, you know, that's what I think about those things. So if you were not Lindsay Lohan in 2004 and. Or if you were old enough to be excited for that movie to come out in 2004, stop using the term mean girl and let's use actual words for whatever it is we're trying to describe. Thank you. That's my next unpopular opinion. I don't think for you, Paige, is not gonna like that. They're not gonna like that. My next unpopular opinion. And this was something that I've always felt and has been inspired because I've been listening to the audiobook of Matriarch by Mama Tina Knowles, who we all love and adore. I truly believe that the only competition that we have in our lives is ourselves. It's us versus the future version that we want to be and maybe a past version that we can honor but need to let go of. I genuinely do not believe in competing with other people unless you are playing an actual sport where there is one team that's going to win or one gold medal that's coming out. I literally do not believe in competition with other people. I think that competition with ourselves and competition with our bad habits, with our own excuses, with our own limiting beliefs are the only true competition that we have in this world. I just, I. I don't believe that another person who is a mere mortal doing their best. I don't think that we have anything to compete over. I think everybody is in their own lane, running their own race. I think that all of us have our own divine assignments in this life. And I think that what your divine assignment is, is between you and God or you and whatever it is that you believe in. And I think that when you are focused on it being you and you and whatever it is that you are here to do, what other people are doing is irrelevant. I generally don't believe in this idea of competition, of people taking something from other people. If it can be taken, then it wasn't yours. What's for you is for you. Can nobody stop you but you? And sometimes things take longer than we like. Sometimes there are detours. Sometimes there are road bumps. Sometimes what is for us is a different version of what we think it should be. But I just don't believe in. In competition, in blaming other people for something that is my vision that I know I need to carry through. I don't believe in this idea of other people being able to limit what it is that we can do, because what do you mean? You are, again, a mere mortal. Babes, I know you got something over there that you could be handling, and I know I got things over here that I can be handling and that I should be handling. And if I'm so worried about what everybody else is doing, that means that there's some of my own stuff that I'm not handling. And when I was listening to Matriarch, I was listening to the story that she was telling about when Girls Time, which later became Destiny's Child, was first forming, and when little Beyonce had just been kind of doing too much. She was lead singing, and she was teaching everybody their parts and she was arranging vocals, and she wore her voice out, and they ended up bringing another little girl in to be the lead singer because Beyonce wore her voice out and couldn't do it in that moment. And the lesson that Tina taught her was how important it was for her to focus on her craft, not on what someone else was doing. So it's not that someone else took your spot. It's that you need to focus on your craft. You need to not be doing everybody else's part. You need to be doing the vocal lessons that we're trying to get you in to focus on your voice and your instrument, because you are your only competition. And I loved that story. And it was just such a reminder of something that I've felt and believed for a very long time. And sometimes you need those external reminders from somebody else to remind you what it is you need. And it's just such a good reminder. You are your only competition. Another person and what they are or aren't doing, that's not up to you. That's not for you to worry about. Nobody is better than you. Nobody is worse than you. We are all vibing on our own little planes, coexisting with one another. And you gotta focus on what's for you and what's in front of you, because you can't see what's going on in front of you. If you're too busy worried about what's going on with her, you're too busy calling somebody a mean girl. You're not even focused on what's in front of you. So what are we going to do about that? What are we going to do about that? We got to focus on what we've got going on, you know. So that's my unpopular opinion is that I don't think competition is real again unless you are in, you know, you're a athlete or something where there's one true championship winner. Other than that in this life stuff, there is no one prize, there is no one medal to win, there's no one race to win. There's no milestones for any of this stuff that we're doing. We're all people trying to figure it out. So you gotta keep your eyes on your paper to figure out what's best for you. So that's that unpopular opinion that I have. My next unpopular opinion is I think influencer hate is a little bit forced. And I think that it's such an awkward. I think it's a very awkward relationship that a lot of influencers or creators have with the general public of people who may not be influencers and creators. I think that influencers get a lot of smoke for a lot of things. And I did in my TikTok video talking about Essence Fest, I talked about this a lot where some of the feedback that I saw going around about that event was that people felt like everything was just all about influencers and the festival was just catering towards influencers. And I disagreed with that. Having the perspective of being a creator and having gone multiple times as a creator saying, well, I actually don't think the festival itself is leverages creators in the ways that they could actually. I think it probably could be something that they could be a little bit more strategic about. It's really the brands who prioritize creators because we're in an economic environment where both brands and people don't have as much money. And it's a lot cheaper to fly out some creators and put them up for a weekend for activities than it is to spend like multi millions of dollars on a big activation. And I do think that that sometimes can suck for the end user because those big activations are often what everyday people going to an event like that are able to interface with. Those things cost millions of dollars versus, you know, an event for some influencers for a weekend is like in the thousands. And that's why brands do it, because it's cheaper, but they're still going to get reached that way. And I don't necessarily think that that's fair, particularly to people who may be flying themselves out to some sort of event hoping to have an experience. And then you see that and you're like, dang, this seems unfair. I totally get that. But I think that the blame is not necessarily put in the right place. The blame is often put on creators who are truly doing their jobs. And then it also is this weird push and pull where there is, I think, sometimes this forced hate against influencers and the spaces that they occupy and the things they do. But then also at the same time, people want the content and they want to be entertained by creators. They want, you know, recommendations. They want their favorite creators to respond whenever they have a question or whenever they have a problem. But then they also want to reserve the right to talk bad about them the second that they do something they don't agree with. And it's just such a weird push, pull relationship. Or it's like creators often get blamed for things like over consumption and pushing people to buy stuff. But God forbid you wear something online that you've had for five years and there's no link to, and the people get upset. So it's like it's one of these things where there's such an awkward push and pull. And again, I, and I know I've said this before on this podcast and on other podcasts, but I think that a lot of that, that disdain comes from the fact that a lot of the people who are truly successful influencers are women. It really is a female dominated industry. And I think that if more men were as successful and as popular of influencers as women, if it were a more male dominated industry in terms of who was successful, I don't think influencers would get so much hate because it's a lot easier to take your frustrations out on women. And societally, that's just kind of what tends to happen. I also think that some of the influencer hate that we see is because people have a perception that the job is easy. And there are certainly harder jobs out there, certainly jobs that are harder. But I also wouldn't say that it's the easiest job. As somebody who has done that job and has had lots of normal jobs and everything from like customer service to retail to corporate to all of the things, I definitely would say that the toll that that job takes on you and the expectations of you can be really challenging. However, there is this perception that it's very easy. And so you have this perfect storm of this perception that this job is easy and this perception that people are making all of this money that a lot of creators really are not making. And they, you see them going on these trips and doing these things for Something that is perceived as easy. And then again, because we live in a misogynistic society, people love to blame women at something and don't let a woman be successful and don't let a woman have some melanin and be successful. Oh, no. And you, you know, God forbid. And then that's where all of the complaints about people being unrelatable and all of these things come out. Yet still we can't get enough, and we keep watching, and we want them to respond to everything, and we want them to give us recommendations for everything, and we want them to pick out all of our outfits and to provide a link and to provide thoughts about everything. Meanwhile, cussing them out and talking bad about them on Reddit. It is such a weird relationship. And I think, however, that line of work is not going anywhere. It's not. If anything, it's only growing. And so I think the sooner that everybody can find some harmony, the better for all of us, because we are all coexisting in the world and on the Internet together. And like I said, I mean, my unpopular opinion that I started this little portion off with was that I think the hate is forced. I think the hate is forced because it's easy to hate women who have a perceived level of success for doing something that we perceive as easy. And I think everybody needs a little bit more harmony. And I also think, having been in some influencer spaces, there are some flavors of people who do this work and some types of this work that can be a little insufferable and can definitely read the room a little bit better. So I definitely understand both sides. Having been on both sides and also still sometimes being in spaces where I'm like, oh, there is some attitudes, there's some weirdness, this is a little spooky. But again, I think harmony amongst everybody, because we're all coexisting together. Creators need audiences, and audiences rely on creators a lot, particularly post Covid. As a person with a platform, I have seen firsthand how lonely people are. And some of the things that people come to me with leaves me deeply concerned because it's like, I'm a stranger. I'm a stranger on the Internet. I'm not qualified to talk about this or I don't actually know you, even though you feel like you know me. And I see some of the things that people come to me with, and it breaks my heart because I'm like, well, do they not have anyone else who they can talk to about these things or who they can go to for help? About these things. So in that way, being on that side of it, I see how audiences also rely on creators. And I think the sooner that we all just remember that we're all just people. That's the moral of all of my little unpopular opinions. We're all just people doing our best, the better. But influencers aren't going anywhere. They're not. They're not. So the best thing that you can do is to really curate your feeds with what it is you want to see, engage with more of what you want to see, don't engage with what you don't want to see, and curate your own experience. So that's, that's the lesson that I would apply to that unpopular opinion.
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Leslye (Host of 'she's so Lucky')
Next unpopular opinion is I think that we are really ODing with the word delusional. And I love a little bit of, you know, hope and wonder, but I think that we are using the word delusional to describe too much. And I don't think it's good for your brain to prescribe any sort of positivity or optimism as delusion. I don't think that having big dreams is delusional. I don't think that hoping for the best is delusional. Like, when you think about what the word delusional means, it truly means something that is so unrealistic. Actually, let's look up the word. Let's look up the definition of delusional. Let's look up the actual definition of the word delusional so that I can really make this point. Let's see. Delusional describes a state of holding false fixed beliefs that are not based in reality despite evidence to the contrary. It's often associated with mental health conditions, but can also be used colloquially, colloquially, My gosh, I promise I can read. Can also be used colloquially to describe someone with unrealistic expectations or unusual behavior. I think that words matter. And so the idea that something is super out of touch with reality. If someone's talking about being delusional and then you ask somebody, okay, well, what's the delusional thing that you're calling in? And they're like, I want a new job. And I'm like, I don't think that's delusional. I want a new job making twice as much as I'm making now. I don't think that that's delusional. I think that you can do that. Right? If it describes a state of holding a false fixed belief that's not based in reality, you can absolutely have a new job where you're making twice as much as what you're currently making. That is 100% possible. Is it going to happen next week? Probably not. But is it possible for you to be able to take steps to do different work, making twice as much as you're currently making now? Yeah. Is it possible to call in a partner who is loving and caring and to have the really beautiful relationship that you want? Yeah. Is it possible for you to have a business doing whatever it is that you want to do and having a beautiful life from that? Yeah. All of these things are absolutely possible. Now, does it mean that you're able to do those things from just a snap at the finger? Does it mean that you're going to have these things immediately or that, you know, you don't have to take the steps to do them? No, no, not necessarily. But calling these things delusional, I think reinforces this idea that we can't have good things because in order to have a good thing, it must be so outlandish. And I disagree with that. I think that we can have good things. I think that good things are absolutely realistic. I have said before I want to 5x this podcast in terms of our audience and listenership. That is my big goal. That is my North Star. That is a lot of growth. That's not easy. That's really hard to do. And I haven't yet figured out how that's going to happen, but it's absolutely possible. It would be impossible if I were trying to have more listeners than people in the world, but no, actually, in terms of the global population, the numbers I'm trying to hit are still a mere sliver. So it's absolutely possible. I'm not fully sure how that's going to happen or when I will get there, but if I were to tell myself that it's so delusional to want to reach this milestone again, it's reinforcing this idea that it's not possible. And I think that we need to reinforce more ideas of what is possible. And I think that it's okay to dream big and to be like, this is a big dream and this is realistic. Y' all know how I feel about the word realistic, because I did have an episode about that where I talked more about this. But I think that we gotta stop overusing the word delusional, because I think so much of what we refer to as delusional is actually very possible. And I think that when we walk firmly and confidently in possibility, I actually think we're able to magnetize a lot easier. And I think we're able to magnetize more And I think we're doing more harm than good by calling everything positive, delusional, because I don't agree. It's not delusional. It's not delusional to have the job that you want, the house that you want, the love that you want, the trip that you want. It's not delusional. You can do it. It might take a couple years, it might take some time, it might take some finessing, but it's possible. There's nothing that isn't possible. Remember what I said earlier? There's no such thing as competition. Nothing, nothing can truly stop you. But you, nothing is more powerful than your will to believe in something and to take what is divinely yours. And I think that when we own that, we can have that, and we can have that even easier, potentially faster. But it's not delusional. And I, I, I would love to see us use that word a little bit less, because a lot of the things that we're asking for actually aren't that crazy. And I think that when we start expanding to the point where some of the big dreams that we're calling in actually feel very regular, I think that it puts us in a better position to get it. And I recently was on a trip with some other creators who were fantastic, and they have different lifestyles than me, and they were such great expanders of what can just be regular. Something that I thought was asking for a lot. I, I hear them speak and that's regular. That's not asking for enough. And it helped reframe me. Like, yeah, we can have more. We can all have more. This is regular, this is cool. And we can have more. And what's wrong with that? And I think that when we come from that position and when we have people in our lives who can be expanders in those ways and can expand us and our horizons of what we believe is possible. And we start seeing those extraordinary things as very regular. And I don't mean regular in the sense of, you know, we don't appreciate it or we take it for granted. I mean regular in the sense of like, yeah, you can have that. You can do that. You can be that. I think we can all have it. Why not? Why not? Nobody has a monopoly on living a good life, and we get to decide what that means for us. So let's start being mindful of our use of the word delusional, because I don't think that what you're asking for is delusional. I think that you can have it. I think that we can all have the desires of our heart. Because why not? Why not? If somebody says otherwise, it's because of their own limiting beliefs and what they believe is or isn't possible. But that doesn't have anything to do with you. It doesn't mean that you can't believe that it's possible. You absolutely can. I don't know how I was supposed to come on here and share some spicy hot takes and I still ended up with my little inspirational I just can't help myself. I just can't help myself. Also, none of those hot takes were all of that spicy spicy. And yet that is about as spicy as I can get. But those were some of my top unpopular opinions. Let's tune in live from my Instagram story just to see if we've gotten any other submissions. Someone said one can live their life well without documenting everything for public consumption. Absolutely 100% possible. I say as a person who documents my life for public consumption. And I also think that it can be a little bit of a catch 22 because it depends on what living well means. And I'm gonna be so for real with y'.
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Leslye (Host of 'she's so Lucky')
A big part of why I got into content was to make money and was to make more money than was offered to me in corporate spaces because I had so much debt coming out of school. I do not come from a wealthy family or have financial support outside of myself. I knew that I couldn't afford to go back to school to get some sort of higher paying jobs. And the corporate jobs that I was getting, they were paying okay, but it wasn't going to give me the lifestyle that I wanted. And so I leaned into creating my own business because I just wanted there to not be a ceiling to what I could earn. And so for me, living well does mean making a certain amount of money. Now, the gag is I still have not yet reached that point, but I certainly am closer to it. Having had my own business, I'm a lot less limited than I would have been staying where I was at. And for me, it's not like I had a whole lot of other skills or foresight into other things. All I had was a phone and a computer and the ability to share my life. And so for me, I have felt like the only way for me to have the life that I want is to have these years or this period of time where I am sharing my life for other people's consumption because it was a way that I could use what I had to make more money than was available to me in the spaces that I was in. However, generally speaking, you can absolutely live your life without documenting everything for public consumption. And you can live a good life, whatever that looks like for you. As for me, I needed more coins and that was the only way my brain could figure out how to get them at that time. But yeah, for sure, someone else said for their unpopular opinion, adopting the same language trends or sayings like let's go or it's giving. Yeah, I think there's a lot of cultural appropriation that goes with some of those things. And I actually just saw a post on Threads earlier where a young person, if you're watching on YouTube, you can see my hand right now. A young person said something along the lines of, you know, it's super cringe when old millennials hop on Gen Z slang, not knowing that a lot of Gen Z slang is just our language. Aave is stuff that we've been saying forever, but because of TikTok, that generation of all backgrounds kind of took it and ran with it and think that it's theirs, when really it's stuff we've been saying for generations. And you know, people have clocked that it's, it's. I hope it's clocking to them that we're standing on business. People have have quite clocked them about that fact on threads. But I would agree that I do think some of those sayings get overused, particularly if people don't know where they originate from and if they're appropriating culture. Another hot take or unpopular opinion. Random, but in my opinion, Lion King 2 is better than Lion King. Why would you say something so controversial, yet so brave? I don't. I don't know if I agree with that, friend, but I will let you live in your truth. I just think the classics are the classics. I've. I think I've only seen Lion King two maybe one time. That was definitely a straight to video, right? That was right. I don't know if I could tell you a single thing about it, honestly, but I feel like the Lion King, the original Lion King, is such a classic that I will not slander it in that way, but you live your truth. Okay, so those were our handful of community unpopular opinions that were dropped in the amount of time it took me to yap. This episode was quite the journey of me just talking. I'm really curious to see what y' all think when I'm not as prepared or put together and I just come and I just share my opinions that some of them I think are going to be quite unpopular. I know the reality TV one is going to get get people going. I think the mean girls one might also get people going. Who knows, People might call me a mean girl for saying that and I don't, I don't care because I know that I'm not mean. I'm mean to men. But that's different. That one might get people going. And that's okay. It can get people going. We can disagree and still coexist and love each other. But thank you so much for coming on this wild ride with me. I didn't know where this episode was going to go or how it was going to end up, but we made it. I do think sometimes it is fun to mix things up with episodes that are just a little bit lighter. And especially since I rebranded the podcast, a lot of that was my goal. I only have so much heavy life advice in me and it actually was a little bit refreshing to come and talk about how much I don't like reality TV and things that are a little bit more light and fun and so maybe I'll do it again. Not unpopular opinions because I think I've sufficiently shared those, but other things that are a little bit lighter, a little bit easier to deliver, a little bit easier to listen to because I think life is heavy enough for all of us. And even still being me, I still ended up with my self help big sister general rants in there, my little motivational talks because I just can't help myself. That's just how I talk. But if you enjoyed this more off the cuff episode and you want more episodes like this that are more off the cuff because if I'm going to do solos, that's probably what they're going to be. Let me know and I'll see what I can do for you. Thank you so much for tuning in to this episode. If you enjoyed it, let me know. Again, it's something a little bit different. Make sure you're subscribed because she's so lucky. Wherever you get your podcasts, make sure you're following me. I'm Atlas Alfred on Instagram or I'm at balance less on Tick Tock. I know I'm so balanced less on Tick Tock. Tick Tock won't let me change my name, y'. All. I've been trying to change it for months but I'm still balanced less over there. If you liked more chats like this, definitely make sure you're following me on Tick Tock because I do a lot more of this over there. So if you want more of my just unfiltered me chatting about stuff that is the number one place to get it. So go ahead and give me a follow. Thank you again for tuning in and I will see you next week.
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Pia Barangini
Hi, I'm Pia Barangini, the Creative Director of lpa, an entrepreneur, a wife and a dog mom based in Los Angeles. This is my new podcast, Everything is the Best, where we basically ask interesting people, how did you go from zero to yacht? I'm always curious how the hell people became successful and I figured you would be too. Get on the Internet with me, let's laugh, let's cry, let's overshare, and let's get inspired to live our best lives. Check out new episodes every Wednesday.
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