Loading summary
Host
The following podcast is a Dear Media production.
Sloan
Sloan, welcome to the podcast.
Sloane Stephens
Thanks. I'm so happy to be here.
Sloan
I'm happy to be here. We've been talking about this for a while, finally. And now it's finally here.
Host
Yes.
Sloan
So you travel a lot. So it was like.
Sloane Stephens
It was very hectic trying to get here. But I'm here. We made it. You're here.
Host
Yeah. Nice.
Sloane Stephens
Yeah.
Sloan
You celebrated a birthday recently.
Host
Yeah. You did. Happy belated.
Sloane Stephens
Thank you.
Sloan
You turned 32. I actually really loved your Instagram caption on your post that said, too cute to be 32.
Sloane Stephens
I know.
Sloan
Which, I mean, you are and will be gorgeous at any age.
Host
Oh, thank you.
Sloan
And the caption was really funny because I do feel like we reach certain ages where it's like, oh, this sounds serious.
Sloane Stephens
No, 32 is, like, real.
Sloan
Yes.
Sloane Stephens
Yeah, it's. I feel like every age is real, but this 32 is, like, it's getting up there. There's a lot more decision making at 32, I feel like, than even 30. Like, 30 was just, okay, I'm 30. But now 32 is, like, okay. Now we're, like, cruising in. In there.
Sloan
It does feel different to be 30 versus to feel like you're in your 30s.
Sloane Stephens
Yeah, it's.
Sloan
Those are two different things.
Sloane Stephens
Now I'm in my 30s, but I don't. I mean, I don't feel like it.
Sloan
Yeah.
Sloane Stephens
As a person, I don't feel like it. But my age, obviously, I feel like it. So I don't know. Like, it's just. I don't know. I think, like, the expectations of, like, being 32 and, like, your friends, like, getting married or having kids or whatever it is, like, obviously I travel. I'm still playing, so it's like, my life looks a lot different than a lot of other people's. And, like, I feel like everyone's journey is different. But it's like a weird, like, thing when you, like, see people on Instagram, you see, like, all of these things happening around you, and I'm like, oh, okay. Well, it's happening.
Host
Yeah.
Sloane Stephens
Not. I mean, not for me, but it's happening around me for sure.
Sloan
Yeah. Are there any things that you're maybe looking forward to in your 32nd year, things that you really want to do this year?
Sloane Stephens
I don't. I mean, so many things. I always want to do so many things. But my big thing, I've convinced all of my friends to go to Machu Picchu. Oh. With me. So that's, like, a good thing. Well, a good thing. I don't know. It'll be a fun thing.
Host
Yeah.
Sloane Stephens
At the end of the year because obviously my off season's only, like, November, December, so I don't have that much time to, like, do anything. But that's like, our. Our team trip will be.
Sloan
That.
Host
That'll be amazing.
Sloane Stephens
They're all like, what? Yeah, that's what we're doing, people. Trust me.
Sloan
Yeah.
Sloane Stephens
Yeah. You just, like, pick something. I feel you always have to. Something look forward to. So I always, like, create some trip or create some, like, something so everyone is, like, excited and looking forward to it. And, like, you guys have to train and, like, be ready. We're going to hike this mountain. Like, it's a whole thing, but it's something to look forward to.
Sloan
And with having such a short off season, because you spend so much of the year traveling, how do you keep any sort of, like, staying centered, staying on your routines when you're all over the world? For most of the year?
Sloane Stephens
Yeah. Every week is an adventure because there's so many. I was explaining to someone the other day, like, in tennis, it's only you and your team, so there's no, like, group of people around you. It's just like, your coach, maybe your fitness trainer, a friend, whatever. And one week, your back could get lost. Like, one week your coach could get sick. One week. Like, there's all these things that happen all the time, and there's, like, a lot of adversity. So I feel like when I am traveling and there's, like, moments. I think that's why I focus so much on, like, doing things for myself, because there's always hectic moments when I'm traveling and, like, when I actually do get to go home, I, like, lock myself inside because I'm like, this is the only calm place. But I feel like throughout the year, like, when you are traveling again, there's so many, like, things that happen. And there's a lot of tennis stuff, there's a lot of work stuff. There's a lot of, like, you know, obligations that you have to do. And there's always some sort of, like, hiccup. And I think how you, like, can manage that internally is, like, probably who does the best? Who has the best balance, Right? And I think having balance outside of the court in terms of, like, self care and, like, taking care of yourself and making sure that you're, like, aligned, like, you can always control the controllables. And I feel like that's something that, as I've gotten older, I've, like, been like, okay, what's working for me? Like, is this not working for me? Like, is this person not working for me? Like, do I need to go to the spa? Like, do I need to relax? Like, all those things matter and, like, come together, like, as your balance. Like, how you figure out your balance and like, what works for you.
Host
Yeah.
Sloan
And it sounds like not being afraid to pivot if you realize that your needs are changing.
Sloane Stephens
Oh, yeah, I'm the queen of the pivot. I love it. I'm like, this is. We're going this way now. Like, no, that coach not working this. No. So. And it's. That's just life. Like, there's nothing that's perfect. There's no, nothing is ever perfect.
Host
Right.
Sloane Stephens
It's just like how you take the situation or whatever comes at you and you figure it out. Right. It's all about, like, problem solving, whatever it may be. Obviously, being a professional athlete, it may be like, my forehand's messed up or like I'm double faulting too much of my serve. Like, those are things that you have to, like, change in the moment and then, like, you get off the court and then it's like things at home, like my gardener didn't show up for two weeks. Like, it, like things life, things happen. And I think whoever is able to, like, find a solution in the calmest way is probably the person who is the most victorious. But that's in life and in sports. So it's taught me a lot. And it's been a hard. It's. There's been a lot of hard lessons, I would say. And then growing up in, like, in the spotlight or on TV and people seeing you all the time, like, all of those mistakes are like, very much like, in front of everyone. And as an 18 year old or 20 year old, it was very different. As a 32 year old, I'm like, I don't care. But it's like, it's a growing learning. It's very much a journey. And like the tennis journey is a very emotional roller coaster. But again, it's just literally how you manage.
Sloan
Yeah, absolutely. And I mean, it's such a high pressure sport. You've been a professional athlete in the sport for half your life at this point, which is like, incredible. Also, I'm sure, has taught you so much about groundedness and finding a sense of calm, even when you're under a great amount of pressure. Can you talk more about what that's been like for you?
Sloane Stephens
So I think when I play, like when people watch me play they're like, oh, you're so calm. Like. And I. I don't know. I don't. Honestly, I'd have no idea.
Sloan
Why?
Sloane Stephens
Because when I was, like, a junior, I was, like, so crazy and, like, psychotic. Like, I was just all over the place. But, like, as a pro, I've always just been like, okay, like, focus. Like, again, controlling the controllables, like, on the court, like, doing the best I can. Like, figuring out those three things that I need to do that day, and, like, focus on that. And I've just always been kind of, like. I don't know, just. What's a word that. When you're just, like, kind of, like.
Sloan
Even keeled or, like, even keeled, but.
Sloane Stephens
There'S, like, a word for it. I don't know. Whatever. Anyways, I've just always been, like, very neutral, and sometimes it works amazing for me, and then sometimes it's like, oh, my God, she had no energy. Like, she wasn't showing any emotion. But I'm like. I've literally been like that my whole career. I've been playing tennis. I've been playing professional tennis for 15 years, and I don't think I've ever, like, been too high or too low. Like, I'm just, like, neutral. I don't know. That's just, like, my tennis personality.
Host
Yeah.
Sloane Stephens
If that makes sense.
Host
Yeah.
Sloane Stephens
I don't know. But off the court, I'm like, a totally different person.
Sloan
Yeah. Okay, wait, let's talk about that. So, like, off the court, let's talk about what Sloan is like.
Sloane Stephens
Oh, my God, nobody.
Sloan
You telling really funny stories. Like, the craziest things happen.
Sloane Stephens
No, literally, we were walking down the street yesterday, and my friend was like, no one would actually believe that. That any of these things happen to you. And I'm like, no. I went to spa with my mom, and they were having the most. I can't even tell you. It was, like, the most ridiculous conversation, but I'm like. It's just not. It doesn't. I don't know. Like, all of these crazy things happen to me, and I feel like nobody actually knows me. Only my friends know me, which is very weird. I don't know that if that's. Honestly. Because as a professional athlete, like, growing up in the spotlight, like, people are always constantly judging you, so you never actually show, like, your real, like, person, like, your real personality. And I feel like all my family members, all my friends are like, oh, my God, if the world knew you like this, like, you'd have your own TV show. And I'm like, yeah, but they're never gonna know me. Like, you people nowadays work so hard to show their personality. And like, that's how people make money these days, which is great. But if I did that every day, I'd probably be really rich. I'd be more rich than I am now, which would be great. But it's a lot of work. It's a lot of work to like, force yourself on people. And when the stakes are so high, like, if you're playing U.S. open, you're playing a grand slam. Like all of those little details matter when people start picking on you or, you know, the media starts picking on you or they're talking about your weight or they're talking about this. So, like, they talk about your weight so then you don't show any more food pictures. Then they talk about, you know, your acne. So then you don't post any more, like, skincare things. Like, it's just like kind of like a. It's just a thing. Like, I don't know. And when you've been exposed to it, you get so used to like protecting yourself and guarding yourself that you're like, okay, I'm not going to let, let people see that part of me, right? And now, like, I don't even like, post anything because I'm like, okay, someone's gonna have something to say about it. Like, no, nevermind. I like post picture of my mom. I'm like, they love her. It's great. The only thing I post, I'm like, yes to my stories. Picture of my mom. That's it. Because everything else is always so. I don't know, it's just so challenging. Everything is challenging, right? And I think it's such a terrible thing, but it's like an okay thing at the same time. Foreign.
Host
Prep. Because your girl is trying to romanticize every part of her next trip, including how I pack. I upgraded my travel game with coins a few years ago and haven't looked back since. I'm talking first class quality economy price tag. Their premium suitcase comes with me on every trip I take. And I love how light, roomy, and straight up chic it is. It's the exact same quality as other popular luggage brands. Pants, but at a fraction of the price. They also have so many wardrobe staples that are perfect for spring and summer travel. Their jersey tinsel dress is a staple in my wardrobe. And I also love their European linen pieces, washable silk tops, and comfy lounge sets. Perfect to wear while you're traveling. Quince is giving us luxury for less like 50 to 80% less than similar brands with no catch, just amazing quality and prices. By partnering directly with top factories, Quince cuts out the cost of the middleman and passes the savings on to us. I also appreciate that they only work with factories that use safe, ethical and responsible manufacturing practices. So if you've got a trip coming up, or if you're ready to upgrade your spring and summer wardrobe, treat yourself with quince. Go to quince.com balanced less for 365 day returns plus free shipping on your order. That's Q U I n c e.com.com balanced less again quince.com balance less so they know that I sent you. Enjoy. When I first decided to open my online shop Spacious Rituals, I was excited and also completely overwhelmed. Starting a new business is no joke. Suddenly you're not just the creator, you're also the web designer, customer service team, marketing department, shipping manager, all rolled into one. What helped me actually bring that idea to life was Shopify. From day one, Shop Shopify felt like a business partner I didn't know I needed. It gave me everything I needed to get Spacious Rituals off the ground. From building a beautiful site that matched my brand's vibe to setting up payments, shipping and everything in between. And get this Shopify powers millions of businesses around the world and handles 10% of all e commerce in the US it's the platform behind major brands like Mattel and Gymshark and also indie brands just like mine. They've got hundreds of stunning templates that make it easy to design your store, plus built in marketing tools and AI features to help with things like product descriptions, email campaigns, and even polishing up your product photos. Shopify helps you do all the big things and the small things, from tracking inventory to processing returns. So whether you are an experienced business owner or you're starting something brand new or scaling something you've already built, Shopify has your back. Turn your big idea into the Shopify on your side. Sign up for your $1 per month trial and start selling today at shopify.com balance black girl all one word. That's shopify.com balanceblack girl shopify.com balance blackgirl.
Sloan
I think in so many ways like our brains are not designed to have the amount of like interactions and other people's opinions and just sheer exposure to information that we are exposed to every day.
Sloane Stephens
Definitely not by any means. No, it's, it's hectic and I say all the time I'm like okay, like my, my social Meter is out, guys. Like, I will be going to my room. Like, I will see you guys later. Don't call me. Like, that's just how I communicate with my friends. Like, I've had enough. Like, thank you so much. I love you, but I'll have to see you tomorrow. Like, I just kind of know, like, I would say I'm very aware of, like, my person and that's because I've had to be because of tennis and, like, being a professional athlete. Like, all of those things matter in sport, right when you're competing and so being, like, hyper aware of everything that I'm feeling. So my friends, like, I know, like, I'm like, don't call me. Like, we're not going to concert. Like, I don't include me. Like, I want to be included, but, like, I'm not going. Like, invite me, but I'm probably not going. So I think that that's kind of just like, getting older and like, realizing what works for you and what doesn't work for you and just like, being exposed to so many different things at so many different times in your life. As, like a young person, I would say, like, 32 is still young. But all the things I've experienced until now, like, most of it's not normal. Like, most of it's kind of hectic and crazy, but that's just kind of the life that you live. And yeah, sometimes the. The things that you do experience are like, over the, like, over your max, like over your capacity of, like, what you can kind of take in and how you deal with things and you kind of self, like, push through anyway.
Sloan
Yeah, it's like a form of managing your energy so that you can allocate it towards what really matters to you.
Sloane Stephens
Definitely.
Sloan
And even a little bit of. I. I feel similarly in some ways where there are definitely a lot of things that I don't share on social media. And because I'm more of like a content creator, I have to share, like, a little bit more in some ways. But I always joke that there are parts of my personality that I like.
Sloane Stephens
Gatekeep.
Sloan
I'm like, oh, this is for IRL only. This is IRL experience for some certain quirks and things that some people just won't know unless they're experiencing it irl. And I think that's okay.
Sloane Stephens
No, it's totally okay. Like, I had so many crazy messages after the match that I was like, oh, we shouldn't do a birthday post, because it's gonna be like, all the comments are just gonna Be like, crazy betters or whatever. So it's like. It's like, it's hard to manage. But I think that, again, like, my personality and, like, feeling good about, like, who you are on the inside, no matter what it looks like on social media. Like, social media is not real life. Like, again, that's not my real personality. Like, it is, like, you can see my life, you can see my photos, you can see, like, what I'm doing. But, like, you don't. I don't think, like, your joy or your happiness maybe is. Maybe it looks a certain way, but, like, you actually would never know, like, what I'm going through as a person because I, like, I'm very guarded. And that's just because of the times.
Sloan
Yeah, I mean, it makes a lot of sense, for sure. And I think that with that, I'm sure comes a lot of mental toughness, which. And I think that that is probably a quality that a lot of athletes competing at that level would have to have.
Sloane Stephens
Yes.
Sloan
Have you felt, like, mental toughness is something that you developed more over time?
Sloane Stephens
I would say so. Like, as I, like, in my career, as I've played more and, like, figured out my game more and figured out, like, what it takes to win and how I have to win and all of those things, I like, you just have to be mentally tough. Just in general. If you want to be a competitor, like, it. You have to have that. Like, it's in you. Right. I don't think it's something that's really, like, you don't find it and, like, figure it out later. Like, it's always there. You just have to, like, tap into those parts that make you want to compete harder or make you want to, like, go, like, push a little bit further. And for me, I've always been a super competitive person, but I think what kind of always, like, made me a little bit standoffish is that I'm like, almost too good of a sport. Like, I'm like, I rather lose than cheat someone, or I rather, like, like, not play the match or then, like, go and play and, like, the tournament doesn't get a good match or whatever. Like, I've always just kind of been like, that's not like, a good look. That doesn't make me feel good. Right. And I think a lot of the times that's probably come off like, oh, she doesn't care, or whatever. But, like, I just have, like, a different approach. Like, I rather, like, I don't know, like, I rather not win than, like, get it the wrong way. Like I rather just not win than to cheat or like whatever it is. And I think a lot like in junior tennis there's like a bunch of like cheating and hooking and like all this stuff. And I was just like, my mom was like, we're going to sushi after. It doesn't matter. So I always kind of grew up with that. Just like it's like always going to be okay. Like there's always more to it. And I think a lot of the people that I grew up playing with, sometimes where they came from, like there, it's not going to be okay. So like you have to do that. And like I just again, as like my career has gone on, like I'm super competitive, but I don't feel like I need to do the wrong thing. I'm not forced to do the wrong thing and I'm okay with that. Like I'm okay with like being a good sport or a good competitor. And like, if that's all I am, then that, that's okay with me. Right. I think a lot of people, like, if I only won one Grand Slam, I was like, that's totally fine with me, like all good. Like I did what I needed to do, like a little girl, a little nine year old girl from Fresno, California won a slam. And I'm like, that's great, like something your parents can be proud of. And like that's it. But I didn't, I feel like I never, I was competitive, but I didn't have enough of like the edge to like want to cheat or like do kind of craziness or like, I don't know, what do you like when you have like medical timeouts? Like in tennis there's like so many like things you can do, like medical timeouts and you can like stop play and you can do this. Like I've probably, in my whole career, I've probably had three or four medical timeouts. And maybe, maybe if that. And like two of them were because I broke my foot. And like I just, I don't know, like I just, the gamesmanship and stuff is not like my vibe. Yeah.
Sloan
Like it doesn't need to be by any means necessary.
Sloane Stephens
Oh no, not at all. And that's like a flaw of mine.
Sloan
I mean, I, I hear what you're saying, I think from the outside looking in. Because also like, what do I know? It sounds really healthy. That actually sounds like a very healthy, normal thing.
Sloane Stephens
Yeah.
Sloan
Like a very healthy perspective to have.
Sloane Stephens
Yeah. My mom's a psychologist, so that's probably why that makes more sense, but, yeah, like, I just felt like I was never forced to, like, do something I didn't want to do, especially in my sport, and I've definitely gotten judged for that. But, again, that I can live with that. That's okay.
Host
Yeah. Yeah.
Sloan
But I also think that even for the different phases of your life, as you move into them, it's probably going to be a much healthier transition having that mindset.
Sloane Stephens
I think so. I think I've lived a full life, even through my tennis career, and I've kind of, like, done it on my own terms, and I've done everything I wanted to do, and I think a lot of the times, it's like, tennis, tennis, tennis. You can only focus on tennis and, like, that. Like, that's it.
Host
Right?
Sloane Stephens
Your whole life is tennis. And I was just always a person that I was like, that's just not true. Like, I'm gonna go on vacation. Like, I'm gonna, like, do the things I want to do. Like, I'm gonna do what I. What makes me happy. And again, I have gotten super judged for it. But I've, like, lived my life to the point where, like, I'm happy, like, with my decisions. I can live with my decisions. I can live with, like, my tennis career. Like, when I retire, I'm gonna be like, oh, that was super fun. And now I have, like, 60 more years to live. Like, what am I gonna do with my time? Like, I feel like there's so much to life that tennis is, like, such a. It's, like, 2% of your whole life, and there's so much more. So I think, like, the transition into, I guess, just being an adult and, like, an entrepreneur and, like, a philanthropist, like, all the things that I want to do when I retire, like, will be there for me, and I feel like the transition will be fine because it's just, like, a part of my life.
Sloan
Yeah. That's really refreshing, though, because it. You also have been really great.
Sloane Stephens
Oh, thank you.
Sloan
And I think it. The important message there that it shares with people is, like, you can be great, and it doesn't have to be your entire identity, which it sounds like that's what you're describing.
Sloane Stephens
Yes. I feel like a lot of tennis players only know themselves as tennis players. Like, they. If you ask them, like, what else do you see in yourself? They're like, I'm a tennis player. And if you ask me, I'm like, I can name you 30 things. I'm like, I'm a good cook. I'm like, I'm all of these things, right? And I feel like tennis gives you that. It takes up your whole being. And like in the media, if you're not good, if your ranking isn't good, if you're not where you want to be, like, it literally, like, it changes your whole mood. Like, it's who you are. Like, it's like if you don't, if you're not where you want to be. Like, everything in your life is in shambles. Like, it's just, you're not in a good place. And I've always, I've been in so many different situations where like my ranking has dropped or I've been injured or whatever and I'm just like, okay, like, if it's meant to be, it'll be like, if I can come back and play well, like that's what the universe has called me to do. Like, it it's just really a matter of accepting, like where you are and letting things like, play out.
Host
Yeah. Hey, quick question. Do you say data or data? Because in my house it's data. But honestly, the bigger question used to be why was I paying so much for it on my phone bill? Every year my phone bill would creep up for the same data plan and it felt annoying but necessary. That is until I found out about Mint Mobile. Their premium wireless plans start at just $15 a month. And when I needed a new phone line, I switched over to Mint to avoid overpaying. And the whole process was super seamless. Mint Mobile runs on the nation's largest 5G network, so I'm still getting high speed data and unlimited talk and text. So the same reliable service that I'm used to, just way more affordable. And I'm not exaggerating when I say I cut my phone bill by more than half. So goodbye to your overpriced wireless plans, jaw dropping monthly bills and unexpected overages. Mint Mobile is here to rescue you. You don't even need a new phone. Just bring your own device, your number and all your contacts. So here's the move. You're going to ditch overpriced wireless and get three months of premium wireless service from Mint Mobile for $15 a month. No matter how you say it, don't overpay for it. Shop data plans@mintmobile.com Lucky that's mintmobile.com Luck Lucky. Upfront payment of $45 for 3 month 5 gigabyte plan required the equivalent of 15amonth. New customer offer for the first 3 months only then full price plan options Available, taxes and fees extra. See Mint Mobile for details.
Sloan
A lot of people's, you know, jobs and things that they do every day definitely do not have the scrutiny and the pressure that you have experienced. But I do think a lot of people, similar to what we were talking about at the beginning of the conversation, feel sometimes, like, okay, if I'm not in this place by a certain time, or if I haven't done these things by a certain age, or if they feel, you know, like, behind in some way, like, the pressure of that can be a lot for a lot of people, and it can get people really down. And I think we often just need reminders that, like, ideally, life is long. And I think we all put a lot of pressure on ourselves to cram everything we want to do into our 20s and 30s, as if, like, those are the only decades we can do anything. And like, everything else after that is invalidated in some way, and it's just, like, it's not. It's not true, no matter what level you're at.
Sloane Stephens
Yeah, definitely. And I feel like there's, again, after tennis, there's, like, hopefully 60 more years or 50 more years of life to do all of these things. And I feel like, as a tennis player, you kind of are so in the moment. You're so focused on what's happening right now, or, like, the next slam or the next tournament and the next week and the ranking, and, like, that's it for you, right? And it's like, when you retire, like, again, like, so many athletes, you retire and you're like, okay, like, what happens? Like, they're. You're confused, you're lost. You're, like, trying to figure out even what you like outside of tennis. Like, what. Like, what do you like out of. Outside of football? What do you like outside of whatever sport you're playing? And that's just, like, a normal, like, athlete thing, because you dedicate your whole life to, like, one thing, and that's all that matters to you. And I feel like tennis has been a part of my life. It hasn't, like, defined who I am. I feel like I'm like, I. I don't know. Like, I feel like there's so much more to life. I've always felt like that. Like, I've always felt like there's so much life to live. And, like, after tennis, like, hopefully have kids one day, like, found a husband, he's all right.
Sloan
Like, I'm, like.
Sloane Stephens
I'm, like, I'm, like, I. Life has not been on the perfect track for Me, like, things haven't happened, and, like, the perfect way or, like, the way I planned, but I'm like, oh, this is happening now. Like, all right, let's ride the wave. I think, again, like, whatever you believe in, like, the universe guiding you or whatever, like, whatever's in front of you. Again, you have to work hard to get to whatever you want. Or you have to, like, be proactive in the things you want, whether that's having kids. Like, I froze my eggs because I was like, okay, maybe gonna still play tennis for another three years. Maybe not. I have no idea. So let's, like, freeze these babies up so they can see so we have options later. Like, all of those things. Like, you kind of have to be proactive to kind of get. And then you can figure it out from there. But I feel like a lot of things in life that don't really have anything to do with tennis for someone who works a regular job and goes to work. Like, you can be proactive to, like, make those things happen for yourself, but it just depends on, like, what do you want? Everyone wants different things, and everyone thinks that their timeline is supposed to be perfect. And, like, when I'm 32, I'm gonna have two kids already. Like, I have a friend, one of my, like, closest friends. She's two years older than me. She has three kids, and I'm like, girl, you are so brave. Like, I love you so much. I'm like, you are so brave. Literally. Superwoman works a full time job. Husband works a full time job. Like, I'm like, I'm so proud of you guys. Like, that's so not me, but I am so proud of, like, I look at their little family. I'm like, I love them. That's perfect. Like, I would love that one day. But again, she did that when she was 26. Like, I'm 32 and I have no kids. And I'm like, just because she did that doesn't mean that I can't do that in three years. But it's just everyone's timeline and journey is very different, and you have to kind of accept that. I feel like a lot of people, like, don't want to accept it, so they just force it, and they're like, I'm gonna marry this person. I'm gonna do this. I'm gonna have this baby. And it's like, yeah, a little bit forced.
Sloan
Yeah. And it's. Sometimes I think when you force things like that, you end up in situations that are maybe not ideal or not. What's truly meant for you. And there is, like, this middle ground because I loved what you talked about in terms of being proactive. And I do think so much of that kind of aligns with, like, the new direction of the show, this idea of she's so lucky, like, the ways that we create our own luck. And I do think so much of luck is, like, preparation, being proactive, preparing ourselves for the things that we want. And there's a difference between being prepared and, like, being proactive versus, like, forcing things that.
Sloane Stephens
Yeah. You know, align. Yeah, basically.
Host
Yeah.
Sloane Stephens
I feel like, a lot of things in life, this is, like, so crazy and, like, a second side to this. But we have a friend who, like, really believes in God, goes to church three times a week, like, whatever. And she's always like, God will make a way. Like, I just have to pray about it, and I have to do this again. I totally believe that. Like, I pray every night before bed. Like, I agree with that. But you also have to get yourself there. Right. Like, you have to be proactive enough to say, I maybe want kids. I maybe want to get this job. I maybe want to open this restaurant. I'm like, those things. Like, you have to take steps to those things. Yeah. I firmly believe God will make a way, but you have to make the way and, like, go on the path to get there.
Host
Yeah.
Sloane Stephens
And then maybe your miracle happens or whatever happens. That's just the universe aligning for you. Right. But it's like, you have to take steps. You have to work hard to go in that direction, whatever it may be. And then, of course, it may happen, and then we're lucky and, like, it's just meant to be.
Sloan
Yeah. I mean, I think a lot of prayers are answered through action.
Sloane Stephens
Absolutely. Like, you have to make a move. Like, you have to take the first step. You have to, like, go in that direction. And I always say, like, on my team, everyone who's on my team, I'm like, everyone has to be rowing in the same direction. And, like, I very much this year, this last, like, six months, I've been like, I have so many people, so many friends, like, people who work for me, that I'm like, if you're not aligned with what we're doing, if you're not rowing in that same direction, if you're not on the same page, like, everyone has to be on the same page. And I. I firmly believe that if you are not rowing in that direction, you have to get off the boat now. Like, there is no time to be like, oh, let's wait. Let's see. Get off, like, the firm. Like, the firmest I've ever been. Get off my boat. Like, that is that, like, that holds you back. Like, people like that hold you back.
Host
Yeah.
Sloane Stephens
And it's like that sours everyone on the boat. That, like, now everyone is seasick. Now we're throwing up. Now we're that, like, it's. There's so many different things that happen when you have one sour grape, and it's like, get them out of your life. Get them off of your team. Get them away from you as quickly as possible. Because it's like those types of things impact your whole life, right? Like, your job, your work, like, whatever it is. Like, whatever is important to you. And that. That is, like, what people don't realize. You wait so long to, like, do things for yourself, and you protect yourself in that way to try to, you know, like, make yourself feel better. But at the end of the day, like, you're only hurting yourself, right? So it's like, get off my boat.
Sloan
Yeah. And I think sometimes, too, people wait for the perfect time to do something or to take action, but oftentimes something can't be perfect if you don't start moving first. And the way to make something better is actually to get started and improve as you go, instead of, like, always waiting for the right moment to move one step forward.
Sloane Stephens
Just, like, take the step and then see what happens, like, for the second step and the third step or whatever it is. And I firmly believe that if you go in that direction, if it's meant to be, it's totally gonna meant to be. It's already written, right? It's like, whatever's gonna happen is gonna happen, and you can only do your best. Like, that's. You literally can only do your best. And if it happens, then that's. That was meant to be. Like, that was your destiny. That was. That's in front of you. But you do have to work a little bit to get there, Right? And I think a lot of things. A lot of times people think they're. It's gonna appear, but it's like, it's not luck. It's like those. Those steps that you took to get there, like, you made a way for yourself. And then at the end, like, when you needed that little, like, door to open, then it just kind of flew open, and we didn't know why. And that's okay, too. Yeah. It can be your luck, and that can be what pivots you and turns you into whatever it is.
Host
Exactly. The actions take it.
Sloane Stephens
Yeah, absolutely.
Host
When my anxiety is high, coffee and I just do not get along. I want the focus and the energy, but the jitters, the racing thoughts, the crash two hours later, no thanks. That's why I started reaching for Nandika by Peak instead. And honestly, it's been such a relief. Nandica isn't just a coffee replacement. It's a smarter swap. I still get that morning boost, but it's steady with no spike, no crash and no spiral. It helps me stay focused and grounded, which is exactly what I need when my nervous system's already doing the most. It's made with ceremonial grade cacao probiotic teas and functional mushrooms that support digestion, stress and metabolism. Basically, it's giving calm energy and not chaos. Now, because it's peak, the quality is next level. Nandica is made with fruiting body mushrooms. No filler and everything is triple toxin screened. There's also 30% cacao butter in the blend, which helps your body absorb all of the good stuff. So if coffee has been messing with your mood lately or you just want to feel better about what you're putting in your cup every morning, I can't recommend Nandica by Peak tea enough. You can get 20% off plus a free starter kit when you shop exclusively@peaklife.com balanced less that's P I Q U E life.com balancedless Give Nandica by Peak a try and thank me later.
Sloan
I would love to come back to something that you mentioned a little bit ago. You talked about freezing your eggs.
Sloane Stephens
Ooh, yeah.
Sloan
Which is a topic that we have actually talked about on the podcast. I' had a few doctors come on, like OB GYNs who often take their patients through that process. Been on the podcast and they've like, described it very medically. But I think you might be the first guest, at least where it's come up in conversation, who has actually done it. Okay, so if you're comfortable, would you mind like, just sharing a little bit more about that experience? How it went, what it was like for you?
Sloane Stephens
It was totally fine. I did it twice, actually. So I did it in at the end of 2022 in my off season, and then I just did it now again in 2024 in my off season. And I again, not knowing how much longer I was gonna play tennis, I was like, this is probably like the best idea. Like, this is like the best step for me in, in case, like, what if I retire at 34, 35, I'm having a hard Time getting pregnant, I don't have, like, that backup, right? So I'm like, let's just do it. And if I don't use them, great. If I do use them, also great. Whatever. So I actually worked with a company. They're in New York. It's called Kind Body. And they kind of. They do everything. And you go. You get your egg count, like, figure out, like, your follicles, your. Your count. Like, all of. All of the things you do, all the blood tests, you do, all the blood work. They ask you, you know, like, if you want to make them just freeze your eggs. You want to make them embryos, like, with your partner or whatever it is. And you do injections. Everyone's cycle is, like, different. So my first cycle is only nine days of, like, injections. You have to inject yourself every day. So if you're, like, squirmy about injecting yourself, like, you need someone to, like, help you and support you. I love grim stuff like that. So I'm like, just popping it in. I don't mind, but it is like a journey. You get bloated. Like, the first time I was super bloated. I looked like I was eight months pregnant. It was.
Sloan
How did you feel?
Sloane Stephens
And I was fine. Like, I. For the first. I don't know, first six or seven days, I was totally fine. And then I, like, blew up. I was like a big girl. So I was like, okay, don't know where that came from, but I was totally fine. I felt a little bit tired at the end. But it's also like. It's honestly, like, my second cycle was 15 days, so it was a bit longer. I didn't gain that much weight, which was good. I had. In my first cycle, I gained 15 pounds, like, over the whole course, but it was only nine days, which was a little bit weird. I think the medication was, like, a little bit off. So when I went back the second time, they totally changed my medication and I got more eggs and I didn't gain any of the weight. Okay. So I gained maybe like four or five pounds, which.
Sloan
Your body responded differently each time.
Sloane Stephens
Yeah, it was like a different thing. And I. I took some different medication or whatever, but overall, like, you go get a vaginal ultrasound every day to check, right? You get blood work every other day or whatever. And depending on your case, everyone is different. You inject yourself every day. Some are, like, you take pills, some you take, like, vaginal inserts. Like, like, whatever. Whatever you have to do. And the first time, I got 16 eggs and the second time, I got 19. So that was good, right? A little. Little. What do they call caviar? Fish girl. So I was like, okay, this is good. But, yeah, they put you to sleep. The. Like, when they actually do the retrieval, it's pretty simple. It's literally like 20 minutes. They put you under. For simpler terms. They suck it out and you wake up and you're totally fine and you can go home. It's pretty simple. Like, I think it's more emotionally, like, draining. Like, in the process of you're doing. If you're going to work every day, mind you, this isn't my off season. So I'm literally sitting at home doing absolutely nothing. Like, I have no pressure. I don't. I'm like. I'm just literally chilling.
Sloan
Is there recovery time?
Sloane Stephens
Yeah. So you. I think you have to wait. I think it's like two weeks.
Host
Okay.
Sloane Stephens
Like, you can't have sex. You can't work out. Like, you can't do anything because you could get, like, ovary torsion, which I did get a little bit of the first time.
Host
Okay.
Sloane Stephens
I wasn't working out, but I did go to Iceland. So I flew. And I was like, oh, my stomach's hurting a little bit. And I was like, yeah, this is not.
Sloan
And what is an ovarian torture?
Sloane Stephens
Like, what's happening when your ovaries kind of. They get, like. They expand. I think they get bigger and then they, like, twist. So then it's, like, super painful. I don't know. It just depends on, like, your drugs, if they're right for you, if they're, like, balanced properly, like, all of those things. Hormones. Like, that was, like, the first time I'd ever put, like, legit hormones in my body outside of birth control. So, like. And it was an everyday thing. You do it twice a day, the whole thing. So, yeah, the journey was. It was not. Like, you just have to do it.
Host
Yeah.
Sloane Stephens
If you're, like, thinking about kids, you want kids, you don't have a partner. You don't know. You don't know what your timeline is. Like, I. I have recruited, like, 25 people to do this. So I always say, like, just do it and then see what happens. Maybe you never need it. Maybe you never even think about it. Maybe you meet your husband on the street the next day and you end up having kids and it's totally fine. But, like, to have that just security of knowing that it could take a long. Like, you could not meet your person and want to have kids or whatever, or maybe you never want to have kids. You decide you don't want kids, and that's okay too. Like, I think everyone can figure it out, but if you don't actually do it, then you don't have that option. And I feel like having the option is the most important thing. Absolutely. I feel like. Yeah.
Sloan
And I think as women, when it comes to our reproductive health, like, our having options, exploring those options, having a little bit more say over when we go down that path versus when we don't, just makes all the difference in our lives.
Sloane Stephens
Definitely. Yeah. They don't want to have to make a decision. Like, I don't. I didn't want to have to make the decision like, oh, I'm going to stop playing because I want to have kids. Like, that's, like, unfair. Dudes can play like, they're till they're 40 and not have any disruptions. Like, everything's, like, totally fine. So I was like, you know what? This. I'm gonna do it for me. I'm gonna, like, figure it out and see where I go. Like, timelines are always different. Like, and you don't have to, like, adjust your timeline because you won't have a family. Like, that just seems, in my mind, seems unfair. So I'm like, okay. And that's mostly why I did it, because I'm like, I don't wanna have to stop whatever I'm doing to, like, have a family. And that's also something that I also really want. So it's like, again, being proactive, taking the step to, like, okay, like, get me there, and then we'll see. Like, you can see in a year or two years or three years, like, what you want to do.
Host
Yeah. I would also love to talk to you about entrepreneurship. Oh, okay. Yes. Because you also have a brand that you launched last year.
Sloane Stephens
My baby.
Host
Yes.
Sloane Stephens
Can you tell us.
Host
Tell us about your baby. Doc and Glow.
Sloane Stephens
Yes. So I launched Dunk and Glow in August of last year before the US Open, the week before the US Open. And I've been working on it for a while. Like, so it was like, my Covid baby and Doc and Glow was my grandparents. My grandpa was Doc, my grandma was Glow. And I feel like whenever I work on a project or I do something, like, I always have to have it very personal to me. Like, it makes me want to, like, do more. Like, I find different ways to, like, figure things out, and, like, I don't know, it just makes me love it more. And my grandparents passed away seven days apart from each other in 2021, like right at the end, like not the end of COVID but January 21st, when I was actually playing a tournament. I was in Australia for Australian Open and I was in quarantine for 14 days. And like, I was like, it was really just an awful time. But I would say that like everyone, well, people who grew up with a grandparent, like my grandparents were like the best. Like, we did everything together. Like, they were still traveling to tournaments with me. Like, we were still doing all of these amazing things. And I feel like a grandparents love is like, it just doesn't get any better than that. Right. It's like the thing that you remember most, like, about your childhood or like about things. And I feel like my grandparents really were like the glue to like my whole family. And we did like all of my family trips, like everything we did always together. And I was like, okay, what do I want to name my brand? And we went through all these like Tennessee names and like court names. And I was like, no, I'm just gonna name it Doc and Glose. Those are my two favorite people. And that's what I wanted to be called. Yeah, right. And I think that was kind of how I got to the name and then like products and what I wanted to do. So initially I had a whole different idea that I was gonna do and I settled on body care because I was like, this is the thing that resonates with me most and like what I'm feeling in my everyday life and what my focus is and what I'm taking care of. So I'm like, body care is what I really, I really want to create more. More options in this category. Right. I want a luxury product without the luxury price tag. Like, I want it to look a certain way without having to pay a certain way. Right. And I want it to be very accessible. I wanted it. My grandpa was an OB GYN and he delivered like 30,000 babies. So throughout my life, it was always about like self care, taking care of yourself. Like, there was always so many women that like my grandparents would help out and like, take care of. My grandma also worked in my grandpa's office. I think my mom actually worked there at one point too. Like every. It's just like a family thing, right? And it was always about like taking care of yourself and making sure that like, you had what you needed for your body, like, mentally, obviously. My mom's a psychologist, so mentally and physically. And I wanted to put all of those things together and like, what I saw as like a good brand, like Something that I would want to purchase. I would like, want to walk into a store and be like, oh, I like that. I want to buy that. That's new. That's something I haven't seen before. Like all of those things. So I convinced everyone that I was going to start a body care brand and that's where it started. And my mom's giving me a budget every year and we've just worked off that. Like, it's just literally been my like dream. Like, well, it's been like my passion project, but now it's not a passion project. It actually makes money. So I'm like, that's good. That's a company. It's like a real company. And I think it's something no one believes in it until someone believes in it type of thing. And again, when we started, we started, we launched with two products because as everyone knows, entrepreneurship is expensive, especially with the physical product. Yeah, please. So I was like, we're starting with two and we'll see who actually buys this. Good thing. You guys bought it. So that was good. And we started with that. Then we launched two more. We launched the scrub and the lotion which has done really good.
Sloan
And the initial two were the deodorant.
Host
And the, and the mist.
Sloane Stephens
Yeah, and the body mist. So fragrance free again. My grandparents always believed in like very simple like products. So everything we pretty much had was like fragrance free or like very light scented. And like that's things that I remember like growing up. Like I remember getting it like taking a bath in my grandparents like green tiled bathroom and like having like this big bar soap and like having like this long rag. I don't even know where we got these. I don't even know where these things come from. But like I remember all of those things about like growing up and like taking care of myself and like learning how to use a wash rag and like what to do and like all of those things. Like I feel like I'm incorporating into the brand because it's like things that I know everyone kind of has like gone through right. In their process, but just in a more adult way. Right. We don't have baby products. But like I still do the same thing now as I did when I was five. Like it's all the same. And I feel like self care and like body care people kind of forget to take care of themselves. Right. I'm, I'm very big on anywhere I go. I'll go to a spa. Anywhere I go, I will go to like a bath house. I Will go to the sauna in the hotel. Like, I will. I do all those things, but it's become a part of my life. Yesterday when we went, I asked my mom, like, when the last time you got a massage? And she's like, it's been years. I'm like, years, like, changing that. Yeah. I'm like, what are you doing with your life? Mind you, we went there and she talked to the massage therapist the whole time. I'm like, why were you talking? You're supposed to relax. You're supposed to be quiet. I'm like, think about. Think about your own thoughts. Why are you talking? Like, that's not why we're here. So I feel like people forget to, like, take care of themselves and, like, take care of your body. And, like, we got a body scrub, but I get a body scrub, like, once a month. Like, that's like, my thing. That's what I like to do. Like, it's like, makes me feel good. Like, I love, like, putting oils on myself and, like, that's just my thing, right? And I feel like so many of us forget. So, like, I wanted to create a brand that you couldn't forget. Like, that's the whole brand. That's the idea. That's like the philosophy. That's like how you think of self care. But you can do it at home, right? It's not. You don't have to go to the spa to do it. Like, get the body scrub out and let's go to work. Like, you can do that for yourself. And that was a big part of the brand. So now we have four products and. And we're launching two more. And we're in revolve. We're in free people. We're on Amazon. Like, we, like, we've started off well, which I'm, like, really proud of because it's something that I've literally done by myself with, like, my mom. So it's like, something to actually be really proud of. And I feel like as a tennis player, like, I got my degree and I got my master's degree, and I was like, I'm never gonna use any of this. I'm just learning about Meta ads. Like, never had to use that before, right? So it's like, all of those things make it new and exciting. So find something to look forward to and obviously always have goals, but then find something that, like, really excites you in your business. And all of those things right now, maybe because I'm new excite me, but I'm like, this is so Fun.
Host
Yeah. But it is good advice.
Sloan
There is always something that you should be looking forward to and excited for. And if not, then maybe it's time to pivot.
Host
Maybe it's time to refresh.
Sloan
Maybe it's time for another perspective. It's really good advice. I think I needed to hear it. Girl, it's me. It's me who you're talking to.
Sloane Stephens
You're the girl. But no, like, the pivot is okay. Like, it's totally fine. It's life. It's what happens. It's like your new you. It's a chance to be like, this is me.
Host
Hey, guys.
Sloane Stephens
Re representing myself. Like, here I am. We love a rebrand. She's so lucky. But, like, yeah, I think it's totally okay. And you just kind of get. Gotta get a little DJ skirt and, like, figure it out. And it doesn't matter what people think because it's like, this is my new brand. So what's up?
Host
Exactly.
Sloane Stephens
That's it.
Host
Yeah. I love it.
Sloan
Sloane, thank you so much for joining me today.
Sloane Stephens
Thanks for having me. Oh, my gosh.
Host
No.
Sloan
This was so much fun. I feel like you dropped so many gems. So many. Yes. So much like helpful advice that I think could be applicable to so many.
Host
People who are listening.
Sloan
Can you please let the girls know where they can find you? Where they can find Doc and Glow again? I know you mentioned it earlier, but we're going to remind people again.
Sloane Stephens
Go get it. We are on, like, where can we. So Doc and Glow.com we are. And then we are on Revolve. We're on free people. We're in some FP movement stores, which is very cool. It's like our first little, like, in retail, like IRL, but yeah, mostly D2C, as you entrepreneurs know. D2C is our strongest selling point at the moment. It's costing me a little bit to acquire customers, so I would appreciate it. And yeah, just support any way you can, because supporting is not monetary. It's not. You don't have to buy anything. Like a repost on social media. Just commenting on a post. Like, all of those things are. Support those. All of those things help. So it's like if you can't buy something, you can share on social media. Like, that's also super helpful.
Host
Exactly. Amazing.
Sloan
We'll make sure it's all linked in.
Host
The show notes to make it easy for people to find and support.
Sloane Stephens
Thank you.
Host
Thank you so much for joining me.
D
Hey, I'm Josh Peck. And I'm Ben Soffer. And we're the Good Guys on our show. Every week we talk about buzzy pop culture stories, maybe answer a couple of your voicemails and go into a moment of the week that makes makes you say, what, are you nuts? And I swear, it's so much better than this promo. Anyway, there's a lot of guys out there, but we're the good ones. Stream Good Guys every Monday, wherever you get your podcasts, Apple, Spotify, anywhere. Neil it don't listen.
Sloane Stephens
Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services.
Sloan
Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products.
Sloane Stephens
Or services referred to in this episode.
Podcast Summary: "How to Thrive Under Pressure with Sloane Stephens"
Podcast Information:
Timestamp: [00:20] – [01:23]
Les Alfred welcomes Sloane Stephens to the podcast, diving into a conversation about Sloane’s recent 32nd birthday. Sloane shares her thoughts on aging and the societal pressures that come with it.
Discussion Points:
Notable Quote:
Timestamp: [12:53] – [22:04]
Sloane delves into the challenges of maintaining routines and staying centered while traveling frequently for her tennis career.
Discussion Points:
Notable Quotes:
Timestamp: [22:04] – [33:36]
The conversation shifts to mental toughness, a vital trait for any professional athlete. Sloane shares her journey in developing resilience and maintaining calm under pressure.
Discussion Points:
Notable Quotes:
Timestamp: [33:36] – [48:28]
Sloane discusses her entrepreneurial venture, "Doc and Glow," a body care brand inspired by her grandparents. She elaborates on the motivations, challenges, and successes of launching her own business.
Discussion Points:
Notable Quotes:
Timestamp: [33:36] – [39:07]
Sloane opens up about her decision to freeze her eggs, discussing the process, motivations, and the importance of having control over her reproductive future.
Discussion Points:
Notable Quotes:
Timestamp: [25:44] – [31:07]
The episode emphasizes the concept of creating one's own luck through proactive actions and ensuring alignment in personal and professional relationships.
Discussion Points:
Notable Quotes:
Timestamp: [39:36] – [48:28]
Sloane shares her vision for life after tennis, highlighting her ambitions beyond the sport and the importance of having a multifaceted identity.
Discussion Points:
Notable Quotes:
Timestamp: [48:28] – [47:23]
As the episode wraps up, Sloane encourages listeners to support her entrepreneurial endeavors and reiterates the importance of self-care and proactive living.
Final Messages:
Notable Quotes:
Key Takeaways:
Embrace Your Unique Journey: Sloane emphasizes the importance of recognizing and celebrating your unique path, regardless of societal expectations or comparisons on social media.
Maintain Balance Through Proactivity: Whether managing a demanding career or personal life, being proactive in self-care and decision-making is crucial for maintaining mental and emotional balance.
Develop Mental Toughness: Cultivating resilience and the ability to remain calm under pressure are essential traits for success both on and off the court.
Empower Yourself Through Choices: Making informed and proactive decisions in areas like reproductive health empowers women to take control of their futures.
Create Your Own Luck: Success often stems from preparation and proactive actions. Aligning yourself with supportive individuals and eliminating negative influences can create opportunities for growth and achievement.
Prepare for Life Beyond Current Roles: Defining oneself beyond a single identity or career ensures a smoother transition and a more fulfilling life post-retirement or career changes.
Where to Find Sloane Stephens and Doc and Glow:
Support Sloane: Whether through purchasing products, sharing on social media, or offering encouragement, every bit of support helps in her entrepreneurial journey.
This episode of She’s So Lucky with Sloane Stephens offers valuable insights into thriving under pressure, maintaining balance, and proactively creating one's own luck. Sloane’s candid discussions provide inspiration and actionable advice for listeners aiming to live life on their own terms.