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Okay, so we have set our goals for 2025, specifically for Q1 of 2025. Now let's talk about creating a game plan for ourselves to actually achieve, achieve these goals. As I said in our Athlete of Life episode from back over the summer, if you are not playing to win, you are setting yourself up to get played. And it is a tough pill to swallow. It is a conversation that I have with myself all the time where I am like, I don't want to, I don't want to do this, I don't want to be here. I hate capitalism. But the systems that we have, unfortunately, are what we have. I do think we're living in a time where systems are changing and hopefully we will see things move differently in our lifetime. But here, today, today, as we are having this conversation, what we have is what we have. And so if you are not playing to win, you are setting yourself up to get played. And so when we think about how can we play to win, it's about breaking apart those goals that we just set into tangible steps and into tangible habits that we can repeat over time until we achieve those goals. So first off, in terms of playing to win, a big part of that is going to start with mindset. And I think for a lot of people, this is a really big obstacle. Again, like I said, during the best case scenario, this isn't just about, oh, think positive, or oh, assuming your mindset is the only obstacle because there are so many very real things in real life that are hindrances to people getting to where they want to be. And I'm not minimizing that or diminishing that or saying that those, those things don't exist because they absolutely do exist. What I am saying is that if you want to get through them, you have to start having a solution oriented mindset. So if there are obstacles, if there are barriers, if there are things in your way we have to start looking at, okay, how can I either find another way or for this thing that is blocking what I want, how can I dismantle it and work through it to get to the other side? I even think a super simple example of this could be something financial. I mean, finances are a really tricky topic for a lot of people. And let's say that there is an item that you want to buy, like maybe you want to buy a new computer to help you work on your business. It can be so tempting to say, well, I'm broke right now, I can't buy a new computer, I can never buy a new computer, so I'm never going to have my business. That could be true. And another way to work around that, as someone who is an athlete of life could say, okay, this is how much it costs to buy a new computer that I need to launch my business. In the meantime, this is how much money I have. If I'm able to set aside X amount of dollars per month. That means that my solution to this is I can buy a computer in a year to execute my new business. That is a solution. I may not be able to have it today, I may not be able to have it right now, but I'm putting a plan in motion. I'm putting a solution in motion so that I can have what I need a year from now. And in the meantime, I am going to use what I have to learn every single thing that I can about the business that I want to start. So I'm going to start researching competitors, I'm going to start researching gaps in the market. I'm going to start learning about naming and trademarks and what it takes, it takes to create an LLC in my state. I'm going to do all of that research right now while I'm saving for that computer or whatever it is. And then a year from now when I've saved for that computer and I can afford it and I can buy it, I also now have a year's worth of knowledge from doing all of this background work and now I can hit the ground running. So that is an example of what it can look like to have more of a solution oriented mindset to help us reach our goals. So instead of seeing this barrier as well, if I can't have it right now, that means I can never do it. Well, what can you do right now to help prepare yourself so that when you are able to do that thing later, you're ready for it? So I know in my own life, finances were a Big part of this for me. There was definitely a time where it was like I couldn't afford to pay down my debt. I couldn't afford to do all of these different things. And during that time, that was when I really dug in to learn a lot more about money. Back when I couldn't afford to invest and I couldn't afford to travel and I couldn't afford to do do these things, I was reading a ton of finance books just to understand how the language of money worked. So that eventually, when I did get more, I knew what to do with it. So how can you find a solution for exactly what it is you want to achieve with wherever you are and with whatever you have right now? And when you start to switch how your mind works to start seeing solutions instead of just problems, you will be shocked at how much opportunity opens up for you. So again, this isn't just bypassing these real problems and saying, oh, think positive. It's saying for every problem there is a solution. So how can you meet each problem with a solution that works? Even if you can't have it right away, even if it takes a year from now, even if it takes five years from now, the time is going to pass anyway. So how can you start seeing those solutions for what they are? And so when we say switch your mindset, that is what people are saying, switch your mindset to begin looking for solutions. So once you have that foundational mindset of looking for solutions down, then it's time to start talking about those keystone habits. So again, a lot of us think of habits as these very generic things of I need to walk 10,000 steps a day and I have to read these many pages out of a book and I have to journal for X minutes. And those are all fantastic habits to have for overall well being. However, when I'm talking about habits, I'm not talking about those very generic things that a lot of people focus on. I am talking about breaking apart the specific goals that you set to be the version of yourself that you want to be at the end of the year. Habits are the daily, weekly, monthly actions that you do and that you repeat to make achieving that goal a reality. So if you think about how an athlete works, they're not working out doing arbitrary workouts for the sake of working out. They are doing drills to focus on specific skills that help them win their game. So if you think about what your game is, you think about what skills will you need to win that game? What are the drills that will help you strengthen the skills Bars, rap. I'm rapping. That rhymed to help you win that game. So those drills are your habits. The drills are the habits. Okay? So if you think about whatever it is that you want to reach, it's okay. If you are not yet the version of yourself that knows how to do all of the things, it's okay. If you want to be an accountant and you don't know everything that there is about accounting today, that is okay. You're going to break that down into building the skills that you need to become well versed in accounting so that maybe a year from now, when you take the CPA exam, then you'll be ready to pass it. But those daily things that you do to prepare for being that person who passes the CPA exam, I don't know where I'm getting these examples from, y'all, but this is, you know, know. Come with me here. I know you. You. You're picking up what I'm putting down. Those are going to be your habits. So I. For each goal that you set, I want you to identify at least one, maybe two habits that you can repeat regularly. It doesn't necessarily have to be every single day, but at least something that you can repeat weekly that will help you strengthen the skill that you need need to reach that goal. So if I were to look at your journal and I were to see some habits that did not align with the goals, I'd be like, friend, what are you doing? Where are we going? What is this? What are we. What are we doing here? It needs to be very clear. Each habit needs to have a clear line directly to a goal that you want to reach. And this is what is going to help you at the end of 2025, look back at your reflection and say, hey, actually, I did all that stuff, but said that I was going to do so. Breaking down your goals so that they can tie to specific repeatable habits, that's the cheat code. That's the cheat code to your playbook actually working and helping you win whatever game it is that you're playing. Now, the other thing is all about actually making these things happen. And this is where planning comes in in terms of your daily and weekly planning. So we've talked about the goals that we want to reach by the end of the year. We've talked about the skills that we need to have to reach goals, and we've talked about the regular habits almost daily, daily to weekly that we need to repeat and be consistent with to reach those goals, Right? So now you're Going to make sure that you're actually doing those things. That is where your planner comes in. Whether that's your spacious rituals planner, whether that is your Google calendar, whether that is in your notion, whether that is in your notes app, however, works best for your brain to keep yourself accountable. If there is a goal that you say you want to reach, I better be able to if I were to look at your calendar in 2025, I better see something every single week on your calendar that directly correlates to whatever it is that goal is that you say you want to reach by the end of the quarter or by the end of the year. So now that you've mapped out your goals and your habits, I want you to put time in your calendar to actually do the habit regularly. For a lot of habits, they can be done daily. Not every habit has to be done every single day, but it needs to be done at least weekly. For me, the way I like to do this is I like to have just a Sunday planning session with myself where I will look forward at the week ahead. I will look at what are the tasks that I need to get done, are there any projects that I need to follow up on, what are the actions that I need to take to get closer to my goals, what are the workouts that I want to plan for myself, that I want to do. And I will map those things out on my calendar in my planner every single week. Because if I map them out and if I put it on my calendar and if I put it on my to do list, I am far more likely to do it now. No, I'll be honest. I'm human. So sometimes I also ignore things that are on my to do list. And sometimes I also ignore things that are on my planner. But it is hard to ignore if it is there consistently showing up for you in your calendar and if you actually make the time to do it. So you're really thinking about being an architect of your schedule and being an architect of time to help you build out the space to create the habits that are going to help you be where you want to be. And if we also tie this back to the athlete example, an athlete is going to have a regular training schedule where they are doing those drills to help them condition and be prepared to win their game. So if you think of your weekly schedule almost as your training schedule of life, where is the time for your practice, where's the time for your refinement, and also where is the time for your review? So right now I want you to Put some time in your calendar, not only for where you're going to actually do these habits on at least a weekly basis, if not daily, if applicable. I also want you to put some time in your calendar for review. So go ahead, ahead and go to your calendar. Go to the end of March and during the last week of March, I want you to earmark a date to review your progress to your goals. Like I said, I'm somebody who, if I only set goals for the year and then I never set up any time to look back at it. I'm giving myself until December to reach something. I might think about it in November if I even remember that I set the goal. But by setting time on your calendar now, in your planner, on your Google Cow, wherever it is that you like to do it, that is going to give you kind of an accountability check to help. See, okay, have I made progress towards this goal? If I did, great, gold star. If not, that is also okay. It doesn't mean anything bad. But where's some time for review? How can I refine this goal? Did I not reach it because I didn't have those regular consistent habits helping me work towards that goal? Did I not reach it because the goal is just no longer relevant? Did I not reach it because life got to life thing and I had to prioritize other things? All of these things are okay. Again, this is all data. This is not anything about your work ethic or your worth or your ability to follow through. This is all data. But if you actually have that data, then you are able to apply it the next quarter to know what to do differently to get to where you want to be be. So if I were to take a peek in your calendar, I want to see some time every week, even if it's just a five minute little task that is directly related to the goals that you say you want to reach weekly. It's you're not going to reach goals if you're not working towards these things weekly. And I also want to see time at the very end of the quarter, that last week of March, some time on your calendar just for review. It doesn't have to be a lot of time. It can be 30 minutes, an hour, just on your calendar so that when it comes up, you remember to do it. And you can review where it's at. And don't be afraid of not reaching your goals. Don't be afraid or avoid the review if you didn't reach your goals. It's just information. Actually, I think review is even more important. When you don't reach your goals, because then you can understand why. So go ahead and put that time in your calendar or in your planner now. So while we're also thinking about keeping track of our goals and thinking about review, I also want you to think about how you're going to celebrate your wins. Because I am anticipating that you are going to be that version of yourself that you want to be or better by the end of the quarter or by the end of the year. I am somebody who is very reward driven also. I'm like a little bit spite driven. But we won't talk about that. We'll keep it positive. Very reward driven. So for me, if there is something that I want to reward myself with, I know that I'm actually a lot more likely to reach a goal if I reward myself with something. So think about ways that you would want to celebrate your wins at the end of the quarter. Would you want to take yourself to a spa day? Would you want to get yourself a new workout set? Would you want to start planning a trip, Trip somewhere? Would you want to treat yourself to a new candle or to a new book, whatever it is, Start planning your celebrations now in anticipation for reaching your goals. And again, this is also something that you can put on your planner or in your calendar for that last week of March. So you're already anticipating I'm gonna reach these goals. I'm a review what went well. And then I also have some time, maybe on the same day. I don't know what your schedule looks like depends to celebrate my wins. So if I go through this review and I realized I was winning and doing the things and I reached this certain goal that I said I was gonna reach, this is how I'm going to reward myself. So start thinking about that now to give yourself something to look forward to. Now. We've mapped out our goals, we have mapped out our habits. We have put time in our calendars to keep ourselves accountable, to maintaining our habits. We have put time in our calendars for review. We have also put time in our calendars to celebrate our wins. I also want us to think about building in time for rest. Again, going back to the athlete example, athletes also know that recovery is a very important part of their training protocol. And for anybody, whether you are an athlete of a sport or an athlete of life, we cannot be pushing, grinding, forcing ourselves towards something, a goal, a win, whatever that looks like, like 24 7. We need time off. Whether that's a day, whether that's an hour, whether that's A whatever it is. I also want you to start building in some time for recharge within your calendar. So in the spacious rituals planner, we actually have what's called a ritual menu where you can create your own ritual recipes. And this is just kind of a more fun take on creating self care routines because I think we're all six of routines. It just sounds so boring and so stuffy. And so if you think about those different things that help you feel good that you would put into a routine as each individual ritual ingredient, how would you put those different ingredients together to create a routine or to create a recipe of rituals that feel really good for you? And so we have space for this and all of our spacious rituals planners, whether you have have, you know, the iPad version or whether you have the notion version or whatever version that works best for how your brain works and how you plan. So if I were to think about my morning routine ritual recipes, some of the ingredients that I would put in there would be 10 minutes of meditation, 15 minutes of reading, a 30 minute workout, and one cup of my favorite coffee. Those are the different ingredients in my morning routine ritual recipe. And when I put them all together, that is the recipe for the perfect morning ritual for me. Real talk. Those are actually the things that I do really love in the morning because that's how my life is set up and that's what I like. But your ritual routine recipes can look totally different. So start mapping out those recipes that help you feel restored, those things that help you recover. So if you think about the goals that you set for yourself and the different habits that you will need, need to maintain, what are the different ways that you can recover from those specific actions that you're taking? So we can go back to our CPA example, right? If we have a girly somebody who is studying to pass the CPA exams, that is a lot of brain work and that is a lot of math. I would assume. I don't know anything about being a cpa, but it sounds like a lot of math and it sounds like a lot of brain work. So for somebody who needs recovery time from training, from that win of becoming a cpa, I would imagine that the opposite of that, that you would need for recovery would be a lot of play. So her ritual recipes would probably involve a lot of play. Whether that is dance or whether that is coloring or whether that is like reading juicy fiction and just getting lost in a story where she doesn't have to do any math or any studying whatsoever. So think about what it is that you're training for and look at what you need to do to recover from those training periods so that you can keep your head in the game. So for me, my morning routine is a big part of my recovery for the things that I need to do each day, as is my night routine. Also for me, I have Saturdays where I now don't do work things on Saturdays. So I don't go to events, I don't work on the podcast, I don't do things that are networking, I don't really do people's like wellness events. All of that stuff is still work to me. And if it is a Saturday, that is my sacred day where I am either on the couch, I'm outside with friends, or I am at a museum somewhere, or I am somewhere touching grass, weather permitting. And I am doing things that are pure play. I am not balance less, I am not Big sis less. I'm not giving anybody advice. I'm not doing wellnessy things. I'm doing pure play. I'm doing hood rat stuff with my friends. That is what I need to recover from that version of myself that does all the things I need to do to reach my goals. Okay, that's the example for me. But for you, that could be totally different depending on what your goals are and on what that regular kind of training and habits are. So make sure that you're building in time in your routine for that recovery for that ritual so that you have enough gas in the tank to keep going. So before we wrap up, I really want to encourage you to be super intentional about the goals that you set for this year, if you are choosing to set them. So as you may see, there's a common thread through everything that we do. Each habit that we're planning to do is directly tied to a goal. All of our self care and rituals and recovery is directly tied to helping us recharge to reach our goals. So as you map things out, make sure that there is a why and that there is clarity behind every single thing that you're doing because that's going to help you stay in and win the game. Thank you so much for tuning in this week. If you are listening the week that it is released or sometime in January 2025, I am wishing you a happy new Year. I hope you had a restful holiday season and that you have a prosperous 2025 that you are able to reach whatever it is that you want to reach and that you're able to call in whatever it is that you are calling in. If you enjoyed this episode. Please make sure that you check out the Show Notes if you want to check out our spacious rituals, planners, tools and resources to help you reach your goals, as well as information from our sponsors and the different discount codes that we feature during our ad breaks. Also in the Show Notes, you can find me on social media. I, I, I feel like I've been showing up on a lot of people's for you page lately, is what they've been telling me. And they're like, les, I had no idea what you look like. I had no idea that you were on Instagram, or I had no idea that you were on TikTok. And I'm like, ooh, friend, that means you're not reading the Show Notes. Because my Instagram and my TikTok and all the things have always been linked in the Show Notes for years, as well as all of our discount codes from the ads. So I have also had people reach out to me saying they didn't know what a discount code was for something that we talked about. They're always, always in either the episode episode description or in the Show Notes, so you can check it out there. Thank you so much for tuning in this week. Happy goal setting and I cannot wait to see how amazing 2025 is for you. 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