She’s So Lucky – Episode Summary
Episode: Stop Settling for Almost: How to Actually Get What You Want
Host: Les Alfred
Date: February 3, 2026

Episode Overview

This episode of "She’s So Lucky" with host Les Alfred is a motivational deep-dive into identifying, claiming, and unapologetically pursuing your biggest desires. Les outlines the dangers of settling for “almost,” unpacks societal and internal programming that keep women playing small, and shares actionable strategies for being audacious in going after exactly what you want. The episode is equal parts pep talk, tough love, and practical guide for moving from dreaming to doing.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Claiming What You Really Want: Stop Settling for “Almost”

• Les candidly shares her journey from settling for “enough” to boldly naming her desires.
• She recalls times she pretended to be okay with having less—whether a small podcast or a “small life”—and how she’s now intentionally coming for “what’s mine.”
• Quote: “For a very long time, I pretended to be okay with accepting less...I was okay living a really small life when I knew I wanted an extraordinary one.” (03:00)
• The importance of getting honest with yourself is emphasized: is your desire truly yours, or have you internalized what others or society want for you?

Timestamp: 01:49–06:45

2. Unpacking Internalized Messages About “Enough”

• Les explores how family, religion, culture, and even social media can plant ideas about what you’re supposed to want.
• She shares a story about a pastor immediately expecting her to have children after graduating college, illustrating pressures for women to follow prescribed life paths.
• Quote: “Seeds are planted in our minds telling us what it is we think we should want and when we think we should want it. That may not even be us.” (07:28)
• Les urges listeners to distinguish between authentic desires and those acquired through conditioning.

Timestamp: 06:45–11:10

3. Why You Shouldn’t Be Afraid to Want More

• It’s common to hesitate to name your big goals for fear of being “ungrateful,” “greedy,” or “unrealistic.”
• Les reframes this: you can want more and be grateful at the same time. Wanting more doesn’t make you any less thankful for what you have.
• Quote: “Wanting more doesn't make you any less grateful for what you have.” (05:45)
• Fear of judgment from others, especially those with “small minds and small visions” who have never been where you want to go, shouldn’t keep you in a box.

Timestamp: 08:32–11:50

4. Your Community & Who You Share With Matters

• When you’re in a season of expansion, not everyone is equipped to support your vision.
• Les doesn’t advocate harshly cutting people off but instead encourages discernment: “Know who to go to for what.”
• Quote: “When you begin to expand and to elevate, you’re holding up a mirror to those people's excuses.” (10:50)
• Find people who can “mastermind” with you, and don’t take it personally when the closest people are slow to support.

Timestamp: 11:00–13:50

5. The Power of Clarity and Writing Down Your Desires

• Listeners are challenged to write down their “big, juicy, scary desire”—even if only in their notes app.
• Quote: “Admit it right now, even if you're just writing it down. Make it real, make it plain, and don't water it down for anybody.” (11:55)

Timestamp: 11:53–12:15

6. Leaning into Your “Unfair Advantage” and Authentic Self

• Les explains why success comes not from mimicking others, but by identifying and doubling down on what makes you distinct.
• She details her transition from attempting “influencer” trends to realizing her core value: facilitating expansion, holding conversations, and sharing ideas.
• Quote: “You actually need to be more of yourself to get that desire, because that desire is coming from deep down in your soul.” (15:30)
• Three reflection questions to unlock your unfair advantage (21:52):
  1. What do people actually come to you for?
  2. What has always been easy for you that others find challenging?
  3. Where do you know you’re the best in the room—where do you shine?
• Les encourages listeners to answer these honestly—even brag a little!

Timestamp: 15:25–22:30

7. Rejecting the “Soft Life” Stereotype for This Community

• Les addresses recent assumptions labeling her show as “soft life” focused. She clarifies that “She’s So Lucky” is about audacity, building wealth, and creating an extraordinary life—not about waiting for someone else to provide it.
• Quote: “If you think this is a show that's going to help you find a man to provide a soft life for you, maybe I got a dream to sell you, and it ain't that one.” (21:53)

Timestamp: 21:53–24:00

8. The Importance of Tenacity (“Having That Dog In You”)

• Les goes viral with her assertion: “There is no tip, trick, or self-help that can replace having that dog in you.” (25:45)
• She describes this as tenacity, grit, and the willingness to keep pushing even when things get hard.
• Quote: “When I say that dog, I mean this sense of tenacity, grit, a level of competitiveness and an unwillingness to back down, even when you're met with challenges.” (30:21)
• Not everyone needs “the dog”—big dreams require big capacity. You get stronger by lifting more (using a weightlifting metaphor), both physically and mentally.

Timestamp: 25:25–33:50

9. Lucky Girls Aren’t Shy: The Necessity of Speaking Up and Shooting Your Shot

• Les opens up about overcoming shyness and social anxiety, emphasizing that luck favors those who are bold.
• Quote: “Lucky girls aren’t shy. A closed mouth does not get fed." (36:30)
• In a noisy world, it’s not always about talent or intelligence—it’s about who’s willing to ask and be visible.
• Les issues a weekly “shoot your shot” challenge to listeners—to ask for something big, regardless of outcome.
• Quote: “Not shooting is guaranteeing that you won’t make the shot.” (39:10)
• Listeners are asked to comment on Instagram with how they shot their shot that week.

Timestamp: 34:00–41:10

10. Unapologetically Going After What You Want

• Les confronts common conditioning: women being told wanting more is greedy or selfish.
• She urges listeners to ignore voices that benefit from their depletion and to recognize that going after your desires helps the whole community to thrive.
• Quote: “You shining doesn’t take the light from anyone else. Because we all have permission to shine.” (43:40)
• The episode closes with a call to action: keep showing up as the person you aspire to be, and remember—luck is not a lottery, it’s something you build through leverage and action.

Timestamp: 41:10–46:44

Memorable Quotes

• “For a very long time, I pretended to be okay with accepting less...I was okay living a really small life when I knew I wanted an extraordinary one.” (03:00)
• “Seeds are planted in our minds telling us what it is we think we should want and when we think we should want it. That may not even be us.” (07:28)
• “You actually need to be more of yourself to get that desire, because that desire is coming from deep down in your soul.” (15:30)
• “If you think this is a show that's going to help you find a man to provide a soft life for you, maybe I got a dream to sell you, and it ain't that one.” (21:53)
• “There is no tip, trick, or self-help that can replace having that dog in you.” (25:45)
• “Lucky girls aren’t shy. A closed mouth does not get fed.” (36:30)
• “Not shooting is guaranteeing that you won’t make the shot.” (39:10)
• “You shining doesn’t take the light from anyone else. Because we all have permission to shine.” (43:40)

Segment Timestamps (Highlights)

• Honesty about your true desires: 01:49–06:45
• Social & internal influence on wants: 06:45–11:10
• Encouragement not to fear wanting more: 08:32–11:50
• Who to trust with your dreams: 11:00–13:50
• The “dog in you” and cultivating tenacity: 25:25–33:50
• Embracing bold action, speaking up: 34:00–41:10

Conclusion & Listener Challenge

Les Alfred encourages listeners to:

• Write down their biggest desire—without edits or apologies.
• Identify their personal unfair advantage and what they do best.
• Take bold, visible action towards their goals, even when uncomfortable.
• Shoot their shot once a week and report back to the community.

Coming up: Next week’s episode, exploring the spiritual side of manifesting your desires with A.C. Brown.