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Les (13:49)

All of these things have been culminating in my little corner of the world for the past few years. And they kind of came to a head in September. In September of 2024, I got to the end of August and I thought, okay, I'm in the second half of my 30s. I see where I want to go, I see this higher version of myself, and I'm seeing a gap between where I am and where I want to be. So how can I start stepping into her? And I think the best way to do that is to figure out who I am a little bit more and to present a higher version of myself. And I think that that just means getting dressed and just practicing getting dressed. So I had that conversation with myself at the end of August. And so I decided to do an exercise of getting dress dressed every day for the month of September, only wearing athleisure or workout clothes when I'm actually working out and figuring out a way to intentionally dress myself every day. And that doesn't mean that I'm out here wearing stilettos and ball gowns because that's just not even me. That's not even my style. Sometimes it's a cozy matching set, sometimes it is a cuter outfit. It depends on what I'm doing. But it's really a practice of finding my own style. And I Also, haven't been running around buying a bunch of stuff either. I haven't really bought a bunch of new clothes to do this. A lot of it has been working with what I have to understand what my style is, what do I like, Also what fits my body now. Because a lot of the clothes that I had were things that I had from my 20s, but now I'm in my mid-30s and things fit different and I like different things. And so how can I figure out what works for me? How can I learn my style? And the best way to do that is simply to practice. And so I thought, okay, every day I'm going to practice, I'm going to document it, to keep myself accountable. Accountable. And I'm not out here trying to serve fashion inspo to anybody. Like, you know, I was not one of the girls who was invited to Fashion Week doing all of the things. I'm not one of those people yet.

Unknown (15:51)

Who knows?

Les (15:51)

Maybe next year, maybe I will be. Maybe I'll step more into that world. But that just hasn't been space that I've occupied quite yet. I'm not trying to tell anybody how to dress or what to buy. I have gotten questions about it, so I'll share if people want to know. But that's really not my intention here. My intention purely is to get to know myself, to get to know my style, and to strengthen that muscle of putting myself together. Because as I mentioned earlier, I, deep down inside, wouldn't say that I actually enjoy any of it. I wouldn't say that I really enjoy picking out outfits every day or that I enjoy doing my makeup. Lord knows I hate doing hair. That's one thing you're never going to get me doing, is to just have hair this laid all the time. Because I hate doing hair, not doing it. That is the one thing that I refuse. I don't really enjoy those things. So how can I strengthen the muscle of doing them anyway? Because they're necessary. There was also a time when I didn't really enjoy strength training. There was also a time where I didn't really enjoy yoga. There was a time in my life where I didn't like drinking water. There was a time in my life where I didn't like eating vegetables. And now those are all things that I do on a regular basis because I know they're good for me, because they're skills that I've developed, because they're muscles that I've strengthened. And so I think putting myself together and having a version of myself that better matches the high quality lived experiences I want to have is a muscle that I need to strengthen if I want to be that person. I can't still be that girl walking around in my ratty Lululemon leggings when I worked there in 2016, expecting to have high quality lived experiences, that is just hasn't been the reality for me. If that were true, then I would be there already because I've already done that. And I didn't necessarily get the results that I wanted to get. I didn't get the opportunities that I wanted to. I wasn't on the stages that I wanted to be on this podcast now, being visual for people who are looking at the video, who like watching on YouTube, who like the clips, what I look like matters, Unfortunately. And in 2018, when I first started and podcasts were only audio, it didn't matter. But again, if I want to reach a certain level of success and I have to evolve and play the game that I am a part of, just like in the Athlete of Life episode, where it's like, are you playing to win or are you getting played? The industry is going to move on without me, so am I moving with it? And if I don't want to play, then I need to go find a different game. At this point in my life, I don't know what other game to play. So I guess I need to figure it out with the podcasting game and with the content game. And that requires me to be seen. And I have noticed that the engagement is higher when I put myself together, that the videos do better, when I look a little bit better. That, you know, that is. That is the name of the game. And if I could have shown up in those ratty 2016 leggings not put together and have y'all still respond well to the content, I would do that. But that's just not the reality of it. And so sometimes we have to have those hard conversations with ourselves and do the things that we don't necessarily want to do all the time to get to where we want to be. And so in this exercise of getting dressed every day, I have learned quite a few things about the process and about myself. The first is that putting myself together each day is actually getting easier the more I do it. Let me tell y'all, by September 3rd, I was standing in my apartment looking around like, oh, I gotta get dressed again. I've already gotten dressed twice and I'm already exhausted. I can't throw these leggings on because I just made this commitment. I was Already exhausted. But each day as I've done it, it has actually become a lot less tedious than it was at the beginning. I'm not having to think as hard about it, about the things that I put together, because I'm learning my style better, I'm learning my body better, I'm learning how to put things together better. And it really is like exercise. It really is like a muscle that you strengthen where the more you do it, the easier it gets. And so that has actually been helpful. I know for fellow low maintenance girlies who are used to, you know, not necessarily spending a lot of time on that, it can feel really daunting. And I think also a reason why I previously was so resistant to it was like, I have to work so hard in so many areas of my life. I never get to turn my brain off. I have to work hard at work. I'm holding it down for family, I'm holding it down for friends. My brain is in overdrive all the time. And you mean to tell me this is one more thing that I have to use my brain for, and this is one more thing that I have to think about each day? Again, not necessarily you don't, but if you don't like the results that that's getting you, then yeah, it is something that you need to change. But I've found that it gets easier the more you do it. And so now, a few weeks into it, it doesn't feel nearly as tedious as. As it felt before. Just putting looks together and understanding what looks good with what and understanding for my body type. Okay, if I have this kind of top, what kind of bottom is flattering and vice versa? And what is an accessory that can make this a little bit more interesting? Or if I got this outfit inspiration from Pinterest, how can I tweak it a little bit so that it doesn't look like I'm just copying someone else? How can I take that inspiration and make it a little bit more me? And I found that the more that I've done it, the easier it's gotten. And I've. I've been able to start honing in on my style a little bit more. And I have found that I've been able to incorporate some of those kind of low maintenance things into my style because I am somebody who does just have a little bit more of a casual style. As I started looking at what I gravitate towards, I like things that are a little bit more casual. I like things that are a little bit undone. Because for My taste and preferences. I think it looks kind of cool. I think it looks cool to be put together, but to not look like you're trying so hard.

Unknown (21:52)

And.

Les (21:52)

And those are the things that I like. So some of that kind of low maintenance comes out in my style where it is a little bit more casual or it is a little bit more toned down, or it is just like a little bit, you know, if I'm wearing like a dress that is a little bit more like, sassy, which I've done, okay, then maybe my hair is a little bit more chill. It's a little bit messy. It's not everything isn't super polished and perfect. There is something that's a little bit undone I think is like part of my style that matches my personality and that is where I get to kind of express myself in that way. Now, the other thing that I've also learned from this experiment of getting dressed every day is that your clothes are not necessarily clothes. Your clothes really communicate to the world around you. I was going for a walk a few weeks ago and I was just doing like a little bit of shoe shopping. And I had popped into the shoe store and it wasn't even honestly like that nice of a shoe store. It was like a. Not like a Steve Madden, maybe like a step above that. I don't even remember what store it was. And so I went in and I was kind of looking at some shoes and the saleswoman, before she came over to talk to me, like, looked me up and down so hard. And I could tell that the way that she was looking me up and down, that was her gathering intel on how she was going to communicate with me. And that was a really good lesson of, ok, okay, what am I communicating through how I present myself? Because that is sometimes going to set the tone for how people perceive you often. And it is going to dictate how people treat you. And it doesn't mean that you need to have the most expensive things or dress to please others. But it does mean that how we present ourselves does send a message. And I'm very big on controlling the narrative and owning our narrative and owning our story. And so now as I'm getting dressed, I'm also thinking less about, okay, what is cute? And more about how am I communicating to the world who I am and how they should treat me. And as I've thought more about it, it has actually made getting dressed feel less frivolous and a lot more empowering of, okay, how I choose to set in here, how I choose to Present myself head to toe is telling people how to treat me. And so I need to make sure I'm telling people to come correctly. And it does take maybe a little bit more time than throwing on my favorite pair of leggings, but it has been pretty worthwhile. I will also say I've started getting more opportunities to participate in events and to step on stages and to do a lot of things I've wanted to do for so long that felt like they kind of eluded me, like I could never just break through and get in there. And I still don't feel like I've fully broken through and gotten in there and gotten to the places and the spaces that I want to be. But I can tell that I'm getting closer. And I don't know if it's a chicken or the egg, if it's a. You know, I feel more confident because I'm presenting myself better or, you know, I don't know. I don't know what came first, the chicken or the egg. I think it's all connected. But it is really interesting to see the perception of yourself change in real time when you engage with people and when you interact with people. And so I've almost started thinking about getting ready as more so telling. As I'm putting myself together each day, I'm thinking, what is the story that I want to tell today to anybody who comes, who I come across? What is the story that I want to tell them about who I am, about how to treat me, about how to perceive me? I actually think that there's a lot of power in being able to control our narrative in that way. And as I started thinking about it more that way, it has felt a lot less daunting and exhausting.

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Les (27:11)

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Les (29:29)

Another thing, and this is not necessarily clothes related. It is more so makeup related if you follow me on social media. I've been talking about getting better at my makeup for years Now, I've had a lot of trial. I've had a lot of error. I mean, I was talking about this. This back when I was still living in LA and, you know, failing horribly in a lot of ways. And I do think I'm getting better. And I have also accepted some things about myself where I am not going to be that beauty guru face beat to the gods. Like, I am not Jackie Aina. I love Jackie. I'm not her. I'm not going to be able to have that level of mastery because somebody like a Jackie has put in in years and years and hours, and I'm pretty sure she went to beauty school, like, all of these things to master that skill. I'm not doing all that. I'm just trying to master my own face. So, again, I'm probably not going to be the tutorial girly who can teach you what to do. But I did have to get intentional about kind of mastering my own face and mastering my own features and mastering my own look and figuring out how does the rest of my look communicate with my outfit, which communicates with the world around me. I found that I wanted to be a little bit more polished. I wanted to be a little bit more put together. I very much want to look my age. And when I think about, like, this woman that I want to be who's in her mid-30s and she's chic and she's put together, then it required me to do a little bit different than what I used to do in my early 20s with the urban Decay naked palette. I know y'all love when I bring up the naked palette. I don't have. I got rid of my old naked palette a long time ago, but it required things to be a little bit different. My skin is different, my features are different. Now I have to apply it differently. But it's all part of the whole book. It is all a part of that story that I'm telling the outside world how to perceive me. And it really, I think, tells a story of preparation. The same way that I like to be prepared when I come and record a podcast episode. And today, of course, is an exception. I was prepared. I was prepared for a different episode. So this episode is probably not the best example because I am doing this on the fly. But usually for a podcast episode, I'm not doing this on the fly. I usually have points prepared and questions prepared because I like to have the narrative of being somebody who is good at their job and who comes to work prepared, but also how we present ourselves and Looking like we do put a little bit of time into ourselves also tells that same story the same way. I wouldn't come interview somebody and not have questions prepared. I don't feel like I should be facing the world without having myself prepared. And I think that I was always really good about doing that on the inside. As a wellness person. I was always really good about, you know, doing my journaling and doing my meditation and getting my mind right and having that centered within myself and having my fitness right. Those things I've been able to master for a very long time. And that inner work is super important, but it didn't necessarily reflect on the outside. And so getting the outside to match the inside has been a really important part of telling that story. So now people can see, okay, not only am I somebody who takes care of myself because I meditate, because I journal, and because I'm centered and I exercise and do the things, but there's also now a package that shows preparation, even though sometimes I am still really lazy and don't want to do it. I have also struggled a little bit with time management in this whole process, because intentionally picking an outfit, it, doing my hair, doing my makeup, you know, all of these things, even if I pick something ahead of time, sometimes it's like you put it on, then you're not feeling it that day or whatever. It all takes time. And I've been late, y'all. I be running late because I still have not yet mastered how to do all those things and be somewhere on time. And then you throw the subway on top of that, and it's a whole situation. So I'm still working on the time management aspect of it, but in terms of the way I think of it, I'm beginning to see that getting ready is an important daily deposit. For me, that is just as important as exercise. It's just as important as my journaling. It is just as important as my meditation time because I done so much work on the inside. Making sure that the outside matches the inside is very important for the story that I want to tell, because I do have a job that is so visual and so visible, and it is a part of the game. Y'all know what I've all what I keep saying in all these episodes, Play to win or get played, it is the same thing. And I keep saying that because it's a lesson that I am really learning in real time. As I was doing this whole experiment in September, I was also getting a lot of tags from many of you with your outfits or with you following along or with you doing the same thing, which I love. I love getting to see your own spin on it it. And I think if you were somebody who is also in the same boat, where you are wanting to focus a bit more on how you present yourself and putting yourself together or even finding your own style, I really think it starts with working with what you have. So this kind of challenge that I did for myself was really all about me finding my style with what I already had. I got a few new things here and there, but it wasn't like me go out and buy a bunch of stuff, or even me go out and buy a bunch of expensive designer stuff because I want to tell a story that I'm expensive. And all of this, that can come later. And that is all well and good, but I do think when it comes to how we present ourself and when it comes to intentionally dressing, we focus so much on the new that we don't focus a lot on the style. And I'm going to be honest, I know a lot of people who wear expensive stuff and their style is not that good. Just wearing designer stuff doesn't mean that you have style. A big part of style is expressing your personality. It's about telling that story. Like I was talking about earlier, you were telling a story about who you are and what you like and what is important to you through how you present yourself. And there's not necessarily a price on that. So don't feel like you need to get up and go buy a bunch of stuff. I've actually been really intentional about, okay, how can I take what I already have have, and how can I use it to tell a story in a new way? How can I use it to express myself in a new way? Because if I already have it, then that means at some point, I liked it. At some point, this clothing item spoke to me. At some point, this was my style. So how can I adapt it to make it my style now? How can I figure out who I am from a style perspective before I go just spend a whole bunch of money? Because if we go do that, that's going to be one, expensive, two, really unfulfilling. Because it's like you don't even know what you like. You don't know what you want. You don't even know what works and what doesn't. And so I really, really think that this exercise is important to do with working with what you have, working with the clothes you have, working with the body you have. Not saying when I Lose xyz when I get xyz, when I do this, when I do that. Who are you now? What body do you have now? What is in your closet now? What lifestyle do you have now? So for a lot of people on social media who dress so cute, all this designer stuff and designer heels and all of these things, if I were to look to them to be all of my inspiration, that's just not practical for my lifestyle. Because for me, I'm not catching Ubers everywhere. I'm going to be on the subway, I'm going to be out walking. I'm super active. I'm running from event to event and place to place and thing to thing. So when I'm thinking about how I'm getting dressed or putting myself together, I'm thinking about what's practical for my lifestyle. So if you are somebody who is a, you know, mom, who works from home, what is practical for your lifestyle? Don't compare yourself to somebody who is, you know, living in a totally different city with a totally different budget, living a totally different life. What role works for you?

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Les (38:09)

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Les (41:42)

I also think a lot of us get tripped up looking too much for inspiration. And as a Pinterest lover, I have fallen down the Pinterest rabbit hole many times because I love me some Pinterest. But the danger with Pinterest is that once it learns what you like, it can kind of serve you a lot of the same things over and over. And I think so much about style and presentation is individuality. And it's really hard to find your individual style if you are constantly mimicking someone else's and so throughout this process, I have also tried to kind of limit how much of other people's outside inspiration I'm taking in. I will, you know, I, of course, have a Pinterest style board, or I have a, you know, ticket TikTok folder where I save things that I like. But instead of then just trying to recreate it, I will sit down and I'll look through my TikTok or I'll look through my Pinterest, and I'll say, what is it that I like about this? What elements of this do I like? And how does that relate to what I'm trying to convey? So do I like the color? Do I like the shape? Do I like that that look maybe seems really practical? Do I like that maybe that person has a similar body type as me? So if that cut works for her, it might work for me as well. Okay. How can I take what I like about it and make it my own, as opposed to just buying exactly what someone has and styling it, exactly how they style it? How can I take that element that really speaks to me, and how can I make that work for me, and how can I make it uniquely mine? Because I think a lot of us with social media, it's a little bit too easy to find inspiration. And so instead of looking for carbon copy be, we can look for ways to make things more our own and really look for ways to make things work for your lifestyle. Another thing that I've gotten when I first kind of announced this challenge was a lot of people would be like, oh, but I work from home, or, oh, I have an active job, or, oh, I, you know, organize people's homes, and I need to be comfortable. And I'm like, that's great. So you now are tasked with figuring out how to express yourself while also being practical for your lifestyle. I said this in an episode if you months ago. I think it was the how to get everything you want archetype embodiment episode. Or maybe it was the how to start over in your 30s episode where I said, are you looking for problems or are you looking for solutions? So how you present yourself is a puzzle that you're putting together, factoring in your budget, your body type, your lifestyle, your taste, your preferences, what you like, what works for you. The climate. That's a big one. Honestly, the weather child is usually the biggest factor in how I decide what I'm putting on that day. Cause I'm not trying to be cold. You then get to take all those puzzle pieces and look for a solution. That will help you feel your best. So as opposed to being like, well, Les, tell me what to wear. I don't know, boo, because I don't know you. And I'm working with different pieces of a whole different puzzle. So you get to work with the pieces of your puzzle, and you get to find solutions. And that's actually part of the fun of it. And that's also been another big learning that I've had, is learning how to have more fun with it. I used to see it as kind of a chore. Basically, anything that doesn't involve me laying in my bed reading my Kindle, I kind of feel is a chore. But I'm really learning to reframe my mindset, to see it as something fun of, okay, this is a creative mindset. This is a creative project. This is a problem that I get to solve. This is a puzzle that I get to solve. I get to put all of these different pieces of the puzzle together and come up with something totally different to tell a story. And I think when we reframe our mindset that way, it can be really helpful. And so you get to decide what that is. Remember, you are the author of this story, and how you present yourself is part of the story that you tell. So I don't. I don't know your story. I don't know what story, what your story has been, or what your story has the potential to be. You do. And so you are the best authority author of that story when it comes to how you best present yourself. Not the girls on Pinterest, not the girls on TikTok. Maybe something like a stylist can help you better tell that story. And I do think that a stylist is something that, you know, when I reach a certain financial point, I would love to invest in, particularly for the events side of things, especially as I'm getting more opportunities to speak and I'm entering larger stages, I'm thinking more about, okay, how is what I'm wearing in these settings telling a story. And in those settings, sometimes you might need a little bit of outside help. And so, you know, when I get to the point when I can afford that, I would love to enlist the help of a stylist to help me better tell that story. But really seeing it as an empowering thing that you get to choose how people perceive you to an extent. Right. Because we can't necessarily change all of the systems that are in place. We cannot necessarily change people's biases, and that's not our responsibility. Other People's biases, other people's beliefs, other people's insecurities. Whether or not someone else perceives you as intimidating or whatever, none of those things are your business, because that is all about the other person. It's not about you. You can control the pieces that are about you. But when I started thinking of it as storytelling and having a bit of fun with it, it started becoming a lot less daunting and less taxing to think about. So those have been some of my biggest learnings and my biggest takeaways from this experiment of forcing myself to get dressed every day in September. And I. That's not to say that I will not ever walk around in Athleisure again, because I will will. I most certainly will. Winter is coming. It's getting cold. You know, we like comfort, but it has taught me a lot about my own creativity and about my own ability to control a narrative. And it has really inspired me to continue putting my best foot forward and to continue also just having a bit more fun with how I express myself and not see it as so much of a chore. And even in the short time that I've been doing it, you know, I have seen good results in my life in terms of my work and the opportunities that have come my way. And so I'm really excited as this continues, to see what other results that I can get from a professional standpoint, from a personal standpoint, I think the sky can really be the limit, and we just have to be willing to do things a little bit differently to get there. And, you know, now that I'm thinking about it, especially as we kind of wind down in 2024, I don't even know if I intentionally did this, but 2024 for me has been a big year of, like, investing myself. And a lot of that has been money. I spent a lot of money going back to therapy.

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Therapist is expensive.

Les (48:55)

Love her, though. Love her down. But she is pricey. You know, getting things like a new gym membership, that was pricey. My invisalign, pricey. But these have all been really good investments in myself and in. In the person that I want to be and the life that I want to live and really taking care of myself from the inside out. Like I said, I was really good at taking care of myself on the inside, but not necessarily the best at taking care of myself on the outside. And it's all a full picture. It's all related, and it's all one part of our greater story. And so I really encourage you to think about the story that you are telling. All right y'all, that is what I have for you for this very impromptu on the Fly episode. I hope you enjoyed it. I hope I made some lick of sense. Normally I like to be so much more prepared and buttoned up and today was just stream of consciousness. So I hope you enjoy it. It was a little more off the cuff, but I am really glad that I was able to get some of these thoughts out because it has been a really transformational time in my life and I like getting to share that. If it resonates with you, great. And if it doesn't, that's okay too. Again, and I'm never here to tell anybody what to do. I'm just here to share my experiences and you can take what works and you can leave what doesn't. Because as kind of the whole point of this episode, we are all authors of our own story. So that is what I have for you today. Thank you so much for tuning in. If you like this episode, please make sure you leave us a five star rating and a review on Apple Podcast. You can also rate us on Spotify. Spotify also has comments now, which is pretty cool. Make sure that you're subscribed on Apple podcasts, Spotify and YouTube. It really helps support the show. That's all I've got. Thank you so much for tuning in and I will see you next week.

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