Sibling Revelry with Kate Hudson and Oliver Hudson

Episode: Revel In It: Oversharing with Elyse Myers
Release Date: October 29, 2025
Guest: Elyse Myers

Main Theme & Purpose

This episode delves into neurodivergence, mental health, parenting, and creative self-expression through the candid stories of Oliver Hudson and internet personality Elyse Myers. With honest “oversharing” at its core, Myers and Hudson unpack their experiences with ADHD, anxiety, diagnosis journeys, and the impact of these on their families and careers. The episode ranges from childhood struggles to parenting neurodivergent kids, and the challenges and gifts of being public about mental health.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Oliver’s ADHD Diagnosis and Personal Experience

• [03:22]–[09:49] Oliver recounts his recent “official” ADHD diagnosis after a brain scan with Dr. Amen, and his experiences with medication:
  • He jokes about pharmaceutical patches: “I'm not a speed guy… I couldn't decide whether I was gonna save the world or just sort of ball up and get in my bed and cry. I chose to save the world, but… let's see what happens. I'm on fire, baby. I'm on fire.” — Oliver Hudson [04:24]
  • Shares that, for him, a formal diagnosis was “just like, oh yeah, that makes sense,” as anxiety and attention issues always coexisted for him.
  • Discusses the need to “standardize” his medication experience by pairing it with intentional tasks.

2. Elyse Myers’ Mental Health Journey

• [10:16]–[13:53] Elyse details growing up surrounded by therapy terminology (due to her parents’ divorce and siblings’ struggles) and her very early anxiety:
  • First panic attack at age 7, with her brother coaching her through.
  • Diagnosis for ADHD at 16, which overlapped with other struggles: “For the very first time in my life, I was not being dragged behind my own mind. I was in the car in the driver's seat, and I controlled how fast we were going...” — Elyse Myers [13:21]
  • ADHD diagnosis allowed her to build a life suited for her, instead of feeling like she was failing to fit into others’ expectations.

3. Living With Undiagnosed ADHD/Autism

• [14:04]–[18:17] Elyse describes pre-medication life as “like when you over-caffeinate yourself and you're sitting there and you're like, cold sweating... every thought and feeling would bottleneck in me.”
• The guilt and shame before diagnosis: “I thought I was selfish... lazy... I wanted to be good and liked and successful and I wanted people to be proud of me. And it felt like I just wasn't going to be a person that could do things and achieve things...” — Elyse Myers [15:12]
• [16:45]–[18:17] Her special interests as an autistic person could temporarily override her ADHD, citing obsessive viola practice as an example, which others around her found confusing.

4. Nature vs. Nurture—Mental Health & Genetics

• [22:37]–[26:03] The conversation turns to genetic vs. circumstantial origins of anxiety and neurodivergence:
  • Oliver shares about generational anxiety and his own son’s dissociation struggles.
  • Elyse notes the difficulty getting assessed and the growing awareness of neurodivergence, especially women and girls who often present differently.
  • “If young people have access to [diagnosis and support], it would have changed my self-esteem my whole life.” — Elyse Myers [25:26]

5. Coping Mechanisms, Therapy and Self-Expression

• [26:05]–[30:03]
  • Oliver’s outlet: journaling and time in nature; finds it hard to be vulnerable except in writing.
  • Elyse sometimes feels “over-therapized”: “Understanding your feelings is not the same thing as actually processing and feeling them… it is trapped in your body and you need to get it out. Like, it is poison.” — Elyse Myers [27:48]
  • The challenge of not becoming numb, of giving oneself permission to just exist and not fixate on improvement.

6. Impact of Relationships and Parenting with Neurodivergence

• [30:03]–[47:13]
  • Elyse credits her husband’s acceptance: “You don’t need to explain it... if you just laid in bed for a bit and we closed the blinds and you watched a stupid show that turned your brain off, you don’t need to explain why.” — Elyse Myers [31:25]
  • Both describe how their partners support during anxiety bouts, and the journey their spouses have had in learning not to "fix" them.
  • Parenting neurodivergent kids: Elyse shares about her sensitive, deeply feeling son, August, and the challenge of balancing support and not overreacting to his (sometimes trash-truck-related) spirals: “The same part in him that is weeping at a garbage truck... is his brain. It's so beautiful.” — Elyse Myers [41:10]
  • Both reflect on the inevitability that all parents "mess up" their kids to varying degrees.

7. Generational Reflections and Family Dynamics

• [43:30]–[52:35]
  • Elyse challenges the notion that becoming a parent helps you understand your own parents, saying “I have never understood them less… There is absolutely nothing I wouldn’t do for those kids. I can’t actually say that about the people that were in charge of raising me.” — Elyse Myers [43:44]
  • Oliver discusses his relationship with his father (who left) and his stepdad Kurt, who reassured him as a child: “I will never leave you... I will always be here for you, whatever happens.” — Oliver Hudson [51:21]
  • The conversation touches on birth order (Oliver as the oldest), siblings, and the lingering childhood fear of not being “lovable.”

8. Becoming a Public Figure and “Oversharing” Online

• [57:45]–[65:40]
  • Elyse details her unintentional journey from web developer to storytelling TikTok celebrity during the pandemic, wrestling with postpartum depression and using social media as a bridge to herself: “I have got to remember who I was before I had this baby, 'cause if I don't, I don't think I'm going to make it.” — Elyse Myers [59:13]
  • She never set out to be famous: “People are like, 'you're so brave.' It's like, oh, should I have not said that?” — Elyse Myers [60:22]
  • Public vulnerability made her anxiety worse at first; after a transition, she found joy in being able to influence and connect with others: “The human brain is not built to be famous... but I’m a professional creative now.” — Elyse Myers [63:01-63:57]
  • Elyse’s content is driven by her current obsessions (book, music, TV spoofing) rather than algorithmic discipline.

9. Elyse’s Book and the Writing Process

• [65:40]–[69:40]
  • Her book, That's a Great Question, I'd Love to Tell You, is a mix of stories, poems, and illustrated narratives w/ “so much heart in it, because it's like, funny, but then... everything’s gonna be okay. And you’re okay, you know?” — Elyse Myers [66:39]
  • Writing process inspired by Anne Lamott’s Bird by Bird; Elyse shares a story about writing from the perspective of her flannel shirt in a New York hotel: “That ended up changing the trajectory of the whole book.”
  • Oliver reminisces about childhood writing and reflects on how ADHD sometimes blocks his creativity.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On ADHD & Medication:
  • “I couldn’t decide whether I was gonna... save the world or just sort of ball up and get in my bed and cry. I chose to save the world, but... I'm on fire, baby.”
    — Oliver Hudson [04:24]
• On Early Mental Health Struggles:
  • “For the very first time in my life, I was not being dragged behind my own mind. I was in the car in the driver's seat...”
    — Elyse Myers [13:21]
• On Undiagnosed Neurodivergence:
  • “Everything was bottlenecking in me... I would just be, like, silent, because I was trying to prioritize which thoughts were important... I had no filter. And I still don't.”
    — Elyse Myers [14:04]
• On Parenting:
  • “I don’t agree with that at all. I have never understood them less... There is absolutely nothing I wouldn’t do for those kids.”
    — Elyse Myers [43:44]
  • “I always say it’s not about if we fuck up our kids, it’s to what degree.”
    — Oliver Hudson [43:23]
• On Being Public Online:
  • “I have got to remember who I was before I had this baby... I've never... people are like, 'you're so brave.' It's like, oh, should I have not said that?”
    — Elyse Myers [59:13, 60:22]
• On Writing and Creativity:
  • “The idea is, like, if you're a writer, then you should write. It doesn't matter if it's good or bad...”
    — Elyse Myers paraphrasing Bird by Bird [67:38]

Key Timestamps

• [03:22]–[09:49]: Oliver’s ADHD diagnosis and medication experience
• [10:16]–[13:53]: Elyse’s early therapy, panic attacks, adolescent diagnosis
• [14:04]–[18:17]: Day-to-day ADHD & autism, shame, special interests
• [22:37]–[26:03]: Genetics, early diagnosis, generational experiences
• [26:05]–[30:03]: Coping, journaling, over-therapy, permission to just be
• [30:03]–[47:13]: Relationships, partners in crisis, parenting neurodivergent kids
• [43:30]–[52:35]: Family dynamics, generational perspectives, birth order
• [57:45]–[65:40]: Social media, public vulnerability, content creation process
• [65:40]–[69:40]: Writing Elyse’s book, creativity, and finding confidence

Tone and Feel

The conversation is open, sometimes irreverent, full of both laughter and moments of earnest vulnerability. Oliver is self-deprecating and honest; Elyse is insightful, funny, and deeply reflective. The rapport is easy and authentic, embodying the ethos of “oversharing” in a way that’s both illuminating and accessible.

Conclusion

This episode is a heartfelt, revealing look at living with ADHD, anxiety, and autism—from both the inside and as parents. It emphasizes the value of diagnosis, support systems, and honest conversation about what it’s like to grow up “neurodivergent,” and how sharing these stories—whether on a podcast or with millions online—can bring both challenge and healing. The episode closes with a celebration of creativity, and an invitation to check out Elyse’s new book for more stories and hard-won wisdom.

Recommended:
Pick up Elyse Myers's book, "That's a Great Question I'd Love to Tell You."
Listen to more "Sibling Revelry" for deep dives into family, the mind, and all the beautiful, messy things in between.