Sibling Advicery: Influencer BF/Being Messy

Summary

Sibling Rivalry – Sibling Advicery: Influencer BF/Being Messy

Release Date: January 5, 2026
Hosts: Monét X Change & Bob the Drag Queen

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Episode Overview

This episode marks the return of “Sibling Advicery,” the beloved (and sometimes controversial) advice segment of the Sibling Rivalry podcast. Bob the Drag Queen and Monét X Change, the hilarious drag duo, tackle listeners’ questions about influencer partners, messy relationships, family drama, work dissatisfaction, and even how to make Steve Irwin funny for Snatch Game. The discussion is, as always, infused with their signature banter, honesty, and infectious chemistry, with plenty of tangents, laughter, and cameo appearances from friends.

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Main Discussion Segments & Key Timestamps

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1. Advisory Disclaimer and Classic Banter

[00:10 – 03:33]

• Bob and Monét set expectations:
  Both reiterate that their advice is for entertainment purposes only—and not legally or professionally validated.

  • Bob: “I am not a therapist, I am not a lawyer, I am not an accountant, I am not a counselor. But I am a fierce queen.” [00:49]
  • Monét: “The only thing I’m an expert on is drag and looking like a fierce cunt bitch.” [01:07]

• Classic ribbing:
  Playful trolling on who gives better advice, with Monét accusing Bob: “Do you just wake up in the morning and be like, how am I gonna troll people today?” [03:14]

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2. Warm-up Games & Katya Cameo

[03:35 – 09:14]

• Current TV Faves: Monét discusses “Squid Game: The Challenge” [03:38]
• Quick-fire challenge games: Rapid-fire vocal exercises and tongue-twisters (“dog, cat, dog…”) with chaotic, high-energy results.
• Katya’s surprise guest appearance [08:27], sharing in the game chaos and quick banter.

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3. Advice Segment 1: The Influencer Boyfriend Dilemma

[09:33 – 16:07]

Listener Question: Dating an influencer is making daily life feel like a constant photo/video shoot; how to set boundaries without compromising his career?

• Monét’s take: You can’t ask someone to change their livelihood for your comfort—this work is how he lives.
  • “You can’t expect them to change their livelihood and their lifestyle because it’s bothering you and it’s annoying you… Either you agree to be a part of it or be out.” [11:06]
• Bob’s perspective: It’s valid to want boundaries; everyone isn’t “camera ready” or comfortable being on the internet. Scheduling content can help.
  • “Some people just don’t want to be famous. Some people don’t like attention. I cannot fathom not wanting attention.” [12:37]
  • “I don’t mind being a couple on the Internet. I don’t want to make couple’s content…that to me is the cringiest level of social media content there is.” [13:32]
• Nate (friend/guest): Sometimes it’s best to keep relationship content private, depending on your partner’s comfort level. [15:33]

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4. Advice Segment 2: Sibling Wedding Drama

[23:47 – 32:06]

Listener Question: A complicated half-sister relationship, lack of communication/participation, and whether it’s wrong to remove the older sister as bridesmaid. Also: is it fair to deny her a plus one?

• Monét: Weddings are expensive, but not letting people have a plus one can feel harsh.
  • “Taking away the plus one is a little wild to me because… Just be cool with that one extra person.” [27:51]
• Bob: Understands estrangement due to family structure. Ultimately, you have to prioritize your joy on your wedding day.
  • “It is ok to invite her to your wedding and make her a plus one, but not have her be a part of your party. Because you have to feel good at your wedding.” [29:11]
  • “You might just feel better if she’s just not there.” [29:20]
• On picturing the future:
  • Monét: “Weddings don’t last forever, but wedding pictures do last forever… Will I look back and be sad that she was not my bridesmaid?” [28:39]
• Consensus: Prioritize your peace and the vibe of your special day; there’s no “right” answer.
• Bob jokes about his desire for a “role of authority” at Monét’s future wedding and what might be off-limits in a roast. [30:34 – 31:57]

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5. Advice Segment 3: Workplace Romance Gone Messy

[36:43 – 41:36]

Listener Question: Dated a coworker who left their boyfriend; now not into the relationship. How long should you wait before breaking up to not be “messy”?

• Bob: “You’re a mess, you homewrecking homosexual. This person is a Patreon! I said what I said.” [37:20]
• Monét: “I don’t agree about homewrecking…there are multiple reasons at that point.” [37:29]
• Both agree:
  • Don’t draw out the breakup.
  • “The way you get him is the way you lose him.” [38:01]
  • “Tell him immediately. What are you waiting for?” [38:01]

Memorable Moment

• Gift giving debate: Light-hearted roast about whether Bob has ever worn the ring Monét gave him.
  • “You always ask me questions. How do you never wear it?” [38:59]
  • “That’s not true. It didn’t fit. It’s a little big. But I still wear it.” [39:02]

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6. Sugar Daddy Fantasies, Gifts from Trade & More

[41:32 – 44:35]

• Bob recounts Grindr “sugar daddy” messages:
  • “He never followed through.”
• Monét’s sugar baby analysis: “If you’re a sugar daddy, you’re not on Grindr looking for sugar babies.”
• Musings on wealth and being a sugar baby: Outlandish hypothetical about never having to pay a bill, decorating privileges, and “liquid” net worth:
  • Bob: “I literally have $987 million… in liquid.” [44:36]

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7. Advice Segment 4: Pursuing Your Passion vs. The Corporate Grind

[45:47 – 52:22]

Listener Question: How do you balance a secure but unfulfilling job with your creative dreams?

• Monét’s journey:
  • Quit a secure Yale Club job (~$85k/yr, could have been $200k as general manager) to pursue drag—sacrificing stability for passion.
    • “I was comfortable with that, because I was fulfilled by drag.” [47:34]
• Bob: Tips for transition—find flexible jobs or scale back on responsibilities to free up creative time.
  • “Can you scale back…so you have more time to work on your painting?” [50:38]
• Both: If you can, do both until you know which direction “lights you up”; your fulfillment may come from the side hustle, or vice versa.

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8. Advice Segment 5: Making Steve Irwin Funny for Snatch Game

[52:29 – 58:32]

Listener Question: (from Batty Banks, Vancouver drag queen) How do you approach Steve Irwin in Snatch Game?

• Top tips:
  • Accent is vital (but doesn’t have to be perfect)
    • “It doesn’t have to be good, just recognizable.” [53:33]
  • Lean into catchphrases: “Crikey!” [53:45]
  • Avoid jokes about the stingray or his death [54:00]
  • Go wild with reading other queens: “Here we have the hideous wildebeest standing in the wood with her...Just a shoulder hair.” [54:21]
  • Physical gags: fake alligators, nature documentary readings, etc.
  • Costume: matching khaki shorts and shirt [55:04]
  • Prop comedy: Vegemite by the spoonful [57:46]
  • Bob: “Honestly, that would eat the girlies up.” [58:16]
• Bonus: Turn the wig around at the end and become Sia!

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Monét: “Weddings don’t last forever, but wedding pictures do last forever.” [28:39]
• Bob: “Some people just don’t want to be famous. Some people don’t like attention. I cannot fathom not wanting attention.” [12:37]
• On influencer couples: “I don’t mind people knowing who I’m dating. I just don’t want to make ‘couple’s content’.” [13:32]
• On quitting unfulfilling jobs: “I was comfortable with that, because I was fulfilled by drag.” [47:34]
• Sugar baby debate: “That’s a lot of mouth for a sugar baby.” [44:25]

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Signature Sibling Rivalry Tone

• Playful, shady, and honest—all at once: No topic is too petty or personal; advice is peppered with real talk and hilarious asides.
• Audience engagement: Encourages listeners to comment on whether they love (or hate) “Sibling Advicery” [58:40].

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Summary Flow

• Classic banter and warnings set the comedic/entertainment tone.
• Short game break—lively, chaotic, with Katya.
• Four major listener advice segments, each unpacked with empathy and sharp honesty.
• Lighthearted digressions (sugar daddies, gift stories) add flavor and variety.
• Closes with drag and Snatch Game tips—full circle to their drag roots.

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For New Listeners

This episode is a great introduction to Sibling Rivalry’s unique blend of laughter and life advice. Even the messiest topics are handled with warmth and candor, with each topic serving as a springboard for vivid stories and personal revelations. The advice is genuine but never sanctimonious, with Bob and Monét’s chemistry making heavy subjects feel light—and entertaining.

Transcript

[A]

Is everyone's favorite segment of Silver. Rivalry's back. No, don't say we have it pinned on our profile.

[B]

Don't say it like that. I think a lot of fans do like it. There's a small, loud minority of cousins that really let us have it about advice. They're like, oh, cousin boy. Very cousin behavior.

[A]

Well, advisory is back. Macaron exchange. And I'm gonna give you all advice. I want to say before we get started, this advice should not be taken in any. Okay, I'm speaking for myself. Monet always says I'm a professional. I. I did not always. Money always go take my advice, huh? I'm a pro.

[B]

I'm. I say I'm a pro on drag. That's what I am.

[A]

That's debatable. Listen, y', all, I am not a therapist. I am not a lawyer. I am not an accountant. I am not a counselor.

[B]

But he's a fierce queen.

[A]

Any. But I am a fierce queen. Any advice that we give you, that I give you, I can speak. Any advice that I give you. This is for entertainment purposes only. Do you want to give your own individual thing?

[B]

Yeah, guys, the only thing that I am an expert on is drag and looking like a fierce cunt bitch. So anything outside of that, I'm probably not an expert on. You can take my advice, but I would not, you know, say I would not take it as Bible.

[A]

Honestly, if I give for legal reasons. If you ask for drag advice, also, don't take that. I am protecting myself legally. Monet wants to be accountable for whatever happens in your life. I do not want to be accountable. Every advice I give you is for yuck yucks and jokes only. You're right.

[B]

I don't want to be accountable. I want to be accountable.

[A]

This is entertainment purposes only. So any advice that Bob the drag queen gives you on this beautiful, lovely podcast is for entertainment purposes only. You're so funny. Thanks, Brett Green.

[B]

It's so funny.

[A]

You better give your lawyer a hard. A hard time.

[B]

Well, also, Bob is. You're such a. You're such a fucking troll.

[A]

How am I in troll? What'd I do? Is that a real.

[B]

Okay. Is that a real reaction to that?

[A]

Are you, like.

[B]

Are you trolling me with that answer?

[A]

No.

[B]

What I do.

[A]

How am I a troll?

[B]

What is wrong with you?

[A]

What did I do?

[B]

You have a problem. One example, I am working out this morning at the gym.

[A]

You're already lying.

[B]

I get a call from Bob, and he's like, monet, you, girl. You need to call Brett, you need to get. You need to lawyer up. Brett Green is our lawyer. Which you stole from me. I had bread first. That's not true. You were with that person from Adelon.

[A]

What happened then? First off, I'm still with Gangshire.

[B]

Okay, so why do you need two lawyers?

[A]

Some of us have more business.

[B]

Yeah, anyway, because, you know that I'm on the way to. Anyway, so then I'm like. He's like, monet, you gotta call Brett. Like, this is crazy. I'm like, what? He's like, anne Hathaway is doing a movie modeled exactly as, like, Monet.

[A]

I'm still concerned.

[B]

Like, I'm telling you, Monet, you have to lawyer up. Like, this is.

[A]

You can sue them for infringement, whatever the fuck he said. I'm like, they're using your likeness.

[B]

What? Are they using your likeness.

[A]

I was like, what?

[B]

He's like. He's like, you know, I didn't want to. Like, we have to be together. When you see this, which. That should have been a red flag. I'm like, why would we need to be together to see it? Cut to. Is this fucking video. That has nothing to do with my life.

[A]

It has everything to do with your life. Are you gonna tell me there's no parallels between that movie and your life? Not one.

[B]

Not one. So you're a troll. Do you just wake up in the morning and be like, how am I gonna troll people today?

[A]

I do wake up in the morning. Anything.

[B]

How you gonna troll people?

[A]

Sometimes I wake up in the afternoon. Sometime I take a nap, wake up in the middle of the evening. So I fall asleep in the couch, wake up in the middle of the night sometimes.

[B]

Can we go into the first advisory, please?

[A]

Are you watching any TV right now?

[B]

Yeah, I just finished watching Squid game the Challenge, which Mariah knows the winner.

[A]

There's a new Squid game, The Challenge. They have.

[B]

They've done a new one already.

[A]

Yeah. There's already a winner.

[B]

Yeah. Mariah knows the winner.

[A]

Mariah Escobar?

[B]

Yeah. She's like, oh, yeah, my homegirl. I was like, for real?

[A]

Like, $4 million, right?

[B]

$4.5 million.

[A]

That's a lot of Monet.

[B]

It is a lot. And one person wins it. It's not like multiple. Multiple people can win.

[A]

The odds are not in your favor. It's not 250 contestants.

[B]

Are you fucking crazy, bitch? 450.

[A]

There's 450 now.

[B]

It's. It's the first time.

[A]

That's too many people.

[B]

Would you ever compete? Compete on screen? The Challenge?

[A]

No. I don't think I would win, because all of it's just chance. Also, I want to do a squid game challenge today with you. You get a box. One person gets a box, and there is money in the box. You have to. Then the other person. So I get to see the box. I get to see what's going on.

[B]

We've done this before.

[A]

You don't get to see it, and then you have to decide if you want to take the box or if you want to give me the box.

[B]

Yeah, we. We've done this before. Do you remember who won the last time? No, it was me. I'm trying to pull something up. Oh.

[A]

Oh, my.

[B]

Hello.

[A]

It's a musical.

[B]

I wonder the last time we did this.

[A]

What are you pointing. Oh, the. The.

[B]

Oh, I'm.

[A]

Go ahead and mute that. All right, y', all, let's go ahead and do. Actually, I can't mute it because I have a challenge I want you to.

[B]

Yeah, okay.

[A]

What's the challenge?

[B]

Yeah, you don't. You. You don't run this, Jacob, Run this. Thank you.

[A]

Is this the challenge? No.

[B]

Oh, okay.

[A]

We're gonna start with Monet. Oh, I love this. Oh.

[B]

Okay, wait. Pause really quick.

[A]

Oh, no. You trying to. You trying to practice?

[B]

No. Fruity trebles. DeShawn sent me this. He said he's. He's like, you and Bob have to do this on the podcast.

[A]

Okay, you ready? Who's going first? I don't know what.

[B]

He's together?

[C]

No.

[B]

I'm gonna start with Monet.

[A]

Wait, no.

[B]

Why is. I don't even know what's happening. Let's start with Bob.

[A]

Tomodelo. Wait, wait, wait. Pause it. Let's describe what is an example of it. Pause it. What happens is you have to say the things on beat like this. Here we go. Here we go. I'm overly simulated, so it is dog, cat, dog, cat, dog, cat, dog, cat. Got it. Dog, dog, dog, dog, dog, dog, dog, dog.

[B]

Okay, my turn. Cat, cat, cat, cat, cat, cat, cat, dog.

[A]

My turn. This is cat, dog, cat, cat, dog, dog, cat, cat. You're up, Monet.

[B]

Okay. What the fuck am I looking at?

[A]

Go. I don't know what it is. Go. Loser.

[B]

What is it?

[A]

Loser. No, no, that was, like, over. No, that one is overly hard, but I did one that. It was like. It was like spoons and oranges. It is. I was. I was in my bathroom, like. You ever get out of the shower and get on your phone?

[B]

No.

[A]

This one, I was drying off, and, like, I. I didn't even give it to how I had completely dried off by the time I had finished one of these. Why were you out the shower?

[B]

You just like phone.

[A]

I use my shower. I use my phone in the shower.

[B]

In the shower? Yeah.

[A]

I use my phone in the shower.

[B]

It's five minutes, 10 minutes.

[A]

I'm in the shower for five minutes.

[B]

How long do you follow?

[A]

It's like 10 minutes. I have to wash my hair. I have to wash my body.

[B]

Oh.

[A]

Oh, n got hair. All right, we're do this one next you're going to take turn. All right, mo's going first. Bad.

[B]

Butter, bacon, baby, Burger, bacon, baby, butter. That's you.

[A]

Oh, I thought you mean the whole thing. Go, go back, go back. Wait, go back, go back, go back. I thought you mean when I'm the whole thing. I'm gonna do the whole thing. All right, go back.

[B]

This is so loud.

[A]

Money first.

[B]

Bed, butter, bacon, baby, burger, bacon, baby, bun.

[A]

Here we go. Egg burger, bugger bacon a bum. But burger.

[B]

Burger, bacon, egg, cheese, dog, dog guy.

[A]

We're vicking. That was a monkey. There we go. Bed, butter, burger, bacon, baby, bomb, bomb baby.

[B]

Bed, egg, baby, cheese, butter, bacon, burger, baby.

[A]

All right, let's do. Okay, all of them together. You and me. Hold hands. Hold hands. Ready? Here we go together. Bad butter, bacon, baby, burger, bacon, baby, bed egg, butter, broken bacon, burger baby, burger, bacon, egg, cheese, dog, cat, monkey. Bed, butter, burger, baby, baby, bomb, bomb baby, bad egg baby, cheese, butter, bacon, burger B. That makes my heart rain.

[B]

It's too much.

[A]

Girls. In my bedroom, in my bathroom by myself.

[B]

Butt naked.

[A]

Bomb, baby, butter, spoon, spoon, baby, butter, bacon.

[B]

Wait, Kati, you can come in here. We're doing the podcast.

[A]

Wait, Katya. Y', all, we have a special guest hopping in. Come on over here. Give it up for Katya Zamalochi Kova. We're podcasting. Oh, okay. Do you want to do one?

[B]

Katya, you guys come and do.

[A]

Katya, do one. So I'm going to demonstrate one, and then you have to do the second one. You ready? Okay. Okay, hold on. And so I'm gonna do one. You ready? It goes like this. You gotta go. Bed, butter, bacon, baby, burger, bacon, baby, bed. Go, Katie, go. Egg, butter, sandwich, bacon bomb, butter.

[B]

But.

[A]

Oh, that was pretty big. Okay, again. Katie, go.

[B]

What is that word?

[A]

A burger. I got this. I got this. Go ahead. Oh.

[B]

All right.

[A]

Back to the podcast at hand.

[B]

Oh, my.

[A]

That game.

[B]

It's too much.

[A]

Gets my blood sugar up.

[B]

It's too much. It's a lot.

[A]

It makes me like.

[B]

But now I feel In a great place to give advice.

[A]

In a great place to give advice. In fact, take my advice now. Let's do it. All right, Our first one.

[B]

Let's hear it. Hi. Sibling rivalry. So I've been dating this guy for about six months now, and he is a influencer with a good amount of followers. But sometimes I feel like it bridges into our personal life. For example, whenever we go out, anywhere we go, there's always a photo shoot. There's always me taking multiple photos of him, different angles, different lightings. He's always filming, he's always posting stuff, and it's starting to feel obtrusive into our relationship. But I also understand this is what he does professionally. This is how he makes money. So I don't know how to ask him to do it less. What do you think?

[A]

I gotta be honest. This feels like a question for Jacob.

[B]

I was about to say. I was like. Tal didn't have to disguise his voice to do this movie.

[A]

Just. Jacob, answer this question, please. I don't have a.

[B]

A specific take.

[A]

This is. I mean, you. You have a very similar experience, I would say. Yeah, but I mean, I think, like, you're. You're on, but also you have a lot of moments where you're off. Like when you. When we go out to, like, when we go out, you're not like, making content and like, doing that stuff. Like, you have specific times where you're making content and then it's scheduled, and then once you're done, you're done. Yeah. I'm not really a content creator, though. I'm on TikTok and I'm on Instagram. I do create content, but I would not classify myself as a. As a. As a TikToker. I would say my fame comes from. I'm a reality TV personality.

[B]

Yeah. And I've seen. I've seen these people, these influencer content creator types that are like. Well, it seems like watching their social media, like, everywhere they go, it's like a. It's like a thing like, yeah, they go out to dinner, they're vlogging it. It's like the whole is all the time. So I would say if you think this behavior is impeding on your joy in their, like, two things. Like, this is this person's livelihood. They clearly are making a living from doing this. So you can't ask them to stop because now you're part of the picture. I'm like, you came. Like, I have a hard time because you came into the situation. This is what it was. You can't expect them to change their livelihood and their lifestyle because it's bothering you and it's annoying you. You know what the deal is? So either you agree to be a part of it or be out.

[A]

Especially. It's his job. It's not like this is literally how he's sleeps and eats and lives in a home. You know what I mean? And I'm not going to say you knew what you're getting stuff into, because I actually don't agree with. People say that. But you knew who you were dating.

[B]

Yeah. You knew who were dating you.

[A]

I mean, maybe he shocked you and you're like, oh, I didn't know who you were. Cuz not all. Everyone knows all influencers. But if you knew who he was before, maybe you've been new. You know what I mean? And I got to be honest with you. I want to talk about something real quick. It's like, I. I do not feel comfortable. Thank you. There are certain people I do not feel comfortable, like, filming. Right. Like, so there are people who go home and feel content with their families. Nate is one of our friends who has a lot of family content. My family, I feel like they're gonna be like, put your motherfucking camera down. Like, I'd be like, oh, my God, my Aunt Hazel is so funny. The world would love Aunt Hazel. But I feel like if I put the phone, she'll be like, boy, put that camera down. Like, I feel like they don't want to be on the Internet like that. And sometimes I just want to share, so I schedule it sometime. Like, I scheduled Uncle Steve on the podcast. I scheduled my mother on the podcast or YouTube videos with my mom. We watch WAP together, remember? Watch WAP together. But you have to, like, schedule so they can, you know, do their thing. Because everyone's not always camera ready. Some people are just shy. Some people just don't. Some people just. Which by the kind of way I know it blows my mind. Some people just don't want to be famous. Some people don't like attention. I cannot fathom not wanting attention. I can't even process not wanting all eyes on me.

[B]

Yeah, I think because you're. You're an artist and you. You like fame and you, like, you like attention. But, yeah, I think. Yeah, I think it's hard for me to. To understood for people who are not. Who don't want that. It's not unfathomable. But I'm always like, oh, you don't want to even do it. Just like a little Bit. So. Yeah, but that exists. And again, I mean, again, I don't think it's, you know, what you're getting into, but at this point, you know what it is. So now you have to, you have to decide if you want to stay in there or if you want to leave.

[A]

There are certain things, there is certain kinds of content that I don't want to be a part of though.

[B]

Only fans content.

[A]

I don't want to be a part of. Only fans content. That was why I was, that was on the top of my mind. But like, I don't mind being a couple on the Internet. I don't want to make couples content. I don't mind people knowing who I'm dating. I don't want to make couples content.

[B]

Meaning, like, because you have made couples content. But you mean like, like, like, like that's not, that's not your entire thing.

[A]

I've made very little. I made a video with Jacob and Ezra years ago.

[B]

Yes.

[A]

And outside of that, I don't think.

[B]

That'S a big couple's content video.

[A]

But I'm saying like that was five years ago. Like I, I, that was the last. I mean there are things where my partners are in what I'm doing, but I'm not those, like, who's the first, who is the first to fall in love? Who is the first say I love you? Or they make those videos where they're like the, the, the, the point of the video is that they are in love. The point of the video is that they are a couple. They're kissing in the video. I don't think there's any footage of me kissing any body sexually on the Internet anywhere. They're like smooth, they're, they're cuddling on the couch. They are, they're, they're saying like there's, it's like a whole video of you like holding hands and spinning at the park and got your foreheads resting on each other and you're like that. To me, that is like the cringiest level of social media content there is.

[B]

Really easily. I don't, I don't feel that way about it that way. I mean, when I, when I, when, I mean, sometimes I followed us like you have someone like Nara Smith, right? Whole thing is like making food and eating clean, but it's a root. But I guess that's more about her fam because it involves her children, but also what she does for her husband and they do lovey dovey stuff and I don't think it's cringy I mean, I think to each his own.

[A]

When she's cooking, I think it's cute when he comes in and starts nuzzling her, it's cringe to me.

[B]

Got it.

[A]

Well, I mean like Nick, you come in real quick. Do you mind being on camera for one second? So Nate is a very popular content creator and. But you don't make, you're in a relationship, but you don't make couples content. Talk to the mic. Yeah, no, I don't, I don't know.

[B]

I think some things are just better.

[A]

Look closer to the mic.

[B]

Sorry. I think some things are just better left. Like having it to yourself, right? Yeah, certain things. I mean, but it depends because I'm also open to doing couples things here and there, like little cute stuff. But for the most part I just feel like that's for me.

[A]

Is your partner shy?

[B]

Not really. But also he doesn't really care for it, so.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

All right.

[A]

Thank you. Yeah, yeah.

[B]

Like I have a couple things or.

[A]

Do you want to be, do you want to do the content with him? Can you find a way to incorporate his likes and his career?

[B]

Maybe that's not his. Maybe that's. Maybe. Maybe the. The guy doesn't want to make a couple's couple's content. He's like, I want him to like just be than what it is.

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[A]

Every time.

[B]

There's a lid now, people.

[A]

And you're wrong about it.

[B]

I'm not. People send me pictures of lids all the time. Taylor wonders him.

[A]

You're wrong.

[B]

You're doing too much.

[A]

It's a lid. Can you reiterate Lydgate?

[B]

Okay, so what happened is, is that we had a housekeeper come. The housekeeper cleans. You literally have a. Anyway, I'm not doing this. We've hashed this out like 18 times on the podcast. Anyway, housekeeper came and they clean and then literally she left at like 5:00'. Clock. By 5:22. Andy is obsessed with his ninja Creami. Andy.

[A]

I put him on that.

[B]

Probably. Andy has, like, Andy will eat three ice creams a day. These, like, protein ice creams.

[A]

Andy. Andy eats a lot. No, yo, Andy was. We were literally at a friendsgiving in the room full of people. By the way, there's a table with so much food on it. Like, yo, I was there. Yeah, you were there too. Friends giving Kim.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[A]

There was a Table with so much food. There was, like, more food than anyone could eat. And then Andy still looked at someone else plate and literally said the words, are you going to eat that? It's not about.

[B]

It's about the waste. Because the person. The person was done with their plate. He's like, oh, well, if it's right there, I'll just finish it off for you.

[A]

It's not about, are you gonna eat that? As. What about the food on the table that might go to waste, but we don't know.

[B]

But that was gonna go in the garbage anyway.

[A]

Are you gonna eat that? I was like, are you gonna eat that as a cra. Like, Andy will eat your food.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I'm telling y'.

[B]

All, he has no qualms at all.

[A]

When I tell you it is impressive. The amount of food that Andy can consume is gaggy. Anyway. Sorry.

[B]

And then so he had made an ice cream, and so he finished the ice cream, and he takes the dirty lid that had the chocolate on it, and he just leaves it on the counter. Y', all, the house is spick and span. The housekeeper left 22 minutes ago. So I walk in and. But again, again, this is. Andy does this all the time. He will, like, make ice cream and just leave the lid on top of the toaster, on top of the air fryer. But this one was crazy because it was literally.

[A]

This is the sink.

[B]

This is the lid. I'm like, just put it in the sink.

[A]

Just move it over for him. No, because this happened.

[B]

This is several times a day.

[A]

But just put it in the sink for him. No.

[B]

I do a lot for Andy. I clean up after Andy and a lot of other asp. Does he not do anything for you? I'm not walking and picking up a lid after you.

[A]

Is he gonna do anything for you?

[B]

He does, but I'm not walking. I'm not putting a lid in this thing.

[A]

What if he's like, I'm not doing this stuff for you?

[B]

Then no more.

[A]

Then, no.

[B]

But there are. There's a line. I can't do everything for you.

[A]

It's just a lid, and it's literally like this.

[B]

Exactly. If it's that easy, you just do it. So then I walk in, and he's like, so there's a video. It's on my Instagram, about lid gain. I posted a video about the lid, and the comments were split. But now people just send me pictures of their lids all the time. A lot of. A lot of people, their partners, they're like, girl, same over here to Be fair.

[A]

I didn't realize the lid was dirty. I thought it was a clean lid. And you don't like the way it was clean?

[B]

No, it's a dirty lid.

[A]

But still, just put in the sink. Like, for example, something that happens around my house, both my places, by the way, is that I'm dating guys who wear contacts. These contacts in the cases never make it in the trash can. The contacts, the. And it's the same thing. It's these little. It's these little, like, pod things. And then you open it up, and there's contacts in each one. And they put them on, and they just put them on the thing. If I see it, I'm just like, I'll just throw it away. It's really not that bad.

[B]

And that's for you. I'm not interested in doing that. I'm not worrying. I'm not walking. And pick, which I do in other aspects for my partner, pick up after them.

[A]

Are you willing to just live with the cups on the counter with the lids on the counter?

[B]

Say it again.

[A]

Are you willing to just live with the lids on the counter?

[B]

No, because now he puts them. Did someone make a dress out of those?

[A]

Yeah, this is a cunty dress made out of contact cases. Wait, do the mute first. The mute first, baby, the volume first, and then play it. There we go. No, baby, on the screen right there. Oh, it's contact lens. Oh, it's a contact case.

[B]

Contact case, baby.

[A]

I'm telling you right now, I could have made a thousand of these by now in my home. A thousand of these? Yeah. Jacob be putting them little contact cases.

[B]

All over the place. But anyway, so we say all that.

[A]

To say, sometimes I be like, you put your contacts on right here. I'd be like, what were you doing in this? It'd be like a bookshelf to the side. Like, why are you putting your contacts on by the bookshelf? Because it's convenient, I assume. It's usually by the bathroom, and it's usually in the bathroom. And Jake has a different bathroom than I do, so I don't really see them much anymore, to be honest.

[B]

Oh, wow. Separate bathrooms. Oh, New age.

[A]

Very new age. Me and Raven on the same time.

[B]

Yeah. Let's go on to the next advice.

[A]

I will say it has really made my life a lot easier having two separate bathrooms, too, because Jacob has a lot of products. I think Jacob has more products than he's using. It takes up the entire sink counter space. And, I mean, there's, like, enough room to, like, Put down. Like your phone, maybe dangling off the edge.

[B]

Like, how many products would you say if you had to give them?

[A]

If I had to guess right now, I would say in Jacob's bathroom, from the edge of the toilet all the way over to the sink. Minimum, 30 products. Oh, well, some of them are decorative. Let's listen to this.

[B]

30 products is crazy.

[C]

Hey, y'. All, I'm Teonna, and I have two sisters on my dad's side. He's no longer here, and we have different mothers. And, you know, dad's side is already complicated. So June 2023, I got engaged. I let my older sister know that she will be a bridesmaid. November of that year, I went dress shopping, and I could only invite three people, and she was highly pissed off that I didn't invite her. December, I had a girl's night. She didn't show up or care to let me know that she wasn't showing up. 2024 comes around in April. She gets me into a fashion show, which I had greatly appreciated. After that, we didn't have much communication. I invited her to a cookout. She didn't show up. I called her the day of. She said she was asleep. I said, okay, girl. My birthday graduation party comes around. She don't show up or communicate. Before the new year, I let her know that I wanted to see her and I missed her. She told me, meet her at the gym. I said, girl, I'm trying to kiki and conversate. Let me know when you're available. This past Saturday, I had a housewarming, and she didn't show up. And as all this is happening, our younger sister and I are getting closer. Will I be an asshole to have my younger sister in the wedding and not my older sister? I try to keep in mind that she was getting her realtor license, but does that excuse the lack of communication and just simply not being there? How would I move forward with my older sister once these save the dates come in the male? I don't know if I'm being too sensitive, but if y' all are getting what I'm saying, how do I also let her know that she cannot have a plus one because this wedding is expensive and plus ones are only for married couples in the wedding party, so her girlfriend wouldn't be able to come.

[B]

Honestly, I appreciate the savagery. Weddings are expensive, baby.

[A]

No plus one is crazy.

[B]

That is a little crazy, but telling.

[A]

Me to come to your thing and I can't bring nobody and I don't know nobody, and you and me fighting, you know, people.

[B]

It's your family there.

[A]

I mean, we don't know. It sounds like, based on the way someone said. And I'm just assuming here, my sister's on my dad's side. It sounds like either y' all didn't grow up together or y' all are not that close, because, like, me and my brother Justin, we have the same mother, we have different fathers. But I don't ever say my brother from my mom's side. I just say my brother because we grew up together. We grew up in the same house. We lived together for 18 years. No, 16 years, I guess, because he was older than I am. We lived together for 16 years. And that's my brother. I've never got the half brother, half sister thing. I would never say that I have two half brothers, but I would just never say I have a half brother. But even though my younger brother, who is 21 years younger than me, I don't even say my father. My brother from my dad's side, I just say my younger brother. I have a younger brother. I have an older brother. Maybe it's easier for me because I'm right in the middle between the two.

[B]

But I think that's different for her because she. She asked her to be her bridesmaid, so they clearly had. So you are close there because you asked her to be a bridesmaid.

[A]

Maybe they're reconciliating. Like, for example, I didn't meet my brother until he was 14 years old. You know what I mean? So I am trying to now play catch up with my. With my younger brother. I didn't know him for his first 14 years of life. We knew each other existed, but we didn't know each other. Right. So then we had to do double time. He's coming to visit me at gigs. I'm going to his graduation. We're talking on the phone a lot. We have to do a lot of catching up because we didn't know each other. You know what I mean? So it sounds like these two are doing some catching up or trying to. Or they were. They just didn't. They weren't too close because of their. Their weird relationship with their. With their deceased father or the side of the. You know, dad's side is complicated, as she said. So you are gonna have to do more work to get to know each other because of the estrangement through your father's side of the family or the. Or the weirdness through your father's side of the family. So, yeah, you got to do a little extra work. I think it's fine to say you can't come to my wedding. That's totally fine. You can invite anyone to your wedding. I do think if you invite someone somewhere, they should at least get a plus one, in my opinion.

[B]

I think so too. And I think you have to. I think the plus one. Taking away the plus one is a little wild to me because, you know, just for the comfort and just to make sure it's all copacetic, like, just be cool with that one extra person putting, I mean, 100, probably an extra $200 for this person, but chuck them to the wedding.

[A]

Also, who's to decide? Like, you got to be married. You can't be dating. Like, what she said plus ones are only for married people.

[B]

Oh, is that what she said?

[A]

She said her girlfriend can't come. I don't know if her. I don't know if her sister is a lesbian or. Or if she said her girlfriend can't come. Maybe it's just her friend.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I don't know. But what if. What if my friend is as close to me as your husband is to you?

[B]

Yeah. I mean, I don't think you can put parameters on what someone's plus one is gonna be at a wedding.

[A]

That's. I agree.

[B]

But in regards to taking her off of being a bridesmaid, I think that you have to think about. I mean, I'm getting a little different read from Bob. I know Bob is saying, like, the catch up thing, but I'm getting that y' all were cool and now she's, like, switching. She's been switching it up on you for the past year and a half, two years. So now you feel worried about having her as a bridesmaid. I would say weddings, wedding pictures. Weddings don't last forever, but wedding pictures do last forever. And that moment, all those feelings of videos will last forever. You have to say to yourself, will I look back and be sad that she was not my bridesmaid? Even though we had a little rough patch, which I guess tweet is not a rough patch.

[A]

It's a little even more than just thinking the pictures last forever. You. I would say this. It is okay to invite her to your wedding and make her a plus one, but not have her be a part of your party. Because you have to feel good at your wedding. Yeah, you need to feel good. This is a very, very important day. In theory, you only get to do this once. We all know that's not true, but I hope for You. It's just one time. If that's what you want, by the way, I hope whatever you get whatever you want. But you have to feel good this day. So now you got this in the back of your head, thinking about your problem with your sister. You might just feel better if she's just not there.

[B]

But to say if she's a bridesmaid or just sitting in the audience, both things are going to be like.

[A]

But the bridesmaids are around you more than sitting in the audience.

[B]

Right.

[A]

They are, like up there in the suite with you. They're there when the makeup artist is doing your makeup. They're doing all that stuff.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know what I mean?

[B]

So.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So I think you had to decide what is going to give you the most peace that day.

[A]

What?

[B]

You. What. What are you going to feel the best about? If it was me, bottomless is about me, I would probably just stomach it and let her be my bridesmaid and just go along with it for me. But that's because I'm me and I'm a fucking mess. Because I would think about the, like afterwards and I would think about, we probably will be friends again. Like, let's say Bob and I had a rough batch for a year. Like I. And you know, I would still have Bob in my bridal party. Cause he's my best friend. And I know. I know in my heart, I think that we will move on from it. And I think long term, I would like to know that he was there for me even though we weren't on the best of terms that day.

[A]

Well, I haven't been offered a position in the wedding yet.

[B]

Cause there is no position. We're not doing any bridal party.

[A]

You just said you're having your bridal party.

[B]

I said if I. If. We're talking about a hypothetical situation.

[A]

So I don't get. I don't get to have any roles of authority in your wedding.

[B]

Why do you want a role of authority? Authority in my wedding?

[A]

I'm just asking. So to be clear, I have no role of authority.

[B]

What role of authority would you want?

[A]

Okay, there's planning.

[B]

No, I'm.

[A]

I'm just saying there's planning. There's cooking. I make a great Mac and cheese. It's been vouched for several times.

[B]

You are such an unserious person.

[A]

There is bridesmaid slash groom, best man, which I am certain. Makeup, which I'm overqualified for.

[B]

Overqualified.

[A]

I could design your garments. I could do the toast. I could make a speech. I could do a routine, a stand up comedy routine.

[B]

You understand? A comedy routine. You're not doing a stand up comedy routine. You could do. You could start to start the speeches, the toasts, and it's gonna turn into stand up comedy. It's not. Well, I.

[A]

There would be uproarious laughter.

[B]

We do want to do a roast, actually, so you can be the roast master.

[A]

Thank you. For a position. Was that so hard?

[B]

So, yeah, that's my advice.

[A]

I would. Is Andy okay for a roast? Yeah. Yeah.

[B]

What?

[A]

I don't know. Andy's temperament like that. Andy like. He be sensitive sometimes?

[B]

No, he's not sensitive like that.

[A]

Cuz. I'm going in.

[B]

Yeah, I want you to go in.

[A]

Can I talk? What's the. What's off limits? Nothing. How about his family?

[B]

Nothing. He's fine with his family too.

[A]

Can I make fun of his niece getting her phone snatched in Brazil?

[B]

Yeah, I think so.

[A]

Can make fun of his aunt breaking her both her wrists?

[B]

That might be a little.

[A]

So their things are. See, I'm trying to find the. I'm trying to find the limit.

[B]

Talk to him. I don't know. He might. He might be okay with it. I don't know. But I think. I think that's a conversation. It's not for me to say.

[A]

There's some great wordplay in there.

[B]

It's not for me to say. That's for Andy to say. But yeah, so that's what I would do, my love. I would stomach it. Just have her be a part of it. Because long term, I would want to.

[A]

Know.

[B]

That I had them a part of it. That's what I would do. And Bob, you're saying no, you would not have them a part of it.

[A]

I mean, I've never had a fallout with either of my siblings, but I will say I have two uncles I don't talk to and if I get married, they can't come, so. But I don't talk to them. That's different. We are like not. We are. No contact.

[B]

Yeah, no contact. Yeah, but listen, if y'.

[A]

All.

[B]

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[A]

I'm still bald. I'm still working on it.

[B]

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[A]

And he's drunk and high as shit.

[B]

You may get it for me when I finish this show. And I haven't done any alcohol. I haven't had one single drink. You don't want a sober thing for me, I'm not sober right now. I'm high.

[A]

You don't want that.

[B]

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[A]

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[B]

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And we're back. Let's get our next piece of advice that y' all need up in here.

[B]

Okay?

[A]

Okay.

[B]

First of all, I know this is messy. I'm a gay man in my 20s and I started a little workplace romance with one of my other co workers and he had a boyfriend. And over the course of a month or two, he ended up leaving his boyfriend and we started dating and he kind of left his boyfriend for me. Now we've been together for three months and I'm realizing it's not really the fantasy and I'm not really feeling it. What is an acceptable amount of time to wait before dumping him to not be messy?

[A]

You're a mess, you home wrecking homosexual. This person is a patreon. Oh, I said what I said.

[B]

So I don't agree that about homewrecking. I was like, I don't think he broke up the thing. Like, they probably had. It's not his fault they broke up.

[A]

Dating someone in a monogamous relationship, in my opinion, is bad. It is Dating someone who you know is in a monogamous relationship. You are as bad as. As the people cheating.

[B]

I agree. But I, I wouldn't say that he's a cause. Like, I think there Are multiple reasons at that point.

[A]

I got one home wrecker. There's a lot of wrecking balls destroying the song.

[B]

And it says amount of time. Girl, tell him immediately. What are you waiting for?

[A]

Though I will say this. The way you get him is the way you lose him. 100. But obviously you don't even want him.

[B]

Yeah, so let him know what I don't understand the acceptable amount of time. Bitch, you didn't acceptably wait for him to for him while he was in his relationship.

[A]

No, girl, you're a man. I'm not gonna lie. This is messy. You are. This is cr. This is crazy. You need to let this man go. Let this man go. His relationship is already ruined. He's lost everything. He's lost everything. Do it before you move in together. How about that?

[B]

Oh, God. Imagine moving in the new year.

[A]

Do before he buys you something expensive.

[B]

No, wait till the expensive gift. Get the nice. If there's a Christmas is around the corner. Wait till after Christmas. I'll wait till the new year.

[A]

Are you doing gifts this year? Probably not. What are we gonna do?

[B]

One. You wanna shake on it? Okay.

[A]

I've been burned.

[B]

I've been burned too.

[A]

Have you ever been burned by a gift you gave me? By what?

[B]

Quickly.

[A]

Have you ever been burned by a gift you gave me?

[B]

First of all, the ring. Where's the ring? Do you still have the ring?

[A]

Yes, it's in my beds. You always ask me questions.

[B]

How do you never wear it?

[A]

That's. That's not true. It didn't fit. It's a little big, but I still wear it.

[B]

So it didn't fit or it is.

[A]

A little big, but I still wear it.

[B]

I've never seen you wear that ring.

[A]

That's not true. You haven't seen me wear the ring in front of you.

[B]

Tell me when I've been like, look, I'm wearing the ring.

[A]

It's on the podcast. There's episodes of the podcast where I'm like, these are the earrings. These are the Versace earrings. This is the ring. I never gone on a smear campaign about anything you've given me a smear campaign is crazy.

[B]

So now I'm Glenda?

[A]

Yeah. Well, you said you're Linda. Out of your own mouth. Out of your own.

[B]

That's before I knew the show, saw the movie.

[A]

Have any of you ever got an expensive gift from trade or a guy that you dated for a while?

[B]

Okay, well, I'm going to read the question Jacob wrote.

[A]

I had to read it. This one when I go that's what you do. Have I ever got an expensive gift from. I don't think even the partners I'm dating have ever given me, like, an expensive gift.

[B]

Have you ever given me expensive gifts?

[A]

I mean, it depends what we're like. The customs jacket I got you, that was a custom. Oh, that was. I. I still wear the jacket to this day.

[B]

That actually wasn't a jacket.

[A]

It's a.

[B]

It's a.

[A]

It's a. It's 10 yard clothing. And it's. You know that. That patchwork, huge, oversized hoodie. The autumn. The. The fall colored one. Jacob gave me that one.

[B]

Got it.

[A]

Yeah. I love that jacket. I wear the jacket all the time. So I stand corrected. Jacob has gotten me a really nice jacket one time, and I still wear that jacket to this day. I love that jacket.

[B]

So you just forgot about it?

[A]

No, I forgot that.

[B]

Jacob. I'm sorry. It's okay. Yeah. Girl traders Trade has given me stuff before. I told you that guy I hooked up with in Queens and he left $50 on the bedside table for me.

[A]

Did you feel like what you did was $50 worth of service? No.

[B]

Gave way more than $50 worth of service. I was kind of gay.

[A]

You take the money or were you offended?

[B]

I did take the money.

[A]

I mean, if I. You and you leave $5. I'm taking the money. I just got 5 off my Uber. I'm taking the money.

[B]

When I was dating Uber eats guy, the chef, he gave me the food.

[A]

Didn't he send you food? He.

[B]

He sent me food. He also, like, offered to take me on these, like, nice trips, but I was like, he was too much.

[A]

And I was like, I have never, ever, ever, ever hooked up with trade ever, Ever. Never once.

[B]

But you know what? That's wrong. The sandlot.

[A]

Oh, yeah. Yeah. Never. Not once. But I did see a guy on Grindr in some town I was in recently, and he was like, hey, I'm a sugar daddy, and I want to buy you things. I want to just take care of someone. And I was like, I'm gonna find out what you're offering because I have an expensive life, and I want to see what you can offer.

[B]

And he was like, do you have.

[A]

Any bills you want to pass out? Of course. I have tons of bills. I would love to have my bills paid. I was like. He was like. He's like, we don't even need to. We don't even need to have sex. I was like, this sounds amazing. And then he.

[B]

They don't follow through because they're full of shit.

[A]

He never followed through.

[B]

If you are a sugar daddy, you're not on. You're not on Grindr looking, looking for sugar babies. Like I've, I've saw, I've seen the Tik Toks about like how these people would get their sugar daddies. And nine times out of 10 it is always at a night's at, at a nice bar at a hotel there.

[A]

Where I gotta go, huh? Is that where I gotta go?

[B]

That's where. Anytime the sugar babies do their things, their story time about how they found their sugar daddy is always at a nice bar in a, in a, in a city. In a big city.

[A]

Have you seen Calvin Klein and his boyfriend?

[B]

Yes.

[A]

What do you think about that?

[B]

In terms of what your thoughts? Girl, that is an arrangement that isn't like. I think Calvin Klein knows what it is. I think that Calvin Klein knows he's a man of a particular age. And to get a person that liked this guy like that. It is what it is. And I think everyone there seems to be know what it is and I think they're cool with it.

[A]

Do you remember the actor Kevin Kline? Kevin Klein, I think his name was Kevin. He was in Wild Wild. He was in Wild Wild west. He played Dr. Loveless.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[A]

I. When I saw that movie, I thought that Kevin Klein was Calvin Klein. Was Calvin Klein. I was like, oh my God, Calvin Klein's an actor. I remember like, holy shit, that's crazy.

[B]

Oh well, I didn't know that Calvin Klein was still.

[A]

Apparently the Townhouse of New York is a great place to pick up sugar daddies. Gay.

[B]

Well, no, because there's a whole gay sugar baby. One day I was like, no, there's like another one they talk about.

[A]

What's that piano bar you like to go to?

[B]

Marie's Crisis.

[A]

I feel like Marie's Crisis would be a great place to pick up a sugar daddy.

[B]

No, no, like you want, you want the rich ass.

[A]

Townhouse is the fancier version of Marie's Crisis. It's the same thing. They have a piano, but it's for people who have money. No one at Marie's Crystals has money.

[B]

Yeah, you want, you want the rich? You want the rich ass? I. I did there's in my. In my early 20s, I really wanted to have to be a sugar baby.

[A]

Could you be sugar baby today?

[B]

No, I couldn't. They going. I mean it depend. I mean there's probably so many different. So many different parents.

[A]

What if someone's offer to pay every. You don't have to spend another dollar as long as y' all together.

[B]

But what is. At what cost?

[A]

You have to be the sugar baby.

[B]

But, like, what is that? Well, like, do I have to give him my career?

[A]

You can still work, baby. You can still work. Of course you can still work.

[B]

I want. I can still live my life. Exactly. I'm living in right now.

[A]

Well, no, you move in with me.

[B]

Where do you live?

[A]

I live right down the street from you.

[B]

How big is the house? Twice as big as yours, twice as big as mine. And now can I decorate it how I want?

[A]

No, you can't decorate how you want. Your break is I can't decorate your house.

[B]

No, you don't even have my house to decorate. I did not say I'm done.

[A]

Got it. Cause you did this.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Which is a lot of mouth for a sugar baby.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

A lot of mouth for a sugar baby.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

For my sugar baby.

[B]

Who the fuck are you talking to? Let me tell you something right now.

[A]

I'm talking to my potential sugar. I'm talking to someone who potentially never has to pay a bill again, as long as they're.

[B]

What is your net worth?

[A]

My net worth?

[B]

Yes.

[A]

I literally have $987 million. Not just in my. In the bank, in liquid. In my checking account. Liquid? Liquid.

[B]

Honey, my home.

[A]

My home is worth $8 million. I own it outright. I do not owe the bank any money. In my stocks and my buns and my cryptos. I have $1.5 billion. So ask me again how much money I make, bitch.

[B]

Now I'm a bitch.

[A]

Now shut your baby bitch mouth. Put this dick in your mouth. Guess that. Let's go to our next. You're so ridiculous. Hi, Bob and Monet. My name is Danielle. I'm a 32 year old queer black woman from Indianapolis. I actually just saw your show at the Helium recently, Bob, with my polycule. It was amazing. I remember them. I'm wondering about some advice regarding, like, following your heart and your career. Cause of course I'm sure you guys.

[B]

Know that jobs are like super hard.

[A]

To find right now. And I'm not doing really what I wanna do in life. Like, I work a sales job and it just really makes me unhappy and unfulfilled and gives me a lot of anxiety and dread to just show up every day. And I'm wondering, where do you draw that line between putting up with corporate world so that you can pay bills and have medicine and breaking away to do something that is important in your heart and something you have passion for? Because it's, you know, it's hard to feel like you can exploit your passions out here. So let me know what you think. Thank you. First of all, thank you so much for coming. I had so much fun in Madison. I believe her. One of our partner's name is Brian, if I recall correctly. They were so fun. I had so much fun at that show. And just thank you for that money. Talk to me about that. Because you, you did like a. I feel like you actually had like a career before you were doing like an actual career. Like you could have. You could have probably gone on in the Yale Club and ended up making six figures a year if you'd have stayed there.

[B]

Yeah, you know, I think that. Yeah, I definitely let go of my career to pursue drag. Cause that was my heart and my passion was. And I will say I. I wish I. For everyone to do that. But you had to know that there is that it comes at a cost. Right. Like you can go and pursue your passions, but you have to be comfortable with the fact that you may never make as much money as you would have if you stayed with sales and became like a store manager, become a regional manager, become a general manager. Who know what it is, like, like what that could become for you. And you have to be comfortable with that. Like, when I left the Yale Club to pursue Dragon, I was comfortable with making less money and changing my lifestyle a little bit because that's how much.

[A]

You'Re making a year of the Yoke Club.

[B]

When I was, I mean, just as a front desk worker, I mean, if I had to put a number on, I probably as a front desk worker, I was making about probably 85,000 miles a year.

[A]

And what do you think if you would have gone up to like, let's say, if you would have gone up to general manager, what do you think you could have made?

[B]

Oh, general manager you're making in New York City, you're making probably upwards of 200 something thousand dollars a year.

[A]

That's pretty. That's great.

[B]

Yeah, it's great. So, no, probably more general manager. Probably more than that anyway. So. Yeah, so I was comfortable with that because I was like the way that I was fulfilled by drag and what that was doing for me, I felt more value in that than sticking with his job, working at the Yale Club, checking people in. I was like, miserable. I was like miserable going. I mean, miserable may be too strong. I enjoyed my job, but it wasn't fulfilling me like drag did. And because I follow my passion, I lucked out and I ended up getting on RuPaul's Drag Race, and now I have this life. But had I never gotten on Drag Race, I would still be very content and happy with my life because I was happy to be working how I was in New York City.

[A]

Did you end up making as much money in drag as you did at the Yo Club?

[B]

Yeah, I certainly, Yeah, I made, I made more.

[A]

I started making six figures a year.

[B]

Doing Dragon Age City. Yeah. But also, and we are.

[A]

Is it also in New York York City?

[B]

It's New York City and it's a rarity. Like, and it's also, that doesn't exist anymore. Like, working like six, like that. That's what the girls say. Like queens working like six shows, seven shows a week is not a thing anymore.

[A]

Apparently the rude girls aren't getting gigs anymore.

[B]

I know.

[A]

So the market is low. First the, the, the economy is in the tank.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And then the market's oversaturated.

[B]

Yeah. So, so yeah, I'm all about pursuing your part, your, your art, your passion. But you have to know that it, it probably will cost you something and you have to be okay with, with, with, with that, with what that cost is.

[A]

You know, I had, I've never worked in a corporate world. I mean, I worked in real estate for a while, but if anyone works in real estate, you know, it doesn't feel corporate. Like, real estate is such a, it's like a. No one goes to college. Real estate. You know what I mean?

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

So real estate is a bunch of people who ended up here and they were all trying to do something else.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Finance, acting, just people who didn't go to college, moms, who knows, people who's doing other stuff. They end up becoming real estate agents, typically speaking. And I found a job in New York City as a waiter that I liked. I actually liked being a waiter. I love talking to people. I love interacting with people. And it gave me enough flexibility to do what I wanted to do with my life. I could still go on auditions. I can go and do drag at night. I can go tell jokes at the Caroline's Comedy Club and Gotham Comedy Club. I was able to have it. So maybe I wasn't making as much money as a waiter as someone else was. Like someone like Monet was making at the, at the Yale Club. I was probably making less money than that. But because I, I, I didn't. My job did not feel soul draining. I like the people I work with. I like interacting with customers. It wasn't my dream job, but I Liked it and let me do stuff that I wanted to do.

[B]

You know what I mean?

[A]

So I. I don't have a lot of experience. What it means to be in the corporate world and what it means to. Because from what I hear, it sounds like a soul sucking.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Like, apparently the corporate world is not giving.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

At all. You know what I mean? But is there a way for you to maybe take a smaller role in the place that you work? Because the more money you make, the more. The more responsibilities you're gonna have. Right. Because they're giving you more money. They're gonna expect more from you because they're giving you more. So can you scale back and do, like, I don't know, do. Are you an artist? Do you want to paint? Does this give you time to work on your painting? Maybe you can get a show somewhere in Madison at, like, a local art gallery or even. I've seen people that do art shows in coffee shops and. And at schools and all this stuff. So is there a way for you to take less of responsibility at your job where someone else would be happy to fill in for you and take that job if they're qualified for it and the company agrees with it, and then you can pursue what makes you happy? Yeah.

[B]

I was gonna say, I think it's all about the transition. If this is something. If you feel like your heart is really calling you this way, find a way to do both. Do your job at work. And that's what I did. Right. I was working full time at The Yale Club.

[A]

40 hours a week.

[B]

40 hours a week. And also doing drag. So I. And again, that sounds stressful. I was tired.

[A]

I was broken down and tired.

[B]

But because I love drag so much, I was okay. And I was very comfortable with burning the candle at both ends because I wanted to see. Cause that's how I decided, like, okay, I have to do this, because I was working at the Yale Club and doing drag, and I was like, God, this is crazy. It's a lot. But I. I found out that drag was really fulfilling me, and I was okay with, like, letting the Yale Club grow to pursue that full time. So if you can do both at the same time simultaneously, so you can really see where your heart is vibrating at, then I would do that.

[A]

I wish we could ask Nick that question.

[B]

What is he. So does.

[A]

Nick's a realtor?

[B]

He's still in a real.

[A]

Nick is still a realtor.

[B]

Still realtor.

[A]

Okay. Yeah. But he has so much flexibility.

[B]

You always traveling around, Girl, I don't.

[A]

Even I feel like this could be an office. Goddamn right. Let's go. Let's. We got two more, y'. All. One more. I'm just kidding. I can't count, apparently.

[B]

Is it one? Is it two? Hi, Bob.

[A]

Hi, Monet.

[B]

I am a Vancouver based drag queen by the name of Batty Banks.

[A]

And I am just wondering, for absolutely.

[B]

No reason at all, if I could.

[A]

Have both of your advice on how would you go about making someone like Steve Irwin funny in, let's say, a Snatch Game scenario? Just curious how you would go about. Yeah, making Steve Irwin funny. I would just love to pick your.

[B]

Brains, both of you, hear your expertise.

[A]

And thank you so much for taking the time.

[B]

Love you both.

[A]

Are you asking for any particular reason? Are we going to see you looking at Brooklyn Heights? You want to take this one? I mean, we do have an Australian here and he will tell us if we. If he thinks our. Our advice is good.

[B]

I think that the accent. If you're going to do Steve Irwin, the accent is very important.

[A]

Absolutely.

[B]

You have to have the accent.

[A]

And look, your accent does not have to be good. It just has to be recognizable. Like, for example, Mike, if I'm having this accent here, everybody knows what I'm doing. It doesn't make it great, but obviously I'm doing an Australian accent.

[B]

Right.

[A]

You got to go really over the top, Mike. Lots of. And also, one of the things you got to really get involved in with Steve Irwin is Croygate. He was always saying, crikey, I think a good thing.

[B]

Crikey.

[A]

Is it crikey or crikey? Crikey.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I will tell you what you should. What you should. What you should avoid. I would avoid any jokes about stingrays. I would avoid any jokes about how he died. I don't think that would. That would scan well. Yeah, I would. I would look at whoever you think is the most busted drag queen and then do a nature thing on her.

[B]

My.

[A]

Here we have the hideous wildebeest standing in the wood with her. I believe that's a massive fur coat. Sorry, that's just a shoulder hair. Also, this wig looks like it was mangled by dingoes, obviously.

[B]

Yeah, that's good.

[A]

Maybe wrestle. Maybe pull up a fake alligator and just wrestle it right in the middle of the thing.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know what I mean? I think those are great options. You have a really cool option to read other queens and call each of them different animals and beast. Those are just some really great options, in my opinion.

[B]

Yeah, I think those. Those are all great, great, great. Ideas and things out here. That's great.

[A]

All right, Jacob, in terms of the.

[B]

Look, obviously you want to wear, like.

[A]

You know, you gotta wear a pith helmet. Did he wear pith helmets or am I making it up? He did.

[B]

He didn't wear pith helmet.

[A]

No, he just wore the.

[B]

He always had, like. Like, short khakis.

[A]

Oh, yeah, the matching khaki. Tiny little short shorts.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[A]

He was always at one point.

[B]

Jump on the table.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Stand on the table and be ridiculous.

[A]

RuPaul hears the drag queen in her native habitat standing here smelling like airspun Cody Powder.

[B]

Brooklyn Drag Race. This is not RuPaul Drag Race.

[A]

My bad.

[B]

Yeah, Jake.

[A]

All right. Jacob has a Snatch Game question.

[B]

Who does the Snatch Game?

[A]

Brooklyn.

[C]

She.

[B]

No, she. She does. She's a RuPaul in the snatch Game of Canada. Okay. Yeah, got it.

[A]

Lady Gaga has finally gone too far. She wore a dress made of blank. Well, here's the problem, mate. She wore a dress made completely of meat. And I'm not a vegan, but I love animals. I believe that she had made this dress out of something a little bit more economically friendly. Maybe something didn't harm any animals, you know what I mean? Because I once tried to wear a dress made of crocodiles. They were living. I got beat a couple of times. But, Mike, it made for a fantastic outfit. I looked absolutely lovely, and that's what I would recommend instead. How about you, Steve?

[B]

I think it was great.

[A]

Steve, we need an answer. I don't doubt it. Steve, we need an answer.

[B]

Keith and Kim say, can I get. Aye, you can't.

[A]

You can do an Australian accent.

[B]

I can't.

[A]

It gets British.

[B]

It gets British. I could not do an Australian accent.

[A]

Well, just imagine.

[B]

Just imagine that. I like.

[A]

Everything seems much longer.

[B]

Everything is.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

They talk wide. So the Brits talk tall. Australians speak wild.

[A]

Well, of course, there's rather several different British accents, but they're all tall, very tall. And I believe that Britons. The Brits have probably as many accents.

[B]

As we have here.

[A]

The United States of America are probably saving more than we have here. And of course, it doesn't have to be good. It just has to be recognizable.

[B]

And in Australia, they're like, why?

[A]

They're like, yeah. In Australians, they really talk.

[B]

Why?

[A]

Like that? First of all, I don't think Australians whisper. I don't think in Australians they ever whispered anything in their entire life. Life.

[B]

Rise up, lights.

[A]

In our. Rise up lights.

[B]

Rise up, lights.

[A]

Up light. Say, RuPaul, I believe I met you in. Oh, Brooklyn, I believe I met you in 1999. You gotta hit a 90, 99 or tattoo.

[B]

They love tattoo.

[A]

What's tattoo?

[B]

Tattoos.

[A]

Oh, a tattoo. They've got Tattoo, tattoo. They hit him with a 90, 99. Crocodiles. Gry Croiky.

[B]

Oh, aluminium.

[A]

Aluminium. Oh, aluminium. Also, you gotta. If you. If you're bold enough to do this at some point, bring out a gallon of Vegemite and just eat it by the spoon. See, here's the thing. Here's the thing about Canadians. You all don't know the parable Vegemite. And you gotta eat. I mean, so much Vegemite, it's.

[B]

You don't think you'll throw up.

[A]

Vegemite and marmalade to the point where it looks disgusting. Disgusting.

[B]

Vegemite is one of the nastiest things I have ever tasted in my life.

[A]

I don't understand.

[B]

I don't get it.

[A]

How they trick them into believing that Vegemite tastes good. It's bad.

[B]

And we have bad things we eat over here. I can recognize that Vegemite.

[A]

Also, at the very end, if you have a wig on to see burn, turn it around, become sia. Right? Right at the end, take the wig, turn it completely around, bangs in your face, and then start being Sia. Honestly, that would eat the girlies up. And on that note, thank you all so much. Oh, my God.

[B]

The return of Advisory. Girl, watch. The comments are mad. They're mad.

[A]

They're mad.

[B]

But, yo, you're watching.

[A]

Can I say this? Those of you who do like Advisory, can you please sound off? We need to hear from y', all because otherwise we're going to start thinking y' all hate this shit. So if you actually like advice or if you want to likes it, I want this to be have the most comments of any episode we've done. I need to know how y' all really feel for real.

[B]

Cut to the least comments. Bye, everyone.