Sibling Rivalry – Sibling Advicery: Influencer BF/Being Messy
Release Date: January 5, 2026
Hosts: Monét X Change & Bob the Drag Queen
Episode Overview
This episode marks the return of “Sibling Advicery,” the beloved (and sometimes controversial) advice segment of the Sibling Rivalry podcast. Bob the Drag Queen and Monét X Change, the hilarious drag duo, tackle listeners’ questions about influencer partners, messy relationships, family drama, work dissatisfaction, and even how to make Steve Irwin funny for Snatch Game. The discussion is, as always, infused with their signature banter, honesty, and infectious chemistry, with plenty of tangents, laughter, and cameo appearances from friends.
Main Discussion Segments & Key Timestamps
1. Advisory Disclaimer and Classic Banter
[00:10 – 03:33]
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Bob and Monét set expectations:
Both reiterate that their advice is for entertainment purposes only—and not legally or professionally validated.- Bob: “I am not a therapist, I am not a lawyer, I am not an accountant, I am not a counselor. But I am a fierce queen.” [00:49]
- Monét: “The only thing I’m an expert on is drag and looking like a fierce cunt bitch.” [01:07]
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Classic ribbing:
Playful trolling on who gives better advice, with Monét accusing Bob: “Do you just wake up in the morning and be like, how am I gonna troll people today?” [03:14]
2. Warm-up Games & Katya Cameo
[03:35 – 09:14]
- Current TV Faves: Monét discusses “Squid Game: The Challenge” [03:38]
- Quick-fire challenge games: Rapid-fire vocal exercises and tongue-twisters (“dog, cat, dog…”) with chaotic, high-energy results.
- Katya’s surprise guest appearance [08:27], sharing in the game chaos and quick banter.
3. Advice Segment 1: The Influencer Boyfriend Dilemma
[09:33 – 16:07]
Listener Question: Dating an influencer is making daily life feel like a constant photo/video shoot; how to set boundaries without compromising his career?
- Monét’s take: You can’t ask someone to change their livelihood for your comfort—this work is how he lives.
- “You can’t expect them to change their livelihood and their lifestyle because it’s bothering you and it’s annoying you… Either you agree to be a part of it or be out.” [11:06]
- Bob’s perspective: It’s valid to want boundaries; everyone isn’t “camera ready” or comfortable being on the internet. Scheduling content can help.
- “Some people just don’t want to be famous. Some people don’t like attention. I cannot fathom not wanting attention.” [12:37]
- “I don’t mind being a couple on the Internet. I don’t want to make couple’s content…that to me is the cringiest level of social media content there is.” [13:32]
- Nate (friend/guest): Sometimes it’s best to keep relationship content private, depending on your partner’s comfort level. [15:33]
4. Advice Segment 2: Sibling Wedding Drama
[23:47 – 32:06]
Listener Question: A complicated half-sister relationship, lack of communication/participation, and whether it’s wrong to remove the older sister as bridesmaid. Also: is it fair to deny her a plus one?
- Monét: Weddings are expensive, but not letting people have a plus one can feel harsh.
- “Taking away the plus one is a little wild to me because… Just be cool with that one extra person.” [27:51]
- Bob: Understands estrangement due to family structure. Ultimately, you have to prioritize your joy on your wedding day.
- “It is ok to invite her to your wedding and make her a plus one, but not have her be a part of your party. Because you have to feel good at your wedding.” [29:11]
- “You might just feel better if she’s just not there.” [29:20]
- On picturing the future:
- Monét: “Weddings don’t last forever, but wedding pictures do last forever… Will I look back and be sad that she was not my bridesmaid?” [28:39]
- Consensus: Prioritize your peace and the vibe of your special day; there’s no “right” answer.
- Bob jokes about his desire for a “role of authority” at Monét’s future wedding and what might be off-limits in a roast. [30:34 – 31:57]
5. Advice Segment 3: Workplace Romance Gone Messy
[36:43 – 41:36]
Listener Question: Dated a coworker who left their boyfriend; now not into the relationship. How long should you wait before breaking up to not be “messy”?
- Bob: “You’re a mess, you homewrecking homosexual. This person is a Patreon! I said what I said.” [37:20]
- Monét: “I don’t agree about homewrecking…there are multiple reasons at that point.” [37:29]
- Both agree:
- Don’t draw out the breakup.
- “The way you get him is the way you lose him.” [38:01]
- “Tell him immediately. What are you waiting for?” [38:01]
Memorable Moment
- Gift giving debate: Light-hearted roast about whether Bob has ever worn the ring Monét gave him.
- “You always ask me questions. How do you never wear it?” [38:59]
- “That’s not true. It didn’t fit. It’s a little big. But I still wear it.” [39:02]
6. Sugar Daddy Fantasies, Gifts from Trade & More
[41:32 – 44:35]
- Bob recounts Grindr “sugar daddy” messages:
- “He never followed through.”
- Monét’s sugar baby analysis: “If you’re a sugar daddy, you’re not on Grindr looking for sugar babies.”
- Musings on wealth and being a sugar baby: Outlandish hypothetical about never having to pay a bill, decorating privileges, and “liquid” net worth:
- Bob: “I literally have $987 million… in liquid.” [44:36]
7. Advice Segment 4: Pursuing Your Passion vs. The Corporate Grind
[45:47 – 52:22]
Listener Question: How do you balance a secure but unfulfilling job with your creative dreams?
- Monét’s journey:
- Quit a secure Yale Club job (~$85k/yr, could have been $200k as general manager) to pursue drag—sacrificing stability for passion.
- “I was comfortable with that, because I was fulfilled by drag.” [47:34]
- Quit a secure Yale Club job (~$85k/yr, could have been $200k as general manager) to pursue drag—sacrificing stability for passion.
- Bob: Tips for transition—find flexible jobs or scale back on responsibilities to free up creative time.
- “Can you scale back…so you have more time to work on your painting?” [50:38]
- Both: If you can, do both until you know which direction “lights you up”; your fulfillment may come from the side hustle, or vice versa.
8. Advice Segment 5: Making Steve Irwin Funny for Snatch Game
[52:29 – 58:32]
Listener Question: (from Batty Banks, Vancouver drag queen) How do you approach Steve Irwin in Snatch Game?
- Top tips:
- Accent is vital (but doesn’t have to be perfect)
- “It doesn’t have to be good, just recognizable.” [53:33]
- Lean into catchphrases: “Crikey!” [53:45]
- Avoid jokes about the stingray or his death [54:00]
- Go wild with reading other queens: “Here we have the hideous wildebeest standing in the wood with her...Just a shoulder hair.” [54:21]
- Physical gags: fake alligators, nature documentary readings, etc.
- Costume: matching khaki shorts and shirt [55:04]
- Prop comedy: Vegemite by the spoonful [57:46]
- Bob: “Honestly, that would eat the girlies up.” [58:16]
- Accent is vital (but doesn’t have to be perfect)
- Bonus: Turn the wig around at the end and become Sia!
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- Monét: “Weddings don’t last forever, but wedding pictures do last forever.” [28:39]
- Bob: “Some people just don’t want to be famous. Some people don’t like attention. I cannot fathom not wanting attention.” [12:37]
- On influencer couples: “I don’t mind people knowing who I’m dating. I just don’t want to make ‘couple’s content’.” [13:32]
- On quitting unfulfilling jobs: “I was comfortable with that, because I was fulfilled by drag.” [47:34]
- Sugar baby debate: “That’s a lot of mouth for a sugar baby.” [44:25]
Signature Sibling Rivalry Tone
- Playful, shady, and honest—all at once: No topic is too petty or personal; advice is peppered with real talk and hilarious asides.
- Audience engagement: Encourages listeners to comment on whether they love (or hate) “Sibling Advicery” [58:40].
Summary Flow
- Classic banter and warnings set the comedic/entertainment tone.
- Short game break—lively, chaotic, with Katya.
- Four major listener advice segments, each unpacked with empathy and sharp honesty.
- Lighthearted digressions (sugar daddies, gift stories) add flavor and variety.
- Closes with drag and Snatch Game tips—full circle to their drag roots.
For New Listeners
This episode is a great introduction to Sibling Rivalry’s unique blend of laughter and life advice. Even the messiest topics are handled with warmth and candor, with each topic serving as a springboard for vivid stories and personal revelations. The advice is genuine but never sanctimonious, with Bob and Monét’s chemistry making heavy subjects feel light—and entertaining.