Sibling Rivalry — "The One About Dystopia"

Release Date: November 17, 2025
Hosts: Bob the Drag Queen & Monét X Change (plus Producer Jacob)

Episode Overview

In "The One About Dystopia," Bob the Drag Queen and Monét X Change, the razor-sharp comedic duo, dive into an animated discussion about dystopian futures, personal survival strategies (or lack thereof), gun laws, NYC childhood, etiquette, and wild stories from their pasts. Amidst classic Sibling Rivalry back-and-forths, they muse about their abilities (or willingness) to endure a post-apocalyptic world, reminisce about New York drag nightlife, dissect etiquette and social class, and share personal tales both silly and heartfelt. Longtime producer Jacob and recurring background voices help fuel tangents, games, and etiquette quizzes.

Major Discussion Points and Insights

1. Surviving the Dystopia: Guns, "Bug-Out Bags," and Apocalypse Plans

• Guns and Safety
  • The hosts debate American gun culture, especially in Texas and New York.
  • Bob is anti-gun, challenging the "good guy with a gun" trope.
    • "I don't think that if everyone having a gun is going to make the situation better." (05:08, Bob)
  • Monét expresses anxiety as the only unarmed neighbor and a desire to at least feel safer.
    • "I would feel safer if everyone around me has a gun." (04:15, Monét)
• Bug-Out Bag Preparation
  • Monét describes Andy's detailed bug-out bag for post-apocalypse survival (solar chargers, portable stove, N95 masks, condensed soap, etc.).
    • "A bug-out bag should have a portable water filtration system, collapsible water bottle...like a spork." (06:14, Monét)
  • Bob is totally unprepared and unserious about doomsday scenarios.
    • "I don't want to live like that. If there's a zombie apocalypse, I'm done. I'm not fighting." (08:03, Bob)

2. Which Dystopia Would You Survive?

• The trio debates which pop culture dystopias they'd tolerate or tap out of:
  • I Am Legend: Bob is a firm "no" to living isolated with zombies (09:53, Bob).
  • Mad Max/Snowpiercer: Bob would use charm to climb social classes ("I'll be the mayor by the end!" (10:21, Bob)) but refuses any scenario requiring silence (A Quiet Place, Bird Box).
  • The Hunger Games: The hosts and Jacob draw fictional districts:
    • Bob gets District 11 ("I'm probably farming..." (13:05, Bob)); Monét gets District 4 ("Fish. Your girl is fish, honey!" (13:22, Monét)).

3. Early Jobs & Manager Antics

• Bob recalls hiding savings in a thermos at Ruby Tuesday at 18—only to be emotionally manipulated by a manager into handing it over.
  • "He was like, I would like for you to give me your money." (15:44, Bob)
  • Bob reflects on the lack of greed and his continued ability to save.
  • The story shifts to manager Sandy, who let people think she was a lesbian for workplace respect (21:14).
    • "She let everyone think I’m gay because they respect me more." (22:05, Sandy via Bob)

4. Etiquette Wars & Class Clashes

• The group quizzes each other on table manners and etiquette, with Bob emphasizing his “butler” training.
  • Competitions include where the salad fork goes, the cake fork, excusing oneself from the table, and how to handle dropped utensils.
  • "You don't just get up and leave." (47:48, Bob)
  • Monét boasts of her frequent sheet changes and questions Bob’s housekeeping habits; Bob reveals he doesn't do his own sheets.

5. NYC Nostalgia, Class, and Social Status

• Bob and Monét reminisce about New York City housing, who actually owns homes, and the realities of class in their communities.
  • "Everyone in your social class has a housekeeper." (34:59, Bob)
• They sketch the vibe of growing up in New York, dangers of school let-out hour, and the toughness (and shading) of NYC kids:
  • "I would rather walk through the Bronx at 3am... than ride the train at 3:15pm." (54:08, Bob)
• Names from NYC drag nightlife and personal histories drop throughout, with personal stories about gigs, family, and drag friendships.

6. Drag Race Tangents and Who Would Slay in Royale

• They riff on Drag Race “Royale” casts and players (e.g., wanting Violet Chachki, Ginger Minj, Olivia Lux in a "Latino Royale"), and roast one another over alleged drag queen exes, game nights, and show appearances.

7. Personal Kinks and (Non-)Shaming Discourse

• The hosts get candid about fetishes, especially praise vs. shame kinks.
  • Monét: "If I'm sucking your dick, I don't want you to shame me, I want you to… be like, ‘bitch, you fucking sucking that dick!’" (28:39, Monét)
  • Discussion includes a brief educational note on rosebud porn and fetishes for praise, shaming, and the urge not to king-shame (unless king-shaming is the kink).

8. Wig Malfunctions & Set-life Chaos

• Bob describes the perils of sweating through a drag wig on set (Lucifer, The Coco Von Dew Show), dragging his assistants and co-stars for not warning him about an askew lacefront.
• The pair laugh about disastrous quick-drags, period piece makeup ("the makeup they made y'all do for Lovecraft Country was criminal" (63:44, Bob)), and the indignities of on-camera drag compared to fully realized live gigs.

9. Housekeeping, Sheet Changes, and The Help

• A classic Sibling Rivalry moment: a (fake) spat about frequency of sheet washing.
  • Bob: “I don’t wash my own sheets.” (65:40, Bob)
  • Monét: “Must be nice.” (65:55, Monét)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Dystopia Survival:
  Bob: “If there’s a zombie apocalypse, I’m done. I’m not fighting. I’m not gonna try to live through it.” [08:03]
  Monét: “I’m fighting for my life.” [09:22]

• On Gun Culture:
  Bob: “I don’t think that if everyone having a gun is going to make the situation better.” [05:08]

• On Feeling Safe vs. Being Safe:
  Monét: “I didn’t say safe. I said feel better. You know what, My feeling is very valid here.” [05:38]

• On School Let-Out in NYC:
  Bob: “I would rather walk through the Bronx at 3am with a suit made of hundred-dollar bills, than ride the train at 3:15.” [54:08]

• On Wig Disasters:
  Bob: "If you look at this thing...my wig is like--it's like my hairline is going back, front, front, back, back, front..." [61:25]

• On Etiquette:
  Bob: “I would tend to the needs of our guests...my name was Mortimer Grimm, and I was a butler who went to a school called Connecticut Etiquette." [46:59]

• On Being Out of Touch:
  Bob: “I know how out of touch we sound. Yeah, we are. Okay.” [62:54]

Timestamps for Key Segments

| Time | Segment/Quote | |--------|-----------------------------------------------------| | 01:00 | “I don’t want to live in that world.” (Bob, guns/apocalypse) | | 04:08 | Neighborhood gun ownership, protection debate | | 06:11 | Explaining a “bug-out bag” | | 08:03 | Bob refuses to survive zombie apocalypse | | 10:21 | “I can work my way up...I can use my influence. Maybe I’ll be the mayor by the end.” (Bob, on dystopian train society) | | 13:00 | Hunger Games district assignments | | 15:44 | The Ruby Tuesday manager/money story | | 21:14 | Sandy the manager, workplace respect & gay stereotypes| | 28:47 | Praise kink vs. shame kink explanation | | 34:59 | “Everyone in your social class has a housekeeper.” (Bob)| | 43:32 | Ongoing Ginger Minj “beef” (lighthearted teasing) | | 47:48 | Table etiquette: “You don’t just get up and leave.” (Bob)| | 54:08 | “I would rather walk through the Bronx at 3am... than ride the train at 3:15pm.” (Bob, NYC kids)| | 61:25 | Wig-slipping set story | | 65:40 | “I don’t wash my own sheets.” (Bob) |

Podcast Tone and Style

• Highly conversational, irreverent, and honest.
• Bob is dry, droll, and hyperbolic; Monét is energetic, cheeky, and matter-of-fact.
• In-jokes and shade are constant, though interspersed with surprisingly vulnerable or sincere details.

Final Thoughts

This episode perfectly encapsulates Sibling Rivalry’s signature blend of comedy, drag wisdom, pop culture references, and real talk about survival and class—even while making fun of themselves. Fans hungry for Bob and Monét’s wild stories, peer banter, and snappy debates will find this episode an all-you-can-eat buffet of Sibling Rivalry magic.

For More

• For bonus episodes (“Exception Eventary”), the duo’s Patreon gets several plugs throughout the show.
• Check out their website or “Google Sibling Rivalry Patreon” for extra content.

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