In this episode, I’m joined again by Monique Shields, and this conversation felt like therapy, coaching, and truth-telling all in one. We went deep into something I’ve personally been navigating: what it actually looks like to move out of survival mode as a high-achieving woman, especially when life has been life-ing.

We talked about the invisible weight many of us carry, from parenting to business to unexpected life challenges, and how that impacts the way we show up, make decisions, and even spend money. One of the biggest shifts for me? Realizing I wasn’t telling myself the full story about what I had been carrying and surviving.

Monique breaks down how our mindset around scarcity, energy, and outsourcing can keep us stuck, and what it really means to “resource yourself” instead of just pushing through. If you’ve been feeling stuck, foggy, or like you’re doing everything but still not moving forward, this episode will hit home.

Main Takeaways

You’re not behind, you’re likely operating without acknowledging everything you’ve been carrying
Scarcity mindset after a hard season can quietly shape your decisions and keep you stuck
Your energy, not just your time, is one of your most valuable assets
Resourcing yourself (mentally, physically, strategically) is essential for growth

Highlights Include

00:00 – Reconnecting with Monique and what she’s been building
02:30 – Why intimate spaces and coaching containers matter
04:30 – Starting YouTube and breaking through creative burnout
06:00 – The hidden impact of hard seasons on decision-making
08:00 – Why you’re not telling yourself the full story
10:00 – High-achievers and the trap of self-pressure
12:30 – Why “feeling less overwhelmed” isn’t the right goal
15:00 – Scarcity mindset after financial or life shocks
18:00 – Why cost-first thinking keeps you stuck
21:00 – The “delusional belief” successful people hold about their future
27:00 – The real value of your time and energy
33:30 – What actually changed after hiring support
36:00 – Mental fog and why you don’t even realize you’re in it
40:00 – Why stability is not the same as hoarding
43:00 – What it really means to “resource yourself”
46:00 – The importance of having multiple “brains” supporting you
50:00 – Why your nervous system needs support in today’s world
52:00 – Reframing “I can’t afford it” into a choice

Links Mentioned in This Episode

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Watch & Listen

Watch this episode on YouTube and listen on all podcast platforms:

Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/side-hustle-pro/id1126021323
Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/13qDj08lBR4ymzGhXIKy8t
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/sidehustlepro

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510: How I'm Rebuilding After A Hard Season (feat. Monique Shields)