Podcast Summary: Slay The Gatekeeper - Episode: Un-Gatekeeping Tantra

Release Date: July 29, 2025
Host: Courtney Johnson
Guest: Leola, Tantrika and Pleasure Priestess

Introduction

In this enlightening episode of Slay The Gatekeeper, host Courtney Johnson welcomes Leola, a renowned tantrika and pleasure priestess, and bestselling author of "Sacred Sex". Leola shares her expertise on integrating tantra into daily life, empowering women through sexuality, and fostering personal growth. The conversation delves deep into un-gatekeeping tantra, exploring practical cheat codes that blend personal development with sacred intimacy.

About Leola and Her Work

Leola introduces herself as a tantrika and pleasure priestess dedicated to transforming the understanding of sexuality. Her bestselling book, "Sacred Sex", offers a pleasure-based approach to sex education, emphasizing healing past traumas and empowering individuals to experience profound intimacy.

Leola [00:51]: "Sacred Sex is the sex education that you probably didn't have, but that we all desperately need. It is pleasure-based, honest, and empowering."

Additionally, Leola hosts the Tantra Love Retreat, a coed event open to single men, women, and couples, aimed at fostering authentic connections and personal transformation.

Cheat Code 1: Money Dates

One of the pivotal discussions centers around Money Dates, a practice that transforms the relationship with money by treating it as a lover. This approach aligns with attachment styles—avoidant and anxious—to cultivate a healthier financial mindset.

Leola [07:15]: "When you treat money as a lover, it loves you back."

Key Insights:

• Avoidant Attachment: Ignoring financial matters leads to a lack of awareness and control over finances.
• Anxious Attachment: Constant stress about money inflow and outflow can result in hoarding behaviors.
• Implementation: Regularly schedule Money Dates to meditate, set intentions, and review financial activities with gratitude and strategic planning.

Courtney shares her personal routine of conducting Money Dates twice a week, incorporating meditation and involving friends for accountability.

Courtney [10:26]: "I do them every Monday and Thursday."

Leola emphasizes adapting Money Dates to individual lifestyles, whether it's once a week or once a month, to maintain a conscious and intentional relationship with money.

Cheat Code 2: How You Do One Thing Is How You Do Everything

This principle underscores the importance of consistency in actions across different aspects of life. Starting with the bedroom, setting boundaries and expressing desires can ripple out to enhance communication and assertiveness in all areas.

Leola [13:09]: "If you can set a boundary in the bedroom, you can set a boundary with your mom, with your best friend, with anyone."

Practical Steps:

1. Self-Exploration: Understand personal desires and boundaries.
2. Communication: Practice expressing needs and setting limits in intimate settings.
3. Consistency: Apply the same confidence and clarity in professional and personal relationships.

Courtney adds that setting boundaries is vital for maintaining trust and authenticity.

Cheat Code 3: Accepting Compliments

Leola highlights the significance of being able to receive compliments as a foundation for self-worth and openness to abundance.

Leola [17:45]: "If you can't receive a compliment, then you can't, you know, you're gonna be broke forever."

Key Points:

• Receiving as Pleasure: Each moment is an opportunity to receive pleasure and abundance.
• Mindful Awareness: Practice gratitude and presence in everyday activities to enhance receptivity.
• Overcoming Shame: Eliminating self-judgment and shame opens pathways for growth and fulfillment.

Cheat Code 4: Eliminate Anything Just 'Meh' in Your Life

This cheat code encourages letting go of activities, relationships, or commitments that do not provide pleasure, purpose, or a paycheck.

Leola [36:16]: "If it's not giving you one of those three—pleasure, purpose, paycheck—let it go."

Actionable Advice:

• Assess Commitments: Regularly evaluate what brings value and joy to your life.
• Remove Negativity: Disengage from situations or people that drain energy without offering meaningful returns.
• Embrace Fulfillment: Focus on endeavors that align with personal passions and professional goals.

Courtney suggests adopting a "shame-free diet", avoiding self-imposed judgments and societal pressures that hinder authentic living.

Courtney [34:36]: "Eliminate the word 'should' from your vocabulary."

Cheat Code 5: Release Resentment Towards Patriarchy, Men, and God

Addressing and letting go of resentment related to patriarchy, societal structures, and spiritual beliefs is crucial for personal liberation and collective healing.

Leola [36:40]: "Why would you carry this any longer than you have to? It's not going to change anything to hold on to any resentment."

Insights:

• Shared Victimhood: Recognizing that men are also victims of patriarchal constructs fosters empathy and healing.
• Balanced Energies: Integrating both masculine and feminine energies leads to healthier relationships and societal structures.
• Transformative Power: Letting go of resentment opens the door to trust, discernment, and deeper connections.

Leola elaborates on the importance of embracing the warrior energy in men while also advocating for more priestesses to support and balance this dynamic.

Leola [40:57]: "The false warrior emerges when he abandons or is abandoned by the feminine. We need more priestesses to support the men."

Cheat Code 6: Seduce the World into Greater Good

Leola introduces the concept of Sacred Seduction, a wholesome and empowering form of seduction aimed at inspiring and uplifting the world.

Leola [29:34]: "To be in the energy of seducing the world into a greater good is to be evidence and permission of a new way of interacting with our sensuality."

Key Elements:

• Sacred Seduction: Moving beyond superficial attractions to fostering deep, meaningful connections.
• Integrating Feminine Energies: Balancing light and dark feminine aspects to create holistic and powerful influences.
• Collective Healing: Using seduction as a tool for societal transformation and empowerment.

Courtney relates this to everyday interactions, emphasizing genuine desire and commitment over mere persuasion.

Courtney [32:46]: "I'm gonna seduce my friends into eating Mexican food with me tonight."

Conclusion and Takeaways

In this episode, Courtney Johnson and Leola provide actionable strategies to un-gatekeep tantra and empower individuals through intimate and financial practices. The discussed cheat codes—Money Dates, Consistent Boundaries, Accepting Compliments, Eliminating Negativity, Releasing Resentment, and Sacred Seduction—offer a comprehensive roadmap for personal growth and spiritual enrichment.

Notable Quotes:

• Leola [00:51]: "Sacred Sex is the sex education that you probably didn't have, but that we all desperately need."
• Courtney [10:26]: "I do them every Monday and Thursday."
• Leola [13:09]: "If you can set a boundary in the bedroom, you can set a boundary with your mom, with your best friend, with anyone."
• Leola [17:45]: "If you can't receive a compliment, then you can't, you're gonna be broke forever."
• Leola [36:16]: "If it's not giving you one of those three—pleasure, purpose, paycheck—let it go."
• Leola [36:40]: "Why would you carry this any longer than you have to? It's not going to change anything to hold on to any resentment."
• Leola [29:34]: "To be in the energy of seducing the world into a greater good is to be evidence and permission of a new way of interacting with our sensuality."

Listeners are encouraged to integrate these cheat codes into their lives to foster a harmonious balance between personal desires, financial well-being, and societal contributions.

For more insights and resources, listeners can connect with Leola through her book "Sacred Sex Ed", her website talktantertomy.com, and her Instagram @TalkTantraToMe.

This summary encapsulates the core discussions and actionable advice from the "Un-Gatekeeping Tantra" episode, providing a comprehensive overview for those who haven't listened.