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So someone reached out to me on Instagram and asked for an episode to help heal a heartbreak, and I've been mulling it over for a while. First of all, I am no stranger to heartbreak. I have experienced it more times than I care to remember. And heartbreak happens to everyone and about a number of different things. We can feel heartbroken by love. That's the obvious one. But we can also feel this kind of pain whenever our expectations are shattered, whether it's by a friend, a family member, or the world at large. You broke my heart generally means you've hurt me, abandoned me, or disappointed me in some way. Reality isn't aligning with your hopes or expectations, and that hurts. Literally. The neurons in our hearts feel actual pain. It can even feel like our hearts are literally being broken in half or even shattered. And I think we can often feel a kind of shame about this, too, like we did something to deserve it, that we were idiots to have loved or cared in the first place, that there was some way of avoiding it. And the risk we run is that we will spiral even more into the pain, double down on the heartbreak, adding layers of shame, rage, or revenge. Of course, it's impossible to avoid these feelings completely, but it's best to keep relaxing, keep breathing, and not be pulled down too far into a rabbit hole of negativity. Use this recording regularly if you're going through a heartbreak. It'll help. So is there anything good about heartbreak? Well, I think sometimes heartbreak is a course correction to help us wake up to bigger realities and deeper truths. Maybe we aren't meant to get what we wanted. And what if that feeling that we enjoy having in our hearts, that sense of balance and stability, what if that feeling is meant to be upended every once in a while? What if heartbreak is an essential part of human life and even spiritual growth? I mean, shoot, cavemen had their hearts broken. A zillion poets have written about it. Could heartbreak be as natural and as normal as any other type of growth? It reminds us that we're not in control, that we're being carved by bigger forces. And maybe we don't always know what's best for us. Maybe what we wanted was just a fantasy. And sometimes heartbreak's the only thing that will wake us up. I'm not religious, but I googled heartbreak in the Bible to see if it was in there. And I saw this. It's Psalm 34:18. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. Crushed in spirit. That's a thing so you are not alone if you're feeling brokenhearted. And a broken heart feels awful. But it's normal and profoundly, profoundly human. And you are in good company, going all the way back through human history. So tonight, we're going to relax into any wounds that we carry in our hearts. Before we get started, let's hear a quick word from our sponsors who make this free content possible.
