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I want to address the concept of insomnia tonight. Ugh. Insomnia. What a horrible word. I mean, come on. The only word worse than insomnia is insomniac. Like a maniac. Even the word carries this intensity, which really isn't helpful. The last thing we need around sleep is intensity. So that's the last time I'm going to use that word. And we're going to address this whole concept from a more helpful angle. First, you are designed to sleep. Dear listener, every cell of your body is aching to sleep. It's aching to sleep right now. And if you feel like closing your eyes as you listen to me, please do. Because sleep is not some elusive thing, although you may feel like you have been chasing it. You have a chemical compound called adenosine in every cell of your body. Your nose, your hands, your brain, your toes. And adenosine has programmed every cell to sleep. Sleep isn't a choice or an aberration. Sleep is your default mode for you and for every creature on the planet. We don't do sleep. Sleep does us. However, somewhere along the way, something has interfered with your relationship to sleep. I presume that's why you're here. Perhaps an early experience caused tension in your body, and it's never quite let go. Or maybe you had a period of your life when sleep got interrupted, maybe during your student years or early parenthood, and it's never quite gotten back on track. Maybe some belief systems came about. Maybe you are a go, go, go person and think that sleep is for losers. It doesn't much matter what it is. Somewhere along the line, a wrench got thrown into your sleep system and sleep became a problem. But the problem with sleep being a problem is that it tends to become a bigger problem. And I'm sure you know that because you have an amazing, powerful mind. And your subconscious mind is a brilliant, brilliant learning machine. It has learned how to walk, how to talk, how to feed you, how to ride a bike, drive a car, work your smartphone. But it also learns other things. Like once you feel anxious about sleep, you learn that pattern, and you start to actually improve upon it. It becomes a habitual response. Now you get anxious thinking about how anxious you're going to be tonight. Around sleep, bedtime nears and you feel nervous. Now you're secreting adrenaline. And guess what? It's even harder to sleep. You get into this loop, which, if you were learning French, would be great. But when you're making this new sleep anxiety loop, it's not so good. Maybe you've spoken to your friends about it, or your therapist, perhaps you've taken medications and they all might have given you some relief for a while. But as long as your subconscious mind is running and improving this learning loop, it's just going to get better and better at the sleeping problem. That's what it does. So what we do here at Sleep Magic is we go down to the subconscious level, where the learning loop is taking place, and work it out down there. Which we will. I promise, over time, if you hang out here for a while, you will make peace with sleep again. So every single cell of your body can do what it's designed to do. But guess what? Plot twist. We don't make peace with sleep by focusing on sleep. In fact, weirdly, we don't really aim at sleep at all here at Sleep Magic, which I know sounds strange, but hear me out. I don't believe awaking consciousness can aim at sleep. It's like light aiming at darkness, or a butterfly crawling back into the cocoon, or treading water in order to float. There's a paradoxical element to it. But the waking mind is pretty crappy at aiming at sleep. I'm sure you know that already. We have to allow sleep. We let go into sleep, but we can't aim at it like some bullseye. It just doesn't work. So here at Sleep Magic, we are aiming at relaxation. We are experiencing relaxation, practicing relaxation. And we are getting better and better and better at relaxation. The listeners who've been here a while will tell you that they are relaxing more easily, more quickly, more deeply, and are even experiencing the benefits of relaxation within their daily waking lives. In fact, many of them are so relaxed already, they're not even hearing me say this. Because weirdly, you can aim at relaxation. You know what it is. You've tipped yourself into it many, many, many times, whether you did it consciously or unconsciously. Maybe you've really enjoyed Savasana at the end of a yoga class, or you love that unwinding feeling you get when you have a hot drink or stroke a pet on your lap. You probably relax when you hang out with a good friend, or when you're driving home from work on a route you know well or staring into a fire. That switch inside of us gets flipped regularly, whether we know it or not. And guess what? You can get better and better and better at flipping it. We cannot aim at sleep, but we can certainly definitely aim at relaxation. And lucky for us, relaxation lives right next door to sleep. So you don't have to worry about sleep, we're bypassing the issue altogether. Let that loop keep going if you want. I don't care. We're practicing relaxation here. You're already good at it and you're going to get better and it will solve lots of problems, including sleep. And that's it. This podcast should actually be called Relaxation Magic, but it's kind of clunky.