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Andrew Giancola
Enjoy today on your next dollar, we're diving into one of the biggest decisions that you can make with your money. Should you rent a home or should you buy a home? And making this decision based on emotion rather than math can have significant financial consequences over time. Now, many people approach this question with a gut feeling. They feel as though they should be buying a home and renting is throwing money away. But today we're going to break this down and show you step by step exactly how to think about this question for your financial situation. Because sometimes it's going to make sense to buy a house based on some of the lifestyle decisions you want to make. And sometimes it's going to make sense to rent based on certain circumstances. Welcome to your next dollar powered by Nerd Wallet Wealth Partners, the show where we help you make smarter decisions with the money you already have so you can build the life you actually want. I'm Andrew Giancola. Let's dive in. Today on your next dollar, we're diving into one of the biggest financial decisions you can make. Should you buy a house or should you rent a home? And making this decision based on emotion rather than math could have significant financial consequences over your lifetime. So let's break down this buy verse rent question. Should you buy a house or should you rent a house? Now, many people go out and they compare their mortgage payment to a rent check. And that's okay in some situations. But for the most part, there is a number of different costs that come into play when you own a house versus when you are renting. And renting looks simple on the surface. Many times we look at how much we are paying in rent every single month. Maybe you have some renters insurance in place and you have some utilities and so you know roughly what those fixed costs are. But buying looks simple too, until something like a roof goes out, maybe the H vac goes out, or you have some $15,000 bill that you did not plan for. And there's an emotional pull towards homeownership. A lot of people feel as though homeownership is part of the American dream. This is something that you need to make sure that you are doing. And maybe your parents are telling you that, maybe your grandparents are telling you that because that's what worked during their generation. But the fix here is total cost of ownership. This means accounting for every single dollar that flows out of your pocket as a result of owning. So we need to understand what the additional costs associated with owning a home is. This is the framework that we're going to use today. Now, first, let's dive in to the pros and cons of renting. And if nobody's ever told you this before, I want to be the first one to tell you there is nothing wrong with renting. Renting in some situations can actually make more sense than buying. In fact, in 22 out of the 100 largest metros, owning costs at least 50% more per month. Than renting when you factor in things like utilities fees and taxes. And there are cities like Bridgeport, New York and Providence that have gaps of 67 to 76%. So if you live in a big city, this is something to definitely factor all of our listeners in Seattle or Chicago or the Dallas area. We want to make sure that we are running the numbers before we dive deeper. Now the break even point for a lot of home buyers is right around five to seven years. And this is according to Richify. And, and so this is something where we want to make sure that we are looking at that break even point as homeowners to ensure that if we are staying longer, maybe it makes sense to rent or maybe it makes sense to buy. Now let's look at the pros and cons of renting. First. Some of the pros. So flexibility is going to be the biggest one for most folks out there. Maybe as a high earner you have to move for a job, A lot of high earners get promotions. And so maybe you have to move across the country. Will you have that flexibility if you are renting? Or maybe you want to move for a relationship or a lifestyle change or all of these are great reasons to consider renting because you have some additional flexibility. Secondly is your capital stays liquid so you can rent and invest the difference instead of having these large down payments or having these large amounts of money that you have to put up when you buy a house. And there are predictable short term costs. This is something where, hey, you are paying your rent, you are paying your renters insurance and maybe you have those fixed utilities and so you have predictable costs on a monthly basis. And in high cost of living areas, folks in New York City, folks in Chicago, folks over in Seattle or L. A, you definitely want to run these calculations because in a lot of those cities right now at the time we're recording this, it makes a lot more sense to rent than it does to buy. But what are some of the cons when it comes to renting? Well, one, you're not building equity. Equity is not part of this equation. And so this is one thing that a lot of folks will argue is that renting is throwing money away. You're not building equity in your home. Two is rents can increase. Many landlords will increase rents on average about 3% every single year. And some can increase it by even more. And this is something that you cannot control. And so because you don't have control, some people don't love that part of the equation. And then there is no ability to truly customize your space. If you want to renovate a kitchen or you want to redo a bathroom, this isn't something that you can do while you you're renting. And so this is some of the cons that we can think through when renting, but the pros are really something that may outweigh the cons for your situation. We'll talk through that step by step. But let's look at homeownership. Because homeownership has been a big part of the American dream for decades. And for a lot of folks in the millennial generation or in their 30s and 40s, you may feel as though homeownership has been more difficult to attain. But for high earners out there, this is something that where we need to make sure we do the math as the prices of homes increase. So here's some interesting stats. The Department of Housing and Urban Development reports that homeowners held on average $274,000 in home equity in 2025. And so home equity buildup is a big pro when we think about buying a house. And 71.5% of renters say they would prefer to own a home, according to the New York City Federal Reserve. So what are some of the pros of owning a home versus some of the cons? Well, one, you're building equity with every single payment. So a portion of your mortgage payment is going to go towards equity. You're going to build up that equity. And you can do a number of different things with that equity. Maybe you want to utilize it for a heloc, maybe you want to utilize it to just have on play to increase your net worth. But this is something that you can absolutely utilize. Two is that the fixed rate mortgage can provide stability. So when you have this fixed rate mortgage, you at least know what your mortgage payment is going to be over the course of the next 30 years. It's locked in unless you refinance or do something else. But we have a lot of other variable costs when we own a home that we need to factor in. Three is if you love customizing spaces, maybe you want to renovate a kitchen, maybe you want to redo the floors in your house, maybe you want to put some shiplap on your walls. Well, all those different things can be customized when you own your home. And there are some tax advantages that are out there based on some of your situations. But there's also some cons to owning a home. This American dream isn't always all it's chalked up. To be the upfront costs can be significant. When you own a home, you've got down payment, you've got closing costs and other costs associated with owning a home. And let's get real. When you buy a house and you want to move into a new space, a lot of folks who buy that home also want to customize that space. So there may be some bathrooms you want to renovate, there may be some additional things that you want to do. There's going to be some new decor that you want to buy. And so the upfront costs when we buy a house can be significant. Secondly is you are responsible for everything when it breaks, if your H VAC breaks, if your roof goes bad, you're responsible for all those different things. You can't just call up your landlord and get taken care of. And the break even timeline is real. If you're not going to stay in that property long term, five to seven years is on average the break even timeline across the country. And so you want to make sure that that is something that you also factor in. So what do we do about all this? How do we think through the buy versus rent calculation so that we understand what is the best move for our specific financial situation? Well, I'm going to introduce you to something called total cost of ownership. Now, many times, I call this TCO for short. But total cost of ownership is something that you're going to hear a lot here on your next dollar. Why? Because it is so important to run this on the big financial decisions. Some people out there have never run total cost of ownership on the biggest purchase that they have ever made, which is their home. If you buy an rv, you need to run total cost of ownership. If you buy a boat, you need to run total cost of ownership. If you buy a car, you need to run total cost of ownership. And if you buy a home, you especially need to run total cost of ownership. So how do we do this? I'm going to show you step by step right now. So step number one is to set your holding period. So how long do you actually plan on staying in this home? This is one of these single most important variables when it comes to figuring out should I buy or should I rent? And the math looks completely different if you're going to stay for one to two years or if you're going to stay for five to seven years. My personal rule is I need to stay in that location for at least 10 years. Why? Because if the housing market takes a dip or it goes down, I want to make sure I have enough time to ride out that storm. And so when I Look at this, 10 years is my personal minimum. You have to figure out what the personal minimum is going to be for you specifically. But this is a big deal when it comes down to rent versus buy. Because if you're going to live in a location for one to two years and that property's value goes down, you could be underwater on a home. And if you have to move for a job or you have to move for something else, then we have a real problem here. So we got to make sure we know what our holding period is going to be and figure out the parameters around that. If you cannot commit to that timeline, then maybe you should consider renting. All right, step two is we want to calculate our upfront costs. Now this is an area many people miss when they run the numbers on buy verse rent. So the first thing you want to look at is your down payment. Well, how much are you going to be putting down? You could put down 5%, 10%, 15%, 20%. How much are you planning to put down? Because for high earners, if you are going to buy a house that costs $400,000, this can be something where if you put 9% down on a down payment, it would cost you $40,000 upfront just in the down payment. Then in addition, we have closing costs. Now closing costs can range, they can range anywhere from 2 to 6% depending on who your lender is and what types of things you are getting on this house. And, and so when we look at closing costs, this is a very important metric that we need to factor in. 2 to 6% is a big deal when it comes to the price of a home. And for high earners, if you're buying something like a million dollar home, well, 2 to 6% can really be a huge chunk of change. Next, we want to think through some of the additional costs associated with buying a home. So a home inspection, that is going to be something that's going to cost you a few thousand dollars depending on how large the home is, initial repairs and some of the initial maintenance that you want to do to a home. Maybe you want to renovate some spaces, maybe you want to renovate that bathroom or redo the floors. Those are all going to be costs that we need to factor in. Also we need to factor in moving expenses because this is something that can cost more and more as time goes on. And if you have a large house to move into, this can also cost you thousands of dollars. So we want to add up all of these initial costs so that we understand what the upfront costs are going to be. If you're buying something like a million dollar home, we could be looking at over $100,000 in upfront costs alone. And so we want to make sure that we run the numbers on this before we make our decision. Step three is to calculate ongoing costs. And this is where a lot of people's math completely breaks down. The mortgage payment is just one line item. It is not everything where too many people only factor in the mortgage payment. So you need to add in a number of other things. Number one is mortgage principal and interest. So that is going to be a big part of your mortgage payment that you need to think through. But property taxes are another big thing that you need to think through. Now there could be an argument made that you are paying your landlord's property taxes when you are renting. But property taxes are something that you need to look up before you buy a home. Look at your local county or your city's website and you can look up property taxes there. Then home insurance is the next factor we want to consider always having home insurance on our homes so that we can ensure that we are risk averse when it comes to some of the things that could happen to a home. And then PMI. So if you put less than 20% down, you're going to have to pay something called private mortgage insurance. And when we look at pmi, we want to make sure that we understand what that number is going to be. Then if you're moving into a location that has HOA fees, that's the next thing we want to make sure that we are factoring in. And then annual maintenance. This is the one that I see too many people miss out on. So for repairs, we want to budget at least 1% of the home's value and every single year. And then you're going to start to factor in and figure out, well, what is this actual number going to be every single year? It's different for every home. It depends on the age and what is going on with the home. But we want to make sure we have at least 1% budgeted into that value. Then we got to factor in things like landscaping and home security and things like utilities. So all of these costs are associated with buying a home. So let's think about this for a second. We have a bunch of upfront closing costs, plus, plus we have a bunch of these ongoing maintenance costs. So we need to understand what that's going to be. Now step four is we also need to calculate future costs. Homes break and there are big ticket items that are going to go out at some point in time. We in the real estate industry call these capital expenditures, but these are just the big items on your home. Things like a roof replacement, for example. On average, roofs can go bad every 25 to 30 years depending on what type of roof that you have. And it can be very costly to replace a roof, so we need to set money aside for that. Or things like the H Vac going bad. Maybe you have heat where you live, or maybe you have air conditioning where you live. That can go bad every few years as well. Or maybe you want to do kitchen or bathroom renovations. That's a big deal. The water heater goes out. Some of these big ticket items all need to be factored in and you need to set savings aside. So one thing I like to do is just automatically save into a specific savings bucket in my high yield savings account to make sure I have enough money set aside for that. Now step five, and this is another one that a lot of people miss out on, is closing costs. When you sell. There are costs associated with also selling your home that some people don't factor in. There are things like real estate agent commissions where you can pay anywhere from 2 to 6% for an agent to sell your home. There are capital gains taxes depending on how long you've owned that home. And if you've lived in that home over the course of the last two to five years, then we have things like staging costs and we have pre sale repairs and all these other costs associated with selling a home. So you want to make sure that you think through those exit costs as well when you're doing this calculation. Then we want to calculate opportunity costs. Now opportunity cost is going to be the number that most people don't run when they go and buy a home. But every dollar you put towards your down payment and closing costs is a dollar that you are for going for something else. So maybe you wanted to invest those dollars, maybe you wanted to put them towards things that you actually value. Step seven is we want to run the rent side for comparison. So we want to understand, well, all of these costs associated with buying a home. What would it cost in my area for the home that I am looking at to rent a home? And so we're going to look at the costs associated with the average rent and we're going to look at some of the insurances and maybe utilities factored in as well. Now step eight is to compare the totals and make the call. So now you have the real number for both paths for the same time horizon. And the goal is not to prove renting versus buying. The goal is to see exactly which path is makes sense for your specific situation in your specific market. And so you want to factor in value just beyond the math. So stability, flexibility, roots, family, all those different things are truly going to matter when you're thinking through this. But run this calculation before you make any decision because it's very important to run total cost of ownership so you know what the math says and you have a foundation to then make a decision based on your own lifestyle and, and flexibility. Now here is something we want to factor in though, is the lifestyle factor. We want to understand exactly what are some of the reasons out there on why we would buy a home, even if the numbers don't make complete sense for our personal situation. Because sometimes there are reasons to buy a home that are different from just financial reasons. In fact, I would personally argue that buying a home is actually a lifestyle decision, not just a financial decision. And so some reasons why people choose to buy instead of rent, even when the numbers don't make sense, is they want to put down roots. If you have a family and you want to put down roots in a specific location, that may be one of the reasons why you want to buy. Or their community is in that location and they know, hey, they grew up in this location or they have a strong community sense there. Well, that's another great reason to look into buying a home that is not financial. Or maybe they just want to have pride of ownership. Maybe owning a home is what they want to do and that's what you truly value. Well, if you truly value it, there's nothing wrong with buying a home as long as it fits within your financial parameters and your specific financial situation. Or they want stability for their family and this can be a great reason to buy a home, to have stability in that location. Maybe there's a great school district in that area that you want your kids to go to. And so you are doing it for family and lifestyle reasons. And then obviously there's legacy and generational wealth. Maybe you want to hand that home down to your kids one day, or maybe you want to hand it down to someone else. And so that is a reason why you want to buy a home. Now let's go into some of the reasons people may choose to rent. Well, one is for that career flexibility and you as a high earner, if you are working on building up your career and maybe you have to move from city to city as you get promotions. This could be one great reason. Or maybe you're looking at life stage and you're single, or you're a newly married couple, or you don't have kids yet and so you don't want to plant those roots just yet. Or maybe it's just not part of your lifestyle priorities. You want to spend more time traveling, you want to spend more time doing things that you love, and that flexibility is going to really matter. And then there's the market reality. The location that you live in is going to be a big factor when it comes to buying versus rent. When you live in New York City, it is much harder to buy a house than if you live in the middle of Alabama. And so this is going to be something that really does matter long term when it comes to making this decision. So the framework for making this decision is first, let's start with the numbers. Run the numbers so you have a baseline to go off of. And then look at your lifestyle questions and ask yourself a couple of these questions. How long do I actually plan to stay in this location? And does stability matter more to us right now than flexibility? And what does ownership mean for us long term? What are some of the things that we want to make sure that we are focusing on? And then weigh both sides together. This is the way that you can make a financially educated decision, but also prioritize lifestyle if that is more important to you. There is no universal right answer. But in reality, you do need to run the numbers so you know what you're working with. So that is how we think about buy versus rent. I hope this was helpful. I hope you took this step by step so you understand what to do next. If you are thinking through this process. Now, let's dive into some of our favorite videos that we saw this week.
Renting Advocate
Sometimes it can actually be a better financial decision to rent than to own. Let me explain because a lot of people listening are going, this guy just
Andrew Giancola
said the sky's green. This makes no sense.
Renting Advocate
Let me give you an example. I've lived in San Francisco, New York, Louisiana, three very expensive cities. Sure, in each of those cities, it was cheaper for me to rent than to own. When I lived a few blocks from here, let's say that my rent was $3,000 a month. I kept a very close eye on the market. There was a building right next to me, same square footage, same view, same number of bathrooms and bedrooms. It would have cost $6,400 a month to own. Own. When I factored in all the phantom costs, taxes, interest, maintenance, opportunity cost. So I didn't want to own. I didn't want the maintenance. I just said, I'm going to keep renting. I took the difference and I invested it, and I made way more than I ever would have made owning. So what's my message? It's that you need to run the numbers on the biggest purchase of your life, and you should never feel guilty about renting.
Andrew Giancola
This is the perfect video for exactly what we're talking about today. And larger cities will typically have numbers in favor of renting. Now, not always, but you're going to see this if you do live in a larger city. And I love that he went in there and did the math where he looked at his situation and said, okay, I could rent a home right now for $2,000, or I could go out and buy a home. But all the additional costs associated with buying a home after I run the numbers are going to cost me about $6,000. So instead, he decided what was best for his situation was to rent and then to invest the difference. And so that is something that you can do. Based on what we talked about today, we took you through the steps on how to figure out how much you would be spending if you actually bought a house versus how much you'd be spending if you rented a home. And so you can do that calculation and see if it works in your certain situation. Now, if you decide to rent, one of the things that you will notice is the more you talk about this with friends and the more you talk about this with family, you may get a little pushback from folks, because many people in the United States think that you need to buy a home, especially as a high earner. You may get some additional peer pressure from folks saying, hey, you make good money. Go out and buy yourself a house. Plant some roots, get some equity. Renting is throwing money away. But again, we want to make sure that we are running the numbers so we can make the best financial decision for our own situation.
Homeownership Advocate
You don't get in the game of homeownership, and you rent in your 20s and you rent in your 30s, you're going to turn around in your 40s. And having not built any net worth,
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am I not better off renting and
Andrew Giancola
investing in the stock market versus buying a house?
Homeownership Advocate
I want to bust this myth because what happens is people come on, they go. The stock market over the last 20 years has averaged over 10% annually. People go, the returns are better in the stock market than the real estate yeah, but that's not apples to apples comparison. Why? When you buy a piece of real estate, when you buy a home, people don't typically pay cash for their first house. They put down 20% and they borrow the other 80%. Take a $200,000 home, you put 40 grand in $200,000. Home goes to 400,000 in 10 years. This has happened to so many people in the last five years. So they've made 200,000 in profit. They didn't put in 200,000, they put in 40. So they got a five times return on their down payment. They go to sell their house, they don't pay taxes on the gain. Because when you own a home, at least in the United States, you own a home for over two years. If you're single, you get $250,000 in tax free gains. If you're married, you get over half a million dollars in tax reform gains. You get tax deductions on the mortgages.
Andrew Giancola
So I personally disagree with the way that this video has been positioned because this assumes that the only thing you should be doing is buying a home instead of running the numbers. This also assumes that we're not disciplined enough to invest the difference. So the first video we saw showed an example of someone who ran the numbers and then decided to invest the difference. Well, this video assumes that we are not disciplined. And as high earners, some of you may be disciplined enough to go out and invest the difference. And often people need to look deeper into their financial plan and make sure that they have the right financial plan in place instead of just listening to, you need to go out and buy a house every single time. So consider instead going out and thinking through the buy versus rent calculation that we went through on this episode so that you can learn and make the decision based on your own personal preference and your own personal financial situation. It may be that you want to buy a home because of personal reasons. You want to be able to plant those roots, or you may want to have that additional flexibility. You may want to have the ability to move whenever you want to or travel as much as you can. And so these are going to be the differences that make the most sense. You need to run the numbers every single time. So that's it for this episode of your next dollar. Thank you so much for listening. Don't forget to subscribe to this podcast on Apple Podcast, Spotify, YouTube, or whatever your favorite podcast player is, and we will see you on the next episode.
This episode tackles one of the most consequential financial choices for high earners: Should you rent or buy a home? Host Andrew Giancola provides a pragmatic, step-by-step framework for analyzing the rent vs. buy decision—moving past emotional and generational narratives to focus on “total cost of ownership” (TCO) and the realities of today’s housing market. The episode weighs financial math, lifestyle goals, hidden costs, and explains how to systematically compare buying to renting, especially for high earners in expensive urban markets.
“Making this decision based on emotion rather than math could have significant financial consequences over your lifetime.”
— Andrew Giancola [02:09]
Pros:
Cons:
Notable Insight:
In 22 out of the 100 largest US metros, owning costs at least 50% more per month than renting once all fees, taxes, and utilities are included.
“There is nothing wrong with renting. In fact, in 22 out of the 100 largest metros, owning costs at least 50% more per month than renting.”
— Andrew Giancola [04:21]
“You are responsible for everything when it breaks… The break-even timeline is real; five to seven years is, on average, the break-even timeline across the country.”
— Andrew Giancola [08:23]
Andrew introduces TCO as the smart, data-driven way to compare renting vs. buying.
Eight critical steps:
a. Set Your Holding Period
b. Calculate Upfront Costs
c. Calculate Ongoing Costs
d. Account for Future Major Repairs
e. Calculate Selling/Exit Costs
f. Calculate Opportunity Costs
g. Compare Rental Costs
h. Make the Decision
“Some people out there have never run total cost of ownership on the biggest purchase that they have ever made, which is their home.”
— Andrew Giancola [11:11]
“Buying a home is actually a lifestyle decision, not just a financial decision… There is no universal right answer. But in reality, you do need to run the numbers so you know what you’re working with.”
— Andrew Giancola [18:36, 20:45]
“I took the difference and I invested it, and I made way more than I ever would have made owning... You should never feel guilty about renting.”
— Renting Advocate [22:15]
“You may get some additional peer pressure from folks saying, ‘Hey, you make good money. Go out and buy yourself a house... Renting is throwing money away.’ But again, we want to make sure we are running the numbers so we can make the best financial decision for our own situation.”
— Andrew Giancola [23:10]
Common counterpoint: Home equity grows via leverage, and gains are often tax-free, which is often missed when comparing to investing in stocks.
Quote from Homeownership Advocate:
“They got a five times return on their down payment… When you own a home… you get tax deductions on the mortgage.”
— Homeownership Advocate [24:30]
Host's Rebuttal:
“This assumes we’re not disciplined enough to invest the difference… and as high earners, some of you may be disciplined enough to go out and invest the difference.”
— Andrew Giancola [25:03]
| Timestamp | Segment / Topic | |--------------|---------------------------------------------------------------------| | 02:06–04:54 | Opening and emotional vs. mathematical decision-making | | 05:00–08:50 | Pros and cons of renting & examples of big city cost gaps | | 09:00–11:23 | Pros and cons of homeownership & break-even timelines | | 12:00–18:36 | The step-by-step TCO framework (setting period, costs, opportunity) | | 18:36–20:45 | Lifestyle factors and making the decision | | 21:22–22:21 | Renting advocate’s story—renting + investing can win out | | 23:40–25:03 | Homeownership advocate’s rebuttal and discussion about leverage |
Final advice:
“There is no universal right answer. The goal is not to prove renting versus buying, but to see exactly which path makes sense for your specific situation in your specific market.”
— Andrew Giancola [20:11]